Im OK, Youre Not A Journey in Personal Discovery

Im OK Youre Not
A Journey in Personal Discovery
Book Summary

Im OK, Youre Not, A Journey in personal Discovery, is intended as a light hearted, non PhD view of human nature and may even give a fleeting glimpse into the realities that may be at the root of many of our social problems today. Take a walk into any bookstore and you are inundated with how to make your self better books; Books on how to relax, how to stop procrastinating, how to lose weight how to be, well, better, how to be more like the perfect vision of humanity portrayed in works and demonstrated over time. All of them saying pretty much the same thing: There IS something wrong with you and if you read my book I can fix it! The same goes on in our everyday life. Parents, co-workers, friends, brothers, sisters, the media, your boss, all imparting their wisdom on how to fix whats wrong with YOU! But the reality is that if everyone was alike, or held to the same nice and tidy academic or Freudian evaluation or consensus opinion of our society, we would all perish.

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Im OK, Youre Not A Journey in Personal Discovery

The key premise of this book, unlike the others, is not to tell you whats wrong with you, but to convince you that you are fine just the way you are. Do you want to change something about yourself? My dear friend it is within you already if you dig deep enough. You dont need any help, you are just fine. You have certain gifts and talents that no one else has. Like the cookies on the cover of this book, made by my dear wife, we are all individuals, all with our unique cracks and crumbs. We all react to stimuli in different ways, generally, based on our collection of previous experiences that builds our unique, one of a kind knowledge of the world. A common realization, once we consider the perspectives in this work, is that we have all lost some if not all of ourselves in our zealous pursuit of perfection in someone elses eyes. During the book I challenge the reader to examine the elements in their own personal lives, I guide them in their journey and ask the questions, but they must provide the answers. Answers based solely on their current reality. A journal or recorder of some type is required to gain the full benefit of the work. What started as therapy for me, somewhat effective therapy, has grown to an entertaining read as well as an opportunity for self reflection to all individuals. The work is available both in print and audio book formats. Introduction Overview and owners manual for the book. It truly is a wonderful life with the realization that we all have unique cracks and crumbs. Chapter One - Get over it - Investigation into the things we need to get over, in order to get closer to who we are. The main message here is that things are never as bad as we think they are and much of our worry is overrated and generated by outside influences. Key points: Morale compass; Commandments; Issues; Emotional wakes; Get Over it worksheet.

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Im OK, Youre Not A Journey in Personal Discovery

Chapter Two - Psychosis Shmycosis Just as there is a name for every medical ailment there is a name for every mental ailment and they seem to multiply daily. Key points: Myriad of afflictions, depression, over medicated America; meditation; psychological attacks Chapter Three - The Gift - In prioritizing the numerous psychological attacks we face as part of todays society, I looked first to the gifts that we often receive on a daily basis. Chapter Four - What in the Heck? Guides reader to look around and get closer to what they think and feel about the current realities of their world. Key points: DaVinci; Education or not; Why do we do what we do Diagram; Chapter Five - Friends and Enemys - This area is perhaps the strongest application of, and need to understand, the Im OK Youre Not mind set, for if handled improperly these relationships can cause significant detriment to you personally now and well into the future. Key points: Room full of jerks; quote; Reactional Analysis; people types; Chapter Six Transitions - We all go through transitions, both good and bad. Good transitions lift our spirits and we are assured that the light at the end of the tunnel is near. There is, unfortunately, always another tunnel, the tracks that lead to the tunnels are always laid by others; Key points: The Secret; death and dying; marriage and divorce, jail, hormonal transitions; leaving the nest; Chapter Seven - Lessons from Religion - Religion can be linked as the cause of several wars. Yet wars do not all contain blood shed and carnage, they can also be waged through oppression, ridicule or isolation as in war of words, war of wills, or war of beliefs. Why is one belief or one person, superior to another? Key points: Beliefs, Accountant vs. the Garbage collector;

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Im OK, Youre Not A Journey in Personal Discovery

Chapter Eight - Authority and Politics Examines the emotional turmoil that may result from our thoughts of, or dealings with, those in authority and politics. Key points: Politicians, public interest, Chapter Nine - Unhappy at work or in life, why are you really? Provides reflective guidance into recurring cycles of unhappiness. Key points: Have fun, play nice; circles of influence; Chapter Ten - Bosses, will always be bosses - Stories about bosses, interchangeable for our purposes with the word customers, are not hard to generate, both good and bad. This chapter examines the realities of these relationships. Key points: Attila the Hun; Dilbert; Good worker gone bad.

Chapter Eleven - Stand up for you, no one else will There are plenty of people who live their lives taking pleasure in belittling or controlling others. This may be a little bit of a clich but if you dont, who will? Key points: Vision; Art of War; choices; dont make a scene. Chapter Twelve - Choose or lose, its your choice - While the primary premise of this book is that you are OK just the way you are, through your journey of discovery, you may have found some things that define you that are influenced by others, the their nots. This chapter is dedicated to focusing you on the fine tuning, and the guidance to tweak the things you want, to move closer to your true self, instead of a mold cast by others. Key points: Support groups; addiction; influence; contract with yourself.

Chapter Thirteen - I cant do it! -

The thought of I cant do this or that is purely

driven by your perception of other peoples thoughts of you, or your views of what society might think if someone like you did this or that . Key points: Life accomplishment; reflection; urges; values.

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Im OK, Youre Not A Journey in Personal Discovery

Chapter Fourteen - Dont look back, but always remember where you came from. Now that you are confident that you are just fine the way you are, or at least capable of making your own change, on your terms, remember not to look back. You are fine just the way you are, you are and always will be, you. Youre OK. Chapter Notes Note clarifications, references and links Questions A complete listing of all the reflective questions asked in the book. About the Author James D. Tippett is an author who expresses his day to day thoughts and views gleaned from a wealth of information and experiences afforded throughout his life. Much of the information for this work is drawn from personal experience and observations of human nature utilizing the same processes outlined in this book. Personally he is married to his wonderful wife of 25 years who has most definitely been the most positive influence in his life. He is the proud father of two Boys 20 and 22 who he has tried to raise to be their own person. A mix of a privileged and dysfunctional childhood, mixed with a multidimensional work career, provides other unique and fertile discussion materials from which he gains his perspective. Fertile discussions of topics in the book are readily found in our daily lives and can be easily linked to many of the social dysfunctions we see and that repeat them selves over and over. Still other facts, opinions and insights presented in this book are drawn from a range of creative talents and great thinkers, both known and unknown. When these third party resources are quoted the source is highlighted and given due credit. The issues are presented in a down to earth, lighthearted, non PhD view of many of the social ills that plague countless people, of all ages, races, and creeds. The roots of this

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Im OK, Youre Not A Journey in Personal Discovery work began initially to aide the author in grappling with mounting tensions and stresses in his own life, the success of which prompted him to publish this work.

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