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360.90 Communication Style 2
360.90 Communication Style 2
Discussion Questions
1. What are some ways of building trust with a team you collaborate with?
2. In social situations with colleagues, do you tend to talk about work or personal
matters more?
3. How does your communication style change during a crisis or emergency?
Transcript
Hello and welcome back to the Skills 360 podcast. I’m your host, Tim Simmons, and
today I want to talk about how to adapt your communication style to different
situations.
No doubt you’re aware of different communication styles, but do you think everyone
has just one style? More likely your style on a good day looks different from your
style on a bad day. Your style during a regular staff meeting might be different from
a meeting where you’re going to read the riot act. Indeed, your style in a crisis
should be different from your day-to-day communication.
Far more likely is that you work on a team and have to collaborate. And this means
you care about cohesion and trust. So team meetings typically call for some small
talk to get things going. Teamwork develops at the speed of trust, as they say. So
take the time to ask people how they are, create the space for some friendly chatter,
conduct a round of personal check-ins, and keep it light.
Then, when the time is right, transition to work. You can do that by listening for
something that relates to a work topic, and using that as a transition. Say someone
mentions a cool new website, you could say “speaking of websites, we should
probably take a look at some of this online marketing stuff.” Or you can make a
transition with one or more transition words, like “Okay everyone, well, I think it’s
time we got down to business.”
When you’re collaborating with others, it’s wise to remember that different people
think in different ways. Some are more detail or process-oriented. This kind of
person prefers a very direct and clear type of communication. Other people are more
Speaking of balance, it’s often good to have a bit of social time with colleagues, like
going out for lunch or drinks. How does leaving the office impact your
communication style? Well, you’ll have to read the room – or the table - and get the
right mix of business and social conversation. Some people hate talking business
outside of the office, while others can’t seem to talk about anything else. One thing
to remember is that there are a lot of people in this world who don’t really enjoy
small talk. Or they’re not good at it. Don’t get offended by this. Just find things they
do like to talk about.
Regardless, social settings are a chance to let your guard down and adopt a more
informal style. If you’re curious how a colleague’s project is going, you wouldn’t say
“could you give me an update on your project?” That’s office talk. In the pub, you’re
more likely to say something like “hey, so what’s up with that project you’ve been
working on?”
Now, a job isn’t always smooth sailing. Sometimes things happen that push us out of
our comfort zone. I’m talking about dealing with a crisis. And your style in crisis will
really depend on the nature of the crisis. A crisis related to the work itself will
require a different approach than an interpersonal crisis. In work crises, there’s often
no time to waste and no margin for error. This means a very direct, clear, and
assertive style is optimal. Leading in crisis may sound a bit more like command and
control than leading on a regular workday.
As you can see, different situations require different communication styles. You don’t
have to be a total chameleon and just take on whatever style the people around you
are using. But you do need to be sensitive to circumstances, to emotions, and to the
requirements of the task. With this kind of flexibility, you’ll be able to build good
relationships and get things done.
That’s all for today. So long. And see you again soon.
To read the riot act: to warn someone they will be punished if they continue
behaving or performing poorly; “I read Daniel the riot act last week, but he was still
late for work this morning.”
Crisis: a very difficult, urgent, or dangerous situation; “We need to cancel this
morning’s staff meeting because of a safety crisis in the factory.”
To underline: to emphasize; “So, among all these current issues affecting businesses, I
want to underline just how important it is to focus on the HR problems.”
Solo: alone; “After so many years of working solo as an independent consultant, I’ve
joined a large multinational team.”
Cohesion: unity, or the act or feeling of working together tightly; “Employees who
went through the rough times together as a team have developed a strong sense of
cohesion.”
Small talk: polite but informal conversation about trivial things; “I don’t mind small talk
about the weather and family, but sports is a topic I really don’t know anything about.”
To get things going: to start something; “Let’s meet at 10:00am, with the
understanding that we really won’t get the meeting going until 10:30 or so.”
“At the speed of trust:” when we emphasize the importance of trust in a working
relationship, we sometimes say the work happens “at the speed of trust;” “I know
you’re frustrated this new partnership hasn’t been very productive yet, but give it
time; we need to move at the speed of trust.”
Chatter: informal conversation; “I found the chatter at the back of the room really
distracting while I was giving my presentation.”
Personal check-in: a conversation to ask someone how they are doing or to check on
their status; “Okay everyone, let’s start this meeting with a round of personal check-
ins. Francine, you want to start?”
Light: pleasant and not too serious; “I thought lunch with the boss would be light
and friendly, but she wanted to get deep into some work problems.”
To get down to: to start doing something seriously; “Have a seat Jamie, and let’s get
down to the real issue right away here: what’s going on between you and Kelly?”
Process-oriented: focused on how things happen, rather than the end result; “Maybe
I’m too process-oriented, but can we talk about exactly how we’re going to conduct
this survey, using what tools, etc.?”
Intuitive: based on feeling rather than facts or evidence; “Yeah, the candidate looks
good on paper and interviewed well, but I have an intuitive sense that he won’t fit in
very well.”
Big picture: the complete situation, rather than just one part of it; “Everyone seems
focused on the details of this agreement, but can we back up and look at the big
picture? Why are we even doing this?”
Constraint: something that limits what you can do or accomplish; “With winter
approaching, time is going to be an important constraint when it comes to this
building project.”
Angle: perspectives or ways of looking at something; “Let’s call in some folks from
research and development just to get their angle on this technical problem.”
To read the room: to understand the mood, feeling, or perspectives of the people
you are talking with, usually so you can adapt accordingly; “It seemed to me like
most of the staff were frustrated about the changes, or did I read the room wrong?”
Offended: upset or angry because of something someone said; “I was rather offended
when Charlie made that comment about northerners not working very hard.”
To let your guard down: to relax because you feel you can trust people; “It’s okay to let
your guard down at the Christmas party, but don’t say anything you’ll regret later.”
To adopt: to start using an idea, approach, or plan; “Once we adopt this new
timesheet system, everyone’s going to have to pay closer attention to how they
spend their time.”
“What’s up?” as a friendly greeting, meaning “how are you” or “what’s happening,” we
can say “what’s up?” “Hey Gwen, haven’t seen you in ages! What’s up these days?”
Smooth sailing: progressing well without any problems; “We had some difficulties
early in the project, but it’s been smooth sailing since we resolved those issues.”
Interpersonal: between different people; “Ashley is a great designer, and she knows
the market, but her team tells me her interpersonal skills aren’t so good.”
No margin for error: a situation where no mistake or inaccuracy is acceptable; “With such
a tight budget on this project, there’s no margin for error in our cost estimates.”
Assertive: confident and able to speak forcefully; “Vera was pretty shy when she first
joined our team, but she’s developed into an assertive and effective salesperson.”
Optimal: best in the situation; “I really feel I need more information before deciding
which of these three options is optimal.”
Hedge: to avoid speaking too directly or responding clearly; “Did you notice that
Henry hedged when you asked him how long he’ll stay with us? Do you think he’s
considering leaving?”
Emotions are running high: when people feel strongly about a situation, especially if
they are angry or upset, we say that “emotions are running high;” “Just a heads up
before you go into that staff meeting Lana, emotions are running high among the
staff, so be careful what you say.”
To vent: to express your anger or frustration; “I’m sorry to go on and on about how
frustrated I am, but I think I just needed to vent. All good now.”
Accusatory: showing a belief that someone has done something wrong; “I don’t
mind constructive criticism Marty, but your feedback feels really accusatory.”
A Serious discussion.
B Informal conversation.
C Quick transitions to work issues.
D Focus on details.
2. Which of the following are good ways to transition to work topics after some
small talk? Select all that apply:
A Okay everyone, I think it’s time to talk about the marketing plan.
B It is time to talk about our marketing plan.
C This meeting is about our plan for marketing.
D Speaking of marketing, we should probably talk about the plan.
A intuitive / perspectives
B balanced / clarifying questions
C social / facts
D direct / constraints
5. When leading during a crisis, your communication style may have to become
more… Select all that apply:
A direct
B authoritative
C diplomatic
D empathetic
2. Which of the following are good ways to transition to work topics after some
small talk? Select all that apply:
A Okay everyone, I think it’s time to talk about the marketing plan.
D Speaking of marketing, we should probably talk about the plan.
5. When leading during a crisis, your communication style may have to become
more… Select all that apply:
A direct
B authoritative