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Of wildflowers and weed
by David Sedaris
FEBRUARY 19, 2007
In Paris, they warn you before cutting off the water, but out in Normandy you’re just
supposed to know. You’re also supposed to be prepared, and it’s this last part that gets
me every time. Still, though, I try to make do. A saucepan of chicken broth will do for
shaving, and in a pinch, I can always find something to pour into the toilet tank: orange
juice, milk, a lesser champagne. If I really got hard up, I suppose I could hike through the
woods and bathe in the river, though it’s never quite come to that.
Most often, our water is shut off because of some reconstruction project, either in our
village or in the next one over. A hole is dug, a pipe is replaced, and within
a few hours things are back to normal. The mystery is that it’s so perfectly timed to my
schedule. This is to say that the tap dries up at the exact moment I roll out of bed, which
is usually between ten and ten-thirty. For me this is early, but for Hugh and most of our
neighbors it’s something closer to midday. What they do at 6 A.M. is anyone’s guess. I
only know that they’re incredibly self-righteous about it and talk about the dawn as if it’s
The last time our water went off, it was early summer. I got up at my regular hour,
and saw that Hugh was off somewhere, doing whatever it is he does. This left me alone to
solve the coffee problem—a sort of Catch-22, as in order to think straight I needed
caffeine, and in order to make that happen I needed to think straight. Once, in a half-
sleep, I made it with Perrier, which sounds plausible but really isn’t. On another occasion,
I heated up some leftover tea and poured that over the grounds. Had the tea been black
rather than green, the coffee might have worked out, but, as it was, the result was vile. It
wasn’t the sort of thing you’d try more than once, so this time I skipped the teapot and
headed straight for a vase of wildflowers sitting by the phone on one of the living-room
tables.
Hugh had picked them the previous day, and it broke my heart to think of him
marching across a muddy field with a bouquet in his hand. He does these things that are
somehow beyond faggy and seem better suited to some hardscrabble pioneer wife:
making jam, say, or sewing bedroom curtains out of burlap. Once, I caught him down on
the riverbank, beating our dirty clothes against a rock. This was before we got a washing
machine, but, still, he could have laundered things in the tub. “Who are you?” I’d said,
and, as he turned, I half-expected to see a baby at his breast, not nestled in one of those
When Hugh beats underpants against river rocks or decides that it might be fun to
grind his own flour, I think of a couple I once met. This was years ago, in the early
nineties. I was living in New York, and had returned to North Carolina for Christmas, my
first priority being to get high and stay that way. My brother Paul knew of a guy who
possibly had some pot to sell, so a phone call was made, and, in the way that these things
The dealer was named Little Mike, and he addressed Paul as “Bromine.” He looked
like a high-school student, or, closer still, one of those kids who dropped out and then
spent all day hanging around the parking lot: tracksuit, rattail, a wisp of thread looped
through his freshly pierced ear. After a few words regarding my brother’s car, Little Mike
ushered us inside and introduced us to his wife, who was sitting on the sofa watching a
Christmas special. The girl’s stockinged feet were resting on the coffee table, and settled
between her legs, just south of her lap, sat a flat-faced Persian. Both she and the cat had
wide-set eyes, and ginger-colored hair, though hers was partially hidden beneath a
woolen cap. The wife remained seated as my brother, and I entered the room. I guess you
couldn’t blame her for being inhospitable. Here you are, trying to watch a little TV with
your cat, and these two guys show up—people you don’t even know.
“Don’t mind Beth,” Little Mike said, and he smacked the underside of the girl’s foot.
“Owww, asshole.”
He advanced upon the other foot, and I pretended to admire the Christmas tree,
which was miniature and artificial, and stood on a barstool beside the front door. “This is
She really wanted us out of there, but Little Mike seemed to welcome our
company. “Sit down,” he told me. “Have a libation.” He and Paul went to the refrigerator
to get us some beers, and the girl called after them to bring her a rum and-Coke. Then she
turned back to the TV and glared at the screen, saying, “This show’s boring. Hand me the
nigger.”
I smiled at the cat, as if this would somehow fix things, and when Beth pointed to the
far end of the coffee table, I saw that she was referring to the remote control. Under
different circumstances, I might have listed the various differences between black people,
who had been forced to work for no money, and black, battery-operated channel
didn’t mind doing stuff for free. But the deal hadn’t started yet, and, more than anything,
I wanted my drugs. Thus, the remote was handed over, and I watched as the pot dealer’s
wife flicked from one station to the next, looking for something that might satisfy her.
She had just settled upon a situation comedy when Paul and Little Mike returned with
the drinks. Beth was unsatisfied with her ice-cube count, and, after suggesting that she
could just go fuck herself, our host reached into the waistband of his track pants and
pulled out a bag of marijuana. It was the size of a small cushion, eight ounces at least,
and as I feasted my eyes upon it Little Mike pushed his wife’s feet off the coffee table,
saying, “Bitch, go get me my scales.” “I’m watching TV—get it your own self.”
“Whore,” he said.
“Asshole.”
“See the kind of shit I have to live with?” Little Mike sighed and retreated to the rear
of the trailer—the bedroom, I guessed—returning a minute later with a scale and some
rolling papers. The pot was sticky with lots of buds, and its smell reminded me of a
Christmas tree, though not the one perched atop the barstool. After weighing my ounce
and counting out my money, Little Mike rolled a joint, which he lit, drew upon, and
I was passing it back to our host, his wife piped up, saying, “Hey, don’t I count?”
“Now look who wants to play,” her husband said. “Women. They’ll suck the fucking
paper off a joint, but when old Papa Bear needs a little b.j. action they’ve always got a
sore throat.”
Beth tried to speak and hold in the smoke at the same time: “Hut hup, hasshole.”
“Either of you guys married?” Little Mike asked, and Paul shook his head no. “I got
preëngaged one time, but David here hasn’t never come close, his being a faggot and
all.”
Little Mike laughed, and then he looked at me. “For real?” he said. “Is
“Oh, he’s all up inside that shit,” Paul said. “Has hisself a cocksucker—I mean a
boyfriend—and everything.”
I could have done my own talking, but it was sort of nice listening to my
brother, who sounded almost boastful, as if I were a pet that had learned to do math.
His wife stirred to action then and became almost sociable. “So, this boyfriend,” she
“Well, neither of us,” I told her. “That’s what makes us a homosexual couple.
“But no,” she said. “I mean, like, in prison or whatnot. One of you has to be in for
murder and the other for child molesting or something like that, right? I mean, one is
I wanted to ask if that would be the murderer or the child molester, but instead
I just accepted the joint, saying, “Oh, we live in New York,” as if that answered the
question.
We stayed in the trailer for another half hour, and during the ride back to
Raleigh, I thought of what the drug dealer’s wife had said. Her examples were a little
skewed, but I knew what she was getting at. People I know, people who live
in houses and don’t call their remote control “the nigger,” have often asked the same
question, though usually in regard to lesbians, who are always either absent or safely out
It’s astonishing the amount of time that certain straight people devote to gay sex—
trying to determine what goes where, and how often. They can’t imagine any system
outside their own, and seem obsessed with the idea of roles, both in bed and out of it.
Who calls whom a bitch? Who cries harder when the cat dies? Which one spends the
most time in the bathroom? I guess they think that it’s that cut and dried, though of
course it’s not. Hugh might do the cooking, and actually wear an apron while he’s at it,
but he also chops the firewood, repairs the hot-water heater, and could tear off my arm
with no more effort than it takes to uproot a dandelion. Does that make him the murderer,
or do the homemade curtains reduce him to the level of the child molester?
I considered these things as I looked at the wildflowers, he’d collected the day before
the water went out. Some were the color I associate with yield signs, and others a sort of
muted lavender, their stems as thin as wire. I pictured Hugh stooping, or maybe even
kneeling, as he went about picking them, and then I grabbed the entire bunch and tossed
it out the window. That done, I carried the vase into the kitchen, and emptied the yellow
water into a pan, which I then boiled and used to make coffee. There’d be hell to pay
when my man got home, but at least by then I would be awake and able to argue, perhaps