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Helga was in an emotional emptiness and she was getting reactions like ‘why are you
alone and why don't you have a boyfriend’. In the meantime, Helga thought about the
features that her boyfriend should have. Her criteria were pretty much because she is
securely attached individual who have trusting, lasting relationships, good self-esteem,
comfortable sharing feelings with partners and friends. She waiting for someone with
these features and found it difficult to find someone else with these features so she
made a totem. She believes that the first person to enter the door would be her future
husband. At that point, Justin entered the door. Helga thought that firstly they should
be friends because one of the simpliest determinants of attraction is proximity so they
started spending time together. After a while she realized that they were not a
compatible couple. Justin was rich and handsome but they couldn’t have fun together,
their ideas were debate. She was jealous of the happy relationships of other couples.
These conflicts are not problem for Justin because his comparison level for
alternatives is high, he can break up easily but this not valid for Helga. She wants to
devote herself to this relationship because long-term interactions are more related to
the desire to help each other but Justin did not strive for the future of this relationship.
And Helga left him and wanted to remain friends, but Justin did not accept because he
was abandoned.