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Stetzer Intellectual Autobiography
Stetzer Intellectual Autobiography
Stetzer Intellectual Autobiography
Aidan Stetzer
2/3/2023
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The identity I have formed for myself over the years has changed drastically since
college. Before college, I feel that I didn’t have a true identity that was mine. I always looked up
to people and tried to form into who they were, but never just used them as role models to make
myself who I wanted to be. I am from a small town in Pennsylvania, called Hamburg. The only
thing it is known for is having a large Cabela’s. I grew up surrounded by fields, farmers, and the
same group of kids I have known my whole life introduced to them by my parents. I never
planned to go to college or further my education in any way beyond high school. I left my public
high school in the 9th grade to move to an online cyber school to allow me more time to focus on
my riding showing Quarter Horses in either the reining or cutting disciplines. February of my
senior year of college my dad told me I had the opportunity to show horses for a D1 sports team
in college. As expected, I didn’t want to go. I loved the idea of showing horses in college but did
not want to do the learning and education part. After talking to the coach I agreed to my dad that
I would give it a year and if I didn’t like it after a year I could leave. I came to Delaware State
University in the fall of 2019, with the intensions of fulfilling an agriculture degree as
agricultural was all I ever knew. After giving it a year, I fell in love with the Equestrian Team at
After a year I realized I am capable of doing more than just agriculture my whole life. I
love agriculture and I wanted to continue, but it wasn’t a field that was going allow me to live the
life I’ve been living. I need a job that will support my hobby of showing horses, having
livestock, paying bills, and allow me to take care of my nephew and give him the life my parents
gave me and his father. I decided I wanted to do better for him. My dream of always loping
horses at a horse show and becoming someone’s assistant trainer and one day becoming a head
trainer was out the window, because it would never pay the bills and allow me and someone else
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to live comfortably. At that time I decided to change my major and go into nursing, I’ve always
had an interest in nursing and always have enjoyed caring for people , but it was what my sister
did. So I never wanted to go that route because I didn’t want to live in the shadow of my
overachieving sister. I had to get over that idea, and realize that just because we have may end up
with the same degree it wouldn’t have to be the same specialty and I would still be my own
person, and that degree was what it was going to take in order to be better for Zane my nephew,
because I am all he has and I need to set a good example for him.
I started my new degree at Delaware State and enjoyed every second of it. I got a job
working as a Person Care Assistant in an Intensive Care Unit in a hospital back home over the
summer and it gave me reassurance that I made the right decision about changing my major.
Until nurses at my job would tell me that I should stay working as I am, and not get the nursing
degree. It made me question my decision, and then when I got a phone call saying I needed to
change my major again or kiss my spot on the Equestrian Team goodbye due to eligibility, I
made the switch to Liberal Studies with a concentration in Biology because of all the classes I
had already taken for both agriculture and nursing. I couldn’t give up my passion and the only
riding cutting horses with people who I would call family even though they aren’t blood related.
It’s the same thing my dad did when he was my age. He went away and trained and rode horses
for quite awhile before he came to the same realization it wasn’t going to pay the bills and give
someone a life one day. I learned a lot while I was there and not just about training horses. They
were an old school southern family. I learned a lot about respect, manners, hard-work, and self-
accountability. All things I pride myself in today. Grady was a man everyone respected and
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looked up to because of his knowledge, personality, and the way he presented himself. I
personally looked up to him and his wife Judy who was a southern lady who spoke her mind, but
was also respectful and was a model of society. She helped me find confidence in myself, how to
be mentally tough, and to work hard even if it gets hard. All these things helped me on my
journey of coming to college and joining the Equestrian Team, because it is all the thing my
coach wants to see in an athlete. She takes pride in creating a strong family unit, hard work,
I lost my way for a while on the Equestrian Team, I never played on a sports team. I was
a band geek in high school who rode horses. All the self-confidence I had built over the years at
Grady’s was gone. Until we got a new coach on the team, Rhonda was from the same era Grady,
Judy, and my father were from so I was able to understand her and find myself again and when I
did I was unstoppable in the arena and in my studies. She understood my style and upbringing so
I was able to grow as a women and a horseman on this team. I got the nickname “Monty” after
my dad, and that little thing is what it took for me to be able to ride anything, and do my part of
this team. Something as simple as a nickname can give you the confidence, edge, and grit to do
anything. My junior year we lost Rhonda as a coach, and were unsure if we were going to be
able to find another Western Coach. Coming back in the fall of my senior year there was a new
coach, and in preseason I struggled like no other. Everything she was saying went against the
foundation I had always been taught and it just tore me apart, because I wanted to respect her and
do everything she asked, but at the same time I didn’t want to go against everything I had always
been taught my entire life. I didn’t want to let a the struggle of understanding a new coach and
coaching style ruin my senior year. My teammates knew I was struggling and the first day I went
into pen for my senior year they all screamed “Let’s see it Monty” and it what was I needed to
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kick myself back into gear, of who I was, and what legacy I was going to leave behind. I’m
currently having the best season yet. Despite the uncertainty of what I’m going to do post-
graduation. I’m going to be leaving college with a degree I didn’t know existed, with the
uncertainty of what I’m going to do for a career, and who I am without the team.
When I talk to people in my life about my uncertainty, I’m always told oh I’m still young
I have time, but then I see people in their 30’s still struggling with that uncertainty. I don’t want
to be that person. After watching a video called “Why 30 is not the new 20” by Meg Jay. It
makes sense because those people I see still struggling were told the same thing I’ve been told
that they’re young and have time and that is not the case. I need to make decisions about my life
and take those steps to make my life my own even if it’s hard. I need to be taking those steps
now so that when I’m in my 30’s I have what I want. I will have that job I wanted, the house I
wanted, and the family I’ve always wanted. There was a quote that my old coach Rhonda used
to say, and it was “There is no elevator to success, You have to take the stairs.” We never knew
who said it but that is what has been pushing me to find out what I’m going to do after college. I
need to make the hard choice of will I pursue that nursing career after all, do I want to do
phlebotomy instead? Do I make the low pay work and go ride and show horses the rest of my
life? Right now I am in one of Erik Erickson’s 8 stages of psychological development called
Identity vs. Role Confusion. I am trying to discover who the adult Aidan is and whether I will
stick to my beliefs and upraising and go a different route. I am right in the middle of two of
Daniel Levinson’s stages of life that from the ages of 17-22 you are in your early adult transition
where you leave everything you know and start your education and start to make choices about
your career, and then from 22-28 you are in the entering the adult world where you are finding a
relationship, securing a career, and making your goals come true. I am struggling with both of
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those transitions into life right now. I will be 22 years old before I graduate in May, and I am still
left with so much uncertainty, and doubt. I don’t want to let down everyone that has worked so
hard for me to achieve these feats in life, but at the same time I don’t want to let myself down
settling on something.
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