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appealing to Parliament's Security Intelligence
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ridiculous. They removed Marian's security
clearance, for example, simply on the grounds
J that she's a lesbian. "They asked me any if
Russians had tried to blackmail me," she told
me, in tones of disbelief.
Later, they tried to bolster their case by
I accusing her of "improperly" looking at a
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Your heart pounds. You feel your face flush warmly. You catch
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your breath: You can't help it. She looks at you and everything about the ffle except what wasn't in it"
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SPRING, and dreamy blurs a little as the pupils of your eyes dilate from the sight of her.
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checked her companion's
mance is in the very air we V It SlOVe V Judy andtime^
Len were divorced, and file.)
IT'S breathe. No one is too young
or 100 old to fall under its magic
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it was more j
Whv won't the military tolerate hnmnspxuak'J
various incoherent reasons are offered. In 1987,
the Armed Forces claimed
Everything about him is perfect: the exact color of his hair, like a friendship that just grew. It s they weren't in
violation of the Charter of Rights because the
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But wait! What is this powerful
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his beautiful eyes and sexy earlobes, the way not that there isn't any passion, it's presence of homosexuals mieht be detrimental
he m0ves> the rich sound of Ws voice" You're l°St it all. Tfl^Zuch
bad' for you, TTome'^keptics in'ou^s. betted J ^hVSed Forces SsT^ed' bSly that
claim, or does it offer life's sweet- much more stable."
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interview. I
hope I don t.
Kreps' view is but one approach,
although a controversial one.
Others who have pondered love re-
fuse to give up on romance.
Kreps describes herself as "a
heavy-duty radical feminist" and
blames gender stereotypes for ruin-
^1' "Romantic passion is not the
only S^mem town. There are other
games and better ones, like a car-
mg and passionate relationship be-
tween peers."
Some
people prefer to agree with
Bertrana Russell that romantic love
ls "a source of the most intense de-
lights that life has to offer
something of inestimable value, to
be ignorant of which is a great mis-
fortune to any human being."
Ah, love. But is it a threat to
equality between men and women?
Irving Singer, a philosophy
professor at the Massachusetts
'Tmnotanonponent of roman-
tic love," he sa/cf in an interview.
"There are lots of different kinds of
love, and they are all valid. I'm very
sympathetic towards feminism as a
cause about human equality, but I
don't see that it follows that all
forms of romantic love are liable to
be under attack."
Judy, 41, a Toronto administra-
tor, remembers vividly the heady
wonder of the romance in her first
marriage, to Len.
"It was very romantic and won-
derful. For seven years we wanted
to be close to each other all the
rather contemptuous of women.
Does anyone really believe that the army J
would have to provide toilets labelled
She has to be sweet and passive, "Wom^n/
Hetero and Women/Homo
innocent and inexperienced, allur-
ing without being aware of it. At Craon'
first they are mutually waiy, or
sometimes angry at each other.
Then, without explanation, he de-
I Paranoia dangerous
clares his love for her. She decides
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of homosexuals a;
she has misunderstood all his threat^how,'s P"£sence
to cohesion? If anything, the
military's
current paranoia is a far worse danger.
negative behavior to her in the When
past. They fall into each other's is
homosexuality illegal, a whole simmering
subculture of snooping, innuendo, snitching and
arms. He becomes the only thing
that matters in her life. Her work Placa can flourish which is precisely why
or other commitments fade in I intelligent organizations prefer openness and
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has stopped chasing gays, the Canadian
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chasing gays. But the army still, spends
incredible amounts of time on this,
I investigating, grilling, giving polygraph tests.
I It's like tracking down witches!"
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certain percentage of homosexuals in its midst.
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ive instead: "They'll be back
efore you know it, honey, and
ou can spend the time until
len planning what you'll do
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age and worrds apart in inter-
ests, they worship their cous-
ins and treat anything they say
and do as pronouncements
from on high.
Incredibly, the cousins recip-
Wen his 12-vear old sistpr
arrived for her visit six months
later, my kids knew just what
to expect: her undividedatten-
tion. And they got it (although,
being almost a teenager, she
seem to f?pt Pnnn£w!f
other when thev're voun?
Unfortunatefy cFoesn't
alwavslast
Most adults I know have lost
touch with their cousins "Oh
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Keri Sweetman is a colum-
I womandate" and drag the Canadian Armed
Forces into the 20th cehtury before it's over.
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nistwMhThe Ottawa Citizen. The army has already lost an outstanding
officer in Marian X and 136 other
^^^s'nee 84. Sooner rather than later.
to be punished by the
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This brings on another ava-
mche of tews and sends her
fcning to the so ace of her
fcm. I am left alone at the
ingoing
rocate. You'd think they'd want
nothing to do with a pair of
did sleep in a lot later than mv cousin works at vour new?' f LIFE Popularity of
L [or'fs discnmmatory
the military
actions. Wouldn't
to
it bo
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they considered appropriate). paper," a man said to me the "\?or ^ive up
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