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If You Use These 5 Phrases in An Email, You Sound Passive Aggressive - by Matthew Royse - Change Your Mind Change Your Life - Oct, 2021 - Medium
If You Use These 5 Phrases in An Email, You Sound Passive Aggressive - by Matthew Royse - Change Your Mind Change Your Life - Oct, 2021 - Medium
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For better or worse, we live in our email inboxes. We get tons of emails every day.
“Email is here to stay — it’s time we got better at using it.” — Shiva Ayyadurai, an engineer,
politician, and entrepreneur
As a result, frustration and miscommunication can occur over email. Context and tone
can be lost over email. This increases anxiety. Email is where hours are wasted, and
emotions boil up.
Digital communication such as email is where people try to express their irritations and
displeasures with situations.
There are five common phrases that people use in emails that come across as passive
aggressive. Let's dive into what they are.
In other words:
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Pro tip: if you don’t get a reply, switch channels to a phone call or a Zoom meeting.
Pro tip: Make sure you master your email subject line.
Pro tip: Put the words “follow up” in your email subject line.
5. Going forward
This phrase means don’t do that ever again. It also means we are moving on and don’t
waste my time again. You may not realize you are using this phrase and how it comes
across as passive aggressive.
Pro tip: Assume good intent and give the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes it is best to wait to send an email, especially when you are angry or
frustrated. Don’t respond to an email right away. Give it some time to rest. You don’t
want to regret sending an email.
Draft an email, let it sit, and then revisit it when you are in a better mood. You don’t have
to respond quickly to every email you receive. Fight your urge to send a petty reply. Don’t
escalate the tension — lower the anxiety for yourself and the other party. It will help you
not come across as passive aggressive.
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