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The Art of Letting God
Surrendering all your broken pieces to Him, one
prayer at a time
Mizi Wahid
IMAN Publication
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Copyright © 2019 Mizi Wahid
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Contents
Title Page
Copyright
Preface
Chapter One
Chapter Two
Chapter Three
Chapter Four
Chapter Five
Chapter Six
Chapter Seven
Chapter Eight
Chapter Nine
Chapter Ten
Chapter Eleven
Chapter Twelve
Chapter Thirteen
Chapter Fourteen
Chapter Fifteen
Chapter Sixteen
Chapter Seventeen
Chapter Eighteen
Chapter Nineteen
Chapter Twenty
Chapter Twenty One
About The Author
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Preface
For the last 10 years, I am blessed to have gotten the chance
to meet with people from all walks of life. Beautiful people, with
interesting stories, sometimes tragic, but always inspiring. Their
struggles have taught me many lessons about life. Most prominently,
that the events that happen to us don’t get to decide when our story
is over. God does. And for as long as we continue to be blessed with
the gifts of life, a sound mind, and the ability to make a difference,
we must continue to choose hope over fear, belief over doubt, and
effort over despair.
Background
The reason why I chose to write about The Art of Letting God,
is purely driven by my desire to help more people see the power and
beauty of spiritual surrendering. Something amazing happens when
you finally learn how to let go of the outcomes and the results to your
efforts. You do this by keeping your faith in the work that you’ve put
out there in the world. It also teaches you how to trust. Something
most of us are not good at. The only difference in Tawakkul is that
your trust is placed in the Almighty God; who manages the universe,
as well as our affairs with such tenderness, love, and unmatched
compassion.
As the world continues to take shape in this 21st century through the
rapid developments of technology, and the growing demands at the
workplace - stress levels are expected to increase significantly as
more and more people will struggle to manage and keep up with the
pace of life.
If there’s one thing that we can hold onto for the sake of our
sanity, our family’s unity, and our career’s stability, it would be our
faith and complete reliance on God. What I’ve learned in life thus far,
is that in order for us to make good decisions that would lead us
towards true happiness and success, we need to be in a positive
state of peace and tranquility in our hearts and minds. And God is
the instiller of peace in our hearts. So when we know how to
surrender, we’ll win.
Acknowledgements
If all the pages in this book were used to write the names of all
the people who have helped me, guided me, mentored me, to
become the person I am today, it wouldn’t be enough. I am forever
indebted to all my “teachers” in life.
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Chapter One
The Greatest Temptation
And then you start to lose momentum. Bit by bit. And before
you know it, questions of doubt start to pop up in your mind. “Are
these goals truly achievable? Am I being realistic? Am I good
enough? Am I worthy of such achievements? Or is it simply better for
me to just give up?”
We’ll all be tempted to quit in different ways. Some of us will be
tempted to leave a job that’s hard. Others, to quit on our child who
has disappointed us over and over again. Some couples are
considering to end their marriage after starting their own family
together - calling it quits. Because the spark that once was, is now
no longer seen or felt.
So how does a person actually learn how to deal with this great
temptation? Isn’t it easier to just quit? Indeed. I won’t spend too
much time arguing with you on that fact. I’d rather focus on your
preference; the preference for ease. This book is not written for
those who want things easy. You can pray for easy. Moses (peace
be upon him) asked God for ease in his affairs. But he also asked for
strength, wisdom, patience, ability, and support.
But in order for him to ask God for the right kind of help, he first
needed to know more about himself. What were his greatest
weaknesses? What were his biggest fears? It seemed like every
prayer he made had an underlying meaning - at least for all of us to
ponder and reflect upon individually.
When he asked for “a minister from his own family”, was it due
to the fear of facing the Pharoah all on his own? Was it meant to be
a confidence booster? Or so that he may assign some of the tasks to
his brother Aaron (peace be upon him)?
“O my sons, go and find out about Joseph and his brother and despair not of relief
from Allah . Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving
people.” (Quran 12: 87)
The predicament that they were in was that Joseph has been
missing for years [presumably decades] since the incident when his
older brothers threw and left him in a well all by himself - done
entirely out of envy. And as for their youngest brother, Benjamin
(peace be upon him), he had just been reprimanded and held back
as he was ‘caught stealing’ in the palace - which was in truth a
masterstroke ploy set up by Joseph himself, to reunite with his whole
family.
Their motivation to keep going in spite of the many recent
disappointments - inspired by their father’s encouraging words -
eventually paid off.
But ‘easy’ will not give us the things and experiences that we
will treasure and cherish for the rest of our lives. Greatness doesn’t
always come out from easy circumstances and events. One thing we
can expect through difficulty and perseverance is that we will grow.
And when we do, the struggles, the failures, and the challenges will
suddenly, become “easy”.
Right now, I’d like you to take a minute to figure out where that
voice of despair is coming from. What is it telling you? What
reasons/excuses is it coming up with to justify you giving up? And in
which area of your life is it telling you to quit?
Are you trying to quit a lifelong addiction, but each time you fall
back into your old ways, you find yourself feeling frustrated and
thinking about giving up?
Are you giving your all in trying to achieve your life’s dreams
and goals, but the criticism people give you, the lack of moral
support, and all of the trials along the way are taking their toll on
you?
The reason you woke up this morning was because God wasn’t
finished with you yet. He’s got something else for you to do. If you’re
a teacher, then you haven’t taught your best lesson yet. If you’re a
chef, you haven’t served your best dish yet. If you’re a writer, you
haven’t published your best piece yet. If you’re a business owner,
you haven’t negotiated your best deal yet.
Each day, you’re one step closer to living your best day yet.
Seize every opportunity. The timing is right, and the conditions are in
order. Something amazing is about to happen in your life. Don’t let
anybody tell you you’re not good enough. Don’t let them tell you
you’re too young, or too old. Don’t let anybody tell you that you’re
finished. Every day that you wake up in the morning, it’s a sign - the
best is yet to come.
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Chapter Two
How Did I End Up Broken?
W ell, if you’re anything like me, I’m going to guess that you
have had your heart broken before, perhaps not too long ago,
and may currently be going through a tough time just trying to get
over it. Hearts get broken for various reasons.
(1) Even though we know that they will not likely learn
anytime soon to not play with certain things, very often we still
overlook this fact. How? Time and time again, we place the
cold drink we just poured for ourselves after a long and hot
day on the floor behind where we’re seated, thinking we can
‘hide it from them’. But the second we’re distracted, they
spilled our drink all over the carpet while attempting to get a
sip. This teaches me, that when we try to fool others, we end
up disappointed and being the fool.
(2) I once placed my new glasses near the bed. And I’m very
dependent on my glasses, so I’ve been extremely careful and
protective of it; keeping it away as far as I can from my
daughter when she was one. But there was a day when I took
it off, placed it at the side, looked at my phone for a while, and
when I turned back to her, she broke the frame in half! All she
needed was 5 seconds or less. This teaches me, to buy better
quality glasses, AND that when you place things that are
vulnerable in a place where you might risk breaking it, one
day, you’ll probably see it broken.
If you only had one rule for one child, that would be
manageable. Many rules for one child would be challenging.
But how about, “No climbing on the sofa. No eating in the car.
No jumping on the bed. No watching the TV before homework
is done. No… No… No…” and you have 5 or 6 children. What
are the chances of you losing your peace on a daily basis?
And how many TIMES a day? Exactly.
So let’s recap:
3. If you want to have peace in your life, you can’t have too
many rules. Especially if those rules are dependent upon
others; to be or to behave in a certain way. Or for certain
events to happen in your life, by a fixed timing that you have
set in your mind. We should never etch something in stone if
we are not sure of the outcome. Doing that will only guarantee
a certain degree of heartache and disappointment. “I’ll only be
happy, if I get married by 25.”
7. Don’t rush into things - if you have the luxury, take as much
time as you need to decide
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Chapter Three
The Meaning of Surrender
“And to Allah belongs the unseen [aspects] of the heavens and the earth, and to Him
return all affairs. So worship Him, and put your trust in Him. And your Lord is not
unaware of what you do.”(Quran 11: 123)
One of those major variables are the people you meet along
the way. You’ve certainly lost count of the exact number of people
you’ve met and made friends with in school, in your neighbourhood,
at work, during travel and - since it’s 2017, I’ll have to also mention -
the people you meet on social media. He decides who you meet,
where you’ll meet them, and when. And then it is for us to decide,
how to treat them, what we choose to give or gain from them, and
what can we learn from the relationships, no matter how they
eventually end.
Ultimately, our job is simple, but not easy. The concept and
theory is simple to understand. We must surrender and place our
complete faith in God’s grand masterplan for our lives. The execution
will be a challenge. Because Tawakkul (surrendering), and trust are
two complicated subjects that require a great deal of effort,
experience, and unshakeable faith.
Surrendering is:
(3) Not letting things be, without first taking focused and faithful
action
So, when one thing breaks down in your life, you’ve got to work
with what’s left. Grieve if you must, but don’t mourn forever. Because
you don’t need anything you lost to bless you.
Even if EVERYTHING you have leaves you, and God is all you
have left to turn to - one day you will realise, that He is ALL that
you’ll ever need to see through - ALL of your dreams to come true.
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Chapter Four
Understanding Our Destination, And His Roadmap
At about the same time, a man out there just lost custody of his
only child in a failed marriage. A 21-year old just walked into the four
walls of a prison cell, wondering if there’s any purpose or reason left
for him to live for. And a housewife, who had just finished plating her
dishes for dinner, receives an unexpected visit from a police officer,
to inform her that her husband just died from a fatal road accident.
And this is what the Beloved (peace be upon him) had to say:
“Amazing is the affair of the believer, verily all of his affairs are good, and this is not
for anyone else except the believer. If something GOOD befalls him, he is GRATEFUL
and that is good for him. If something BAD befalls him, he is PATIENT and that is
good for him (too).” [Narrated by Imam Muslim]
As Easy As A, B, C?
There is this strong belief that there is only one path towards
success and happiness. We may have been told that the only way to
find success is by getting a degree, then finding a good-paying job,
settle down, start a family, climb up the ranks at your organisation
through sheer discipline and hard work, and then retire when it’s
time.
That looks great. But life won’t always pan out the way you
expect it to. We assume that everything will progress smoothly from
A, to B, to C, to D, and so on. But that’s rarely how God allows things
to unfold. Instead, you are more likely to experience life starting at A,
and then to G, and then to K, and then C, and then F - you get the
point.
It sounds weird to be grateful for things that don’t turn out the
way you want them to. But I realised that there were many blessings
that I’m grateful for today which I wouldn’t have had if I did not have
to make a few u-turns and detours along the way.
My “Perfect” Plan
And guess what? A few weeks later I got a call saying I had
been shortlisted. I was up against 24 other applicants, with better
grades, from better universities, and some with solid working
experience. As confident as I was then as a person, I never thought I
had a chance. But God, He had other plans. Three stages of
interviews later, I was hired.
How did I feel? To be honest, I had mixed feelings. A part of me
felt really disappointed with the new direction that my life was taking
me. Felt like I’ve betrayed myself and the dreams I had set my heart
on by taking this job. But another part of me felt extremely grateful
because I knew that I was blessed enough to overcome the odds
(against other better candidates) and got a position that wasn’t easy
to get, and how fortunate I was to have been entrusted with it.
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Chapter Five
God Begins Where You End
So, in order for this to happen, you’ll have to do your part first.
And at the end of your efforts, God begins.
Get Busy
You see, sometimes the things we asked for, God has already
answered. You prayed for a tree, and He gave you some seeds. You
asked for prosperity and abundance, so he inspired into your mind
new concepts and ideas. You prayed for your marriage to improve,
so He cancels a work meeting and blesses you with spare time.
He wants to see you get down and dirty; planting those seeds
into the ground, with soil stuck in between your nails, brow catching
your sweat, your shoulders aching in discomfort.
Could He have made it a lot easier for you and just gave you a
tree instead? Of course He could. But how much can we learn from
easy? Not much. How far can we stretch with easy? Not very far.
A Win-Win Outcome
You don’t lose for trying. Let me illustrate for you what you
stand to gain from giving a hundred percent. Even in the scenario
where a change in your circumstances is becoming seemingly
doubtful in spite of your best efforts, there are still plenty of other
benefits to look out for.
3. Personal growth
“If all of you were to truly have faith in Allah s.w.t. He will certainly provide you with
sustenance, just as He would give to a little bird, for when it leaves its nest in the
morning with an empty stomach, but returns home in the evening full.”
The little bird is never assured of any food before it leaves its
nest, but it goes in search for it anyway. It was never guaranteed that
food will be found immediately, or after a few minutes of searching,
or five hours of scavenging before it gets what it is looking for. But it
stays in faith throughout, and leaves its nest anyway.
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Chapter Six
Your Stops And Steps
Q uite often in life, we find that our plans are forced to change
due to people and circumstances which are beyond our
control. As a result, we tend to get extremely disenchanted and
upset when our journey is met with a sudden and immediate
standstill. It gets really frustrating when you’ve had everything
planned according to their exact precision and detail, yet something
unexpected happened - totally disrupting the whole perfect sequence
and order of the plan you have arranged for.
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Chapter Seven
What People Say
But I’ll never forget how the event made me feel. Or to be more
specific, how a particular feedback from one participant made me
feel so crushed and demoralised. Yes, it was one negative feedback
against 99 positive ones. But negativity has a way of getting all of
your attention focused on it, causing it to matter more than anything
else. The impact was so powerful that it got me questioning myself,
my worth, my values, and my purpose.
(1) People will always be entitled to what they say. Even though
they don’t have to be mean or harsh, some will find a way to “grab
you by the throat” through their own way, regardless of how you
may feel on the receiving end
(4) In the end, I like to believe that all of these are a form of a test,
to help you grow as a person - the faster you’re able to get over
them, the quicker you’ll be able to handle bigger and tougher
challenges in the future
In His Eyes
There are many things in life which are beyond our control. For
example, when your six months old laptop crashes in the midst of an
assignment causing you to lose all of the unsaved documents. Or
when you leave home for work earlier than usual but then the bus
that you’re on unexpectedly breaks down at the highway and you
end up arriving at the workplace an hour later than usual. Or when
you’ve run through the list of things to do to your best man or
bridesmaid over and over again for your wedding day, but then when
the day finally comes, it suddenly starts raining heavily that all your
earlier plans had to be forgone.
Sometimes even though we try our very best not to allow these
things to affect us, they eventually slip through our slim resistance
and seep through our minds.
And so, one other thing I would add to that list of which we
have no control over is what people wish to think or say about us.
What they wish to perceive from the negative is certainly not
something we can withhold, but it is indeed something we can refuse
to receive. Allowing other people’s judgements to affect us
psychologically and emotionally is essentially our choice.
We may have done some wrong in the past, and there may be
some old friends or relatives who continue to look at us in the same
way, talking behind our backs, despite the ongoing efforts we are
putting in to change for the better. So I say, let them look at you
through their eyes of judgment if they must, just know that Allah is
looking upon you with His eyes of love and compassion.
In the midst of all of these, never lose sight the main objective.
You’re only keeping your distance because their negativity is getting
to you and it’s affecting your peace. Never make an issue bigger
than it actually is.
Rejecting Poison
Remember the last time someone said that you’re not good
enough for something? Whether it was to get excellent grades in
school, or to pursue your studies at the highest level, or to get hired
for a top position in a company. How did you feel? Did it sit right with
you when you heard those words spoken to you? Did it make you
reject that cup of poison, or did you gladly accept the offer?
It’s not that the person was bad, they just didn’t fit.
Some people are hurting because they had to let go. While
others are hurting because they insisted on using something which
clearly did not fit them and caused much discomfort and “blisters”.
As tough as it may be, the right decision has to be made in the end.
People who hold onto clothes that are too small tend to use it
as a motivation to get (or get back) to that size. They believe that
they can adjust their bodies to the required exact proportion, or they
have the skills and know-how to adjust the clothing to fit them.
And then there are some who hold on to people even though it
has not been a pleasant relationship, because they wholeheartedly
believe that they can change the other person. Even if all else fails,
they will somehow learn to adapt in fitting in instead. To me, that’s a
false dichotomy.
First of all, I’ve always maintained that we can never truly
change people. Even in the Islamic belief, hidayah or guidance
comes only from God. We do our part to educate, to inform, to
encourage, but the end result is surrendered entirely for God to
decide.
Since I was a teenager, I’ve realised that there are just some
things that you will never be able to change. So what’s the point of
getting too upset? It began with simple ‘problems’ I faced. Such as,
having to not board the bus when I’m already late because it was
full. Or, dropping something I really wanted to eat on the floor. Or,
accidentally breaking something I just bought.
Let the possibility of what your God can do for you excite you,
and supersede the disappointments of what people have failed to do
for you.
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Chapter Nine
Leave Your Enemies To Him
I ’d like to share with you a story about a young lady who attended
one of my workshops. Let’s call her Sarah. She was in a brief
relationship with a guy whom she was introduced to by a mutual
friend. Not long after getting to know each other, the guy then
proceeded to ask her parents for her hand in marriage. Truth be told,
even though things moved pretty fast, she was delighted. He had the
qualifications, a solid career, and to top it all off, the looks too! Most
of the initial items on her checklist got ticked. And everything got off
to a great start.
But then, as she got to know more and more about him,
especially about his personal values and principles, she noticed that
there were a couple of them which she had trouble wrapping her
head around. Some were so glaringly in contrast to her own values
that they became impossible to simply brush off.
A Collision Of Values
So Sarah started talking to him about the stuff which made her
uncomfortable. Unfortunately for her, from the start, he refused to
budge from where he stood. Every stand he made was justified in his
head with a reason that was sensible to him. But his reasons
however, were completely illogical and unacceptable to her. Clearly,
they had a problem. They were already engaged. And the big day
was imminent. Venue for their wedding ceremony had already been
booked, caterers reserved, and some of her closest friends and
family had already been informally invited to the event. So,
understandably she was concerned, and disappointed with how
things were unfolding.
A Deadly Trigger
I know that for most of you reading this now, you’re probably
thinking, why in the world would she still want to have such thoughts
and feelings towards him? Especially after all that he’s put her family
through. Well, it’s complicated. But I will elaborate later on in the
book about the fact that love and hate are independently a powerful
force. And it’s not easy to explain it with words. And it’s even more
challenging to justify the logic behind the actions of someone in love,
and someone who has recently fallen out of love.
Not too long ago, in a brief conversation I had with Sarah, she
updated me about the guy again saying that he now has a child. And
that some close family members are still in contact with him, which
was how she knew. She was putting in a quick disclaimer before I
could accuse her for being a stalker! But she also added, that deep
down inside she wants to prove to him, someday, that just as how
he’s happily moved on, married, with kids - that she too has found
her happiness.
I’m going to have to stop the story there and share with you my
two thoughts and takeaways.
My first response to that would be, “Don’t set the bar too high
lest it becomes unreachable.” What does “completely moved on”
supposed to mean, anyway? Be careful. Sometimes the things you
say may set you up for greater disappointments.
Do you feel your blood boiling when you hear their name being
mentioned in a conversation?
And why can’t we let God be the one to “teach our enemies a
lesson” instead? Wouldn’t He know the best lesson to give? The
best way to teach the lesson? And the best timing for it to happen?
This is part of the god complex problem that we’re all facing as
individuals. Trying to take matters into our own hands.
Let it go.
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Chapter Ten
Trust In His Perfect Timing
Do you believe that God is The Most Wise? And do you trust
Him to always do the right thing?
Therefore, do you then accept that the BEST thing will happen
for you at the most PERFECT time in your life?
One of the gaps I’ve noticed that’s still severely missing in our
lectures and sermons today is that many who talk about the promise
of God’s answers to our prayers fail to spend just as much time
talking about the timing of God.
And failure to address or talk about this matter will only lead to
frustration. Because the more we don’t understand how things work,
the more frustrated we become waiting for things to happen.
And the problem with some of the anger, pain, and chaos that
is felt in our lives today is a result of us wanting something [or many
things] to happen so badly, prematurely.
As I’m writing this, my kids are aged 5, 3, and 1. And I’ve been
observing them closely, and reflecting even more on their behaviour
and reactions, trying to connect them with life’s greatest lessons.
There’s a lot that a 3 year old can teach you. You’d be surprised!
And then I said to myself, “Wow. Isn’t that how most adults
behave towards God too when we don’t get what we want, at our
timing?” We get angry and frustrated, and we throw our anger at
those around us. Some of us may cry uncontrollably, daily - for
weeks, or months. And then there are those, who sulk. They give up
asking from God altogether. Fatigue from asking and waiting sets in.
So they selfishly and arrogantly turn away from Him, to turn to some
other thing or someone else instead.
The scissors and knife will be of benefit to them one day when
they’ve matured. But giving it to them now will only cause them
potential pain and suffering.
You’ve been asking for something that you thought was going
to bless you - but God knows better. Whenever He sees your
request as something that has potential to do more harm than good,
He denies. And by denying, He is actually giving.
But what if I told you that you have an appointment with God’s
blessings. You may not be able to see what’s happening ‘behind the
curtain’, but the work is indeed well underway. A miracle is forming
just for you. It is not a matter of “if”, instead, it is a matter of “when”.
God always has perfect timing. He’s never too early, and has
never been late. When you meditate with the Quran and dzikrullaah
(remembrance of God), it’ll all be worth the wait.
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Chapter Eleven
Between Giving Up and Knowing You've Had Enough
A young man who truly wanted to turn his life around after
mixing with the wrong crowd. He was addicted to harmful
substances. His biggest regret? To deceive and disappoint his loving
parents and siblings.
A guy and a lady, who came individually, but who were both
confused about their sexual identity and orientation. Their biggest
dilemma? Being extremely conflicted about wanting to do the right
thing, and yet having strong feelings and inclination towards people
of the same gender. Not knowing who to talk to. Not knowing if they
even should talk about it. The struggle is real.
A lady who lost her husband a week after giving birth to their
first child. She never properly grieved the loss, as she was “pulled”
from all sides (by the deceased husband’s family members)
demanding that she sells her house so that they can get their share
of inheritance. They do this while completely neglecting her situation,
her feelings, postpartum depression, and her tragic loss.
Hardships can humble you, but it cannot break you unless you
let it.
If you find yourself in this position today, ask, “What’s there for
me to look forward to?” “What’s the one thing I need to walk away
from?” Perhaps it could shed some light on your decision-making
process.
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Chapter Twelve
Listening with a Clean Heart
For us, the key does not lie in trying to figure out how to do
everything on our own. The key is to connect with THE SOURCE
(i.e. God Almighty), surrendering to the highest power.
And I’m sure you won’t have to guess what would happen next.
I’d get lost. Sometimes for up to 30 minutes just trying to get back to
the path shown to me by the more knowledgeable GPS. Getting lost
leads to frustration, then anger, then resentment, then regret, and
then finally the humbling decision to drop my ego and follow the
voice that’s guiding me from that system once again. But it all started
from my refusal to obey, and my arrogance of thinking I knew better.
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Chapter Thirteen
Moving Forward, With Faith
The door he stood in front of would only open after the door
behind him had closed. That was the only way he could move
forward and get to the end of the secured pathway. Interesting.
In the same way, I believe life is just like that. Most of us find
ourselves stuck in between because we wouldn’t allow the doors
behind us to close. Just like how the scene is in an enclosed and
highly secured area, Allah wants us to always be safe, secured and
protected too. He always has our best interests at heart.
“Those who spend in prosperity and in adversity, who suppress anger, and forgive
others, verily, Allah loves those who do good.” (Quran 3: 134)
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Chapter Fourteen
People Pleaser
But the truth of the matter is that fame and glamour are not the
main words I would use to describe the work I do. Da’is (preachers)
go through a lot of hardships and disappointments along the way
too. Some of which are known by the public, while many more are
kept private and remain personal to them.
Only after I realised and fully accepted the reality that pleasing
others was never the right way to begin with, was I able to move on
better while carrying out the duty at hand.
Here are some questions for our personal reflections that will
help us reignite and realign our purpose and intention:
Why do I pray?
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Chapter Fifteen
Don’t Surrender Your Power to Others
T he only way someone can hurt you is if you have given them
power over yourself. The power to control you means the power
to dictate your emotions, your mood-swings, your day. But how does
one actually ‘hand over’ this power to somebody else. I believe that
there are at least 3 ways this transfer of power could take place.
One:
When we submit ourselves out of love.
Two:
When we submit ourselves out of fear.
Three:
When we submit ourselves out of hate.
And for some of us, these three situations become phases that
we experience sequentially in one single relationship. In the
beginning, you notice how your happiness is often decided by the
presence of any communication or meeting with the person you have
feelings for. Did he call you? Did you see her today? Did he ask you
about your day?
And if these things are absent from your day, you will feel down
and unhappy. You find yourself dragging your feet to school or to
work, or feel totally uninterested to complete a task that you’re
supposed to get done. This is a sign that you’ve surrendered your
power to somebody you love.
Some stay because they see too much effort in having to ‘start
over’. Neither do they have the desire, nor the energy to begin the
entire process of building a new relationship from the ground up all
over again. As a result, they hold on tightly to the one thing they
know is certain; the relationship they’re in now, even though it is
potentially harmful and destructive for their future.
The only reason you can’t get rid of the hate, is because deep
down inside - you still care. If you never cared from the start, it
wouldn’t have stayed this long.
So let go, and let God. Experience genuine peace in your life
when you learn how to love in moderation, fear within limits, and
hate within reason.
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Chapter Sixteen
The Undeniable Power of Love And Hate
You think about the person you love all of the time. You
associate every song lyric you listen to, and every movie scene you
watch to the person you’re in love with. If you’re not together, you
think about the probability of bumping into the person as you’re
choosing what to wear to work each day, even though the chances
of that happening is closer to none. He or she is the final person you
think about before going to sleep, and the first person who enters
your mind the moment you open your eyes in the morning.
Simply put, love has immense power because it has the ability
to occupy your most powerful resource - your mind. Even if you tried
to think less of something or someone you love, you can’t. It’s
already been etched in your brain or tattooed to your heart as some
lovers poetically would say.
But there is another powerful energy that we often overlook in
life. Some may argue that it is almost at equal strength with love.
Key word being “almost”. Among the hundreds of people who have
attended my Art of Letting Go and The Art of Letting God workshops,
many of them admit to having gone through a hard time trying to get
rid of the people they hate off of their minds.
They would say things like, “I can’t stand the sight of the
person!”, “I absolutely hate her for the rumours she spread about me
at work.”, “I will never be able to forgive him for the things he put me
through!” Such strong words, and such intense feelings. There is
then very little wonder as to why they must have found it hard to let
go. Ironically, the harder they hate, the more they see the faces of
the people they loathe, even while performing the most mundane of
tasks on a daily basis.
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Chapter Seventeen
Forgiveness
Like any other young people growing up, Nat had her own
dreams of pursuing a career in a field that she was really passionate
for. But her dad wanted her to be something else. Some of us would
be able to relate to being in this predicament. Yes? And so he kept
on pestering and asking her to apply for the type of jobs he wanted
her to have. And this began to cause some friction in their
relationship.
They’ve always been extremely close with each other. And they
could probably sit and talk for hours about anything else under the
sun, except for her career options. She’s tried explaining to him on
several occasions that she has other interests, and that she had zero
passion for the profession and industry he wants her to penetrate
into. But he would usually shut her down with his own reasons, and
this would simply turn her off.
One day, God answered her prayers. Nat finally landed her
dream job. She said it was one of the most happiest moments of her
life! All those days of praying and the sleepless nights spent
studying; preparing herself for this very day, was totally worth it.
One day, her dad felt a sudden pain in his chest. He wasn’t
feeling too good, thought it wasn’t anything serious, but was
reluctantly brought to see the doctor. He came back with news that
was going to change her life - forever. After a thorough scan, the
doctors broke to him the news that he was diagnosed with cancer.
Her heart sank.
And here she was thinking that she had all the time in the world
to work herself up towards glory, to prove to her dad that she can be
successful in her own way. Now, she’s suddenly running out of time,
faster than she had imagined. Before she could even deal with the
news properly, another bomb was dropped on her, her dad’s cancer
had spread to the final stage.
He was too weak, too tired to even talk about anything at all. At
times she was tempted to ask her dad if she should leave her current
job, if that would please him. But she was scared that the
conversation might put unnecessary weight on his ailing body. He’s
already going through a lot.
Please note that our true enemy - the devil - only seeks to
create dissent and disharmony in our relationships. They will whisper
into your heart (logical) reason after reason to help you in justifying
why not forgiving is the best decision for you to hold on to. Your
refusal to pardon others will leave them looking on with glee and
delight.
Another contributing factor to take notice of is the ego. It seeks
justice. Its main purpose is to think of the self, and seeks to defend
“reputation,” “face value,” “self-worth,” through unjustifiable means
that are more damaging in the long term.
Rationalising helps you get over the line. This is the process of
trying to make sense of the wrong that somebody did to you by trying
to understand the background and a little bit about the person’s past
or upbringing. You are not required to have all the information in your
fingertips. You need to only assume the reasons if you have none.
This is part of husnus-dzonn, having a good assumption of the
person’s motives for their actions.
When people can walk away from you, let them walk.
One day, you will realise that no pain is worth dwelling on,
especially the ones which were hoarding all the negativity in your life.
And also because, life goes on, as it always has been, and as it will
continue to do.
But that’s not all, friends. If we were to study the lives of some
of the most devoted Companions of our Prophet (may Allah be
pleased with them) during pre-Islam, we’ll see this truth to be there
as well. That the most significant work, will be done by the most
unlikely of people.
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Chapter Eighteen
New Beginnings
“Verily, never will Allah change the condition of a people until they change it
themselves (with their own souls)” (Quran 13: 11)
“Say, “Never will we be struck except by what Allah has decreed for us; He is our
protector.” And upon Allah let the believers rely.” (Quran 9: 51)
Friends, are you ready for a new beginning? This is the time to
start believing for a brand new chapter in your life. If your ancestors
have had a history of serious illnesses, pray and believe that Allah
will bless you and your children with health and longevity. If your
parents’ marriage had ended in separation and divorce, pray and
believe that He will grant your marriage the blessings of love and
endurance. If your lineage has had a long history of lack and poverty,
pray and believe that for you and your family, He will bless you
generously with wealth, gratitude and abundance.
This is the time you draw a line on the sand and say, “All the
negativity ends here”. Start seeing a new horizon. Start believing in
greater possibilities. And know that God is by your side, listening to
every prayer you make to Him.
(2) It is true that you may see some people incarcerated, but
they are not meant to stay imprisoned for long.
(3) It is true that you may have heard about some people
who have failed in their business or career, but they’re not
meant to stay defeated forever.
(4) It is true that you may see some people single and
lonely, but they’re not meant to stay that way much longer.
There’s only so much that another man or woman can help you
with your lack and your problems. But with God, everything is
possible. So turn to Him. Because He owns every seed underneath
the grounds that we step on each day, He directs every droplet of
rain that falls onto our heads, and He opens up the clouds for every
ray of sunlight that shines brightly onto the face of the earth. It is He
whom we should depend on more than anyone. The key to opening
up the riches of the heavens and the earth, lies in the perfection of
our faith towards the One who owns them.
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Chapter Twenty
Healing: Picking Up Your Broken Pieces from the Ground
I n the past, I’ve had at least two people who came confiding in me
on how they had recently found out from the people whom they
loved most that they were a complete and utter mistake.
One guy told me a few years back about how he found out, that
from among all of his siblings, his parents never actually planned to
have him. The ‘truth’ according to him, hurt so badly that it left a
permanent scar inside him. Now this news changed him as a person.
Prior to that, he has always known to be a cheery and happy-go-
lucky person to be around. But things took a drastic turn. He
changed and instead became somebody who always seemed
dejected, uninspired, and he even stopped smiling altogether.
She started working part-time very early in her life - not just to
support herself, but also to chip in and help stabilise the family’s
finances. It had always been tough for her growing up, especially
seeing how her elder sister was constantly the apple of her parents’
eyes even though she barely contributed to anything.
Her father, upon realising how hurt she was by the cold
shoulder she’s been giving him for a few weeks, then apologised to
her, repeatedly. But she told me how it was impossible after that
incident for her to forgive him, let alone look at him the same way
ever again.
One of the hardest things the both of them have had to do
since those events took place, was to look at everyone else’s life and
try to be genuinely happy for them. Their eyes started to look at the
joyousness of others’ lives with a reflection of envy. Their thoughts
began to come up with demoralising conclusions such as how unfair
life is - that everyone else has the ‘perfect family’ except for them. In
short, they were living a life of never-ending comparisons.
Well, I’d like to impart onto you what I believe is the REAL
truth. Even though your parents may have told you that you were a
mistake, that you were not what they truly wanted, or this could even
be your spouse who is expressing the same sentiments. Believe me
when I say that Allah NEVER makes a mistake - He never has, and
He never will. Your birth was planned from the beginning of time -
aeons before your parents met each other. Your presence here on
earth is attached strongly with a divine purpose. Even though you
don’t feel it or think it, perhaps you are meant to be a blessing to
everyone you come into contact with. Start holding on to the truths
according to Allah’s words.
The best healing comes from knowing that the ones who care
so much about your negative past won’t matter. And the ones who
matter won’t care.
I’d like you to place your right hand on to your chest, centrally.
Choose a dzikr that you love. Any one of the Beautiful 99 Names of
Allah could be a list that you may refer to. Look up their meanings.
Choose a few that you love and can connect with. And read gently
with your palm resting lightly on your chest. You don’t have to take
notice of how many times you’re repeating it. The goal is to just read.
“And with Him are the keys of the unseen; none knows them except Him. And He
knows what is on the land and in the sea. Not a leaf falls but that He knows it. And no
grain is there within the darknesses of the earth and no moist or dry [thing] but that it
is [written] in a clear record.” (Quran 6: 59)
Find peace in knowing that He knows what you’re going
through. And He is aware of everything that has ever happened to
you. He is making things happen for you without your knowledge.
“I am near to the thought of my servant as he thinks about Me. And I am with him as
he remembers Me. And if he remembers me in his heart, then I shall remember him the
same. And if he remembers me in assembly, then I shall remember him in assembly -
better than his remembrance (of Me). And if he draws near Me by the span of a palm, I
draw near him by the cubit. And if he draws near Me by the cubit, I will draw near him
by the space covered by two hands. And if he walk towards me - I rush towards him.”
[Narrated by Imam Muslim]
Friends, sometimes when times are hard, and you have no one
else to turn to, simply walk to Allah for comfort. Run to Him for a
warm and loving embrace. Pursue Him like a long lost lover. Confide
in Him like you would to a trusted and well-meaning confidant.
Because He has assured us, that as we remember Him, He will
remember us even more.
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Chapter Twenty One
From Broken To Whole: Reaching Full Circle
While in prison, he shared the cell with two other men. Both of
them knew that Joseph had this amazing ability to interpret dreams.
So they asked him if he could help them in this matter. Of course he
gladly agreed to help. When one of the two men was finally released,
Yusuf kindly asked if he could return the favour by asking the king to
release him. But Allah says in the Quran that the devil caused the
man to forget all about him. And as a result of that, Joseph had to
stay in prison for several more years according to some Tafseer
scholars.
Friends, I know that there are certain people who can get really
comfortable for the wrong reasons. Some people can get
comfortable with unforgiveness and vengeance. But let’s not be like
them. Let’s not stoop so low and go to their level.
Let go, let God, and surrender all your broken pieces to Him,
one prayer at a time.
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About The Author
Mizi Wahid
Muhammad Tarmizi Bin Abdul Wahid is the
CEO of Safinah Institute, an Islamic education
centre which was started in Singapore in 2009.
It conducts Islamic courses in English for all
age groups engaging the students with questions, sharings and discussions.
Safinah also conducts camps for teens and children as well as spiritual
retreats for adults on a regular basis which are led by Tarmizi.
His passion in life is to inspire people through the words of the Quran and
Sunnah via his talks and writings. He enjoys traveling and spending quality
time with his family. He resides in the North-Eastern side of sunny
Singapore with wife, Fadhilah. They are blessed with four beautiful
children.
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This book is written with the sole intention to inspire Muslims to have
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the supplications they make to Him. This book hopes to deliver
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heaven’s doors but have yet to get a response or have been
disappointed with the answers they have received so far.
In this book, he explores the concept of love and its impact on our
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