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Prof. Mary O. Esere
Faculty of Education, The Nigerian Baptist
Theological Seminary Ogbomoso
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Eboseta Rejoice, Paul
20/0304
MCE 1
MAY, 2021
Table of Contents
Introduction
Conclusion
Introduction
Youths are the future of a society, community, family, religion among others depending in the
context in which they are found. Youths are the generation that will inherit their country. They
general. The rate at which social malaise is increasing in the country with each passing day is
alarming. Offensive behavior committed by youths, either small or otherwise, are exposed each
day. It illustrates just how serious the phenomena is and necessary steps need to be taken to curb
further deterioration. The deteriorating moral standard among the young is indeed rather
puzzling. Premarital sex is one of the current issues that is trending in Christian education and is
The rate at which contemporary youths especially Christian youths engage in various
forms of premarital sex is alarming. They engage in this despicable act at home, school and even
at youth conferences/youth fellowship. Premarital sex has been an important topical issue that
has been researched by various researchers in an attempt to discover the outcome of it in various
contexts especially educational context such as secondary and tertiary institutions and how it
affects the holistic being of these students. Various questions were raised. Does school, and the
church as educational institutions, fail to address this problem? How about parents and families?
How does this kind of behavior come about? In the light of this, this paper seeks to examine pre-
Concept of Youth
period of transition from childhood to adulthood. At this stage they are confused, they are neither
children nor matured adult. They tend to create their world coming up with their own identity
and it is in this process they carve out their own culture to distinct themselves from the adults.
Period of youth is the most crucial period in the life of human beings and is the stage where life
reaches its peak (Nwankwo, 2001:15). The youth is eager to learn new experiences, find new
relationships, examine resources of inner strength and fathom the strength of inner ability. This is
a period of storm that most youths find it difficult to cope with the major decisions making that
would need the parental or adult guidance. Youths is a great time of great change and period of
significant growth on many levels: physical, psychological, social and spiritual (Rew, 2005:20).
At this stage, youths become more autonomous in their decisions, emotions and actions, and start
Pre-marital sex has been defined in variety of ways by different scholars. Stephen and Stephen
(2016:79) submit that pre-marital sex is sexual activity practiced by persons who are unmarried.
Adegboyega and Omotosho (2017:9) opine that pre-marital sex is sexual intercourse engaged in
by persons who are not married to each other. Similarly, Mashau (2011:3) explicates that pre-
marital sex is a term commonly used for individuals presumed not be of marriageable age, or
between adults presumed to marry eventually, but are engaging in sexual practices prior marital
consummation. Pre-marital sex in a lay man language is sex before marriage and it is commonly
found among youths. It is expressed among the youths in through fornication, rape, defilement
and incest, masturbation, oral sex etc. Put succinctly, pre-marital sex is engaging in sexual
Furthermore, quite a number of the youths who engaged in pre-marital sex resort into
cohabitation, giving them an avenue to gratify their sexual desires without obstruction or
interruption. Cohabitation is commonly used to define the relationship between unmarried
couples who live together as husband and wife (De Bruyn 1993:156). While some youths utilize
this style of living to satisfy their sexual desires and accessibility to sex, others use it as a testing
ground for marriage. Based on the above definition, Mashau agrees that cohabitation is more a
testing ground for marriage or a step on the way to marriage, much like dating and engagement
(2011:2). Schwellnus (1994:4) sees cohabitation as a situation in which two people live together
Schwellnus stressed that the content of a cohabitational relationship entails consensual premarital
sex between the supposed “couple” and a sense of responsibility towards each other (1994:1-2).
Some youths use cohabitation as a stepping stone to marriage, while others prefer to cohabit for
as long as they live (Manning et al. 2007:559). Collins (2007:338) corroborate that cohabitation
is an unmarried male and female living together with full sexual relationships. This practice is so
widespread and usually found among university students. Many of them no longer see sex as
something that is wrong or right; they view sex as a pleasurable way for two people to interact
This negative culture of the youth is not a behaviour that arose overnight, but an accumulated
behavioural pattern that could be attributed to certain factors such as, the home (neglect and or
poor parenting; the effect of globalization arising from wrong values’ exportation and
importation; a reflection of the high rate of moral decadence in the larger society, peer pressure
and the desire to belong as well as fading values and the nature of man. Each of these points is
sex among the youths. According to Stephen & Stephen (2016:81) family factors such as the
relationship between the parents and youths in the area of care and protection, single parents,
monogamy, and polygamy and the parenting style cannot be ignored in the study of premarital
sex. There is a saying that “charity begins at home.” Every child in the community whether
good or bad as home as well as parents. The home environment greatly influence the
development of children. The home is believed to be the child’s first window to the outside
world. According to Whitehurst (2004:50) “parents are the most important people in their
children’s lives.” Parents are the first set of people a child get to know as he/she grows in life
and they play a significant role in their lives. What parents do with the child at this level in
terms of training and orientation go a long way to determining what the child becomes
tomorrow. It is from the parents that the child learns about values, beliefs and other forms of
acceptable behaviour. The question is, how many parents are really available for their children?
How many parents are model of good examples? How many of them give good attention to their
children even when they are available? Unfortunately, many parents have failed in this regard,
having little or no time for their being preoccupy with their careers or businesses
be the first socializing agents a child comes in contact with in life. The kind of family a child
found himself determine and define what the child will ultimately turned out to become as he
grows. (Stephen and Stephen, 81). Terhile and Aondoana (2014:30) affirm that children are
kept incommunicado as a result of the perpetual and prolonged absence of either or both
parents from home for business and other engagements.” As a result, children are left to
themselves to make their choices or at best are left under the tutelage of nannies. The writer
has seen a scenario where children left in care of friends and neigbours were exposed to
pornography movies. Afterwards, unknowingly to the parents, these children, a brother and
two sisters from same parents began to practice sex. Before long, the boy who was age sixteen
(16) had successfully impregnate one of his sisters, age fourteen (14). The Bible enjoin
parents in Proverbs 22:6 to train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he
This refers to the home environment and family atmosphere in which these youths are raised.
Some children are raised in a hostile and violent environments while others are nurtured in
blissful environment with love, care, compassion and understanding. Children raised in an
homes, all that the children can see are hatred, quarrel, bitterness, hostility, violence,
competition and pains. They accept misdemeanor as a way of life and careless unleashing the
same behaviour on the weaker ones (Ikediashi and Akande, 2015). The valued goals for a
child are the feeling of being loved and supported. This is their expectation from parent.
of parental love and affection, divorce and different forms of deprivations could lead to
negative behaviours. Most couples who find it difficult to resolve their conflict resort to
divorce. Once the parents are divorced, the children either live with the mother or father
resorting to single parenting. According to Carlson (2012), “parents directly affect family
structure. Divorces are a large transition and they cause adolescents to experience a low level
of parental attachment and supervision, thus leading towards negative behaviour.” Once a
divorce is finalized, a child will then move to living in a single parent-home. Single-parent
living environments tend to reduce social control and lead to an increase in delinquency. In
addition, youths from polygamous background tend to be maladaptive than those from
monogamous background. Youths from broken homes also exhibit negative behaviour
especially when both parents are separated and cannot reinforce and motivate these youths.
Poverty or economic depravity has also been connected with premarital sexual practice among
contemporary Christian youths. Premarital sexual practice has also been attributed to poverty
arising from low socio-economic status of parents. Some youths are nurtured in a state of abject
poverty while some others are brought up in affluent conditions. For those brought up in later
condition, life is good and there is no need to do anything that can endanger their lives. For those
brought up in the former condition, the reverse is the case as they have to struggle for survival
(Ikediashi & Akande, 2015). The writer disagree with this claim because there are cases of
youths engaging in premarital sex despite being born and raised with silver spoon in their
mouths. Some of them live as “big boys or big girls” on the University campuses. In most cases,
they reside in big apartment in the town where they cohabit with their sex partners.
The quest for high social status and material goods have made several of present day
Christian youths to resort to pre-marital sex in tertiary institutions. University students, most
especially the female ones trade their bodies to satisfy their needs and put a false status,
pretending to be from rich families. Stephen and Stephen agreed with Ankomah that some
females engaged in premarital sexual relationships ostensibly for financial reward which is
sequence to inability of parents to satisfy their basic needs such as paying of tuition fees
(2016:81) Nwankwo (2003: 25) also argue that “children born into impoverished environments
may take to unacceptable social behaviour as survival strategy.” Youths from poor homes are
usually deprived of some basic needs of life. The fact that poor parents may not be able to satisfy
all their needs, the children may take to other means such as premarital sex and the likes to
Peer pressure is another factor that influences today’s youth sexual behavior. Youths get
involved in unruly behaviours and lifestyles and become very difficult to tame when they
refuse to accept parent’s values and models and instead shift all of a sudden to conform to the
standards and patterns of the peer groups they belong. A youth who belong to a peer group
pilfering, cultism, rape, prostitution and violence is most likely to imbibe these attitudes
(Ikediashi & Akande 2015). Sometimes, youths follow the dictates of their peers. This is
described as ‘peer uniformity’ that is they want to conform to the group’s ‘norms’ because
they want to belong. Hammers and Bangers note that sexual practices among contemporary
youths is as a result of pressure from society and their peers (2010:290). Some of these youths
engage in premarital sex in order to avoid being laughed at and to receive affirmation from
their peers (Mashau, 2011:3). This to some extent, has contributed to the menace of this
It is no doubt that media has great influence on today’s youth and is doing much havoc on
them. The young ones now live in a world that with the click of a button can connect to
Facebook, Twitter, check apps for latest about their favourite celebrities with the goal of
imitating, their dress patterns, accessories and also behave as they do without considering the
consequences (Ayandokun, 2013, 160). Mashau observed that young people are often hooked
by sexual images that they are exposed to as they surf the internet (2011:4). The youths of
today are greatly influence by what they watch from films (Home videos) and certain
presentations by the social media. Youths many at times have model artists that they love and
copy in all areas of their lives. They follow such very blindly even when the lifestyles of such
people are contrary to what they have learnt either at home or in the church. Ochiagha
(1999:25) observed that youths have greater attraction to view human sexuality films and
related programmes. Some of these youths who watch some of these films usually want to ‘try
Africa as a continent culture is a very rich in culture and blessed in diverse ways so much that
she is admired by people of the western world. It is unfortunate that Africa has traded off her
culture in exchange of western culture instead of being proud of it and preserving for posterity.
prior to advent of Christianity, especially in the southwestern Nigeria, sex was considered sacred
and was majorly within the context of marriage between adult males and females. However,
present day Christian youths engage in various maladaptive behaviour such smoking,
alcoholism, and premarital sexual activities (Alo 2008). It is rather sad that most cherished
African values are fading away due to non-patronage and modernization. Most of the
contemporary youths can hardly tell what these values are. For, instance, the honor and dignity in
virginity is gradually fading away. Today, most youths termed virginity has “old fashion or old
school.”
The situation is that bad such that young girls who are chaste and still maintain their
virginity hide it from friends for an avoidance of mockery. The writer presume that some of
these youths who engage in premarital sex see it as a norm because they do not want to be left
out of what is in vogue and be referred to as “old school.” Some of them especially the male are
even applauded by their parents saying “This is a proof that my boy is a man” The fact that they
are cheered by their peers when they engage in premarital sex further encourages them the more.
The question here is, how can these youths be different when the society has no good moral
ignorant of the consequences attached to such actions and those who are informed of the
consequences seem to ignore it. Some of the consequences of engaging in premarital sex include:
Unwanted and Unplanned pregnancy: on many occasions, most of the sexual activities among
Christian youths have resulted to unplanned pregnancy. Chitamun and Finchilesu observed that
many girls fall into unplanned pregnancy due to involvement in premarital sex (2003:154).
Studies revealed that female youths who got impregnated through premarital sex resort to
abortion in bit to conceal their maladaptive act in order to avoid embarrassment Stephen and
Stephen (2016:82). The sad thing is that, abortion has sent some these young girls to early grave,
thereby terminating their glorious destiny. There are also report of females whose womb were
damaged due to unsuccessful abortion and has made the victim childless at later years. This act
according to Dike (2000:92) is mostly common with females while male co-pilot the affair.
Unplanned pregnancy has also made those involved to dump babies on the street, dung hill and
even in septic tank. It is that bad. While some of these babies are fortunate to be seen by good
Samaritans who pick them up and handed them over to orphanage homes for nurturing, the rest
are left to suffocate unto death. Unwanted pregnancy has terminated the education of some
Christian youths who practice sex outside marriage are greatly depressed, even though it is not
written boldly on their face. It is only a friendly communication with them that will reveal it.
Abdullahi and Umar (2013:13) in their research revealed that engaging in premarital sex does
lead to depression. Female who offered their body in exchange for money suffered depression
because in some cases they are treated like animal while their male counterpart claimed engaging
in premarital sex makes one grow older than their age. They go as far as sleeping with snakes
and other animals for ritual purposes which ultimately make them infertile. All of these
culminate to depression
The act of engaging in premarital sex often time causes emotional breakdown among
contemporary Christian youths. Mashau emphasize that premarital sex destroy relationship.
Often time, those involved become miserable and disillusioned with life. On several occasions,
girls are the most frequent victims. Several of such girls had resorted to suicide, when their so-
called “lover” abandoned them for other girl. In most cases, young people do not know how to
cope in such situations. They see their world crumbling before their very eyes and are helpless
Fear and guilt in the life of those engaged in this despicable act resort to depression and can also
lead to suicide. guilt as noted by Abdullahi and Umar is a form of regret, a feeling that a person
has gone against his or her conscience or has done something morally wrong Studies also
revealed that sex deviant acts can lead to regrets. Stephen and Stephen opines that in as much as
a sexual act can be pleasurable, it leads to regret (13). Several of these Christian youths who
actively engaged in all sorts of premarital sex while in school lived with guilt and regret later in
life. For some, their past haunt them even after being married, linking every marital problem to
Sexually Transmitted disease: Premarital sex poses a lot of health challenge to its victims. Quite
a number of Christian youths have been victim of sexually transmitted diseases due to sex
outside marriage. Stephen and Stephen observed that students who engage in premarital sex run
the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STI) such as AIDs HIV, Chlamydia,
Gonorrhea, Genital herpes, general Warts, Trichomoniasis, syphilis among others. These
diseases are life- threatening, painful and could lead to infertility (2016:82)
Victims to Ritualists: the act of engaging in premarital sex has made some youth victim of
ritualists. Most university students, especially the females have often be victim of ritualists. In a
bit to live “big” on the campus, greed and lack of contentment, these female students easily jump
at any offer thrown at them. Unknown to several of these young girls, they get carried away with
the laudable offer of money, date, shopping etc. which is used as a bait and are caught in the net
of no return. Research revealed that those who engaged in premarital sex become easy targets for
ritual activities. Most people who were looking for human parts for ritual purposes give huge
amounts of money to greedy and materialistic students which perhaps make them lose their body
Wrath of God: premarital sex is against biblical injunction and as result attract the wrath of God.
Mashau asserts that those who engage in sex outside marriage act against the will of God and are
thereby inviting the wrath of God into their lives (2011:4). Jesus declares “Look I am coming
soon! My reward is with me and I will give each person according to what they have done.
Outside are the dogs, those who practice magic arts, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the
idolaters and everyone who loves and practices falsehoods” (Revelation 22:12 &15NIV). Also,
Hebrews 13:4 corroborates that “marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept
pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” It is true God is a merciful
God, it should be noted that he is also a God of Judgement. The book of Hebrew 12:29 says “Our
God is a consuming fire.” He is just and will never reduce his standard for anyone
Sexuality should be is seen as part of the human beauties (Wolters 1990:12). Mashau observed
that human sexuality is very complex and it is more than just sex. It affects marriage, family,
society and all that human kind is called to do (2011:5). Although sex originate from God and
meant to be enjoyed but must be practiced within the context of marriage. God design sex for
marriage, and it is meant to take place between a husband and his wife. According to God’s plan
when sex is experienced within the context of marriage, the pleasure is maximized. Biblical
injunction posit that sex is strictly reserved for married couples, that is, matured adult male and
female and not for two unmarried, young, immature male and female that are not prepared for
marital obligations. Also, it should be noted that sex was never designed to be practiced between
two male and two female. Mashau further explicates that God’s blue print for marriage is well
summed up in Genesis 2:24 indicating marriage as an institution with three pillars- leave, cleave
and oneness. Mashau also note that it is only after Adam and Eve were joined together in
marriage that God blessed them and permitted them to have sex and muiltiply.
Although, the word premarital sex is not out rightly mentioned in the Bible, several
scriptures posit that God frowns at sex outside marriage and engaging in it attracts God’s
2. Ephesians 5:3 says, “But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among
you, as is proper among saints.”
3. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is
outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”
4. 1 Corinthians 7:2 says, “because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have
his own wife and each woman her own husband.”
5. Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators
and adulterers God will judge.”
6. Acts 15:20 says, “But should write to them to abstain from the things polluted by idols, and
from sexual immorality, and from what has been strangled, and from the blood.”
7. Colossians 3:5 says, “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality,
impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”
The Bible enjoins Christian to honour God in their body which are God’s (1 Cor. 10:31).
Therefore, Christians should honour God in whatever choice they make in life including sexual
choices. Mashau affirms that the Bible condemns fornication, adultery, homosexuality,
lesbianism, incest and the defilement of one’s marriage vows by engaging in any of the
There is the need to promote Christian education in the various institution that are concerned.
The home, church and schools are saddled with the task of Christian education. Christian
education has not enjoyed the full attention it deserved nor has it been carried out to its fullest
potential in the Baptist Convention and the church of Jesus Christ in general. It is established that
Christian education is a means of handing on the Christian faith from person to person and from
one generation to another (Deut. 6:4-9). As a Christian educator, this writer will utilize the
knowledge gathered in the course of this seminar to promote the educational ministry of the
The home, church and school are like a tripod stool that need one another to function
maximally. If one leg were accidentally broken, the seat becomes uncomfortable and unstable.
This concept of the three legged stool can be applied to Christian education, with the home, the
church and the school representing each leg of the stool. If the home, church, and school will
assume their responsibility as required, the child will develop holistically, see the world better
Youths are in great need of proper education, if they must fulfil the purpose of God and
be relevant in the world. Every attempt to exalt intellectual culture above moral training is
already misdirected. Many times this writer wonder and ask “Which of these institutions has the
first responsibility of training the child? The home, of course because the family circle is the first
school in which the child receives its first and most enduring lessons. Hence, parents should be
much at home. By precept and example, they should teach their children the love and the fear of
God. They are to teach them to be intelligent, social and affectionate, to cultivate habits of
Parents will be providing the children, a safe environment and a welcome retreat from
many of the world’s temptation when they are shown love, sympathy, and encouraged. Solomon
admonished in Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go and when He grows, he
will not depart from it.” Today, most parents invest more on the intellectual development of their
children and pay little or no attention to their spiritual wellbeing. The home is not expected to
leave the spiritual nurture of their wards to the church and school alone. The salvation of the
child is never the responsibility of the school, but that of the parents. Some persons learned in
family settings. Timothy was influenced by both his grandmother, Lois and His mother, Eunice
The church involvement in ministry to the children and young ones should be improved
upon. Aside, making provision for the physical and financial resources for the ministry, they
should invest and monitor the spiritual growth of the young ones. The church should provide a
good and conducive teaching environment that will attract the young ones Today’s youths are
faced with diverse challenges and experiencing more battle going on in their minds as they
decide on what to do with numerous choices all around them. The only safety for them in this
age of sin and crime is to have a living connection with God. Therefore, the church should
Also, the church should train and equip leaders/workers who will be to effectively teach
the young ones with godly examples. The youth should be taught and encouraged in the word of
God. They should be educated to venerate the counsels of God in His holy oracles. They should
be well instructed that they will develop a strong will against evil and determine they will not
enter into any path where Jesus will not accompany them. The church should organise forum or
workshops through the educational ministry to teach and educate young ones on premarital
relationships and the position of God on premarital sex. Again, the church should encourage
parents to give their children quality home upbringing. This should not just be a teaching a set of
rules or morals but making a commitment to make each child know Jesus Christ intimately as
In addition, parent should be charged to teach their children God’s expectation from them
in every situation of life using the Bible as manuals, praying and counseling them regularly
either when at home or even when they are away in the school. It is of noteworthy for parents to
walk the talk by also practicing what they teach their children because they are greatly
parents with the needed parenting skills that can equip parents in the training and teaching of
Furthermore, the Christian schools are meant to be educating and training schools. As the
young ones are being trained, they should be exposed to practical godliness that will make them
fit for any place of usefulness in our world, or in the church and in any field they may be called
to serve. If students have been taught Christian principles and the word of God has been
respected in their homes and God’s teaching have been made the law of the home by wise and
God-fearing parents, when they get to school the same education will continue.
Conclusion
This paper discussed premarital sex among contemporary Christian youths in Nigeria. Pre-
marital sex is fast becoming the norm and lifestyle of most of the young ones in the Nigeria
society. It is very unfortunate that this despicable acts is not known with children of the unchurch
parents but equally has become a common phenomenal among Christian families, clergy
inclusive. Therefore, necessary measures must be put in place to forestall this social malaise
among Christian youths. It is pertinent for parents, adults, youth leaders and those who deal with
youths to understand youths and their developmental traits. A knowledge of this will help them
know the probable causes of deviant behaviour traits in youths and this will guide in knowing the
necessary measures to take in either preventing or handling them. This paper also discussed
concept of premarital sex, factors promoting and consequences of premarital sex among
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