Cannons 1. Be Smarter than Your Phone No matter how good you are at multitasking, we ask you to put away your phone, and all that jazz, We wil take a break and you can send a quick text snap, Point. Ifyou are expecting a phone call you cannot miss we will not judg 2. Questions, Questions, Questions resist from texting tweet, insta, etc. at that el Please feel free to ask questions at any time throughout this training. Unless someone is imid-sentence, itis aways an appropriate time to ask questions Even ifit isn't relevant tothe topic, throw it out there ~ get it off your mind and on to ours, 3. Vegas Rule Slightly modified! So during the training someone may share something really personal, may ask a Question, may say something that they wouldn't want attached to their name outside this space, So ‘remember that what is said here stays here and what is learned here leaves here. You're welcome to share anything that we say in this space with others and attach it to our name but we respectfully request that you take away the message from others’ shares and not their names, 4. LOL We really appreciate iti, at some point, yall could laugh This training is going to be fun, and well do ‘our best to keep it upbeat, so just know... it's ok to laugh! Laughter indicates that you're awake, that you're paying attention, and that we haven't killed your soul, So yeah... go ahead and do that! 5. Share the Airtime If you are someone who participates often and is really comfortable talking - awesome! Do it. Also we ask that you try to remain aware of your participation and after you've shared a few times to leave space for other people to also put their ideas out there. If you usually wait to share... jump in! 6. Reserve the Right to Change Your Mind If you say something and then later disagree with yourself, that is a-okay! This isa safe space to say something and then later feel differently and change your mind. We even encourage it. Asa wise Safe Zone participant once said, “Stop, rewind, I changed my mind.” www. TheSafeZoneProject.com 3 a.stions to the best of your ability: y, bisexual, oF ‘Answer the following que you can remember learning that some people are lesbian. 62) shen the st time Rison Saniora 778% oyiadle pressions/understanding of lesbian, gay. bisexual 2, where did most ofthe influence of your tia im : nee cote come ro (eg. mi ends, telelon Books oma Ar ends a fy Hees (Haye wert aged RxPHient Pikading, chun oll Guwily amily frierds eommunity ember learning that some people ae transgender? 3. When's the fist time you can rem Provably high, shoo! was fist F learned of prenabence at your ial impressions/understanding of transgender people Sn, books, news, church) 505. A lot of come from impressions Shows 14, Where did most of the influence come from? 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Many ofthese differen places on the continuum have their own identity labels (see demisexual). Sometimes abbreviated to “ace.” fed to refer to the chromosomal, hormonal and anatomical individual as female or male or intersex. Often referred to “sex assigned at birth.” biological sex - noun: a medical term us characteristics that are used to classify an as simply “sex,” ‘physical sex,” “anatomical sex," or specifically as \biphobla- noun: avangeot negative atttudes @g, fear, anger intolerance, invisibility, resentment, “erasure, or discomfort) that one may have or express Biphobia can come from and be seen within the LGBTQ community as well as straight society. biphobic - ad): word ised to describe actions, behaviors, or individuals who demonstrate elements of this range of negative atitudes toward bisexual people. bisexual - 1 noun & ad): a person who experiences attraction to some men and women. 2 adj.:a person who experiences attraction to some people of their gender ‘and another gender. Bisexual attraction does not have to be equally split, or indicate a level of interest that is the same across the genders an individual may be attracted to. 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Gotell everyone, bragging about your “new trans friend, ZZ 3.Forget that they are the person you knew, befriended, or loved before Ss © 4Ask probing ques or cross personal barriers you wouldn't have cro: 5. Assume you know why they came out to you. earlier 1. Know this is a sign of huge trust! (Yay!) <5 2 Checkin on how confidential this is (Do other people know? Is this a secret?) $3. Remember that their gender/sexuality is just one dimension (of many) of them. 4. Show interest and curiosity about this part of them that they are sharing with you 5. Ask them how you can best support them. 2 w.TheSafe ject.con goPlease answer honestly :) What is one thing that you learned from the training today? What did you enjoy about today’s training? F aaa mot pbonr Aitkrenr Zorn walepn bye dilfeynt- ides, (aka Non _for Sel ate expres ae vegan ates Wr prop ask queskons to tage ped ee el Vow alts are f What could be improved for the next time this training is faciitated? 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Cvtat rainy | eWebsites, reading lists, recommended orgs, and more at szp.quide Full List of Vocab Terms: szp.guide Websites for Learning More ‘Asexual Visibility and Education Network — wwnw.asexuality.org © Biserual.org — wwurbisexual. org Everyday Feminism — wwww.everydayfeminism,com © Get Real — www.getrealeducation.org «It's Pronounced Metrosexual — wwnitspron 1 salacious — httpsi//salaciousmagazine.com © Soul Force ~ www,soulforce.org TransWhat? — wnw.transwhat.org © We Are The Youth — winw.wearetheyouth.org, Organizations Doing Good . © GLAAD — wwnu.glaad org — Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation © GLSEN —yrwwglsen.org — Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network «Family Acceptance Project — hitps://familyproject sfsu.edu/ # ItGets Better Project — wwwitgetsbetter.org National Gay and Lesbian Task Force — wwaw.thetaskforce.org The "Not All Like That” (NALT) Project — http://notalllikethat.org The Religious Institute — httov/ jousinsti PFLAG — woww.pflag.org — "Parents, Families, Friends, and Allies United with LGBT People’ ‘Transgender Law Center — wwww,transgenderlawcenter.org ‘The Trevor Project — www.thetrevorproject.org Want even more Resources? 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