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7 Habits of Highly Effective People SUMMARY
7 Habits of Highly Effective People SUMMARY
3 Sentence Summary
“Leadership is communicating others’ worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves.”
Stephen Covey’s timeless book on how to live a life rooted in principles will challenge you to think and act in service
of others. More than just a guide on how to be effective, this book will become an instant companion for personal
reflection in any stage of life.
5 Key Takeaways
1. It’s possible to disagree and both be right. Everybody views the world through their own unique paradigm.
2. Be proactive. Between stimulus and response, we have the ability to choose.
3. Private victories precede public victories. Self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundation of good
relationships with others.
4. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. This requires learning how to listen.
5. Effective living requires a balance between producing results and maintaining production capacity (the
golden egg and the goose).
Table of Contents
1. Inside-Out
2. The Seven Habits – An Overview
3. Habit #1. Be Proactive
4. Habit #2. Begin With The End In Mind
5. Habit #3. Put First Things First
6. Paradigms of Interdependence
7. Habit #4. Think Win/Win
8. Habit #5. Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood
9. Habit #6. Synergize
10. Habit #7. Sharpen The Saw
Inside-Out
WHAT DO YOU SEE? A BEAUTIFUL YOUNG WOMAN WITH A NECKLACE? OR, AN OLD WOMAN WITH A BIG NOSE AND A SHAWL? P. 25
Principle-Centered Paradigm
There exist principles that govern human effectiveness.
Principles are deep, fundamental truths that have universal application.
Principles are not values. A gang of thieves can share values, but they are in violation of fundamental
principles.
Principles are the territory. Values are maps.
When we value correct principles, we have truth – a knowledge of things as they are.
Principles are guidelines for human conduct that are proven to have enduring, permanent value.
Effectiveness Defined
Effectiveness lies in the balance of producing the desired results and maintaining production capability (P/PC
balance).
Effectiveness is balancing the golden egg (production) with the health and welfare of the goose (production
capability).
It balances short-term with long-term.
Habit #1. Be Proactive: Principles of Personal Vision
PROACTIVE MODEL
COVEY, S. (1989) THE 7
HABITS OF HIGHLY
EFFECTIVE PEOPLE. NEW
YORK: SIMON AND
SCHUSTER. P. 71
Taking Initiative
Initiative means recognizing our responsibility to make things happen.
The difference between people who take initiative and those who don’t is literally the difference between
night and day. +5000% difference in effectiveness.
Act, or be acted upon.
Combine creativity and resourcefulness to be proactive.
Proactive is NOT pushy, aggressive or insensitive. Proactive people are smart, value driven, they read reality,
and they know what’s needed.
If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control – myself.
REACTIVE PEOPLE FOCUS ON THINGS THAT THEY CAN DO NOTHING ABOUT. THEIR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE SHRINKS AS A RESULT. P. 84
Applying Proactivity
1. Listen to your language and that of those around you. Record how often you hear reactive phrases such as
“If only,” “I can’t,” or “I have to.”
2. Identify an experience you might encounter in the near future where, based on past experience, you would
probably behave reactively. Review the situation in the context of your Circle of Influence. How could you
respond proactively?
3. Select a problem from your work or personal life that is frustrating to you. Determine whether it is a direct,
indirect, or no control problem. Identify the first step you can take in your Circle of Influence to solve it and
then take that step.
4. Try the above suggestions for 30 days. Then note the change in your Circle of Influence.
Habit #2. Begin With the End In Mind: Principles of Personal Leadership
Begin today with the image, picture, or paradigm of the end of your life as your frame of reference or the
criterion by which everything else is examined.
By keeping that end clearly in mind, you can make certain that whatever you do on any particular day does
not violate the criteria you have defined as supremely important.
To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination.
We may be very busy, and we may be very efficient, but we will only be truly effective when we begin with
the end in mind.
All things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation.
Almost all world-class athletes and other peak performers are visualizers. They see it; they feel it; they
experience it before they actually do it.
P. 151
Urgent matters are usually visible and require our immediate attention.
Important matters have to do with results. Important matters that are not urgent require more initiative and
proactivity.
Quadrant I consume many people.
Effective people stay out of Quadrants III and IV because they’re not important.
Quadrant II is the heart of effective personal management.
Effective people are not problem-minded; they’re opportunity-minded.
QUADRANT 1QUADRANT II
Quadrant II Organizer
A Quadrant II organizer will need to meet six important criteria:
1. Coherence: Between your mission statement, roles and goals, and priorities.
2. Balance: Across all of your roles and responsibilities.
3. Quadrant II Focus: You need a tool that encourages you to focus on Quadrant II. This is best accomplished by
organizing your life on a weekly basis. The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your
priorities.
4. A “People” Dimension: Deal with people, not just schedules. Be effective, not just efficient.
5. Flexibility: Your planning tools should be your servant, never your master.
6. Portability: You should be able to carry it with you most of the time.
Delegation
We accomplish all that we do through delegation.
Delegate to time = efficiency
Delegate to people = effectiveness
Effectively delegating to others is perhaps the single most powerful high-leverage activity there is.
A manager achieves much higher leverage than an individual producer through effective delegation.
Gofer delegation = Do this and tell me when it’s done. Focuses on micro-managing how it’s done. This is
ineffective.
Stewardship delegation = Focused on results instead of methods. Let the other person choose their method,
but gives them ownership over the results. Much more effective.
5 AREAS OF EXPECTATIONS
1. Desired Results: Create a clear, mutual understanding of what needs to be accomplished, focusing
on what, not how; results, not methods.
2. Guidelines: Identify the parameters within which the individual should operate. As few as possible, but
include any formidable restrictions.
3. Resources: Identify the human, financial, technical, or organizational resources the person can use to
accomplish the desired result.
4. Accountability: Set up the standards of performance that will be used in evaluating the results and the
specific times when reporting and evaluation will take place.
5. Consequences: Specify what will happen, both good and bad, as a result of the evaluation.
Paradigms of Interdependence
Self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundation of good relationships with others.
You need to invest more than you withdraw from the “Emotional Bank Account” to have productive
relationships. This is even more important with people you interact with more frequently than others.
Character
1. Integrity: Built using Habits 1, 2, and 3. We need integrity to know what constitutes a Win.
2. Maturity: The balance between courage and consideration.
3. Abundance Mentality: There is plenty out there for everybody. It results in sharing of prestige, of
recognition, of profits, of decision making.
Relationships
Focus on your Circle of Influence and make deposits into the Emotional Bank Account through genuine
courtesy, respect, and appreciation.
An agreement means very little in letter without the character and relationship base to sustain it in spirit.
Investing in the relationship makes Win/Win possible.
Agreements
Partnership agreements shift the paradigm from positioning to being partners in success.
Five explicit elements:
1. Desired results (not methods)
2. Guidelines
3. Resources
4. Accountability
5. Consequences
It is much more ennobling to the human spirit to let people judge themselves than to judge them.
Systems
You cannot talk Win/Win but reward Win/Lose in your organization.
The reward system must align with Win/Win goals and values.
Cooperation in the workplace is as important to free enterprise as competition in the marketplace.
The spirit of Win/Win cannot survive in an environment of competition and contests.
The training system, the planning system, the communication system, the budgeting system, the information
system, the compensation system – all have to be based on the principle of Win/Win.
So often the problem is in the system, not in the people.
Processes
1. See the problem from the other point of view. Really seek to understand and to give expression to the needs
and concerns of the other party as well as or better than they can themselves.
2. Identify the key issues and concerns (not positions) involved.
3. Determine what results would constitute a fully acceptable solution.
4. Identify possible new options to achieve those results.
Why Win-Win?
Many people think in terms of either/or: either you’re nice or you’re tough. Win-win requires that you be both. It is a
balancing act between courage and consideration.
There are three vital character traits that are essential to this paradigm:
Empathic Listening
Listen with the intent to understand, not with the intent to reply.
We all just want to be understood.
10% of our communication is represented by the words we say, 30% by our sounds, and 60% by our body
language.
Empathic listening is listening with more than just your ears, but your eyes and your heart as well.
Empathic listening is so powerful because it gives you accurate data to work with.
Satisfied needs do not motivate. Only unsatisfied needs motivate. Apart from physical survival, the greatest
human need is psychological survival – to be understood and affirmed.
Empathic listening is risky. In order to have influence, you have to be influenced.
Be Understood
Win/Win requires consideration (listening) and courage (being understood).
Use ethos (integrity/competency), pathos (feelings), and logos (logic), in that order, to create compelling
presentations.
You cannot go straight to the logical side of your argument without first addressing pathos and ethos.
An effective presentation empathizes with the audience. You need to first get inside their head and describe
the alternative he is in favor of better than he can himself.
When you can present your own ideas clearly, specifically, visually, and most important, contextually – in
the context of a deep understanding of their paradigms and concerns – you significantly increase the
credibility of your ideas.
P. 270
The very strength of the relationship is in having another point of view.
Sameness is not oneness; uniformity is not unity. Unity, or oneness, is complementariness, not sameness.
Sameness is uncreative… and boring.
The essence of synergy is to value the differences. The mental, emotional, and psychological differences between
people.
The key to valuing those differences is to realize that all people see the world, not as it is, but as they are.
The person who is truly effective has the humility and reverence to recognize his own perceptual limitations
and to appreciate the rich resources available through interaction with the hearts and minds of other human
beings.
Unless we value the differences in our perceptions, unless we value each other and give credence to the
possibility that we’re both right, that life is not always a dichotomous either/or, that there are almost always
third alternatives, we will never be able to transcend the limits of that conditioning.
Synergy works. It is the crowning achievement of all the previous habits. It is teamwork, team building, the
development of unity and creativity with other human beings.
When someone disagrees with you, you can say, “Good! You see it differently.” You don’t have to agree with
them; you can simply affirm them. And you can seek to understand.
Habit 7 is personal PC. It’s preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have – you.
“Sharpen the saw” basically means exercising all four dimensions of our nature, regularly and consistently in
wise and balanced ways.
To neglect any one area negatively impacts the rest.
We must be proactive about it. Sharpening the saw is a Quadrant II activity.
This is true for organizations just as much as it is for individuals. You need balance across economics, talent
development, human relations, and purpose.
I consider the abundance mentality one trait that has been easier for me to handle and use, especially in my work
relationships. For example, I always have been willing to teach and support new work team members, not just train
them but also share my tools, materials, and strategies. It makes me happy to see their progress and achievements.
However, maturity is an aspect that I still need to develop and implement. Finding that necessary balance between
being kind and brave is hard for me.
On several occasions, I have noticed that when you are too nice, some people want to take advantage of it or put
you down for it. Unfortunately, it has happened to me a couple of times at work. On the other hand, being brave
and expressing my ideas adequately is an art that I must improve because I don't want to offend anyone, but I also
don't want my rights not to be respected.
In the family environment, developing a win-win habit is vital. As a mother of young children, focusing on finding
win-win solutions helps my children feel respected and valued. They can feel that we are a good team, which is
essential to maintain harmony at home and a sense of unity. Win-win habit means agreements or solutions are
mutually beneficial and satisfying. It is not an easy task; it will require a lot of patience and creativity. But as Dr.
Covey states, “In the long run, if it isn’t a win for both of us, we both lose. That’s why win-win is the only real
alternative in interdependent realities.”
Prompt 1: Take some time and reflect on what you remember most about the book and something you wish to
share with someone else (coworker, friend, loved one or child).
I think that the whole book is so wonderful and the principles and habits that Dr. Covey shares are highly important
in order to solving personal and professional problems based on sound and ethical principles. However, habit 6
about Synergize is the habit that stood out for me. Right now I am not working in any company or business, but I do
work on the most important organization, my family. So, when I read that synergize is the habit of creative
cooperation, I immediately connected it with my relationship with my husband. Marriage can become a genuinely
synergistic relationship, creating a combined entity that is more capable, more joyful, and more efficient than either
on its own.
Also, synergy is connected to what the prophets exhort us in The Family: A Proclamation to the World; the sixth
paragraph says “Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their
children.” On the seventh paragraph says “Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on
principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational
activities.” When we love and care for each other we work as a team, with cooperation, unity, and charity. Together,
as a team, we can produce far better results than we could individually.
Reply:
Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood is crucial in order to develop effective interpersonal
communication in all the fields of life. I also believe similar to you about how different and better this world would
be if we all desire to see things from others’ points of view, to see their reasons, and feel what they feel without
judging a person or situation. When we seek to understand others first, we can avoid saying things that on reflection
we shouldn’t have; this good communication would avoid arguments, fights, and even wars.
The book The 7 habit of Highly Effective People teach as how to take initiative, how to balance key priorities,
improve interpersonal communication, leverage creative collaboration and apply principles for achieving a balanced
life.