10 habits that make people dislike you

When people are asked what their biggest fear is one of the most common answers is ending up alone.
No one in their right mind wants that. Being loved by people around us is in keeping with our human
nature and is embedded in our minds and souls as human beings. It doesn’t just feel good to be liked
and respected, it can also make you a more successful person. However, it’s easy to make the wrong
move and drive people away from you. It could be something as small as looking at your watch too often
or being distracted when you aren’t supposed to be. If you think you’ve been pushing people around
you away without even knowing, you’re in the right place. Here are 10 of the most common turn-offs for
people that could make them dislike you. Make sure you don’t miss the last point, the most important
one.

1. Disrespecting boundaries:
If you don’t know where you’re standing in a relationship, it’s easy to cross some lines and make
a wrong move. Nobody likes a person who violates their boundaries in a way. Boundaries can be
related to different aspects of life; from physical, emotional, and financial to the ones related to
time and energy. Let’s say you overshare something with a colleague you are not that close with
and you tell them about the relationship problems you’re having and how frustrating it is, you
call a classmate late at night to ask them a question, you have the habit of patting someone on
the shoulder when you’re talking… No matter which boundary you are overlooking, it makes you
a less likable person. If you think you have any of these habits, try to watch for signals that tell
you you’re making the other person uncomfortable. However, boundaries are not the only thing
you should consider when communicating with others, it’s a good idea to pay attention to some
of their pet peeves, as well.

2. Inappropriate jokes and making fun:

Leaving an obnoxious comment under a social media post, telling an off-color joke, or sharing
rude or repulsive stories are big red flags for most people, especially if it’s them you’re targeting.
There’s a thin line between joking around and trying to be funny and disrespecting a person or
upsetting them with your words. While most people love being around funny people, everyone
avoids the rude and those pulling pranks all the time. So the next time you’re thinking of sharing
a private story about a colleague to make a laugh out of it, mock their behavior, or disrespect a
group of people like women or people of other races, think again. Such behavior sends this
signal to people around you that they could be next in your line of people to disrespect or make
uncomfortable with your jokes. Avoid jokes and stories that can make a situation awkward and
stick to the ones that are safe to tell everyone. This rule doesn’t only apply to people who are
there around you, but also to the ones that are not there physically which leads us to our next
habit.

3. Gossiping:
Yes! Gossiping is fun. No one can deny that. However, deep down, we all know it’s wrong and
frowned upon. Once you do it too often and get yourself a reputation for being a big gossiper
people could find it a bit repellent. By talking behind your mutual friends' backs, you are
indirectly implying that you are better than them, and it makes you look like a snob. But more
 importantly, it makes people self-conscious about themselves. What if you are talking behind
their back when they’re not there? Or what about them makes good gossip? If you’ve been
gossiped about even once, you know that hurts! Therefore, it’s only natural for people to find a
gossiper intolerable, especially a rude one who only attacks certain people.

4. Being polite with some but not others:

Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity, regardless of their job, social status,
gender, and race. Selective respect does not paint a good picture of you and your personality,
especially if you’re being disrespectful to someone who’s giving you services like a bellboy or
waitress at a restaurant. It is just repellent. You could be having a hard time being polite to the
ones you don’t like and the ones you have a problem with. It could put people under the
impression that they have to try hard to gain your respect and save it, watching their behavior
all the time. Try to internalize respect and politeness as a part of your personality rather than a
behavior that you find only certain people worthy of and you will be a much more likable person
to be around. However, being polite is not only about what you do and say when you are with a
person, habits like arriving late all the time can be regarded as impolite, as well.

5. Being late and canceling

imagine you’ve somehow managed to make some time for meeting a person or talking to them
despite a tight schedule, and they decide not to show up, canceling the last minute, or arrive too
late. Then, when they arrive they bombard you with excuses for why they didn’t show up on
time. Excuses we both know are not true and could be easily avoided. How would it make you
feel? While some people might be ok with waiting for someone, others find it extremely
annoying and somehow disrespectful. It could send the wrong message about you; like not
caring about other people’s plans, being disorganized, and having a hard time keeping a
promise. Being punctual on the other hand is a quality that is always praised and appreciated.
Leave home early or set up an alarm for the meetings you have so that you don’t miss them.
Being late might come off as being selfish, but not as much as being the sole speaker in a
conversation and not letting others talk.

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6. Monopolizing the conversation

A good conversation is reciprocal and goes back and forth all the time. After all, what is the
point of having a dialogue if one person is going to be the only one doing all the talking and the
other listening? It is a universally annoying habit. People with this attitude can make it look like
they are the ones with something “important” to talk about and come off as self-centered and
narcissistic. Remember to do your part of actively listening to what the other person is saying
and get involved rather than just chattering about you for a long time. Give other people the
chance to talk and don’t interrupt them with your own stories. It’s not only ‘how long’ you speak
about yourself, but also ‘what’ you are saying about yourself that matters a lot.
7. Bragging
There’s nothing wrong with talking about your achievement when you’ve done something
fantastic and want to share the joy with others. It just gets on everyone’s nerves if that’s all you
can talk about or if you keep doing that just to make people think less of themselves. If you are
looking for making meaningful and deep connections with people, you need to stop making it
look like a competition in which you are outperforming everyone. So don’t be surprised if
everyone starts rolling their eyes at you when you open your mouth to show off another one of
your success stories. Because people don’t like to be looked down on or think they are not doing
as well as others and that they are not good enough. Instead, they start reconsidering their
relationship with the ones who made them feel that way about themselves, the over-achieving
person who knows everything.

8. Acting like a know-it-all

You keep correcting everyone, reminding them how and why they are wrong and the idea that
you could be the one making a mistake doesn’t even cross your mind. If these sentences
describe you, you are acting like a know-it-all by definition and need to stop if you don’t want to
push people away. Maybe it’s time that you cut others some slack and admit that everyone’s
entitled to making mistakes and you don’t need to go around reminding them of that. You need
to admit to yourself that there’s no correct answer to most things and that other people’s
opinions matter as much as yours. Even if you know a lot about something it doesn’t mean you
know all. So Next time you want to lecture others about a topic, remind yourself of that, and
hear the person in front of you out without any prejudice and assumptions.

9. Making assumptions:

Whether we like it or, we tend to make some assumptions about a person in our heads when we
are getting to know someone. The assumptions could be based on the first impression or the
next encounters. However, No matter how good we are at reading people, we cannot be right
all the time and it’s important to live some room for us being wrong about that person. Once
you start assuming different things about someone strictly, you deprive them of the chance to
reveal themselves to you as they really are, because you have already made up your mind and
think certain things about them. Once the other person realizes this, they feel judged and
misread and might want to stop spending time with you because of what you might be thinking
of them. Instead, try to give people some time to show you their true selves and communicate.
Ask them about their opinion on different things and how they feel about them.

How many of these toxic habits have you had so far? Write a comment and tell us which one is
the worst in your opinion.

10. Tuning out on others

It’s only normal to tune out on the lecturer in a boring meeting or class and start daydreaming
or entertaining yourself with anything more interesting. We’ve all been there and done that.
However, when a person comes to you out of all people they could go to and start talking about
something, but halfway in the conversation they find your eyes darting around the room or
notice that you’ve picked up the phone and are checking some messages, liking some pictures
on Instagram, it sends a loud and clear message about you: You are not the right person for a
conversation and you don’t care enough to hold your end of communication which is listening
actively. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than not respecting others enough to hear them out and
give them the attention they deserve.

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