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You may think it easy to jot down details about your life in a cohesive, entertaining fashion…but there’s
quite a bit more to.
Memoirs can be very complex pieces of work. It takes a lot of skill and craft to be able to write down
intimate details about your life for others to read and learn from. Which means learning how to write a
memoir can be really hard.
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Writing a memoir is both empowering and rewarding, and when broken down into these feasible
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How many people can say they wrote a book detailing the most impactful moments of their lives?
Not many.
And by taking this leap and diving head rst into your memories and entire life, you’re reaching new
heights for yourself and you may even enlighten others by the end of your journey.
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A memoir is a historical account or biography written from personal knowledge or special sources. It’s a
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book about your life, the lessons learned, and key moments that shaped who you are.
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We all typically think of a memoir and cringe a little at the idea of a book about someone else’s life.
But that’s not all a memoir is!
Essentially, this is a book written by you about key moments in your life. You bring your memories to life
in order to touch on an overarching message others can learn and grow from.
It’s like the highlight reel from your diary (if you ever had one) about the experiences that shaped your life.
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This means that “how tos,” “motivational books,” and other topics don’t qualify as a memoir. Memoirs are
very speci c in the sense that it accounts for the entirety of your life with an emphasis on stories and
impactful moments that lead to a great purpose.
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A memoir is a historical account written with personal knowledge and experience covering the lifetime of
an individual, usually with a greater purpose or message within it.
How is this different than an autobiography? I know what you’re thinking, “Aren’t they the same
thing?”
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A memoir typically covers one aspect of a writer’s life (or a continuous theme through memories),
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while an autobiography is a chronological account of the writer’s life.
So if you want to write a play-by-play of your entire life from the moment you popped into this world to
the very second you started writing, you’d write an autobiography.
But if you’re looking to share a profound message with the world through your own real-life experiences,
you’ll write a memoir.
You have a life worth something. You have experiences that led you to a very speci c place in life, and
you know what?
Others have undoubtedly been in your shoes before and will bene t from you writing a book.
Essentially, you can teach others how to get through what you did or even how to learn from their own
journeys just as you have yours.
How do you really sum up an accumulation of years and years of experience in only a couple hundred
pages?
We’ll help you learn how to write a memoir worth reading – and sharing.
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What sets memoirs apart from a simple retelling of your life is an overarching theme or message that
others can take away from it – and that you personally learned from the stories you share.
Think about what you want others to take away from reading your memoir.
What will they learn or realize or gain from reading about your life? You can ask yourself those very same
questions about your life to nd the answers.
What have you learned throughout your life? What’s the number 1 message that your experiences
have taught you?
Once you have that big, broad idea, the real work begins.
Now that you know the overall theme and message of your memoir and what will set it apart, you have to
connect the dots of your life to that core focus.
Here are a few areas to think about speci cally to help jog some of those memories in order to help
you know how to write a memoir worth reading:
Childhood in uences
Grade school
Teenage years
First job/s
First love/s
Parents
Siblings/family
Friends
Marriage
Children
Grandchildren
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There are so many areas that have a direct in uence over how you perceive life as a whole. You just have
to do a little digging to spark some speci c memories that can circle back to the overarching theme of
your memoir.
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Introduction A snippet of what your life is like now and why you're writing this memoir
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Core Each memoir should have an overall theme or message that one can take away
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reading.
Supporting Because you have an overall theme, it needs supporting stories from your life to
stories back it up.
Intriguing Once again, a memoir is still a book and therefore, it cannot read like a textbook.
writing Great writing is necessary for a great book.
Overall arc Your life has an arc and your memoir's purpose is to show this through lessons
learned from start to end.
#4 – Write truthfully
One of the hardest parts about writing a memoir is the fact that we tend to be a wee bit biased with
ourselves.>
It’s one thing to recognize when you were wrong in life, it’s another to actually write it down for the world
to see.
It’s hard. We want everyone to see the best version of ourselves and therefore, we leave out details or at
out lie to seem “better” in their eyes.
In order to learn how to write a memoir that really touches people in deep, emotional ways, you have to
learn to be honest.
When it comes to creating intrigue with your writing – and trust me, you want to do this, especially for a
memoir – you have to write by showing, not telling.
For the sake of brevity, I’ll just give you an overview of this writing technique, but if you’re interested in
mastering the ability to pull readers in, you can check out this detailed explanation.
Essentially, showing versus telling is the way in which you describe your experiences with an emphasis
on emotion.
But that doesn’t mean you should write down every feeling you had during a speci c time. In fact, that’s
what you want to avoid.
We’ll cover this in more detail below, but here’s a great video outlining this method ↓
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#6 – Get vulnerable
Memoirs are not a time to distance yourself from your inner feelings.
It’s time to dig deep and show the world what kind of author you are through your life experiences by
getting vulnerable.
Open yourself up to the truth behind who you are today. If you shield yourself in any way, it’s going to
be obvious on the pages of your memoir and therefore, not as effective.
At rst, you may want to cringe while writing certain memories but after a few days, you’ll nd it easier to
share your truth.
Each story you tell – whether it’s yours or someone else’s – has to connect to your focus in order for that
theme to come across to your readers.
Some experiences may have led you to moments of realization that then led you to other events that tie
into the main message you want others to gain from reading your memoir.
Think of it this way: you want to connect the dots so by the time the reader is nished, the message
comes full circle.
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That means your memoir will include inside peeks into your life as you live it now.
Each chapter should bring your readers back to your present-day life and how each memory affected
where you are today.
I’m sorry, but I’m not really. I’m here to help. And that means I have to be real with you and tell you that
people want to hear your personality!
They’re reading about your life and that means they want more of you in the writing. Learning how to
write a memoir includes guring out how to put more of you into the pages.
Don’t be afraid to write how you speak. Talk to them as if you were talking to a friend.
Here are a few ways you can add more personality into your memoir:
Tell jokes
Add your personal lingo (we all have phrases we use regularly)
If you have the urge to write something you think is funny or witty, do it!
Write your book by talk-to-text using Google Docs or other writing software
You want your readers to gain a sense of who you are not only through your stories but through the voice
in your writing as well.
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This has a lot to do with putting your own personality into it but it’s also about crafting the structure of
your novel in an entertaining manner, too.
Even though this is a memoir, there should still be a climax to keep readers intrigued. This would be
when your life came to a head; where you struggled but was able to pull yourself out of the trenches and
forge your own path.
Without the ability to hook readers, convincing someone to buy and read your book will be a bit harder
than anticipated.
That’s why we’ve put together a few tips to help you learn how to start a memoir that’s captivating and
intriguing.
#1 – Be relatable
Nobody wants to read a book that’s preachy or condescending.
One major mistake many make when writing a memoir is not starting it off in a way that makes the
readers connect with them.
Do you really think people will want to read about a person’s life if they can’t relate to them?
Think about when you were most invested in a book (or even a TV show or movie). What did you like
most? Could you relate to the author or the characters?
This is typically the best way to not only create invested readers but to gain fans. When others relate to
you and see themselves in your journey, they’ll want to stick around to see how it plays out.
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Just know that doing it that way won’t hook your readers and it certainly won’t keep them.
A memoir can be a powerful tool for educating others through your life journeys, but if they’re not
intrigued enough to keep reading, it’ll render your memoir pointless.
showing and not telling, you’ll put more emotion into your writing. This technique might sound confusing
but it’s actually quite easy once you learn how to do it.
Use fewer tell words like “I heard,” “I felt,” “I smelled,” “I saw,” to bring readers closer
Stop explaining emotions and instead explain physical reactions of those emotions (If you want to say “I was
scared,” describe your heart hammering against your chest or the sweat beading your forehead instead)
Use strong verbs that coincide with the emotions you’re trying to convey (writing “crashed to the oor” instead
of “fell to the oor” creates more impact)
This writing method can be tricky to master but thankfully, there are countless resources to help you
gure it out.
Everybody has an interesting life if you look deep enough. What you have to determine is how your life
experiences can aid and shape the lives of others.
Think about how that will manifest from what you’ve lived through before and make sure your readers
know what it is from the start (which can also be done through a powerful book title).
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Christopher Moss, author of Hope Over Anxiety, says the best way to write your memoir is to be open
about your experiences.
“Write from the heart. Show people your experience. Be as vulnerable and honest as you can. If it scares
you a little, what you are writing that’s good. The reader has to feel what you are going through.”
“Do not be afraid to deviate. If your book doesn’t follow your outline one hundred percent, then that’s
okay! Don’t feel like you have to only talk about what’s in your outline. You are the author; you are the
publisher, so you are the one making all of the decisions (sounds scary, huh?). In the beginning, I
thought it was.”
“Don’t think that the memoir is supposed to be ‘formal.’ As an example, I use contractions in mine, which
would not necessarily be used in a non ction book. Yes, I wanted my book to be professional, but I
didn’t want to make it sound like I’m not ‘on my audience’s level.’ I wanted to keep my voice and make it
as if I’m talking to my audience; as if I’m having a conversation with them.”
“My advice to new memoir writers is to take the time to review any old documents or photos that exist
and to pull those memories out to examine. Doing this during the map mapping process helped me
immensely.”
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There’s nothing more freeing than having the ability to articulate your life experiences in a way that will
truly speak to others and potentially change their lives.
Do you want to change lives and help others through the same turmoil you’ve experienced?
By self-publishing your memoir, you’ll be rewarded for all of your honest hard work with more than just
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In fact, it’s just beginning! Here are a few steps you can use to start your memoir and make some
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You already know how important this is and how to discover it. Now it’s time to actually startright now!
Grab a piece of paper (or open a Word Doc, whichever you prefer) and quickly jot down some single
words or phrases of the rst ideas that pop into your mind when you think about the way you live your
life.
Free
Against society
Helping others
Self-gain
Unique
Nontraditional
Love wholly
I think you get the idea. These are very basic concepts of how people choose to live that may have taken
some learning to get to.
You have the very core of what your memoir will encompass. Let’s start that mind map!
I’ve attached a free downloadable mind map template speci cally for a memoir you can use to
brainstorm the memories and stories you’ll include.
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For that matter, would someone want to read a "memnoir" that begins, "I wish I would have killed myself 30 years ago," and
projects one of three endings for my life--none of which are "old age"?
(My purpose in writing would be the hope that it would touch someone with the power to make "old age" a viable option.)
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