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When you witness a test to your authority, how a mistress deals with it can
obviously vary.
Harsher punishments should be used for direct challenges to your authority or
severe disobedience, but smaller, less noticeable challenges, that are best
described as tests, it often comes down to a judgment call.
Harsh punishments for forgetting the milk destroy the value of long term dominance
and diminish the severity of more unacceptable challenges.
Making things proportionate would be deemed sensible.
The image that needs to be conveyed is that his challenge has been spotted,
stopped, and dealt with.
After a few rebuttals of his small challenges a ‘status quo’ will emerge where you
no longer get challenged, but you should remain ever vigilant for his retesting.
So, what styles and tricks will a submissive use to test his new mistress’
authority.
Let’s delve right in.
The power dynamic that you agree upon will inevitably be tested in some small way.
If a mistress allows the small challenges, they will become larger until orders and
requests are outright disobeyed.
That doesn’t mean a mistress has to be ruthlessly repressive, but she should look
for the small tricks that the submissive will play to wrestle away control for the
‘small wins’.
It’s very natural, so expect it.
Some may do it unconsciously, but others will very well know what they are doing.
Here’s a small list of how your authority may be subtly challenged, and just as
importantly, how to deal with it.
Exploit Ambiguity
Within any language construct, there is a way of phrasing things that are open to
interpretation.
Or at least reasonable interpretation.
In everyday life, a mistress may not think about it too much, but not quite being
precise enough could potentially lead to an opportunity to be challenged.
With ambiguity, words can often mean a few things, but also phrases can have two
meanings or even sound like a statement.
Consider the line \"I think that needs clearing up, don’t you?\"
While the meaning of his dominant should be clear, it’s not an instruction.
There’s enough ambiguity in there for him to contend that it wasn’t an immediate
request – or if he’s feeling really bold, that it was a request at all.
A new mistress shouldn’t need to tolerate this behavior.
The first step is to make sure you are clear and precise with words to the extent
that that is possible.
Secondly, the ambiguity is irrelevant.
It should have been clear to the submissive that you were unhappy with his tidiness
and as his job is to make you happy, it should be cleared up.
Thirdly, if he is unclear about something, it’s his job to ask and clarify.
When a mistress expresses a preference for something, the submissives job is to
work out what is meant, clarify anything and perform the due task.
It’s about laying the ground rules for him to work around you.
White Lies
Exploit Caveats
Guilt Tripping
Light Disrespect
Substandard Work
A subtle way of disrespecting a mistress and pushing you a little to see how you
handle a light challenge is to actually perform the task, but to perform it in such
a way that should invite comment and rebuke, and see if you do so.
It’s important that a mistress have required standards for tasks, chores, and
obligations given.
Most tasks can be completed in such a way that there’s a degree of interpretation
as to whether it’s been done properly.
A mistress should watch over her submissive to make sure those standards aren’t
slipping deliberately.
The inherent ambiguity on standards practically invites finding a level where
compromise will happen, but the submissive should be made aware continual skirting
on the edge of sub standard work will invoke repeated punishment until he learns.
He needs to learn the lesson and value of achieving greater quality of work to
avoid displeasure.
Procrastination
Most people can find themselves victim of this but prolonged procrastination of
mistress’ demands is not placing enough emphasis on her wishes and desires.
Whether it’s mowing the lawn or arranging an interesting and exciting date night,
there comes a time when the fact that it is still not done becomes the issue.
Tasks for many subs are better given with completion times as well as acceptable
standards.
Not prioritizing what the dominant female desires is a form of disrespect all in
and of itself and should not be tolerated.
A Brief Word On Dealing With Power Challenges
Whether the reason given for sub optimal performance is genuine or not, the
question is – what lesson will your submissive learn from the experience.
What a new mistress should remember is that if he is caught trying to challenge you
– HE WILL EXPECT YOU TO PUNISH HIM.
He is quite simply testing you and will derive a lot from how you comport yourself.
If you are lax and tolerate his behavior then he will learn he can push boundaries.
This shouldn’t be the case, and a mistress should always look out for these small
tests from a submissive, confront them, and let the sub know in certain terms that
behavior has been below the allowed standard.
Punishment, even for small infractions can be warranted but the punishment itself
doesn’t need to be harsh.
A mistress can gauge the infraction and judge for herself what the punishment might
be.
Direct power challenges could mean some form of corporal punishment, but minor ones
might be standing in a corner, or additional tasks.
Or methods that make the task completion either harder or more embarrassing also
work, so if the kitchen isn’t cleaned well enough, then make the submissive do it
in womes clothes, or clean the oven with a toothbrush instead.
Conclusion
Most new mistress’ will have to confront a challenge every now and again.
Hopefully it’s not downright disobedience in their first instance of it.
Gentle femdom is a great tool within a relationship that is becoming more and more
popular.
Even within familiar structures the introduction of consensual dynamics being
forced to give the female a more dominant role, the likelihood is that she will
face small and more subtle power challenges, that left alone, will grow.
Whether your submissive starts to procrastinate, or uses words to exploit ambiguity
these are new challenges that must be met head on.
The dominant female within the relationship shouldn’t have to twist and turn to the
submissive playing mind games.
A clear message should be sent out that the authority is absolute and these mind
games are considered challenges, thus a proportionate punishment is warranted.