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Self Esteem
Self Esteem
Self Esteem
Self-concept
Advantages of high self esteem
Steps to building positive self esteem
Attitude
Meaning and factors that determine our attitude
Benefits of a positive attitude and consequences of a negative attitude
Steps to building a positive attitude
Motivation
The difference between inspiration and motivation
External motivation v/s internal motivation
A person with high self esteem would prefer loss of business than loss of
credibility because they realize that one cannot put a price on one's credibility.
Their behavior is senseless and erratic. They swing from one end of the pendulum to
another. They may be all sugar and honey today but the same people may be out to
cut your throat tomorrow. They lack balance.
They alienate people and tend to be lonely.
They are touchy in nature--this is called the fragile ego. Anytime something is said, a
person with a fragile ego takes it personally and gets hurt. It leads to dejection.
1. Positive self-talk
The way that you think about yourself has a huge influence on your self-esteem. If you keep
telling yourself that you’re no good, you might just start to believe it even though it’s not true. If
you notice that you practice negative self-talk often, check out some ways that you can challenge
your negative thinking and build your confidence levels.
It can be really tempting to measure our own worth against other people. So what if your friend
is awesome at table tennis and gets great marks? You just need to figure out what your niche is.
Everyone is great at something - what are your strengths?
3. Exercise
It’s really great if you want to do things well, but keep in mind that perfection isn’t possible.
Check out one person’s story of coming to terms with their sweet imperfection.
Everyone on the planet makes mistakes – it’s in our basic human nature. Why should you be any
different? When you stuff up, don’t stress, just learn from it and move on.
There’s no point wasting all your energy thinking about things that you can’t change. Why don’t
you have a think about some of the things that are in your power to control and see what you can
do about those?
If you’re doing things that you enjoy you’re more likely to be thinking positively. Schedule time
for fun and relaxation into every day.
Start small and work your way up – you can’t expect any huge progress to be made overnight.
Don’t hang around people who bring you down. Find a group of people who make you feel good
about yourself and avoid those who tend to trigger your negative thinking.
There are primarily three factors that determine our attitude. They are:
1. Environment
2. Experience
3. Education
These are called the triple Es of attitude. Let's evaluate each of the factors individually.
1. Environment
Environment consists of the following:
¨ Home: positive or negative influences
¨ School: peer pressure
¨ Work: supportive or over critical supervisor
¨ Media: television, newspapers, magazines, radio, movies
¨ Cultural background
¨ Religious background
¨ Traditions and beliefs
¨ Social environment
¨ Political environment
3. Education
It refers to both formal and informal education, not just academic qualifications. Knowledge
strategically applied translates into wisdom, ensuring success. I talk of education in the
broader sense. It makes the role of the ; educator vital. A teacher affects eternity.
Motivation can be a very commonly spoken about subject. And, some people do not understand
The interesting thing is that some people seem to mistake motivation for inspiration. They think
that both words have the same meaning, and they often use one word for the other.
Motivation is like a pulling force. For example, if you want to do exercise, and you feel that you
don’t have the time, or that it is too cold outside, or that you will be in pain afterwards, you have
to motivate yourself to go and do the exercise. That motivation will pull you towards doing
exercise.
So, if you are to go and exercise, you have to motivate yourself by reminding yourself of the
motive for doing exercise. It could be weight loss, fitness, getting fresh air etc. Whether you use
the word “motive” or you use the word “reason”, motivation needs to come from that source.
Inspiration
Inspiration on the other hand, is more of a process. You may hear a speaker who inspires you,
you may read a book that inspires you, you may hear a song that inspires you, you may meet a
person who inspires you, or you may see something that inspires you. Whatever it is that inspires
you, it touches you on the inside and connects you to a state of being more excited, productive,
As a speaker, one of my goals is to give people insights into defining their life purpose. Once
they realise their life purpose, something inside of them awakens. They are inspired to live their
The word “inspiration” comes from the late Latin word “inspirare” which means “inspirit” or
“divine guidance”.
So, inspiration is something that you feel on the inside, while motivation is something from the
Some people believe that motivation is for lazy people because they cannot be bothered getting
things done. On the other hand, they think that inspiration is for productive people because they
No, that is certainly not the case. We all can benefit from motivation and inspiration.
Examples.
Motivation – I have to raise $500 for my favourite charity. They are in desperate need of funding
because they need to get a new computer. To be able to afford the new computer, they need to
The ‘motive’ here is to make provision for the new computer. That is the pulling force that is
Inspiration – I feel like helping my favourite charity to raise funds. When I am making a
contribution towards others, I feel that I am in full alignment with my core values. That creates
The driving force here is to make a contribution towards others because it feels congruent to who
External motivation – the driving force that triggers you in achieving your goal. Such
as:
Money.
Prize.
A simple smile and encouragement.
Internal motivation – the force that leads you to achieve a goal because of personal
satisfaction or desire. Examples are:
Putting up your own business.
Participating in a competition.
Avoid Energy Leeches. Braggers, bummers, killjoys- these people are all sucking up your
energy. Don’t get caught under their destructive domain. Isolating yourself from these
parasites can set your mood successfully.
Make Time to be Creative. Discover a new passion. When it comes to building your
creativity, Why not try web designing. Take some risks. While your efforts may not lead to
success every time, your new found talent will benefit you in the future..
Support an Advocacy. Support a cause in your neighborhood. Lend a hand. Attend
seminars. Go tree planting. Mother nature will surely be crying for your tremendous effort
and generosity.
Have a Break. Call or invite a friend to watch the latest blockbuster movie. Grab a bag of
popcorn and soda and enjoy each other’s company.
Diet Shift. How about changing your diet? Explore and try to devour some new recipes.
Break your usual meal. If you love meat, then, it is your time to become vegetarian. Eat
and live well. For some people eating is an effective stress reliever..
Try setting a goal. This is very important. Divide your goals into several minor goals,
each goal leading to your major goal. This will also help you see your goal if it’s feasible
or not.
Understand what you are doing and acquire the habit of always getting to the finish line.
Socialize with achievers and associate yourself with motivated individuals. Share your
interest with them.
Never entertain the idea of procrastination. This leads to being timid.