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Like A Garment Binder Part 2
Like A Garment Binder Part 2
Like A Garment Binder Part 2
Halal Intimacy:
Practical Steps To A
Blissful Marriage
6. Contraception
^^There are clear and explicit traditions that the Prophet allowed
the Companions to practice coitus interruptus .
^^What is actually discouraged is the notion that somehow a person
will be able to outdo what Allah has willed.
7. Other Acts
^^It is very important to note that culture, just as it plays a huge
role in food and drink, also plays a role in sexual intimacy.
^^‘Your women are like a field to you, so approach your field as you
wish’ meaning on their backs, or turned around, or on their sides,
as long as the place of fertility (mawḍi al-walad) is approached.”
[Abu Dawud]
^^There are many exotic fetishes in our times, most of which
border on the makruh or are outright haram.
^^Issue of filming and videotaping one’s own sex act is
extremely dangerous and therefore a strong case of
saying it is haram.
SISTERS
^^Husband has been waiting for this night for a different
reason.
^^He wants to able to satisfy his desires in a halaal way.
^^Remember sex for him is a sign of love and wanting.
^^The pain is not unbearable- lubrication and relaxation helps
^^Having a bath beforehand can relax the muscles.
^^It gets better with time.
Phases of a Marriage
HONEYMOON PHASE
(THE EXCITEMENT OF STAR WARS)
^^Right after the first few weeks of marriage, when all the celebrations
finish we enter the real honeymoon phase.
^^After a few weeks, sexual relations seem to somewhat normalize –
meaning that the couple can actively engage in sex (although to be
honest this will not be the best sex of their lives – that will come
later).
^^The “honeymoon” phase is the easiest phase. Both partners cant seem
to do anything wrong, and even if they do it is taken light heartedly.
^^It is during this time that sex seems to reaches unprecedented levels.
^^Every pleasure of this world, no matter how great, becomes
something that we begin to get used to.
^^The first real argument is a very painful argument because it destroys
that image of a perfect relationship that was the honeymoon.
^^All of a sudden, the attack of the clones, also known as: children!
Pregnancy:
^^In this period hormones are everywhere it is a very emotional time for
a woman as she is preparing mentally and physically to be a mother.
^^Women need to stop being overly conscious, men love them and
accept them and are not attracted to supermodels.
^^Also, psychologically speaking, one of the best ways that a woman can
keep herself attractive to her husband is to be always open about sex.
^^We need to always remind ourselves that ultimate feelings of sexual
intimacy can never be achieved without strong bonds of love.
^^There is no such thing as ‘standard’ sexual habits; rather, the couple
will develop together and help each other forms these
habits. Also realize that most problems of intimacy are
solvable – it takes time and effort from both sides.
Dressing properly
^^Since men are visual, they love seeing things that are
arousing. And there is nothing more arousing than a
woman in lingerie...
Confidence
^^A person must be confident in themselves, and in
particular, in their bodies, in order to fully enjoy sex..
No Pressure
^^Confidence is one of the key ingredients to good
intimacy..
Foreplay
^^80 % of women actually enjoy the foreplay more than the actual
sex, whereas for men it is the exact opposite: foreplay is just a
means to sex.
^^A good foreplay is at least fifteen minutes long; preferably half
an hour. During this time a male does not actually penetrate, in
fact maybe even avoid touching her private area completely.
^^Build up the passion, tease her, whatever you do, start slowly,
don’t get to the actual erogenous area immediately.
Proper kissing
^^Many people mistakenly believe that kissing is of only one
type: the lips of the man touch the lips of the woman. But this
is completely wrong. Kissing is an art, and it can be learnt and
perfected.
Bath:
^^Having a bath/shower together in the beginning relaxes
the muscles and the mind and is a playful way to begin.
Especially before oral- good practice.
^^We all know that the Prophet would regularly take baths with
his wives.
Oral?
^^Almost all Western books advise the man to engage in oral sex
on his wife first, until he satisfies her completely. For Muslims,
this advice would go back to one’s position on oral sex. If
one believes this act to be impermissible then obviously they
should not do this – however another substitute is to play with
her vaginal area, and in particular, the clitoris, for an extended
period of time.
Multi-Tasking
^^Take advantage of other body-parts as well!
1. Confidence.
2. Communication.
3. Creativity.
Sexual Positions
Primary ones are four:
1. Missionary Position (man on top)
2. Woman on top.
3. Rear-entry.
4. The sitting position (aka lotus position).
Solution:
^^Don’t make the man feel any more conscious, as it will severely
affect his self-esteem.
^^Understand that for most men this is a stage of their life.
^^Prolong foreplay for woman.
^^Use thick condom.
^^Try working him almost to climax and then pausing (develop-
ing resistance).
^^More frequent intercourse.
2. Cannot climax
^^Realize this is normal; very common amongst newlyweds.
^^Proper ambience, if you don’t like it, fix it!
^^Prolong foreplay
^^Enjoy the act, don’t worry about where it will lead.
^^Squeezing pelvic muscles helps: ‘Kegel exercises’
For Women:
^^“My husband is sex-obsessed!!!”
^^“My husband doesn’t care about my pleasure.”
^^“My husband doesn’t care about his appearance.”
^^ for me, and I love it when she does that.”
General Advice:
^^Women need to understand that once a man is in love and
committed, blemishes are overlooked as long as the woman tries
and maintains herself that is enough.
^^When a woman is upset she does not want to be alone- you
have to show her you care by listening to her.
^^Women need to understand that men express themselves
emotionally through sex, and rejecting advances is rejecting his
love.
^^Men need to understand women need to feel in the mood to
have sex..
^^Differing sexual drives are extremely common – in fact it can be
said this is the norm.
Conclusion
Let’s Put This Knoweldge
Into (Halal) Action!!!