Self-Awareness Understanding the 4 Personality Types • Perceivers – prefer to keep their options open, like to

What is self-awareness? Type A – The Director be able to act spontaneously, and like to be flexible
• Self-awareness is one’s ability to identify and understand one’s
• Goalfeelings,
oriented with making plans.
thoughts, and behaviours. • Risk-taking
• As a result, an individual can monitor oneself better and create
• Gooda more
under stress Ask for feedback
purposeful life. Type B – The Socializer • How friends, colleagues and family members see you
• is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions, thoughts,
• Relationship-centered
or may not be the way you see yourself. So ask them to
emotions do or don't align with your internal standards. If•you're highly
Outgoing tell you about their perceptions of you.
self-aware, you can objectively evaluate yourself, manage•your emotions,
Enthusiastic • Ask lots of basic questions about your personality and
align your behaviour with your values, and understand correctly
Type Chow
– The Thinker attitude, do they think you’re a happy person, for
others perceive you. • Detail-oriented example, or how well do they think you interact with
Three Categories of SELF-AWARENESS • Logical other people? Ask them to be honest. But take care:
• What am I feeling? • Prepared asking for feedback could mean you may hear
• What am I thinking? Type D – The Supporter something you won’t like.
• What am I doing? • Task oriented
Most of Us Lack Self-Awareness • Stabilizing Try something new
• Our human nature makes it incredibly challenging to be self-aware.
• Cautious • If, like many people, you tend to do the same things in
We’re dealing with outdated brain functions and survival instincts that your daily life, trying new experiences may help you
are rooted in ancient times. As a result, we often become Personality
caught up in to discover new things about yourself. That’s because
defensive emotions and biases that prevent us from being•self-aware.
Type A your reaction to new people and environments can
• The best part is that these defenses make us think we’re self-aware when
• More competitive, rushed, and time-oriented
reveal hidden strengths or weaknesses that you may
in reality, only about 10-15% of people are truly self-aware. not otherwise have come across.
Common type A traits:
• So, instead of going on the same type of holiday this
• Impatient
6 Signs that You Lack Self-Awareness year, go somewhere completely different. Try a
• Competitive
• Your emotional reaction doesn’t match the situation • Work-obsessed
restaurant you’ve never been to before. Or learn
• You get defensive when receiving feedback • Achievement-oriented
something new and take-up a new hobby. It can all
• You repeat negative emotional patterns help you to become more self-aware.
• Aggressive
• The things you do to “make yourself feel better” don’t actually make you
• stressed
feel better type A personality:
• You haven’t found a way to be consistently successful • highly competitive
• You regularly regret decisions in your everyday life • strong personality
• restless when inactive
Why is self-awareness important?
• seeks reward
• There are many benefits of self-awareness that you will experience both
• thrives on deadline
in your everyday life and overall.
Type B
Benefits of being more self-aware
• More flexible and less rushed
• Gives you better understanding of your wants and needs
• Most people have characteristics of both types
• Lead to healthier reactions to external factors
(determined by situation)
• Improve your decision making
type B personality
• Helps you manage your emotions
• works methodically
• Strengthens your relationships
• rarely competitive
• Boost your productivity and success
• enjoys leisure time
• Enhance your ability to make positive change
• does not anger easily
• Bolster your self-esteem
• does job work but doesn’t need recognition
• easy-going
HOW TO BOOST YOUR SELF-AWARENESS
Listen to your inner voice
• Extroverts – are energized by people, enjoy a variety
• We all have an inner voice that chats away in the background most of the
of tasks, a quick pace, and are good at multitasking
time – just try to empty your mind and think of nothing, and you’ll soon
• Sensors – are realistic people who like to focus on the
realize how active that inner voice is. Try to take more notice of what
facts and details. They apply common sense and past
your inner voice is saying, because it could tell you something about
experience to find practical solutions to problems
yourself that you may not have realised previously.
• Thinkers – tend to make their decisions using logical
• Take a couple of minutes every day to sit quietly and observe your
analysis, objectively weigh pros and cons, and value
thoughts. Try writing them down and then assess them once a week.
honesty, consistency and fairness. Self-awareness and self assessment
Keep a journal
• Judgers – tend to be organized and prepared, like to Self-awareness
• As well as writing down your inner thoughts, it’s a
make and stick to plans, and are comfortable • is the ability to focus on yourself and how your
good idea to keep a daily journal in which you record
following most rules actions, thoughts, or emotions do or don't align with
your experiences and feelings. These things can help
• Introverts – like working alone or small groups prefer your internal standards.
you understand more about yourself, especially if you
a more deliberate pace, and like to focus on one task • If you're highly self-aware, you can objectively
review what you’ve written at a later date.
at a time. evaluate yourself, manage your emotions, align your
Put your personality to the test
• Intuitive – prefer to focus on possibilities and the big behaviour with your values, and understand correctly
• Many psychologists believe that knowing and
picture, easily see patterns, value innovation and seek how others perceive you.
understanding your personality can boost your self-
creative solutions to problems
awareness significantly. So, even if you think you
• Feelers – tend to be sensitive and cooperative, and Benefits of becoming more self-aware
know your personality pretty well, try taking a
decode based on their own personal values and how • becoming more satisfied with your job
personality test – it may well surprise you.
other will be affected by their actions • being able to better manage your emotions
• better leadership skills
• improved relationships
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 • Higher levels of happiness
• more creativity
• better communication
• better decision-making skills
• more confidence
• more likely to make better choices
Characteristics of Self-Awareness
• Wisdom – When a person actively works to
understand themselves and applies the knowledge to
their every day life, they make a habit of continual
learning.
• Honesty – A person that is self aware does not sell
themselves short, but they also do not have an over-
inflated view of themselves either.
• Confidence – Self aware people want honest feedback
from others because it keeps them more aware of
how they are coming across and how they are doing.
They already know their strengths and weaknesses
and have come to grips with it, making them
confident and secure in themselves.
• Humility– A self aware person knows that they have
shortcomings. They realize they need help from other
people to help bolster their own shortcomings. They
do not mind sharing the spotlight and lifting others
up.
Ways to tell if you are self-aware
• Ability to take a step back from your emotions and
respond instead of react. You can remain calm.
• Over-analyzing how you come across to others and
how your statements and reactions sound.
• Not pretending to know everything and being aware
that you are not the expert on everything.
• Seeking honest feedback from others and not getting
defensive when someone points out something that
could be done better.
• Maintaining a growth mindset and realizing that
failures along the way are part of the learning process.
• Knowing and staying true to your passions, priorities,
and core values.
• Understanding your own blind spots and areas where
you don’t see yourself clearly.
10 Benefits of Self-Awareness
1. More Empathy Toward Others
• is one of the most important benefits of self-
awareness.
• it enables you to build better relationships
2. Better Listening Skills
• Active listening is a skill that is growing more and
more scarce.
• The good news is that when you start practicing active
listening it makes a positive impression.
3. Improved Critical Thinking Skills
• To start becoming self-aware, you have to think and
reflect honestly on yourself and your actions.
• You have to do a great deal of analyzing and
separating yourself from you emotions to come up
with an objective picture.
4. Improved Decision Making
• When you realize how you come across to others and
you know yourself as well as take the time to listen to
others, plus add in better critical thinking skills, it
improves your decision making skills as well.
5. Better Leadership Abilities
• Who would not want a boss that makes good
decisions, listen to his/her employees with empathy,
and has great critical thinking and problem-solving
skills?
• These are all benefits of self-awareness that boost
leadership abilities.
• They are the leaders that people want to follow and
work for.
6. More Self-Control
• More self-awareness also involves being able to name
your emotions, but not necessarily react to them.
• It involves learning to separate yourself from them.
This leads to being able to think past your initial
reactions. Consequently, you can respond instead of
reacting when you get mad, demonstrating more self-
control.
7. Increased Creativity
• Though you might not think of increased creativity as
a benefit of self-awareness in the workplace, it can
be. Problems will inevitably come up that require
creative solutions. This can also be a personal benefit
of self-awareness because it will allow you more
personal satisfaction when you can practice a creative
hobby and feel like you produce a quality result.
8. Increased Ability to Change Habits
• When you develop the skills of being able to analyze
the effects of what you are doing, you also develop an
increased ability to change your habits. This goes back
to knowing the “why” behind what you are doing.
When you have an underlying big reason to change,
it’s much easier to implement that change.
9. Higher Self-Esteem
• Higher self-esteem is another benefit of self-
awareness. It’s a natural product of confidence, which
self-awareness breeds. You know yourself and come
to grips with your strengths and weaknesses. You
don’t sell your self short, but don’t oversell either. It’s
a nice happy medium.
10. Better Overall Perspective
• When you take the time to analyze all the different
facets of a problem, you come at it with increased
critical thinking skills and creativity, plus take into
account the viewpoints of others because you
practiced active listening with empathy, you get a
better overall perspective.
The Johari Window
• The Johari window test was named after the first
names of its inventors: Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham,
“Of Human Interaction” (Mayfield Publishing Co., Palo
Alto, CA: 1969).
The Johari window – which represents self – looks like
this:
The Upper left Window
• “I know you know”
• This public window is known to self and also known to
others.
• It is the field of open communication.
• This is where trust may flourish.
The Upper Right Window
• “I don’t know you know”
• This window represents our blind spots.
• It is the field where I might feel vulnerable.
• This is where self-discovery is a possibility for growth.
Lower Left Window
• “I know you don’t know”
• This private window is our mask.
• It is the hidden field.
• This is where we keep our secrets.
Lower Right Window
• “I don’t know and you don’t know”
• This window represents the black box.
• It is the unknown field.
• This is where there is room for potential.
The Johari window test is a model to helps us enlarge the
field of open communication, to cultivate trust, and
ultimately, to improve our relationships with those we
interact with.
• Feedback helps us reduce our blind spots and our
secrets – it helps us enlarge the public window, the “I
know you know,” the mutual understanding, the trust
(the great majority of problems are due to the lack of
a healthy communication).
Self- assessment test
• Confidence and Enjoyment of Learning Questionnaire
• College students have varying levels (from very high
to very low) in their Confidence and Enjoyment of
Learning. This usually depends on the subject matter
and type of assignment.
• Becoming aware of the subjects and learning
assignments you may have experienced lower levels
of confidence and enjoyment is the first step towards
finding new ways to approach your academics.
How Can You Find Out if You are Experiencing Low
Confidence and Enjoyment in Learning?
Take this short questionnaire as a way to better
understand your potential learning roadblocks.
Check your Attitude
• I believe that even if I put in the effort I will not do
well in the class or the assignment
• I blame the teacher when I am not doing well in a
class.
• I believe I am not a smart person when it comes to
school. .
• I sometimes or often feel I do not belong in college.
• I sometimes or often worry that others will view me
as "stupid".
• I have given up caring about my grades in a class.
• I hate going to the class.
Check your Behavior
• I wait until the last minute to do the homework in the
class.
• I don't go to class.
• I say yes what I understand the material, even when I
do not.
• I copy someone else's homework.
• I give up easily when the school work is too hard.
• I give up easily when the school work is too boring.
• I make excuses to others why I am not doing well in a
certain class.
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Check your History • If you answered true to even one of the last four • “It seems as if……”
• I have for many years viewed myself as a poor questions, then your anger has reached a danger
student. level. Poor therapeutic communication
• I have been told for many years that I am a lazy • Tells the client what to do without regard to the
student. Therapeutic Communication client’s feelings or desires (the “do this” response)
• I have for many years not enjoyed going to class. • The exchange of verbal and non-verbal interactions • Asks a question that can be answered ‘yes’ or ‘no’ or
• I view school as primarily a social event. between healthcare providers and clients for goal- with another one-syllable response
• Anger management oriented purpose • Seeks reasons for the client’s behavior
• I don’t show my anger about everything that makes • Communication is the primary tool used in the • Implies disapproval of the client’s behavior
me mad, but when I do – look out. T F delivery of psychiatric nursing care and all nursing • Offers false reassurance
• I still get angry when I think of the bad things people interactions. • Attempts to interpret the client’s behavior rather than
did to me in the past. T F • The focus of therapeutic interaction is to assist the allowing the client to verbalize his own feelings
• Waiting in line, or waiting for other people, really client in gaining insight into thoughts, feelings and • Offers a response that focuses on the nurse, not the
annoys me. T F behaviors. client.
• I fly off the handle easily. T F
• I often find myself having heated arguments with the Good therapeutic communication Forbidden phrases
people who are closest to me. T F • Allows the client time to think and reflect. Descriptions
• I sometimes lie awake at night and think about the • Encourage the client to talk • These are phrases, which should NOT be used when
things that upset me during the day. T F • Encourage the client to describe a particular interacting with clients. Avoid them at all cost.
• When someone says or does something that upsets experience • Avoid social interactions, clichés, and saying too
me, I don’t usually say anything at the time, but later • Reflect that the nurse has listened to the client such much.
spend a lot of time thinking up cutting replies I could as through paraphrasing the client response. • Avoid changing subjects.
and should have made. T F • Avoid words like “bad’, ‘right’, ‘wrong’, and ‘nice’
• I find it very hard to forgive someone who has done Helpful techniques • Examples:
me wrong. T F Acknowledgement • “You should……”
• I get angry with myself when I lost control of my • Recognizing the client’s opinions and/ or statements • “You’ll have to….”
emotions. T F without imposing your own values and judgment. • “You can’t…..”
• People really irritate me when they don’t behave the Clarifying • “Let’s……”
way they should, or when they act like they don’t • the process of making sure you understood the • “If it was me, I’d…….”
have the good sense God gave lettuce. T F meaning of what was said • “Why don’t you….”
• If I get really upset about something, I have a Confrontation
• “I think you…….”
• Calling attention to inconsistent behavior, information
tendency to feel sick later, either with a weak spell, • “It’s the policy on this unit….”
headache, upset stomach, or diarrhea. T F shared or not shared
• “Don’t worry….”
• People I've trusted have often let me down, leaving Focusing
• “Everyone…”
me feeling angry or betrayed. T F • Assisting the client to explore a specific topic
• “Why….?
• When things don’t go my way, I get depressed. T F Information-giving
• “Just a second…”
• I am apt to take frustration so badly that I cannot put • Feedback about client’s observed behavior
• “I know…..”
it out of my mind. T F Open-ended questions
• I've been so angry at times I couldn't remember things • Questions which require more than a “Yes” or “No”
Basic communication principles
I said or did. T F response
• Establish trust
• After arguing with someone, I have myself. T F Reflecting‘/ restating
• Demonstrate a non-judgmental attitude.
• I've had trouble on the job because of my temper. T F • Paraphrasing/ repeating what the client said (be
• Offer self; be empathetic
• When riled up, I often blurt out things I later regret careful not to overuse; client will feel as though you
• Use active listening
saying. T F are not listening)
Silence • Accept and support client’s feelings
• Some people are afraid of my bad temper. T F • Clarify and validate client’s statements
• When I get angry, frustrated or hurt, I comfort myself • Can be therapeutic or can be used to control
interactions. • Use matter-of-fact approach
by eating or using alcohol or other drugs. T F
• When someone hurts or frustrates me, I want to get • Use carefully with paranoid client, may be
even. T F misinterpreted or could be used to support paranoid
ideation.
• I've gotten so angry at times that I've become
Suggesting
physically violent, hitting other people or breaking
things. T F • Offering alternatives, e.g. “Have you ever
considered…?”
• At times, I've felt angry enough to kill. T F
• Sometimes I feel so hurt and alone I feel like
Useful Phrases
committing suicide. T F
Descriptions
• I’m a really angry person, and I know I need help
• These are phrases, which are useful in therapeutic
learning to control my temper and angry feelings
interaction
because it has already caused me a lot of problems. T
• Keep the interaction open, genuine, and client-
F
centered
• Keep the client as the focus
• If you answered true to ten or more of these
statements, you are seriously prone to anger • Be aware of your own feelings and anxiety level.
problems. It’s time for a change. • Examples:
• If you answered true to five questions, you are about • “Tell me about….”
average in your angry feelings, but learning some • “Go on……”
anger management techniques can make you a • “I’d like to discuss what are you thinking….”
happier person. • “What are your thoughts….?
• “Are you saying that……”
• :What are you feeling…..”

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