Reading and Writing

Ma. Nikki C. Ramirez 12- STEM- Diligence

Essay: Rule/s I hated most.

“You can’t have a boyfriend ‘till you finish your studies!”

“My house, my rule. If you can’t comply, then go and find another house to
reside!”
This is always be the “sermon” or lecture of my parents, especially of my mother,
every time that we are not complying with the rules that they did. It is honestly irritating to
hear it over and over again, but at the same time it’s scary, with the thought that they might
actually evict us from home. But then, we realized that those rules indeed makes us a
disciplined children, which we are thankful about. Yet, we can’t avoid to do things against
those rules, one of its example is having a boyfriend.
“You can’t have a boyfriend ‘till you finish your studies!” I can still remember this
exact meaning of sentence that my mother told me when I told her about a guy who wanted
to court me. I even showed her the packs of chocolates, marshmallows and the three stem
of artificial roses as an evidence. As soon as I showed it to her, she immediately believed it
and started to become hysterical and said in a shout “Tumunong ka dyan!” . I laughed at
her remark and I thought she’s overreacting but it instantly fades away as I heard her
starting her “sermon” about early marriage. I’m still at my 8th grade that time, and I can’t
believe that she already thought that I’m going to marry at early age. She even asked me
“Ano ma-agom ka na, ta gapaharyaw ka na?!” , of course as a stubborn child I talk back to
her, in a respectful and calm way, and defend of what I think. I don’t have any intentions or
plans to marry at young age, I just want to tell her about it since I want to have an open
communication with her in terms of courting or being romantically connected with
someone. But I guessed, I got from her the trait of being stubborn, she didn’t listened to my
explanations and stayed as a close-minded person.
Sometimes, their rules (my parents) are very constrictive. I feel like they are not
giving or they are limiting my freedom to experience things. Let’s say for example, having a
boyfriend for me means new experience and new opportunity to learn new things that they
cannot teach me about, as of them it means marrying at young age and eventually have a
family. Yes, I get what are their points, they just want to protect me, finish my studies first
and disregard unnecessary things like having a boyfriend. In contrary, it’s frustrating that no
matter how I understand their point of views they cannot do the same thing to me, as a
result I learned to have a secret relationship with someone over years. Instead of being
open to them, I can’t do it since they are just going to contradict me. To be clear, I am not
that thirsty and desperate to have a boyfriend, I just feel like that they forbids me, in every
aspects, to encounter and experience new things and learn from it.
On the other hand, I don’t have any problems with their other rules, in fact I’m very
much thankful that I have a parents like them, a strict but caring parents, because with
those rules I can proved that they teaches us the best, and help us to become disciplined
children. Also as I grow up, I’m able to understand them more. I’m able to tell that ‘mothers
know best’ because as I experienced few relationships I realized that having an immature
boyfriend is such a waste of time, but still I learned from it.