PERSONAL

RELATIONSHIP

TR. JOSEL VELASQUEZ

LEARNING OBJECTIVES:
• Discuss an understanding of teenage relationships,
including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of
attractions;
• Express his or her ways of showing attraction, love, and
commitment
• Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship; and
• Appraise one’s relationship and make plans for building
responsible future relationships.
WHAT IS PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP?
 The concept of relationship is
very broad and complex.
PERSONAL Personal relationships refer to
close connections between
RELATIONSHIP people, formed by emotional
bonds and interactions. These
bonds often grow from and are
strengthened by mutual
experiences.
 A HEALTHY
RELATINSHIP WITH
FRIENDS IS A SOURCE
OF LIFETIME
HAPPINESS.
 HOW ARE
ATTACHMENTS
DEVELOPED?
HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS DEVELOPED?

• The very first meaningful relationship every human

being encounters is with one’s mother. Even before
birth, the mother-child relationship is already
established.
• At the moment of birth when the child is laid beside
the mother to be fed and cuddled, bonding occurs,
and the infant develops an attachment to the mother,
and later on , with the father.
HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS DEVELOPED?

Rozenberg quarterly quotes a research

finding by Bowlby (1982) that our succeeding
relationship in the future are all shaped to a
large extent by our attachment to our
parents. A mother who gazes at her child’s
face and the child responding with a smile
are foundations of our sense of physical and
psychological well-being.
 Three Attachment
Styles as defined by
Ainsworth, Blekar,
Water, and Wall (1978)
 Three Attachment Styles as defined by
Ainsworth, Blekar, Water, and Wall (1978)
1. SECURE ATTACHMENT
❖When the primary caregiver is most of the
time present and available and when all the
emotional needs of an infant are met,
providing a sense of security to the infant.
❖Children with secure attachment feel
protected by their caregivers, and they
know that they can depend on them.
 Three Attachment Styles as defined by
Ainsworth, Blekar, Water, and Wall (1978)

2. AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
•When the primary caregiver is cold and
detached, and even unresponsive to a
child’s need.
•A person experienced this style of
attachment in infancy and childhood
will oftentimes experience unstable
relationships in the future.
 Three Attachment Styles as defined by
Ainsworth, Blekar, Water, and Wall (1978)

3. ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT
❖When the primary caregiver is not consistent in
terms of presence and in meeting a child’s
emotional needs.
❖A person who experienced this style of attachment
in childhood may develop separation anxieties with
a loved one, or may have mixed feelings between
hesitancy and commitment when entering into
meaningful relationships.
WHAT DRIVES
ATTRACTION?
THREE STAGES OF FALLING INLOVE
ACCORDING TO FISHER

1.LUST
Lust refers to an urge or
desire that motives us to
partake in sexual activity
 THREE STAGES OF FALLING INLOVE
ACCORDING TO FISHER

2. ATTRACTION
This is the stage when a person
loses sleep and appetite over
someone, and swoons while
daydreaming of this special
person
 THREE STAGES OF FALLING INLOVE
ACCORDING TO FISHER

3. ATTACHMENT
When the couple in love decides
to continue with the relationship,
they enter attachment stage
where long-lasting commitments
are exchanged, and they may
lead to raising a family
The Rozenberg Quarterly
mentions several
theories on attraction
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several theories
on attraction

1. TRANSFERENCE EFFECT
Transference is a phenomenon
characterized by unconscious
redirection of feelings from one
person to another.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several theories
on attraction

2. PROPINQUITY EFFECT
It is the tendency for people to form
friendships or romantic relationships with
those who they encounter often.
Occupational propinquity, is also seen as a
factor in marriage selection.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several theories
on attraction

3. SIMILARITY
State of being similar; likeness;
resemblance.
We often like people who have
similarities with such as social class,
background, religious beliefs, age, and
education.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several theories
on attraction

4. RECIPROCITY
We like people who like us back. The
more we are liked by someone we
equally like, the more we behave in
ways that promote mutual feelings
of liking.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several theories
on attraction

5. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS
It is the degree to which a
person’s physical features are
considered aesthetically
pleasing or beautiful.
The Rozenberg Quarterly mentions several theories
on attraction

6. PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS AND

TRAITS
People get attracted to two characterized
that leads to liking the other person, these
are: empathic persons, who exude warmth
and sympathy and who are optimistic and
maintain positive view; and socially
competent persons who are good
communicators and enjoy conversations.
 ROBERT
STERNBERG’S
TRIANGULAR
THEORY OF LOVE.
 THREE COMPONENTS ARE:

1. INTIMACY
An intimate relationship is an
interpersonal relationship that
involves physical and/or emotional
intimacy.
 THREE COMPONENTS ARE:

2. COMMITMENT
Is a promise to do or give something:
promise to be loyal to someone or
something.
Commitment in a love relationship is
expressed continuously in caring and
loving actions for the beloved.
 THREE COMPONENTS ARE:

3. PASSION
Is an intense emotion, a compelling
enthusiasm or desire for something
(interest, a vision or a person).
 Three Related
Variables related to
COMMITMENT –
Rozenberg Quarterly
 A relationship should be
ACCUMULATION deemed as mutually
OF ALL rewarding by the couple
REWARDS OF for them to continue
RELATIONSHIP and reinforce their
commitment to each
other
 The presence of
TEMTATION OF alternatives for another
ALTERNATIVE partner can rock the
relationship and
PARTNERS
destabilize
commitments of a
couples.
INVESTMENTS It includes time spent
MADE BY THE together, common
COUPLE IN THE beliefs and experiences,
mutual experiences
RELATIONSHIP
with mutual friends.
 BEHAVIORS MARRIED
COUPLES MAY DO THAT
CAN PREDICT A DIVORCE
OR SEPERATION
 BEHAVIORS MARRIED
1. CRITICISM
COUPLES MAY DO THAT 2. DENIAL OF THE
CAN PREDICT A EXISTENCE OF
DIVORCE OR
SEPERATION CONFLICT
3. CONTEMPT
RESPONSIBILITIES
IN A
RELATIONSHIP
 Be responsible for
what you think and say
to the person
 Be responsible for
what you promise to
do or not do
Ensure the relationship
is mutual beneficial
Respect the other party
or parties involved
Be ready to provide
support needed
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RELATIONSHIP

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CHARACTERISTICS
AND TRAITS
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TRANSFERENCE
EFFECT PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
PROPINQUITY
EFFECT
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