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Concept of Flow
• When you’re giving your fullest attention to an
activity or task that you are incredibly passionate
about, singularly focused on, and totally
immersed in, you may find yourself creating the
conditions necessary to experience a flow state of
mind. The mind’s usual chatter begins to fade
away, placing us in a non-distracted zone. The
feelings that would consume you under normal
circumstances (inhibition, hunger, fatigue, or
aches and pains) melt away, and all that matters
is your dedication to your craft
• According to Csikszentmihalyi, “The best
moments in our lives are not the passive,
receptive, relaxing times… the best moments
usually occur if a person’s body or mind is
stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to
accomplish something difficult and
worthwhile.”
• To that end, engagement and
concentration are key in achieving flow state.
• Csikszentmihalyi investigated the
phenomenon of flow by interviewing
thousands of people from many different
walks of life – chess players, mountain
climbers, tennis players, ballet dancers,
surgeons, etc. He came to the conclusion that
flow is a universal experience, which has
several important characteristics:
• Clarity of goals and immediate feedback on the progress.
For example, in a competition you know what you’ve got to
achieve and you know exactly how well you are doing, i.e.
whether you are winning or losing.
• Complete concentration on what one is doing at the
present moment, with no room in one’s mind for any other
information.
• Actions and awareness are merged. A guitar player merges
with the instrument and becomes the music that he plays.
The activity becomes almost automatic, and the
involvement seems almost effortless (though far from being
so in reality).
• Losing awareness of oneself or self-consciousness is also a
common experience but, interestingly, after each flow
experience the sense of self is strengthened and a person
becomes more than he or she was before.
• Sense of control over what one is doing, with no worries
about failure.
• Transformation of time. Usually, time passes much faster
than expected. However, the reverse can also be true.
• Activities are intrinsically rewarding. This means they have
an end in themselves (you do something because you want
to), with any other end goal often being just an excuse.
Role of mindfulness in flow states
• A mind that is trained to be more present and
at ease with itself — calmer, clearer, and
content — is more likely to experience the
flow state because we are training in non-
distraction and focus. “If we can learn how to
apply focus moment-to-moment, then we’ll
see that play out in our longer-term goals
• By definition, mindfulness is the quality of being
present and fully engaged with whatever you’re doing
in the moment — free from distractions or judgment,
and aware of thoughts and feelings without getting
caught up in them.
• By engaging in meditation, we are encouraging our
minds to become more present, actively creating
conditions that help us observe when we get
distracted, what gets us distracted, and then return to
the object of focus.
• A flow state of mind combines the two concepts. In
essence, flow state is a very active, moving meditation.
• Mindfulness involves ‘‘non-elaborative, non-judgmental,
present-centered awareness in which each thought,
feeling, or sensation that arises in the attentional field is
acknowledged and accepted as is’’ (Bishop et al., 2003, p.
31).
• Mindfulness is typically construed as a mental practice that
requires self-discipline and a commitment to trying to
maintain reflective awareness of each passing moment.
• In contrast, flow involves intense task concentration, a loss
of self-awareness, an altered sense of time, and merging of
activity and awareness (Csikszentmihalyi, 1990; Nakamura
& Csikszentmihalyi, 2009). Flow is an absorbing mental
state that arises spontaneously when one is engrossed
within optimally challenging activity
Similarities
• Both are rewarding mental states in which
people are fully engaged in the present.
• Both are considered to be indicators of mental
health and optimal functioning
Contrast
• Mindfulness involves cultivating an observer
of consciousness, trying to maintain reflective
awareness of each moment
• Mandukya Upanishad- 2 birds story
• On Monday, take a new route home from work and explore your environment as you drive.
• On Tuesday, ask one of your co-workers a question you have not previously asked them.
• On Wednesday, try a new food for lunch – something that piques your curiosity to taste.
• On Thursday, call a family member and explore their feelings about a recent positive experience
they had.
• On Friday, take the stairs instead of the elevator and explore the environment as you do.
• On Saturday, as you do one household chore (e.g., washing the dishes, vacuuming), pay attention to
3 novel features of the activity while you do it. Example: Notice the whirring sound of the vacuum,
the accumulation of dust swirling around in the container, the warmth of the water as you wash the
dishes, the sensation of the weight of a single plate or cup, and so on.
• On Sunday, ask yourself 2 questions you want to explore about yourself – reflect or journal your
immediate responses.
• Next Monday….keep going!
• After you choose one of your signature strengths, consider the following 10 areas
to help jolt new ideas within you and stretch your approach to the strength.
• At work
• In my closest relationship
• While I engage in a hobby
• When with my friends
• When with my parents or children
• When I am alone at home
• When I am on a team
• As the leader of a project or group
• While I am driving
• While I am eating
• Bringing in psychology
Attraction
• Three major principles guide attraction and
relationship formation: proximity, similarity, and
reciprocity
• Proximity: Leon Festinger, Stanley Schachter,
and Kurt Back (1950) asked individuals living in
apartments for married students at the Massachusetts
Institute of Technology to name three of their closest
friends. Of these friends, 65 percent lived in the same
building, and 41 percent lived next door
• Similarity: Similarity greases the wheels of social
interaction for a few reasons.
• First, when people’s interests and attitudes
overlap, the foundation is paved for mutual
understanding.
• Second, we assume we’ll be readily accepted and
liked by others who see eye to eye with us.
• Third, people who share our likes and dislikes
provide validation for our views and help us
feel good about ourselves
E.g- online dating sites
• Reciprocity:For a relationship to move to
deeper levels, the third principle of
attraction—reciprocity, or the rule of give and
take—is often crucial. We tend to feel
obligated to give what we get and maintain
equity in a relationship.
Sex difference in what we find
attractive: nature, nurture or both?
• Although physical attractiveness is important to both sexes when it comes to
choosing our romantic partners, it’s especially important to men (Buunk et al.,
2002; Feingold, 1992).
• David Buss (1989) conducted a comprehensive survey of mate preferences among
heterosexuals in 37 cultures across six continents, with countries as diverse as
Canada, Spain, Finland, Greece, Bulgaria, Venezuela, Iran, Japan, and South Africa.
• Although he found that the importance people attach to physical attractiveness
varies across cultures, men consistently place more weight on looks in women
than women do in men. Men also prefer women who are somewhat younger than
they are.
• Conversely, Buss found that women tend to place more emphasis than do men on
having a partner with a high level of financial resources. In contrast to men,
women prefer partners who are somewhat older than they are.
• Still, men and women value most of the same things. Both sexes put a premium on
having a partner who’s intelligent, dependable, and kind (Buss, 1994)
• Evolutionary theory of attraction: Evolutionary
psychologists contend, men are on the lookout for cues
of potential health and fertility such as physical
attractiveness and youth. Women, in contrast, have to
bear the consequences of the meting union and so
they must be choosy. Women tend to pursue a mating
strategy that maximizes the chances that the man
with whom they mate will provide well for their
offspring. Hence, women prefer men who are well off
monetarily and a bit more experienced in the ways of
life (Buunk et al., 2002).
• Social role theory: Because men tend to be bigger and stronger compared with
women, they’ve more often ended up playing the roles of hunter, food provider,
and warrior. Moreover, because men don’t bear children, they have considerable
opportunities to pursue high-status positions. In contrast, because women bear
children, they’ve more often ended up playing the role of child care provider and
have been more limited in pursuing high-status positions. Some of these
differences in traditional roles may help to explain men’s and women’s
different mate preferences. For example, because women have typically held
fewer high status positions than men have, they may have preferred men who are
dependable financial providers (Eagly et al., 2004).
• Consistent with social role theory, men and women have become more similar in
their mate preferences over the past half century (Buss et al., 2001), perhaps
reflecting the increasing social opportunities for women across that time period.
So although nature may channel men and women into somewhat different roles
and therefore different mate preferences, nurture may shape these roles and
preferences in significant ways.
• Which person are we more likely to find
attractive: (a) someone who’s exotic, unusual,
or distinctive in some way or (b) someone
who’s just plain average?