People-pleasing

will kill your

hopes and
dreams.
Dun dun dun…

Ok, that’s a pretty

dramatic intro,
but I really do
believe it’s true.
 Pretty much
everyone I know
struggles with
people pleasing to
some degree or
another.
Fundamentally, we have
a need as humans to be
liked and accepted (if
we are, it will up our
chances of survival, after
all!) so it makes sense
that we would want to
please others so that we
can hopefully… be more
liked and accepted.
To add to this
tendency, I read
recently that 50% of
people cite Words of
Affirmation as their
Love Language (from
Gary Chapman’s
excellent book ‘The
Five Love Languages’).
A lot of people would
say that people-
pleasing is caused by
insecurity or low-self
esteem.

But I think it comes

from a lack of self-
trust.
 When you don’t trust
yourself, you can’t trust
others, either. That’s why
you’re always needing
them to affirm you.

And when you can’t trust

them to accept you even if
they don’t agree with you or
you don’t do everything that
you THINK that they want…
…you’ll try to please
them.

Even if it means
sacrificing what you
really want (AKA
your hopes and
dreams)...
If you want to stop
people-pleasing, you
should join us for my
weekly email, The
Saturday Success
Story.

The link’s in the

comments.

@cassagrant