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Topic 1
Topic 1
Characteristics of helpers
Combs and his coworkers studied some basic beliefs about people and self-help by
contrasting various helpers from counseling, teaching, and the ministry with non-
helpers. The helpers perceived other people as able rather than unable to solve their
own problems and manage their lives. Other people were perceived also as
dependable, friendly, and worthy. Helpers had self-perceptions and traits distinct from
non-helpers, such as identification with people rather than things, adequate capacity to
cope with problems, rather than lack of problem-solving ability, and more self-revelation
and willingness to be themselves than self-concealing.
Rogers (1980) concluded that the helper’s theory and method were far less important
for an effective helping relationship than manifestations of the helper’s attitude. Rogers
also noted that it was the helpee’s perception of the helper’s attitudes that made a
difference in effectiveness. Research has confirmed that the helpful person needs to be
attractive, friendly person, someone with whom you feel comfortable, and someone
whose opinions you value. The helpful person inspires confidence and trust.
Professional helpers agreed that they must be examples of mature, actualized, well-
functioning people themselves. There must care deeply about themselves as well as
about others.
1. Helper empathy.
This is the principal route to understanding helpees and allowing them to feel
understood. It is important for the helper to see the world of the helpee as he/she
perceives it a.k.a. “the internal frame of reference”. While exercising empathy the
helper should not lose his/her own identity or objectivity. Empathy involves two
stages, firstly, is the “feeling into” experience. The second is more of a conitive
awareness of being in the place of the helpee, seeing the world as the helpees
sees it.
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Some helpers refer of warmth and caring as mild types of non-possessive love
for the helpee that meets needs of response and affection.
3. Helper openness.
At the beginning of a helping relationship the helpee is encouraged to disclose
their thoughts and feelings freely to the helper. This disclosure is related to the
helper’s openness. However, openness is paradoxical in that too much self-
revelation by the helper confuses the issue is to who is the helpee and who is the
helper. As a guideline, the helper should reveal only enough of himself/herself to
facilitate the helpee’s self-disclosure at the level of functioning desired.
6. Communication competence
Since helping is so dependent on clear communication, it follows that a key
characteristic of the effective helper is communication competence. Bandler and
Grinder (1982) indicate how helping clarifies helpees’ sentences, gives helpees
better ways to describe themselves, and provides them with sharper descriptive
thoughts about their problems.
7. Intentionality
Ivey’s (1994) concept of intentionality describes a helper who is capable of
choosing responses to helpees from a wide range of possibilities. It is assumed
that there is no one right helping response to a person.
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Helper personal characteristics
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6. Strong sense of ethics
Helpers keep confidential matters to themselves and will not divulge them to
others unless
those matters are considered as materials that must be released by court order.
Helpers will do nothing to harm the helpees.
7. Responsibility
Responsible helper behavior is knowing when to forestall self-revelations or
expressions of feeling. One of the great dilemmas of helping is that we can’t be
helpful if helpees are not open, yet the most helpful thing we might do is to
discourage them from reveling too much about themselves.