Questions to reflect on What is marriage and is it necessary?

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Sadhguru

1. What does Sadhguru mean when saying, “Marriage looks like a

bondage and chain?”
- He uses bondage and chain to symbolise how some people feel
that the thought of marriage restrains their sense of freedom.
Especially for young people (juvenile).

2. Sadhguru states the following, “I think a partnership should be

formed when you are at the peak of your wellbeing.” Which
arguments does he make on the case?
- That a person who is not in a good state of mind will seek
companionship out of desperation which makes for an
unhealthy foundation for a relationship.
3. Reflect on the following, “Gautama the Buddha said, “It’s better
to walk alone than to walk with a fool.” I am saying: if you find
a similar fool, then something can be worked out.” What do you
think about these two approaches?
- Sadhguru believes that the important thing when finding a
partner is knowing what you expect from a relationship and
having both individuals agree on that. Someone who thinks
differently is not necessarily a fool, but rather just not the right
match. Therefore, if you are equally “foolish” it could still work
out. The important factor is realising your specific needs and
wants for a marriage.

4. “The body imbibes and retains experiences beyond the memory

that you carry in your mind.” What is Sadhguru’s point?
- Sadhguru puts forward the point of multiple sexual partners
affecting the intuition of a person. In Sadhguru’s opinion, the
mind and body have a natural affinity for recognising what feels
and is right, but it will become harder to rely on such intuition if
the body experiences too many impressions from different
people. He believes that the mind and body is connected, and
that having multiple partners will confuse the mind when trying
to find a correct partner.
5. Reflect on the following quote, “If someone on the street steps
on your feet, you will react in a different way, because everyone
is watching. But in this relationship, no one is watching, so
anything can happen.” Do you agree? What is the point that
Sadhguru wants to get across?
- Sadhguru believes that it can be harder to understand, interpret
and act on what happens between two individuals in private.
There are two factors essential to his point. One is that a person
will act a certain way if multiple people overlook them being
“stepped upon”, because people tend to care about other
people’s opinion. Which is not a bad thing. The other factor is
living and being with someone can be complex to understand. It
is difficult to always understand what is right or wrong.
Therefore, the couple can only rely on each other to figure
things out between them and build a relationship that they both
thrive in. Essentially, Sadhguru is building arguments to support
his overall thesis, that not two people or two relationships are
the same, and that to have success in a relationship means
understanding and knowing who you are.
 6. Sadghuru uses nails and screws to symbolise commitment in a
relationship. Why does he think screws are better than nails,
and why has it changed over the course of time?
- A screw can be removed without causing major damage to the
objects that it holds together. In this analogy the objects held
together describe two individuals and the screw/nail symbolises
their commitment to each other. On the one hand, Sadhguru
does not believe it is constructive to discuss divorce before
marriage, but on the other hand, he understands that divorce is
sometimes inevitable, especially for modern couples. His point
is that a person should keep their individuality, even when in a
committed relationship. He believes that, given something
occurs that causes a divorce, it is unhealthy if you are invested
in such a way that breaking up will break you apart and scar you
for life - just how removing a nail from a piece of wood often
will.

Text: https://isha.sadhguru.org/us/en/wisdom/article/what-is-marriage

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