eS=kh çKk

&vks'kks fl¼kFkZ
 vuqØekad

1- eS=kh D;k gS\

2- lE;d~ lEeku
3- lE;d~ nkf;Ro
4- lE;d~ iz'kalk
5- lE;d~ mnkjrk
6- lE;d~ {kek
7- lE;d~ eaxy
8- lE;d~ vgksHkko
 vè;k; 1
eS=kh D;k gS\ (What is Friendship?)
1-1 izKk&lw=k

gS cM+h ckr eS=kh tx esa] Hkhrj foJke rFkkrk gSA

gj iy gfj esa jguk lqfeju] feV tkuk gh HkxoÙkk gSA
tks mBk f'k[kj&lk pw.kZ gqvk] tks 'kwU; gqvk] og iw.kZ gqvkA
vFk 'kwU;a 'kj.ka xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA
a
dqN O;fDr ftUnxh esa vkrs] cjxn&lh mudh N¡ko e/qjA
rqe J¼k ls Hkj ldrs gks] ;fn eS=kh dk gks Hkko e/qjA
J¼k djrh fuj vgadkj] eS=kh thou dh gS cgkjA
vFk mRlo Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

gS ÀkkS;Z ugha] gS /S;Z ughaa] gS lR; ugha] gS Àkhy ughaA

[kqn dks tks I;kj ugha djrs] gks ldrs vPNs ehr ughaA
,sls dqlafx;ksa ls cpuk] fuHkZ;] fu%Àakd gkssdj jgukA
fu"daia Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

thou es fdrus ehr feys] dqN vk,] fdrus NwV x,A

fdrus I;kyksa ls fi;k tke] dqN jgs vkSj dqN VwV x,A
tks VwVs mudk D;k djuk] tks gSa muls vc e; ihukA
larks"ak Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA
1-2 eS=kh D;k gS\ What is friendship?
(i) lkfUuè; dk et+k vkSj lEeku
Enjoying the company of others + respect
• fe=krk dk vk/kj lEeku gSA

(ii) viuRo dk Hkko

Sense of belongingness
• dgus dks dksbZ gekjk gS] rc rd gh ;g tx I;kjk gSA
• eS=kh dh tkrd dFkk] ckt vkSj ckftu
• ;kfu dkfu p fe=kkf.k] Ñrkfu 'krkfu pA
i'; ew"kdfe=kks.k] diksrk% eqDrcU/uk%AA
tks dksbZ Hkh gksa] lSdM+kas fe=k cukus pkfg;sA ns[kks] fe=k pwgs dh lgk;rk ls dcwrj
(tky ds)cU/u ls eqDr gks x;s FksA
&iapra=k

(iii) ikjLifjd ca/u

Interpersonal bond
• ;g dsoy nks yksxks ds chp fliQZ esy (asociation) ugha] vfirq ,d
ikjLifjd ca/u gSA

(iv)- fe=krk vkSj çse esa Hksn

• fe=krk fdlh nwljs ds lkfUuè; dk etk $ lEeku
Enjoying the company of other $ respect
 • çse = fdlh nwljs ds lkfUuè; dk etk $ vkd"kZ.k
Enjoying the company of other $ attraction
• eS=kh dk dsaæ] vk/kj lEeku gS] çse dk dsaæ] vk/kj jkx gSA
The basis of friendship is respect whereas the basis of
love is passion.

1-3 fe=krk dk egRo Importance of friendship

(i) ftUnxh dk fd+yk fe=krk ls etcwr gksrk gSA fe=krk djuk vkSj ikuk balku ds
thou dk lcls egku lq[k gSA &flMuh fLeFk
To be a friend and make friends is biggest joy of a man"s
life. - Sydney Smith

(ii) fe=krk çse ls Hkh c<+dj gS & vks'kks

Friendship is higher than Love. -Osho
(iii) fe=krk ls ge ges'kk meax esa jg ldrs gSaA
It makes us to remain in the state of thrill and exultation.
(iv) ftUnxh ds dfBure {k.kksa esa fe=k dk lg;ksx cke dh rjg dke djrk gSA
The true friendship acts as a balm during life"s adverse
circumstances.
(v) lE;d~ lg;ksx ;k lerjaxrkA
It creates synergy in the relationships.
1-4 fe=k dkSu\ Who is your friend?

(i) tks rqEgkjk dY;k.k lksps (dY;k.k fe=k)A

(The one who thinks about your welfare)
(ii) tks rqEgkjs fy, çfrc¼ gks (çfrc¼rk)A
(The one who is committed to you)
(iii) ftl ij rqe fo'okl djks vkSj tks rqe ij fo'okl djs (fo'okl)A
(The one on whom you can trust and who can trust on
you)
(iv) ftlds lkfUuè; dk rqe et+k yksA
(The one whose company you enjoy)
(v) ftlds ikl cSB dj le; dk cks/ u jgsA
(The one while sitting with whom the clock stops)

1-5 eS=kh ds fofHkUu vk;ke

Different paradigms of friendship
• ;ksx dh n`f"V ls eS=kh dk vk/kj Kku ;ksx gSSA
The basis of friendship is Gyan Yoga.
• xkSre cq¼&eS=kh ds lans'kokgdA
Gautam Buddha -The messenger of friendship
eS=kh ds rhu eq[; vk;ke gSaA
(i) ykSfdd eS=kh (Worldly friendship)
(i) v'kq¼ ykSfdd eS=khA dksbZ O;fDr rqEgkjs fy, egRoiw.kZ gSA
Active worldly friendship-Your friend is important for you.
 • 'kq¼ ykSfdd eS=khA rqe fdlh ds fy, egRoiw.kZ gksA Lo;a ds çfr lEekuA
Passive worldly friendship-You are important for your
friend. Respecting the self.

(ii) xq# ls eS=kh (Friendship with the Master)

• l v'kq¼ xkS.kh eS=kh = xq# dk lEeku $ vkRefoLej.k
Active friendship with the Master = Respecting the Master
$ Non-remembrance of self.
• l 'kq¼ xkS.kh eS=kh = xq# dk lEeku$vkReLej.k] xq# dh Ñik vius Åij
cjlrs gq, dk vuqHko djukA
Passive friendship with the Master=Respecting the
Master$Self-remembrance, to feel the blessings of master
showering on you.
(iii) xksfoUn ls eS=kh (Friendship with the God)
• v'kq¼ ijkeS=kh = fojkV ls eS=kh $ vkRefoLej.k
Cosmic active friendship=Friendship with the existence $
Non-remembrance of self.
• 'kq¼ ijkeS=kh = fojkV ls eS=kh$vkReLej.k
Cosmic passive friendship=Friendship with the existence $
Self-remembrance.
• ijekRek dh Ñik vius Åij cjlrs gq, dk vuqHko djukA
To feel the blessings of existence showering on you.
• ijekRek dks eaxye; tkurs gq, vius Lo/eZ dk ikyu djsaA
Knowing the existence full of benediction, act and follow
the righteous path.

1-6 lE;d~ fe=krk ds la?kVd Components of right friendship

• lE;d~ lEeku
• lE;d~ nkf;Ro
• lE;d~ ç'kalk
• lE;d~ mnkjrk
• lE;d~ {kek
• lE;d~ eaxy
• lE;d~ vgksHkko

1-7 lk/dksa ds vuqHko Experience of participants

• D;k vkius fdlh ls eS=kh dh gS\ vkidh n`f"V esa eS=kh ds fy, D;k&D;k
vko';d gS\
 vè;k; 2
lE;d~ lEeku (The Right Respect)
2-1 izKk&lw=k
gS ea=k Js"Bre eS=kh dk] vknj fcu gksrk lkFk ughaA
dqN ekus dksbZ /U;okn] uk ekus dksbZ ckr ughaA
oÀk esa djus dk Hkko vxj] eS=kh cu tk,xh [.MgjA
lEekua Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

lEeku vxj ns ldrs gks] rks gh eS=kh dk gkFk c<+kA

oÀk esa djus dk Hkko vxj] rks ugha fdlh ls lkFk c<+kA
lEeku fe=krk dk xguk] nqtZurk gS oÀk esa jukA
lTturk Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

fe=kksa dk eaMy cu tkrk] fe=krk ugha cu ikrh gSA

thou dh ÅtkZ yM+us esa] çfrfnu dqN pqdrh tkrh gSA
lEeku ugha vk/kj jgs] dSls fe=kksa esa I;kj c<+s\
vFk la?ka Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

laca/ ugha fVd ldrk ;fn] gksuk pkgs dksbZ gkohA

thou esa [kqf'k;¡k ykus dh] gS ugha 'khy tSlh pkHkhA
pkgrs vxj [kq'kgky jgks] rks ,d&nwts dk [;ky djksA
ln~Hkkoa Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA
2-2 lE;d~ lEeku D;k gS\ What is right respect?
(i) ân; ls mBk gqvk ldkjkRed Hkko ftleas nwljs ds çfr vknj vkSj J¼k gksA
vkSj ;g Hkko vkidh ckrksa vkSj O;ogkj nksuksa ls t+kfgj gksA
Respect is a positive feeling of esteem or deference for a
person or other entity. It is reflected both from your speech
as well as conduct.
(ii) lEeku nsuk ,d f'k"Vrk gS] laLdkj gS] oSY;w gSA
It is a manner, it is a value, it is a virtue.
(iii) vxj lEeku ysus pkgrs gks rks lEeku nsuk lh[kksA
if you want to get respect, give respect.
Remember respect is earned.
(iv) vyx vyx laLÑfr;ksa esa vyx&vyx rjg ls lEeku nsus dh çFkkA
Different methods of giving respect in different cultures.

2-3 lEeku dk egRo Importance of Respect

(i) fe=krk dh uhao lEeku ij vk/kfjr gSA

Respect is the foundation of friendship.
(ii) lEeku ysus dk Hkko vkneh ds psruk esa cgqr xgjk vkSj lw{e gSA
eSLyks dh fgjkjdh vkWiQ uhM~l dk pkSFkk vk;keA
To get respect is deeply embedded in the human
consciousness. It is the fourth dimension of Maslow"s
hierarchy of needs.
(iii) laokn esa lgk;dA
Useful in dialogue
(iv) nwljksa dk fo'okl thrus esa lgk;dA
Helps in winning confidence of others.
(iv) vlqj{kk dh euksn'kk ls xzg.k'khyrk dh vksjA
It changes atmosphere of insecurity into receptivity

2-4 lEeku ds fofHkUu vk;ke Different paradigms of respect

(i) cM+ksa ds çfr

Towards elders
(ii) NksVks ds çfr
Towards children
(iii) ckWl] lgdehZ ,oa v/huLFk dfeZ;ksa ds çfrA
Towards boss, colleagues and subordinates
(vi) ifr&iRuh ds çfr
Towards husband and wife
(v) vtufc;ksa ds çfr
Toward strangers
(iv) tho tarqvksa ds çfr
Towards plants and animals
(vii) futhZo oLrqvksa ds çfr
Towards non-living things
(viii) xq# ds çfr
Towards the Master
(ix) lexz vfLrRo ds çfr
Towards the existence

2-5 lEEkku ds 10 Lof.kZe fu;e The 10 golden rules of

respect

(i) nwljksa ds lkFk oSlk O;ogkj djsaA tSlk vki vius fy, pkgrs gSaA
Treat others as you want to be treated.
(ii) Lo;a dk lEeku] vkRe lEekuA Lo;a ds çfr vkRe lEeku ls HkjsaA
Self respect.
(iii) vlekurkvksa dk lEekuA
Valuing the differences.
(iv) nwljksa ds xq.kksa dh vksj ut+jA
Look what is good in others.
(v) ç'kalk cks/A
Sense of appreciation.
(vi) nwljs dh #fp;ksa esa :fp fn[kk,aA
Show interest in others.
(vii) nwljs dks mlds uke ls iqdkjsaA
Call others by their name.
(viii) lE;d~ laoknA
Right communication.
(ix) uiQjr cqjkbZ ls djsa] balku ls ughaA
Dislike the ill in others but not the man.
(x) Vdjko ;k >xM+s dh fLFkfr esa fookn dks leL;k dh tM+ ekusa] O;fDr dks
ughaA
In a conflict, recognçe that the issue is probably the
problem, not the person.

2-6 lk/dksa ds vuqHko

Experience of participants
• l D;k vki yksxksa dks lEeku nsrs gSa\ D;k blls eS=kh dh xq.koÙkk
vkSj fe=kksa dh la[;k esa o`f¼ gqbZ gS\
 vè;k; 3
lE;d~ nkf;Ro (The Right Responsibility)
3-1 izKk&lw=k
thus dh nks gh ÀkSyh gaS] pkHkh cu tk vFkok rkykA
viuh fdLer [kqn vki cuk] ;k cSB tiks baÀkkvYykA
laca/ks esa u dHkh my>ks] thou gS çokgeku le>ksA
nkf;Roa Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

;g txr ,d m|e leku] O;fDr mldk mRikn ,dA

er O;FkZ nks"k <aw<+ks mlesa] lc esa ve`r dk Lokn ,dA
nkf;Ro u viuk Vkjks rqe] viuh j.kuhfr lq/kjks rqeA
j.kuhfr Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

viuk nkf;Ro fuHkkus esa] Yk{e.k js[kk er ikj djksA

rqe igy djks] ysfdu vkSjksa dk guu ugha vf/dkj djksA
gks ÀkkS;Z] /S;Z dk esy dqÀky] py ldrk rHkh [ksy laqnjA
vFk /S;± Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

ekuk ekSle dk ;ksx Hkh gS] feV~Vh&ikuh dqN djrk gSA

ij o`{k ogh iQy nsrk gS] ekyh tks cht yxkrk gSA
blfy, deZ dh fçQd djks] er O;FkZ HkkX; dk ftØ djksA
vFk de± Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeA
3-2 lE;d~ nkf;Ro D;k gS\ What is right responsibility?

(i) O;fD;ksa vkSj vius dkeksa ds çfr ftEesnkfj;ksa dks iw.kZrk ls fuokZg djukA
Fulfilling your responsibility with totality.
(ii) mÙkjnkf;Ro cks/A
Sense of accountability.
(iii) vius gLrk{kj igpkuukA
Recognçing the outcome of your past deeds or Karmas.
(iv) okns djuk vkSj fuHkkukA
Making and keeping promises.
(v) fcuk fdls nwljs dh fuxjkuh ds LosPNk ls fd;s gq, deZA
The ability or authority to act or decide on one's own,
without supervision.
(vi) nwljksa ds çfr çfrc¼rkA
Commitment towards others.
(vii) drZO; vkSj nkf;Ro esa HksnA
Difference between duty and responsibility.

3-3 lE;d~ nkf;Ro dk egRo Importance of right responsibility

(i) fo'oluh;rk
Builds trust.
(ii) beks'kuy cSad vdkmaV dks lqn`<+ djrh gS] vkSj laca/ksa esa feBkl ykrh gSA
Builds up emotional bank account.
(iii) deZ cks> ugha] vfirq ,d [ksy
The work becomes a play.
(iv) usr`Ro {kerk dk fodkl
It cultivates the spirit of leadership.

3-4 lE;d~ nkf;Ro ds Lof.kZe fu;e The golden rules of

right responsibility
(i) çks,fDVo cusaA
Be proactive.
(ii) deZ djrs gq, deZ dk eT+kk ysaA
Enjoy the work you are doing.
(iii) enn ds fy, ges'kk rRijA
Going an extra mile for help.
(iv) lsok HkkoA
Service is God.
(v) fu"BkiwoZd deksaZ dk fuokZgA
Fulfilling your work with dedication.
(vi) dsoy 'kCn ugha vfirq deZA
Action speaks louder than words.
3-5 lk/dksa ds vuqHko Experience of participants

• D;k vki nkf;Ro ysrs gSa\ D;k blls eS=kh dh xq.koÙkk vkSj fe=kksa dh la[;k esa
o`f¼ gqbZ gS\
 vè;k; 4
lE;d~ iz'kalk (The Right Praise)
4-1 izKk&lw=k
nqfu;k tSlh gS mldh gS] ou ;g¡k rks jsfxLrku ogk¡A
dqN lTtu gSa] dqN nqtZu gSa] nksuksa dk dj lEeku ;g¡kA
dqN vxj vU;Fkk pkg jgs] çHkq dks gh dgha udkj jgsA
vFk J¼k Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

ge çFke feyu esa fdruk mRlqd gksdj fç; ls feyrs gSaA

fiQj [kRe xeZtksÀkh gks tkrh ckj&ckj tc feyrs gSaA
gj feyu u;k gS feyu tku] igys tSlk nks çse&ekuA
lEekua Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

rqe Hkh thrks eSa Hkh thrwa dk Hkko ugha ;fn eu esa gksA
laca/ ugha py ldrk gS] lEEkku ugha ;fn eu esa gksA
rqe ik ldrs Hkxoku ugha] xq# ds çfr ;fn lEeku ughaA
lEekua Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

thou dh viuh iqLrd dks] dksbZ [ksys lEeku djksA

er fdlh vaÀk dks xyr crk dj FkksM+k Hkh vieku djksA
g¡k] iwNs rks O;k[;k djuk] ?kVuk dk lR; crk nsukA
vFk lR;a Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA
4-2 ç'kalk D;k gS\ What is praise?
(i) nwljksa ds ln~xq.kksa dh ljkguk djukA
Praise refers to positive evaluations made by a person of
another's products, performances, or attributes.
(ii) nwljksa ds Hkhrj dh çfrHkk dks ljkgukA
Appreciating the latent talents of others.
(iii) çksRlkgu nsukA
Encouraging others.
ekuo esa tks dqN loksZÙke gS mldk fodkl ç'kalk rFkk çksRlkgu ls fd;k tk ldrk
gSA &pkYlZ'osrsA

4-3 ç'kalk dk egRo Importance of praise

(i) lE;d~ n`f"VA

Right Paradigm.
(ii) nwljs dks çlUurk vkSj Lo;a dks [+kq'khA
Makes others as well as you happier.
ekuo çÑfr esa lcls xgjk fu;e ç'kalk çkIr djus dh ykylk gSA
&fofy;e tsEl
& eSLyks dh fgjkjdh dk pkSFkk fu;e
(iii) okrkZyki dks 'kq: djus vkSj u, fe=k cukus esa lgk;dA
Complimenting a stranger is a great way to open up a
conversation and make new friends.
(iv) beks'kuy cSad vdkmaV dks lqn`<+ djrh gS] vkSj laca/kas esa feBkl ykrh gSA
Builds up emotional bank account.
(v) ç'kalk eksfVos'ku dk dke djrh gS vkSj nwljksa dh çfrHkk dks fu[kkjrh gSA
Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs.
-8th Habit by Stephen R. Covey.

4-4 ç'kalk ds dqN Lof.kZe lw=k

The golden rules of praise

(i) ç'kalk djsa] pkiywlh ugha

Do not be sycophant
esjh pkiywlh djks] vkSj eSa vki ij Hkjkslk ugha d#axkA
esjh vkykspuk djks] vkSj eSa vkidks ilan ugha d#axkA
esjh mis{kk djks] vkSj eSa vkidks ekiQ ugha d#axkA
eq>s çksRlkfgr djks] vkSj eSa dHkh vkidks ugha Hkwywaxk
---fofy;e vkWFkZjokMZ
(ii) ç'kalk lp ij vk/kfjr gks] >wB ij ughaA
Find something you genuinely like about the person
m"Vªk.kka fookgs"kq] xhra xk;fUr xnZHkk% A
ijLija ç'kalfUr] vgks :ia vgks èofu% A
(Å¡Vksa ds fookg esa x/s xhr xk jgs gSaA ,d&nwljs dh ç'kalk dj jgs gSa] vgk! D;k
:i gS\ vgk! D;k vkokt gS\)
(iii) ç'kalk FkksM+s 'kCnksa esa gh djsa] Lrqfrxku u djsaA
 Be specific while praising
(iv) ç'kalk dks iQSyus nsa] datwl er cusA
Spread your compliments out among more than one
person, too.
(v) ç'kalk dsoy ml ckr dh gh u djsa tks lcdks fn[k jgh gSA ç'kalk ml pht+
dh Hkh djsa tks FkksM+h&lh vçR;{k gSA
Non-obvious compliments are the kind that people
remember and cherish for the rest of their lives.
mFkyh ;k fNNyh ç'kalk u djsa cfYd ldkjkRed xq.kksa dks ljkgsaA
(Do not give shallow compliments.k~ Complimenting
people on their specific positive attributes goes a lot
further).
(vi) vxj dksbZ vkidh ç'kalk djsa rks mldk vkHkkj O;Dr djsaA
Acknowledge if someone praises you.
(vii) ç'kalk eqLdqjkdj djsa] gal ds ughaA
Smile, but don"t laugh,
(viii) ç'kalk djrs oDr nwljs O;fDr dh vk¡[kksa esa vk¡[kas Mkydj ckr djsa vkSj
viuh vkokt (Vksu) dk è;ku j[ksaA
Watch your eye contact and tone.

4-5 lk/dksa ds vuqHko Experience of participants

• D;k fdlh us vkidh iz'kalk dh gS\ D;k blls vkids thou esa fu[kkj vk;k gS\
• D;k vkius fdlh dh iz'kalk dh gS\ D;k blls mlds thou esa fu[kkj vk;k gS\
 vè;k; 5
lE;d~ mnkjrk (The Right Generously)
5-1 izKk&lw=k
gS cM+h ckr nks ehr ftUnxh Hkj vkil esa I;kj djsaA
ysfdu ækSinh] Ñ".k] vtZqu] gSa oUnuh; lalkj dgsA
ftldk fny ftruk gS mnkj] og mruk tx esa djs I;kjA
vkSnk;± Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

thou ds cgq f=kdks.kksa esa] tks lk{kh gksdj jgrk gS A

og ik ysrk viuh eafty] cq¼ksa dk vuqHko dgrk gSA
tx ls ikrk gS ogh I;kj] tks thrk gS jgdj mnkjA
vkSnk;± Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

,dkf/dkj esa ca/u gS] ,dkf/dkj esa fgalk gSA

vkSnk;Za isze dk i;kZ;] lp ekuks ;gh vfgalk gSA
tks gqvk mnkj ugha vc rd] gS ugha I;kj dk mldks gdA
vkSnk;± Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

gSa meM+ ?kVk,a jgha] foÀo dk f{kfrt ygw ls yky gqvkA

dV~Vj&mnkj leqnk;ksa esa] yxrk foHkÙkQ lalkj gqvkA
gS i¡kptU; ctus okyk] fiQj foÀo ;q¼ fNM+us okykA
HkforO;a Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA
5-2 lE;d~ mnkjrk D;k gS\ What is Generosity?
lE;d~ mnkjrk dks le>us ds fy, igys gesa ladh.kZ ekufldrk dks le>uk t:jh
gSA
Let us first understand the dffierence between narrow mentality
and abundance mentality.
ladh.kZ ekufldrk mnkj ekufldrk
Narrow Mentality Abundance Mentality
1- NksVh lksp 1- cM+h lksp] nwjn`f"V
Myopic Vision Long Vision
2- eksg] esjk vkSj esjkiu dk Hkko 2- eSa ls ge] gekjk] fo'kky ân;
Attachment, My and Mine. From I to We
3- datwl ço`fr 3- fo'kky ân;] nkuh LoHkko
Miser Big heart, Philanthropist
4- nwljksa ls dEiVh'ku] nwljksa dk vkadyu ,oa 4- dEiVh'ku Lo;a ls] nwljs ds fy, eaxy
bZ";kZA dkeuk djuk
Competing with others, Competition with the self,
evaluating others and jealousy evaluating self
and thinking good of others.
5- ysus dk Hkko 5- cs'krZ nsus dk Hkko Giving mindset
Mindset of taking or without
expecting from others- any expectations.
6- çfrc¼rk dh deh çfrc¼rk
Non-commitment Commitment
7- fo'oluh;rk dh deh Distrust 7- fo'oluh;rk Trust
8- vfrfFk;ksa dk lRdkj cq>s eu ls 8- vfrfFk;ksa dk lRdkj iwjs fny ls Likes
Does not like to entertain the to entertain the guests
guests vfrfFk nsoks Hko
9- vlaosnu'khy 9- laosnu'khy
Insensitive Sensitive
5-3 mnkjrk dk egÙo Importance of abundance mentality

(i) pqacdh; O;fDrRo & fe=k cukus esa lgk;dA

Magnetic Personality- Helps to win many friends.

(ii) mnkjfpr O;fDr nwljs dks [kqf'k;ka vkSj vkuan nsrk gS vkSj mlds Lo;a ds vkuan
esa Hkh o`f¼ gksrh gSA vki tSlk bl lalkj dks nsrs gks oSlk gh ikrs gksA
Giving joy and happiness to others. Remember world is an
echo point.

(iii) mnkjfpr O;fDr lnk meax esa jgrk gSA

Lives in exultation.

(iv) tc mnkjfpr O;fDr bl nqfu;k ls fonk gksrk gS rks og vius ihNs egkurk dh
fojklr NksM+ ds tkrk gSA
Leaves the legacy of greatness. Live, Love, Laugh, Leave
a Legacy. Stephen R. Covey.

5-4 lE;d~ mnkjrk ds Lof.kZe lw=k

The golden rules of abundance mentality

(i) eksg] bZ";kZ vkSj }s"k ls eqfDr ds mik;A

Get rid of attachment, jealousy and enviousness.
(ii) ckaVus vkSj nku nsus dk et+k ysaA
Enjoy sharing and charity.
(iii) lkj vkSj vlkj esa Hksn djuk lh[ksaA
Learn to discriminate
(galk rks eksrh pqxs) foosd'khy cusa
Cultivate wisdom
(iv) nwljksa ds fy, {kek HkkoA
Forgive others.

5-5 lk/dksa ds vuqHko Experience of participants

• D;k dHkh vkius mnkjrk dk ifjp; fn;k gS\ D;k blls eS=kh dh xq.koÙkk vkSj
fe=kksa dh la[;k esa o`f¼ gqbZ gS\
 vè;k; 6
lE;d~ {kek (The Right Forgiveness)
6-1 izKk&lw=k
gS ugha vfgalk&lh çKk] er dHkh fdlh dk ân; nq[kkA
nq[k gqvk ;kj dh ckrksa ls] rks {kek djks] er djks fxykA
lksuk vfXu esa rirk gS] D;k lqUnj :i fujrk gS!
vFk {kekfg Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

ftldks rqe viuk dgrs gks] og Hkh dj nsrk gS çgkjA

gksxk dqN ;ksx rqEgkjk Hkh] ojuk D;ksa >xM+k djs ;kjA
fÀkdos dk vc flyflyk u gks] gene ls dksbZ fxyk u gksA
vfÀkdk;r Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

D;k lqudj bZlk dk u opu] ikih dks lcus ekiQ fd;k\

iRFkj og ekjs ftlus thou esa u dHkh gS iki fd;kA
,slk dksbZ gS ugha iki] çkFkhZ dks dj u ldks ekiQA
vFk {kekfg Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

ns[kk gS fdrus nksLrksa dks] dqN ckr gqbZ yM+ tkrs gSaA
cjlksa dk çse Hkqyk nsrs] ,d&nwts ls dV tkrs gSaA
iszeh dks er ihM+k nsuk] gj :Bk ;kj euk ysukA
vFk eS=kh Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA
6-2 lE;d~ {kek D;k gS\ What is right forgiveness?

(i) fdlh ds }kjk fd;s x, vijk/ ;k xyrh ij LosPNk ls mlds çfr HksnHkko vkSj
Øks/ dks lekir dj nsuk] cxSj bl fiQØ ds fd nwljk rqEgkjh {kek ds dkfcy gS ;k
ugha\
Forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate decision to release
feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or
group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they
actually deserve your forgiveness.

^cqf¼ekfJrkuka rq {kUrO;eijkf/uke~A
u fg loZ=k ikf.MR;a lqyHka iq#"ks.k oSAA*
&egkHkkjr
vutkus esa vFkkZr~ leqfpr~ lksp&fopkj fd, fcuk ftUgksaus vijk/ fd;k gks mudk
vijk/ {kek fd;k tkuk pkfg,] D;ksafd gj ekSds ;k LFkku ij le>nkjh euq"; dk
lkFk nas tk, ,slk gks ugha ikrk gSA
(ii) {kek dk eryc esy&feyki ugha] u gh fdlh dks ml ds fd;s gq, vijk/k ls
cjh djuk gS\
Forgiveness does not mean settlement or reconciliation
between two parties or pardoning the other from the
seriousness of ffoence.
(iii) {kek dk vlyh edln LokUrk&lq[kk; gSA
The real purpose of forgiveness is inner peace.
(iv) detksj vkneh {kek ugha dj ldrk] dsoy mnkjfpr O;fDr gh {kek dj
ldrk gS\
The weak cannot forgive, it is the virtue of stronger men.

6-3 {kek dk ik=k dkSu\ Who deserves forgiveness?

(i) ftlus rqEgkjh gkfu djuh pkghA
The one who has harmed you.
(ii) ftlus rqEgkjk vieku fd;kA
The one who has insulted you.
(iii) tks rqEgkjh vis{kk ij [kjk ugha mrjkA
The one who has not fulfilled your expectations.
(iv) ftlls rqEgsa bZ";kZ gSA
The one with whom you are jealous.

6-4 lE;d~ {kek dk egÙo Importance of right forgiveness

(i) eu dh 'kkafrA
For Peace of mind.
^lUrks"k% ijeks ykHk% lRlax% ijek xfr% A
fopkj% ijea Kkua {kes ijea lq[ke~AA*
(ii) Øks/ vkSj }s"k ls eqfDrA
For freedom from anger and vengeance
(iii) vPNs LokLFk; ds fy,A
For a better healthy life.
(iv) lEcU/ksa esa e/qjrkA
For sweetening the relationships.
(v) ;q¼ksa dk Vkyk tkukA
For averting the war.
(vi) vkè;kfRed mUufr esa lgk;dA
For spiritual progress.
6-5 {kek ds Lof.kZe lw=k
The golden rules of right forgiveness.

^/`fr {kek neksLrs;a] 'kkSpa bfUæ;fuxzg%A

/hfoZ|k lR;a vØks/ks] nlda /eZ y{k.ke~AA*
vFkZ & /eZ ds nl y{k.k gSa - /S;Z] {kek] la;e] pksjh u djuk] LoPNrk] bfUæ;ksa dks
o'k esa j[kuk] cqf¼] fo|k] lR; vkSj Øks/ u djukA
&euqLe`fr
(i) rFkkrk
Total acceptance
(ii) nwljs dk lEeku
Respecting other
(iii) Lo;a ls çse
Love yourself
(iv) lekuqHkwfr dk Hkko
Cultivate the sense of empathy
(v) ,ojsV ofFkaZxVu dk jhp esFkM
Reach Method of Everett Worthington

Recall the hurt

Empathçe with the one who hurt you
Altruistic gift of forgiveness, ffoer
Commitment to forgive, make
Hold on to the forgiveness
6-6 {kek ds fy, NksVh lh è;ku fof/
A small meditation for forgiveness

(i) dqN nsj ds fy, vk¡[ksa can djds ns[ksa fd fdl ds fy, rqEgkjs Hkhrj Øks/ vkSj
}s"k gSA
For two minutes just close your eyes and watch for whom
you have feeling of anger and jealousy.
(ii) iRuh] ifr] ek¡& cki] csVk] csVh] HkkbZ] cfgu] lxs- laca/h] fe=k] iMkslh] ckWl]
lgdehZ vkfnA
Wife, Husband, Parents, son, Daughter, Brother, Sister,
Relatives, Friends, Neighbourers, Boss, Colleagues etc.
(iii) vc iwjs ?kVukØe dks vki fiQj ls ;kn djks& ftl dkj.k rqe ml balku dks
ekiQ ugha dj ik jgsA
Now remember the whole incidence for which you have
not forgiven the other person.
(iv) vc ml ?kVuk dks ;kn djus ds ckn ml balku dh vk¡[kksa esa ns[kks] FkksM+k
eqLdqjkvks vkSj mls ekiQ dj nksA
After remembering the whole incidence, look into the eyes
of that person, smile and forgive him.
(v) Hkko djsa dh vkids ân; ls {kek dh rjaxsa ml balku rd igq¡p jgh gSaA
Just feel the energy of forgiveness emanating from your
heart and reaching to that person.
(vi) vxj ml balku ls rqEgkjh fe=krk laHko gS rks fiQj eS=kh dk gkFk c<+kvks
vU;Fkk mls çseiwoZd fonk dj nksA
If you feel the relationship with the other person can be
continued then extend your hand of friendship. If the
relationship with that person is no more feasible then give
him a loving farewell.

6-7 lk/dksa ds vuqHko Experience of participants

• D;k dHkh vki {kek fd, x, gSa\ {keknku dk vkidk vuqHko dSlk jgk\
• D;k vkius dHkh fdlh dks {kek fd;k gS\ {keknku dk vkidk vuqHko dSlk
jgk gS\
 vè;k; 7
lE;d~ eaxy (The Right Wellness)
7-1 izKk&lw=k
rqe deZ djks ysfdu lkspks] tks Hkh gksxk vPNk gksxkA
og vkt Hkys çfrdwy yxs] dy fu'p; gh vPNk gksxkA
tx dk tks Hkh gS fuekZrk] eaxy dh vksj fy, tkrkA
HkforO;a Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vks'kks 'kj.ak xPNkfeAA

eulk] okpk] deZ.kk dHkh] dVqrk thou esa er ykvksA

lcdk eaxy lkspks çfriy] eaxy ds xhr lnk xkvksA
lcls ehBh ok.kh cksyks] lcls I;kjk ukrk tksM+ksA
'kqHk dkeuk Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

er jksdj thou nq[kh djks] [kqÀk jgdj lcdks lq[kh djksA

[kqn g¡lks fd ,slh gok cgs] eLrksa dk ,d dkfiQyk pysA
lR;a] fÀkoa] lqqanje~ cuks] lqna] ojna] eaxye~ cuksA
vFk mRlo Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

xq# gS lPPkk dY;k.k fe=k] og lnk gh eaxydkjh gSA

ij vkSj lar Hkh gksrs dqN] ftudh laxr fgrdkjh gSA
mÙke iq#"kksa dk lax Hkyk] nsrs J¼k dk nhi tykA
iq#"kksÙke Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vks'kks 'kj.ak xPNkfeAA
7-2 eaxy D;k gS\ What is Wellness?

(i) 'kqHkrk dh Hkkouk

Feeling of auspiciousness
fdlh dk 'kqHk ;k vuqdwy lkspuk ;k fdlh ds fy, 'kqHk ;k vuqdwy djukA
losZ HkoUrq lqf[ku% losZ lUrq fujke;kA
losZ Hkækf.k i';Urq ek df'pRnq%[kHkkXHkosrA
(lHkh lq[kh gksa] lHkh fujksxh jgsa] lHkh eaxye; ?kVukvksa ds lk{kh cusa vkSj fdlh dks
Hkh nq%[k dk Hkkxh u cuuk iM+sA)
(ii) çse dk iQSyko
Expansion of love
eaxy dk Hkko Hkkjr dh laLÑfr esa bruk xgjk gS fd gekjs fo"k;ksa us iwjs lalkj dks
viuk ?kj ekuk vkSj lcds fy, eaxy dkeuk dhA
^olq/So dqVqacde*
(iii) lR;a] f'koa] lqanja dh vfHkO;A
Manifestation of truth, auspiciousness and beauty.
(vi) eaxy esa fe=k dk dY;k.k fufgr gS blfy, eaxye;h fe=k dY;k.k fe=k gksrk
gSA
Benediction includes welfare of one"s friend.
xq# & lc ls cM+k dY;k.k fe=k gS] D;ksafd xq# gesa lr&fpr&vkuan dh fn'kk dh
vksj ys tkrk gSA
(v) fe=krk ds eafnj dk dy'k gS eaxy HkkoA
Benediction is pinnacle or climax of friendship.
7-3 eaxy Hkko dk egÙo Importance of benediction

(i) fdlh ds fy, eaxy dk Hkko rqEgkjs thou esa eaxy vkSj 'kqHk dk ekxZ ç'kLr
gks tkuk vkSj rqEgkjs Åij vk'kh"k dh cjlkr gksuk0 'kq: gksukA
Whatever you give it comes back with multiplier ffeect.
(ii) eaxy Hkko fe=krk dh dlkSVhA
An attitude of benediction is standard parameter of
friendship.
(iii) vfLrRo eaxye; gS] gesa vfLrRo ls lh[kus dh t:jrA
The whole existence is full of benediction. We need to
learn from it.
ijekRek dks eaxye; tkurs gq, Lo/eZ dk ikyu djsaA
Knowing the existence full of benediction, act and follow
the righteous path.
(iv) fdlh ds eaxy ls viuh ÅtkZ dk ÅèoZxeu
Benediction makes your inner energy flow upward.
(v) xq# ije fe=k- xq# f'k"; dk eaxy djrk gSA
The Master is absolute friend. He acts for the benediction
of his disciple.
7-4 eaxy Hkko ds Lof.kZe lw=k The golden rules of benediction

(i) vius psru vkSj vopsru eu esa mBus okyh rjaxksa vkSj Hkkoksa ds çfr lk{kh cusa
vkSj mUgsa 'kqHkrk dh fn'kk nsaA
Start witnessing the waves and feelings of your
subconscious mind and give them direction towards
auspiciousness.
(ii) izÑfr je.k djsa D;ksafd izÑfr esa lc dqN eaxynk;h gSA
Get near to nature. The whole nature is benedictory.
ijekRek dh eaxy o"kkZ dk eT+kk ysaA
(iii) vius eaxy ds Hkko dks iQSyko nsukA
Spread your feeling of benediction.
(iv) lEeksgu ds lw=kksa dks eaxyHkko ls tksM+saA
Practice law of attraction with the spirit of benediction
(v) /kj.kk,a è;ku] lekf/ vkSj lqfeju ds eksfr;ksa dks eaxy ds /kxs esa fijks,aA
Make benediction part and parcel of your regular spiritual
practice.

7-5 lk/dksa ds vuqHko Experience of participants

• fe=k eaxye; gSa] vkidk dksbZ vuqHko\

• xq# eaxye; gS] vkidk dksbZ vuqHko\
• ijekRek eaxye; gS] vkidk dskbZ vuqHko\
 vè;k; 8
lE;d~ vgksHkko (The Right Gratitude)
8-1 izKk&lw=k
fujcSjh gksdj ft;ks lnk] fdlfy, txr ls gS yM+uk\
lc tkx`fr esa gSa ennxkj] lcdks rqe /U;okn dgukA
g¡k] lR;&U;k; tc ?kk;y gks] er pqi jg tkuk dk;j gksA
vFk lkgl Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

csÀkd rqe tx ls çse djks] laca/ exj dc jgk lnkA

csoiQk dksbZ gks tk;s vxj] rks /U;okn ns djks fonkA
fu"dke çse djuk lh[kas] çHkq ethZ ls pyuk lh[kasA
fu"dkea Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

lalkjh dk eryc r`".kk esa pys vkSj lks,&tkxsA

lk/d dk eryc /U;okn esa cSB tk, çHkq ds vkxsA
blfy, lnk fu"dke jgks] ukpks] xkvks] gfjuke dgksA
fu"dkea Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA

tc Hkh miyfC/ feys dksbZ] er dHkh Js; mldk ysukA

gj nkok vgadkj dk gS] cl /U;okn çHkq dks nsukA
drkZ dk Hkko ew<+ eu dk] gj iQy çHkq ds uanu ou dkA
vksadkja Àkj.ak xPNkfe] Hkt vksÀkks Àkj.ak xPNkfeAA
8-2 lE;d~ vgksHkko D;k gS\ What is right gratitude?

(i) ân; ls mBk gqvk vkHkkj dk HkkoA

Feeling of thankfulness.
(ii) foiqyrk dh euksn'kkA
An attitude of abundance.
(iii) rEgsa vkt rd tks Hkh feyk ;k feyus okyk gS] mlds fy, ÑrKrk cks/] cks/
,oa g"kksZYyklA
Rejoicing in the way things are.
-LaoTzu
(iv) vknku çnku dh ,d çcy ÅtkZA
A powerful energy of reciprocation.
(v) laca/ksa esa çxk<+dh dqathA
Gratitude opens the door to profound relationships.

8-3 vgksHkko dk egRo Importance of Gratitude

A- O;fDrxr
Individual
(i) fo"k;ksa esa de jl
Less Materialistic
(ii) fuLokFkZ Hkkon'kk
Less self -centered
(iii) vkè;kfRedrk dk ekxZ ç'kLr
More spiritual
(iv) vk'kkoknh
Optimistic
(v) vkRelEeku ls ifjiw.kZ
More self esteem

B- HkkoukRed
Emotional
(i) LoHkko esa yphykiu
Resilient
(ii) eaxy dk vglkl
More good feeling
(iii) 'kkar fpr
More relaxed
(iv) lq[kn ;knsa
Happy memories
(v) dke] Øks/] yksHk] eksg] bZ";kZ] }s"k ls eqfDr] thou eqDrA
Salvation

C- lkekftd
Social
(i) feyulkj
More social
(ii) LoLFk oSokfgd thou
Healthier marriage
(iii) vf/d fe=k
More friends
(iv) laca/ksa esa çxk<+rk
Deeper friendships
(v) mnkj
Kinder

D- LokLF; laca/h
Health related
(i) vPNh vkSj xgjh uhan
Improved sleep
(ii) de chekfj;ka
Less sick
(iii) nh?kkZ;q
Longevity
(iv) lE;d~ O;k;ke
More exercise
(v) ÅtkZoku
Increased energy

E- dSfj;j laca/h
Career related
(i) csgrj çca/d
Better management
(ii) csgrj usVofdaZx
Improved networking
(iii) xksy vphoesaV
Goal achievement
(iv) fu.kZ; ysus dh {kerk
Improved decision making
(v) csgrj mRiknu {kerk
Better productivity

8-4 vgksHkko ds Lof.kZe lw=k Golden rules of gratitude

(i) gj ,d fnu vgksHkko dk vH;kl djsaA

Practice gratitude each day.
(ii) ftruk rqe vgksHkko esa Hkjrs gks] vfLrRo rqEgs vkSj nsrk gSA
When you are grateful, you are given more by existence
(Law of attraction)
(iii) viuh ftanxh esa vk'kh"kksa dh fxurh djsaA
Count your blessings.
(iv) vgksHkko O;Dr djus ds fy, çks,fDVo cusaA
Be proactive for expressing gratitude
(v) tSlh Hkh ifjfLFkfr gks dsoy /U;oknA
A thankful person is thankful under all the circumstances
(vi) vgksHkko nq%[k vkSj ihM+k dks çKk esa vkSj xyfr;ksa dks lkSHkkX; esa cnyus dk
ekè;e gSA
Gratitude turns wounds into wisdom and mistakes into
blessings.

8-5 lk/dksa ds vuqHko Experience of participants

• D;k vkius fdlh ds izfr vgksHkko O;Dr fd;k gS] vFkok vHkh O;Dr djuk
pkgsaxs\