This document discusses the importance of reflective listening as a primary negotiating skill. Reflective listening involves paraphrasing back what the speaker said to demonstrate understanding without trying to solve their problem. When practicing with a partner, the speaker shares an issue while the listener reflects it back. They then discuss how it made each person feel. The roles are reversed so both perspectives can be understood. While challenging at first, reflective listening provides benefits to the communication process by keeping both parties engaged and focused on understanding each other.
This document discusses the importance of reflective listening as a primary negotiating skill. Reflective listening involves paraphrasing back what the speaker said to demonstrate understanding without trying to solve their problem. When practicing with a partner, the speaker shares an issue while the listener reflects it back. They then discuss how it made each person feel. The roles are reversed so both perspectives can be understood. While challenging at first, reflective listening provides benefits to the communication process by keeping both parties engaged and focused on understanding each other.
This document discusses the importance of reflective listening as a primary negotiating skill. Reflective listening involves paraphrasing back what the speaker said to demonstrate understanding without trying to solve their problem. When practicing with a partner, the speaker shares an issue while the listener reflects it back. They then discuss how it made each person feel. The roles are reversed so both perspectives can be understood. While challenging at first, reflective listening provides benefits to the communication process by keeping both parties engaged and focused on understanding each other.
occasion, paraphrase back to you what he or she has heard. For
example, your friend might say, ‘‘So, your boss is not giving you any feedback on how well or poorly you’re doing. Do I have that right?’’ Paraphrasing is nothing more than occasionally repeating in your own words what the other person has said. The listener should demonstrate interest in what you say through a nod, a smile, or a comment such as ‘‘I see’’ or ‘‘Tell me more.’’ Your team member, the listener, should avoid trying to solve your problem for you. As a listener, he or she must allow you to discover the answer on your own, which will make you much more committed to the solution! Directly solving another person’s problem is not reflective listening! When you and your team member have finished this exercise, discuss how the technique made you, the speaker, feel. Then ask your friend, the reflective listener, how difficult or easy he or she found it to paraphrase. You and your friend will discover that being a good reflective listener requires taking an active part in what some consider a passive activity—listening! Now reverse roles so that you become the reflective listener and your friend becomes the speaker. Then repeat the discussion following the exercise. Remember, this is a new way of approaching communication. Expect reflective listening to be difficult the first or second time you do it. But keep in mind the benefits that come from the process. ................................................ A TIP ON TAKING NOTES Good listeners give the speaker their full attention. They listen first and evaluate later, and they don’t interrupt except to ask for clarification or, as recommended above, to demonstrate interest through paraphrasing. And they keep note taking to a minimum. ................................................
However, in negotiations it is often useful to write down points
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