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Cohabitation Before Marriage
Cohabitation Before Marriage
Cohabitation Before Marriage
Marriage is hard. With the escalating divorce rate, almost everyone nowadays is
trying to figure out the key to a successful marriage. But the truth is that, couples are living a
far different life than the old times. Obsolete viewpoints are being refreshed with new
perspectives. Having kids or sharing financial plans premaritally has become norms of the
present. Despite having the unchanged urge of holding a successful marriage, couples are
now coming up with new ideas to strengthen their relationships. A new lifestyle that was
once perceived as a taboo comes naturally to the younger generation—cohabitation before
marriage. With many stepping into the discussion of its feasibility, this phenomenon remains
to swap the couples worldwide. Though living together and separately both benefit
relationship in different ways. Cohabitation is considered to be a compelling method to
practice your future marriage life. The question is, why? Financial aspect—the money spent
on to maintain the relationship, is to be considered in the discussion. Also, the realistic view,
which focuses on emotional stability and practicality, will be reflected in both situation.
Exploration of cohabitation will be discussed through an economic and pragmatic lens.
But it is not only the money that matters. According to the Pew Research Center,
almost 70% of cohabitators has expressed their vision of seeing themselves living together as
a step towards marriage. Since engagement takes up immense courage and thorough
consideration, turning into the option of a “safe-play” creates an environment to simulate
couple’s future. This opportunity offers them a chance to share experiences, daily routines,
and personal values with one another. Furthermore, the companionship offered by
cohabitation has not only led to the wanting of commitment, but also the improvements on
the sex lives. According to the Center of Sexual Health & Wellness, the bond created
between couples when moved in together can eventually result in a more passionate and
fulfilling sex life. With the physical and emotional aspects being covered, the statistics above
spontaneously indicates that the times couple spent on each other on a cohabitated basis are
translated into mutual understanding and consensus.
Moreover, people around the age of thirties tend to be devoted in the rise of their
careers. Therefore, it is hard for couples who are both working a 9 to 5 job to maintain a high
quality connection after all the burnouts from work. Time spent on texting and phone calls
provides neither the stability nor convenience for the relationship foundation. Apart from the
voluntary hassle to keep in touch, intimacy also plays a big part in relationships. According to
a French survey done in 2005(Érfi-GGS survey), only 22% of relationships are still ongoing
after three years of non-cohabitation. Most of the time, relationship is based on the sharing of
thoughts, without the environment to do so, the inconsistency will lead to the creation of a
gigantic gap between each other. One of the only few benefits this lifestyle provides is the
room for personal space. Many people have replied to the idea of how personal spaces
assisted the development of their relationships. But if the couple is holding a goal of
engagement as the final term of the relationship, living apart will not advance the evolution of
relationship phase, but, more precisely, straining it at an underdeveloped chapter. Also, the
lack of physical touch can also result in the inadequacy of companionship, which can lead to
anxiety, unhealthy attachments, or even the loss of self-love.