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Boundaries With Kids Audiobook PDF
Boundaries With Kids Audiobook PDF
Boundaries With Kids Audiobook PDF
Chapter 4
What Will Happen If I Do This?
The Law of Sowing and Reaping
S ally had big plans for the family. They were going to Disney-
land, and she relished the idea of the fun they were going
to have. Planning to leave at noon, she began at breakfast to think
of what everyone needed to do before they left. She wanted
her son Jason to do some yard work he had been putting off—
a common occurrence—because they had to return some rakes
and things to a friend that day.
Sally told Jason that he “must” do the work before they left.
She emphasized how it had to “absolutely” be done before 11:30
A.M., so he needed to make sure he started soon. An hour later
he had not started, and she reminded him again. Thirty minutes
after that, she repeated the reminder.
She got busy with some other things and at 11:30 walked into
the den, only to find Jason watching television.
“What are you doing?” she screamed. “I told you to get the
yard done before we left. Now we are all going to be late! I
cannot believe that you have done this to us.”
She continued complaining angrily until she, Dad, one sis-
ter, and Jason had all chipped in to get the yard work done so
that they could finally leave at 1:10 P.M. The ride to Disney-
land was less than amiable, filled with quiet scorn for Jason. The
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reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful
nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows
to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life” (Gala-
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Chapter 6
I Can’t Do It All,
But I’m Not Helpless, Either
The Law of Power
Others •
Control
Over:
Self •
Birth Adulthood
TIME
Chapter 9
Pain Can Be a Gift
The Law of Evaluation
Chapter 13
Honesty Is the Best Policy
The Law of Exposure
How to Reinforce
Incident the Fear How to Cure the Fear
How to Reinforce
Incident the Fear How to Cure the Fear
Child is hurt by life. • Tell him to stop his • Empathize with how
whining, and call him he feels.
a crybaby. • Give understanding
• Tell him to stop cry- and comfort.
ing or you’ll give him • Help him put words
something to cry to the hurt and the
about. incident.
• Make fun of him. • Don’t be too quick to
• Compare him with correct or explain
his sister or a friend. reality. That can
• Call him a sissy. come after the emo-
tions have passed.
• Require him to work
out his problem with
his friend. Don’t
become the buffer
between him and the
outside world, giving
him comfort and
enabling him to avoid
conflict with others.
• Empathize and
understand, but don’t
gratify his wish to use
the hurt as an excuse
to not get back into
life or fulfill his
requirements.
Expression is good;
withdrawal from life
is not. At some point,
the old admonition to
“get back on the
horse” is good advice.