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Self Esteem
Self Esteem
SELF CONFIDENCE
Forget about the universe and start working
on yourself
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Start talking to your girlfriends, ask for support, say you don't want to
be criticized. Make sure that your message, how you do not
want and how you want, is as clear as possible. If you notice that
your environment is coming towards you, then wonderful, but if not,
then draw the conclusion yourself what to do with it, you are
already big girls.
What if they are relatives? The most courageous and resolute do not
communicate with them, if suddenly
understanding is not reached, and this has a negative
impact on their well-being.
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If you are not ready for such drastic measures, then you need to
keep in mind the idea that each person has his own causes and
effects in his head, which have nothing to do with you.
What people think about you and what they say to you is more
about them than about you. While keeping this thought in mind,
we will talk in more detail in the topic of idealization.
Second part:
2. What should you read, listen to, watch, and what kind
of environment should be near you so that you can
feel this way?
We don't stick out chakras here, we don't invoke the universe, so what
you want is impossible. If you want to enjoy every day, feel like a
queen every day and poop butterflies - this is for you to those who
communicate with the universe, they usually promise this.
Then you have a situation, the young man cheated on you, you
conclude that you were not good enough, not helpful
enough, not sexy enough. Is this interpretation correct? No. But
will it influence you? Undoubtedly
Society will also put pressure on you - it doesn’t leave good wives, it’s
your own fault and so on.
And then you appear, who suddenly turns out not to cook
at home for her husband at all, and in the evening he also
takes the children from the kindergarten. What will he
tell you? "Aren't you ready? The way to a man's
heart is through his stomach! Why are you then him?
You must keep the family hearth, so not for long and before
the divorce, he will get tired of serving you. A real woman
should be the hostess!”
Any condemnation is the pain of that person for the fact that
he cannot afford it. He suffered all his life, lived all his life
the way he didn’t want to, and then you appear, who wants
to change her life, wants to live the way she wants, not to
follow the stereotypes “you should”, but to ask yourself
and listen to your feelings .
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What is left for these people to do? The most courageous can
admit that they lived simply on the machine, while the rest
simply go into denial, condemning the rest as well as
condemning them.
5 reasons why
affirmations and attitudes
don't work.
If someone does not know what affirmations are. These are
such positive statements about you, your life, finances
that you need to repeat a certain number of times. The
mechanism is such that they supposedly replace the
negative attitudes about you in the subconscious and you
begin to live a completely different life.
1. Nastya. She had rigid ones. Well, that is, emotionally inflexible
parents, they did not show her love, they were callous, detached. In
this regard, Nastya never understood her emotional sphere, did not
understand what and what feelings she was experiencing, did not
know how to express them. And it is obvious that she absolutely
did not understand how to properly relate to herself. This is where the
hate came from.
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2. Katya. On the contrary, she had very overprotective
parents, parents who followed her on her heels, did
everything for her, controlled, blew off dust particles.
Katya grew up unadapted to life and dislike for herself
appeared as a result of her helplessness, inability to
take responsibility.
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4. Irregular work
5. You don't understand how attitudes fit into your life. The
mechanism of their work. And accordingly, you do it
because you need to, but you don’t understand why
you need to.
focus on the fact that initially almost all events that occur
are neutral. Of course, you can tell me that there
are frankly negative events. For example, the death or
death of a person, illness, etc., yes. You are right, of
course. But here it is important to be objective for the
sake of noting that each person will have a different
emotional response to any such event.
Someone has sadness, apathy, someone
self-esteem.
2. She remembered how her ex-man said that no one needed her,
how she was humiliated at school for being overweight, and now she
still hasn't lost weight. Thoughts pop into my head, “That’s
impossible! Why is he looking at me? Why does he think that he can
pay attention to my excess weight? automatic thoughts
4. Dasha decided that since she couldn’t lose weight anyway, she
didn’t need to try at all, went home, bought chips, buns, lay down
on the bed and ate until her stomach burst. After that, she considered
herself even more worthless, because she failed again, and in her
thoughts she dramatized this process even more.
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2. Also write down all the negative beliefs that you think
about yourself and rate their objectivity on a scale
of 1 to 1 O. Once rated, try replacing them with more
objective and realistic ones. You must feel it, look at
you from the other side, with different eyes.
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Perfectionism
Let's start with what is perfectionism?
Perfectionism signs:
Perfectionism
7. When you are praised, it seems to you that they
just mixed up or made a
mistake 8. If you have little time to complete the task,
you will postpone until the last moment, as it will seem to you
that you cannot do it perfectly 9. You do not recognize that
any goal has
stages of achievement, you want everything at once,
and if you don’t get it, it means that you are a loser 1 O. You
compare yourself with the most
successful, with those who have been going to their goals
for more than one year 11 You are
afraid that if you do not strive for the ideal, then you will have
terrible results 12. You plan everything
to the smallest detail, and if your plan does not come
true, then you lose your temper 14.
Constantly procrastinate
1. Prioritize
You can strive for the ideal, you can imagine what result
you would like, but you also realize that if this does
not work out, then this is not a tragedy for you.
You praise yourself and move on. This is an experience for
you, which next time will help you do something differently,
take into account more nuances. You won't get depressed
because you can't do anything. You just do it
differently.
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solidarity-rew.
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