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Conflict Resolution Emotional Regulation
Conflict Resolution Emotional Regulation
With our children under the age of 5, this means teaching the first lessons in conflict resolution:
supervising and coaching without taking sides.
Teach
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5. What is a solution?
Coach the brainstorming by helping them focus on solutions. “What is a solution you both can
live with?” (a win-win). Or, “I can hold onto the toy until you find a solution that works for you.”
When the conflict is too heated or escalated (or has gotten physical) then the teaching becomes about
how we only solve problems when we are calmed down. Coach them through regulating the emotions
without sweeping it under the rug.
Slice it thinner!
Keep breaking these skills down to simple steps and allow for practice. Perspective-taking is developed
over time and through many experiences so be patient and consistent.
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--Teaching skills for emotional regulation--
*Scroll down to see a guide to teaching your child about the Brain in the Palm of the Hand.
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Teach appropriate ways to feel better
In the moment, you can ask for a hug. If your child is safe, walk away to give them space or encourage
them to follow you to a new room or outside. This simple change in the environment can help them shift
their emotional response. Redirect their focus by offering them another game or toy.
When your child is calm, teach these tools to practice the next time their emotions erupt:
● Take deep breaths like you are blowing out a candle, or spouting like a whale, or exploding like a
volcano
● Watch the snow fall in a snow globe, or shake up a glitter jar and watch the glitter settle to the
bottom
● Find a cozy place in the house to cuddle together or give your child a toy or stuffy that provides
them comfort if they don’t want you nearby.
● Pull out the books that have feelings pictures in them to have at the ready so they can identify
or point to what they are feeling.
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--Teach kids the Brain in the Palm of the Hand--
The Brain in the Palm of the Hand comes from Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, authors of
The Whole Brain Child. To teach this to your little one (you can start at age 2!), use simple language:
Happy Brain
Flipped Lid
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Teaching with books
Then use a book, like Jared’s Cool Out Space or Bernice Gets Angry (or any book where the character
goes through different emotions) and ask them on each page, “Where is their brain right now?” cueing
and teaching as you go along.
Ask
A few times a day you can ask, “Where is your brain right now (especially when they are obviously
happy)?” If they show their hand open, then I ask, “How can we get it back to here (show the closed
fist)?” If they don’t know, then offer the calm down space or another calming tool (e.g. hug, sip of
water).
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