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Disfellowshipping and Disassociation

Source: jw.org

How Jehovah's Witnesses Claim Disfellowshipping Is a Loving Provision

The Watchtower, May 15, 2015 pp. 29-32

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“If one of Jehovah’s Witnesses who is baptized commits a serious sin and does not repent, he will be disfellowshipped … If the
elders on a judicial committee do not discern that the person is truly repentant, then he must be disfellowshipped.”

Source: JW.org

Question for Readers

Who determines repentance:

The penitent or the elders?

Undue Influence
“54. … Does distancing oneself from the congregation have consequences? [..]

“55. There are … religious consequences if a person withdraws. When a person distances himself from the congregation, he formally
renounces his spiritual position as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. Withdrawal is a conscious act initiated by someone who belongs to the
church … [choosing] … to break his spiritual ties to the congregation […].

“56. What about the social ties? As part of Jehovah’s Witnesses’ religious beliefs and practices, they follow the Bible’s admonition to limit or
stop associating with people who reject or leave their religion … However, the only information given to the congregation is this: “[The
person’s name] is no longer one of Jehovah’s Witnesses.” Nothing else is said about him.

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“57. The congregation has no control over how the individual in the congregation applies biblical principles to stop associating with him. It
is up to each individual in the congregation to use their personal religious conscience to determine whether or not they want to limit
contact with a person who has withdrawn, just as they would relate to a person who is disfellowshipped. The religious community does not
control, nor can it control, whether those who belong to congregations answer calls from someone who has withdrawn, drink coffee with
them, eat a meal with them, or greet them on the street. Each individual in the congregation who limits or ceases to socialize with a person
who has withdrawn, does so voluntarily and of his own volition, based on their own religious conscience.” (Emphasis ours)

Source: Letter from Norwegian Jehovah’s Witnesses to State Administrator in Oslo and Viken

Can Jehovah’s Witnesses choose to speak with expelled members without consequence?

Shepherd the Flock of God, a textbook for elders on how to deal with judicial matters among other things, states: 

Unnecessary Association With Disfellowshipped or Disassociated Individuals: Willful, continued, unnecessary association with
disfellowshipped or disassociated nonrelatives despite repeated counsel would warrant judicial action.

If a publisher in the congregation is known to have unnecessary association with disfellowshipped or disassociated relatives who are not in
the household, elders should … counsel and reason with him. […] He would not be dealt with judicially unless there is persistent
spiritual association or he persists in openly criticizing the disfellowshipping decision.  (12.17)

Considering what the Shepherd book says in Chapter 12:17, one is not using their “personal religious
conscience” to decide to speak with disfellowshipped or disassociated persons if there are consequences for
doing so. This is known as undue influence.

Download Shepherd the Flock of God

Family Relationships
What of a man who is disfellowshipped but whose wife and children are still Jehovah’s Witnesses? The religious ties he had with his family
change, but blood ties remain. The marriage relationship and normal family affections and dealings continue. (emphasis ours)

Source: JW.org

62. … it is important to reiterate that the “religious ties” between the disfellowshipped or the withdrawn and the “family change, but blood
ties remain. The marriage relationship and normal family affections and dealings continue. ” In other words, regular family relationships
and togetherness will continue. (emphasis ours)

Source:  Letter from Norwegian Jehovah’s Witnesses to State Administrator in Oslo and Viken

What if we have a relative or a close friend who is disfellowshipped? Now our loyalty is on the line, not to that person, but to God.
Jehovah is watching us to see whether we will abide by his command not to have contact with anyone who is disfellowshipped.

[…]
A young man had been disfellowshipped for over ten years, during which time his father, mother, and four brothers “quit mixing in
company” with him. At times, he tried to involve himself in their activities, but to their credit, each member of the family was steadfast in
not having any contact with him. (emphasis ours)

Source:  JW.org

Do normal family affections and dealings continue when someone is disfellowshipped or disassociated?

In the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) section of JW.org, which contains white-washed details about Jehovah’s Witnesses beliefs and
practices, it claims that they do. 

And in a letter dated February 17, 2022, from the Norwegian Jehovah’s Witnesses to the State Administrator in Oslo and Viken they refer to
their FAQ and re-iterate that normal family affections continue.

However, in their Study Edition of The Watchtower dated April 15, 2011, the writers instruct their members not to have contact with
anyone who is disfellowshipped. Using an unsubstantiated example of a family of a young man who was expelled, they are described as
being “steadfast” in not having contact with him. 

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If Jehovah’s Witnesses are telling the public that normal family affections continue, and they are telling
governments and courts the same, why are the writers of The Watchtower telling their believers to do
otherwise? Being ambiguous or repeating something does not make it true.

Download The Watchtower - Study Edition April 15, 2011

The Impact of Shunning

In many cases, disfellowshipping provides the discipline the erring one needs. After some ten years, Julian’s son, mentioned at the outset,
cleaned up his life, returned to the congregation, and now serves as an elder. “Being disfellowshipped brought me face-to-face with
the consequences of my lifestyle,” he admits. “I needed that sort of discipline.” […] Family members can show love for the congregation
and the erring one by respecting the disfellowshipping decision. “He was still my son,” explains Julian, “but his lifestyle had put up a
barrier between us.” (emphasis ours)

Source: JW.org 

46. […] A person is completely free to leave Jehovah’s Witnesses whenever he or she so desires … Each year, thousands of people
worldwide choose to be baptized as Jehovah’s Witnesses. Every year, thousands also choose to leave the faith, and they are not prevented
from doing so. The two or possibly three dissatisfied former Witnesses who have complained about Jehovah’s Witnesses represent
a small minority. They in no way represent all those who have peacefully broken their bonds with the church. (emphasis ours)

Source: Letter from Norwegian Jehovah’s Witnesses to State Administrator in Oslo and Viken

Jehovah’s Witnesses continually make the claim that someone who leaves the religious group, whether of their own volition or is expelled,
one does so to pursue an immoral lifestyle. While some Jehovah’s Witnesses may leave the group to pursue a life of immorality, that is not
true for many former believers. Many just want to lead an ordinary life as grown adults without the control and imposition of over-arching
rules from the religious group. 

To leave Jehovah’s Witnesses is not about lifestyle, it is about religious choice, as laid down in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights,
the European Constitution of Human rights, and enshrined in many of State Constitutions of countries around the world.

Jehovah’s Witnesses use an ad hominen attack and a strawman fallacy in an attempt to minimize the impact of shunning on expelled
members. 

Firstly, the individuals they describe as “dissatisfied former Witnesses” are dissatisfied for a reason. Secondly, while these individuals do not
represent all who left Jehovah’s Witnesses, they do represent a large cohort as is testament to the responses from former believing
members below. 

Larchwood
United Kingdom

One of my best friends took his own life due in part to being shunned. My family and I are soft
shunned as we are only faded. My kid's cousin shuns him/her at school.

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Note: The comments above were requested from persons on Reddit, Twitter and Facebook who have been impacted by Jehovah’s Witnesses’ shunning
policy. In an effort to avoid bias or propaganda, no person was pressured or coerced to provide their comment. Nor were they asked to provide only a
negative or positive comment. For comparison, see a letter issued in 2020 by a Circuit Overseer (Bishop) to Bodies of Elders in Wales: Download letter. 

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6 Responses

Although I was never a Jehovah’s Witness, or have experienced disfellowshipping myself, just from reading all of these statements from other people; you
can tell that the Watchtower organization is definitely a satanic cult. It is worse than a cult. They’re doing the work of their father the devil. Jesus never
shunned anybody, nor did he teach people to shun either. Shunning is definitely unscriptural as he 1947 Awake claims in the article entitled, Are You
Excommunicated?

There in that article, they railed against the Catholic church for excommunicating people, then guess what happened a short five years later? Yep you got
it! They’re practicing the very same practice that they railed against the Catholic church for doing. The governing body are nothing but hypocrites, liars
and very dishonest men whose only goal is to protect their image and their money. They do not have a clean organization. The organization is absolutely
filthy and disgusting and it royally stinks with the stench of satan!

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Their love is shallow and they will only love you if you are in the organization and uphold all of the rules and policies and worship the governing body and
everything that they say. They put themselves in the place of Jesus and the Holy Spirit on earth. Yeah, they look squeeky clean on the outside but are full
of dead men’s bones on the inside. They’re full of deceit and corruption! Their organization is pure poison!

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My gf if 7 years is slowly being brainwashed into being a JW by her sister. They do bible studies together and now started attending the JW meetings. I
wanted to marry her but now I am afraid. Don’t know what to do. Help!

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Thanks for share this valious information about Jehova Withness and you practices

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Sorry Dorothy, that must be quite devastating but I hope you are doing well. We may not be able to change what a person or persons feels about us but
we can certainly do our individual best and feel good about that.

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455 Members of my JW family shun me as if dead. I was a baptized JW for over 30 years. Upon research found out the truth about “the truth”. I left.

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Sorry I mean 45 members, not 455. My mistake.

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