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Self Help Workbook Post Natal Depression
Self Help Workbook Post Natal Depression
Self Help Workbook Post Natal Depression
Contents 3
Meet Diane, Ros, Kayleigh and Jasmine
Part one Throughout the programme you will be
introduced to four characters, Diane, Ros,
helpful. Do not worry if you do not exactly
recognise yourself or your problems in the
Kayleigh and Jasmine who will help to bring cases described. Our four characters are
the techniques to life. You can follow their fictional but based on typical real life
progress during the programme if this is situations.
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are about the techniques you will need to suggested. If you do just one thing that is
learn and practise. Part 8 is about staying well. described in the book, at least you have taken
Additional information that may or may not be a step in the right direction.
relevant to you is provided in Part 9. Part 10 is
Getting the most out of the
a summary and Part 11 is a 6-month on review
workbook Summary
of the progress of our patients. You can also
You can choose whether you do the find out about additional reading and useful This self-help programme is for anyone
programme in full or just read some of it now agencies in the back of this book. struggling to manage their moods around the
and then. You can dip in and out of the book time of children. It could also be useful if you
For this programme to work you need to put
if this is helpful to you. If you want to follow are supporting someone with depression. The
the suggestions into practice repeatedly. This
the programme in full, the following structure workbook teaches cognitive and behavioural
takes time and considerable determination.
is suggested: techniques that have been shown in research
Throughout the programme there will be and clinical practice to be very effective.
In our experience we recommend you take many opportunities for you to write down Reading the workbook will not be enough.
between 8–12 weeks to do the programme. your thoughts and feelings. The homework is You will need to practise and use the
However, if you want to take less or more time a very important part of the programme and techniques over time to feel the benefits.
to read and take in all the information that is will really help to make a difference. It is
fine. Obviously the amount of time you can important for you to find time to do this.
dedicate to the programme will be affected by
Accept offers of help so that you have some
the demands of looking after a baby. If you
free time, and try to set aside some time when
have someone who can help with looking
the baby is asleep.
after the baby, and someone with whom you
can discuss your progress on a regular basis, You need to have decided that things need to
this will also be beneficial. This need not change for you to be regaining control of your
necessarily be the same person. life. You need to stick at it. Each little step can
add up to a major change for the better.
Week 1 Parts 1 + 2
By picking up this book you are saying that
Week 2 Part 3
you want things to change. Of course you
Week 3 Part 4 want to feel better. This workbook is packed
Weeks 4 and 5 Parts 5 + 6 full of suggestions on how to start feeling
better, but they do take a bit of effort to put
Weeks 6, 7 and 8 Part 6 onwards into practice. Do not worry if you cannot do
Weeks 9 and 12 Part 7 onwards all that is suggested, or even half of what is
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What is Depression? Depression isn’t just about feeling sad, but
lots of other symptoms too. These symptoms
Depression comes in many forms and has can include changes in your emotions, your
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may not care if you live or die at the moment, Unit for a week so I didn’t see him to the home because of a baby’s normal Thoughts
but this is a symptom of the disorder, and you much to start with. My aunt helped routine can make you feel isolated.
can think and feel differently with help. Clinical and research evidence has shown that
me a lot until I was better, but she Relationship Difficulties. Unhappiness in depressed individuals have very particular
works, so it is difficult for her to be our relationships can contribute to the ways of thinking about themselves, others and
Don’t be scared that if you there when I need her. Any routine I onset and continuation of depression. the world. These ways of thinking can trigger
tell someone how you are had with the baby has gone and I After having a baby, women may feel their
feeling, your baby will be and worsen the experience of depression.
can’t be bothered to try and sort it partner is unsupportive and too
taken away. Health Each of us is affected differently by situations,
out. I started to go to a mother and demanding.
professionals are there to depending on how we think about them.
help you get well enough to be baby group at the community centre
Typical job and work worries include Imagine a phone call that is expected from a
a good mother for your baby, but I just don’t feel like going returning to work after the baby, losing close friend that does not happen. One
and knowing how bad you are anymore. Joshua sleeps well at night your job and being able to juggle childcare person, for example, Kayleigh, may regard this
feeling will help them give you but I can’t – I find it hard to fall and work. as evidence that the friend does not want to
the correct treatment and help. asleep and sometimes I just lie awake
Stress related to physical health, for speak to her, is bored of her talking about her
Linda, patient adviser and worry or cry. baby and thinks the friend is avoiding her.
example, conditions including chronic
pain. This can also be a problem following Kayleigh’s mood would then become further
Why me, Why now? a traumatic birth. Some conditions can depressed and she would not call the friend.
Meet Kayleigh directly trigger depression and fatigue e.g. She feels hurt, upset and fearful of reaching
There are a number of factors that cause and
hypothyroidism (where the thyroid gland out to anyone else in case they are also bored
maintain depression. Each of the factors listed
I am Kayleigh and I of her. She stops going to mother and baby
below plays a part in causing depression, and secretes too little thyroid hormone), or
am 18 years old. group. Her thinking is negative and unrealistic
depression then has an impact on these anaemia (where there is a low level of iron
Joshua is now six in the blood). and makes her feel more depressed and
factors. A vicious cycle of inactivity, low mood,
months old and the
isolation, fatigue and negative thinking can
two of us live in a feel like it is spiralling beyond your control.
flat in the town The longer it goes on the more you feel like
centre. Joshua’s dad left us two you cannot get out of the trap. Starting
months ago. He said he couldn’t put somewhere to do something differently can BEHAVIOUR SITUATION
up with how I had changed and that help to make you feel a bit more in control
loss
he didn’t fancy me anymore. That and slow down the depressive vicious cycle. social withdrawal
might be because I have put on isolation
reduced activity
weight. I have definitely been eating Situation level conflict
much more than usual for the last few
We know that there are certain factors that poor self care stress
weeks, even though I’m not hungry. make it more likely for a woman to become
limited pleasure
My mum lives nearby but we don’t get
depressed around the time of childbirth. For
instance, we know that there is often, but not THOUGHTS
on and I don’t have any brothers or
always, a difficult life situation that triggers
sisters to talk to. I was sexually negative thinking
depression. We also know that particular
abused as a child and have cut myself EMOTION habits
situations can make depression worse. Some
in the past but I haven’t done it for a
situations that have been associated with sadness harsh self
long time. I feel so bad about myself depression include:
anxiety criticism
now though that I have started to
think about doing it again.
Major life events, particularly around loss. PHYSIOLOGY unfair and
despair
For example, the death of a loved one, job changes in brain chemistry unrealistic
losses and/or relationship breakdown. discouragement thinking
I had an awful labour and ended up altered sleep
having a caesarean section. Joshua Limited social contact. Being socially numbness
low energy
had to be in the Special Care Baby isolated is a significant risk factor in
depression and just being more confined Depressive vicious cycle
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behave in an avoidant way which does not people find that antidepressant medication is Not caring about yourself
give her an opportunity to disprove her helpful to lift mood and can help you regain
Examples
thoughts.
1 sleep and appetite. The changes in brain
chemistry associated with depression have Spend less time on your appearance (e.g.
Another person may be curious about the
been demonstrated in research. However, we hair, make-up, clothing)
missed call but think that the friend is busy or 1. Negative about are still not entirely sure what comes first, for
have forgotten. They would call the friend yourself Not caring about personal appearance
example, does depression produce the
themselves to have the conversation that was You can tend to judge
changes in the brain, or vice versa. All we Reduced exercise
planned and their mood would be unaffected. yourself in an unfair,
often critical and harsh know is that they are associated and that Eating too much, eating too little, or eating
This changed thinking has been described as manner medication can be very helpful. We also know ‘rubbish’
the Negative Triangle. When you are it is even more helpful if you learn cognitive
depressed you can often think negatively
about yourself, about life and other people
3 2 and behavioural techniques as presented in
this book. Research tells us that recovery is
Likely result
Depression can lead to very significant Below are some common examples and their Not having any fun
changes in your physical functioning. One of likely results:
Emotion Stopping doing something you used to enjoy
the most important changes is in sleep
Withdrawing from others
When depressed, we can feel not just sad, but behaviour. You may be sleeping too much, Likely result
overwhelmed by feelings of despair. A waking early, be unable to sleep when the Examples
Inactivity becomes a habit
profound feeling of anxiety and often a sense baby is asleep, having broken nights or be Refusing social invitations
struggling to get to sleep. If sleep does not Stops you receiving personal satisfaction.
of impending doom can accompany these
depressed feelings. Others feel numb and restore you, the next day is even harder to Avoiding telephone (making or receiving)
detached. Some writers talk about this ability face. A vicious cycle of exhaustion, low energy, calls
and worry about not sleeping can cause Neglecting your everyday duties
to switch off as a way of protecting ourselves Reducing regular social activities
against intense psychological pain. In the further depression. It is normal to have a Examples
disrupted sleep pattern when you have a baby Avoiding talking to and playing with the baby
same way that your thoughts can become
Leaving everyday tasks for someone else
unrealistic and negative, your emotions can because of night feeds. But with depression Likely result
become extreme and unrealistic too. you may be unable to get back to sleep when Putting off tasks
the baby sleeps in between night feeds. For Takes you away from warmth and feelings of
Sometimes women have emotions about connection with others Not finishing tasks
more information about sleep, please look in
being a ‘bad’ mother and that motherhood
the back of this workbook. Confirms your belief that no one wants to be Likely result
does not meet their expectations. There may
The physiological changes of depression make with you or likes you Adds to your sense of inadequacy
also be feelings of resentment because of the
impact of a new baby. it harder to cope with the demands of life and Limits opportunities for feeling pleasure or a Frustrates others
the needs of a baby – and maybe a toddler sense of achievement
too! It certainly makes it hard to have the Adds to the feeling that your life is out of your
energy to do a programme like this. Some control.
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Summary
Depression comes in many forms and has
many causes. It affects not just mood, but also
the way we behave, think and feel. Ten to
fifteen percent of women will get depressed
Part three
after they have had their baby, and it can
happen to anyone. Depression is hard to
diagnose yourself. Our moods can dramatically Week two if following the
affect our judgements about ourselves. Often
we need a professional to help us diagnose programme in full
our experience.
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Goal 2 home. We live in our own house in a After talking to her doctor and sister Diane Homework
small rural village, and I used to modified her goals to the following:
belong to our local church choir Decide on some mini goals for the coming
Set a realistic list of housework tasks
before I had Rory. Rory is our first week and write them down. If you only
for the week and spend no more than
child and was a planned baby. want to set one goal that is fine.
half an hour each day doing the
Although I had a normal delivery it
tasks listed.
was a long labour and I felt out of
control. I am still breast feeding and Start a sleep routine for Rory.
regret that I will have to give up at
Attend weekly choir practice. Arrange
Goal 3 least some feeds so that I can return
child-care in advance.
to work. I am a primary school
teacher and went on maternity leave Begin practising a morning routine
shortly before Rory was born. I am in preparation for going back to
due to return to work in 3 months work.
time. Do this programme to understand
I have taken Rory to see the GP quite and change bad thoughts about
often,and I have also had to go myself.
Goal 4 myself quite a bit as I haven’t been Read sleep advice (found in the back
sleeping well and have felt low for a of this workbook) and try the
few weeks now. I have been crying a suggestions.
lot lately, although sometimes I am
not sure what starts it off. I am also
really worried about going back to Summary
work, and the GP thinks my
Make a decision to change and set your
headaches and dizziness are because
Goal 5 goals
I am anxious about myself and the
baby. I used to be so organised and Give yourself the time you need to change
took pride in having a spotlessly clean It’s not about making enormous changes
house. Now I can’t keep on top of the in your life. The small steps add up
housework and I don’t feel like doing
anything. I keep having thoughts Practise is the key to any successful self- Do you have someone you could ask to
about being a useless mother and help program. The more you do the support you with this programme? It is
that just makes me feel worse. Rory techniques the more they will happen very useful to have an objective opinion
cries a lot and I am just not coping. automatically. on how you are progressing and to have
someone to encourage you to stick with
Diane’s initial goals were as follows: the programme. Approach this person. If
Meet Diane
Keep up with the housework you prefer to do this alone or there is not
My name is Diane anyone you can approach that is not a
Be a better mum for Rory
and I am 38 years problem.
old. I am married to Attend choir practice
David and we have a
Introduce bottle-feeding in
3 month old baby
preparation for return to work
called Rory. David is
in full time Sleep better
employment as an IT consultant, but
he is often away from home. Even
when he is not away he is often late
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Diane is rating pleasure (P) 0–10 (0 = no pleasure, 10 = intense pleasure) and
Achievement (A) 0–10 (0 = no sense of achievement, 10 = strong sense of achievement)
Hours Monday
7am
Awake since last breastfeed S at 3 am. Breastfeeding again.
P=0 A=4
Asleep
P=8 A=0
programme in full 9am Having breakfast. Didn’t finish it as Rory crying. Put the sterilizer unit
on one-handed! P=4 A=5
Put the washing on, made shopping list, attempted to clear up. Had to
10am pick Rory up a lot, so gave up on tidying. P=2 A=2
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Using activity diary sheets managing. This is your programme and you Kayleigh’s thought diary
will find other things that suit you and are
For each hour of the coming week, write more helpful. 3. Emotion
down what you actually did. 1. Situation 2. Emotion 4. Thoughts
rating
For each entry rate how much pleasure Using thought diary sheets (Stage 1)
(P) you experienced (0–10 scale) 0= no At home alone with Afraid 80% Where is my aunt. Maybe she has
In order to complete the diary sheet follow
pleasure, 10= intense pleasure) Joshua waiting for decided to do some overtime. She
these instructions:
my aunt to arrive could have rung me.
For each entry rate how much
1. Situation after she finishes Worried 60%
achievement (A) you felt (0–10 scale) I’m falling apart if I cannot
0 = no sense of achievement Think about how you have been feeling over work. She was due
handle this, I should be able to
10 = no sense of achievement the last week. Do any days and/or situations half an hour ago.
Depressed 92% handle this.
stand out for having made you feel an Not responding to
increased intensity of a particular emotion? mobile. I feel pains in my chest and feel so
This activity diary sheet can become a regular Think in detail about the situation in which unwell. I am sure there is
feature of your programme if you find it you felt the emotion. Where were you? What Angry 38%
something going on with my
helpful. Use it to monitor and plan your levels were you doing? What had just happened?
health. My weight does not help.
of Pleasure and of Achievement. You can also What time of day was it? Were you alone or
use it to plan how to become more active with someone? Write down the situation in This bloody programme isn’t
generally in you life. (See Part 5.) If you Column 1 of the thought diary. helping! I need more help.
choose not to complete this diary sheet that’s
2. Emotion I am not bonding with my baby
OK, but still try to increase pleasure and
achievement. The diary sheet is in the back of Write down the emotion in Column 2 of the
Maybe there has been an accident.
the book if you want to use it. thought diary. Usually emotions can be
expressed in one word – Sad, Nervous, I need a drink/ I can’t cope
Enraged, Cheerful, Disappointed, Humiliated,
Thought monitoring
Embarrassed, Hurt, Scared, Excited, Proud,
Is your thinking balanced, fair and realistic? Repelled, Panicky, Irritated, Happy, Anxious, 3. Emotion Rating is an important skill which, once mastered,
Probably not. When you are depressed, your Depressed, Afraid etc. will help you feel more in control of your
Rate out of 100 the strength or intensity of the
thinking is depressed too. We know that mood. You will learn what situations and, in
The Negative emotion in column 3.
thinking changes with our moods. If you have particular, what thoughts are making you feel
been lucky enough to be very in love in your
life you will remember seeing the world
Triangle
1 4. Thoughts so bad. Once you understand that the way you
think can lead to a lowering of your mood,
Can you recall any of the thoughts that were
through rose tinted spectacles. For example, you can start to appreciate that by changing
1. Negative about going through your mind just before or as the
strangers on the street seem kind, the weather yourself the way you think, you can change the way
emotion surfaced? Write down the thoughts in
is lovely, the future is bright and you are You can tend to judge you feel.
Column 4, however daft, distressing, irrelevant
attractive. In sharp contrast when we are low yourself in an unfair,
often critical and harsh
or true the thought seems now. The more you
our thinking becomes unfair and unrealistic. manner can catch your thoughts the quicker you will
Strangers are out to get you, the weather is be able to catch and control the mood before
awful, there is little hope for the future and
your are ugly, fat and undesirable!
3 2 it takes over. Ask yourself the following
questions:
Remember the negative thinking triangle… 3. Negative about 2. Negative about life What is or was going though my mind?
your future and others
Keeping diary recordings is a key skill and You can tend to view your life What am I afraid might happen?
You can tend to anticipate
needs practice to master. If you really cannot and other people in an
a future that is bleak, and
unrealistically pessimistic
get to grips with recording your thoughts in exaggerate the most Is this reminding me of something else?
way, tending to focus on the
negative outcomes.It’s
this way do not worry. It’s designed to be negative or threatening
very hard to think Throughout this programme you will be
aspects whilst ignoring the
helpful and if it’s not, leave it alone. Do not let optimistically
positive, more optimistic encouraged to complete thought diaries. This
this become something else you are not aspects
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Thinking errors Mind reading Meet Ros a student and then had postnatal
You think you know what others are depression after Jamie was born. Since
My name is Ros, I am
There are a number of ways of thinking that thinking about you and it’s always Jenna was born I haven’t felt very
24 years old and
can be unhelpful and can make depression negative. You react accordingly and rarely affectionate towards her. I feel
have been married to
worse. Here are the most common thinking check out the truth. For example “I bet irritable most of the time and guilty
Simon, who is 22, for
errors that occur when we are depressed. Do they think I’m a terrible mother – I wont that I am not being a very good
two years. We have
you recognise yourself in any of the following so to the mother and baby group again”. mother. Jenna cries a lot and is
two children. Jamie
descriptions? difficult to settle. I’m not enjoying
Personalising is nearly two years
being a mother and sometimes I
Tick the ways of thinking that you recognise in Blaming yourself for anything unpleasant, old and Jenna is 5
think everyone would be better off if I
yourself. More than one (sometimes all) will and taking too much responsibility for months old. Simon and I were both at
wasn’t around. Simon doesn’t
apply: things that aren’t under our control, such university when we met and married.
understand and doesn’t help very
as other people’s feelings or behaviour. He now works as a personal fitness
Jumping to negative conclusions much. We are not as close as we used
For example, if someone doesn’t say trainer in a leisure centre and meets
Drawing a negative conclusion when to be.
“hello” we may think we have done up with his old student friends every
there is little or no evidence to support it.
week. We used to do a lot of outdoor A neighbour has offered to help me
For example, you may think someone is something wrong or upset them, but they
activities but we can’t afford it at the out, but when she came round and
reacting negatively to you when this may may have been preoccupied, or they
moment and anyway I don’t have the knocked on the door last week I
not really be the case, e.g. “My aunt might just have forgotten to wear their
time, the energy or the enthusiasm. didn’t answer. Sometimes I don’t
thinks I am a bad mother”. Or you may glasses!
We live in a small rented town house answer the phone either. I don’t think
convince yourself that things will turn out Filtering and still have outstanding student I am very good company at the
badly, e.g. “They won’t like me, so why Only looking at the bad never the good. loan repayments. moment so I think people won’t want
even try to join in?” People who think in this way tend to to spend time with me
I suffered with depression when I was
Fortune telling reject their achievements, compliments
Predicting the future in a negative way and other positive experiences by
based on your feelings not necessarily on insisting that they “don’t count” for some Ros’s thought diary
fact; e.g. “I’ll get rejected, I’ll make a fool reason, e.g. “He only gave me that
compliment because he knows I feel bad 1. Situation 2. Emotion 3. Emotion 4. Thoughts
of myself.”
at the moment.” rating
Catastrophising
Overgeneralisation 8.00pm Thursday Frustrated 95% Why do I always have to put them
Exaggerating the impact of events and
convincing yourself that if something Expecting that because something has evening to bed?
goes wrong it will be totally unbearable gone wrong once or twice, that it will
Watching TV,
and intolerable, e.g. “If I can’t get my always do so. An example is thinking after
breastfeeding
baby to sleep, it means I’m a useless an unpleasant experience, “I’m never
doing that again, it’s far too difficult”, or Jenna. About to put Guilty 70% I’m not enjoying being a mum.
mother”, “If I don’t sit and watch the
baby while she is asleep she will have a “I tried this before, I always get it wrong”. children to bed.
cot death”. Labeling Fri 11.00 call from Panic 70% I feel too low to go for a coffee. I
All-or-nothing thinking Undervaluing yourself and putting girlfriend inviting wouldn’t be very good company.
6
Seeing things in black and white, e.g. yourself down. For example, “I’m so me around for a Nice of her to offer but she is just
Thinking “I fail at everything”, “nothing stupid/weak/useless” and “I don’t deserve
coffee. feeling sorry for me.
works out for me”. A common form of any better”.
black-and-white thinking is expecting 19.00 pm Friday Angry 5% He is going out and I am left at
perfection from ourselves, e.g. “If I can’t Simon about to go home. Again!
stop my baby from crying I’m a complete out to meet friends
failure .” at pub.
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Summary Homework
Learning to monitor and then increase We would like to encourage you to start
your activity levels is important to your
recovery.
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Self Care Meet Jasmine Completing activity diaries Homework
Examples My name is Jasmine If you are completing activity diary sheets you Choose two activities that you have not
Getting dressed each day, eating healthily, and I am 28 years will be starting to notice changes in your been doing recently. Choose from
exercising, personal grooming old. I live with my mood throughout the day and week. You may different areas, for example, self care and
husband, Nick, and also be noticing which activities make you feel everyday tasks. Write these activities
Your thoughts on how you could be more my daughter Naomi better and which make you feel worse. below. Remember to make your goals
active who is 9 months old.
Consider the following questions: realistic and specific.
We moved house not
long after Naomi was born because of Are there times of the day or days in the Activity 1:
my husband’s job so I don’t know week when your mood is brighter or
many people where I live. My mother- lower?
in-law comes to stay very often and
Are there situations that seem to depress
she helps a lot. She does so much with
or lift your mood?
Naomi and is so much better at
Which activities seem to make you feel Activity 2:
looking after her and getting her to
Personally rewarding activities better about yourself and about life?
sleep than I am, that I feel really
Examples useless. I dread her going because Which activities make you feel worse
when she is not there and Nick is at about yourself and about life?
Taking up a new hobby, revisiting an old
work I really feel I can’t cope on my
interest, walking in open air, renting a much What is the balance between chores,
own. Most of the time I can’t seem to
loved video to watch pleasure, achievement, and socialising? Complete your activity diary over the
concentrate on anything and I feel
Does this feel OK for you? coming weeks and check whether you are
Your thoughts on how you could be more totally exhausted. Sometimes I feel
including the above activities.
active terribly panicky. I have even phoned Can you use this information to improve
my husband at work when I have your mood? Continue to complete diary sheets to help
been really desperate. He is a great you notice moods and thoughts.
father and husband and has come
home once or twice in the day, but his
Summary If you have additional, smaller goals for
the coming week write them down below
boss doesn’t like it. Depression can make us opt out of life as it may help you to achieve them:
When I last took Naomi to the Baby which gives us short-term relief but in the
Clinic the health visitor asked me how long term makes depression worse.
Everyday tasks I was feeling and I told her that I feel Getting more involved with family and Achieving
I am not doing a good job at being a friends, improving how you care for something small
Examples mother. I said that as much as I love may be just the
yourself, doing more rewarding activities
Facing opening mail, pay bills, clean house, Naomi I can’t see how things will ever start you need to
and picking up your everyday tasks can
iron clothes, run errands. Do what you’ve get any better. get some self
lead to an improvement in your mood.
confidence and
been putting off These were some of the ideas I wrote really get into this
Your thoughts on how you could be more down to change the way I behave: programme.
active • To feed Naomi and change her
nappies whilst mother-in-law is
staying..
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to think of as many alternative The 8 steps are as follows:
explanations as possible.
Stage 1
Part six
If a friend was in this situation and had
this thought, what would I tell him/her? 1. Situation
Imagine a friend was thinking your
2. Emotion
thought, would you still agree with it?
3. Emotion strength rating
Have I been here before, thought this
Week six, seven and eight if before and found later that my thoughts 4. Immediate thoughts
were not entirely correct?
following the programme in full What’s the worst that could happen? How Stage 2
likely is it to happen? Even if it did 5. Evidence for the thought
happen, could I live through it?
Pick the most troubling thought for you.
Five years on from now, will I look back
Changing the way you think
Check this thought against the evidence for
on this situation and think differently? and against it. What evidence do you have to
support the idea that your thought is 100%
Completing diary sheets/ TRUE? Are you using additional information to
Once you have started to notice your thinking your mood. This does not mean you will need support the thought? If so write it down in
you have an opportunity to look at your to be completing diary sheets for ever but it
Stage 2
Column 5.
thoughts and change them in a way that could would be helpful to do this at least whilst you You have reached Stage 2 in your thought
make you feel better both now and in the are on the programme, so that you can get the monitoring. You have been learning to catch
6. Challenges against thought
future. hang of it. Catching thoughts may be difficult your thoughts. Now you need to practise
at first because we are not used to it, but it challenging your thoughts and coming up Look at the questions on the previous page
There are 3 things you need to do to control
gets easier with practise. with a changed thought. This is not easy and and ask yourself these questions. Is there a
depressed thoughts. It may help to remember
will take practise. Some people find that this is possibility that the thought you are having is
the 3 Cs:
Challenge your thoughts the key to their recovery. Others don’t get this not 100% true? Is there another way of
bit at all. Don’t worry, there is evidence that looking at the situation? What would you tell a
thoughts When you are familiar with the kinds of things the other techniques can help just as much. friend?
you say to yourself when under stress, you can Have a go and if you have someone who is
begin to challenge these thoughts and find supporting you, speak to them about your 7. Changed thought
better ways of thinking. thoughts. It may also help to speak to a
supportive friend or member of your family to Now that you have considered the evidence
1. Catch 2. Challenge 3. Change
Questions to ask yourself to help help you with this. After all if you were for and against your thought and challenged
Catch your thoughts challenge your thoughts learning a new language, to drive a car or it, can you come up with a fairer, more
learn to swim, you would ask for help when realistic, balanced thought? Has your thought
Challenge your thoughts Might I be making thinking errors, for changed at all? If not, go back to your
you needed it.
example: jumping to negative conclusions; evidence columns and the questions on the
Change your thoughts
fortune telling; catastrophising; all-or- What we ask you to do is to continue to previous page to check you have not missed
nothing thinking; mind reading; complete the diary sheets as you have been anything.
Catching your thoughts personalising; filtering; overgeneralising; doing but to also complete columns 5, 6, 7
labeling and 8.
When we are feeling low it is difficult to 8. Changed mood?
recognise unhelpful thoughts. They come and Is there a possibility that this thought is
go very quickly, so you might not even be not completely 100% true? Do you feel different or has your mood stayed
aware you are thinking them. the same? Make a note of it in column 8.
Is there an alternative explanation?
The diary sheets can help you to practise Have a look at one of Jasmine’s diary sheets
How else could you see the situation? Try shown on the next page.
catching the thoughts that lead to changes in
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Jasmine’s diary sheet: Troubleshooting for thought Changing your thoughts
5. Evidence to 6. Evidence 8. Emotion
1. Situation 2. Emotion 3. Emotion 4. Thoughts support the against the
7. Changed
rating
challenging Once you have identified and challenged your
rating thought
thought thought now
“I can’t ‘catch’ my thoughts” worrying thoughts you may be able to
4.30am Sad, 90% I’m going to be Everything Naomi is fed There is no 60% recognise how disturbed your thinking has
awake in Depressed shattered if I gets done and changed need for my Write down your thoughts, as soon as you been. Disturbed thoughts are usually
85% 40%
bed Afraid, don’t get some and runs when Brenda Brenda to have them if you can. As soon as you notice pessimistic, irrational and untrue. When our
thinking 99% sleep smoothly is not come and 50% yourself getting low, ask yourself “What’s
(I feel thinking becomes more balanced we begin to
about when around. live with us. I going through my mind?” If your thoughts are
sick feel better about ourselves and our mood can
day I can’t Brenda is am capable in the form of questions: “Are they thinking
with cope as a
Nick is happy begin to lift.
ahead here. of coping on I’m stupid?” write them down in statement
worry) mother to cook the
my own. Think of an alternative, more positive way of
evening meal. form: “They think I’m stupid” – it is easier to
Maybe we seeing the situation. Use the list of questions
Life will be argue with statements than questions.
should ask above and on the previous page to ask
disorganised
Brenda to come yourself questions about your thoughts and
for a while
and live with us “I can’t remember my challenging then replace them with less worrying
and then ok.
permanently questions/self-statements when I need thoughts.
Baby is only well
them”
looked after Write down your challenging questions/self- Examples
when she is statements in full. They will have more impact,
staying. “I’m hopeless”
be easier to recall later and you will find you
There is only a are challenging your thoughts more effectively. I’m not perfect, but then nobody is.
meal on the You may want to write them on a card and Everyone’s good at some things and not so
table for Nick in carry them around with you so you can good at others. I am very good at some things.
the evening quickly read them when you’re feeling your I am putting myself down.
when she is emotions are getting out of control.
staying.
“I can’t stand it”
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“What’s the point in trying?” Helpful ‘self-statements’
If I don’t try, I won’t know. I have to try things
to get better at them. Nobody is expecting me
Some people find it useful to make a list of
Watch out for your rule book
statements they can say to themselves when
to do it perfectly. I can’t predict the future.
they are having depressed thoughts. These
will be very similar to the kinds of ‘changed
Watch out for your rule book Changing your rule book
thoughts’ mentioned on the previous page. Your rule book consists of the thoughts you There are 2 main ways to change an unhelpful
“My health visitor is going to know I can’t
Here are a few examples: carry around about the way you SHOULD, rule book
look after my baby and she will be taken
away from me.” OUGHT, MUST live your life. You believe and
1. The first method is to notice and challenge
Some helpful ‘self-statements’ obey them as if they were the TRUTH. These
The health visitor can see that my baby is well recurring themes on your thought diary.
are the common unhelpful rules by which
fed, clothed and cared for. She knows I am “One step at a time.”
people who get depressed tend to live. Notice 2. The second method is known as the
trying to get myself out of this depression and “Is this really worth getting upset about?” that the consequences of not following the downward arrow technique. You can use
has been supporting me. I am catastrophising. rules are believed to be catastrophic. this method by asking yourself a series of
“In the long run, does this really matter?”
WHAT questions about a particular thought
I must be liked by everyone at all times or
“I can bear anything for a while.” to reach the bottom line of your beliefs or
I am not popular or a good person
rules.
“This unpleasant situation will soon be
I must do everything I can to avoid
over.” What does this mean to me/about
criticism or I am a failure
others/about the world?
“My thinking is not realistic whilst I am
I should not be depressed or show
depressed.” What does this say about me/about
emotions as it is a sign of weakness
others/about the world?
“I am not alone.”
I must succeed at everything I try or else
and if that were true what would it say
“I am a worthwhile person. I am not I am a failure
about me/others/world
perfect but I am valued.”
“Recognising that there I must always be in control or else I will be
were less negative ways and if that were true etc....
“I’ve got through worse things than this – in chaos
of viewing a situation I’ll be fine.”
was really a key thing I must always get things right or I will be
Often, you will need to watch out for these
for me. Now I am well, “If this doesn’t work, it’s not the end of the judged badly.
thoughts in the coming months and the
I still challenge my world.”
growing awareness of yourself may help you
thoughts as it has been
“I’m doing really well. I might be to begin to think differently. Sometimes just
one of the best ways
depressed, but I’m here, facing it. That’s recognising that you have a particular way of
to spot and prevent
something to be proud of.” thinking is enough for it to change. Some-
a relapse.”
times you have to actively and repeatedly
Linda, patient adviser challenge your rule book by asking yourself
the following questions:
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Downward arrow technique When I thought about the rule book Kayleigh’s thought diary:
questions I recognised that my beliefs 5. Evidence to 6. Evidence 8. Emotion
When I did the downward arrow were not at all helpful, realistic or 1. Situation 2. Emotion 3. Emotion 4. Thoughts support the against the
7. Changed
rating
rating thought
thought thought now
technique on this thought, I became fair. I had to examine my beliefs
Answer Dread 90% I don’t want to My friend She is a I want to Dread
really aware that I was not only carefully and honestly and realised
phone go and will is always so friend and accept the 20%
ashamed of my job but also ashamed that they originated from my Panic 50%
invitation make up an together wants to see invitation
of myself. Have a look at my notes: upbringing. Panic
from old Embar- excuse me as I know
I am low so 10%
My childhood experiences made me friend rassment 60% it will be
I will
will be dull No one is
feel different to others. I have always inviting good for Embarr-
I will make a fool of myself Sadness 70% make a fool perfect
thought that others had better lives me and of myself She will be me and assment
than me. I felt responsible for the bad Joshua to amazed at I can only be Joshua. 35%
What does this say about me, others stuff that went on. I believed that tea on how myself
I can’t face it I can only Sadness
and the world? others thought I was a bad girl. I Friday. stressed I
I am putting be myself 0%
used to think that if I tried harder to I will make a am.
myself down
be good that things would get better fool of myself I do not Excited
Others will judge me to be a bad but in truth it was all out of my I am need to be 30%
I will be boring
mother and person control. I was a child in a very silly jumping to ashamed
I will not be conclusions
Everyone else always seems to get it chaotic world. of myself.
able to and fortune
right and seems so organised and
The key for me has been to let go of manage I am often
‘together’ telling
some of these beliefs. I am not Joshua and wrong in
responsible for the bad stuff in my It might my
will look stupid
childhood. I am not a bad person make me feel predictions
It says I must always get it right
and others are not out to criticise or better
I usually get it all wrong I may
I don’t deserve better judge me. Sometimes I get things
enjoy it
right,sometimes wrong, just like
everyone else. All I can do is carry on
I am a failure trying. When I can keep those
And the world is harsh and critical thoughts in my head I feel I can face
Indicates Kayleigh’s most
the world again. Bit by bit I can worrying thoughts
make a life for me and my boy. This
will take a long time for me to really
believe but realising that my old
beliefs were not 100% truths has made
it so much easier to get on with life.
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Rule book exercise and if that were true what would it say about Summary Homework
me/others/the world?
Pick one particularly difficult and recurring Changing the way we think is another key Over the coming 2–3 weeks
thought from your diary sheet. If you have not skill. There are 3 things you need to do to Choose a further two activities that you
been completing diaries, you can pick a control depressed thoughts. have not been doing recently. Choose from
thought that often pops into your mind and different areas, for example, personally
Catch your thoughts
makes you feel bad. rewarding activities and everyday tasks. Write
these activities below:
Challenge your thoughts Remember to make your goals realistic and
specific
Now do a check of your beliefs with the
following questions: Change your thoughts Activity 1:
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Kate agrees and comes at 6pm but feels angry Assertive communication – how to
at her friend. She also vows to her husband do it
that she will never do it again.
person. It says that my wants, needs and rights 1 Actively listen to what is being said and
are just as important as yours. Assertive then show the other person that you
Week nine onwards if following behaviour requires influencing, listening, and both hear and understand them. In this
negotiating skills so that the other person way, you can demonstrate under-
the programme in full feels that their point of view is being standing and empathy for their point of
respected, even if you don’t agree with it. The view, even if you don’t agree with it. By
hope is that both you and they will co-operate listening you are respecting their right
willingly with whatever course of action is to express themselves and sending a
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here. Get me the Manager at once. I am not Saying yes to extra work or obligations Summary Time management
paying. My Birthday has been ruined.” causes you stress.
Assertive behaviour is active, honest and Your time is valuable so be clear about how
Taking on too much can mean that other
direct. It communicates an impression of you want to use it. Good time management
people in your life don’t get enough
Would you be assertive? respect for oneself as well as for the other means setting goals and planning priorities,
attention.
person. It says that my wants, needs and rights not wasting time on low priority jobs or
Waitress: “Is everything alright with your
It might not be such a big deal for the are just as important as yours are – not more situations beyond your control.
meal?”
other person to get a no response. so or less so. The consequences of being
To help you to be in control of your time, here
You: “Actually the meat was tough and the assertive are that:
Being respected and respecting yourself is are some useful tips:
vegetables were cold. I do not want to pay for
more important than being liked. We maintain our integrity and increase self
my meal. I would like to talk to the Manger to Prioritise all jobs needing to be tackled
respect and the respect of others.
sort this out please.” And most importantly everything you say Without setting priorities as to which job
yes to is a no to something else. Our personal relationships are more is the most important, it is very easy to
authentic and satisfying when others are feel exhausted and overwhelmed as we
Try saying no in a casual or impersonal
What are the consequences of being confident of our honesty. rush from one job to the next.
situation where you might otherwise drift
assertive?
into saying yes. Others know where they stand with us. Prioritise all the jobs on your list into
We maintain our integrity and increase self four categories: A, B, C or D.
Be firm but polite. We increase control over our own life by
respect and the respect of others. Tackle the high priority tasks first. If a job
making our own choices.
Give a reason for your “no” response if does not have to be done today, leave it
Our personal relationships are more
you feel it’s appropriate, but not as an Increased feelings of confidence and self- for another more convenient time.
authentic and satisfying when others are
excuse. esteem.
confident of our honesty. Assess how you use your time
In order to manage time effectively, you
Others know where they stand with us
when we let them know our opinions, The process
Homework need to know how you currently use your
time. For two days, log all your activities
feelings and needs. Write down below your personal
If you need time to think, say “I’ll get back and how long each task takes. Reflect on
We increase control over our own life by to you,” and make sure that you do. assertiveness goals. You may wish to be
how your time could be better managed.
making our own choices. more assertive in particular situations or
Ask for more information. How long will it with certain people in your life.
We strengthen our own judgement when
we act on it, allowing us to be
take? Is there anyone else who can help
you?
Remember to make your goals achievable,
realistic and specific.
A
independent of the judgement of others.
Use body language to show that by saying
Increased feelings of confidence and self- no you are not being hostile. Demonstrate
esteem. that you mean what you say and are not Absolutely essential
going to be manipulated. B
How to say ‘no’ Stay calm and relaxed – drop your Over the next few weeks practise being
Remind yourself every now and then that: shoulders and breath deeply, keep your assertive in the situations or with the
voice slow and calm. people that you have listed above. Start off
Better done today
You have the right to say no, without
feeling guilty. Think it through – by listening to the with something easy, like saying no to a C
other person you might actually realise stranger and build the confidence to use it
It is OK for the other person to say no to in more difficult situations.
that you want to say yes after all.
you. Could wait
Saying yes when you mean no may reduce
Don’t be manipulated but it is alright to
change your mind if you want to.
Continue to manage your moods by
gradually increasing your activity levels. D
your feelings of self worth. Use the activity monitoring diary.
It’s better to say no at the time than to let Continue to challenge your negative Delegate
somebody down later. thoughts using the Stage 2 diary sheets.
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Plan Homework Problem solving 3 Implementation
Take ten minutes per day to plan. Make a
Put the solution into practice.
list of all the tasks (major and trivial) and Write down below your personal time Problems big and small occur throughout our
cross them off when they have been management goals. Remember to make daily lives. Most of them can be solved and If you do not try, you will never know if
completed. When planning your day allow your goals achievable, realistic and usually we sort them automatically without you could be successful or whether you
time for interruptions and unforeseen specific: being aware of what we have done. can achieve a reasonable solution.
delays. Remember to plan time for Sometimes problems can seem
pleasure, leisure and relaxation as well! insurmountable, and this is where using a
problem solving plan can be a valuable tool in 4 Evaluation
Learn to say ‘no’
your mental wellbeing toolkit.
(see assertiveness module). Evaluate the degree of success. Don’t look
for 100% perfection, as that may not be
Do not be a perfectionist Over the next few weeks practise time The 4 stages of problem solving: achievable.
Looking for perfection in yourself or management skills. Start off with
others only invites disappointment and something that is easy, like taking time 1 Define the problem If you have achieved something you have
will increase demands on your time and every morning to plan your day. What is the problem? been partially successful and need to
cause stress for all concerned. Remember recognise that.
Continue to manage your moods by When is it a problem?
that you can make a mistake and that gradually increasing your activity levels.
“good enough” is good enough. Use the activity monitoring diary. Where is it a problem?
In effective problem solving or decision
Do not put off decisions Continue to challenge your negative Why is it a problem? making it is also important to consider the
Unresolved problems and unfinished thoughts using the Stage 2 diary sheets. following factors:
With whom is it a problem?
business are a source of tension and use
up your energy unnecessarily. If you have How often is it a problem? Behaviour
time and all the facts you need, tackle the How do you normally behave? Don’t
What is the result of the problem?
business now. assume that because you have always
This will enable you to describe in detail the done things in a certain way that you
For a quick way to remember these time cannot try something different.
nature, intensity, severity, frequency, duration
management strategies think of:
and current consequences of the problem.
Thoughts and attitudes
The 5 Ps of time management Do you have any negative or destructive
attitudes, either towards the people
2 Planning
concerned, towards yourself or about the
Do P lan Consider the possible solutions. problem itself?
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Problem solving exercise sheet 2. Think of solutions 4. Select the best solution Summary
Think of a problem that has been on your Think of as many alternatives as possible – at Select the best solution and start working Problem Solving is a well defined method
mind and try out the techniques now. least 3 with it: for tackling the problems and dilemmas
1. that life throws at us.
Homework
5. Write down up to 3 problems that need
When does the problem occur? 6. Implementation tackling in your life and use the suggested
method.
Put your plan into action and note here how
it went
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Improving self-confidence Managing lifestyle opposite effect and increase tension. It is feelings of anxiety. If it’s not essential that
also harmful for your children.. you rush, slow down. You will feel more
There are different ways to help increase your Your day-to-day lifestyle can be adapted in relaxed and will achieve more.
Take regular exercise
confidence through being assertive and order to reduce stress. Try these
Exercise is a very useful way of reducing Don’t avoid things or situations that
learning to say no, through managing your modifications:
feelings of stress and tension. Try to get cause you stress
time better and through problem solving.
Watch what you eat into the habit of taking some regular You will never know that you have the
Below are further tips for building confidence:
Food is where we get our energy from and exercise. This could be anything that gets strength and strategies to cope unless you
so it is important to have a balanced diet. the circulation going and increases your confront your fears.
Guiding principles of self-confidence Make sure you eat three meals a day – breathing rate – for example walking,
We gain confidence by achieving small skipping breakfast or other meals makes jogging, cycling, swimming and dancing. It
Homework
goals. the blood sugar level unstable and can doesn’t have to be strenuous, just
make the symptoms of anxiety worse. Try something that gets you moving about. Write down below your personal lifestyle
Practise techniques.
to eat foods that are high in fibre (cereals, Choose something that you enjoy and that goals. Remember to make your goals
Behave as if you are more confident than potatoes, rice, pasta, wholemeal bread) you can do with the baby or where there achievable, realistic and specific:
you feel. and eat fewer foods that are high in fat are crèche facilities, as you will be more
(cakes, pastry, fried food, butter and likely to stick to it and it won’t feel like a
Be flexible in your behaviour.
margarine) or sugar (sweets, cakes, fizzy chore!
Learn from your mistakes. drinks). High fat and high sugar foods may
Try to sleep well
give you a burst of energy but this
Speak encouragingly to yourself. It is unlikely that you will get as much
disappears very quickly, leaving you feeling
sleep as you have been used to when you
Be kind to yourself. tired. High fibre foods are metabolised
have a small baby. However, use relaxation
more slowly and release sugar (energy)
Watch out for the double standards: techniques as much as you can before you
into the blood at a steadier rate. This gives
unfairly strict on yourself and generous go to bed to help you sleep as well as
you energy for longer and avoids the
with others. possible. Read the sleep hygiene
fluctuations in blood sugar level that can
Do the best you can, don’t put yourself appendix.
increase anxiety. Eat plenty of fresh fruit
down for not being perfect. and vegetables. You should also include Set aside time each day for yourself Over the next few weeks and months put
Spend time with people who make you high protein foods such as meat, fish, Use this time for relaxation or to do your goals into action. Start off with a goal
feel good. eggs, beans or pulses. something you enjoy. Even if you have a that is easy, like taking 15 minutes exercise
very busy life, finding half an hour each every other day.
Check out your rule book. In your diary Remember that if you are breastfeeding
day to do something pleasurable or
sheets you may have noticed the rules by you will need extra calories but make sure Continue to manage your moods by
relaxing is an important part of managing
which you live your life. It may be time to that you get these calories from the right gradually increasing your activity levels.
your moods.
give up or modify these rules if they keep food groups. If you need more information Use the activity monitoring diary.
making you feel bad about yourself. on diet, speak to your health visitor. Recognise your strengths and
achievements Continue to challenge your negative
Cut down on tea, coffee and coca cola thoughts using the Stage 2 diary sheets.
Praise yourself for your strengths and
These all contain caffeine, a stimulant that
weaknesses. Do not only look at problems
mimics symptoms of anxiety. A general
and difficulties. Understand that nobody
guideline is that you should drink no
is, or should expect themselves to be,
more than 5 cups of tea and/or coffee a
perfect.
day; otherwise the caffeine can increase
your feelings of anxiety. Don’t let stress build up
Talk to friends and seek advice from those
Cut down on smoking
around you.
Nicotine can act as a stimulant and may
increase anxiety symptoms. Smoking may Slow down
seem to relax you but may have the Rushing around causes adrenaline to be
released in the body, which increases
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Identifying a relapse There are several reasons why people relapse.
Firstly, when recovering from depression we
It is important that you don’t see every set- are more vulnerable to stress. Sometimes we
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sure that you are well equipped with
coping strategies. HELPFUL HINTS
Increase rewarding activities
When you are feeling well, try to write a
Part nine
Remember what you learnt about what
“rainy day” plan which lists the signs that
makes you feel good. Look back at your
you may see if you were getting
entries in the workbook and check that depressed again, and the steps you can
you are still getting the balance right. take to prevent your mood getting
Don’t worry worse. These could be things like
confiding in a friend, prioritising tasks
There is absolutely no reason why one or
two days of feeling low should be the start
of a relapse. Don’t exaggerate the
and planning essential breaks, and
getting help with the baby until you are
Useful information
feeling well.
problem. If you do feel low for a few days
don’t see it as a relapse – look on it as a If you think you may be having a relapse,
learning experience. try the following;
Talk to a close friend and get his/ her Dry mouth Depression
opinion on your mood. Often it is Not feeling good enough
Dizzy spells
easier for partners and friends to tell
if we are getting depressed than it is Racing heart Feeling bad about yourself
for ourselves. Loss of confidence
Knots/butterflies in stomach
Go for a short walk or do some Teary
Frequent need to go to the toilet
exercise, this releases chemicals that
improve our mood. Diarrhoea Fear of criticism
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Behavioural symptoms What happens to my body? 5 Liver releases stored energy. Blood and anxiety is out of proportion to the situation, or
Avoiding situations energy is diverted away from skin to if it goes on for too long, it can become a
Increased adrenaline affects the body in a muscles. After effect - stomach feels problem.
Increased smoking number of ways which causes physical knotted, “butterflies” sensation, nausea,
symptoms of anxiety. When you become When this happens we can feel physically
Increased alcohol drinking diarrhoea and/or sickness
anxious you may experience some, or all of uncomfortable because the body’s reaction
Increased or decreased eating 6 Skin sweats to cool hot working muscles makes us ready to fight, but there is no danger
these symptoms:
to fight. So the tendency is to ‘run away’ or
1 7 Blood in skin is diverted to muscles
Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much escape from the situation as this helps us to
leading to pale skin
Nail biting feel better. Unfortunately, this means that
2 8 Muscles in use, tense, ready to act faster when we are faced with the same situation
Not wanting to go out socially leading to aches and pains and/or “shaky” again we will try to avoid it, as experience has
Blushing 3 feelings. shown that this will make us feel better. But
4 this means that we never learn to deal with
Non-stop talking
situation. We are then left
Obsessive actions e.g. checking locks all with only one rather Some ways of
the time 5 Helpful and unhelpful anxiety unhelpful option of controlling
running away every anxiety
Not taking as much care with your The ‘fight or flight’ response is automatic. As
time we are faced symptoms are
appearance soon as you sense a threat, this response
6 with that situation. It described in
occurs. This was very useful in prehistoric
is much better to face your Part three.
times as there were many dangers such as wild
Anxiety is a normal reaction animals, and prehistoric man needed to react
fears and learn to control
the symptoms of anxiety.
Anxiety is normal. It is the natural response to to these quickly. This response helped us to
danger or stress, and helps us survive by be ready to run away or fight immediately
preparing our bodies to deal with the threat. after sensing a threat, and so helped us to Why me?
Anxiety acts as the trigger for our bodies to survive.
7 Everyone experiences anxiety and has anxious
release adrenaline, which makes the body Of course, today we don’t have to worry about thoughts, but it is more of a problem for some
work faster and harder so that it can cope with 8
wild animals attacking us. But there are other people than for others. This may be due to a
danger by either fighting or running away. This dangers which mean we still need this variety of reasons including; personality, family
is known as the ‘fight or flight’ response. response. For example, if you are crossing a history, life stresses, coping skills, and lack of
road and see a car coming quickly towards support.
How your body changes when you, the ‘fight or flight’ response occurs.
Anxiety affects people differently. The
you are anxious Adrenaline is released into your bloodstream,
following are the most common forms of
1 Increased adrenaline makes vision which prepares your body to jump out of the
Adrenaline affects many different parts of the anxiety
sharper. After effect - visual disturbance way. This is obviously a very helpful response.
body, getting the body into a state of readiness e.g. blurred vision Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD)
We also get anxious about all sorts of other
to deal with the threat. It is adrenaline that
2 Body stops producing saliva leading to things – for example, taking a driving test or Phobias
produces many of the uncomfortable physical
dry mouth and difficulty swallowing speaking in public. These situations can
feelings that are associated with anxiety, such Social anxiety
trigger the same reaction, even though there
as ‘butterflies’ in the stomach, tense muscles, 3 Airways widen to let in more oxygen
may be no physical danger. A moderate Health anxiety
rapid heartbeat and sweating. When leading to breathlessness and dizziness amount of anxiety may still be helpful in these
adrenaline is released our senses also become Panic disorder
4 Heart pumps harder to send oxygen to sorts of situations as it can make us more alert
more acute, and our thinking may change –
muscles leading to palpitations and focused and so improve our performance. Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
for example we may not be aware of other
For instance, some anxiety when going for a
things, and may become preoccupied with
job interview or sitting an exam can be useful
whatever it is that is making us anxious.
as it helps us to concentrate. However, if the
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What keeps anxiety going? contact, being alone, remembering certain
in
breathe o
increase. Again, we have fallen into a vicious easy, and so we may try to avoid doing these Breathe in through your nose, filling your
the
2 1 2 1
o ut
in
a
cycle, known as the ‘fear of fear’ cycle. things altogether because we are afraid of lungs completely so that your stomach
bre
1 2 t 1 2
comes out. Try to keep the movement of
u
failing. Loss of confidence also makes us feel rest rest
bad. If our confidence is low, we may think your upper chest to a minimum. 1 2 1 2
symptoms
More Fear of fear or wo
about symptoms
rrying that others are judging us negatively (e.g. Slowly and evenly breathe out through
thinking that we’re odd or stupid) and we are your nose. Allow your stomach muscles to count slightly slower, or count “1, 2, 3”.
y
More
worry of a n
xiet c
et
probably also judging ourselves negatively. relax. Always keep the counting even and steady.
Symptoms a ti n g
, sw e
e.g. shaking
You can also do this breathing exercise by
Repeat, and try to get a rhythm going.
Ways of thinking About 8–12 complete breaths a minute
counting in time to your footsteps when
Avoiding situations that would be relaxed breathing. Don’t take
you are out and about.
You may have noticed that how we think plays
provoke anxiety an important part in fear, avoidance, and loss lots of deep breaths quickly, as this can
of confidence. The thoughts we have play a make you feel dizzy and uncomfortable. Relaxation guidelines
It is perfectly natural, when we find a situation
distressing, that we will try to avoid that major role in increasing or decreasing our Regular practise is essential. If possible set
situation in the future. But when anxiety is a anxiety, and thinking negatively when we are aside a regular time to practise each day.
problem in our life we may find ourselves feeling anxious can make things seem worse
than they really are, which makes the anxiety Make sure you choose somewhere quiet
avoiding places, activities and thoughts which
more difficult to control. See Part six for more to practise where you will not be
are not real dangers. For example,
information. disturbed.
supermarkets, going to work, making eye
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Start the exercise by lying down in a The exercise involves doing this for all the Mind: Troubleshooting for relaxation
comfortable position. It is easier to relax parts of your body: Finally relax your mind. Think of
while you are lying down. something really soothing and restful: for
techniques
Hands and arms:
example, lying by a gentle river, under a It is likely that you will experience a few
Make sure you are wearing comfortable Clench your fists, feel the tightness in
warm sun and blue sky. Picture a scene problems when you first try the exercises. It is
clothes, and that the room isn’t too hot or your hands and arms, slowly relax them.
that works best for you. Breathe slowly helpful to recognise these and know what to
cold. See how far they can relax, but do not
through your nose, filling your lungs do about them.
push or strain. Relax and let everything
Don’t try to practise relaxation if you are completely. Feel yourself getting heavier
go. Repeat. Muscle cramps:
hungry or have just eaten. and heavier. Do not get up and rush about
Shoulders and neck: If this occurs you can overcome it by not
straight away: Getting up too quickly
Don’t tense your muscles too hard, or you tensing the muscles so much, or for
Drop your chin to your chest. Hunch your might make you feel dizzy, or make you
may make them ache. tensing for a shorter time. Remember that
shoulders tightly, bringing them up and in. tense up again straight away. Continue
Don’t tense any part of the body that is Circle your shoulders then let them drop. cramp, although painful, is not dangerous.
resting for a minute of two, then when
painful or injured. Relax. Repeat. you are ready get up, move slowly and Wanting to laugh:
Do not expect too much of yourself at the stretch gently. Try to keep the relaxed You may feel self-conscious or have the
Face:
start. Remember that this is a skill and feeling for as long as possible. Do feeling of wanting to laugh at first, but as
Concentrate on tensing your face bit by
skills have to be learnt and practised whatever activity you had planned in a the exercises become more familiar, and
bit, first pull your eyebrows together, then
before they are mastered. slow, calm way. the bodily sensations feel less strange it
screw your eyes up tight, and then bite
your teeth together. Gradually ease off will not be as funny.
As you get better at this exercise you can
Progressive muscle relaxation and relax. Repeat. practise it while sitting or standing, or move Unable to concentrate:
from a quiet environment, such as your If you have difficulty finishing the
Chest and abdomen:
This exercise is called “Progressive muscle bedroom, to one that is not so peaceful. In exercises without your mind wandering,
Tense your stomach muscles by pulling
relaxation”. It will be difficult to read the this way you will learn to relax in a variety of don’t worry. The best way to make
your tummy in tightly, slowly breathe out,
instructions and relax at the same time, so you situations and stand a better chance of coping unwanted thoughts go away is by not
letting go of your stomach muscles, and
may find it useful to record it onto a tape, try in ‘real life’. dwelling on them. Instead let your mind
relax. Repeat.
to memorise it or get a friend to read it out to slowly drift back to the exercise, and the
you. Thighs and lower back: particular part of your body you are
Keeping the rest of your upper body relaxing.
Progressive muscle relaxation means that the
relaxed, squeeze your thighs and buttocks
muscles are relaxed one after the other, It feels strange:
together. Relax. Push your heels down
starting with the hands and arms and ending As you are not used to the exercises it is
hard against the floor, feel the tightness in
with the feet and leg muscles. natural for them to feel strange at first.
your thighs, gradually let go. Repeat.
Each stage of the exercise focuses on a Accept that it will take practise to feel
Calves: comfortable with them.
different group of muscles. At each stage you
Point your toes down towards the ground,
should concentrate on noticing the feelings in Falling asleep:
feel the tension in your legs, gradually let
the part of the body you are working on. The aim of these exercises is not to get
the tightness go. Then pull your toes up
Tense the muscles tightly (but not too hard) you to sleep, as you cannot learn to relax
towards your face. Again, gradually relax.
and really concentrate on the feeling of while sleeping. If you find that you doze
Repeat.
tension. Hold this for five seconds, then off during the exercises try doing them
release for ten to fifteen seconds, letting the Whole body: sitting up (make sure your head, neck and
muscles go as relaxed as possible. Try to learn Concentrate on your whole body, shoulders are supported by your chair). If
the difference between tight and relaxed scanning for any tension. Relax any you want something to help you sleep, try
muscles by concentrating on the feeling in the muscles that feel tense. Breathe slowly, doing the exercise when you are in bed,
muscle as it goes from tight to loose. calmly and evenly, letting every feeling of or keep a relaxation tape just for that
stress or tension go with each breath out. purpose.
Allow your breathing to deepen your
feeling of relaxation.
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Medical reasons can. This is a temporary way of coping at
3 Sleeping better – The need to go to the toilet increases in
later life and during pregnancy.
this time).
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room. Write down your negative automatic
thoughts, such as “I will never get to
sleep” and “I’ll get ill if I don’t get enough
4 Medication
sleep” and challenge them. Be more
realistic – the most likely consequence of This section is to provide information about therefore used to increase the amount/activity
not getting enough sleep is that you will antidepressants. It discusses briefly how of chemical messengers in the brain to help
feel tired and irritable. antidepressants work, why they are prescribed improve mood.
Practise relaxation and breathing and their effects and side-effects.
Antidepressants are similarly effective but can
techniques. There are different types of antidepressants produce different side effects. It is possible to
Visualise a relaxing scene or try to make and they are commonly divided into the four try another if the drug you are on does not
your mind go blank to enhance groups seen below. The antidepressants listed suit you (please seek medical advice before
restfulness. below also have brand names and these are stopping the antidepressant that you are on).
Don’t expect immediate results. shown in brackets.
Give yourself time to unlearn your How do I take my
disturbed sleeping patterns. Type of antidepressant antidepressant?
Discuss any concerns about your babys sleep Tricyclic Antidepressants: Amytriptyline Tablets/capsules should be swallowed with at
with your Health Visitor. (Tryptizol, Lentizol), Amoxapine (Asendis), least half a glass of water, whilst sitting up or
Clomipramine (Anafranil), Dothiepin/ standing, to ensure they do not stick in the
Dosulepin (Prothiaden), Doxepin (Sinequan), throat.
Imipramine (Tofranil), Lofepramine (Gamanil),
Maprotiline (Ludiomil), Nortriptyline If your antidepressant is a liquid it should be
(Allegron, Aventyl), Protriptyline (Concordin), measured out carefully. Your pharmacist can
Trimipramine (Surmontil) provide you with a medicine spoon or an oral
syringe to do so.
Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitors
(SSRIs/5-HT Re-uptake Blockers): Citalopram
(Cipramil), Escitalopram (Cipralex), Fluoxetine
When should I take my
(Prozac), Fluvoxamine (Faverin), Paroxetine antidepressant?
(Seroxat), Sertraline (Lustral). Related drugs:
Take your antidepressants as directed on the
Nefazodone (Dutonin), Trazodone (Molipaxin)
medicine label. They will not work if you
Mono-Amine Oxidase Inhibitors (MAOIs): don’t. You can take Tricyclics and SSRIs with or
Isocarboxazid (Marplan), Phenelzine (Nardil), after food. With SSRIs this may help with
Tranylcypromine (Parnate) feelings of sickness (feelings of sickness may
be present for the first few weeks of taking
Serotonin and Noraderenaline Reuptake
them - seek advice from your doctor if it
Inhibitors (SNRIs): Reboxetine (Edronax),
continues). If directed to take your SSRI
Venlaflaxine (Efexor, Efexor-XL) Duloxetine
tablets once a day, sometimes this is better at
(Cymbalta).
night as they can make you drowsy at first. If
instructed to take your MAOI once a day, this
What are antidepressants may be better in the morning as they can
used for? make you feel more alert (although they do
sometimes have the opposite effect on
When a person is depressed, the naturally people).
occurring chemical messengers in the brain
that regulate mood are not as effective or as
active as normal. Antidepressants are
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How long should I take the Will they make me drowsy? What about pregnancy and MAOIs
antidepressant for? breastfeeding? Common side-effects: feeling dizzy or
Antidepressants may make you feel drowsy so
faint after standing, drowsiness, dry
This should be discussed with your doctor. To do not drive or operate machinery until you It is possible and sometimes necessary to take
mouth, constipation.
help inform you, research has shown that your know how they affect you. Antidepressants are antidepressants when pregnant or
chances of becoming depressed again, after a not sleeping tablets, although when taken at breastfeeding. However, you should only do Uncommon: urine retention, headaches.
first episode of depression, are much lower if night they may help you to sleep. Seek advice this after consulting your doctor
Rare: swelling in the legs, sweating,
you keep taking the antidepressant for 6 from your doctor about your particular
insomnia, blurred vision, skin rashes.
months after you are well again. For a second antidepressant as some people find that their
antidepressant can make them feel more
Will I experience side-effects?
episode, your chances are lower if you keep
taking the antidepressant for 1–2 years after alert/awake. SNRIs
The lists of side-effects may look worrying to
you have become well again. For a depression you. Most people however get only a small Common side-effects: feeling sick,
that keeps coming back, continuing to take an Will my antidepressant cause number of MILD effects if any at all. As your headaches, drowsiness, dizziness.
antidepressant has been shown to have a body gets used to taking a new medication
protective effect for at least 5 years.
weight gain? Uncommon: not sleeping well, low blood
these side-effects may wear off. Please talk any
pressure, weight gain, wheeziness,
Some people may experience weight gain side-effects over with your doctor. Only stop
It will often take 2 weeks or more before the reduced desire for sex, difficulty in
when on antidepressants due to an increased your antidepressant if your side-effects are
antidepressants start to have any effect and reaching orgasm.
appetite or a reduction in metabolic rate. If really disagreeable, and if they are, book an
maybe up to 6 weeks to give their full effect.
you do start to put on/lose weight and are urgent appointment with your doctor. Rare: Skin rashes.
concerned about this, please consult your It is important to inform your doctor of any If you have found that your questions have
Are antidepressants addictive? doctor. other drug you are taking before starting an not been answered by this information, please
Antidepressants are not addictive, but if you antidepressant. consult your doctor.
have taken them for 8 weeks or more you may Should I avoid anything?
experience some mild ‘discontinuation’ effects Tricyclics
while your body re-adjusts. When taking Tricylclics, SSRIs or SNRIs alcohol Source: Bazire, S. and Branch, S. (2001) Drugs
is best avoided except in moderation (it can Common side-effects: Drowsiness, used in the treatment of mental health
It is not advisable to stop taking make you feel sleepier). Alcohol may also constipation, dry mouth, blurred vision, disorders: FAQs. APS Publishing.
antidepressants suddenly. Depression can reduce the effect of your antidepressant. weight gain, and sweating.
return if treatment is stopped too early and
When taking MAOIs alcohol should be Uncommon: nausea, headache, urine
you may experience some discontinuation
avoided. Seek advice from your doctor if you retention, low blood pressure, a fast heart
effects (e.g. headaches, restlessness, nausea,
intend to drink. There are also foods that are beat, reduced desire for sex, difficulty in
lethargy, sleep disturbance). You should
to be avoided when on MAOIs and your reaching orgasm.
discuss stopping your drugs or reducing them
with your doctor. doctor should provide you with a list. Rare: Feeling shaky, skin rashes.
Some antidepressants make you sleepy and (Tricyclic drugs are dangerous in overdose)
What if I forget to take my slow down your reactions and you should
therefore seek advice from your doctor if you
antidepressants? SSRIs
intend to drive on them or operate heavy
If you forget to take your antidepressant you machinery. Common side-effects: Nausea and
should start again as soon as you remember. vomiting, insomnia, reduced desire for
If you are taking antidepressants after having a
Do not try to catch up by taking two or more sex, difficulty in reaching orgasm.
baby and have any reason to believe that you
doses. Inform your doctor of any missed Uncommon: restlessness/anxiety,
may be pregnant again please consult your
doses at your next appointment. If you have drowsiness, headache, loss of appetite,
doctor.
difficulty in remembering to take your doses diarrhoea.
ask your pharmacist, doctor or nurse for some
support with this. Rare: dry mouth, skin rashes, feeling
shaky.
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Practical help –
5 Supporting someone with providing practical help with everyday
tasks can really help take the pressure off
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relaxation tape or CD. When you have a small
baby to care for you need to find time to relax.
Remember that at this stage it is more
Exercise regularly
We know that regular exercise does improve
mood and prevents further depression. It
does not have to be lycra clad trips to the gym
– you can do something physical every day
that will start to improve your mood. You may
have to adjust the type of exercise with a baby
around – and definitively in the first six weeks
after delivery. Walking is a brilliant way of
exercising, and baby can come too!
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good but I have to keep an eye on it. Jasmine
If I am feeling wobbly I know to call a
I have now lived here
friend and arrange something social.
counselling to sort myself out a bit a break and the real key was
more. The programme was helpful for realising that I did not always have
out more now and the mother and to relax and accept myself and just be
baby group has been a good way of still sometimes has helped both Simon
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