Going Reptile
HOW ENGAGING YOUR INNER LIZARD
LEADS 10 MORE FULFILLING WORK ée
PERSONAL RELATIONSHTPS
By Martha Hamilton
Iustrated by Hattie Hyder
Going Reptile
HOW ENGAGING YOUR INNER LIZARD LEADS 10 MORE
FULFILLING WORK & PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPSCONTENTS
ACMA COTY
TO THE REPTILE
Irroduction to The Rept, 3
The Consaquences "
Your Bein: Prt 19
‘The Repilan Stagas 27
Going Viral ar
The Brain: Patt 45
option sive 65
‘The Four F's: Basic Repilln Styes 66
The Fin Sve 68
“The Fight sive 7
The Freeze Sie 76
The Faun Style 80
‘ations You Can Take 87
Summary, 93
Practices & Glossary 99
Reforances & About the shor 104
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WEARE HARDWIRED TO RESPOND TO THREATS
Fewponostoatved'cunheb eopyou,” uu event of oul feat Bute we
alive, The Reptilan Response is hardired for find ourselves reacting to a perceived thet
reason: ifs useful and necessary.
ituov reYOUR INWER LIZARD CAN GET IN THE WAY OF YOUR CAREER
When a “perceived threat” triggers a pilin
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LOOK FAMILIAR?
os SOMEONE YOU KNOW?
PERHAPS, EVEN YOU!
Going Reptile can be:
+ Scary
+ Unnenving
+ Confusing
+ Disconcerting
+ Alto familar both to the person who
's Going Reptile and to those nearbyEVEN SUBTLE THINGS CAN SET OFF A REPTILIAN RESPONSE
+ Body language
+ Tone of voice
+ Facil exressions
+ Gestures
+ Behaviors
+ Certain words
+ And mary others
THE SUBTLE REPTILE
When you're around a Repilian Vibe, you can
FEEL tt Sometmes you don't even have to see
crear to know t's happening
Imoicn okIN THE FOLLOWING SECTIONS, YOU WILL:
Learn how te recognize what “Going Repti”
looks and fees ike, even when itis subtle
Understand how the Reptitan Response works
and ts impact on individuals and groups
Discover actions you can take wen you "Go
Repo” or when youre onthe receiving end
‘Strengthen your capaci to prevent, ora least
diminish, the probably of fture unraveling t's
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ATCO Ia TaNWHEN WE GO REPTILE, WE:
FOR EXAMPLE:
+ Are productive
+ Don'teollaborate well
+ Feel isolated
+ Don't see.a way out
In the process, we lose access to our Highor-
‘Level Human Gapacites. This can impact us in
all areas of our ite
+ Atwork
+ Athome
+ Sociaty
+ In our own sense of who we areACCESSING YOUR HIGHER-LEVEL HUMAN CAPACTTZES
oe
In contast to Going Reptile, we have Higher Level
:
"hewn ape hat all ot $y
+ ave
yk
+ Flexible, agile
+ Open to sesing possibiltios
+ Motivated
+ Curious
+ Miionary
+ Able to handle complexity
+ Productive
+ Proactive
+ Connected with others
+ Compassionate
fe
GOING REPTILE 15 CONTAGIOUS
It doesnt only affect individuals. impacts groups
and entire organizations, because Reptiian
Responses spread. My bad moment becomes
youre tanTHe IDEAL
Ideally, we al would have full access to
‘ur Higher-Level Human Capaciioe
Incvicually ‘and as a group.
THE CONSEQUENCES OF GOING REPTILE
Individual
Exhausted ‘demas
Unappreciated i Unmet deadlines
Blamng i Draining meatings
Ta osuTHE REWARDS OF HAVING ACCESS TO OUR HIGHER-LEVEL HUMAN CAPACITIES
Navigates challenges creatively
UCU LATHE EVOLUTION OF OUR BRAINS
TWO PRIMARY BRAIN FUNCTIONS
‘The human brains beautfuly complex. And brain
research is continually revealing more about how
the brah works.
‘The earlier part ofthe brain, the reptiian and
‘mammalian caters, are focised on salty
‘and eurvival
In this book, we simply refer to these safety and
‘surival functions as the Repilan Functons..
“The prefrontal cortex isthe most recent ation
to our brain. tis the seat of our Higher-Level
Human Functions.
Input comes into our bain in many ways, some
‘conscious, some unconscious
+ Sight + Reflex + Gut eelng
+ Sound Reaction tution
aan Memon) eermaion
“Touch + Sensation
“Instinct + Perception
‘ie can respond with our Higher-Level Human
Functions. This par of the brain dfrentiates us 2s
human beings. It includes good decision-making
‘and appropriate socal and emotional responses.
(Or, we may tespend with our Repilan Functions.
‘This pat ofthe brain chides the amygdela tho
brain's alarm center—which is says scanning
for threats
The amygc the bras rade for tres,
can take ver he rest of
the bar party the prettental cortex”QUR BRAINS ARE TRAINED FOR THREAT RESPONSE
‘So, what determines whether we use our Higher
[Level Human Functions or our Reptilan Functions?
‘Great question! Our brain makes a spi-second
decision about whether a threat i presen.
ta treat i present, our brain avers to the
FReptiian Functions, bypassing the Higher-Level
‘Human Functions.
FOR EXAMPLE:
“we ind taking: On te thr hand encoun mugger:
2 ee
Wot yoo, thats a treat
€NESPONDING 10 THREATS, REAL OR IMAGINED
Sometimes, we Go Reptile when he treat
‘may not be eal, yet our brain respon
Wecall his «pecaved threat By te way, we
{do ths all the tne,
ts is concerned
took one of
approval
or dhe forget
his glasses?
THE SUBTLEST THING CAN TRIGGER A REPTILIAN RESPONSE
‘Aporceived treat can be just about anything
‘that sets ofan alarm, leading toa Reptlion
Response,
‘The more our brain percelvesa threat, the mare
Body language
Uncertainty
CondescensionALL AT ONCE OX A SLOW BOLL!
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o
GA
igh option
Human Functions Response
REPTILIAN STAGES
‘Sometimes a Reptin Response works ikea
light eviteh en immediate ful-on reptilian saety
response oa threat, bypassing the prefrontal
cortex
(other tines, a Reptilon Response works more
‘koa dirmer swich As our Repilan Response
‘akes hold, our access to our Higher Love Human
Functions (n our prefrontal cortex) diminishes.
‘The stronger the Reptilan Response, theless
‘access we have to our Higher-Level Human
Functions,THE FLVE STAGES OF INTENSITY
eat
fone
THE “FULL-ON HUMAN” STAGE
In this stage, we have fll access to our Higher
‘Level Human Capactos and naturally use those
with ease.
Really,
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Pocket ed
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Humen Ri
Hera Sas «19THE “POCKET REPTILE” STAGE
Inthis stage, we are aware ota Reptilan Response
Starting to form, yet we stil have access to our
Higher-Level Human Capacities, which help us
navigate the situation.
Really
Vm tine
Pocket Zipped
Reptile Up
Human Reptile.
THE “REALLY, I’M FINE” STAGE
(wt wor teat}
In this stage, a Repilan Response is taking
hold, We do our best to hide & behind a pleasant
‘exterior, hoping this wll help us navigate the
situation.
‘We cannot see that wo've already ost access
to 6ome of our Higher-Lovel Human Capacties.
We're stil contained.
Pockst
Reptile.
nen
a oie
Herts\\
THE “TIPPED UP” STAGE
In this stage, we're Going Reptile and doing at
We can to hold together.
Wet attempting to zip up our Reptiian Response,
desperately hoping the il help us navigate the
stuston.
‘ie cannet see that wo've already lost access
to:many of our Higher-Lovel Human Capactes.
We're barey contained.
Pocket
Reptile Up
Fulton Full-on
Human Reptile.
THE “FULL-ON REPTILE” STAGE
[AL this stage, our reactive responses have
taken over
\ieve lost access to nearly all ur Higher Level
‘Human Capacities and don't even realize i
Athi hal stage, we're losing it.
Realy,
rm fine
Pocket
Reptile Up
Fulton
HumanWE'RE CONSTANTLY FLIPPING BETWEEN STAGES
‘Some of us easily fp trom one stage to another
[Many of us habitually lve between “Really I'm
Fine" and “Zipped Up,” holding itll together.
For most of us, this way of being was modeled
A s in our educational and social envronments
Really,
Vm fine
Zipped
Up
THE IDEAL:
People who habitual tve between Ful-on
Human and Pockst Reptile are rare.
However, just tke learning 2 foreign language,
Joucan num occas yar gira
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Pocket
Reptile
Fulton
Human’HAVING NEGATIVE EMOTLONS DOESN'T
NECESSARTLY MEAN YOU'RE GOING REPTILE
[etm angry, state,
rites, dasha
@=
INUGOING REPTILE WAS A RIPPLE EFFECT
Going Reptile doesn't happen in a vacuum,
When someone Goes Reptle, we can feo!
it.we are impacted
FOR EXAMPLE:HOW “GOING VIRAL” WoRKS
\We automaticaly connect tothe emetional
state of others through our "Neural WF; ~
‘miror neurons in our bain fe up to match
‘the mirer neurons of others, often without
seven being aware. And it happens in a
‘racton ofa second
a
THE PROCESS OF GOING VIRAL
W'S
4. tan e rk
hard to appear hap.BEING VIRAL ISN'T ALWAYS OBVIOUS
Usual the person with the stronger intensity
‘or withthe greater power (ike 2 boss) influences
‘the interaction.
YOU CAN'T KEEP 11 ALL INSIDE
‘Think about it I you are Zipped Up, you may think
yoke holding tallin and keeping ital togethes,
Controing your emotions But the ths, those
‘round you are picking up on your emotions on C
‘2 eubto level, through their own mirernourons:
Your Zipped Up emotions have Gane ViralGOING VIRAL CAN WORK THE OTHER WAY, Too
aU LaneIN REVIEW:
.\ Weve seen that a threat, ora perceived threat,
can kick off Roptiian Rospence.
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Torment at
50, THIS BRINGS UP THE QUESTION...
Do you have Or doos your
‘your Reptle? Reptile have you?TUG-OF-WAR BETWEEN TOUR REPTELTAN AND PRE-FRONTAL FUNCTLONS
‘You could say, the answer depends on your brain.
(Our brainshave a certain amount of functional
bandwidth’ which gets allocated between the
Higher-Level Human Functons ofthe preftontal
Cortex and the Reptiian Functions.
YOU ONLY HAVE SO MUCH MENTAL BANDWIDTH
“The more bandit allocated tothe Reptikan
Functions, the less avalable to the Higher Love
Human Functons ofthe prorenta cot.
a
epi
SS» WER:
é Protrontal Cortex (PFC) Accoss MotorGOING INTO SURVIVAL MODE
We CAN RE-TRAIN OUR BRAINS
‘As we've mentioned before, the Reptilan Functions
hhave a realy clear jb: afety and survival,
“These functions can laa us to go Ful-on Rapti,
which can and wil take down the prerontal cortex.
InFul-on Reptio, the bandwidth is taken up and
the impact on parformanco is abvious.
‘But, even inthe subter stages of Going Reptile,
performance diminishes.
Fortunately, inthe subtler stages we have the
‘chance te natice when our Repilian Functions
‘send a “ping” of perceived threat. If these “pings”
{90 unnoticed, the Reptilan Response escalates.
Ite can be aware ofthese "pings." however,
wo can work with thom. Our brain eave and
‘changing; it constantly rewies. And, because of
this, we have the chance te intervene to train
cour brain,
‘The Reptiian Functions, slone, cannat discern
bboteon real threats and perceived threats. But the
‘reftntal cortex can. This is why it's 0 important
to train our bran to workin an integrated way and
Improve our discernment.AWORD FROM THE EXPERTS
“The brains mutabe charges lho tne, a leconoarting
‘mount nf changes based onthe lighting sound you the
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what you wear The canestancy ol the bain ke custard, and ts
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sation of eroton and impulse rele greatly onthe
jon baween te prefrontal crtax—the baits executive
‘and the emotional cents inthe ideal, porous
‘eutry converging onthe arya.
“The ky perl aoa fr sltroglaton he prefrontal carte, which
‘na eenee, he bra’ ‘good boss. Guiding us when we ae
curtest
“The amygdala a tgger pot for emotional cstress, anger
‘mous fea ard eo on When this cxeuty takes over ast 2 the
‘Ded bose” Lending Usto taka seflons we might rage te
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YOUR BRAIN WITHOUT TRAINING
‘Theis how our bean works in default mode.
(Our Brain:
1. Continuously scars for treats
2, Sends a “ping” when a potential threat arises
8, Ifthe “ping” is avoided, denied of suppressed,
our brain
Sends an ala: threat
«Files the isu for escalation another time
+ Starts @ Reptilan Response, which lnits
‘access tothe prefrontal cortex
Tho Result: Your Reptile has you!ACASE STUDY: BO8’S BRAIN IN DEFAULT MODELEARNING TO RECOGNIZE YOUR REPTELLAN PATTERNS
IH dont pay attention tothe “ping,* my
Replilan Responses get stronger. But how
<0 pay attention?
Firat recognize the ping indicator,
THE FOUR TYPES OF “PING” INDICATORS
4. Body sensations
2. Thoughts
8, Emotions
4, Tokng (ornot taking) action
‘There are many incicators to alert you to an