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9-Taare Jazmin Par-1
9-Taare Jazmin Par-1
Thank You
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• There is younger child , who does not follow the dotted line.
• Even though he tries very hard does every thing the elder child
does but he fails. The reaction of parents, teachers and the
society is to punish. 3
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• Mother cared but did not go beyond this. She never researched
and tended to follow her husbands paradigm of parenting. She did
not use her brain creatively - Father belonged to the old school of
parenting- “ Spare the rod and spoil the child” OR Beat them into “
shape” - Worse both desired “ shape “ that they wanted
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• Provide clothing, food and shelter and then expect children to do their bidding - Children
are not machine; every child is unique and has a different inner potential - Compare two
brothers Ishan and Youhan both living in the same environment one is very good in
studies while the other is good in painting and jigsaw puzzle - It is so surprising that
Youhana –elder brother appreciates and praises Ishan’s talent while the parents are so
ignorant about it. - Sibling comparison or peer comparison should not be done-every child
should be recognized as unique and his/her inner potential should be recognized and
nurtured. 10
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• The same attitude of realizing their own dream through their children manifests when
Youhan the elder child loses the match instead of consoling and cheering him the father
is annoyed and looks at the winner child.
• Children should be taught that real failure is in not trying. It does not matter how many
times you have fallen but how many times you got up.
• Similarly everybody cannot become Doctor, Engineer, or MBA –a society also needs
painter, writer, sports players, musicians…. 11
• Parents Impose their own expectation and ambition on the
child
• For them child getting a good job is the life objective
• Nobody worry about the talent
Remember the first meeting of Ram with Ishan fathers when the
father says Is talent ka kya faida ? The teacher Ram comments
Sarre unglian ek jaise nahin hoti- ungli ko keech ke barabar
bana do chahe ungli toot kyon na jaaye.
• Examples of suicidal case children cannot bear the weight of
the parents expectation.
• Parents wants to grow and reap toppers
• Recent cricket sensation –Pravin Kumar used to get beaten for
practising cricket, it was his self belief that he did not left his
talent inspite of zero resources, constraints and opposition.
• Life objective should be that a child should be happy in his /her
life
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