Dollesin, Lyka

 Are there any chances that you have tried to break with traditions (in family or society).
Kindly share a brief description.

There is a possibility that I will veer from my family's customs. Since I am the only
daughter and my siblings are all boys, my parents, especially my mother, have high
expectations for me. I have to be like my mother for my family, which means I can only
concentrate on my education and housework. But I can no longer be myself because of the
burden of studying, doing tasks around the house, and acting like my mother's little girl. I can
no longer have time to breathe. Because of this, I occasionally favor those who are decent and
can help me stay true to myself. As I mentioned earlier, my mother always tells me that if she
does what her mother does, then I should do the same.
I've come to the realization that as long as I don't cause harm to anyone else and am
just being myself, I should live life to the fullest. My mother needs to understand that I'm not
her shadow and that I'm unique from her. I want my parents to advise me in a way that does
not feel like they are controlling me, so that I may make my own decisions. If I make a mistake
in life, they are there to back me, offer me guidance, and be my pillar of strength because, one
day, those choices will make me stronger and help me create a better personality. Like Merida
in the film "Brave," she stands up for what she believes in, breaks the convention that prevents
her from being who she truly is, and transforms into the person she wants to be.

 How do you think your actions affect the people around you or the community you belong
to?

My family may have come to recognize that I should be myself, that I don't need to be
controlled, and that I need to be free from what they want for me because I have my own plans for
myself as a result of my actions, in my opinion. They now support and mentor me and have grown to be
understanding. While my mother is still working through the acceptance process, I am aware that she
needs some time. Although I am aware that she cares about me, she should take my happiness into
account.