It’s always amusing when somebody drops by

your social media post and offers a critical

comment completely out of context.

It’s often driven by vindictiveness, envy,

jealousy, or inadequacy.

You encountered very few people determined

to provoke a confrontation. Those that did, got
blocked
Any fool can criticize,
condemn, and complain but it
takes character and self-
control to be understanding
and forgiving.
▪When somebody enjoys inflicting harm because they
lack the courage to be relevant, cut and run. Block,
delete and walk away.
The people that make the most noise
have the most insecurities to conceal.
They cover it up with bravado. Find your
audience and don’t worry about
pleasing everyone
▪ As painful as criticism can be and as flawed as the delivery
might be, there still could be valuable lessons to be
learned.
▪ Once we separate the message from the approach, we can
focus on any pertinent insight that may help us grow.
▪ Many people lack good communication skills and fail to
offer critical feedback in a compassionate fashion.
▪ Their tone is often calloused, and their delivery is abrasive.
▪ When we operate from a place of high self-awareness we
stop and assess the method of delivery, recognize its flaws,
and obviate emotional reactions in favor of maintaining self-
control.
▪ Criticism is just an opinion. Don’t let it become a personal
indictment and try to respond with class and self-control.
Criticism is something we can
avoid easily by saying nothing,
doing nothing, and being nothing
▪Most people take criticism personally.
▪We perceive negative feedback as a personal
attack. Realizing many people simply deliver
the feedback poorly we can appreciate that
maybe the criticism is “constructive” and
wasn’t meant to be malicious.
▪At the same time, when we offer constructive
criticism it’s important to remember many
people have thin skin.
▪Best advice is to take a deep breath. When I
receive a negative e mail, I sleep on it.

▪ I wait at least 24 hours before replying.

▪Pausing before saying something we regret

is always a good policy.
▪ It’s easy to get the impression that life should be constant
accolades and praise, especially if we had loving parents.
▪ However, the real world is different. Real friends are
different as well. Real friends and people that care tell it
like it is. We may not want to hear what they have to say, but
what they share is normally invaluable.
▪ Flattery feels good, but it’s often disingenuous.
▪ It’s best to get comfortable around people that tell the truth,
even when it hurts.
▪ When we smile and laugh, we relax, even if its coerced.
The act of smiling floods our body with positive vibrations
that can ease the situation.
▪ A good laugh can mitigate the tension and help everyone
appreciate what’s being shared isn’t personal.
▪ Don’t let someone’s opinion spoil our good mood. Laugh it
off and walk away by remembering the lesson and let go
of the negativity.
You can't let praise or
criticism get to you. It's a
weakness to get caught up in
either one.
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