The

“How” of teaching

The “How” of teaching – the methodic as the entire process of teaching – can be
described as Pivot of pedagogical professionalization. The “How” is the most
important consideration. How the student learns, depend on how the teacher is
teaching.
A Music Teacher who is flexible and posseses (memiliki) various repertoire of
teaching program is a Music Teacher who possesses the Proficiency of Music
Pedagogy (methodic and didactic competence).
But there are also tendencies in the teaching profession, where the teacher method
is against the professionalization.
As an example:
- one copies the teacher
- teaching method becomes a routine or “patent-recipe” and personal method that is
irrelevant (developed over years)
- Instinct or so called “higher-calling” as the reason to teach
- methodical improvisation

The problem that occur due to the mentioned above:

- the teaching method doesn’t become better after long years of practicing
- the opposite of self-development, such as solidification (kekakuan),
monotony(monoton), lack of imagination and one or two way of method.
The aim of methodic is the wider spectrum, various criteria and condition of teaching.
And the constant self-development as music teacher.

Emotional personality

Here are the four emotional types from Emotional Freedom, along with their upsides, downsides, and
ways to balance them.

Emotional Type #1: The Intellectual

Qualities: You are bright, articulate, analytic, intellectually oriented, and often take refuge in your
mind as the first line of coping.

Upside: Extremely logical, comfortable with fixing problems logically and intellectually, great debater,
able to stay calm in emotionally heated situations.

Downside: Difficulty connecting with feelings — others’ and your own; give the impression of being
snobby, withholding, or cold; obsess about problems; sometimes too serious.

Balance Prescription: Spend more time in your physical/sensual self. Try breathing techniques,
vigorous exercise, and practicing feeling the other person’s emotions (empathizing).

Emotional Type #2: The Empath

Qualities: You are highly sensitive, naturally giving, spiritually attuned, and a good listener.

Upside: Gifted healer, helper, and friend; passionate and sensual; intuitive about others’ thoughts and
feelings; emotionally responsive; in touch with your body and emotions.

Downside: Easily absorb others’ negativity; prone to anxiety, depression, and fatigue; easily feel
hemmed in when living with others; difficulty setting boundaries with draining people.

Balance Prescription: Use positive self-talk and logic to get grounded. Allow frequent quiet and
meditation time. Learn to set clear limits and boundaries — say no, take space, walk away, and protect
yourself.

Emotional Type #3: The Rock

Qualities: You are emotionally strong for self and others, practical, able to stay cool in a crisis,
nonjudgmental.

Upside: Pillar of strength, consistent and loyal, giving, respectful, get along with nearly everyone.

Downside: Can be detached from feelings; harbor anger and frustration; relationships may lack depth;
don’t make waves or invite challenges; rather avoid conflict than confront it.

Balance Prescription: Practice activities that are spontaneous. Express a feeling a day. Initiate
conversations that are emotional.

Emotional Type #4: The Gusher

Qualities: You know your emotions and share them often, and are spontaneous, direct, and authentic.
Upside: Emotionally articulate, easily forgiving, make and keep supportive networks of friends, value
intimate relationships, process hard issues easily.

Downside: Tend to be a drama king or queen, may turn friends into therapists, seek external feedback
rather than relying on own intuition, excessive need to share.

Balance Prescription: Practice activities that support and strengthen your self-sufficiency. Give
yourself credit, learn to forgive yourself, and practice positive self-talk.

The 10 Qualities of an Emotionally Intelligent Person


1. Empathy

I love this definition of empathy:

“Empathy is the capacity to understand or feel what another person is
experiencing from within their frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place
oneself in another’s position.”

There are two different types of empathy. This piece from the Greater Good
Science Center at UC Berkeley beautifully depicts what they are:

‘“Affective empathy” refers to the sensations and feelings we get in response to
others’ emotions; this can include mirroring what that person is feeling, or just
feeling stressed when we detect another’s fear or anxiety. “Cognitive empathy,”
sometimes called “perspective taking,” refers to our ability to identify and
understand other peoples’ emotions.’

We empathize based on the reaction to others. What I’d also say is that empathy
can be cultivated and learned through experiences. Store away in your memory
those feelings that you feel both in reaction, and as you put things in perspective.
Write these thoughts out, analyze them and determine how you want to treat
others in the same way you’d want to be treated.

2. Self-Awareness

Self-awareness is the art of understanding yourself, recognizing what stimuli
you’re facing and then preparing for how to manage yourself both in a proactive
and reactive manner. Self-awareness is how we see ourselves, and also how we
perceive others to see us. The second, external aspect, is always the most difficult
to properly assess.

Dr. Tasha Eurich puts forth:

“Leaders who focus on building both internal and external self-awareness, who
seek honest feedback from loving critics, and who ask what instead of why can
learn to see themselves more clearly — and reap the many rewards that
increased self-knowledge delivers.”

For yourself, ask the introspective questions, yearn for knowledge and be
curious. And for others, seek feedback in an honest, caring environment.

3. Curiosity

“I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.” — Albert Einstein

Show me a curious person who’s willing to learn and improve, and I’ll show you
a success story waiting to happen. When you’re curious, you’re passionate, and
when you’re passionate you are driven to want to be your best. Your “antennae”
are up to things you love, to wanting to grow and learn more. This learning
mindset positively affects other areas of your life like relationships.

Tomas Chamorro-Premusic writes:

“First, individuals with higher CQ are generally more tolerant of ambiguity.
This nuanced, sophisticated, subtle thinking style defines the very essence of
complexity. Second, CQ leads to higher levels of intellectual investment and
knowledge acquisition over time, especially in formal domains of education, such
as science and art.” Source: HBR

4. Analytical Mind

The most emotionally intelligent and resolute people are deep-thinkers that
analyze and process all new information that comes their way. They continue to
analyze old information, habits and ways of doing things to see if they can extract
ways to improve. We’re all “analysts” in the sense that we consciously think
about all new information that comes our way.

Savvy EQ individuals are problem-solvers and everyday philosophers who
contemplate the “Why” of existence, the “Why” of why we do what we do, and
who care passionately about living a virtuous life. Having an analytical mind
means having a healthy appetite for a continuously improving mindset geared at
bettering yourself and always remaining open to new ideas.

5. Belief

A major component of maintaining emotional self-control is using the power of
faith to believe in yourself both in the present and in the future. It’s believing that
the people and things in your life are there for a reason, and that everything will
ultimately work out for good.

Faith alone will not help you. It takes action, of course. But when you combine
faith with powerful values like hard work, perseverance and a positive attitude,
you have formed the foundation of a champion. Every great leader and thinker
uses faith, either in a practical context, emotionally and certainly spiritually.

Spend time in meditation. Think about the way you believe in yourself. Engender
a greater faith toward the person you are and who you want to become. And
trust and believe that the pieces in your life will come together in a way that will
help you live boldly and joyfully.

6. Needs and Wants

The emotionally intelligent mind is able to discern between things that they need
versus things that would be “nice to have” that classify more aptly as wants. A
need, particularly in the context of Abraham Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs,” is
the basic-level stuff like safety, survival and sustenance. Once those things are
met, then we can progress to other needs and of course, wants.

A “want” is a big house, nice car, and even the brand new iPhone. We do not need
those things to survive, but rather we want them based on our own personal
desires or what we perceive to matter to society. Become well-versed in knowing
what you truly need to to live, to accomplish goals and to support yourself and
loved ones. Make sure you draw a very clear distinction between what it is you
need, and what it is you want.

Emotionally intelligent people know the difference between these two things,
and always establish needs prior to fulfilling wants.
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Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

7. Passionate

Inspired leadership and love for what you do is born from having a passion for a
subject or people. People with a high EQ use their passion and purpose to ignite
the engine that drives them to do what they do. This passion is infectious and
contagious — it permeates all areas of their lives and rubs off on the people
around them.

Passion is sort of that je ne sais quoi that when you feel it, or even when you see
it in others, you simply know. Passion is the natural desire, instinct, drive,
ambition and motivated love for a subject or someone. Passion brings positive
energy that helps sustain us and inspire us to want to keep going. And there’s no
secret that emotionally intelligent people who are passionate are also willing to
persevere and power forward no matter their circumstances.

8. Optimistic

If you want to increase your opportunities, improve your relationships and think
clearly and constructively, you’re best positioned to maintain a positive attitude.
Of all the things that we try to control and influence, our attitude is the primary
thing that is always within our control. We can choose to live each day by being
positive. It’s that simple.

“When we are happy — when our mindset and mood are positive — we are
smarter, more motivated, and thus more successful. Happiness is the center, and
success revolves around it.” — Shawn Achor

9. Adaptability

“Adaptability is not imitation. It means power of resistance and assimilation.”
— Mahatma Gandhi

Emotionally intelligent people recognize when to continue their course, and
when it’s time for a change. This vitally important recognition and ability to
make crisp, swift decisions in your best interest is called adaptability. You must
determine when to stay the course, or when to keep moving forward in another
direction.

Similarly, when one strategy is not working, try evaluating and determining if
something else will work. From the way you treat yourself, to how you treat
others, to your daily routine, always stay open-minded and be willing to adapt
and introduce new elements to how you think and what you do.

Throughout your life, you’ll need to change course and make assessments on
whether you’ll be happy and successful if you choose one path or another.
Recognize that you CAN always change. You can always start over. It may not
always be the most prudent or wise decision, but only you will truly know in
your heart what is or what isn’t. Start with leaving the option on the table.

10. Desire to Help Others Succeed and Succeed for Yourself

Last but not least, an emotionally intelligent person is interested in overall
success and achievement — not just for themselves, but for their peers. Their
inspired leadership and passion, combined with their optimism, drives them to
want to do best for themselves AND others.

Too often, we get so self-absorbed and concerned only with “WIIFM,” or —
What’s in it for me? We have to be concerned about this. It’s a must, so don’t let
anyone ever convince you otherwise. But in the same way that we should be
focused on our self-interest, we should also maintain a spirit of desire and hope
for wanting to see the people around us succeed.

Not only is this a brilliant safeguard against envy and greed, it also revitalizes our
passion and drives us toward achieving our next goal. It helps us gain allies and
builds powerful relationships that come back to help us in reciprocal fashion.