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 Dedication
To the source of all true power and the sustainer of all life; GOD.
To the source of my teachings and daily dealings; Holy Spirit the Spirit of
God.
To the one who saved me and made me worthy to be called the son of
God; Jesus Christ.
To you that bought this book, I celebrate you, the next pain overcomer
of our time and a compulsory winner over devil and his agents.
To everyone in the ministry (Christ Species Interdenominational Ministry)
who made all efforts to make this book a success. May God bless you all.

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 Acknowledgement
This book is the result of a spiritual and physical lifetime learning
of over 30years and development from many spiritual encounters with
God himself.
There is no achievement in my life without the help of the holy spirit
who continually teaches me all things and bringing to me the full
understanding of the precepts and principles of the kingdom of God that
guarantees successful living as a christian. Just as Jesus promised us the
gift of the Holy Spirit and he said he will teach us all things, and he had
been teaching us all things till eternity.
To one of my faithful and loyal proteges, Steve Mozea Chizobam who
God had positioned to do most of the running around to make this book
get to the world. You are part of my history. Thank you so much.

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Bible versions Abbreviations used in this Book

KJV: King James Version.

NIV: New International Version.
NLT: New Living Translation.
GNB: Good News Bible.
AB: Amplified Bible.

And take note we refused to use capital letters for any word regarding
devil and his agents (satan, demons), we refuse to acknowledge satan
even in writing.

We acknowledge GOD alone the creator of heaven and earth.

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 Contents
S/N TITLE Chapter Page
1. ….…………………...Cover page……………………….Cover Page………………..i
2. ….……………………Ministry Details……………..…Details……………………… ii
3. ….……………………Dedication………………………..Dedication…………….… iii
4. ….……………………Acknowledgement……………Acknowledgement….. iv
5. ….……………………Bible Abbreviations…………..Abbreviations………….. v
6. ….……………………Content…………………………….Content…………………… 1
7. ….……………………Introduction……………………..Introduction……………. 2
8. ….……………………What is Pain……………………..Chapter One……………. 3
9. ….……………………Forms of Pain……………………Chapter Two……………. 8
10. ….……………………Pain Of a Man…………………..Chapter Three………… 12
11. ….……………………Pain in our present Day…….Chapter Four……..…… 21
12. ….……………………Pain in Marriage……………….Chapter Five…………….33
13. ….……………………Pain at Work……………………..Chapter six………………54
14. ….……………………Pain in Ministry…………………Chapter Seven………… 56
15. ….……………………The Church Pain………………..Chapter Eight…………..62
16. ….……………………Power Over Pain……………….Chapter Nine……………68
17. ….……………………Understanding Men&Earth.Chapter Ten…………….95
18. ….……………………Discovering Purpose………….Chapter Eleven……….111
19. ….……………………Value System…………………….Chapter Twelve……….131
20. ….……………………End Notes………………………….Chapter Thirteen…….139
21. ….……………………About the Author………………About the Author.…..140

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 Introduction
First and foremost am Apostle Ake-John Oluwatomi and its nice to have you
get this book; hence I welcome you on board into a journey that will start as you
read this book thoroughly. This is a book that will set you free from every
imbalance around you; it’s a bail out system from whatever life mess you have
found yourself. For the few days you will read this book, I will like you to know
that am your companion and this book is birthed from the realms of the spirit
through Holy spirit to empower you over any form of pain and be able to fulfill
that great vision you see, and the major essence why God sent you on earth,
becoming joyful at the later end of your life without sorrow.

There are diverse kinds of pain, but the pain am focusing on in this book is
the psychological pain, which in another words can be called Emotional pain.
From chapter two, pain in any context in the book; is referred to as emotional
pain. This book is best benefiting for a personal retreat where you can be far from
all distractions and disturbances around you. Seek for a solemn place and go and
iron out issues of life with the spiritual backups embedded in this book to bring
forth kingdom realities. Take time to read and study the book word for word for
deeper understanding and avoid distractions, because your destiny fulfillment is
here already, that future you seek for is already here before you, God bless you as
you journey into kingdom reality as you read the book. Put it at the back of your
mind that I have prayed for you, and there’s a prayer atmosphere that had been
opened up to you, that makes you see the light of God And understand what
God’s intention was when he created you and put the dimension of pain in you.

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 Chapter One
WHAT IS PAIN
Pain is a fundamental requirement of all world changers, and all world
changers are continually pained in their heart as a result of feelings that comes
through an alert system inbuilt by God in man’s curriculum to birth the art of
success in them, they received something from the lord and oh they are happy
and the test of the vision comes, hence they become sad and embittered.
Greatness is tied to your ability to turn your pain into a driving force towards your
colorful destination.

Most people are down because they are not sure of where they are heading
to and their possible outcomes, some know where they are headed but don’t
know how to get there, some know how to get there but don’t have enough
resources to get there, some have enough resources but don’t have trusted
human capitals that will be engaged to make such great vision materialized, or
possibly they have the human capital but don’t have enough leadership skills that
enhances their advancement in life and manage men, or they have all these
attributes and have achieved a lot but are now left alone, rich and full of money in
their account but no perceived heart joy or sense of accomplishments, why?
Because they have stepped on many people to get to the top. So they are wealthy
but are not secured and feeling secured, wealthy but not mind rested, wealthy
but there are still some things money cannot buy, wealthy but seeing illusions,
wealthy but lack sound mind, wealthy but can’t sleep in confidence, wealthy but
no trusted friends, wealthy but can’t trust their spouse, wealthy but can’t be free
in engaging in social activities, wealthy but have kids with dull financial
intelligence drive, wealthy but confused on what more to do with money, wealthy
but can’t get enough sleep, Hence pain is fully defined here in this context of
focus as an unpleasant sensation and also emotional experience linked to an
information perceived to be negative, received from the five senses of man.
The bible says my people perish because they lack knowledge

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected
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 thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.
Hosea 4vs6

Hence my people are in pain or depressed because there is an information

or technical know out about what they are facing in their present predicament
that they don’t know. Therefore frustration sets in, depression sets in,
non-productivity sets in, and lasciviousness sets in, anger sets in, perversion of sex
sets in, recklessness sets in, failure sets in, bankruptcy sets in, divorce sets in,
unwanted pregnancy sets in. when you completely read the verse Hosea 4vs6 as
stated above, you will see where God said because thou had rejected the
knowledge of knowing me and my precepts, he said he will also reject them and
they should not call his name or represent him if they know they are not ready to
go for more information to secure their colorful destinations. So don’t call me
God when you don’t know about the earth system I created and refuse to know
and understand the principles I put in place for everything to function, don’t call
me God when you cannot manage your emotions and that which I bless you with,
don’t call me God and disturb heavens if you are just religious and adamant in
getting and learning the precepts of the kingdom and putting it to usage, just like
what the Pharisees did to Jesus, they kept on rejecting the knowledge of what he
represented, holding the traditions and customs of men above the knowledge of
Gods kingdom.

And Jesus continued, “You have a clever way of rejecting Gods law in order to
uphold your own teachings. Mark 7vs9 (good-news)

Also

But they hastily forgot his works; they did not earnestly wait for his plans to
develop regarding them. But lusted exceedingly in the wilderness and tempted
and tried to restrain God with their insistent desires in the desert. And he gave
them their request, but sent leanness into their souls and thinned their numbers
by disease and death. Psalms 106 vs13-15. (kjv)

In this second scriptures of psalms 106vs13-15 that we just read, shows us

how God’s people refused to wait on his counsels, his plans and purpose on how
they should advance in life, and what caught my attention was the fact they then
requested of God and prayed to him, and yet he answered but added something

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to the answer he gave them he sent a leanness to their soul. So most of the issues
we have and pain we encounter, is as a result of not going according to the
precepts of the kingdom, what if God allowed those pain so that you would know
something is wrong and there are things for you to do. Because in God’s agenda,
he most times uses pain himself to make his children tilt right back on track so
that they could get to that colorful destination he had destined for them without
any sorrow added. Like we mostly see, many people are wealthy but hidden in the
glamorous wealth and fame and riches are a lot of pains that can’t be revealed or
told. Also in Romans 1vs28

Because those people refuse to keep in mind the true knowledge about God, he
has given them over to corrupted minds, so that they do the things they should
not do. They are filled with all kinds of wickedness, evil, greed, and vice; they
are full of jealousy, murder, fighting, deceit, and malice. They gossip and speak
evil of one another, they are hateful to God, insolent, proud and boastful; they
think of more ways to do evil, they disobey their parents; they have no
conscience, they do not keep their promises, and they show no kindness or pity
for others. They know what God’s law says that people who live in this way
deserves death (pain) yet, not only do they continue to do these very things, but
they even approve of others to do them. Rom 1vs28. (good-news)

We can also see here in this context again that because people have
refused to follow God’s precepts, then he himself gave the the opportunity to
enjoy their life to the fullest they want, letting them do the things they should not
do, and at the end they receiving a bitter casualty, and that’s why we have many
pains all around because we are receiving the consequences of something done in
secret but no one seems to know, but individually we all know what we have
done even if we can’t say it out to anyone. From these scriptural references we
see how God hold his precepts in high esteem, he wants us to always reference
him and honor and worship him, getting more knowledge on any field that causes
us issues so that we will be on track for what he had designed for us, hence cheat
all the devices of the enemy to cause us pain. So God is not a respecter of any
man, he says go for knowledge, get more information so that you can handle
emotional crisis, you can be a minister and anointed but yet be in emotional crisis.

Pain can cause emotional effects like anger, depression, unpalatable moods,
or irritability and most significantly, it can change your total lifestyle and impact

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your work, relationship, home, ministry and even cause side effects seen on the
children. Most times symptoms of pains that causes depression or a bitter heart
can be observed in been reckless, restlessness, quick anger, agitations, anxiety,
unnecessary rise in blood pressures and in severe cases heart attacks. Pain is also
influenced by attitudes, beliefs, personality, and social factors that can affect
emotional and mental well-being.

The pain that am focusing on here in this book is the emotional pain that
makes the heart bitter, which causes that discomfort in the body, not been able
to think well or place things right, unhappiness, sadness, been personally
sorrowful even when in the midst of joyous people, the pain that makes the heart
descends and kills the positive energy one has towards life, the pain that causes
depression, making one to look down on himself or herself, these are the kind of
pain this book is focused on, and how to manage the pain to produce positive
results and also overcome the pain for life, hence getting to your predestination
with all emotional failures conquered.

Take note that God created and programmed us in a certain way for us to
know when to work on things and take new decision in planning towards life and
medicine proves it by making us understand the effect and purpose of pain. In
medicine, pain is an unpleasant sensation and also emotional experience linked to
tissue damage, its purpose is to allow the body to react and prevent further tissue
damage. Take note of the sentence “allow the body to react and prevent further
tissue damage”. We feel pain when a signal is sent through nerve fibers to the
brain for interpretation, meaning something is wrong in the body system and
you need to act on it to make things right so as to preserve the good health of the
body.

Just as this definition of pain implies, so exactly is the essence why God
programmed in us a response law, that triggers your spirit man to be
inconvenient with what is happening around or the outcomes of realities in our
environment, and what God plans is that when these feelings arises and the spirit
man is down, then you need to know that something must be done which is not
done yet, or a knowledge around that issue causing pain must be gotten which is
not gotten yet. The bible says my people perish because they lack knowledge.

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 You can be the owner of many companies, business tycoon, owner of
diverse enterprises and establishments and yet in an emotional mess and you
can’t say this out to anybody because many people expect everything around you
to be perfect and super perfect, not knowing that with all the wealth, accolades,
jobs and contracts, deep down in you in the four walls of your room when alone,
you know all is not well. You see the fantasies of life you have envisioned for past
years of your life come to pass, but yet you feel unfulfilled; like as if something is
missing in you, sometimes you just feel empty, and your soul descends. Even
sometimes you can’t just figure out what is actually wrong in you. It makes you
unnecessarily vexed, trying to get yourself happy by seeking for fun and
entertainment, but the real joy you deserve is not coming your way.

Then there’s a problem. Be patient to carefully this book thoroughly,

studying every sentence word for word, consuming the sentences till it becomes
palpable to your spirit man, because this book was conceived by the Holy spirit to
actively eradicate pain in your heart, hence at the end you will have sufficient
power over pain and put those irregularities in your heart under sufficient control
gaining mastery over pain and its effects putting devil where he belongs and not
around your dwelling place.

Always remember that pain is part of body defense mechanism and an alert
system put by God in our general makeup when creating us, it warns us to take
action to prevent further emotional damage and if not responded to advances
into confused mind, low self-esteem, inferiority complex and finally depression. If
you put your hand on a hot surface, immediately there is a signal sent to your
brain that causes the muscle to withdraw immediately so that the pain will stop,
hence when anything comes around that might want to cause pain, there should
be a defense system to powerfully shut the effect down.

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 Chapter Two
FORMS OF PAIN
For the sake of general understanding of pain, let’s first study briefly on the
general forms of pain, so as to enhance our native knowledge before going back
to the psychological (emotional) pain that this book is focused on. As we all know
there are various forms of pain depending on their effects on human body. Hence
they are divided into nine which are
 Acute pain.
 Chronic pain.
 Breakthrough pain.
 Bone pain.
 Soft tissue pain.
 Nerve pain.
 Referred pain.
 Phantom pain.
 Psychological pain.

ACUTE PAIN

Acute pain are the kind of pain that often starts suddenly and feels sharp, it
can be caused by many different things such as ; an operation, a broken bone, an
infection. Acute pain is usually short term but it can sometimes last for weeks or
months, most acute pain will go away when the reason for the pain has been
treated or the tissue have healed. If acute pain is not relieved, it may become
chronic pain.

CHRONIC PAIN

Chronic pain lasts for a longer period of time, it is usually caused by cancer
of a tissue in the body and also be caused by long term effects of cancer
treatments.

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BREAKTHROUGH PAIN

This is a sudden pain that sometimes breakthrough when chronic pain is

being well controlled with long acting painkillers. It may be brought on quite
suddenly by an activity such as moving or coughing, it may happen when the
effects of the regular pain killer wear off. Sometimes it’s not clear why one might
have breakthrough pain. Breakthrough pain is common, but it can usually be
successfully managed. It is treated with short-acting pain killers.

BONE PAIN

If cancer is affecting a bone, it can cause pain; the cancer may have started
in the bone (primary bone cancer) or spread there from another part is the body
(secondary bone cancer). The pain may be a dull, persistent ache that does not go
away, it even happens during the day as well as night.

SOFT TISSUE PAIN

This is pain we feel when our organs, muscles or tissues are damaged,
injured or inflamed; an example is when the liver becomes enlarged causing pain
and discomfort in the tummy (abdomen). Soft tissue pain is also called visceral
pain.

NERVE PAIN

This is the pain caused by nerve damage, it may be due to cancerous

growth or cancer treatments, the pain can often continue when the cause had
been treated. Nerve pain is also called neuropathic pain, like many types of pain,
nerve pain can come and go, often they feels numb or more sensitive, you may
describe it as burning, stabbing, shooting, tingling effects. There are medicines
and treatments used to treat nerve pain.

REFERRED PAIN

This is when pain from an internal organ can be felt in a different part of the
body, for example, if the liver is enlarged it may cause pain in the right shoulder,
this may happen because pain messages from the liver travel along the same

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nerve pathways as messages from the skin, hence the brain confuses them and
thinks the pain is coming from a different place.

PHANTOM PAIN

This is when the brain feels pain in a part of the body that has been
removed, it can sometimes happen after surgery to amputate an area or a leg,
and occasionally after a breast is removed (mastectomy). Phantom pain may feel
like cramping, stabbing or burning, but can cause much different pain sensation.
Many people find that phantom pain gets better with time and may eventually go
away, but some people find that the pain can affect them for a long time. It is
important to let your doctor or specialist know about phantom pain because
there are specific medicines that may help.

PSYCHOLOGICAL PAIN

This kind of pain is our major area of concentration, this kind of pain is
affected by our emotions, behaviors, spiritual beliefs, social activities, worries etc.

So throughout the book, when pain is mentioned just know that I mean
the psychological pain. Hence we go deeper into understanding it and how to
overcome such pain.
After understanding the forms of pain, I thereby categorize pain according to their
resultant effects into two major categories;
 Negative Pain
 Positive Pain

NEGATIVE PAIN

This depends and results from your action to pain. This is the kind of pain
that coerces you into doing wrong things and hence become more pained,
destroyed, having bad consequences of the wrongs you have done, penury,
depression, sickness, and in some drastic cases death. If it ends up in a negative
result, then the pain is referred to as negative pain.

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POSITIVE PAIN

It also depends and results from your action to pain. This is the type of
pain that when it comes and you feel that tingling bitterness in your heart, you
then channel it into a force that drives you into becoming a better person, a force
that makes you decide never to go through that path that brought you the pain, a
force that drives you into making sure your later end is better than your beginning
(Bill gates formerly worked in IBM computer company, and he brought an idea to
them on how the computer can be made to run efficiently through embedding
the codes in icons, that instead of running codes to operate a computer, it will
just be an icon that would be clicked, all the codes would have been embedded
on each icon clicked, that as you click the icons it will run the code that had been
attached to it, hence making computing work easier, but the company did not
give him the total cooperation, he was pained and then decided to work on his
project, and he developed what we call Microsoft today, he channeled his pain of
disappointment into an unending success). If it ends up in a positive result, then
the pain is referred to as Positive pain.

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 Chapter Three
THE PAIN OF A MAN
When I mean man in the chapter it means men and women in general. Pain
often becomes a feeling that attach itself to our daily living due to the negative
effects of our environments as humans and some people because there had not
been a way out to overcome pain, they result in many emotional crisis and
eventually get addicted to the negative effects of pain and mostly become also
addicted to some means they feel can reduce the pain they go through. So in
other to suppress the pain they feel, they engage in several activities, taking of
drugs and narcotics and overdose of some dangerous chemical compounds which
in turn makes their life also unbearable to them themselves having a mirage
feeling that they are getting better.

Just like said in the scriptures in Romans 1vs18;

For God’s holy wrath and indignation are revealed from heaven against all
ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who in their wickedness repress and
hinder the truth and make it inoperative Romans 1vs18 (amplified)

In this verse we see a word I want us to take note of, the word REPRESS
which means to subdue someone or something by force, yes now I know you will
know where am coming from in this text and where am heading to, the bible says
that God’s wrath is on whoever subdue the truth from finding expression, this is a
law, a principle, a code of conduct God, now you say but am trying to subdue the
effect of the pain by taking drugs and alcohol and all stuffs you feel, but in God’s
agenda he says you are suppressing the truth, and what is the truth? the truth is
that you are in pain as a result of an inappropriate mode of conduct, you have
gone against the principles of God at a point in time, at which all pains you
experience can be traced back to disobeying God’s principles of living, hence we
receive the result as pain no matter how long. Now what you need to understand
is that in Gods agenda pain is an alert system that he had programmed in man to
make him know that something is wrong, there’s something wrong in the
equation of life you are trying to balance in that area causing you pain, so what
God intend is when you go through the pain you should bring the product back to

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him to check the product and know the necessary things to do and put in place
for you, either to give you an instruction or a directives on what to do next to get
you out of that emotional struggles, just like when a product is faulty, you take it
back to the manufacturer to help you fix them, because it is only the
manufacturer that knows what he had put in place for the product to function
effectively, he knows the nobs to tweak and what to engage for the product to
become active again in full capacity, but when you try to fix the product yourself
doing guess work, you notice you damage the product the more, and even cause
the product to be finally out of usage. And that is what we are doing (making our
lives of no value and usefulness after we have engaged in different emotional
pain suppressors that kills our sound mind to achieve great things) which God
does not like. His truth systems in the kingdom must not be suppressed. When
going through any emotional crisis the first office you should go to is the office of
your manufacturer which is your creator. Only he knows the direction and
instructions for you to follow, and most times God allows pain to come on us, he
allowed that man to gilt you, he allowed that girl to outsmart you, he allowed
them to sack you in your office, he allowed your company to shut down, he
allowed them to withdraw you from that benefiting list, he allowed devil to buffet
you, he allowed bankruptcy, he allowed your parent to be harsh on you or disown
you, he even allowed you to be raped so that you can get actively back on track
on what he had assigned us to become, a colorful destination with a fulfilling end.

Now come to think of it, why had all these bad things happened to you?
Then there is something in you that is bigger than you can imagine, something in
you that even when you get to know it, you will doubt yourself and everyone
around you will also doubt you. What if you were raped so you could be a savior
to many others and know the exact pain so many other ladies are going through?
What if God allowed so many men to use and dump you because you will be a
relationship coach and marriage counselor to others (Because to be effective in a
thing you must have known the failure processes and the success routes that
guarantees positive results), what if God allowed you to go through crisis so that
you can document your crisis and put it up for sell as an experience factor and
also teach it in different conferences, television stations, radios stations,
symposiums, and gatherings, what if God was training you because you will talk in
the presence of millions and you must have strong convictions on what you are
teaching people on. What if you were sent out of school so you would start
business early and become successful through the struggles and failures that

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prune you into becoming the disciplined multimillionaire? What if you lost that
person that is so important in your life Because God wants you to discover who
you truly are? What if all the pains you go through embedded in them is your
success factor? I want you to enlarge your imaginative capacity; your mind is the
seat of everything that happens around you. You are bigger than who you think
you are, you are greater than the limits you have set for yourself, if you had put a
limit on yourself because of what you have gone through, I tell you today it is time
for that limit to be removed, because it is time for you to be your real self, who
brain washed you into settling down for less? Yes you got less; don’t you know
God was using that less to train you so that you will have enough skills to handle
the big he’s bringing your way? Who told you to settle for less? Who told you?
Who? Are you now happy and full of Joy? Have you forgotten those dreams of
yours you wrote down to achieve? Who talked you out of the reality of yourself?
Who? Who incapacitated your imaginative capacity? They incapacitated it
because they could not understand what you were saying; that they don’t
understand or believe in you does not mean there’s no reality in what you had
seen (envisioned).

Joseph in the bible was not bothered in all what he went through because
that was not what he saw. He knew what he saw hence he kept focusing on what
he saw. Bill Gates was working for IBM, and he developed a software that will
enable working with computers easy instead of typing codes, he put everything
behind the scene and presented just an icon for you to click on to get things done
in the computer, he brought the idea to the company he was working for IBM,
and they rejected it, but he resigned and went ahead with what he saw, what he
imagined, what he conceived, for it is what your mind can see, that you will
become. He only fulfilled a kingdom principle; he did not allow his pain of
rejection to get to him. How dare you look down on yourself? How dare you drop
that dream of yours? Don’t you see people around you succeeding because of
their dream? Can’t you see them on Television? Can’t you picture yourself on
screen? Must you end up in that level that life put you? How do you allow
yourself to be affected by small minds? I say to you Break out! Shout it out now,
mention your name and say I AKE-JOHN OLUWATOMI I BREAK OUT! That’s very
good, we are still on the journey of accessing the power over pain and dealing
with pain flawlessly and it will never find expression around your heart and
dwelling, concentrate deeply on this book, for in it is a bail out system from that
mess into a bright dignifying end. Before I continue, you are in a mood or

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probably different imbalances that you are not happy with, job that is not
beneficial to you, your company is not running well, relationship faults, marital
issues, you are at the verge of different crisis, no matter what you find yourself in,
say to yourself again, I AKE-JOHN OLUWATOMI THIS IS NOT WHAT I SAW IN MY
VISION, THIS IS NOT WHAT I IMAGINED, THIS IS NOT WHAT I PLAN TO BE, NOW
AKE-JOHN OLUWATOMI, TIME FOR YOU TO ADVANCE INTO WHAT YOU
ENVISIONED. And so shall it be In Jesus name Amen.

EFFECTS OF PAIN

Trying to subdue pain without having the power over it is like trying to
catch the wind, so many had fallen into diverse errors and long lasting scars and
mistakes because they thought of the smartness way out of pain, and they ended
up turning their lives upside down. Some effects of pain that builds up in our body
are;
 Sadness
 Unexpressed anger
 Anxiety
 Shame
 Guilt
 Depression
 Low self esteem
 Low self-worth
 Inferiority complex
 Low Confidence

No amount of pain killers can remove the effects of psychological pain,

because pain works in your mind (imaginations, which taunts your imaginative
capacity hence you become non-productive). Let’s go into the biblical examples of
pain, the cause, how it was handled and the end product.

JESUS CHRIST

Jesus went through a lot of emotional traumas in his life time, he wept, he
was battered, during his life time he felt bad most times when he expects his
disciples to have learnt some kingdom principles from him yet they had not learnt
because they could not produce his kind of results (Miracles) although the

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loyalty that people pay to religion most often don’t allow us to call spade a spade
and learn from the life of Jesus, there’s a mindset that ones you mention Jesus
everything is done, capital No, There are things you must engage in that makes
the name of Jesus effective for you. Just as stated in 2corinthians 10vs6

And having a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is

fulfilled 2corinthians 10vs6 kjv.

So there are a lot of things that must be done as a man in the kingdom to
assume the full power and might to be able to engage kingdom mysteries.

So when I say Jesus went through pain in his life time, you should not have
problems understanding that and am sure you don’t. In the life time of Jesus he
was;
1. Rejected
2. Not understood
3. Pushed out of the city.
4. Denied.
5. Betrayed.
6. Downgraded.
7. Rejected again.
Luke 4vs18-24, 28-30
18. The spirit of the lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to
preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the broken hearted,
to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind,
to set at liberty them that are bruised, 19. To preach the acceptable year
of the Lord. 20. And he closed the book, and he gave it again to the
minister, and sat down. And the eyes of all them that were in the
synagogue were fastened on him. 21. And he began to say unto them, this
day is this scriptures fulfilled in your ears. 22. And all bare him witness,
and wondered at the gracious words which proceeded out of his mouth,
and they said, is not this Joseph’s son? 23. And he said unto them, ye will
surely say unto me this proverb, physician, heal thyself; whatsoever we
have heard done in Capernaum, do also here in thy country. 24. And he
said, verily I say unto you, no prophet is accepted in his own country.
28. And all they in the synagogue, when they heard these things, were
filled with wrath, 29. And rose up, and thrust him out of the city, and led

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him unto the brow of the hill whereon their city was built, that they might
cast him down headlong. 30. But he passing through the midst of them
went his way.

In this context we will practically imagine what the people did to

Jesus because he introduced himself to them, making a revelation of
himself that they had been expecting known to them, were they not
supposed to be joyful and accept him wholeheartedly, but instead they
rejected him, they did not understand what he represented (trampled on
his Values), led him out of the city and wanted to push him off the cliff so
he would break his bones and his head smashed into pieces and die at once.
They were so full of wrath that they downgrade him, saying is this not
Joseph son, meaning what good can come out of this useless one calling
himself anointed.

Looking at this story closely, you will see all that Jesus went through,
just exactly the same thing you are going through, in your working place, in
your home, in the church, in the school, in the office, among colleagues,
but may I ask you, that which you are going through causing you pain,
which of it is up to what Jesus went through just in this 10 verses of the
whole bible I just outlined? And he went through many others throughout
the four first gospel of the New Testament. Now if Jesus went through all
this and he yet was not thrown off balance, how come you are letting that
little error throw you off balance? Have you been pursued out of a city
before? That the whole city wants you dead? If no, say to yourself
AKE-JOHN OLUWATOMI YOU ARE BIGGER THAN ALL THE REJECTION,
DOWNGRADE, AND PERSECUTION YOU ARE GOING THROUGH, I THANK
YOU LORD FOR GRANTING ME THE GIFT OF LIFE, I MUST FOCUS ALL MY
PAIN INTO PROSPERING AND ADVANCING THE KINGDOM OF GOD, I REFUSE
TO HONOUR devil IN MY LIFE.

We know of Jesus been denied by Simon Peter and betrayed by Judas

Iscariot, but may I tell you that all those disappointment were all part of the
plan? They all happened so that Jesus purpose on earth will be fulfilled
compulsorily, so that pain which you are going through is part of your
greatness plan, yours is to know how to focus that negative energy into
producing positive results.

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 Take note of the last pain Jesus went through, number 7 which says
rejected again, yes Jesus is been rejected again by many and by you! He died so
that you may have a peaceful life and be able to live in this world as if the devil
does not exist. But yet you have always rejected him, the concept of you now
rejecting him again when he was introduced to you and you felt, he’s just a story,
you don’t want to disturb your life, but now, you are in diverse pains that you
can’t reveal out, in pains that you hope never happened to you.

And that’s why people are rejecting you, not trusting you, not
understanding you, and some even denied allegiance with you, some betrays the
truth you have for them, some doubted you, and kept hurting you, all because
you have rejected the person Jesus, and even when you accepted him, you did
not follow his principles, you were okay with kingdom cultures but you refused to
subscribe to kingdom mindset (allowing the mind of Christ to become palpable to
you).

Judas Iscariot was a man that was one of the disciples of Jesus Christ, his
pain resulted in shame. His love for money made him betray Jesus; he sold his
faithfulness and loyalty to Jesus for money, he had been in love with money all his
life, the bible gave us a picture into his love for money in John 12vs3-6

Then took Mary a pound of ointment of spikenard, very costly, and anointed the
feet of Jesus, and wiped his feet with her hair; and the house was filled with the
odor of the ointment. 4. Then saith one of his disciples Judas Iscariot, Simon’s
son, which should betray him, 5. Why was not this ointment sold for three
hundred pence, and given to the poor? 6. This he said, not that he cared for the
poor; but because he was a thief, and had bag, and bare what was put therein.
John 12vs3-6

But he eventually betrayed Jesus and latter saw the enormity of what he did; he
was pained and resulted in negative result, hanging himself to death.
Let’s check out his actions;
 The love of money brought him pain; resonate this with your life, don’t you
see the same process, how wanting more and more without a definite
purpose hurts you continuously, even when you get the money. Judas was

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 feeling a lot of pain even with the money with him; he was going through
emotional breakdown. You can have your bank account balance loaded but
yet still having to keep scheming how to secure your heart from been
pained, and that’s not the kind of life God promised you, he promised you a
life full of wealth with Joy!
 The loss of loyalty; Now Judas sold his loyalty for money, I want to turn this
around to you, in a question form, Are you sure your decisions are not
bringing or costing others pain? Because the bible says whatever a man
sows he will reap, if you cause pain to others by breaching loyalties, it will
also come back to you in a multiplied form, the surprising thing is, you
won’t be able to trace that it is the pain you have cost someone in the past
that is packaged and loaded back to you.
Remember men are spirit beings and all the laws of the kingdom are spiritual, and
they are not respecters of anybody, that is why spiritual laws are the integrity of
God himself and they must be fulfilled. So when you automatically cause another
heart to descend feeling pain or taking advantage of another, it’s like p[planting a
seed, and when the law of seed time and harvest time comes the plant will spring
up and also choke your heart, hence multiple hurt seeds you have planted will
also backfire causing you a lot of pain.

Peter also denied Jesus Luke 22vs54-62, his pain of what he did brought
him quilt, he denied Jesus, he played smart in the negative way, yet he made sure
he channeled his pain positively into coming back to God and paid the price of
using his life into advancing the kingdom of God. This is the kind of heart we
should always have, a heart that is bent on pleasing God, for if we naturally please
God, pain disappears faster.

David was a man that was always doing wrong things, he had committed all
sorts, he was a murderer, he committed adultery and done all sorts but yet he
understood the art of finding his way back to God, that even God had to say;
“David is a man after his heart” 1samuel 13vs14, Acts 13vs22. What will God say
about you, you pray to God and hope he sustains you and all family, but can that
same God brag about you?

Moses was a man regarded as the meekness man on earth, but he allowed
his pain to affect him for life from not been able to achieve and get to the colorful
destination God promised him, first he threw the laws of God and it shattered on

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the altar because he was unable to manage his emotions and put his anger under
control. Secondly (Numbers 20vs6-12) he stroke the rock twice because of the
pain of the people pressurizing him and resulting in anger, God gave him an
instant consequence of not getting to the promised land and we see how his lack
of been able to manage his emotions caused him his lifetime. Now is that not
what is happening around you? You have lost so many goodness and favor and so
many opportunities because you acted out of pain that you could have
successfully overcome to get to your colorful destination. This kind of pain is
classified as negative pain, because it resulted in one not been able to complete
his assignment.

Esau’s pain made him to lose his birthright (Genesis 25vs29-34) because he
was hungry. And that is what is happening to many people, because of hunger
they are doing what they should not do, hence sowing the seeds of heavy pain
and emotional imbalance already in advance. Hunger is a system God uses to
refine his people and prepare them, by them bringing out what he put in them
(gift) into manifestations, but people don’t understand this, hence devil takes
advantage of that deficiency in understanding that principle of God. So the devil is
using it to catch men nowadays, because he will present a shortcut to wealth to
you, through friends and before you know it, you start engaging in different things
that makes your peace disappear, no more sound sleep, no more sound mind,
hearing irregular voices times without number.

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 Chapter Four
THE PAIN IN OUR PRESENT DAY

For every pain God has a prescription, and what mostly causes pain in our
present day is due to the disobedience to the laws and principles of God. And
once we don’t follow the laid down principles God had put in place, we
self-destruct, because the favourable conditions that God had programmed in the
earth systems are negated. In psalms 1vs1

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth
in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in
the law of the lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall
be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his
season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper
Psalms 1vs1-3. Kjv.

From the scriptures we see clearly a principle of prosperity, meaning you

will surely succeed and also we see bringeth forth fruit in due season meaning;
get that goal achieved as you planned, the bible says his leaf shall not wither, for a
leaf to wither it means the tree is going through tough times, which means as a
man in comparison, you will never go through pain. Hidden under that simple
instructions that we always disobey and negate, we then therefore go against this
principles and things turn the other way round (negative outcome) for us, and we
keep disturbing God praying and fasting, saying to God I must prosper, and
prosper you will, but you continuously go against his laid down principles and
hence pain results. And when you move with the wrong people you get he wrong
counsel, and when you get the wrong counsel, one will always fail in whatever
endeavour he’s laying his hands on.

Laws are very important and in this dimension, I want to analyze that there are;
 Laws in terms of the commandments of God and
 Laws in terms of the principles that governs creation.

When you refuse to obey laws and follow kingdom instructions and we
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that “I have programmed your success already before I created you, you are the
one not following the kingdom equation that guarantees success on that field you
are failing on, so why are you pained? When you refuse to follow my laws or get
the understanding of them through the manual (bible) I have provided for you
that will work like a compass to find and navigate your way through life.” And just
like what God said in Hosea 4vs6, for I will reject you and deny you because you
have rejected getting the knowledge of how I operate.

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge, because thou hast rejected
knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shall be no priest to me, seeing that
thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children. Hosea
4vs6 kjv.

When you go to office, or go for contract to get a multibillion deal, or as a

pastor you pray and casting out demons, healing the sick, God is saying to you I
will reject you and deny you when you need me most if you refuse to go for more
knowledge and experience on that field he had placed in your hands. But he said
when you go and make more research and studies, then he will approve you and
you shall have good success. (2timothy 2vs15, Joshua 1vs 8).

Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his approval. Be a
good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly explains
the word of truth. 2timothy 2vs15. nlt
Study this book of instruction continually, meditate on it day and night so you
will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and
succeed in all you do. Joshua 1vs8.nlt

Take note he said in Hosea 4vs6 that even thy children will suffer for it
because, it is the kingdom laws and principles you know that will work for you,
and will teach your children. The question is, if you don’t know these laws, how
will you then teach your children. Now you see why your lack of been responsible
can go from one generation to another, and the generation yet unborn.

Many people had gone through many emotional traumas, from

relationships, to marital issues, to office issues, to family issues, ministerial issues
some had been abused while growing up, which had created a negative images of
his/her environment hence become more pained. etc. all this experiences of

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individuals sometimes makes some people great while some, it maim them for life,
the way you handle your pains and what you go through matters a lot in your
journey on earth.

Many are going through the pain of divorce, and a lot of heart breaks,
which tears your heart apart, continually bitter experience when you keep
pondering on what had happened or what is happening around you. Some pain
caused from various disappointments leading to many emotional issues like;
 Low self-esteem
 Low self-worth
 Low significance
 Low drive towards life
 Lack of relevance
 Depression
 Lack of Leadership mind (sound mind)
 Internal rage

The foundations, mindset and ideologies of what you build your life on are
determined by the environment, situation and circumstance that surrounds the
individual, hence if those mindsets and ideologies are not submitted to the mind
of Christ and subscribe to kingdom mindset it causes many emotional crisis,
because there are a lot of negativities that grows up with man and those
negativities therefore defines his characters and attitudes towards life. And the
where we become disadvantaged is that you will never know sometimes that you
have irregularities in your psychological build ups, because most times in life we
always view ourselves as perfect and always view others as the problematic
fellow, we never look to ourselves and ask, probably maybe the faults of my life
are from me myself, or probably there is something am supposed to do or correct
that have not done or corrected, when we assume this kind of mindset, then we
are already defeating the host causing pain in our life.

A doctorate degree holder with no sense of self-worth, or self-concept or

low self-esteem hence, all causing pain in the heart leading to bitterness or
depression.

Before the physical education, we all first need to educate our mind, our
soul our spirit man, all issues have to be corrected from the foundations, and for

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this to be corrected we must be connected back to our source, where we came
from, where we emerged from, who phantom us, God our maker the creator of
heaven and earth. Knowing that you are created in God’s image, God’s likeness,
and Gods power. Coming to the knowledge of who we truly are, and
understanding and building our value, then taking responsibility of all outcomes
of our life and start afresh a newness of life journey into a glorious destination
freed from pain because you are building on a solid rock of Jesus Christ. How do
we then build on the solid rock of Christ? We will keep digging deep into issues of
life as you continually read this book and be empowered over pain at the end of
the book. Let me see the devil that will come to your dwelling place and cause
you pain.

Once you know who you truly are, there will be no room for issues of life to
cause you pain. You need to be delivered from what the environmental factors
have caused you. You have been endowed with high level intelligence in all
creations, smart, a brain with millions of cell to boost your native intelligence and
reasoning IQ so as to produce results like gods on earth. You are bigger than who
you think you are, you are bigger than your environments. Never remain where
life put you.

For God had helped us with the provision of;

 Holy Spirit to guide you
 His word to regulate your decisions
 Pastors to get good counsels
 Anointing to discern life issues.

And yet with these entire gifts we still blame God for our shortcomings? That is
why Joshua 1vs9 says;

Have I not commanded thee? Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid,
neither be thou dismayed; for the lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou
goest. Joshua 1vs9 kjv.

Anything that succeeds in life is as a result of the correct application of

knowledge. When you feel pained, you have lacked knowledge. Therefore you
need to boost your resource in other to enhance your results. Proverbs 4vs7

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 Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom; and in all thy getting get
understanding. Proverbs 4vs7. Kjv

You need to understand;

 What it is to be alive.
 The essence of your living.
 Your purpose, mission, vision, goal and set plans towards achieving them.
 What it takes to be a responsible man.
 What it takes be a responsible woman.
 What it takes be an exemplary leader.
 What it takes to be an entrepreneur.
 What it takes to parent a child.
 What it takes to get married and live happily.
 The uniqueness of your life (value).
 Professional communication skills.
 How to manage emotions.
 How to handle anger.
 How to handle unfaithfulness and broken trust.
 What it takes to own a house, car and any property.

Because if you don’t understand these things you will be pained about life,
especially when you see others getting results and you are not.
Lack of not having the full equipment(knowledge) of life brings you pain when you
are faced with issues not palatable, because you won’t know how to handle those
issues, and you would be frustrated, weary and confused over little things. A
doctor before he was certified a doctor will become scared and confused when he
sees people suddenly collapse and sick, but after going to school to study for
years, he comes out confident and bold enough to handle whatever cases of
health he is faced with, without been scared or fidgeting. That is what getting
knowledge can do, so whatever field you are on, that you are not comfortable
with the results you are getting, then get more adequate knowledge and also
know how to apply the knowledge gotten to observe the desired results.

After getting knowledge, endeavour to understand it application principles.

You can get knowledge and still get tired and wish to quit or the zeal towards life
becomes tiresome, problems and vicissitudes of life can make you tired, that’s
why it is important to get understanding on that area of life that causes you

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consistent pain. So you will become confident and bold like a lion to face that
mountain and subdue every problem confronting you by force.
In Hosea 4vs6, God is saying to you that ignorance is a choice; hence failure is also
a choice, for you cannot reject something that is not available, rejecting or
refusing to get knowledge to be a champion is your choice. So your results and
solution out of pain is available around you, you are the one to go for knowledge.

In relationships (love affairs), don’t ever consider sex love, that’s not love in
fact, sex is considered in this present time as making love, so it does not exist, you
are just making it, so you make it after 45minutes and that’s over, so please
young people take time to know all the prerequisites of marriage, your feelings,
emotions can’t stand the storms of life when the trial of loves comes. Don’t
repeat the same secret mistakes over and over again. For love is a debt and a law
of God and not a feelings.

Love is not feelings, love is an obligation and a law, God commanded us to

love one another. For example when the light bill comes, you don’t fell like paying
them, but you do because it’s a law and an obligation, when on the high way and
the traffic light says stop (red), even if you are late for work you would obey
regardless of you not wanting to wait, because your not obeying has its
consequences and can cause bitter casualty to both yourself and others. You then
end up in pain. Now relating this to marriage, marriage is not built on feelings, it is
built on commitment and obligations, loving is a law, not an adrenaline feelings
that mount up from the good looks of a lady, or the good looks of a man, his
achievements and other prospering future. You cannot jeopardize your whole life
and the life of your unborn children on the stables of hormonal feelings. Most
times we already know and see signs that a marriage will cause us pain, even
before we venture into it, but people often allow the pressures of parents, friends
and families to pressurize them into marrying who they are not supposed to be
married to.

As a woman don’t be a woman that will be a parasite to her man, make

friends with ladies that increase your value daily, not how to play smart in vain
issues of life, you need good prophetic associations around you.

You need to increase your level of intelligence and results by knowing

kingdom principles that guarantees results; else you will still be frustrated as a

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Christian, because you don’t understand the kingdom principles and also end up
with no difference like an unbeliever.

A HURTING HEART

One of the first things that a hurting person should do is to break the habit
of using other people as a narcotic to suppress the pain they feel. It does not work
that way, for the more you meditate or ruminate over how to keep suppressing a
pain through other people, the less chance you have of allowing God to heal you.
Another is avoiding any addictive, obsessive relationships. For if you are becoming
increasingly dependent upon anything other than God to create a sense of
wholeness in your life, then you are abusing your relationship with God. Which
means you are offending God by trusting in other things than him.
What if God allowed people to continually hurt you because your purpose is
around that filed they hurt you on? What if you keep falling into wrong hands in
relationships and deceit because that is your area of life concentration? And God
wants you trained and become a counselor or build an educational system (to get
people knowledgeable in that area) around that point that you have failed? And
remember whatever increases knowledge attracts wealth naturally.
I will sight an example, I had been in different relationships, as I often use my
scars as examples when teaching, I don’t keep my scars, because many could
learn from it. I once dated a lady that seems complete on everything, she seem to
have all the qualities I was looking for in a woman for marriage, hence my mind
was so at rest on the relationship that this must lead into marriage. She was so
spiritual (as she head different department in her church), full of cares, takes
responsibilities on issues, she was full of strength (this was a quality I was
sincerely looking for, because as a minister your wife must not be a spiritual nor
physical baby that one still have to spoon feed about issues of life), she was an
independent lady, a woman I could talk to and pour out my hidden pains to,
(especially in the ministry, because as a minister you don’t expect to talk anyhow
to anyone, so as not to kill their faith), she was always asking questions from me,
so that my mind will feel relieved and this was the major area she was able to
attract my attention to herself. Nobody had ever had such quality around me,
even my family, nobody cared about my well-being, but this was a lady that fully
cared about all my demands, emotionally, spiritually and all, because everybody
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could also be of good advantage to you, and this was a lady that made me
experienced another dimension of woman. Am sure many people and ministers,
Company and business owners are going through all these.
She invoked a dimension no one was doing, so within me, had already made up
my mind that, this is the woman have been looking for, the perfect wife material,
she was not fragile, she was strong, she handle any arising problems with deep
strength and inner authority.
Then after a while of knowing her, I started noticing alongside that her spirituality
was just religiosity (built up kingdom culture as a result of growing up in a church
environment, so a default Christian character, attitudes and way of living had
been already imbibed in her naturally, without understanding the kingdom life
and not having a kingdom mindset itself) and not with understanding, so you will
see her as so spiritual, not knowing that all you see are all habits she had been
used to while growing up, not with the real understanding of been spiritually
inclined.

Secondly, I started noticing that her strength and manly nature I was
enticed to, was actually a defense system she built around herself due to past
heart breaks. So she rather be harsh and show forth strength so no one will just
meander inside her heart and hurt her feelings.

Thirdly, the major area I needed most was someone that could
communicate to my heart in a high intelligent level, because most ladies don’t
meet up to these demands. They often say am high minded, my vision is too high,
hence they get frustrated and fickle out of the relationship, but she was able to
meet up with that level. She was so marriageable to me, then after a while I now
understood that as a long time Christian who had been used to spirituality, she
already knew what and what to do that a man would love (especially ministers)
not that she meant to deceive me, but she knew those things as knowledge due
to different seminars on relationships and marriage she must have attended
several times but the understanding of the knowledge about marriage she knows
had not become palpable to her to produce a real life effect, so she could act
those good and godly characters but not her real personality, the real personality
and mindset had not been affected by the knowledge she had gathered. And
Christianity is all about pulling down of strongholds, casting down of traditions,
cultures and imaginations to the obedience of Christ, subscribing to a kingdom
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kingdom cultures like she, but not a kingdom mindset. So they have the form of
godliness but deny its mindset, life and power thereof.

KINGDOM MINDSET

A kingdom mindset works with the holy spirit, when faced with life
challenges, your cultures and traditions and religiosity and what you know on
your head will disappear, it is what the holy spirit had trained your mind with that
will respond, hence your spirit man will rise and respond violently to the devils
around that storming situation and they will bow. But someone without a
kingdom mindset, only cultures will start brooding on negative things that is
naturally not even supposed to be around the thinking faculties of a Christian,
struggling with temptations and lust and all sorts of imaginations because, he is
still in the level of kingdom culture, such had not risen to the kingdom mindset;
having an active mind of Christ. A mind that will always do what Jesus would do.

So the lady I used as example, was always asking me questions and we

always analyzing every issues of life (easy to be a talking Christian not an acting
Christian), and because I was having someone I could gist heart to heart to, I was
feeling relaxed and safe until I got to know that all these attributes were only
cultures she had been used to or learnt through reading books or seminars but
not yet a mindset to her.

Take note, it’s a thing to be a Christian and go for knowledge, reading books,
listening to thousands of messages and seminars, been knowledgeable in virtually
all areas of life, it’s another thing for your mind to be renewed by holy spirit
through the grace of our lord Jesus Christ.

And be not conformed to this world; but be ye transformed by the renewing of

your mind, that ye may prove what is good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of
God. Romans 12vs2. Kjv.
And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; and that ye put on the new man,
which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. Wherefore putting
away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbor; for we are members one
of another. Ephesians 4vs23-25. kjv .

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 The two scenarios (kingdom culture and mindset) will still make heaven, but
the quality of their lives on earth will be greatly different, their results will differ in
accordance to the level of their renewed mind in Christ. The one of kingdom
culture will be limited while the one of kingdom mindset will accomplish a lot
through God’s grace. It is when your mind is renewed that you will have sound
mind.

A LESSON TO LEARN

I want you to take note of something here, it is because I practically

encountered such lady during my dating days, I could have the database of such
level of emotional intelligence and it is one of the cardinals and mandate God had
giving me to eradicate pain in humanity and also give strength to those already
weak and losing out on their vision drive. So to you, that your area of pain, God is
passing a message to you, take note of all your failure for they are your route and
bail out system from where you are now into a more successful Christian life.
Some people will feel you lack efforts and zeal, they will judge you from the
outside not knowing what is going on inside of you, not knowing that you always
keep trying regularly to become someone in life, but it all seems as if you are
wasting time. Most times people look up to you as a perfect example, we keep
helping people solve their problems but we are dying of the same problems, it is
good to be self-sacrificing but be careful for self-disdain (not taking good
consideration of yourself till you become despised) people are continually healed
and set free through you but you are dying inside of you of the same issues you
help people on. Because after a while of not producing results due to your own
pain that you could not solve, and people watching, the same people will despise
you, leave you and go.

HANDLING DISAPPOINTMENTS

So many things can engineer disappointments and depression.

The spirit of the lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the
gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach

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deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty
them that are bruised. Luke 4vs18. Kjv.

Jesus has come to heal that pain, and set you at liberty you that had been
bruised.
For men, everybody blame men, but I notice that men don’t become bad
naturally, all these always results from what they had also been through
environmentally. I often asked guys that come for counseling what made you
start sleeping with ladies for fun, most of them will say since my first girl left me
for one guy, probably a guy more handsome than them or more capable
financially then them, and take note everyone is tilted towards what is perceived
as success, am not endorsing immorality or saying relationship should be built on
money, but the psychological imbalance of what wealth really is, causes issues
among everyone, so when you see money, you hence taunt faithfulness, and
replace trust for the love of money, then start becoming unfaithful in the
relationship because of a better option had been seen. Hence such act also makes
men make up their mind that I must also pay back, remember men are egocentric,
and then other ladies start suffering for the error of just one lady. Which is wrong,
are you in this circle today, even you are married but you still find it difficult to
trust your spouse, because of your past experiences, you find it difficult to trust
your spouse because of how you yourself used your life. Can I tell you today that
it is time to really be happy and full of joy in your heart, you can’t live all your life
with pain, and the fear of someone sleeping with your spouse, you have all these
running through your mind and disturbing your peace because you have a wrong
database installed in your mind too. It is time to format your memories of your
bad past and submit your all to the lordship of Jesus Christ and actively subscribe
to the kingdom mindset. So as a lady put it at the back of your mind that, that guy
too had been hurt also like you, and is trying to be careful and vice-versa as a lady
is trying to be careful, no one wants to be hurt again or fall into ditch, so there are
many people overly careful of not wanting to go through the same emotional
traumas they had experienced, for they know how hard it took them to come out
of the ditch life put them.

For the singles 1corinthians 7vs32-34, your singleness is a virtue to you, you
can easily learn from those that had gone ahead of you, you can see the mistakes
of others and you have diverse opportunities to train and correct yourself,

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gathering more knowledge to be able to have marital bliss and secure your
colorful destination.

I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend
his time doing the lords work and thinking how to please him. But a married
man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife.
His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or
has never been married can be devoted to the lord and holy in body and spirit.
But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to
please her husband. 1corinthians 7vs32-34. Kjv.

All you learnt during singleness, you take it to your home to train new
disciples (children) for Christ.
Single means to be whole, enjoy your wholeness; you should have been able to
fully take good care of yourself and needs before you get engaged to another.
And lastly, always take note, sex, addictive, drugs, alcohol, does not defeat pain, it
keeps it for a while, multiplies it and returns the pain you tried running from
(avoiding) back to you.
We are still on the journey into knowing the deep secrets to overcome pain finally
at once. As you keep reading the book, I would like you to give your utmost
concentration in spirit, soul and body.

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 Chapter Five
PAIN IN MARRIAGE
A lot of marriages today are going through pain of different kinds, caused
by a breach in trust, disappointments, unfulfilled expectations, unfaithfulness,
lack of understanding, inadequate finances and several other causes.
What is marriage? Marriage is the union of two people (Man, Woman) as partners
in a personal relationship endorsed by God. Marriage can also be explained as the
wedlock between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them,
as well as between them and their children and between them and their
extended families.

Taking note of the definition giving and little explanation given, we will take
note of some key words in marriage which are;
 Union
 Partners
 Endorsed by God
 Wedlock
 Obligations

Union; The action of joining together or the fact of been joined together, which
when formed needs a high level of heat, violence, force, power to break. It takes
pains and shedding of heart bloods (bleeding in the soul) to break such bond.
Now we generally know that in a marriage union it is God that joins the two
couples, but let’s go in another dimension to explain union in another context of
marriage as revealed to me. Three levels of union in marriage
1. God’s Union; First level of Union, this is the union between the couples and
God. The couple must have a personal union and intimacy with God, even
before the partners or anyone else, a union that can never be broken by
any intruder. This should be a settled constant in the mind of the couples.
For singles, make sure you are 100% sure your spouse loves God and has a
palpable strong relationship, intimacy with God. Let this be a 100% settled
case before you venture into marriage, don’t guess around it, if you are not
sure of his/her strong bonding with God, then it means he/she is not

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 bonding with God, no self-excuse should you give on their behalf, help
yourself from now, refuse any pressure coming from anywhere. Be
intentional about your marital success from your single days. And once you
succeed in marriage, you have already won about 60% of your life battles
2. Couple’s Union; Second level of Union, this is a bond lasting union between
the two couples, strengthened by the love of God each individuals have
already established with God. Jesus Christ been the head of the home and
the author and finisher of the home. No intruder into this laid down union;
no one or no entity should take the place of Jesus Christ in the home. If
otherwise, then the home is on its way to destruction already. So whatever
takes the bond of God within the couple, had taken the home away from
the foundations of its establishment, hence destruction. So guard diligently
the bond system between the two. No job, no child, no extended family, no
devil, no demon, no friend, no government has the right to break the bond
between you two that God had already established.
3. Children Union; Third level of Union, this is the level of union between the
spouse and their children, you children is number three, your children
should never come between you and God, and should never come between
the spouse. You met God before your spouse, and you met your spouse
next, and you met your children next, so learn to set your priorities right.
Have seen so many couples that when they have misunderstanding, they
divert their love, care and attention to the children, this is very wrong, and
it’s against Gods principles, because you are sowing a wrong seed in the life
of the children, you are sowing discord alongside with them, hence you are
becoming a bad example for them. These seeds will be watered by situation
and circumstances in the environments and grow and multiply bringing
forth to diverse wrong doings. Never use your children as a cover up
mission, or a strategy to fill up the space of your spouse or God. Your
children are not sent to you to come and fill up a lonely heart, or come and
prosper you. They are sent to you to come and succeed anything or any
level you have attained, they are given to you to pick up the baton from
where you stopped and reach for higher goals, don’t selfishly put them in a
spot because of your own personal desire. Don’t put in bondage your
catalyst (children), for they are to speed up the rate of any thing you laid
your hands on, with the present age technologies and modern strategies.
Anybody other than these three levels of union, God, spouse, children is
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 union. You can take counsels from godly people, family members (in-laws),
but they should not be dominant in your home. Negating all this principles
causes you a lot of pain. Following principles ease you of pressures and
pains.

Partners; are individuals who are in union in an arrangement where gains and
losses, risks and rewards, are shared among the partners. A partner is a person
that takes part with another in doing something to achieve the same goal.
Meaning in marriage, the couples are partners that should have the same goal,
focus, purpose, vision. For when there is a divided goal, aim, vision and purpose,
that marriage is on its way into destruction no matter how long it seems to have
taken. And also take note, nobody on earth is an expert in marriage; we are only
graced by God. Because marriage is a continual; journey, you can never say you
have won until the end of the journey, and in marriage there’s no end in the
journey, a marriage of 30 years can still be shattered, a marriage of 40, 50 years
can still be shattered, what makes marriage strong and blissful is building on the
solid foundation of Jesus Christ, so let me say to you, no one is a champion in
marriage, as we are all in the journey together. Hence the level of information,
knowledge, understanding and wisdom, with patience guarantees the long lasting
of a marriage. Because this are two people coming from different background
entirely, their mode of operations, and code of conducts are different, as
traditions and culture varies, so do marriage varies. So in the partnership in
marriage, the two different people then come together and drop all their cultures
and ideologies and mindset brought from different homes, and subscribe to the
kingdom mindset, culture and traditions. Because it is God that instituted
marriage, and only with his own mindset can we excel in it. Nobody on earth
mindset can give you marital bliss, I repeat it again, nobody’s culture and
traditions can give you marital bliss, it is only God kingdom cultures and traditions
and a mind of Christ that can guarantee marital bliss, that’s why from the scratch
(singleness) before marriage, it is good for one to have known about what his
creator had documented and laid down about marriage.

It is popularly known that a man is the head of the home, while the wife is
the neck, but may I ask you, if you pair up with a wrong head or pair up with a
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Why most people go in pain is because they refuse to drop the cultures and
traditions and ideologies of where they are coming from, and impose it on a new
institution (marriage) that is of God which does not permit the cultures and
traditions of men, hence we don’t see the blessings of God in the marriage and
we keep crying to God for blessing, but he keeps telling to us that we have
refused to follow his laid down precepts, so we will keep morning in pain and
keep grieving because we are in an institution ( God’s marriage) that we don’t
accept its principles, hence no positive results are gotten.

Making the word of God of none effect through your traditions, which ye have
delivered; and many such like things do ye. Mark 7vs13.kjv

Endorsed by God; any marriage that does not have God as its foundation, had
missed it already. You cannot by pass this. Have taken time to explain the
importance of the God factor in the beginning of this chapter, which cannot be
exempted in all facet of life, that should be a settled reality in you already, you
should not be pursued about the reality of God in this matter. If you have not yet
obeyed this principle, or you have left the path way of God, you are already
behind schedule of the plans of God for your life. And if you are out of Gods
design for your life, then there is no assurance of success, marital bliss and
prosperity. If you are in this category, can you briefly say this prayer with me;

Lord Jesus, forgive me for not acknowledging you as the lord over my life and
marriage, I surrender my all to you, I had over my marriage to you from this
moment, I cannot do it alone, o lord Jesus take over the wheel of my marriage
and lead me as I follow in Jesus name Amen.

Wedlock; I want you to take note of the word LOCK, it means you are locked in it,
no going out of the marriage, so that struggles and trials and temptations you are
going through in marriage, is not an excuse to break the bond, no matter the issue,
it is not enough or it does not have the capacity to break the union God had
joined together. For no matter how terrifying the temptation is in marriage, there
is always a way out to bring back peace into the home. For God will not test you
or allow a level if temptation that is higher than you to bear, without providing a
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The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And
God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand.
When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can
endure.1corinthians 10vs13. kjv.

You are locked with that spouse, you decided it, when everyone was
asking you if you were sure of him/her, you confidently said yes, so live up to your
words. God is active and alert to grant you the marital bliss you desire.

Obligations; is an act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally

bound; a duty or commitment. May I tell you that the best way to live in peace is
to live in commitment? Have noticed that in any place that there is no duty, there
is always chaos, it is always advisable that in the home, everyone should have a
duty or a role to play, a well-defined structure of the home that enforces peace,
love, joy and a conducive atmosphere for the members of the home. It is the
obligation of the head of the home to set duties to each members of the home,
and hence when another helps the other in whatsoever, there will be
appreciation, because appreciation is the pivot of the home. The husband knows
his obligations in the home, what to do, the wife knows her own, the children
knows theirs. No assumption of any kind. So when there is a wrong in the home, it
can be easily traced and either a consequence or correction, and apologies are
strategically designed to ease the mind of keeping unwanted pains that can turn
into an emotional outburst at any time, so the home is intentionally designed to
run in peace and unity. The neglect of these little things causes emotional
traumas in the home. When there are laid down obligations, everybody knowing
his duties and commitment, there will be little or no pressure in the home, all
duties and burdens will have been spread among members of the home.

Who is to pay school fees? Husband or wife, or divided into a fixed

particular percentage (according to individuals income) to be cut for each? Who is
to pay the rent, bills, food stuffs, is it the husband or the wife, or shared
percentage? What are we going to do if any unexpected situation occurs needing
finances, or an opportunity of acquiring any property arises? Probably a separate
account or percentage kept for this. When is our fun time? What day do we set
out for the family fun or outing? Who is to wash plates, is it a time table for
children or individual washes his plates after usage? Who is to sweep and do

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house chores? All this should be defined without any assumption of any kind;
everyone should be involved in making the home work.

The home should run like a system so as to guarantee its success, not only
your office. Come to think of it, many companies live longer than many marriages,
even longer than the marriage of the founders of the companies, why? Because
they put a system of operation to guard the company, set rules and obligations,
and duties and code of conducts, with consequences, so the company runs
effectively, but the home has no code of conduct, the home is governed by
emotions and feelings, and assumptions, hence it collapses, feelings don’t keep
marriage, emotions don’t keep marriage, commitment does.
Feelings fails, emotions fails, because they are governed by hormones in your
body (adrenaline), and feelings changes, feelings only stays when things are
perceived to be good and positive, then what happens when challenges arises?
You can’t run your home at the mercy of your feelings prompted by hormones.
You run your home with commitment. Just imagine at work, sometimes you don’t
feel like working, but because you are working with a conduct, you will have to
work because you don’t want to face the penalties, if you instill such level of
commitment to your home, You will have a successful marriage without pain.

Let me give a brief description on how the emotion works, your five senses
receives information from it environment and passes it down to the central
nervous system which then sends the message through the nerves to the brain,
and the brain interprets the message received and send it back to the nervous
systems which then acts on it. For example, you see a beautiful lady or handsome
guy with a car and a good job, then your eyes and ears sends the information to
the brain through the nerves, and then the brain interprets what it sees as a good
man for husband or good woman for wife, and hormones are released which
gives a palatable suiting happiness and joy within you, that soothing feeling is
what you then classify as love, I love him/her, I can die for him/her, then if after a
while, you see a wrong information again that is challenging to what had been
installed in your memory about the individual, a negative information, then your
brain interprets the message again and sends triggers the hormones,(chemical
reactions then changes) hence you feel embittered, then you see how fast you
seem not to want to love that same person again. Probably the beauty of the lady
is faded, her cute tummy is now protruded, for the man, the money is no longer
flowing in as before, then hormones (adrenaline) chemical reaction changes,

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hence your response to the new change begins to change, therefore many marital
issues starts arising, you have just been distracted from your success journey by
your hormones. That is why Joshua 1vs9; says be very determined. Because God
knows that hormones can give wrong information, and make you fear and run out
of the marriage or that establishment. So God enforces and endorses that you
should be determined and confident (goodnews version) Joshua 1vs9.
If you are reading this book encourage your spouse to read this also. So there will
be uniformity of understanding, one sided understanding is not still capable to
keep a home, but uniform level of understand is capable to keep the home. Go for
more knowledge.

When you were wedded, you did it in the church, in front of everyone as
witnesses, and in God’s presence. Then whenever you are thinking of running out
of the marriage vow, remember that you will have to also go to the same church,
invite the same people, the same pastor, the same music band and all, and then
do a divorce ceremony in front of God, and the whole congregation, because you
cannot be joined by God and be put asunder by man or any law or lawyer. So
there are a lot of marriages that in God’s archives they are still joined together.

What therefore God hath joined together let not man put asunder Mark 10vs9.
Kjv.
Let no one split apart what God has joined together. Mark 10vs9 nlt.

Looking at the context of the beginning, when they asked Jesus about
divorce in Mathew 19vs4, he said “have ye not read, that he which made them at
the beginning made them male and female” Jesus referred them back to the
beginning, that before we would talk about anything involving marriage, we need
to consider what the creator laid down about this context, that he made them
male and female. He made a man, put him in a garden and gave him a mandate, a
purpose. Adam which was the first man was so focused on fulfilling purpose that
it was God that had to distract him by forcing him to sleep and bringing to him his
wife out from him, the wife of his purpose, the wife that will assist him to fulfill
the purpose God had given him to do.

What if Adam had said this is a bone of God’s hand work, and a flesh of
Gods hand work, acknowledging God in everything, he would have programmed
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not fallen to satan’s deceit, because God’s integrity would have kept her, and God
had given us the choice to program with our words, and program our fate and
destiny by our self, but he programmed the woman in humans integrity saying
this is bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh, meaning her wills will also be the
will of human, hence if human can fail, then she’s authorized to fail. So when
choosing a partner, you look for a someone fully after God’s heart and will, not
a someone after your own will, because even your own will can fail you because
you are not a stable man, you only live by the grace of God. The mistake most
times is we search for someone after our will, and wants God’s will to bend into
soothing our own wills. It does not work that way, and that is a wrong foundation
for marriage.
The only qualification for divorce is Adultery. And on this note, when you refuse
to forgive, you become a sinner, because you also trespass on Gods laws too, and
he yet forgives you, that’s why Jesus said (matthew5vs23-24) when you want to
offer gift on the altar and you remember that you have someone you have issues
with, first go and settle the issue so that your gift and prayers will be acceptable
unto God and prayers answered and given a listening hear in heaven. Do you see
why it takes time to get prayers answered a lot of issues you have in your mind
that you refuse to settle out. Jesus said adultery as the only basis for divorce and
also laid it down that we must forgive, so it means forgiveness had cancel out that
instinct of divorce you have in your mind. Nothing on earth is capable of
overruling the law of Jesus on forgiveness. Unless he/she had offended you
seventy time seven times within 24 hours.

SEX
When you get married, blood is spilled when you consummate in sex, that’s
why two men cannot consummate in marriage, likewise two women, because
there is no blood covenant possible. Marriage is not about rings, it’s about blood.

The physical only helps to explain the spiritual, you can say you are no
longer a virgin but once you are born again in the kingdom, you are now a virgin,
renewed, old things are pasted away, and everything had become new. So when
you get married and have sex, there might be no physical blood, but in the altar of
marriage spiritually blood had been spilled. That is why every female comes to
earth, completely locked up in a package with an organ hymen, which is made up
of blood. So when you spill the blood, God marks a union in heaven (a covenant is

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established), that is why in kingdom laws and principles sex is relegated only for
marriage. Because you don’t want to be covenanted with someone that won’t be
with you forever and end up in shambles.

So you see why in the Old Testament when you get married, on the first
night, and there’s no token of her virginity, the lady will be put at the front of her
father’s house and be stoned by the men of her city to death. Deuteronomy
22vs13-21.
I want you to know that God takes sex very important, do you know that about
70% of our pains are related or generated from wrong sex? That’s why God
strictly warned against it and kept it strictly for married couples alone so as to
help reduce our pain and emotional traumas.

The standards of God had been watered down by people, Social Medias and
some ministers are not helping because they are trying to win members into the
church, hence Gods standards had been washed down. That is why we are always
in a lot of pain, because we neglect the principles God laid down for marriage to
prosper, and if you go against success principles in marriage, you self-destruct.
Resulting in heavy heart, embittered heart and all kinds of emotional problems, so
you see why we should be thankful for the saving grace of our lord Jesus Christ
that shields us from every satanic strongholds against us, satanic fiery darts,
environmental fiery darts, social darts, that can cause you pain in marriage.

When you have sex with another, you cut the previous covenant, so your
marriage stopped working from the realm of the spirit because you had slept with
another person, that’s why unconsciously you start having marital issues. The Old
Testament was broken and we have a new testament by blood also on the cross.

Hunger for More Knowledge

You need more information to secure your marriage, whatever you see
succeeding has a laid down information that the success you see is been built
upon. To get your B.Sc. or driver’s license, you will need to study and study and go
through several screen to get them, and that’s why you successfully got them, but
for marriages, there are no studies and institutes on marriages, so there are
default information already, hence marriage failure. To get a license for marriage

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now is within 15minutes, so you see that there are no foundations for your
marriage to stand the test of time, what is the information you have gathered
through books, messages about marriage? You see why we are regularly pained.
You have only based your marriage on personal experiences and feelings, and
feelings is as a result of chemical reactions in the body hormones induced by what
the five senses perceive, so in time of trouble, love will fail, becauses the five
senses picks unpalatable signals which makes the love reactions to change. Hence
your marriage fails, series of pains, disappointment, divorce, some even have the
opportunity to learn but that childlike teachable spirit that Jesus said in (Matthew
18vs3-4) they don’t have it. Therefore your heart suffers for it.

So you know how to work in the office, but don’t know how to live with
your spouse, the problem is “not knowing” something you should have known
and you can only defeat this pain by going for more information on that field (of
marriage) that cause you pain. Love has no feelings, it’s a law! IF God reacted to
you the way you always trespass on his instructions, then there will be no me and
you today. So true love has no feelings, it’s a commitment, a duty and an
obligation to love your spouse no matter what.

For love is directly proportional to the level or database of knowledge you have
about the love field.

You are scared to get into an exam hall because you feel you don’t have the
deep knowledge or you feel you have not prepared enough for the examination, if
you have adequate preparations towards the examination, you won’t fidget, you
will be confident and courageous because you have sufficient information about
the examination you are going for, So you are pained in your marriage because
you don’t have sufficient knowledge about that issue causing you pain.
Knowledge has its power in the pain conquering equation, if you have not humble
yourself enough to get knowledge you will self-destruct. You need to boost your
resource in other to boost your results.

Parenting Children

Love is a command, it’s not a feeling, it’s not a will, or choice it’s a
command. If you love your child, you will chasten him, you will whip him, and

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some of you feel for your children so you don’t whip them. That is why many
parents are pained, they are reaping the fruits of not chastening their children as
the bible commanded, hence their children are spoilt, some ministers chastise
other people’s children and yet abandon their home, then when the children start
growing up, they start showing different characters that should not be seen in a
godly home as pastors children. There are some cases you talk your children into
understanding, there are some cases you whip them as the bible had instructed in
proverbs 23vs13.

Withhold not correction from the child; for if thou beatest him with the rod, he
shall not die. Proverbs 23vs13.kjv.
Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children, those who love their
children care enough to discipline them. proverbs 13vs24. nlt.

God told Eli about his children, but he only spoke to them with his mouth
(1samuel 2vs23) and God was expecting him to really discipline them, but he did
not (1samuel 2vs13) and it caused bitter casualty to Eli. You see how God takes
training of children very important, because he is trying to save you from the pain
they might cause you in future. It’s a law, it’s not a will or a wish, when we live to
simply follow Gods principles, we save ourselves from havoc and futuristic pains
and heart attacks, sleepless nights and emotional breakdown. So there are issues
that you can talk your children into understanding, there are issues that when it is
really getting out of hand, you don’t wait till it becomes habit, you need to whip
them on purpose, making them know the reasons behind the whipping and
letting them know God commanded it.

Hosea 4vs6 nlt; my people are being destroyed because they don’t know me.
Since you priests refuse to know me, I refuse to recognize you as my priests.
Since you have forgotten the laws of your God, I will forget to bless your
children.

Pain causing scenarios from children can be defeated by parents in advance.

God is talking about children in the last part of Hosea 4vs6, he says that if
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too will suffer for it, unless they sit up and work on themselves extra miles.
Because you will only be able to teach them to succeed, if you know how to
succeed.
If you failed in marriage, there is a 50% probability that your child will also fail in
marriage. likewise in business, ministry entrepreneurship etc.

Get knowledge for your unborn children; the less you know the less they
can achieve, the more you know the greater they can achieve. We are tired trying
to trust people, and it’s because we are unrealistic, we are ignorant of what love
is. If you fall in love on adrenaline (hormone signals from your five senses), then it
means you will still fall in love with another person, because you will still have
your adrenaline still work on another individual that your five senses deem
palatable.

Love is a response to understanding value, when you get a new product;

you will take good care of that product and be extremely careful with it, you will
esteem the new product more than other products you have for long because you
perceived it as more valuable than others. Now for that spouse, you gave up all
other options for him/her, you saw others, but you decided to seal your mind up
and determined to marry him/her. You canceled many other values for him/her
because you see the spouse as more valuable than others and you can
accommodate such as a partner for life. Then why do you want to allow lack of
knowledge to cause you pain? Why do you want to allow lack of understanding
and patience rip you off that valuable spouse you were over happy with
(extremely Joyous and dancing) on your wedding day? Get more godly books and
messages of good ministers information to secure your home and to safe guard
your children in advance, because if you don’t strive to make things work out, you
have imbibed pain causing events in your children in advance, you don’t treat a
child more special than the other, even if you love one than the other, you don’t
make it obvious, if not; you are already sowing a seed of hatred and discord
among them, which you won’t be able to stand the problems it will cause you
when they are grown up.

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Pain causing scenarios of in-laws.

The bible says a man will leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife;

And said, for this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to
his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh. Matthew 19vs5.kjv.

The understanding of this simple instruction is often ignored by couples,

parents, friends, well-wishers and extended families.
As a couple (man and woman) in sincere truth, your marriage is of utmost
value than your parents or any external bodies, I repeat again, your home is of
more importance than your father, mother, and any other external body, because
you have been joined as one body to your spouse, which is already a formation of
a new kingdom, that’s why before you marry you must make sure you are on the
right track from counsels from ministers of God, because if you join with a wrong
spouse to form a kingdom, you have caused yourself a life time pain in advance.

You must let this understanding sink into your mind systems, that you have
formed a new kingdom, and if you take any other person from another kingdom
higher than your spouse, you have created a pot hole for your own kingdom to
fall, because a kingdom divided against itself will fall. Your brothers and sisters are
from another kingdom, your mother and father are from another kingdom, your
friend and any well-wishers are from another kingdom; hence guard your own
kingdom with all truths and faithfulness. By the time you become unfaithful, you
have brought a crack into the walls of your kingdom, and you are already planting
a seed of high pressured pain into your home. Be truthful at all times, whatever
will not allow you to be truthful, its better you don’t dabble into it. Whatever will
breach your faithfulness to your spouse and faithfulness from your spouse. it is
better you don’t dabble into it, whatever signal of trouble you see coming, avoid
it by all means with all the blood in you, because those are the things that will
cause you much loads of pain and embittered hearts in due time, you can avoid all
pain causing events. Pain in marriage starts when trust, faithfulness, expectations
and truthfulness had been breached. Never allow a third party make you see the
faults of your spouse, since you have seen it before and decided to marry him/her
like that, never allow a third party to bring you to the consciousness of that fault,
because they are already sowing a seed of discord in your home on issues that
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of your spouse, you will die of heart attack. Don’t let a serpent come and deceive
your spouse, guard the mind of your spouse with all diligence and friendship.
Learn and study to be your spouse best friend! Very important, Learn and Study
on how to be your spouse best friend, you will save yourself a lot of heart pain.

So if you are having issues with your spouse and families or friends, it
means you have misplaced priorities, you have disobeyed a kingdom law, so your
unhappiness and lack of joy, bitterness causing depression is caused by you.
You cannot live with your friends for life, you cannot live with your brothers and
sisters for life, and you cannot live with your parents for life, the one you have
chosen to live with for life is your spouse, keep your kingdom safe of heart breaks
and pain.

Take note, marriage does not bring two families together, cancel that
ideology from your mind within 2 seconds, that mindset breeds interference and
opportunities for third parties, so therefore marriage makes a third family. Your
in-law before marriage is considered an out-law in marriage, it is not that they are
out of your life, but they are considered number four in the marriage chain.
Which had been earlier discussed, God first, Spouse second then the children next
and then the in-laws.

So no one should just drop into your home and cause issues with just words
and carnal minds, immediately silence the effect before the little seed that had
been dropped in the home springs up into a plant that will cause commotion in
the home. Never leave any issue unattended to, make sure you iron out all issue,
the one that you are at faults, be sincere to apologize and make immediate
amends, don’t be too holy not to accept your flaws or errors or mistakes, no one
on earth, I repeat no one on earth is above errors, no one is perfect. Always work
out your own salvation by continually working on yourself. Keep growing, never
be stagnant.

Philippians 2vs12. Kjv. Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as

in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own
salvation with fear and trembling.
Philippians 2vs12-13. (good-news version); so then, dear friends, as you always
obey me when I was with you, it is even more important that you obey me now
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 your salvation, because God is always at work in you to make you willing and
able to obey his own purpose.

So you see the bible instructs that you work on yourself into perfection,
Apostle Paul knows that no one is complete, but he encourages that you keep
working on yourself so as to always be the best version of yourselves at all times.
When you see someone better than you, or regarded as higher than you, and you
want to feel disappointed in yourself, the bible says the antidote to such pain is to
keep on working on yourself, the bible discourage competition, anything
competition is from the flesh and the devil is already around that heart to cause
more disaster, the bible says instead of doing competition, you should work on
yourself and God is always available in you to help you to achieve that better
version of yourself that you see, envisioned and imagined.

Some in-laws, and third parties still need to be saved, they are not born
again yet, and they keep using their carnal mindset, cultures, traditions and
ideologies to infiltrate your home and decide what should happen in your own
home that you are building on the solid rock of Jesus Christ, therefore making the
word (promised blessings) of God of non-effect in your home.
Some people their counsels comes from past pains, negative experiences and
failures, hence they impose their negative experience on you, they will even be
offended if you don’t follow their ungodly counsels, that’s why the bible warns
that you should be strong in the lord and in the power of his might so as to be
able to stand all the devices or wiles of the unwanted counsels (Ephesians 6vs10).
You must stand firm and guard your home and be able to stand firm against all
strategies of the devil, whoever among you spouse breaches the guarding
principle of the home, had given room for enemies to rush in, that home is
already destroyed in advance. Then pain is resulted.

LOVE EDUCATION

You don’t feel like loving, it is a command of God’s law to love, not a feeling.
Love that person who you have chosen to be with for life in the presence of
everybody (during wedding). Don’t go on and do private meetings with others in
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dare you look down on yourself to be the second choice, when there is that
particular person that is created, that will make you his first. If you are not seeing
someone that can make you his first then the problem is within you, it’s not an
external problem, it is an internal problem that must be attended to, for
whosoever want to make you a secret lady or a second choice is just doing it for
the purpose of satisfying his sexual fantasies. You are not a sex machine that
anybody can turn off and off anytime, when there is an issue at home, he then
calls you his sexual machine to come and give him some fantasies, how dare you
look down on yourself and downgrade yourself because of the low self-esteem,
low self-worth and inferiority complex you have built in yourself? You are bigger
than who you think you are. There is more in you than you can imagine. Keep
reading this book and you will start to unravel that thing in you that had been
dormant for years. It is time for you to rise like a champion. Don’t remain where
life put you; refuse to remain where life put you.

You don’t get married on feelings; you get married on love Education.
If you are born again, it means you have the Holy Spirit in you, then why do you
make mistakes, bitter mind, heart break or fall into errors? Because having the
Holy Spirit is not equal to having knowledge, so you can go ahead and speak in
thousand tongues, if you don’t have adequate knowledge, you will incapacitate
the tongues to produce results. And God cannot be a lair.

You can have the complete tool set to fix a plane and can’t fix it. Having the
knowledge of God is not the same as having the knowledge to fix things. You need
to know how to use the tools to fix things before you will be able to fix things.
God created man and woman, this (man and woman) is a tool prerequisite for
marriage, and to know how to use the tools we must follow the instruction
manual (bible) the owner laid down, without following the owner’s manual, we
will self-destruct. You can buy electronics today and just because you wrongly
operated it out of how the manufacturer designed, it can have fault that very day
you bought it, so having equipment is different from knowing how to operate it.
Having a tool-set is different from knowing how to use the tool set to repair
electronics.

You don’t use your reproductive organ for play or for joke or for source of
heartbreak and curses upon your life; you use it mainly for the purpose which it
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Jesus did not just save us, he keeps us, he provides for us, and he’s the typical
example of a husband. So brothers before you disturb any woman for marriage,
can you keep her? I am emphasizing on this because most pain in life, work,
education sector, government sector, and all other sectors starts from a wrong
foundation and mindsets built into our subconscious at home. Hence if the
foundations be destroyed from marriage, what can the righteous do?

Indefinite Love

Once you can give a reason for love then it is no longer love, no place in the
bible was it given why God loves us. So if you ask anyone why do you love me?
Whatever the answer is, that is what will eventually destroy the relationship. If
there is a reason, then there is a condition for the love and everything changes,
when the condition change, then the love is threatened. When there is a
condition attached to love, then there is pressure to keep up with the condition,
which at the end turns into frustrations and tiredness, you just want to give up
and quit trying.

A failed expectation threatens love. You got a job, handsome, own a car,
and as a lady beautiful and curvy, all these are not condition for love. Lack of
meeting up in expectations and conditions brings DI-VISION and Jesus said any
house DI-VISION (two visions, not in unity of goals per time) against itself will not
stand. Too much pressures to prove a point to spouse in marriage is wrong, in fact
the couple is supposed to be in unity to accomplish a goal together per time, a
man trying all his life to keep proving a point to the wife will eventually end up
with several health issues, heart attacks and the likes, a woman that is under
pressure to prove a point to the husband or anyone will eventually be frustrated.
That is not what love is, marriage is for enjoyment, it’s not a target mission or a
revenge mission for what you have suffered for in the past, marriage is not the
continuity of your father’s house part two, NO!, you work together with your
spouse to make sure things work out fine, make sure you get this book for your
spouse, so that there will be uniformity of information in the home on how a
marriage should run and the central standard for marriage is the marriage of
Christ with the church. As a believer, you are not perfect, you offend God and he
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at which your spouse offends you, so there should be nothing that is unforgivable
in your mind.
I will want you to release all the pressures in your mind right now, and say to
yourself, I forgive my spouse wholeheartedly. You have loaded your heart too
much with pain, it is time to relieve yourself of unnecessary load, and cast all your
burdens upon Jesus for he cares for you.

Physical Changes in Marriage

The same way your wife’s body is changing, is the same way you are also
changing, you are also having pot belly, and having bald head also, it is selfishness
and self-centeredness to put your wife under pressure to keep fit. It is good to
keep fit, but when wanting her to keep fit, you also work on yourself to keep fit,
let the work be on the two sides, not on one sided, that is cheating of freedom in
the home, whatever one spouse is doing to keep fit, the other too should do also,
the woman needs her husband too to be fit and handsome and attractive to the
eyes, remember you made her so, by feeding her with your sperm that got her
filled up for nine months, and after several children, you don’t expect the body
shape to still be the same as you met her. Even you that is a man without carrying
baby for nine months, your body structure changed, talk less of your wife that
carried baby in her womb for months. Drop all unnecessary pressures in your
home; let your home be an atmosphere of joy, fun, happiness, laughter and peace.
You are the king of your home, rule your kingdom well, and let everyone be free
to express themselves, by so doing; you will keep intruders and strangers away
from the home. And for the woman, that does not mean you should relax yourself
and don’t look good for your man, always endeavor to look good for your
husband only. Look good for your husband alone, some women will dress good
and look good for their boss and co-workers, it’s funny how women always look
good while going to work, and dress so sharp and smart and at home they just let
loose on themselves. Learn to keep your husband’s sight on you alone.

Am not ironing out the fact that looking good is wrong, but let love lead,
not your weakness of not defeating your body (killing the lust of the flesh), you
have not tamed your eyes yet and discipline your reproductive organ, putting it
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man, or another handsome sweet words breath taking man as a woman? As a
man, there’s no woman’s sexual organ that is different from that of your wife,
learn to be disciplined, and as a woman learn to be disciplined. As a kingdom
citizen, learn to radiate Christ in both open and secret. For our heavenly father
sees all you are doing, the whole realms of the spirit are seeing all the secrets you
are doing, and you are creating loop holes for satan and his agents to penetrate
into your home, and there is nothing that can be done to remedy it, because you
gave them the access into your home yourself. May I ask you to plead for Gods
mercy in a minute? And make a firm decision to stand for God at all times, in the
secret and in the open.

Expectations

The major issues of most marriages are high expectations of the partners
from themselves. The wife will be expecting so much from the her husband, and
at the end if the husband is not meeting up to her expectations, then there begin
troubles of different kind, likewise the husband too having high expectations from
the woman, and eventually if she is not meeting up to the demand of the man,
then issues starts arising in the home. Let love leads, never expect anything, when
you are not expecting anything, you plan to do things yourself to assist the other
spouse and when someone does it, the other should learn to appreciate.
Everyone should learn to appreciate whatever is done as an assistance in the
home. If you don’t expect your wife to iron your cloths and she does, learn to
appreciate her, and vice-versa. And who brought the ideology that only women
should do the house work that the two of you live in, and got dirty together?
The two of you go to work, faced the same issues of traffic, office issues and
stress, coming back home the two are already worn out, and you get home and
lack of understanding makes you offend yourselves by over expectations, why not
decide to increase the love atmosphere (doing something good to each other not
expected, like a surprise) compulsorily and send pain away from your home.

Increasing the Love Atmosphere at Home

God is love, whoever lives in God, is a good lover, meeting someone that
don’t love God, won’t love you. I am born-again means; you have a tool-set, you

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have entered a system, then you need to know and understand how to work the
principles of the kingdom to get results. When you care for someone, then you
start searching for what they need next, just like as God did, before we were born
he had have a set plan for salvation already. For someone saying they love you,
check if they anticipate your need just as God did. Jesus did the work of salvation
in advance for us, in case you fell, and his blood keeps speaking on our behalf.
That is caring. If you don’t understand these little things, you are already
producing potential decayed homes and children, with low self-esteem, and
inferiority complex, it is time you to rise to kingdom levels and kingdom standard
in everything in our life.

If you are married, Apostle Paul says stay married let your children see you
recover because you won and know how to do it, let them take you as perfect
example of their life, learn and go for knowledge to win, let the future be better
than the present, fight the good fight of faith by increasing your spiritual
intelligence and all round intelligence. You are on your journey out of pain!

When thou vowest a vow to God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in
fools; pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that thou shouldest not vow,
than that thou shouldest vow and not pay. Ecclesiastes 5vs4.kjv.

You make vows on the altar, in the presence of God and man to be with someone
for the rest of your life. So when you have issues, be quick to always settle any
issue between you two, because God calls you a fool if you change on that vow.
He says he has no pleasure in a fool.
What you say to God is “if I don’t keep this vow, you can judge me, you can make
me lose my peace, you can permit devil to cause and inflict pain on me”.
Slow down and learn the dynamics of love, so that you won’t go against the will of
God in your marriage. Save yourself of pain, send pain away from your heart, your
home and all your environs by obeying the laid down kingdom principles and
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Fear of the Unknown

Because of your past experiences, you have piled up different

disappointments and breach of trusts by your past emotional life, so it makes you
live your marriage in constant fear, even you find it so difficult to trust your
spouse due to what you have gone through in the past. You still carry the images
and pain of your past into your marriage, you have been treating your spouse
from a database of negative experiences in the past for many years, you even find
it more difficult to sincerely trust your spouse because even you yourself had
been once in a while unfaithful and fall into mistakes in the past too, can I ask you
today, it is time to really be happy and joyous, and free of heart pain and
bitterness, you can’t live all your life with pains and revenge mission of what had
been done to you in the past on your spouse, you keep having the fear of
someone taking your spouse from you, someone secretly sleeping with your
spouse, for how long will you keep this fears? For how long will you keep the fear
of your tomorrow? Not knowing what tomorrow will bring forth, it is time to free
your mind and actively format your mind of the entire wrong database installed in
you over the years. Pull all those stronghold and unpalatable imaginations down
compulsorily.
Your future holds a great deal for you, in Jeremiah 29vs11.nlt.

For I know the plans I have for you, says the lord. They are plans for good and
not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29vs11.nlt.

God has great plans for you, it is time to relinquish yourself of every heart
inconveniences and let God take over, hand over everything to God he sees
everything going on around you.

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 Chapter Six
PAIN AT WORK
Anything that succeeds in life is a result of the correct application of
knowledge. When you feel pained, you have lacked knowledge, you need to boost
your resource in other to enhance your result. Get more wisdom. To cope
effectively in an office environment, you need daily dose of wisdom from God. If
you are in any office, make sure you study and research wide so as to take new
strategies to work per week in other to maintain relevance at work.

Proverb 4vs7;

Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom; and with all thy getting get
understanding. Proverbs 4vs7.kjv.
Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do,
develop good judgment. Proverbs 4vs7. Nlt.
Getting wisdom is the most important thing you can do. Whatever else you get,
get insight. Proverbs 4vs7. Goodnews bible.
The best thing about wisdom is wisdom herself; good sense is more important
than anything else. Cev.
The beginning of wisdom is; get wisdom (skillful and godly wisdom)! For skillful
and godly wisdom is the principal thing. And with all you have gotten get
understanding (discernment, comprehension, and interpretation). Amp.

James 1vs5;

If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God (who gives) to
everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it
will be given him. James 1vs5. Amp.
If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not
rebuke you for asking. James 1vs5. Nlt.
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally,
and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. James 1vs5. Kjv.
But if any of you lack wisdom, you should pray to God, who will give it to you;
becauses God gives generously and graciously to all. James 1vs5. Goodnewss
bible.

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 Some people sabotage good promising associations and struggle for years
in worthless ones because of pride and lack of understanding how God intended
us to enjoy every of our associations and dealings in life.

The details of this will be fully explained in the next chapter that I will be
talking about pain in ministry, for its the same principles, your work in secular
office is also the same principles in ministry, the only difference is your work
needs daily research, and ministry needs daily meditations, regular study of the
word of God, prayers and continual intimacy with God. That is why Jesus said to
his parents in Luke 2vs49 “don’t you know I must be about doing my father’s
business”. That's why when I ask pastors, what is your work? And they say they
are not working, I already know that they are not fully committed pastors. A fully
committed pastor will know that his work is his ministry. The next chapter can be
applied to your general office activities. I hope you understand? If you do, now
lets go into the next chapter and open your heart to see the light that will be
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 Chapter Seven
THE PAIN IN MINISTRY
Jesus always waking up a great while before day to pray,

Mark 1vs35 and in the morning, rising up a great while before day, he went out,
and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed. Mark 1vs35. Kjv.

So before people woke up, he had always finished his programming into the
day to get good success in whatever he laid his hands on (heal the sick, cast out
demons, and raise the dead). Take note that Jesus ministry was his business, so
his ministry is the best perfect example for us to consider the pain in ministry.
Jesus was in the habit of using an average of 4 hours before the day when
everybody woke up to program into the daily success he received (a fraction of
seconds to get results), but it took him hours upon hours to meditate on God’s
word, program and pray, working out the success already In a long while before
morning.

The disciples took hours to cast out demons, but he Jesus took minutes to
get the success the disciples could not get for long, and at the end they get pained,
destabilized, awful, tired of trying with no results, tired of praying and fasting,
tired of trying to help God prove a point that he exists, they get disappointed,
down trodden. The difference was what Jesus was doing in the secret that they
didn’t know about, when they were busy following the daily schedule, Jesus was
busy following his own unique schedules that guarantees success. That minister,
that church you see succeeding in the area you are getting difficulty, is doing
something you are not doing; they are doing something behind the scene,
something your mind can’t phantom.

If you spend four hours in the morning with God, you will only spend
minutes with man in the day. But we spend a minute in the morning with God,
and four hours trying to solve a problem in the day with men. So you see where
the frustration in ministry sets in. and even in the spending time with God, what
do you do in that period, most ministers all they do is to pray and pray and be
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taking time to meditate deeply on the intent of God in their ministry. Taking time
to know Gods directives, many minister, follow other peoples directive for their
own ministry and apply it so as to get results, but we seize to know that God
called everybody uniquely and we are to answer different problems in the body of
Christ. God called you to be answers to a particular problem different from others,
so your mode of operations would be gotten from him, not you only receiving the
call, but you need to also receive the daily direction to follow at every step in time.
God loves partnership and intimacy with him, not just receiving information and
running out to do it as if you are the sole creator of the working principles, he love
working side by side with those who permit him fully, and that’s why you see
predictable and unprecedented results.

The priority of Jesus was not ministry to men, but it was to spend time with
God. You don’t rush out to do ministry, now you have rushed out and you are
pained at the results you got, God says stay with me first and invest a lot of time
with me. Jesus said to his disciples, how long must I be with you?

Jesus said to them, “you faithless people! How long must I be with you? How
long must I put up with you? Bring the boy to me” mark 9vs19.kjv.

Meaning that; haven’t you observed me enough to know how this kingdom
principles work? And that’s why he knew we have a stubborn mind, that’s why he
said he will tell the father (God) to send another comforter who will teach you all
things, because as a second comforter (Jesus) you have not yet understand these
things (because his time was short) so you need another teacher that can stay
with you at all times and teaching to you the mysteries and secret keys of the
kingdom, simplified to you daily in your closet, anytime in the day. For Holy Spirit
is not a feeling, he is a communicator, so don’t judge with the goose pimples or
the ecstatic feeling people make mouth with. Judge by;
1. Your Prayer life.
2. Your database of the word of God.
3. Your ability to discern.
4. And the Meditation hours you spend with God.

All these factors determines the activity of the holy spirit in you teaching you all
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means you have a textbook in your hands to read and understand which is your
bible.

And they quietly later asked him, master why couldn’t we cast out the
demons? And he responded that “these do not go out except by prayers and
fasting.

Afterwards when Jesus was alone in the house with his disciples, they asked him,
“Why couldn’t we cast out that evil spirit?” Jesus replied, “This kind can be cast
out only by prayer and fasting. Mark 9vs28-28. Nlt.

You need to be prepared for ministry,, for job, for that company, for that
government position, for schooling, for marriage. for your prayers and fasting are
the preparations you give before launching out on anything, you feed your spirit
man and mind or else you will receive bitter casualty when you launch out and
embittered full of pain, depression and you may even conclude that his thing
called ministry is not working.

Anything that succeeds in life is as a result of the correct application of

knowledge, when you feel pained, you have lacked knowledge, and hence you
need to boost your resource in other to enhance your results.
Apart from the minister, many in the church are weak and going through a lot of
emotional traumas, they might hide under their beautiful faces and dress,
jumping up during praise and everything seems okay, but have been emotionally
battered, resulting in some having low self-esteem, inferiority complex, low
self-worth, and actually the faces you see in your work forces in church are the
ones that have been actually emotionally deceived. Many don’t speak up; hence
they continue in their internal bleeding for years, I would like we ministers to be
sensitive enough to take note of the needs in the church. Even that beautiful lady
you see, had been emotionally down trodden by the handsome guy you see in
church, a sugar coated guy or adult had been used by devils to get many of your
ladies down to sexual immorality, some are still struggling in their immoral acts,
some have overcome but still have the scars and pain in there, some are at the
verge of falling for the pranks of the enemies. Some of your youths are been
sexually intimidated by that respectable adult you see that looks like holy art thou
in church, some married women have fallen into errors and are fighting with this
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mates in the same church or office every day, some building up hatred and
resentments in the church. As ministers we need to be very sensitive to the
emotional needs of the church, don’t take any negative attitudes or gestures
noticed in any member for granted, because underneath such gestures lies a lot
of secrets you need to know, learn to be a friend of your members, have a system
that grants them free interaction with you, that does not mean you should
disrespect yourself, but make sure you can be freely accessed or a team or system
that are trained effectively and can represents you to deliver your sense of
judgments (kingdom standard) accurately, after they pray and do all sorts of
singing, praising and jumping, you need to allow the holy spirit to work through
you to speak to their wounded souls, you need to permit God to heal their broken
hearts, they must not enter a new week with such pain. Learn to kill the routinely
weekly pain that had been invested in both you and your members heart through
their past.

Some of your men, are been downgraded, belittled, and neglected, they are
really feeling lonely even amidst their family as a man. Forget the fact that men
look masculine and strict or hard, many of them are fighting rejections inside of
them, many have tried all best to prove to their family they can be the perfect
husband and father they hope for, but life had not really been fair to them, so
they respond in anger to any light situation, men love to be winners, so when
they are not winning they know, and are always highly hurt and even already
embarrassed in their mind, and the only way they can cover up is to be edgy and
act strong. Many of your male youths are at the verge of giving up on Christianity
(a reality you must know as a minister), because they practically saw a friend of
theirs going astray and looking as if he’s making it, and enjoying life to the fullest
with no consequence observed as taught in the church, so that your strong youth
in church is at the verge of giving up, he had tried all his possible best to paint his
life according to that colorful destination and visions he saw, but nothing seems
to be working in line with what he saw. He had tried to fulfill purpose, but he’s
not seeing any adequate encouragement or support to become that which God
had destined him to be. Everything in ministry is not all about money, good music,
good sermons, but you need to carve out a strategy to meet up with the
emotional needs of your members, for if their emotional needs are met, it will
radiate Jesus faster and that is the best evangelism strategy you can ever have.
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 The neglect of a wounded soldier often brings more pain leading to
depression and low self-worth. Have you forgotten it also happened to you at a
particular time in life when you were neglected? Did you notice how you
struggled daily to keep the fire burning, even till you made some secret mistakes?
Are you a neglected heart wounded soldier that no one sees the good intent in
your heart? Everyone thinks you are the wrong fellow, bad person and all strange
words have been used against you? Or did you even become wounded in your
heart due to your own over smartness trying to get one particular pleasure from a
process that latter back fired? You just wanted to enjoy your flesh secretly
because you had been dying inside of you, and your mind keep fighting negative
thoughts and imaginations daily, or a particular lady had really been a lust factor
to you in your ministry, anytime she’s around, you just can’t get yourself again,
she’s very young yes, but she attracts your attention like as if she’s using a
magnetic force, you have planned not to even laugh or be soft with such
occurrences, but anytime she comes, you break those rules you set again, or is it
someone’s wife in the church, that is a strong temptation to you? Are you finding
it difficult as a woman to ignore the effect of the compliment of that particular
man, yes everyone thinks you are a strong vibrant minster, but some certain areas
are still challenging to you that you cannot let out to anyone because they will
shout and scream, so you are just their struggling in the middle of all these issues
as a minister.
I want to remind you of what Jesus said, we often think he said it to the
unbelievers alone, but he first meant us, he said in Matthew 11vs28;

Then Jesus said, “come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens,
and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am
humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is
easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light. Mathew 11vs 28-30. Nlt.

Who have yoked you this much? How come did your heart become this
pained and heavy? Have you forgotten when at a point in life, you were the most
joyful Christian? When did the devil have his way into your heart to load you with
heavy loads of burden? Were you sleeping when burdens came? You knew where
it all started from, you knew when that wrong decision back fired, you know the
unnecessary pressure you have yoked yourself trying to help God in his work he
gave you. Jesus called out to that woman that had been bound for years, he loves
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Jesus called her out and delivered her of her predicament (Luke 13vs11-12), you
know of the story, how much more you that just made a little mistake in your life
journey, how much more you that had been lied against? You are still the same
minister God called, you are still that great minister you saw in your dream, you
are still the same person that will heal the sick continuously, not once in a while,
you are a dangerous cherub, you are faring through the portals of the great divide,
don’t you see the way devil; is manipulating your mind with heavy burdens so
that you will not have a sound mind to preach the gospel God had given you and
complete your mission?

Can you simply quietly kneel down and groan before your maker who sent
you, and pour it all to him, he said “come to me”, you are having the too much of
loads in your heart, Jesus that you preach every Sunday is the one that said “come
to me”, so now as a minister, come to him for that trouble and let him relieve you,
be humble, stop letting the devil sit on your ego to keep putting you under
pressure to help God, No! you don’t help God, you partner with God! Pour your
whole heart out to your maker today and let him relieve you and give you the rest
you have missed for too long.

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 Chapter Eight
THE CHURCH PAIN

Most of us use Christianity (religiosity) as an escape route or a way to just

keep calm and try to justify our failure, so we see a system that makes you
comfortable as you are, hence you relegated, and your lack of understanding
Christianity and the major purpose of Christ had made you stay in a spot in life,
struggles around a spot, not exceeding a certain limit in different areas of life. So
that is why it seems the church is for dull people, for people that don’t know
what’s popping, capital letter NO!

The church is an avenue where Christians gather to edify themselves and

share kingdom thoughts within themselves, Christianity is the highest level of
intelligence, but represented by people who refuse to go for knowledge and
refuse to tarry with the holy spirit to get the prerequisite technical know-how of
spiritual technologies to make things work and produce predictable results. When
you see the herbalist or the wizards (at least you watch them in movies) they
know what to do to solve a particular situation, just that they are going through
the unauthorized pattern and there are heavy consequences for that, but on the
long run they do something spiritual and they get their results, then you call
yourself a Christian and a church goer, and you say herbalist power are powerless
power, but you cannot produce the kind of result they produce? It is a slap on
your face as a Christian. It is a shame when you are in a street and people carry
sick bodies to visit voodoo or a magician and you claim to have Christ in you, you
claim to have the power of God in you but you cannot invoke any spiritual
dimensions of God to solve a problem. It is a shame, it is time for the church to
rise to her calling, no more storytelling, no more Christians as talkatives alone not
been able to represent the God they shout about on the pulpit, no more justifying
our flaws and weaknesses with passages of the bible, if you don’t have the real
thing, seek God deeply and thirst for more of God. For the bible says the whole
world is waiting for the manifestations of the sons of God.

For even the whole creation waits expectantly and long earnestly for God’s sons
to be made known (waits for the revealing, the disclosing of their sonship)
Romans 8vs19.amp.

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 Until the church of God rise up to its expectations, and defeat the kingdom
of darkness as they should, the kingdom of darkness won’t stop making a fool of
us. Because we refused to do our homework, we are running after vain things,
doing competitions, trying to prove a point to show who is more superior in the
kingdom of God, when the devils are recruiting ballistic missiles and dangerous
catastrophic agents and satanic agencies every day, we are on the altar screaming
and making bold claims with bone faces of a reality we can’t defend. This is what
had put us in continual pains as a church. The church had become a place where
people leave home happy to church and leave church totally drained and sad,
battered and embittered because there’s no virtues released to them, even some
Christians become more confused leaving the church at closing hours, not
knowing what to believe in again, rather we have entangled ourselves with
activities that helps the devils and his agents to find expressions in the life of
believers, we array different programs but the results of the programs are not
seen. How will people return for a program and they fell under the anointing of
God as you proclaim and yet they still get home struggling with some certain
issues of life? It is because all we do now in church are emotional gimmicks (the
rise of goose pimples and ecstatic feelings). And demons now know that we love
different manifestations, so they quickly give us the manifestations we desire
using it as a bait to hold down the move of the Holy Spirit on more important
things like true revival, so when a program starts and a demon shouts, then the
whole move of God stops just to address a demon only, and there are thousands
and millions of people hungering for God, wanting to be filled, so the church then
turn to cinema centers for Christians to come and see the emotional and
motivational talent of the pastors, they smile and laugh and are happy in church
and get home back to their bitterness, because their joy was not filled. Things
they encountered in church were hormonal show of entertainment, not the
spiritual intimacy with God. When your spirit is touched by God, all your life turns
around immediately and it will be evident to all.

Where it is more dangerous is that, upcoming ministries and churches now

even run after the same vain things they see others display, so nobody is running
after the real knowing of God again, we are all running after the activities and
array different programs to compete with others in order to retain and engage
members as a strategy not to lose members, I shout to you reading this book.. “as
a church set yourself on fire and the whole world will come and watch you burn”.

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We have forgotten that we are a body and each ministry is to fulfill an agenda in
the general kingdom mandate, we are not to be the same or alike, NO! we all
have offices and area of concentrations to fill in, we are not to be comparing
ourselves with each other, No, we all have our unique dealings with God and the
dimension of God we are to represent in the body of Christ, but the body of Christ
refuses to unite herself as one body, we keep seeing ourselves as competitors,
may I say to you that, this is insecurity of the highest order! When you know your
mission and mandate as a ministry, you will focus fully on the assignment in which
God had given you as a church to the body of Christ, it is time to pull down all
unnecessary stress, pressures of any kind and stronghold and go back to the
drawing board and check back on your mandate (the blue print God gave you),
retrace your steps back to where you have missed it no matter how long you have
missed it, when you see you are wrong, be fast to correct back all your errors, for
you can’t keep building on lies and be scared of what your members or people
will say if you sincerely let them know that you have advanced in kingdom
ideologies. For it is a greater pain to build a ministry and people on lies when you
have already searched deep and known the truth, since you have known the truth,
let it set you free from all pressures to keep proving a point. And as a church
become a company of dangerous cherubs to the kingdom of darkness, that
wherever you are situated, the satanic practices in that environment must shut
down! Uninstalling darkness in every territory the church sets its foot in. for Jesus
said he will give us the keys of the kingdom and the gates of hell will not prevail
over the church.

And I say also unto thee, that thou art peter, and upon this rock I will build my
church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. And I will give unto thee
the keys of the kingdom of heaven; and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth
shall be bound in heaven; and whatsoever thou shall loose on earth shall be
loosed in heaven. Matthew 16vs19. Kjv.

In the verse of the scripture above is an analysis of how Jesus intend to

equip the church, first here is by the church getting the understanding of the
messiah (Equipping and embalming the church through Understanding), the
understanding of God and his principles, his laws, his mode of operations and
code of conducts, the revelation of who Jesus truly is to you! Peter had a personal
revelation of Jesus, not the general thought and conception of people concerning
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Jesus promise him a great authority, that whatsoever he does on earth will be
backed up by the host of heavens. Remember Jesus said it was God who reveal
this to peter, so there’s a work for us to do to seek God as a church and as a body
and then God in-turn reveal who Christ is to us, from that point we are then
graced to have the authority over serpent and scorpions, that at the name of
Jesus every kneel will bow and every tongues confess that Jesus is Lord.

Secondly in Matthew 18vs18-20

Verily I say unto you, whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in
heaven; and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again
I say unto you, that if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that
they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my father which is in heaven. For
where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them.
Matthew 18vs18-20

Equipping the church through unity had been addressed from verse sixteen
to twenty, for if a house is divided against itself it will fall (Mark 3vs25). It won’t
be able to uninstall darkness, because the power of unity had been misaligned in
the formula to defeat darkness. So the evil ones keep having potency in all they
are doing, and it seems the church is a powerless, rather we even avoid them and
run or escape from them, instead of the other way round, and they are the one to
run away from you.

As a church never make the mistake of neglecting any wounded soldier (a

worker in the church who made mistake, backslide, missed the way) so it won’t
boomerang.

As a church when we refuse to take responsibility and produce results, by

teaching people the kingdom way of life, we are causing more issues instead of
solving problems, if a church didn’t teach her members to grow spiritually and
physically, you are keeping pain in advance to manifest. Because they will surely
be sooner or later faced with real life issues that the wisdom of man can’t solve,
they will need to engage the principles of the kingdom to solve them. And if they
are not taught, how will they overcome?

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  Know Gods purpose for the church.
 Get a vision.
 Make Goals
 Plan on how to achieve the goals.
 Don’t be distracted, come what may.
 Do the right things not the good things
 Teach the undiluted word (grow people).
 Keep learning from those ahead of you.

The understanding that prayers and fasting and all spiritual exercises are to
provide a clear atmosphere for Gods will to come to pass. You must know that all
these are not enough. If you want to produce results, you must then understand
the kingdom principles that guarantee results. After the atmosphere is clear from
demons and satanic attacks via prayers, you then need to start putting into play
different principles to get desired results. Go for more knowledge; conquer your
pain as a church by humbling yourself and going for more knowledge.

Never get into the error of doing good things instead of right things,
because not all good things are right for you to do, as a church you have your own
unique assignment, and that assignment is what determines what you do,
everything you do that is not in line with your purpose as a church is not the right
thing to do no matter what they are. You are therefore wasting kingdom
resources, and you might not produce kingdom fruits, because God will only
support that which is in line with what he called you for.

There are times God did not call you into an experience, but you encounter
those things, as at that time, it is kingdom bonuses (blessings), to you for
following the principles of the kingdom word for word, but that should not be
mistaken and decide to go out of the context of what God actually designed the
church for. You must make sure you confirm from God, he is the only one that
knows whether it is time to add to the vision he had given you, and when he says
go, then it means he had provided all the things needed for the new vision to =be
materialized. Your commitment to your purpose as a church opens a door for the
workings of the host of heaven to back you up on whatever God had put in your
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 Many church are busy doing good things (not right things) that God did not
purpose them to do, many are killing themselves with daily activities and routines
not bringing forth peace and joy, and yet pain keep multiplying in their hearts
daily. We are not called to preach all the bible, everybody have a strategic,
definite messages that God put in everyone’s hand, and God has a target
audience for each messages he put in your hands, you need to know all these
things, or else you will keep on getting frustrated because you will be misusing
divine provisions for the church on the wrong things which they are not provided
for. Churches are busy wearing themselves out pursuing ministerial goals, projects,
programs and assignments that are not part of God’s plans for them. They have
adopted another man’s (church) vision or purpose as their personal standards for
competitions and comparison, therefore trapped by the expectations of others.
They then live to please everyone except God. Every one that left the purpose
why he was sent into ministry will eventually loose relevance, we all have them in
the scripture, and physically have examples of such people around us. It is time to
go back to the blue print of the church that God gave, no matter how you have
gone wrong. Because it is when you are aligned to God plans and purpose for the
ministry he gave the church that you will find relevance, no matter the storms you
will stand out and defeat pain flawlessly. This is the secret of church relevance on
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 Chapter Nine
POWER OVER PAIN
Pain is for those who never give up on heavy challenges, and at the end
they are rewarded with a distinctive success that is uncommon. What is that level
of pain are you going through? You are not yet dead! You are still alive! I will take
you on a journey on overcoming whatever pain you might be going through in life,
If you have been concentrating on reading the book, it is high time you give a
higher concentration. It is time you buckle up your seat belts as we go on the
journey into defeating pain for life, from this chapter down to the end of the book,
make sure no sentence is exempted, if you don’t understand any sentence, keep
going over and over it again till your spirit man comprehends what is said in the
sentence to make it palpable and become your life experience or reality.

Jesus came in order to make you start to live in your future not your past,
the past is dead except you give it life by yourself, and how do you give it life, by
talking about it, thinking about it. You cannot move into the colourful future if you
are still thinking about the past. You are never celebrated for the things you claim,
you will be celebrated for the things you survive. Never listen to nay Sayers, take
it as part of your process to become who you see yourself to become. When
people let you down, say within yourself to them, I will be back, it is because have
not worked on myself enough that’s why I was defeated and you cause me pain,
so say to them in your mind and subconscious, I will be back. Success is what you
have done compared to what you are created to do, not what you have done in
comparison to what others have done, that is competition. So forget competition,
you are created to subdue not compete. Hence focus on fulfilling the gift (purpose)
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Forgiveness

Forgiveness is to break the link between you and your past. Most tomes
when we hear forgive; we often concentrate on the outward spheres (those
around us) only, we don’t always resonate with forgiveness from the inward
spheres (within us). Learn to forgive even yourself too for falling victim into life
issues, don’t ever take excuses or give yourself excuses for failing or disappointed,
the first journey into emotional freedom is when you have gained mastery to
agree within yourself that you have failed and messed up woefully, you need to
agree that all you know concerning that area of life causing you pain had been
exhausted, and take responsibility for your failure. When you grow to that point
in life, then you are on the road to overcoming pain and cheating the devil for life.
(Let me release a bit of kingdom keys in this context that would blow your mind
and enable you to correct how you pray and overcome trials and temptation) For
you cannot judge the devil yet or cast him out of the earth system, because there
is a set time for that, what you can do here on earth to the devil is to:
1. Resist him, James 4vs7 kjv; Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist
the devil, and he will flee from you.
2. Restrict him, Mathew 16vs19 kjv; And I will give unto thee the keys of
the kingdom of heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall
be bound in heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be
loosed in heaven. Also the same in Mathew 18vs18)
3. Cheat him; gain upper hand and advantage over him. 2corinthians 2vs11
kjv; Lest satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of
his devices. Nlt; so that satan will not outsmart us. For we are familiar
with his evil schemes.

You have to forgive yourself for not running that company well, you forgive
yourself for not training your sons and daughters well, you forgive yourself for all
bad life you have lived, you forgive yourself for not prospering in marriage, you
forgive yourself for not having a good wife or husband (choosing wrongly), you
forgive yourself for wasting a lot of time before you come into the reality of life,
you forgive yourself for lying, stealing, fornicating and falling into adultery that
you secretly did and still feeling pain from the result of the acts, forgive yourself
for not having one of your children for the right man, you forgive yourself for
secretly going against principles of the kingdom, you forgive yourself from
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accumulating a lot of enemies around you due to your lack of understanding
relational intelligence and the reality of humans, you forgive yourself for been the
source of the tears of many men and women, forgive yourself for not studying
enough for that exams opportunity, forgive yourself for loosing that good man
and good woman you could not maintain and recognize their good nature, forgive
yourself for not been realistic with yourself and life, forgive yourself for all the lies
you have told yourself, forgive yourself for aborting severally, forgive yourself for
promising God that you won’t do that thing again but you eventually did it and it
became an habit you do once in a while without been able to overcome the
effects, forgive yourself for attracting the demons to your life through law of
consistency; consistently doing that which is of the devil until the demon in
charge of that operation came and possess you, hence you can’t control it again
or free yourself from the act, forgive yourself for not pastoring that church well
with wisdom, forgive yourself for not going for more knowledge on your field of
expatriate until you disappointed yourself and those that referred and believed in
you, forgive yourself for not been responsible, forgive yourself for passing your
life blames (failure due to incompetency) on people (father, mother, situation and
circumstances, location, friends), forgive yourself for not understanding life
(principles of the kingdom) early enough, forgive yourself for having multiple
sexual partner that led to pains that you can’t disclose, forgive yourself for not
discovering purpose on time, forgive yourself for marrying the wrong spouse,
making mistakes even after you have been overly careful to choose the right life
partner, yet you still made mistakes that you can’t tell anyone. Yet forgive
yourself!

Now accept all responsibilities, say to yourself, you have failed, Now decide
within yourself that “I will rise to my best capacity by God’s grace, I will study with
all the blood in me, work smartly, go for more knowledge and wisdom on that
area of life causing me pain, I will work on myself so hard that when I present
myself before God, he will approve and endorse me before men”. 2timothy
2vs15,Nlt; Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his
approval. Be a good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who
correctly explains the word of truth.
Jesus did the same thing, before God could publicly endorse him, Jesus had to
work on himself so hard that as at 12 years old he was already teaching things
ahead of his age, and the elders in the church marveled at such level of
intelligence that had been bestowed upon Jesus as a child. And after his

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temptation and successfully wining the devil, he went for baptism by John and
continually work on himself till he was transfigured, God himself then openly
endorsed him before men and commanded men and the whole earth systems to
listen to him. Mathew 17vs5, Nlt; But even as he spoke, a bright cloud
overshadowed them, and a voice from the cloud said, “this is my dearly beloved
son, who brings me great joy. Listen to him”
For you can do all things through Christ that gives you strength and with
God nothing is impossible for you to accomplish. What are some of the things that
can never be impossible for you? Owning your own Businesses, Companies,
Educational Institutes, Contracts, Banks, Children, Supermarket, Record labels,
Hospitals, Entertainment industry, Engineering firms, Shopping complex or mall,
Cinema house, Eateries, Event centers, Houses, Vehicles and in all things, with
God nothing shall be impossible to you. Philippians 4vs13, kjv; I can do all things
through Christ which strenghteneth me. Ephesians 3vs20, kjv; Now unto him
(God) that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think,
according to the power that worketh in us. Remembering that your God shall
supply all your needs according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians
4vs19, kjv; But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory
by Christ Jesus.
What do you do when you have been poorly programmed by life events? Trying
all your best in life and yet no positive results gotten. Are you are victim of
situations and circumstances that you could not have been able to have power
over? You can reprogram your mind through actively consuming the word of God.

Romans 12vs2, Nlt; Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let
God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you
will learn to know Gods will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Have you been oppressed socially, sexually, or racially, I want to tell you
today that Jesus is the center of freedom into a healed life. Resist the devil of your
mind. James 4vs7 kjv; Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and
he will flee from you.
Any mood that is not in agreement with the will of God for you is satan trying to
manipulate your life through the issues of your earth realm, satan loves it when
you accept to be pained and depressed, he loves it when you keep cold and
wallowing in pain, because he knows this mood will prevent you from having a
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prosperity, will be far from you or your wealth can easily be taunted, because the
mind is the seat of all accomplishments and achievements.

satan wants you to believe that life is just as it is, that life is not fair, satan
wants you to have excuses to remain in your comfort zone and remain in the pain
and anguish he is causing you, he does not want you to be free from his
manipulative tactics, he protrudes a lot of negativities into your mind, he does not
allow you to see anything good or positive around you or in your life. When you
say you are in a terrible mood, satan is playing pranks on your mental intelligence,
he is already around the corner to cause you pain and to keep you unproductive,
because having such issues at mind can maim and incapacitate your ability to
make good decisions for life. Have seen many people making wrong decisions
because they were not in the right state of mind when they made the decisions,
they are more than the decisions they made, but because of life issues
(vicissitudes of life) that had befall them, their sound mind becomes incapacitated,
hence gives room for making long life mistakes that can affect generations to
come.

You should not only stop in rebuking the devil but to keep him at bay, you
should constantly feed on the word of God, for the devil prides on the areas of
your life that you are not really sure of or secured enough information to prosper
in. So keep feeding on the word of God (Books, listening to messages, going for
mentors that had succeeded in that field of your life that throws you off balance)
concerning every area of life. Write down what you want to achieve with your life
and focus all your energy around it, there is no way you are planning ardently for
your future and the devil will be able to keep you in the past, it is impossible.
Praise God with a big shout of Joy and dance, do a family dance concert, or a
personal dance concert, for it is time for you to be happy and joyful for once, not
ups and down in your emotional life. Philippians 3vs13, Nlt; No, dear brothers
and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: forgetting the
past and looking forward to what lies ahead.
 Forgetting the past things
 Reaching forth unto purpose.

The walls you built to protect yourself and mind have also imprisoned you.
If you think your pain is unique to you, then you are wrong. I got to notice that in
life our pains are not unique, they are all equal in dimensions but different in

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height and with different in the dealings causing them, but has the same end
product as planned by God, which is for you to have a bright future and a glorious
and expected end.

Don’t run away from yourself, for the inner torment, jealousy, fear to take
risks, depression, just as said in Job 11vs19, Nlt; You will lie down unafraid, and
many will look to you for help, so God will make you to lie down and nothing
shall make thee afraid and many shall suit unto thee. You see that God is in the
business of making kings out of people, you have had a wrong and incomplete
expression of God for long, God is not rigid, and God is not a dogmatic God with
rules and laws without having feelings for your warfare. It is time for you to allow
him to take charge of your life, so you would always sleep with no fear of any kind.
Active mind rest at all times. For if God be for you, who can be against you?

Romans 8vs31, Nlt; What shall we then say about such wonderful things as
these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us?

Your wealth won’t be affected, your company can’t rundown, your family
can’t be desolate, your house can’t be desolate, all these mind fears are fiery
darts thrown by the devil to your mind so as to make you unbalance and an
unbalanced mind is the seat of devil. Your spouse, boss, children, friends or
relatives can’t forsake you, let God come into the equation and everything will
actively and compulsorily change.

If anyone wants to remind you of anything that causes you pain, proudly
smile and say to them, “that was then, you don’t know me now, my levels have
changed and is still changing per day, for I am a dangerous cherub shot into earth
system to shake territories, I am not moved by situations and circumstances”.
you are to move situations from bad to good, and circumstances from
unpalatable to palatable. You are the one God is sending to the world systems. He
said go into the world, go and make disciples of men, now how will you make
disciples when your mind is down? You have an agenda to fulfill, you have a
mandate to endorse, you have a company to lead, a ministry to birth, a school to
be established whereby good kingdom mindset will be instilled in men as they
grow, you have a role to play in taking the world systems away from the grip of
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instilled, you have a university to establish, whereby good morals will be instilled
in youths.

Now who told you that you can’t become all these things have mentioned?
Who told you that you can’t be local government area chairman? Who told you
that you can’t be a senator? Who told you that you can’t be a governor? Who told
you that you can’t become a president? Who had lied to you this much? Who told
you that you can’t rise to the highest echelon in your office? When did you start
to downsize your vision and dreams? Do you know the capacity of your mind and
your endowment? How dare you run down your imaginative capacity because of
the situation and circumstance you find yourself in, how dare you belittle yourself?
How dare you come so low that you use your body or wrong means to get results?
Going after the success that you cannot teach others publicly the means to get?
Success that you can’t proudly walk or drive on the road in a relaxed mind
without been conscious of government agencies, how dare you enslave yourself
to money? You wanted to prove a point to whom? Who are they that have
rendered you so low that you don’t even believe any good thing can come out
from you? Who made you to kill your drive towards aiming at great things, those
people you see at the top, they never knew they would get there, they kept
pushing just as you or your parent were pushing, until your parent and you gave
up but they did not give up.

Sometimes we fight between Israel (new life) and Jacob (old life) in us,
Israel wants to read the bible, but Jacob wants to watch movies. Israel wants to
go for vigils and Jacob wants to go to clubs or night parties, so we have this fight
going on in us, even though we are Christians, we go through a lot of inner fights
that no one can tell. Our feelings (emotions) most times play on our mental
intelligence, hence we are always in between decisions, and trying to get good
results out of our daily Christian living. It is time to make a firm decision and be
intentional about all the realities and activities around your life. It is time for you
to be focused and concentrate all your energy on doing God’s will. For the most
dangerous calamity is a life of personal deceit, deceiving yourself to the extent
that you start believing in your deceit and forcing yourself to believing that what
is wrong is right to make your mind at fake and temporary peace

Who told you that you cannot be richer than the nations? Who told you
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into maximum impact it can achieve? When did you allow the deceit of money to
make you feel you have arrived and finished all your success endeavour? Who
told you that when one purpose is fully achieved you cannot get another vision
and get it running?

For there is more to life than just sitting down and say my soul find rest, the
Bible disapprove of this fact, first you must keep acknowledging God and keep
been productive.
Let me remind you of your land mark. The landmark God gave is in Genesis 1vs28,
kjv; And God blessed them and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply,
and replenish the earth, and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the
sea, and over the fowl of the air and over every living thing that moveth upon
the earth. Which implies; having dominion over the earth systems, you are to
have dominion and submit the total governance of the earth system back to God
so that his will and agenda will be able to find expressing and be materialized
actively through his children that are ardently taking over the earth systems for
the kingdom of God to come down on earth.

Mathew 11vs28, Nlt; Then Jesus said, “come unto me, all of you who are weary
and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Come unto me

Jesus called that woman out (Luke 13vs11-12), it explains a scenario to us,
and God loves to see us trying all our best to move towards him. He knows
everything about you but he calls you to come to him and he will give you perfect
rest even though you are pained in the heart, he says come unto me. Living for
love and relevance in the wrong places leads to a feeling of abuse. Things you
must do to key into emotional freedom;
1. Let go of wrong prophetic atmospheres and cling yourself to destiny friends
alone. Question is how will you know your destiny friends? And what do I
mean by wrong prophetic atmosphere? (Explained fully in chapter Eight)
2. Self-worth, values, self-esteem, correction of inferiority complex cannot be
earned by building fence around your heart. No, they can only be earned by
increasing your wisdom database.
3. No matter who had looked down on you and made you feel like a fool, God
wants you like that, he’s calling you and he will make prudence out of you.
4. Belong to a body of Christ.

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Let me address an issue briefly (Kingdom Virginity)

Because you are no longer a virgin does not mean that’s the end of the
world. God recognizes the fragile nature and the vulnerability of a woman, so he
has designed that the one who plugs into a woman sexually will have a covenant
with that woman. God never intended for humanity to have casual sex. His
designs always included the commitment of a covenant. He purpose that a man
who will have sexual relations with a woman would be committed to that same
woman for life. Anything other than this is not kingdom. God wants you to be
covered not opened, so you will be a package for your man.

But you say you are no longer a virgin yes it is true, but I say to you in the
kingdom of God, once you have given your life to Christ as your personal lord and
saviour, then all old things are passed away, all things including your virginity is
now new, as said in 2conrithians 5vs17, Nlt; This means that anyone who
belongs to Christ has become a new person. Th old life is gone: a new life has
begun! but where you have issues is when you keep going against the principles
then you keep inviting the chastisement of God on you through activating the law
of consistency negatively.

Law of Consistency states that; Every time you repeatedly do a thing on earth,
you are attracting the spirit dimension of that reality to possess you.

You must do spiritual warfare to gain stamina and tenacity against the
devices of the enemy in certain areas of life, you can’t escape that reality, you
must wrestle with principalities and powers, spiritual wickedness that wants to
put your life in a spot, you must participate, endorse and engage the host of
heavens to war with them, and win, then and only then your emotions are free.
The devil is attached to you because he knows you have a purpose locked up in
you, that having a sound mind can bring forth, so he is expert in manipulating
your mind, keeping your mind from focusing on issues of interest to vision, rather
focusing on issues of none effect in life, so his best strategy is to cause men to
instill in you pain.

In one of my messages, I taught on the mystery called pain, pain in one

dimension is actually an emotion allowed by God to birth out a reality that had
been locked up in us, but devil never knows of this curriculum vitae of God’s

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creation of man, so he keeps instilling pain in you, and that pain keeps bringing
you back to God until you fulfill destiny.

Pharaoh kept suffering the Israelites and they kept crying to God for help
and God promised to make them free and get to their Canaan land, assuming
pharaoh knew his instilling pain in them would free them, instead of putting them
in bondage; he would have not instilled pain in them.
Can I tell you today that God had been watching all you are going through, he had
been actively watching how devil had been manipulating your mind and he had
been actively calling you to help you out of that circumstances, but you have been
the one running away from him. Do you know you are delaying, don’t you see
many people around you that their pain caused them to become fruitful and
prosperous?

Hunger has a way of bringing out your locked purpose, I always see this
dimension of reality among comedians, many of them did not study comedy but
pain brought out what was locked up in them into a reality that makes them
self-employed and go into investments (for the wise ones among them), and then
become financially free for life.
Take note that marriage or escaping from one place to another does not bring
permanent solution to pain, it only helps reserve the pain through subsidizing it’s
present effect in your mind but latter delivers the pain back to you later on in
further occurrences. So you must conquer that which is causing you pain for once
and for all.

The areas devil use to hunt us as humans is our desire to see, taste and be
wise, so he present bad as good for us to see, he makes you go hungry so you
could taste a fake wealth or success, and he allows you to get ungodly wisdom so
as to keep you under his hold, and continually manipulate your heart to cause you
more pain. (wisdom that antagonizes the existence of Christ as Lord over all, and
even uses the scriptures to confuse you the more into believing this Christianity
stuff are just stories, and his major motive is for you to reject the knowledge of
God. Hosea 4vs6a, Nlt; My people are being destroyed because they don’t know
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The Tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil;

Devil presents good that has evil hidden behind it, but the evil is covered by
good so you won’t take note and his intent is just to keep you under his bondage
and make you his puppet, and God said you will surely die (been disconnected
from God). Genesis 2vs17, take note of the words “surely die”, he did not say you
will die, but he put surely, meaning the end product of everything is death.

So you go against God and you don’t feel like as if it’s a big deal, what God
is saying is you will enjoy the good, but when the evil behind going against my
laws unveils, then it will be too much for you to bear, there will be constant
repetition of pain, rundown of business, closing of companies, children causing
issues, wives going against husband, husbands going against wives, children
against parents, and parents against children. So God then say the pain of all
these occurrences will be too much for you to bear, rather death will set in
gradually, heart ache, heart attack, hypertension, and all sorts of emotional
issues.

Now instead of going through all these traumas, it is better to follow

kingdom principles and be sure of a sound mind. 2timothy 1vs7, kjv; For God hath
not given us the spirit of fear: but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Because God had not given us the spirit of fear rather of sound mind; then when
you are scared it means satan the tempter is close by. Be careful of who you give
your attention to, they present evil as good, sometimes even they themselves
don’t know the evil embedded in such good they present until it end up causing
pains to your soul, don’t just be driven by results, be driven by principles and laws
and purposeful living. Genesis 3vs13, Nlt; Then the Lord asked the woman, “what
have you done?” “The serpent deceived me” she replied. “That’s why I ate it”.
Who you give your attention to leads your life, and if not careful can lead you to
destruction, and most times the ones who led you always escape while you
remain in ridicule and calamity.

As a woman (Revelations 12vs17, Nlt; And the dragon was angry at the
woman and declared war against the rest of her children; all who keep God’s
commandments and maintain their testimony for Jesus). you must engage in real
spiritual warfare because your enemy is the devil and he is still roaming around
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consistently. In Genesis 3vs15, Nlt; And I will cause hostility between you and the
woman, and between your offspring and her offspring, He will strike your head,
and you will strike his heel. Now take note, we generally understand this
scripture to be Jesus Christ and devil, which is true, and we think God is talking
about woman here, it is true. But what you have been blinded to is that God was
talking about you and the serpent too.
He said thy seed and her seed. First the seed of satan are categorized as demons
and everyone that is possessed by demons for the will of devil to find expression
through them on earth. Now take note you are a seed of a woman, anybody that
is in this world today came through the gates of a woman, that’s why women are
gateways they are to birth purposes, visions and all forms of Gods movement,
even Jesus himself had to come through the womb of a woman to find expression
in this earth system. So there’s warfare between you and the devil, the earlier you
know this the better. For the devil knows that if he successfully gets the
dimension of a woman to be under his control, then he can tilt and control the
earth through them, that’s why he went for Eve in the Garden of Eden, and that’s
why he uses women in all areas of life to antagonize the move of God indirectly.
The bible says work out your salvation in fear and trembling

Philippians 2vs12, Nlt; Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I
was with you. And now that I am away, it is even more important. Work hard to
show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear.
Ephesians 6vs10, kjv; Finally, my brethren, be strong in the lord, and in the
power of his might.

Yes you are born again, after been born again there are still a lot to do in
the kingdom, for been born again is just an access into the kingdom, Jesus is the
way, and surely there’s a destination. There is still a purpose for you fulfill, there
is a kingdom work that you must resume, God did not send you to the earth to
come and be born again alone, he sent you to come and do a work on earth to
advance his kingdom agenda, and to oppress the devil and agents at all times.
Unless if you want to live your life to chance, so there is warfare and that is why
you must be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might.

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Moving out of your Comfort Zone;

There are some kingdom realities that seem unpalatable, that I want to
bring to our consciousness. Their leaving their comfort zone birthed greatness;
 Adam was moved out of his comfort zone even in sin so as to enhance
productivity. Genesis 3vs23.
 Abraham was moved out of his comfort zone (his father’s house) to fulfill
God’s agenda. Genesis 12vs1.
 Jacob was out of his comfort zone in other to materialize his divine
blessings. Genesis 28vs10.
 Moses was moved out of his comfort zone and stayed in the desert (pain) in
other to be trained to become a deliverer. Exodus 3.
 David was out of his comfort zone in the bush, in other to be trained and
gain mastery and skills needed to confront Goliath (mountains of life).
1samuel 17vs34-36
 Jesus was out of his comfort zone in other to fulfill destiny, he even said a
prophet is not recognized in his own house. Luke 4
 The twelve disciples on the day of Pentecost all moved out of their comfort
zone, and stayed together in a place in one accord to receive the anointing
to become the apostles we read of today. Acts 2vs1

Can you say to the Lord in these brief sentences by reading it out loud so
that your heart and mind will know that you are free from pain;

You have taken all my pain

You have taken all my sorrows,
You have taken all my Weakness,
You have taken all my Sufferings,
You have taken all my Tears,
You have taken all my Shames,
You have taken all my Sadness,
You have taken all my Limitation,
You have taken all my Poverty,
You have taken all Dishonors,
You have taken all my Insufficiency,
You have taken all my Struggles,

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You have taken all my Fears,
You have taken all my Mountains,
You have taken all those mountains;
You have made them yours,
I give you my highest praise,
I praise you for everything you have done in my life.

After reading all that, you can still go over and over again to read it several
times, until it becomes so palpable to you, until the kingdom reality in rest of
mind and peace comes to you. God had taken them all away, it’s a past tense, can
you use this opportunity to accept Christ as your personal lord and saviour if you
have not, so that the reality of everything you have read will be yours. Kindly say
this little prayer with me and invite Jesus into your life to govern your life whole
wholeheartedly and live a kingdom life;

Lord Jesus, I have come to realize all you have done for me on the cross of
Calvary by dying for my sins so that I might be saved and won’t go into
damnation dying of pain every now and then, I have come to realize that all
have been suffering from, you have already settled them on the cross, I accept
you into my life as my personal lord and saviour in Jesus name, Govern my life
fully from this moment, I surrender the throne of my heart to you, holy spirit
come into my life and start your work, I have come to realize that there is a
kingdom work for me to do, Holy spirit reveal my own kingdom specified work
to me in Jesus name, thank you lord Jesus. In Jesus name I have prayed Amen.

I thank God for a new dawn that had been opened up to you, you will fully
enjoy the kingdom joy in this new dawn, lets continue into the deeper things into
conquering pain effectively, as what you have done is just a step into the main
power over pain.

Your spirit is signaling to you that something is trying to get through, don’t
become so preoccupied with the pain that you forget to push the vision that is
about to be or have been birthed through you, sometimes you are pushing the

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pain and not the vision, and you are so engrossed with what is hurting you that
you are not doing what it takes to produce fruits in your life.

When you are in deep pain, or when you see pain multiply, it’s a sign that
something is to either be revealed by God to you, a vision is about to be produced,
don’t settle for pain and not get the benefits. Disregard the pain and get the
promise, your pain will be totally forgotten when the vision begins to materialize.
For every pain in life, God is either preparing you for that great thing you are
asking him for, or the pain as an alert system to push you to go for more
knowledge, wisdom and information to secure your colourful destination and
overcome the that area causing you pain, or he is working on something in you,
either your character or your attitudes, or your mindset, his goal is for you to
focus on him alone so you won’t miss out of the curriculum you need to know in
other to fulfill destiny. For God will not allow you to be tempted beyond you can
bear, there is always a way out in every situation and circumstances you find
yourself.

The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And
God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand.
When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure. 1
Corinthians 10vs13 NLT.

Some Christians wont influence the world, they only influence their children
and after a while the same children will still interact with the world later in the
future, no matter how you keep them indoors, they will still go to university and
work and be exposed to some certain things you try to prevent them from, rather
it pays to teach them in the understanding of kingdom realities. For the
curriculum of this world’s wisdom keeps advancing as demons and satan keep
unveiling new strategies to those that had form allegiance with them. And so
there for the database of Christianity you installed in your children (or if they stop
growing spiritually) might not be able to compete with the world’s mindset
several years later because things would have advanced more than the
knowledge of what you taught them, so devil uses the tricks in the new
generation to fizzle out your children Christianity, they struggle for a while, but
they end up falling into little tricks of the devil. So most times I encourage all
Christian in all areas of life to make sure they influence their world, go for more
studies to improve your certificate so you can rise to the highest echelons in the

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nation and influence the nation with a God given wisdom, don’t be self-centered,
it you refuse to influence the world positively to make it a better place to dwell
(kingdom advancement) and you face your family alone, they will still come and
work in the same world system.

That is why Jesus said go ye into the world and make men disciples of me.
Of which you must occupy influential positions as a Christian to be able to make
disciples of men. For how will you make disciples of men easily and confidently if
you are not occupying positions that can make it so? We Have; left our position in
the world system of dominating and handed it over to the unbelievers, so the
unbelievers decides our faith every now and then, you want to go for bible study,
but your boss did not release you to go for the kingdom work, that’s why it is time
for we Christians to rise and become influential in all areas of life.

Imagine as Christians are much in these nation, we begin to influence the

world from every angle, before you know it, we will squeeze out satanic schemes,
he will have no mind to toil with again to produce negativities.

This work is not for pastors alone, and everybody will not become a pastor,
this mandate is for us all, to make sure the kingdom of God comes down on earth
to find expression fully, and that’s the goal of God and we keep disappointing God
and yet we expect his response whenever we call and pray like a charm? No it
does not work that way. Learn to become a matured Christian, a matured
Christian always give than receiving, learn to impact the kingdom dynamics into
the world system and watch God arise on your case, and watch your enemies be
scattered (if you don’t know about kingdom dynamics I will explain on it in
subsequent books).

You are that woman that your shadows should heal the sick, you are that
man that the world should run to for help, stop allowing satan to deceive you into
thinking you need help, you are the helpers and lenders to nations.

In life if people are not coming to you, or listening to you, or walking away
from you (ministry, business, company etc.) then it means your product is bad. It
means your container is attractive, and your content is bad, so you are beautiful
and handsome and or have a well packaged product, so they get attracted to you
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 It is not the container that keeps the customers, it is the content, even if
the container deceives them to come or get attracted to you, the content will
decide whether they will stay in your life or go. So you are beautiful, you have put
make ups on your face to look radiantly flashy and all others to look attractive,
but no values to keep a man. When a man asks you out, he will see that you
contain nothing, and no man wants liability likewise no woman wants liability so
they will leave you and go, you then start to complain that all men are wicked
(mostly caused by all the wrong ideologies about men, then you react that way
toward a God sent man and you miss who God sends), or as a man you keep
saying no good woman, can you ask yourself, can your sister marry you the way
you lack Godly values? Or if you are a woman can you marry yourself as a man
with the way you have a lot of bad reasoning and cheating properties, lacking in
faithfulness and not trustworthy in your heart?

As a wife all the friends you have are singles, if you are not careful, you will
also end up becoming single again, because all your atmosphere of thoughts are
around singleness and there will be things you will start to fantasize on, before
you know you are already offending your husband (make sure you have mentors
or good and godly friends that are ahead of you in life, you can’t have those you
are ahead of in life as friends they will bring you down unconsciously with their
mindsets.

Focus all your faith on God, not man and God will compel man to favour
you, to solve your issues for you. Enrich your values and personality with inner
beauty. 1peter 3vs4.

You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within,
the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God 1
peter 3vs4 NLT.

Jesus healed on a Sabbath, means your healing is connected to your rest,

the time you specially put aside for God in special meditations. God will not speak
or direct you when you are too occupied; he speaks, heals, develop, organize your
life and makes you birth something when you are in the restful state not sleeping,
but a state of active meditations on his laws Joshua 1vs8.

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 Study this book of instructions continually. Meditate on it day and night so you
will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and
succeed in all you do. Joshua 1vs8. NLT.

Even in the life of Adam, he had to put Adam to a rest state to birth Eve. Genesis
2vs21. So your success is embedded in the power of your active meditations.

Power over Pain (Home)

For women; build your house with your hands don’t tear it down with your
mouth. For the men; make sure you have a vision before getting married and set
it running.

A woman is a multiplier; make sure you receive good reasoning to multiply,

what you hear, what you watch, friends, those around your atmosphere. For you
are a receiver as a woman, you have been built that way and the environment
had enhance the receiving mindset of women. That was why the devil came to
Eve to give her a new ideology. And that is why if you want to get a man’s
attention, get his wife, so women take note of what you receive. For you cannot
have everything you see. If you receive a wrong ideology from outside, you are
putting your home in danger. And selling out your family to the hold of satan.
A woman is an incubator; meaning she receives whatever is given to her,
multiplies it and give it back to you.

If you are a woman and you read this book, endeavour to make your
husband read this book also, as a man encourage your wife to read the book also,
if you are single encourage your spouse to read it also, if you are a parent
encourage your sons and daughters to read this and likewise children encourage
your parents to read the book, as a minister encourage other ministers and your
members to read this, as a youth president, encourage every youth around you to
read this, and lets eradicate pain causing embittered hearts together, for if our
mind is sound, we will be productive and have good success, because we will be
able to have good meditations. For God have not given us the spirit of fear but of
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For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and love, and of sound
mind. 2timothy 1vs7 kjv.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and
self-discipline. 2timothy 1vs7. NLT.
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity of cowardice, of craven and cringing
and fawning fear, but he has given us a spirit of power and of love and of calm
and well balanced mind and discipline and self-control. 2timothy 1vs7. Amp.

Let me briefly summarize the purpose of pain, so you will gain mastery in
handling anything regarding pain around you or in you.
1. Pain is to incubate creativity, when things fall apart; it makes us think
outside the box.
2. Pain is to force you into a new way of thinking, increasing your imaginative
capacity. Helping you to solve problems with high level kingdom
intelligence and wisdom.
3. Pain is an opportunity to improve and advance over old ideas or mindsets.
4. Pain comes to force you into growth in life, so you will become a master
over that thing causing you pain. As everything you see produced in life and
you enjoy was birthed from the pain of someone.
5. Pain produces and manifest your leadership qualities, your hidden values, it
prunes you and trains you in a way that you will be ready and have a large
heart to operate in the next level of life you are about to enter. It brings out
leadership skills, intelligence, talent, gaining mastery over gifts and all
others.
6. Pain ignites a passion for a vision, it takes you back to what God told you
from the beginning, it takes you back to your purpose, to forget every other
distractions.

Most times we stray away from our original vision, so pain comes, it is one
of the alert systems of God to take you back to your vision, your original purpose,
it drops you on the floor, so you can go back to your real you from the
foundations of your life. What God had created you to be and function as.
Let me also briefly say some of the benefits of Pain;
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 2. It builds your trust worthiness; you will never be trusted for the things you
claimed, you are always trusted for the things you survived.
3. It creates credibility and builds your integrity
4. Makes you responsible.
5. The memory of pain makes you avoid mistakes.
6. Makes you prepare adequately enough for anything you are targeting on,
like a popular saying “once bitten twice shy”
7. Pain does not come to conclude your life or bring you down or depressed
and disappointed. It comes to sharpen your life to your creator’s standards,
and when your life is sharpened to your creator’s standard, then it means
you are rated from on high far above all principalities, powers, rulers of
darkness and spiritual wickedness in high places.
8. It makes you productive and birth great things that you never believed can
be birthed through you. (Waking up your mind to work in realities of life).
9. It increases your honour and people will respect the outcome of how you
handled your pain.
10.There are people praying for you to fail, and if you don’t fail they trust you,
managing your hurting period well helps you in gaining more of Gods
ability.

Things to learn from pain;

Never listen to nay Sayers, accept your pain as part of you becoming a
successful person.
Success is what people will think of you after they have tried to pull you down and
run you down and yet you keep rising far higher through the accurate channeling
of your pain to produce positive results and force you to be a better of yourself
increasing in value daily.
Jesus knew he was the savior of the world but he had to prepare for his vision, go
get yourself a job or start something and prepare adequately for your vision.
Your job is not your personality, it is a way for you to learn on how to implement
your vision, and you are paid while learning.
You are now new, say goodbye to the old life, learn to act real in life, stop
manipulations of any kind, it is an ungodly dealing and worldly wisdom, when you
know this, you would do things that won’t make you need manipulating anyone,
hence you will find peace.

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I do tell teachers, your sole aim of teaching should be to establish an educational
institute of any kind, it is not necessarily is the nominal nursery and primary
school system, you can think out of the box and look for something in the society
that people needs to be educated about and its causing issues in our society and
form an academia out of it.
Likewise for those working in the companies, know that whatever you do is a
process to your destination, that is not what you saw in your dream and visions,
remember what you are doing now is not what you have planned doing or what
you saw yourself doing. So take advantage of this time and work hard and
prepare adequately, financially and make more studies and researches to
establish that which you have seen yourself establishing.

For ministers, you know God wants to use you, take time to study hard
(2timothy 2vs15), seek God well and get a mentor, you cannot live this life as a
lone ranger believing you can get to God all by yourself, there are something’s
you are killing yourself fasting for years and its already present in the life of
someone, you just need the right directions to get them to happen or make the
realities you want to become your life expressions, so humble yourself enough, go
for more wisdom in that area causing you pain, for pain is an alert system that
shows that you need more information and wisdom to handle that issue causing
you pain and giving you sleepless nights. So prepare well and learn all you can in
that specific message God had given you to the whole world. For there is no short
cuts in the kingdom, spend time with God, let Holy spirit lead you, calm down,
release yourself from all busy schedules and spend time with God. You will
receive a response from him.

I leave you with a last note under this chapter that you should endeavor in
all your dealings that you are always truthful, walk and work with wisdom at all
times, never have too high expectations from others, always balance your mind
with active shock absorbing capacities ready to absorb anything men brings your
way, smile, laugh and praise your way out of pain causing events. Dance away
your sorrows. As we move on to understanding men and earth systems
adequately in the next chapter so that you will have a strong heart with the
dynamics and possible realities embedded in men, to be able to get to your
colorful destinations. And enjoy the colorful life God had given you.

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Some words of wisdom that you should use to guide your daily life;
 The potential of loss and the threat of pain creates change.
 Humility is revealed by your reaction to greatness, and character is revealed
by your reaction to correction.
 2peter 1vs10, Nlt; So, dear brothers and sisters, work hard to prove that you
really are among those God has called and chosen. Do these things, and you
will never fall away.
 A mistake can cancel out the reward of the good things you have done.
 Unwillingness to admit to a mistake, failure, and giving excuses or trying to
justify it instead of working on that error, increases the time it takes you to
succeed, hence it delays your fulfillment and power factor over pain.
 Prosecution stops when you confess, fear and futuristic pain is overcomed
when you confess. A little word “am sorry” moved Zacchaeus from a sinner
nobody to a disciple of Jesus in a day. Also in Luke 23vs39-43, a hardened
sinner was saved and forgiven by Jesus Christ because of his little sincere
words “Asked for forgiveness”. for the greatest mistake you will ever make is
the unwillingness to say “Am sorry”. Your inability to restart life afresh is what
is causing you unending pain, resume back, reorganize your life again, stand
on your feet and say to yourself I will never fall victim again. Rise up soldier!
 You give people the opportunity to cause you more pain if you don’t address
what they do that makes you hurt.
 Never trivialize the role and importance of Holy Spirit in your daily life, never
replace your Spirit life with your mind life.
 Never refuse to be a voice of God were you need to, never condone and be
quiet when you are in an environment speaking against God systems. Mean
while never try to correct authority, that is someone higher than you, leave
them to be corrected by the ones higher than them, all you can do is to keep
praying that the ones higher than them takes note of the irregularities of the
person doing wrong. Many people had not known the right time to speak,
they say they want to represent God and they received the bitter casualty of
their life. Jesus said in his words, be wise as serpent and be gentle as a dove.
 Patience is an investment that produce a perceived reward. If patience does
not produce a reward or a perceived futuristic reward, you opt out of that
system, no need of patience. Long suffering is a virtue, but only when there's
a blessing waiting for you at the end of the tunnel. don’t prolong your pains or
postpone your pains to future. Opt out, the only exemption is marriage, which
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your home will be utterly destroyed.
 The only part of God that works for you is the part you understand.
 Never be unfaithful to any God system or kingdom activities of God around
you.
 We might have successfully brought the presence of God in our homes
through Television stations, but it cannot replace the linkage with the family
of God. The bible says in Hebrews 10vs25 paraphrasing; do not neglect the
gathering of the believers. Belong to an effective body of Christ that promotes
only Kingdom Agenda of God, it helps you defeat pain from the past, present
and any form of futuristic pain showing like pleasures to you in the present.
 Never exhaust your opportunities for Wise counsels. Go for more counsels
from reputable men of God that you trust, read more books, study the bible
to know the counsel of God on every issue of your life. When you are faced
with any challenges, seek for the area in the scriptures that talks about that
issue causing you pain and study that portion times without number,
meditating on the portion deeply alone in your secret, until the holy spirit
bring the light of that scripture to you and then you know the prescription to
use for that issue causing you pain. Keep getting Wise counsels, listening to
more messages from men of God with well known Integrity until you succeed
in that area of your life.
 Train yourself to maximize, and detect opportunities around you.
 Never walk away from the field of favour around you. A place you truly
perceive is what is making you see favour, and even when you want to walk
away probably to advance, make sure you have a very clean record in that
former favour field (especially in ministry, companies, government parastatal
and offices). or else you might end up increasing your hardship, and pain will
be magnified. God does not take you out of Egypt without a description of
Canaan, he did not take Elijah out of the brooks without a description of a
widow in Zarephath. Don’t quit a thing without having a vision of what God is
saying or taking you to. There’s always a promise of God even if he tells you to
quit or leave any system. No matter how you don’t like someone in that
system, if God is not leading you to leave, don’t leave or quit. Your life cannot
be jeopardized over someone else irregularities,
 Never think you are irreplaceable, so always work on yourself to be the best in
every area you find yourself. Let your professionalization and excellence
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 Never consider correction as rejection, or that someone hates you, when you
are corrected, you are saved from future pains, those that don’t correct you
want you to keep failing so they can make jest of your uniqueness.
 Never accept your present unpalatable state as the will of God. God is taking
you somewhere,hes training you, and you are in process, but it is not his will
that you are in this state, it is as a result of what you have programmed
yesterday, and it produced today for you, but yet God is using your
disobedience and weakness of the past to prune you to be have the capacity
to maintain greatness when it comes. Joseph never accepted any time of his
suffering time as Gods will, remember he told the cup bearer, that when you
get to the palace remember me, because he knew his portion is in the palace,
for what he saw in his dream to be fulfilled (his brothers bowing to him), he
needs to be in a palace system. So he was able to recognize a palace
opportunity around him and fit himself into the palace system by first
providing solutions. To get a result of favour, first provide solution to another
problem around you within your capacity to do. It might be a word of advice
alone even if you don’t have the luxury of money, and someone will
remember you because your word saved him in a time. Plant seeds to get
opportunities and favour around you through solving every problems within
your reach to solve.
 Stop discussion and ruminating over things you want to forget.
 What people say to you reveals who they are, but the reply you give reveals
who you are.
 Never condone distractions around you, walk away from distractions, there is
a level you grow up to spiritually that the devil no longer tempt you with sin
again, because at least you have sustained capacity to avoid it, but he will
then be tempting you with his advance tool of distraction. Anything that does
not look like where you are heading to in life, or does not fit in any agenda of
your purpose is a distraction. Remember I do say vet everybody’s presence
around you, know what their function is around you and in the vision God had
given you. If you have friends and associations just by wish, you will end up in
pains. On the long run never ignore men, but assign everyone to be in their
space around you, so that when you need even your enemy to achieve
something you would still be able to have a positive influence that will compel
him/her to do it.
 Believing in incomplete truths. Run away from any one who says God is
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success. If you want to prosper, you must agree to Gods dimensions that
represent prosperity.
 Never make a mistake of not confronting your breach to promotional seasons.
Never agree to your flaws, never say it is the way you are, or the way God
created you, no! Confront your weakness wholeheartedly with all your might,
work more daily on that your area of weakness, create an environment that
forces your weakness to die. Or else your weakness will be the area the
enemy will wait for you in future to pull you down in disgrace before all eyes.
 Never resent other peoples success, never resent other peoples achievement,
never resent people that had made it than you, for you are not in a
competition in this world, we all have different individualistic race, and the
prerequisite needed for each destinations are different, remember gold goes
through fire before it becomes Gold, any long lasting greatness must go
through the fire of building a solid foundation in other to be able to stand
when storms comes, and keep rising consistently no matter the storms.
 Never embarrass a leader even when he is wrong, leave them to be corrected
by those ahead of them, so that you won’t go against kingdom principle of
Law of Honour. If you go against Honour, God will hold it up on you.
 Never try to make other people’s reputation trampled upon or never
encourage for people reputation to be trampled upon, protect peoples
reputation within your jurisdiction, don’t revenge on reputation because they
did something that hurts you, and you want them to also feel hurt or pained
or regret hurting you. No! You multiply your pain when you keep trying to sow
seeds of pain or on a revenge mission. Quit all revenge missions and focus on
what lies ahead of you. Ephesians 6vs8, kjv; knowing that whatsoever good
thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the lord, whether he be
bond or free.
 Never concur to an allegation laid about a person when the person is not
there, make sure the person is present then you can concur.
 Everybody you trust is trusting someone else you might not really trust. So
protect yourself, protect your dreams and visions, protect your ideas. Don’t
open up you ideas unwisely to destiny killers or those that steal other peoples
ideas.
 Mercy is one of God’s attribute, as long as you are merciful to others, you are
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 Success comes after successfully obeying and applying spiritual laws and
physical laws, hence any success that comes without inter-playing with the
principles of the kingdom of God correctly, negating kingdom of God right
application of spiritual laws, any wealth that comes through this is not wealth.
It is a trap to destroy your soul, that kind of success brings self destruction.
 For ministers; there was a time God told you “it is time to personally launch
out, but you were scared both spiritually and financially, you looked around
and you could not perceive any help, you forgot that your help comes from
the lord, hence you stayed adamant in one place against the will of God, you
did not launch out as he commanded, you let your emotions rule you. Now
you are receiving the consequences of not obeying when God commanded,
you are now pained at heart, you tried all means to get happiness and joyful
even with all the money you now have but yet no fulfillment, all you have
tried to be happy is not working out. May I tell you now today, that it is time
to resume duty as a soldier in your post to resume your work as a kingdom
personnel. Resume today, you are not old yet, Remember Abraham resumed
his journey at a very old age.
 Are you rating yourself as spiritual? You are so sure of everything you do, but
yet no result gotten? No money to pay bills, no money to feed and all? You
have prayed and fasted all your life out, yet no results? Then it is time to
sit-down and meditate deeply, because a particular area is still making you not
enjoy the total life and fullness of Christ, God’s principles of the kingdom
cannot be wrong, the fault will be from you. Just as said in James 2vs10, kjv;
for whosoever shall keep the whole law and yet offend in one point, he is
guilty of all. Mark 10vs21a, kjv; Then Jesus beholding him loved him, and
said unto him, “one thing thou lackest”
 For Business and Company owners; Your market is the whole world, your
friends families are not your market, strangers are your market, they will
accept you for who you are, stop wasting time trying to prove a point to your
friends and families, sometimes it works out for some, but for those that its
not working out for, I tell it to you today that it is a waste of time to keep
proving a point to your families, they have a picture of your abilities already,
and rate you from your past failures and disappointments, so they don’t
expect much from you. But strangers will start judging you from the time they
met you. Jesus said in his words in Luke 4vs24, kjv; And he said, “verily I say
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 To overcome your pain for life, association matters alot, your associations are
the people your are in daily contact with, and they are the ones capable to
bring you either positivity or pain. You are always feeling down because;
 You don’t have anything to pursue.
 You don’t know how to convert your disappointments into energy and
focus them on getting positive results out of yourself and around you.
 You have wrong associations around your atmosphere.
 You married the wrong person that you thought was the best for you. And
this happened as a result of you been around wrong minds or you yourself is a
wrong choice to someone because you are around wrong minds.
 People neglecting you is as a result of some things in you that is considered
not palatable to them, or not making you fit into them, positively, it can mean
you are unique, but if not positive, then there might be something in you that
is repelling Men of influence away from you. Work on them.
 Avoid ruminating over bad experiences, it kills your confidences, and brings
down your self-esteem. You feel lower than you are. It makes you feel not
worthy for good things.
 Always be around people that are positive minded, people that gives you self
affirmative words and sentences.

Two ways to know God is leading you in decision making;

 Inner Peace (Total peace from within, not struggling to cover up any
danger perceived)
 The path of Favour (seeing truthful favour, Godly favour, not worldly
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 Chapter Ten
UNDERSTANDING MEN AND EARTH SYSTEMS
For you to effectively overcome pain, you must understand men, who God
created man to be, what they contain, all possible realities of men, and you must
understand the earth system, how and what God had programmed in the earth
system.

First let’s talk about Atmospheres;

The atmosphere of a person is the surrounding environment or influence

around that person. There are some people God sends to you to accompany you
to your colourful destination, there are some God sends that their function is just
to help you in different times, there are some that God had positioned to train
you so well, helping you to have good morals, and mindset towards life (most are
parents, pastors, counselors, guidance etc.)there are some that God had
positioned to cause you pain so as for you to keep forging ahead and not giving up
on life, and never remain where life put you until you discover that major reason
he had created you and send you to this earth to come and govern. And take note
any one can be used by God for any motive of his, and sometimes God uses the
negative intent of some towards you to fulfill his agenda about you. Gods aim is
to bring the best out of you until you become that which he had already destined
you to be. Understanding the activities of men around your atmosphere will help
you know what to do per time in life and you will be able to accurately follow and
align to Gods paradigms for you to get to where he had destined you to be.
In 1 Corinthians 15vs33 it says;

; Let’s feast and drink, for tomorrow we die! Don’t be fooled by those who say
such things, for “bad company (atmospheres) corrupts good manners”
1corinthians 15vs33. NLT.

This passage clearly states to use that when you have a bad atmosphere it will
corrupt your mindsets, and hence if your mindset is poisoned, you won’t be able
to have the sound mind that produces kingdom success and prosperity.
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Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth
in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in
the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. Psalms
1vs1-2.kjv
Study this book of instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you
will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and
succeed in all you do. Joshua 1vs8. NLT.

According to psalms 1vs1-2, some major action words were mentioned

there regarding the atmospheres we should have around us which are; walk,
Stand, Sit, that making sure in anyways, you don’t occupy yourself with the wrong
negative influence on your mind. Having the wrong influence around your mind
will only cause you pains on the long run. And the bible instructs us that we
should always meditate day and night on the laws, principles, precepts of the
kingdom, and actively understanding, following, living by the principles governing
the earth systems and the general principles of the kingdom, then and only then
is our success guaranteed.

We are constantly warned that we should surround our atmosphere with

those that have the same moral values like you, have the same believe system like
you, and full of focus and positive energy towards where they are heading to in
life. Those are the people the bible teaches us to surround ourselves with.

Let’s talk of prophetic atmospheres;

Prophetic atmospheres are those that have spiritual implications around their
atmosphere, mostly due to their level of interaction with any spirit agency in the
spirit world. First and foremost let me buttress some point first to you. Know that;
1. God is the creator of heaven and earth, and he’s the governing council of
the whole world system in heaven and on earth. He’s jurisdiction knows no
bound.

Genesis 1vs1; in the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.
NLT.
2. Holy Spirit is the spirit of God and was pleaded to God by Jesus to be sent
down to earth to help us live life as if the devil does not exist and is the only
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 directs your paths, any other spiritual operation without the Holy Spirit is a
counterfeit and has its consequences in the kingdom. You don’t invoke
wrongly in the realms of the spirit, and once you go against kingdom
principles and invoke God;s dimensions wrongly, you will be penalized, and
that is why you see people that go to Herbalists, voodoo workers or
mediums apart from the Jesus designed way that God initiated, are always
at the end biting their fingers on regrets and in worst cases, they eventually
die painful and untimely deaths, some are suffering from an ailment that
cant be told to anyone as a result of invoking the realms of the spirit
wrongly. Because you have gone through short cuts, and in the kingdom
you don’t go through short cuts, going through short cuts of any kind in the
kingdom inflicts pain on such individual and the household of such, family
blood line, and the consequences of wrong allegiance cannot be escaped
except by the grace of Jesus Christ.

And I will ask the father, and he will give you another advocate who will
never leave you, he is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truths. The world
cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize
him. But you know him, because he lives now and latter will be in you.
John 14vs16. NLT
3. Jesus is the way, the truth and life.

Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to
the father except through me” John 14vs6. Nlt
Jesus here was letting us know that he’s the way, which means there are
many other ways, but Jesus specifically affirms that he is the only way, the
truth, meaning that there are many lies everywhere, but he is the only
personality that represents the truth others are counterfeits in different
forms, and he said he’s life, so other ways are wrong and they lead to death,
if Jesus is the life then others are death. And he climaxed by saying no one
comes to the father except through him, meaning that nobody can claim
that he knows God without regarding Jesus, nobody or spirit entity can
claim any position to get God except only Jesus, so any other person
mentioning any other personality asides from Jesus is heresy and they all
end in death. We need to understand these things so that we will know
what God had programmed to function in the spirit world and not be
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 Jesus is the only authorized way to God, and his blessings and prosperity is
the only one that does not add sorrows to it.

So when we talk of prophetic atmospheres it has to deal with the spirit

entity involved in the dealings of individuals, some due to where they are coming
from and the spirit agencies their families had paid allegiance to long time ago,
some spirit agencies had been invoked and the blood line had been submitted to
those spirit agencies as a result of allegiance that the fore fathers made to those
spirits in the past in other to get some certain results or solution to some
problems they encountered in the past, and these had made the whole bloodline
subjected to the rulership of the spirit agency their fore fathers paid allegiance to,
hence our atmospheres are governed by spiritual agencies that we are aligned to
knowingly or unknowingly. Now the spirit agency can be actively of God kingdom,
or passively of Gods kingdom.

Actively Gods kingdom Spirit agencies are; Jesus, Holy Spirit, angels.
Passively Gods kingdom Spirit agencies are; satan, demons, spiritual wickedness
in high places.

One is active because they are authorized, remember God created all spirit
agencies, but some disobeyed and went against the laid down principles of Gods
kingdom, so they were sent down from heaven to earth, the satan been their ring
leader, so he’s still under the rulership of God but passive, his punishment is hell
with all his cohorts and followers and they can’t escape that, which is why they
are trying all possible best to win more followers to themselves so that hell will be
for many, I pray you won’t end up in hell in Jesus name. That’s why I always
correct the fact that satan is no match for God, some people compare devil in
contrast to God, No! satan is a tool in Gods kingdom to get Gods desired aim. God
uses satan to discipline, in trials, to test and know the faithfulness and sincerity
level of his children, for example in the life of Job, God used satan to vet Jobs
faithfulness (Job1vs8), and Job passed (Job 42vs10), God used satan to try and
test Jesus for 40days and night in the wilderness (Luke 4vs1-13), remember it was
the Holy Spirit that led Jesus to be tempted of the devil to know if he is fit and
ready for the great work he was sent to do, and Jesus won satan flawlessly, yes
satan sinned against God, but God still uses devil as a tool and puppet to get
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satan, always make sure your sole focus and aim is on God, never acknowledge
satan, it is only God you acknowledge (Proverbs 3vs6), for once you acknowledge
satan you have referenced him higher than God and there will be a drastic inflow
of pain causing events into your life, set your eyes steadfastly on God alone and
see how he brings you out miraculously from any pit you have found yourself. He
will never let you down or forsake you.

Now, having wrong prophetic atmospheres around you, is very dangerous

to your daily Christian living, because you yourself as a Christian you are still
trying to stand firm spiritually (especially the baby Christians) you have not risen
to a level whereby your own prophetic atmosphere can automatically shut down
the wrong atmospheres of anyone around you that is not of Christ, hence you will
be corrupted and your results will be the results of someone under demonic
influence. There are some people that will get close to you and every successful
thing around you will start to run down, some will get close to you or even you to
them, and everything around you will suddenly start to prosper (2Samuel 6vs11, 1
chronicles 13vs14, the ark carries Gods atmospheric presence, and it was put in
Obed-edom’s house and the atmosphere of the ark blessed Obed-edom
abundantly). So we are all representatives of the spirit entities in charge of our
daily living, you might be asking yourself, probably you don’t know the spirit that
is governing your life, you are not sure of that fact, may I tell you today that once
you submit your life in totality to God and you resist the devil he will flee from
you. It is when you don’t submit totally probably you submitted partially, and
then the satan would still be buffeting you as a child of God.

That is why you must pay utmost attention to those you have around your
atmosphere. For example in marriage, it is a strict warning that don’t be
unequally yoked with unbelievers, meaning don’t get married with someone that
has a different belief system from yours. If you do you are coming together with
demonic leadership, you are submitting to the governing rule of devil and his
agent. And wherever satan dominates, he causes chaos and induce pains.

So having a wrong atmospheres around you directly means you are

increasing your level of pain, you might say they have never caused you pain even
though you know they are wrong influence, but the more longer you have them
around, the more disappointed and pained you will be when they eventually hurt
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Things to do regarding atmospheres;
 Set a guard over your atmosphere and be intentional about it.
 Don’t walk, don’t stand, and don’t sit with wrong influence (people not
having your core values and the same moral standards as you).
 Change your atmosphere by changing your associations. You are waiting for
people to help you, who will you also help? Those that you are expecting to
help you, if they don’t focus on their lives and be responsible and
productive for themselves, will you see them to ask for help? In fact they
have been responsible not to help you, because responsible people invest
in things that brings gains and positivity to them, they don’t waste
resources. I am saying all these here so as to give you a challenge, you can
become great, and you have it in you! You are bigger than who you think
you are! Never and never in any form look down on yourself, it is a crime to
downgrade yourself, it means you are saying God had not perfectly created
you to produce results? No God had created you and embedded in you
everything you need to produce results, but it all depends on how you
interact with all he had embedded in you to produce predictable results,
and that’s why am taking time for you to understand Men and the
dynamics of men and have a deep understanding about the earth system
that God created.
 Understand God’s promptings accurately; like in the case of Abraham, God
said kill your son, he was about to kill his son and God said to him stop and
he recognized that promptings and stopped. In the case of Elijah (1kings
17vs2-24) when God told him to stay by the brooks that he will be fed by
ravens and drink the water from the brooks, Elijah went and he did not
query God on that, and when the season of the brooks and raven feeding
was over, God told him to go to a widow’s house in Zarephath and he went.
We could see the miracles that kept following him because he was
following Gods instructions, when we learn to follow Gods instructions we
will be free from unnecessary pain causing scenarios around our life. Elijah
knew Gods promptings per time. He did not query the second instruction of
God and say, God said I should stay in this brooks am not going anywhere, if
he did, he would have just been there in a spot and die like a chicken, but
he was consistently following accurately the instructions of God. To the
extent that he knew the exact point to position himself to be taken by the
chariots into heavens. Most of the times, when God said go, you only heard
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 pain to yourself, you thought he or she was for marriage (because they
meet up to all standards even till godly standards), but God planned that
he/she around you will prosper you, not necessarily for marriage, so when
you were advancing into feelings, you were receiving different promptings
from God to slow down, or stop, you were even seeing danger signs, (that
someone is meeting up with all Christian standards and moral acts does not
mean they are compatible with you) and the memory of the good doings,
and cares they cared overwhelmed you to respond to Gods promptings.
Your adrenaline feelings produced by hormones due to what your five
senses perceived as palatable in the spouse forced you to disobey and
ignore the promptings of God and you rushed into it, now, you have known
the truth, but in this case the truth does not have the ability to set you free,
because you are wedded and no separation, you only keep managing the
pain you keep getting regardless of the success or properties you have
acquired, only when God decides to have mercy, if you know how to invoke
his mercy dimensions. Brothers and sisters learn to respond to spiritual
alert systems. Remember it is he that follows to the last order of God that
will get the desired results.
 When it comes to you, ask yourself, am I the right atmosphere for people
also? Is it that your lack of been a good atmosphere is what is causing you
continuous pain of been neglected by people.
 Learn to keep quiet (learn to be sent for, there is honour when you are
called by the kings)

Daniel (Daniel 2vs24-49) learnt to keep quiet, if he had told or talked about his
divine revelation of the king’s dream to anyone, that person will have taken his
glory and he would not be elevated, he will still be in a spot. His revelation from
God was his bail out system from pain. Just as the world system (devils and his
agents, difficult situations and problems) will ask us at each point in life the
revelation (wisdom) we have received from God in other to be able to have the
level of success and wealth we are aiming at. By then if you have been faking
things around, faking your Christian life, then you will be harassed by devil, hence
pained in the heart. You must get close to God and know him the more, for God
said my people perish because they lack the knowledge of me Hosea 4vs6.

Joseph (Genesis 41vs1-57) learnt to keep quiet in the hard way, the first time he
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suffered for it and landed him in a long time trouble. So even when he had the
solution to the kings dream, he did not talk or loose the guard of his mouth, he
kept quiet, until the king called for him, Joseph would have been offended that he
was forgotten by someone he once helped in time of troubled heart. Learn to
keep quiet to keep quality relationships that would benefit you later on,
regardless of who offended you, learn to hold your peace, if you do, the same
person that hurt you will be the one most times to ascertain your godly act and
good morals and refer you to the kings.

A personal example was someone who sowed cloth for me a particular time,
I was angry with him because of how he sowed it wrongly, this is a cloth I intend
to be using for Ministration as special guest in ministries or churches, that invites
me to teach kingdom intelligence. Am sure you have a clear picture of how such
cloths should be perfectly sown. They were five cloths, and a pastor with me said I
should tell the fashion designer that he had sown the cloth wrongly and I replied
that No I won’t tell him, when it is the right timing I would apply wisdom in
making him know, because actually I had the materials, but he decided to sow it
for me as a seed, so I saw his heart and decided not to hurt that godly process he
played out. He wanted to use the cloth designing as a seed to key into Gods
dimensions in me to cause God to massively bless the works or his hands. Which
God blessed him mightily, that week was a big successful turn out for him, so
when I said I won’t make him feel bad by querying him, it seemed as if I was weak,
but when I was fasting and praying ardently spending time with God for over a
month in a later time after the event of the wrong designing, he was the one that
God sent to take care of my daily welfare, because I was in a bush region far from
where people stay, he made sure every night I break with a good well cooked
meal with fruits. Now imagined I had no self-discipline to hold back myself, I
would have misaligned with someone God could use. That’s why I say it, that
whenever you keep enemies or keep malice, you keep subtracting from the
number of those God can possibly use to bless you. Human carry different
dimensions but you will never know what they are possible of, and how God can
eventually use them.

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Principles/laws;
Hebrews 1vs3 made us understand that God hath created the
principles by which everything functions (sustains, upholding all things by the
word of his power)

The son radiates Gods own glory and expresses the very character of God, and
he sustains everything by the mighty power of his command. When he had
cleansed us from our sins, he sat down in the place of honor at the right hand of
the majestic God in heaven Hebrews 1vs3. Nlt.

Everything God created, he designed it to be successful, and all is

functioning by the word of his power, no mistake no errors, no going back. He had
programmed his integrity into everything he created. He built the law for
everything to function effectively and succeed in them, because your success is
important to God, he needs you to succeed, the success of a product (you)
protects the reputation or the name of the manufacturer, so those pain you feel is
an alert system by God to tune you and prune you into the major purpose he
created you for.

Remember you were created in the image and likeness of God, so when
God sees you, he sees his image, when angels sees you, they see Gods image,
when demons and satan sees you, they see Gods image.
Likeness means he created to function like him, meaning you can never fail, so the
whole spirit agencies know, that you are untouchable, you must know your
inheritance in God. If not devils will always make you feel less human, you have
God’s direct endorsement.

All company tries to protect their product because of their integrity,

likewise God he has to protect you from satan and his agents because of his
integrity is attached to you and he’s interested in you. So that devil won’t make
jest of God through you.
Successful people never try to be successful, if you pursue money, it will run away
from you.

In the blink of an eye wealth disappears, for it will sprout wings and fly away
like an eagle. Proverbs 23vs5. Nlt

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Success;

Success is as a result of the correct applications of principles of the kingdom

in our daily Christian living in other to get the desired results. Success is what you
have done compared to what you are created to do, forgetting competition but
pursuing that gift in you into fulfillment. God designs us to succeed, your heart
wants to succeed, that’s why it is embittered and you failing the imprint God put
in your hands. God stamped his logo on your heart, so your heart is pained
because you are not fulfilling the essence of the imprint God gave you. Success is
as a result of right decisions; likewise failure is as a result of wrong decisions.
Joy; is the fulfillment of the assignment you are created for, pains and hurt heals
up naturally when you discover your essence of living. God had put into you all
abilities to succeed for his name sake; your future is in your gift that God imputed
in you. Most gifts are buried under career, some stocked in a job you have been
doing for too long, that’s why God allowed you to be fired, so you will wake up, so
your job won’t be your enemy, so it is either you pursue your purpose along your
job, or you focus on your purpose alone, not your job alone, so that you won’t
hate yourself wasting away and regret for not running after which God hath sent
you to do on earth at the end.
David in psalms 119vs97-100

Oh, how I love your instructions! I think about them all day long. Your
commands make me wiser than my enemies, for they are my constant guide.
Yes, I have more insight than my teachers, for I have kept your commandments.
Psalms 119vs97-100.nlt.

And that is why God said David is a man after his heart, because about 70%
of David’s prayers in the book of psalms was always; show me thy precepts, show
me thy laws, show me thy principles, lead me on the way I should go. David
became king of Israel, just as Jesus was launched out publicly in his ministry at the
same age thirty(2samuel 5vs 3-4, Luke 3vs23), these are kingdom heavenly
operations, and so below the age thirty was for personal grooming with the Holy
Spirit teaching you all things for that which God put before you. Take this as a
personal landmark, and know that you have a lot of work to do. And focus with a
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 And like wise from the example of the life of Jesus, at the age of thirty (Luke
3vs23) he launched into his divine purpose, the major essence of his coming down
to earth system, that is a land mark for us, that as at the age thirty a man should
have known the reason why he was sent to earth, you must have gotten vision, or
discovered your purpose (to be handled in the next chapter).

Some of the people in the bible started fulfilling purpose at younger age,
but let’s take Jesus as an example, when he started out in his ministry at age
thirty, he had done all the necessary preparation, that’s why he could confidently
say in

Luke 4vs18; “the spirit of the Lord is upon me, for he has anointed me to bring
good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim that the captives will be
released, that the blind will see, that the oppressed will be set free”. Nlt

Checking back at the same scripture, Jesus said something in his words, he
said “to bring good-news to the poor” there is a light in this word that needs to be
unveiled, embedded in what he said is one of the mysteries of the kingdom.
Which means money is not the problem of the poor, good news (appropriate
information) is the problem of the poor. The major difference between the poor
and the rich is information. That was why when his disciples said in Mathew 26vs7
that it would have been better the ointment was sold and the money given to the
poor, Jesus did not concur to that, rather he even said the poor you will always
have around you. Why? Because what the poor needs is information and acting
on the information received with intelligence and excellence to produce results
and then they will be out of poverty.

Abraham interacted with God’s principles and that was why he became like
a god on earth, God was seeing his image and likeness in function actively in
Abraham. He was ready to give his son to obey Gods instruction, the same thing
God was strategizing to do physically (give Jesus on the cross) on earth, that
which had been done from the foundations of the earth. Abraham was ready to
give his all for God’s purpose and God’s intent for him to be fulfilled. What is
standing between you and God? What is delaying you from following actively
Gods instructions? What had been pulling you down? What had been a heavy
weight on you that had been affecting your sound mind? Can I ask you today to
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 2corinthians 10vs5; casting down imaginations, and every high standing thing
that exalted itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity
every thought to the obedience of Christ. Kjv.

The navigation of your purpose is embedded in God’s word, make sure you
discover your gift; do you want to be a teacher of God’s word? Starts teaching in
Sunday school, even teach the kids, for they don’t know when you are wrong, so
you would even use that to train your oratory and diction and flog out the fear of
people naturally.

LAWS of the kingdom (principles and keys)

Keys in the scriptures means principles, laws, and principles are set of laws
working to guarantee the success of something and ensure it functionality for life.
The most important knowledge on earth is the knowledge of law, the reason why
we read the bible is not for devotions, we read the bible for the knowledge of God
to know his ways, his laws, and his precepts, morning devotions don’t protect you
from failures, obedience to laws protects you from failure. Praying over seeds
doesn’t make them grow, planting it in soil makes them grow, and you should
learn the precepts and the principles of God by studying the bible and meditating
on the word of God day and night. Have you ever seen a seed sometimes planted
by a wall and eventually cracks the wall open, because of the law of planting
engaged, when you obey laws any blockage to your greatness life put before you,
your obedience to laws will break them away. Life is not about getting angry or
fighting, it’s about obeying laws, life is not hard, obedience is hard, because
obedience makes us go against our fleshy desires and our fleshy desires most
times disobeys the laws of God. The laws and principles of God are all embedded
in the bible from Genesis to revelation. God had designed everything to function
by laws. And laws are given to us to guarantee our success (Joshua 1vs8) For
example if you violate the law of fueling the car and put water instead of the right
fuel, the car will not function, because you have gone against its law, the
manufacturer of the car had built in the car the ability to function with fuel not
water in the fuel tank. Some characteristics of Laws are;
1. Laws and principles are Eminent; noticeable or worth remarking on,
respected (if not respected, there will be bitter casualty) just like law of

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 gravity, if you go up a tall building and you decide to jump down, law of
gravity will take its place and draw you down and there will be broken
bones and dislocation, and if not worst case death. So laws are no respecter
of anybody, the laws of God are no respecter of anybody because his
integrity is embedded in these laws and keeps them to function without
fail.
2. Laws and principles work anywhere; using the law of gravity still as
example, when you decide to change location and travel to a far place and
decide to go up a tall building and then jump down, the law of gravitation
will not still respect a change of location, it works anywhere, so a successful
person that succeeds with principles of the kingdom, his success is
guaranteed anywhere he steps his legs into, because he works by laws of
the kingdom. As God said to Joshua, in Joshua 1vs8, meditate on the laws
and do them put them to work, you shall prosper in all your lay your hands
on and you shall have good success.
3. Laws and principles are universal; meaning applicable to all cases, it is
operational anywhere, in every sphere you find yourself, there are laws
that govern the success system of that locality; the laws of God are
universal. It superimposes any other law.
4. Laws and principles are permanent; meaning it last forever, it does not
work for a while and stop, for example, the law that governs the rotation of
the earth and rising of the sun till the day don’t get tired, the earth will
always revolve because it is set into motion by laws, and upheld and
sustained by the words of God during creation (Hebrew 1vs3). It does not
matter where you are, if you work by the laws of God, your success and
prosperity is guaranteed.
5. Laws and principles are not partial; a law does not favor one and ignore the
other, laws and principles are not biased. The laws of God carried the
integrity of God himself, so laws are not partial or respecter of anybody,
when you obey the laws of God you will succeed.
6. Laws and principles can never be broken; it cannot be forced to stop
operation, the functionality is constant till eternity.
7. Laws and principles guarantees successful results, if you like hold a key to a
door without inserting the key to the door lock and start shouting “door be
opened” it won’t open because you have not obeyed its law, its law to be
opened is to insert the right key to the door, and that you are holding a key
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thousand tongues, the door will still be locked, you need the right key to
open the door. And this is what most Christians do, we pray hard, speak
and blast in tongues, but we don’t understand the principles to get the
desired results of what we are asking God for, the wisdom needed to be
engaged to guarantee results. And what to put in action, your role to play
to get predictable results. Take note, prayers for results only create a
suitable atmosphere for that result to be materialized, there are things you
must do physically to now effect the prayers from the realms of the spirit to
the physical, hence results is gotten, just like praying for a job and you stay
at home without going out, will job come and meet you at home? You need
to work out and do something, then your prayers of Job will be answered,
God knows how to orchestrate things to fall in place for his children. God
does not respond to shout and crying, he responds to his laws and
principles engaged.
8. Laws and Principles have inherent judgment. Going against the principles of
the kingdom and the working order of laws, brings immediate
consequences inbuilt in them naturally, just like when you jumped down a
building and die, it was not God that killed you or rather it was not devil
that killed you, you were only stubborn enough to go against the law of
gravity, and laws don’t respect ignorance.

You don’t break laws and win, so if you keep violating laws and principles, you
keep getting yourself pain, God is not giving you the pain, devils, demons are not
giving you the pain, but your disobedience to laws gives you pain through its
consequences, you had wrong sex either as a single or you cheat on your spouse
as married couples, hence you were used and dumped or jilted, you went against
a kingdom principle of sex, so therefore your heart will naturally be broken, you
have induced pain into the future naturally by going against the principles of right
sex in your present act. Like I do say, in love relationships, sex is the major cause
of pain.

What you do in life is to uninstall darkness in your mind and territory and
have faith you have conquered, because everything spiritual works by faith, and
after that, start operating in keys and principles of the kingdom to disengage the
mindset that favors the demons.

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If you don’t obey laws, you are going to live a life of struggles in life, whatever you
want to get involved in, before you jump into it, you need to know what are the
principles of making these things work out fine and be successful in this field
either in ministry, business, company, schooling government, all areas of life, you
need to know what is the right principle to engage in getting good success out of
any functionality, or else pain, frustration, depression, disappointment is eminent
if you disobey the laws God put in place, and failure is guaranteed.

Your goal in life is not to be employed but to be deployed, employments

prepares you for deployment, the deployment activates your gift, a nation is rated
wealthy by its Gross National Product (GNP), not by the job it gives, so what you
produce is what guarantees your success, not what you expect from government.
Learn to produce so as time goes on you would lend to nations and be able to
fulfill that principles of the bible that says in

Deuteronomy 15vs6; the Lord your God will bless you as he has promised. You
will lend money to many nations but will never need to borrow. You will rule
many nations, but they will not rule over you. nlt
And Deuteronomy 28vs12; the Lord will send rain at the proper time from his
rich treasury in the heavens and will bless all the work you do. You will lend to
many nations, but you will never need to borrow from them. nlt

Your job is important, but don’t trust it, work on your gift; one of the first
commandments God gave man is to work the earth. (From the Greek word
, meaning to manage the earth). This means you are a manager, your job is
to train you so as to become a manager of something, a manger of that gift he
had put in you, so as to be able to put your gift to work and produce something,
learn from your job all you need to know to deploy yourself and become
successful, produce something, have the ability to reproduce into many that
which you have produced, distribute that which you have produced, take over the
earth system, take over the market, have dominion over the market, you are to
subdue the market by force by active prayers and engaging adequately success
and marketing principles. You are not on earth to compete or compare yourself
with anyone, if you must compare yourself with anything, then it must be with
the purpose that God had created you for, rate your success in line with what God
had created you for, nobody has the capacity to be compared to you, because we
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over crisis, over depression, over disappointment, over heart break, over that lady
or guy, over that boss or colleague that looked down on you.

Know who you are and money will come running to you, know your
self-worth, build a good self-esteem of yourself, build values in yourself, study
and train yourself to deploy yourself. For Jesus trained himself for thirty years.
You hate Monday mornings because you go to a work that doesn’t give you the
time to become who you should be. But your salary kept you suppressing the
truth of the gift and purpose God embedded in you and rendering it inactive and
unproductive, so you live wholly on your salary. Don’t only jump into deploying
yourself, get more information, make more and adequate researches, go for more
training or learn more if need be. Cheat pain by force. If you rush out to the world
without adequate preparations, you will crash-land.

Your job is what you are employed by your boss to do, your work is what
God had created you to deploy. Your job will give you a pay, but your work will
give you wealth. Remember whatever you decide determines your destiny. And
when you decide to fulfill destiny, you will learn to obey the principles of God that
guarantees good success and exit a painful life and unrest mind. When you obey
Gods laws, your memory will be protected, you will never have a bad memory.

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 Chapter Eleven
DISCOVERING PURPOSE
Purpose can be defined as the reason or intent of which you were created,
the reason for which you exists.

The most dangerous and pain causing dilemma is not death but to be alive
and guess your way around life trying all opportunities, not knowing the essence
of your existence, not knowing why you are on earth, not knowing your own
quota of contribution in these earth system, not having a vision for yourself, you
will always feel empty, worthless, always have low self-esteem, low self-worth,
and a lot of inferiority complex will set in because there is no purpose.

The bible says in

Proverbs 29vs18.kjv where there is no vision, the people perish; but he that
keepeth the law happy is he.

The search for uniqueness and relevance is the most need for all human.
The pursuit of relevance had made many to sacrifice their moral values, religious
inclination and good characters, just because they want this perception of honor
from people, so many run from pillar to pole seeking for relevance, some want to
satisfy their spouse and get a sense of importance, some at work want to satisfy
their boss better than the other, so this urge for uniqueness had turned many life
activities into completion and there are a lot of competitions here and there and
the human nature is built to be joyful when successful and appreciated, hence
since there are many competitors on earth, many rich and wealthy, many
companies, many churches, many establishments, schools, hence the competition
keeps increasing daily. You get a car and another wants to buy the one that is
better, you get a house and someone is killing himself secretly or herself to also
get any accessories and someone else in one corner is targeting all his full
potential to get the one better all these pursuit of significance, uniqueness,
relevance and importance with a sense of honour had caused many to become
pained leading to frustration and depression as the vicissitudes of life most times
does not give way for what we want to come to pass.

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 Take note of this, God is not in the agenda of providing you want, he only
provides what you need per time and watch how you manage that which is given
to you, good management keeps heavens opened and hence you can turn that
which is provided for you to a well of getting all you want. The first assignment
God gave man was to manage the earth, he said be fruitful, multiply, replenish
and subdue the have dominion, this quest for dominion had pained many,
therefore many are confused about life not really knowing what to actually do
anymore, some are wealthy and that’s all, not knowing the next agenda again.

Emptiness, aimless and busy, not effective, not getting satisfied or fulfilled,
oppression by others, not seeing a major reason of living are effects of not yet
discovering purpose. Once you feel confused and empty or no self-worth, it is a
practical sign that you have not gotten your purpose on earth. Because purpose
brings confidence, it breeds courage. The pursuit of making money had made
many rich and wealthy, but money does not make you fulfilled, many are
successful, children enjoying, family in wealth and they are perceived as the best
among the counterparts, but individually they feel empty. The reason been that
your quest for money made you wealthy, you misinterpreted a pain you once feel
many years ago, thinking if you got money as much as you can, pain will be
suppressed. NO! pain will continually be multiplied if your sense of fulfillment is
wealth, because money attracts whore-mongers and fake people with fake
personalities even some fake spouse all around you, having such kind of people
around you means your life will be filled with constant hurt and working with the
principles that brings money will make you get it, but not get fulfillment.

Discovering your personal reason for existence, that which is locked up

inside you determines everything around you, it determines the spouse to marry,
the place to work, number of kids and how you train them, the kind of people
(associations, friends) you have around you. So you have to find out who you are
and endeavor to be who God had fashioned you to be.

If your vision in life is measured by money, power, position, then your

up-keep will continually be your source of pain, pressures, depression and
downfall, many are busy running everywhere making a source of income for living
to escape poverty, but they abandon their major essence of coming into the earth,
the major essence of God protecting you for nine months in your mothers belly,

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the major essence why others have died and you have not, the major essence
why you were saved from that accident by a divine intervention, the major
essence why when you wanted to abort or eventually aborted it did not take your
life, the major reasons why you were near death but death could not take you,
the major essence why you kept escaping death on different occasions, the major
essence why you were not given what you ought to get even when you worth it,
and sometimes given even when you don’t worth it, the major reason why when
you were supposed to fail; you passed, the major reason why when you suppose
to pass; you failed, the major reason why when you were supposed to be sacked;
you were exempted and when you were supposed to be retained you were
sacked. Everything happening on the earth system has its real reasons why it all
happened.

All these life occurrences has a way of pushing us by force through pain into
getting into the real journey why we are here on earth why God sent us, so
everything keep turning upside down, heart breaks here and there, may I tell you
today that everything happening around you, God is fully aware and involved, he
is watching and knows everything, may I also tell you that all those negativities
you see are issues permitted by God so you could be back on track to why he sent
you on earth. But the stubbornness and quest for present pleasures of man
makes man not submit to what God had planned for him/her, hence we keep
struggling to get this satisfaction in a wrong direction and hence bitter casualty at
the end.

You are built for something, the capacities and abilities are in you, now you
have the prophetic associations that should be around you for that thing in you to
materialize but you don’t know, you came to earth, you grew up in an
environment and saw everyone showing their little cash and power, then you
grew up with a mindset that made you want to rush to buy a car to prove a point
at the wrong timing, you are under pressure to own a house, get to a position in
the society, get married, hence you discover you need money for all these to be
fulfilled , so you focus all what God had given you into money making instead of
using them to fulfill purpose. Now you have gotten the wealth, how about your
heart Joy? How about that feeling of satisfaction that comes when you are truly
fulfilled? What about that feeling of security and safety? You feel insecure most
times. What will friends, families, and those you stepped on to get wealthy say
about you? Can your children be safe? Even you, can you be sure of your personal

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security? Do you trust people around you? Where is the fulfillment? Did money
bring that fulfillment? Now you wait till the day of death, is that all about life? I
want you to be happy because you are on a journey into discovering and
manifesting purpose or doing that which you know you would find joy doing that
you have left a long time ago because of the pursuit of money. For it is never too
late to start the real thing that will bring you joy.

If you are a parent reading this, endeavour to tell your children and loved
ones to get this book, and let’s eradicate pain together by focusing all that God
had given us on a right path. Now join me as we go on a journey of discovering
purpose.

Vision is buried in purpose, without the knowledge of purpose; life

becomes an endless string of activities with little or no significance. Life without
purpose makes motion but no progress. All chaos, destruction, discouragements,
disappointment, depression, anger, pains are all caused by lack of purpose, when
nations, churches, organizations had forgotten about their vision or don’t even
have the main essence of existence, then there will be chaos, because money will
keep the organization functioning but it will constantly be eroded by pain and if
care is not taken bad administration may set in which will in turn then bring
downfall to kill that which had been put in place.

When you have no purpose you become an incubator for stress, depression,
hopelessness, and inferiority complex, all these leading to pain in the heart. If you
don’t know where you are heading to, you will end up anywhere and anywhere
can bring up frustration.

When you have purpose, you won’t settle for anything anyhow no matter
how it looks successful, so far it is not where you are headed, you will decline with
no guilt. The major reason why Joseph (Genesis 39, Genesis 41) was able to
defeat Potiphar’s wife was because that present success to rule Potiphar’s house
was not what he saw in his vision, his vision kept leading him, so when he was in
the prison, he kept inquiring from men their needs, it was a strategy to know who
is aligned to his purpose and getting one that works with the king he got close and
solved his problem by using the gift in him to reveal the meaning of his dream (he
Sowed a seed of favor to wait for him in the future , let us learn to do such). And
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tells us that Joseph knew what he was programming, when he was in the pit, he
lament not, because he knew within himself that this is not what he saw, when
his brothers wanted to kill him, even without him praying, his purpose vindicated
him and God miraculously saved him. Is that not what had always happened to
you, when you wanted to die, accidents and when you find yourself in a situation
between life and death, did you not remember how God superimposed
everything for your favour, God does not waste his time there is something locked
up in you that needs to come out. (Remember long time ago while in the
university, you thought you won’t graduate but God made you graduate).

Jesus himself because he knew his purpose he did not bother about the
success devil was presenting to him, he knew he will have to work his way to his
purpose fulfillment, so he needed no shortcuts, he was so sure of his destination
to the extent he told his disciples that he can do anything of himself only what he
sees God doing (John5vs19). Now what have you received from God about your
life and destination? What have you received from the lord to enter into that
colourful destination he had purposed for you? Just like the mistake you did, you
got a purpose and vision from the lord and you went ahead for the shortest cut
into fulfilling it and you ended up finding yourself in another location not in line
with your purpose, okay you might have gotten your daily bread, house, cars but
you keep struggling, needing more, no sense of relevance, yet no sense of
fulfillment.

Jesus said to this end was I born, and for this cause came I into the world
(John 18vs37). Jesus was so sure of his purpose that he never went off balance on
whatsoever he was faced with. He was always on track. He was a man after his
purpose of existence into this world, even when they came to make him king he
fled, because he knew that the position or social status is not in line with his
purpose, he knew that those things looks enticing, but he was focused because
his purpose fulfillment will make him king of kings, most times what devil
presents to us is a shadow of the original thing, he quickly presents things that
looks like success for us, so we would be satisfied with that and remain in a spot
not forging ahead in life.

Just like marriage, many know that within themselves they are not really on
track with the right spouse; they know that this person cannot or is not in line
with the vision of God for their life. They know in their heart that this spouse

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cannot really be of support or encouragement to their vision, but because of the
social standards of marriage and pressures, they force themselves ending up with
who they are not supposed to be with and in the heart, it causes bitterness, even
when as a pastor, you still feel unfulfilled in that area, you might be teaching and
preaching as if all is well in your home, using your wife as perfect examples in
sermons but deep down in you, you know you missed it, the solution for this is for
the couples to go for more wisdom, and there are more solutions to this type of
problems as you read on in this book.

Paul himself knew his mission after meeting with Jesus, after then he knew
his purpose of existence, meeting with Jesus first is the first pathway into fulfilling
destiny and Paul said in

Philippians 3vs13 no, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus
on this one thing; forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.
Nlt

Apostle Paul’s mandate was to the gentiles, while peter was to the Jews.
And they all functioned effectively in that which God had put in their hands. You
are so busy, full of works, active, dedicated, faithful in the vine yard, in fact
famous, respected and admired by many, but deep inside you, when you are
alone, your soul descends, you are tired, frustrated, bored, disillusioned, confused,
empty and depressed. You have been running around also looking for money,
may I tell you that if you want to get money to prove a point, stop wasting your
time, go after purpose and money will come to you. (It is designed in Purpose to
bring men to you naturally). You don’t get married, get a job, go to school or get
an apartment to prove a point, you do these things to get a pathway or help
(manage) to get to your purpose, you already have enough cloths, there’s no
more need for competition, it is time to go for more wisdom and discovery of
purpose to secure your colourful destination.

For vision is the fundamental requirement of all world changers, and world
changers are focused visionaries, you receive a word from the Lord and you stay
with that word, walk and work with it, plan your life around that word like a
wounded lion until it gets fulfilled, that word you received from the lord is your
purpose.

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Learn to discover your niche and stay there and develop yourself in it.

Purpose Simplified;

Your been on earth is simply an explanation to the fact that the earth needs
something which you contain, and it is locked up in you. So many are praying to
God for the need of something and God uses men to meet a need, so he sends
men to the earth system to meet a need on ground, you are created to meet a
need that is already existing and if you don’t achieve to meet up with that earth
need, you won’t find fulfillment and joy because your Joy and power over pain is
tied to the essence for your existence.

The life of Jesus shows this, man needed reconciliation back to God, so God
sent the saviour which is Jesus, Jesus does not look like a re-conciliatory person, it
was at the end that the beginning and all process was justified. You are a solution
to a particular need on the earth system, know your niche in life and focus all your
energy until it materializes. It is when you know your niche, that you will be able
to fulfill that mandate of “go into the world systems (Mathew 28vs19), because
you will know your target audience and your area of focus. When you get into the
world systems, you will know you have worked to achieve something per day
towards your essence of existence, even when you are employed for a job, you
will not be carried away by the worlds standard for success, you will be overruled
by your creator’s standard for success, which the seat of success is in your heart
not at the hand of any but in your mind. if you know this, you would learn to
guard your heart diligently against any intruder not in line with purpose and guard
your mind against any manipulation of the devil.

Take note that when you have millions of people benefiting from your
reasons of existence, you have cheated poverty for life. You cannot be free from
pain until you know your purpose and go back on track into your purposeful
journey, and you cannot overcome pain if you have nowhere to drive your heart
energies of pain to. When your purpose is actively engaged, and pain comes your
way, you will just channel the pain into energy that will help your purpose
manifest. Learn to capitalize on the natural skills and talent with which you were
born, don’t lose them, make sure you then get educated so that you will be able
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you, never let anyone or anything to prevent or stand in the way of you becoming
that which God had destined you to become.

When you discover purpose, you will find out that many things that seem
tiresome to you will have a driving force that keeps you in check and never tired. I
remember vividly, before I discovered my purpose, the major reason why am here
on earth, I never loved to read books or go on researching for things to get more
knowledge. I just loved to read books purposely to pass examinations, and even
drop the understanding gotten from the book after exams have been successfully
passed. Many will say to me, ‘wow you are so brilliant’. I was always reading,
waking up at mid-nights to read, burning night candles to read and study. But that
was not it, my motive were wrong, I just wanted to beat everybody in class, so
therefore I wanted to read, so I won’t fail or repeat the exams which was good,
but naturally, I shy away from reading naturally, all I would enjoy doing was to
watch films, comedies and enjoy. Not until when I discovered purpose, and
knowing my niche (revealed to me specially by God, because its ministerial), and
after I discovered purpose and started planning and strategizing in my secret
place, in retreats by spending time with God and interacting with Holy spirit to
know how I will go about it, to get a vision and all, then I noticed that I had to
read wild for deep understanding and go for more information by getting
materials from those that had gone ahead of me in the field, making countless
research on every area of interest, so as to be fully intimate with God and rely
fully on him alone to achieve that which she had sent me. Then my purpose got
me into better understanding, and understanding the full dimensional function of
the Holy Spirit more than the normal religion and church teachings. I started
growing spiritual naturally, because of my purpose must be fulfilled. There was a
natural driving force that I started taking countless risks and faith had to come
alive in me, because my purpose seems bigger than me, so there was a lot of
things I had to use faith to get, moving out of my comfort zone, thinking out of
the box, enlarging my imaginative capacity, increasing my mind horizon by force,
all pains and disappointment I have felt before in life, I channeled all the energies
into fulfilling purpose, so my emotions became joyful naturally, I had to do many
things more than my normal abilities could carry, because my purpose was
greater than me, greater than my family combine, so I had to rely fully on God
and to rely fully on God you must seek after him, and he says when you seek after
me you will find me.

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 Jeremiah 29vs13; if you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. Nlt

My life to me started having meaning, the urge to keep having cars died
down, I noticed I had an assignment that is for millions and that will not only birth
cars for me but birth thousands of cars for millions. I suddenly noticed that my
wants are insatiable and won’t finish, so if I don’t know the essence of my
existence, I will keep running after things, trying to get happiness from where it is
not, and at the end be so unhappy, frustrated, displeased. I then eventually
noticed that my joy was tied to me not to anyone. I suddenly realized that I am
fully responsible and in charge of my outcome and well-being not anyone,
anywhere, not even anybody causing you pain, you are fully in charge of what you
allow into your life, so if anything or anyone causes you pain, ask yourself how did
this get to me? And take note you gave that issue an open way into your heart,
and ask yourself is this issue connected to my essence of existence if not, then
don’t feel guilty to lay those things down (pull them down, shut down their effect
over your emotional life). if they are part of your purpose and they keep causing
you pain, then either address that issue politely (if human) or focus all the pain
energies gotten from the pain into a driving force that makes you go for the
fulfillment of your purpose and watch before your eyes how pain disappears, you
have compulsorily break the confidence of the devils causing you pain. I
remember as a minister, every other minister around me kept making me feel
lower no matter how I try to be up, they will always want to make me feel inferior,
so I left all of them and focused all my energies on my purpose and here I am
today. Have conquered pain flawlessly. I have apprehended Jesus Christ, and he
had become so palpable to me that nothing in life or the next world to come can
cause me pain, I smile over them easily.

Put this at the back of your mind; you are designed for your purpose, and
you are perfect for your purpose. I started realizing many things embedded in me,
many potentials, many capabilities, I never knew I had, I thought life was about
money, graduating from school, getting a job, building of houses, buying of cars
and just wait and start eating till death comes.

I started seeing life from another vistas, and behold, there are still a lot of
things to achieve, never think that everything had been achieved or created,
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spirits into earth system.

WINDOWS OF HEAVEN;

In Malachi 3vs10, one of the major factors that I see in the bible about tithe
is open heavens, the windows of heavens, not money, sorry if you have been
taught that tithe will bring you more money directly, I tell you today, that’s an
incomplete truth. The major direct functions of tithe, is to secure that which you
have had, and secondly to cause the windows of heavens to be opened and when
windows are opened, it is not money that comes out, because your currency is
not in heaven. Heavens currencies are ideas, God’s blessings; God’s favour, God’s
protection, visions, discovering of purpose, and the gift of men. When the
windows of heaven is opened, these are the effects on you and carefully getting
more and more of it and putting it to use will make you get more blessings and
become blessed and then be a blessing to nations. And at the end money comes
naturally to you. First what do we understand by blessing that the tithe talk about?
Blessing means God’s Favour and protection, Favour means receiving God’s
approval, God’s support, like by God and man, act of kindness beyond what is due
or usual. While God’s protection means God keeping you safe from harm or injury,
so if you don’t pay tithe, their will be no guarantee of you been approved by God
for that next contract, or accepted at that next meeting, no getting support from
both God and man, and there won’t be guarantee of safety from harm or injury,
and it is these area that the devourer stays to consume our finances when we are
sick and injured. that’s why the bible says in;

Mathew 6vs33 kjv. But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness;
and all these things shall be added unto you.

Money comes to you multiplied from the consistency in following Gods

word. Not once in a while, or you tried and give up, no, it is the consistency in
following Gods word that brings blessings, for example, the ministry God laid in
my hands, we have partners and those that have vowed to sow consistently a
portion of their income into the ministry, and most of them noticed that if they
delay in fulfilling sometimes, they start noticing some setbacks and
disappointment sort of, but immediately they fulfill that which they have
purposed to always do which initially brought them massive breakthroughs, God

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always miraculously bless them, some when faced with challenges, they pick up a
seed and pray to it with their whole heart and sow into the ministry God put in
my hands, and you will see how they always successfully cheat devil, so many
have gotten business ideas, company boost, and so many more.

So when paying tithes, there are roles for you to play, the incomplete truths
have made many pay tithes, sow seeds and giving and expecting miracle till they
receive nothing, there are things to do, remember the soil (ministry/church) you
are also sowing on, must be a fertile soil, that is actively advancing the kingdom of
God agenda, because that is what guarantees the blessing been released through
that portal of blessing you paid to, any ministry or church that is not advancing
the kingdom of God agenda is not a good portal to get the heavens over you
opened. All these have also contributed too many unanswered questions, that no
one has the mind to say out or uncover, so you won’t be perceived as carnal
minded.

PURPOSE FROM THE SCRIPTURES;

Moses;

A deliverer, (Exodus 2vs13-14) his talent and giftings showed when he was
young, but used in a negative dimension which involved him in killing to save his
own person, like there are always signs and iotas of your purpose since when you
were younger if you could look back and see that special thing that always
brought you pain, or you were very good at, in it is your purpose defined. When
God took over his (Moses) life affairs, he was reshaped and re-oriented with his
mind renewed, so as to fulfill purpose; the essence why God created him.

Exodus 3vs10 kjv. Now go, for I am sending you to pharaoh. You must lead my
people Israel out of Egypt”

Everyone in life was specifically designed to fulfill or to put in place

something. You were sent to the earth to come and solve a problem, you were
sent as a solution, so if you don’t understand this, many thing will keep causing
you pain, not knowing that you were sent on earth to bring solution to that thing
causing you pain and many others and for many generations to come. For

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example, a CD player and cassette player, DVD player, Turn table player, Mp3
player all produce sound and the same music if played from the different modes,
but they have different mode of operation, a CD player operated differently from
a cassette player, but they both produce sound. Hence you are uniquely built,
your mode of function is unique to you, your flaws are unique to you, and
because there are abilities you are born with. Peter and Paul the apostles had to
preach the gospel, but have different purpose, their dealings while growing up in
the ministry were for different target audience; Apostle Peter to the Jews majorly
while Apostle Paul to the gentiles.

Everyone has his unique dealing, you can be a fraudster, when God calls
you, he trains you based on the database of your fraudulent activities and send
you back to those set of fraudsters to bring them for Christ (target audience).
God’s purpose is not always hindered by the past; he turns a fearful Gideon into a
mighty leader (Judges 6-8) a murder Moses into a deliverer, Moses that was
hostile, after several dealings with God, he became the most meek on earth
(Exodus 3), God turned a woman that sleeps around into a great evangelist that
could bring a whole city to Jesus (John 4vs1-42). There’s nothing that you have
done in the past that can cancel God’s purpose for you, you are not too old to
resume your purpose.

Abuse occurs whenever you don’t have a revelation of who you truly are,
you will underuse your abilities and people will abuse all your inbuilt capabilities,
a beautiful lady that had not discovered purpose, will be a puppet in the hands of
men, they will keep getting her to bed without any special attachment because
she does not have a revelation of who she is, so she will be misused and even
others will abuse what she supposed to have as advantage.

Purpose and Timing;

Purpose is the key to fulfillment and to override pains. You might say you
are too young or too old for purpose, can I say to you that there is a reason why
you are just getting to know about purpose, probably God wanted you to learn
and know about many things before he sends you out to manifest that which he
had destined or trained you for, so you would be so effective in wisdom.

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 Ecclesiastes 3vs1.nlt; for everything there is a season, a time for every activity
under heaven.

Purpose has its organizing values because it provides a vision, which motivates a
plan or action to meet specific goals.

Vision; An experience of seeing something or the future in a dream or trance,

hence Vision is the fundamental requirement of all world changers, and world
changers are focused visionaries, they receive something from the lord through
dreams or trance and they stay with it and run with it their whole life until it is
fulfilled.
Purpose protects you from been busy without been effective. Like it’s commonly
observed, people are always busy, but no results to show for their been busy.
Vision set goals, which motivates a plan of action for purpose to be fulfilled. So
purpose birth vision, vision births the system that allows purpose to find
expression.
1. Purpose; The major reason why you are on earth, God’s intention for
creating you.
2. Vision; A means that provides the platform for your purpose to be
fulfilled, either through the establishment of an educational sector,
ministry, hospitals, banking systems, library system, theater arts,
acting, movies, event centers etc.
3. Goals; Are the steps and plans to take per time for that vision to
materialize, so that purpose will find full expression. Goals dictate
the prophetic atmospheres of the men that you need for that vision
to be fulfilled. The daily, weekly, monthly, yearly strategic steps to
take towards vision materialization. Goals predicts priorities, helps
you to measure your progress.
4. Plans; are the strategies you put in place to achieve that goal. For
your purpose to come alive and active. The schedules that activates
purpose.

There are a lot of things your mind thought patterns should engage in than
causing you pain, unhappiness, mood swing, depression. Never give an iota of
chance to anything that can cause you embittered heart.

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 Purpose builds perseverance like in Joseph, when he was in Potiphar’s
house, he knew this was not the kind of destiny he saw, so he did not go out of his
way to misbehave, and settle for less in his comfort zone, and moreover when he
was in the prison he persevered because that was not what he saw, he knew what
he saw is still coming to pass, his own is to make sure he still stays with God.
Purpose keeps you focused, and creates contentment that you become so
confident about yourself that you don’t jealous or envy any other.

Philippians 1vs6. Nlt. And I am certain that God, who began the good work
within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when
Jesus Christ returns.

Romans 8vs28. Nlt. And we know that God causes everything to work together
for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for
them.

Purpose is the key to peace, if you don’t find your God-given purpose, satan
will supply one for you and you will use the materials God put in place to
deceitfully work for satan’s will and hence deception and continuous pain,
frustration and depression sets in.

Luke 9vs25. Nlt. And what do you do if you gain the whole world but are
yourself lost or destroyed?

Purpose is not doing good things but the right things, for the pain
encountered in any organization or body, is as a result of swaying away from your
major reason of establishment. As a church, there will be a lot of frustration if we
derail away from the major reason why God established the ministry in our hands.

We have confused money with fulfillment, accomplishment with

satisfaction, and achievement with peace. You are not successful if everyone says
you are, you are not successful if you have done what others expect you to do,
you are not successful if you receive commendation and recognition from your
peers or accolades from the masses, you are truly successful only if you have
done what you were purposed to do. Many people including the church are busy
doing good things (not the right things) that God did not purpose them to do,
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peace and joy, and yet pain keeps multiplying in their heart daily, many pastors
and ministers are busy wearing themselves out pursuing ministry goals, projects,
programs and assignment that are not part of Gods plan for them, they have
adopted another man’s vision or a purpose as their personal standards for
competition and comparison, and therefore trapped by the expectations of others,
they live to please everyone except God.

Living with purpose is the difference between been busy and been effective.
Tied of rat race, trying, to keep up with everyone’s expectation of you, you are
even not happy with your job, and you have this anger within you asking yourself
“is this why I studied and went through stress of graduating from the university?”
even your ministry had become source of frustration instead of joy, even in
church activities, you still feel empty. Maybe you have even successfully fooled
everyone that you are successful, but inside you, you truly feel empty, you need
to submit to your manufacturer the one who fashioned you, remember I told you
it’s never too late to discover your purpose.
Do you want to submit to your manufacturer or rededicate yourself back to him,
for missing it for too long then pray these following prayers with me.

Lord Jesus I know have delayed for so long in the plan and purpose you have for
me, I surrender all to you, I declare you lord over me, I receive your life and
accept you as my personal Lord and savior, O Lord I commit my life unto you,
from this moment, direct my life and show to me the major reason why you
sent me here on earth, my mission in the kingdom advancement agenda. And
help me to fulfill destiny, holy spirit I call you into my life to start your work,
teach me all things, show me the way to go, help me navigate my life effectively
from this moment in Jesus name Amen.

Romans 1vs14. Nlt. For I have a great sense of obligation to people in both the
civilized world and the rest of the world, to the educated and uneducated alike.

You should be obligated to your vision till you say it is finished like Jesus.
Your mind needs to be busy towards your vision, when your mind is busy on your
vision, pain won’t find expression, be a debtor to your vision. One of the words of
Jesus in John 18vs37 “to this end was I born and for this cause I came into the
world”. Find your own cause, so you can fully say it is finished when fulfilled, you
must go back to heaven empty when you die.

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Jesus said again in one of his words in John 4vs34”my food is to do the will of him
who sent me and to finish his work”.

John 4vs24 “my food” said Jesus, “is to do the will of him who sent me and to
finish his work”

Until you find something that can affect your feeding, skipping meals
because of it, wake you up in the midnight, or early in the morning, you haven’t
found purpose yet or your purpose is not yet palpable enough to you. If you don’t
have a purpose, dream, vision, then you have made your heart ready and
available for pains, frustration, unhappiness, mood swings to set in easily.
In the book of Ecclesiastes, Solomon said all in life he had acquired is vanity
because he had a purpose, he stayed in it in the beginning but he drifted away,
towards the end of his life, hence he was rich but in his heart he was pained that
all is vanity.

You have to know that whatever you do, persecution will come, Jesus was
persecuted, but your focus power won’t let persecution get to you, rather it will
make you focus all the persecution energy on your vision, men of vision are not
moved by what people say, it does not even get to them, men of vision are only
moved by what their spirit man is receiving from God, they are only moved by the
leadership of the Holy spirit. Persecution, denial, betrayal, disappointments, pain,
rejection, insults, abuse, downsizing all these becomes a POWERFUL DRIVING
FORCE for them to focus on vision.

Be happy, be joyful, be bright, be full of will and force to focus on that great
future that is coming, for your light has come and the glory of the lord is risen
upon you. No matter your age, it is never too late to fulfill purpose, in the bible,
many fulfill purpose, at young age, while many at old age also according to what
God is preparing them for, years are numbers, it is what you achieve from them
that makes them matter.

HOW TO DISCOVER PURPOSE;

1. Turn to God; He is the creator and only he has the detailed agenda why he
released your spirit on earth. So for you to discover purpose, you must
make sure you return back to God and set your foundations right, giving

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your life to Jesus, which is the entry into the kingdom of God, there is
nothing you can do out of giving your life to Christ, you can’t fully enjoy the
life of God if you are not born again. When you have actively given your life
to Christ, then God starts the work of unveiling who you are spiritually and
physically, who he actually created you to be, and what he planned for you
to do on earth system. God will teach you all things through his dimensions
of himself been the Holy Spirit, Holy spirit is our comforter, he knows what
we need per time, he knows how to get us out of every situation and
circumstance. All we need to do is to always ask him, reveal who I am to me,
let me know my work in this earth system; let me know my part in
advancing the kingdom agenda of God. Help me to discover purpose and to
fulfill purpose, and most times, the Holy Spirit responds by showing us who
we are in dreams and revelations, or trance, visions. And at this point you
will need to ask of the Holy Spirit to empower you with the gift of
interpretation of dreams, because when he starts to show you things about
yourself, you need the gift of interpretation of dreams to be able to
comprehend and decipher what God is showing to you, or else you won’t
know what to do, and you will waste your dreams and by so doing you are
wasting time and getting behind schedule for the manifestation of God
through you. God said to his people, he said my people perish because they
don’t know me. Of which the first way out of perishing and not fulfilling
destiny is to know God. The first way to cheat devil and defeat him is to
know God deeply, the bible says submit yourself to God resist the devil and
he shall flee from you. The first way to make the devil leave everything
around your dwelling place is to submit (Humble) yourself actively to God.
In all your ways acknowledging God, knowing him intimately and he shall
direct your paths. Those issues giving you problem, the bible says
acknowledge God in all your ways and he shall direct your path. When you
submit to God you are honoring God in the fact that you can’t do things
yourself

James 4vs7. Kjv. Submit yourselves therefore unto God. Resist the devil,
and he will flee from you.
Hosea 4vs6a. Kjv. My people are been destroyed because they don’t know
me.
Proverbs 3vs6. kjv. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct
thy paths.

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 Proverbs 3vs6. Nlt. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which
path to take.
2. Study the Bible (Word of God); the bible is the compendium of God which
contains the instructions and the laws of God put in place for us to live on
earth as if the devil does not exist, it’s a manual that makes us to know God
and to know how he planned you to live on earth. After actively connecting
yourself to God through his son, and requesting for the Holy Spirit to reveal
who you are to you. The next phase is for you to get closer to God by
studying the bible, the Holy Spirit ministers to us through the word of God.
When you study your bible you will know the do’s and don’ts of the
kingdom, you will know how God works with his people, and you will know
his perfect plan for your life. sometimes, your purpose might not be
revealed to you in dreams or revelations, it sometimes can be revealed
through the scriptures when you are studying the word of God, and a
particular verse of the scripture will just illuminate in your spirit man, and
you will know this is who you are. Then you keep studying around that
verse of the scripture until it becomes palpable enough to you. I remember
apart from revelations and dreams, my purpose was affirmed to me in the
word of God, a verse of the bible was given to me in a revelation and when
I woke up to read the verse of the scripture, I did not understand
immediately, because my mind capacity could not interpret it yet, but I
kept the scripture and I always meditate on it day and night, I go through it
almost every day, until the light opened up to me in my secret place in one
of my retreats. And God brought out the giant in me that day. And today
we are growing high and high every day, it is not by our power, it is by the
grace of God he had bestowed upon us. That’s why God told Joshua to
meditate on the word of God so that he shall prosper in all he does and
have good success.

Joshua 1vs8. Kjv. This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth;
but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe
to do according to all that is written therein; for then shalt thou make
your way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
Joshua 1vs8. Nlt. Study this book of instructions continually. Meditate on
it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only
then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.

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3. Prayers; you cannot exempt prayers, prayer is like a refinery, it brings out
the spirit man in you and refines you, igniting the plan and purpose of God
for your life. have heard many people try to downsize the effect of prayers,
some will say if you study the word of God, and just act on God’s word,
everything is settled. Yes, I understand the dimensions they are trying to
communicate from, they are trying to let you see the importance of
renewing your mind through the power of the word of God at the expense
of prayers, and that does not exempt the effect of prayers in the equation
of a believer. It is prayer that empowers you with power and might to do
the work of God, without prayer you are going nowhere in the kingdom.
When you discover purpose, you then pray for the purpose to materialized
and be fulfilled, you pray for the power to fulfill destiny, because your first
enemy which is the devil won’t just sit down and be looking at you fulfilling
purpose, everything in life revolves around prayers. You increase your
spiritual fire and strength though prayers. Jesus said to his disciples this
kind does not go out except by prayers and fasting.
Meaning there are some kingdom assignments that results will not be
produces except prayers and fasting are engaged.

Mathew 17vs21. Nasb. “but this kind does not go out except by prayer
and fasting”.
Mathew 17vs21. Kjv. Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and
fasting.
4. Take Action; after when you have discovered purpose, most times, God will
take you through several dealings of preparation, he will train you, a lot of
retreats will come into play, where you will intercourse with the realms of
the spirit and get more information on how to secure that colourful
destination he had shown you. You need to receive the blue print on what
he had shown you, how to take steps at each time, you need to spend time
with God to receive the empowerment to fulfill purpose, and after that,
most time God commands you himself that it is time to launch out,
sometimes, you see it in revelations and dream that it is time to launch out,
and that is when you start taking action on everything you have received
from the lord. Everything he had shown you in the secret. Then it is time to
take action into fulfilling purpose, and activating destiny. It might require
you to change location, change your job, in fact restart your life all over
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again if it requires it. For even if God shows you and trains you and
empowers you, if you refuse to take action, then everything God had
embedded you will died within you, and he will hold you responsible for it,
for God does not like wasting as shown in the parable of the talent Mathew
25vs14-30, he took from the one that did not make use of what he gave
him and gave those that are producing results, and remember in Gods
kingdom, if you don’t produce results he cuts you down and throw you into
the fire.

Mathew 25vs29. Nlt. To those who use well what they are given, even
more will be given, and they will have an abundance. But from those who
do nothing, even what little they have will be taken away.
Mathew 7vs19. Nlt. So every tree that does not produce good fruit is
chopped down and thrown into fire.

So those that are liable for untimely death are those not producing results
with the life God gave them, and that’s why I do say, make sure you die
empty, meaning everything God sent you to this earth to do, you do them
and fulfill all he had shown you. You are not permitted to die if you have
not fulfilled purpose, if you have not activated destiny and fulfilled it, any
death without destiny fulfillment is not accepted. Selah.

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 Chapter Twelve
VALUE SYSTEM (BUILDING VALUES)
In the first epistle of Peter 3vs4, your beauty should consist of your true
inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest
value in God’s sight.

Enrich your values and personality with inner beauty, for it is your value that
brings men to you and makes men change protocols for your sake to make you
blessed.

First what is Value? Value is the perceived worth, importance, usefulness of

something. As a living body, you must make yourself valuable, people ignore you
when they feel they can do without you, but when you grow value and make
positive impacts, you can never be ignored. In the office, in relationships, in
ministry, churches, anywhere you find yourself, you don’t need to fight for
relevance, just build value, and grow yourself deeply to an extent that you can
never be ignored or belittled. Most problems you encounter from men is due to
the fact that you don’t have anything of active importance within you, there is no
perceived usefulness of you to them, hence they feel they can do without you,
which is true, because even Jesus said whoever does not have anything in his life
to show for, should be chopped down and thrown into fire (Mathew 7vs19. Nlt. So
every tree that does not produce good fruit is chopped down and thrown into
fire).

So in this chapter I will be teaching you on how to build value. All what had been
said in this book in general already builds your value, but I will talk on some
others that have not been discussed or go deep in some that I just discussed
lightly on in the previous chapters.
To build value you must have the revelation (knowledge, understanding) of your;
1. Understanding of your Source; where you originated from. You should
know that your foundation is Jesus Christ, the King of kings, Lord of lords,
head of all principalities and power, you should know that you originate
from God, and whatever cannot shake God, cannot shake you, and when
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 than anything in the whole world, you will know that your worth is the
worth of God, you will kick of inferiority complex out of your life, and low
self-esteem will diminish at great speed. Most times we are scared, or
down trodden because we have forgotten that our source is God. You are
deeply rooted in God.
2. Understanding of your purpose; This had been treated in chapter twelve of
this book, so I won’t go deep, which is the knowing of why God created you
and send you to this earth system.
3. Understanding of your potential; having the capacity to develop into
something in the future. Having abilities in you that guarantee a successful
end. You should know that God had embedded in you a lot of qualities and
abilities, talents and all you need to fulfill destiny. Not knowing this will
make you valueless and not know your worth in the hands of God, you will
waste yourself as a creation. You should know that there are a lot of
potential in you to fulfill destiny.
4. Understanding of your Resource; All the components in you that had been
embedded in you to fulfill destiny. Everything around you that can be
channeled into the materialization. When you don’t know the availability of
all the resource God had put around you, you will waste them away and
use them for things they are not destined for. Knowing that you are your
own raw material to success. For example someone that does not know
that God had given him some resource to fulfill destiny, devil can easily
manipulate his life and he will use all God had put in him to fulfill devils
intent and cause more calamities for himself and those around. That’s why
we need to be careful of those around us, making sure we are intentional
about the atmospheres around us.
5. Understanding of Your uniqueness; you must have a deep revelation of
your special abilities that no one has. Since nobody has your finger print,
then somethings are personally unique about you that you need to have a
revelation of. If you don’t know these things, people will make you believe
what they think about you, wear what they wear, drive what they drive,
they will make you feel less valuable according to how they perceive life
standard in their own mind. You need to wake up and begin to search for
who you truly are. These are capsules that make you overcome low
self-esteem, low self-worth, inferiority complex, and overcome pain causing
embittered heart and frustration that you can tell no one about.

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 Where you are doesn’t change who you are, when you know who you
are, you don’t wait for a car to make you valuable, a car won’t make you
valuable, you are the one that would make the car valuable. When you
know your value, you don’t need to be approved by other people to feel
important. When you know your ability, you will know that you are your
raw material to success.

Don’t set your life standards upon anyone, set your life standard on
God’s standards which is the highest standard in life. When you do this, you
have put a landmark on anybody wanting to cause you pain and they too
will be below the standard you set, so they too will have to work hard too
as you are working to meet up with the Gods standard you gave yourself,
Instead of them intimidating your mind. When you know these things, you
will know that everyone in life has what he or she is to become, and no one
had attained it. We are all still striving to get to the landmark. So everyone
should run the unique race God had put in place for us all.
6. Understanding of your Predestination; Knowing that your future is Gods
past, you are not going into an experiment, you are going into history. As
everything you would become is already in the history of God. Cheat the
devils causing you pain by bailing yourself out of his pain system through
knowing your predestination.
Jesus knew he was already raised from the dead, so dying was easy, going
to the hell to collect the keys was easy, going to grave, going through the
cup to him was just a passage not the destination, he already knew the end
from the beginning, because he had the knowledge from his father, God
had put everything place already, the manufacturer of the whole process
had the cheat code and all keys of all human. So Jesus already knew his end,
so going through tough times, pains, was easy, he was focused on what he
came to earth to do.

In John 10vs31-36, they wanted to stone Jesus, they were angry and
hurt at the level of kingdom intelligence Jesus was operating on, and they
picked up stones and Jesus asked, which of the works I did do you want to
stone me for? And they responded that “you are a man, and you make
yourself a God” and Jesus replied them by giving them a revelation of who
they are, because if you have a revelation of your predestination, you
won’t be offended, you won’t be pained, jealous, envious of another

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 person’s process or progress or claims. So Jesus said to them that ‘is it not
written (he gave them a Rhema) that ye are gods and instead of Calling
himself God, he then called himself a son of God, he placed man higher
than himself in this context, but yet they could not get the revelation until
he died. Dying on the cross, Jesus placed man above himself; he placed
man of more importance that was why he could willingly lay down his life
for man. To him the reconciliation agenda of man to God is worth his life.

When you know that your destination is certain, you are going to have
the confidence that what you are going through is history.
7. Understanding of your protection; you must know and understand the fact
that you are going on a journey to fulfill purpose, and you are always under
divine protection, and you are chosen by God to fulfil destiny, for the one
(God) who revealed who you are to you and sends you is obligated to keep
you safe and protect you. And nothing can shake you and harm you. He said
touch not my anointed (he who has God’s purpose in mind) and do my
prophet no harm.
Psalms 105vs15. Kjv. Saying, touch not mine anointed, and do my
prophets no harm.
Psalms 105vs15.nlt; “Do not touch my chosen people, and do not hurt my
prophets”.
8. Understanding of your Creator; The Company indicates the quality and
value of the product, God is your company, and you are the product. A
product of Elohim international. Don’t let anyone judge you by how you
look, judge yourself by where you came from. You are valuable because of
God.

Whenever insecurity meets value, it calls it arrogant. When you are

confident of what God had revealed to you, then nobody’s opinion about you will
touch you, the only opinion that would touch you is the opinion of God and God’s
opinion towards you are good not evil to give you a future and an expected end.

Jeremiah 29vs11. Nlt. For I know the plans I have for you, “says the lord. They
are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

Let new goals occupy your mind that nothing negative can just meander
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make you feel less human, you will smile and know the person is ignorant. When
the woman by the well called Jesus Jew in;

John 4vs10. Nlt Jesus replied, “if you only knew the gift God has for you and who
you are speaking to, you would ask me, and I would give you living water”.

Jesus had a full revelation of who he was and his value system. The
kingdom had established your future already before you were born, the kingdom
had provided for your future already all you need to get into your future. The
kingdom is committed to your future; the kingdom protects your future, the
kingdom works out plans for your future. You are an ambassador of Gods
government and a government provides every necessary need for its ambassador.

Courage is the mastery of fear; believe in what God had deposited inside
you, not what you see with your eyes. For if God be for you who can be against
you? Nobody. Let them call you a fool, I tell you today, if you follow the precepts
laid down in this book, you will become great and nobody on earth will have the
capacity to inflict pain on you, for you are God’s own product.

Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear in you is certain, live in honesty
and peace, seek for peace with all men at all times, start all the things you ought
to have started, start your own company, open that firm this year, establish that
which you have long time dreamed of, when you start, fear dies immediately,
have faith in the God of your future.

Psalms 37vs37. Nlt. Look at those who are honest and good, for a wonderful
future awaits those who love peace.
Job 8vs7. Nlt. And though you started with little, you will end with much.
Romans 8vs31. Kjv. What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us,
who can be against us?
Romans 8vs38-39. Kjv. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor
angels, nor principalities, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any
other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in
Christ Jesus our Lord.
Proverbs 16vs3, 9. Kjv. Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall
be established. 9. A man’s heart deviseth his way, but the Lord directeth his
steps.

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 Proverbs 18vs9-10. Kjv. He also that is slothful in his work is brother to him that
is a great waster. 10. The name of the Lord is a string tower; the righteous
runneth into it, and is safe.
Proverbs 16vs3, Nlt. Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will
succeed.
Amen.
If people keeps leaving you, and running away from you, then it means you have
not grown value.

HOW TO BUILD VALUE;

1. Have Mentors; A mentor is an experienced and trusted adviser, a person
who gives a younger or less experienced person help and advice over a
period of time. As an individual you cannot navigate your life solely on only
what you know, and if you say you can succeed in life through your own
dealings and personal experience, the time it will take you to achieve
something tangible in life will be prolonged, because you need to learn
from other peoples mistakes, you need to learn from someone that had
gone ahead of you in that line you are venturing into, that business, that
company, that establishment, that ministry you need a mentor that had
gone ahead of you, and have some level of predictable results, so that you
can also have results in that endeavour of yours and mount on the eagles
wing of your mentor. In life you should have two set of mentors, first a
Mentor on spiritual dealings which is someone that had been deep
spiritually enough to cause a climatic covering effect over you. You must
have a spiritual covering in physical form over you, someone that you can
trace your spirituality to, secondly you should have a mentor on your
physical dealings, that is someone that is on the field of your expertise,
someone in line with that business you want to venture into, someone
higher than you in company matters, someone higher than you in all
dealings of life other than spirituality. And take note; the two sets of
mentor must have the same religious beliefs (Christian) as you. And mind
you, you will become the mentor you choose. So have a mentor that you
see your future in him/her. And there obligation is to teach you all things
when you run to them in tough times. But remember tough time never last,
tough people do.
2. Get Resource Materials; that is books on every issue of your interest,
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 you need to get more messages on that area, we thank God for Google, you
can easily check online for every area of interest and grow capacity in that
area of life giving you troubles, but remember not all information online are
good and suitable for your consumption, some are poisons to your spirit
man and mind, so be careful enough to make sure you are getting a real
resource material that the authors are well guaranteed, not a deceiver
seeking for attention from the populace, because there are many people
seeking attentions, and using all strategies to make money through the
online platform, so they post what they know people want to hear, even
when wrong, they sugar coat it so as to get more viewers or followers.

Making sure you read daily in a bit to boost your resource in order to
enhance your result. Every time you buy a dress, it only covers your body, but
when you buy a book or any resource material, it provides a covering for your
destiny. Enlarge your imaginative capacity in order to produce more results. You
need to study more on the field of your expertise, you need to be excellent
enough, and you need to dress your destiny for beauty and for colour, reading
and searching every issue of interest, finding out the stories of successful men on
the path you have chosen and how they endured in their small beginnings,
boosting your native intelligence.

But you keep buying things and you will never have an end in buying,
because more new things will keep been produced and more enticing things
pleasing to your eyes will all still be produced. I want you to set your score mark
on God.

Learners are open hearted, they are ever sensitive, as they begin to learn,
read and search. You have been reading searching for God before at one time,
you planned you will seek him with all your heart but you slowed down because
no results, little did you know that it was a process you must pass through, the
refinery process, everything that stands out, always go through the refinery
process of God. Jesus was led into the wilderness to be tried compulsorily by devil,
you can’t escape the process, but anytime you quit the refinery process and head
for another option, you have shut down an ongoing spiritual protocol to make you
great.

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 I will like you to change your budget, you have enough dress, there’s no
need for competition, you need more information to secure your colourful
destination, you need more retreats, praying, fasting and study to get the keys
that won’t make the gate of hell prevail over you just as Jesus said to peter in
Mathew 16vs18-19. Your value system matters a lot in determining the destiny of
your life. It is not the cloths you wear that matters it is the values you bear that
matters.

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 Chapter Thirteen
END NOTES
Have you successfully read this book? And you have been bless by it, why
not encourage everyone around you to also purchase it, so that we would
successfully eradicate pain from our environment, your encouraging others to
read it will also get rid of the possibilities of you having pains, because they will
have your own mindset that you have acquired and know what to do per time,
knowing what is expected of them. For when everyone around you have
successfully conquered pain and full of Joy, then your atmospheres will be free of
pain causing effects. Just like explained in the message I preached on titled “Men
and their Atmospheres”.

Ministers, business owners, company owners, lecturers, contractors,

endeavour to read this book again and again, so that the context of this book will
become palpable to you and guide you all through your life activities. For if our
mind is sound (2timothy 1vs7), we will be productive and have good success,
because we will be able to have good and active meditations.
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 ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Apostle Ake-John Oluwatomi is a graduate of Microbiology in Olabisi

Onabanjo University, The set man of Christ Species Interdenominational Ministry.
He is someone who after been successful to a point, began to see some realities
about life that no one ever talked to him about, he started asking himself why all
this pressures everywhere, why all these disappointments, why all these
depression, why all these chaos everywhere, why all these unfaithfulness, lack of
loyal friends, people coming to you just because of what they can get from you,
but nobody ever cared about the well-being of those they run to for help, nobody
cared about your heart, and your own joy, they are all after what they can get
from you, and every one kept assuming that all is well because of what they see
and perceive as success. Apostle Ake-John Oluwatomi began to see into the
hearts of human through his prophetic auctioning on his apostolic mandate, and
was displeased and bothered, he saw man moving in circles all his life, thinking he
is advancing and progressing. He realized through the help of the Holy Spirit that
man was created for a special assignment.

He then checked the root cause of all this misconceptions,

misunderstanding of life, he found out pain is the root cause, and the lord said to
him, I will take you on a journey to help men out of this chaos. And the lord gave
him his mandate with several teachings and dealings from the Holy Spirit most of
his time were spent in the bush (leaving everything his work, his businesses)
interacting with God and spirit agencies, to get the secret of life from God. In one
of his dealings in the bush, he was commissioned by God to birth this book titled
POWER OVER PAIN. Cheating the devil by force and living as if the devil does not
exist.
Remain Blessed.

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