THE CM’S HANDBOOK

This guide is intended to be used as a niche info manual and a point for
reference for all Chat Moderators. Search for the relevant terms to
quickly find what you're looking for. Make sure you have the latest
version for weekly updates!

Community terminology:

Chat support is currently divided into three separate websites, each one
divided into 4 sections: Couples, Trans, Men, Women. You will
recognize the terms from the ‘Interested in’, ‘About me’ and ‘Looking
for’ sections, as well as from the conversations.

full swap – full sexual exchange between two couples

soft swap - sexual exchange between couples limited to oral activities
same room swapping - couples exchange in the same room
different room swapping - couples exchange and leave to engage in
separate rooms
swingers clubs - people interested in visiting swinger clubs together
cuckolding - the act of the husband witnessing sexual acts between his
wife and another man, may or may not include domination and
humiliation towards the husband from the participating male
Cheating with permission - They give each other permission to cheat.
They thrive on the thrill & taboo of it. Some tell their partner afterward
& others have a don't ask, don't tell policy.
MFM - 2 men 1 woman, the men do not interact in a sexual way during
the threesome
FTM - female to male (sexual transition, trans)
MTF - male to female
transition - The process by which a transgender individual strives to
have physical presentation more closely align with identity.
Unicorn 🦄 - a person (usually a woman) that joins a couple for sex or
they may become a more involved part of the relationship and spend
nonsexual, companionship time together too
DnD free - Drug and Disease free
420 - Cannabis is now legal in 19 states of the USA. 420 friendly people
are down to recreational use of marijuana.
white collar - relating to the work done or the people who work in an
office or other professional environment.
blue collar - A blue-collar worker is a working class person who
performs manual labor.
Dominant - referred to a person that likes to take initiative and control
Submissive - a person that likes to release control to someone else and

BBC - big black 🐓

submit themselves to another person’s will during intercourse

NSA - No strings attached

FWB - Friends with benefits

Stay-Off topics(please report immediately):

- golden showers
- scatting; Please do not engage in describing any types of activities
including fecal matter.
- necrophilia
- anything including children
- abduction, terrorism, extreme violence and/or abuse, racism
- political talk

Topics to avoid (acknowledge and lead away from):

- Covid - 19, vaccination stances, spreading negativity