your love style is

HESITANT ROMANTIC
Your love style profile can give you a better understanding of who you are in your romantic relationships.
Your profile is not an actual assessment but is for informational purposes only.

WANT TO KNOW THE TRAITS OF A: HESITANT ROMANTIC?

YOU:
• You are considered a romantic person who loves the idea of love. You can be hesitant in love
sometimes lacking confidence in getting what you desire.
• Are independent and take pride in caring for yourself yet you prefer to be partnered.
• You can appear to be shy or uncertain, having difficulty asking for what you want and need.
• As an optimistic person you see all the possibilities.
• Have high standards for a partner and often enter into relationships cautiously.
• You are a reliable and dependable person. You have high integrity when it comes to relationships.
• You are highly romantic; and while part of you believes in true love, another part of you is
practical and reasonable.

WANT TO KNOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP STRENGTHS?

S T R E N G T H S are the best parts of your personality. You are at your best and happiest when you are using your
strengths, particularly in your romantic relationships.

• Calm • High integrity • Thorough and thoughtful

• Rational thinker • Contemplative • Honest
• Intelligent • Trustworthy

WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU NEED AND WANT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?

N E E D S are those things that are essential to you. Getting your needs met will make you feel content and happy in your
relationship. When you are under stress getting these needs met can feel urgent, because this is how you cope.
WA N T S are desires or preferences. Wants are not as crucial as needs, but still important for your happiness.

YOU NEED:
• Space; or time alone to process thoughts and feelings
• Peace; in your home and in your relationship
• Connection; between you and your partner

YOU WANT:
• To be accepted and appreciated for what you do
• Your partner to see that you have a good character and are honorable

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 your love style is

HESITANT ROMANTIC

YO U R A N I M A L I N S T I N C T :
Of the three animal spirits that describe your
personality (dog cat or puppy) your personality
most resembles a cat.
No you don’t look like a cat but you have the
tendencies of a cat, which is to be independent-
unlike the puppy that seeks a lot of attention you
seek your alone time.

You generally ask little of people and make few

demands you are independent.

• You can purr like a cat when your needs are met in your romantic relationship.
• Connections are important to you, when there are problems in your relationships you can become anxious if
you fear there is trouble or conflict.
• You can become defensive if your honor is questioned or your partner points out your flaws or wants you to
change.

WANT TO KNOW YOUR BLIND SPOTS?

B L I N D S P OT S are those things that you fail to see about yourself. It’s like the back of your head; you can’t see it
without a mirror. Pay attention to your following possible blind spots:

• You tend to have many interests; as a result, you may forget to check in with your partner.
• During times of stress you retreat in order to think, process or calm yourself.
• Because you don’t speak up much, partners don’t know how you think or feel.
• You can have high expectations in relationships and believe they should be uncomplicated and require little
effort. When miscommunications happen you often think that nothing can be done.  Your partner observes
your lack of effort in repairing things, and feels that they are unimportant or that you have given up on them.
• You may be easily overwhelmed by emotional topics so you hide under the bed like a cat thinking you are in
trouble when there is conflict in your relationship.
• You can be stubborn and want to get things right or for things to be accurate.
• You think your partner should know how you feel by your expressions; you might not share your true feelings
easily so your partner doesn’t know how you feel or know how to get close to you?

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 your love style is

HESITANT ROMANTIC
WANT TO HAVE MORE SUCCESS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?

“It doesn’t matter where you start,

it only matters where you finish,
in a Secure Relationship.”
- DR. DIANE

IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS:

• Keep the lines of communication open. Be sure to check in with your partner and ask them how they are
doing and what they need to feel loved?
• You often need your alone time to process and self-sooth, particularly when under stress. It is important to
clearly communicate this to your partner and explain that this is what you need and not a direct reflection on
your relationship. Be thoughtful and use your alone time wisely.
• Work on speaking up more. Your partner will not be able to mind read.
• Recognize that effort is needed to create and sustain healthy long-term relationships. Focus on understanding
your partner and repairing miscommunications as they happen. Learn to appreciate how other love styles
communicate and be flexible when considering solutions. Let your partner know they are a priority as is the
relationship. Celebrate special occasions and plan one-on-one time together.
• While emotional conversations may be uncomfortable, they can be revealing and healing for both you and your
partner.
• Pay attention to your stubborn streak. Ask yourself: “Do I want to be right or do I want to get along?”
• Be intentional about getting in touch with your feelings. Consider keeping a journal. Practice identifying
emotions over thoughts.

IN DATING:

• You are very charismatic and charming making you a great conversationalist.
• Dating can feel like an interview to you. Experiment with being more revealing and vulnerable: talk about
what is happening in real time. Practice sharing details of your life. When others do this, it is normal and not
an attempt to be intrusive.
• Your high standards can make it challenging for you to find suitable partners.
• You may fear you are making a mistake or being trapped in the wrong relationship, which might look like a
fear of commitment. All relationships face challenges try not to worry relax and let things unfold.
• Think of dating as practice; keep your mind open to meeting different people and going to different places to socialize.
• You are careful with your words wanting to show sincerity and authenticity. Allow others to see you are
interested in them by being more relaxed and engaging.
• Learn new ways to flirt. Be fun and light by placing more focus on your date.
• A relationship is possible for you. Be realistic and adjust your expectations. Remember you are PURRFECT for
someone!

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 your love style is

HESITANT ROMANTIC

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