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“ Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional,
mental and social well-being in relation to
sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease,
dysfunction or infirmity.
SAFER SEX
Using condoms for penetrative sex is the best way to
protect yourself and your partners from Sexually
Transmitted Infections, including HIV. Condoms also
offer good protection from unwanted pregnancy.
In the text of this booklet, we have chosen not to
refer constantly to the use of condoms. Instead, we
encourage you to make your own decisions about
protecting yourself and others in each instance of
sexual activity you undertake.
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ANAL PLAY
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Some people are more concerned than others about
cleanliness in this context, and sometimes they wash
inside their rectum before anal sex, using a douche.
A douche is a device for squirting water up your anus
or vagina, to clean it out.
If, after reading the above, you still feel you want to
douche, it is important that you use only plain, clean
water at body temperature. And we recommend that,
if you do use a douche, you use only the small rubber
bulb type. However, you should be aware that even
plain, clean water can irritate the lining of your rectum
and make you more vulnerable to infection.
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ARE THERE ANY HEALTH RISKS FROM ANAL SEX?
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l Unlike the vagina, the rectum is not self-
lubricating. The tiny amount of mucous present
in the rectum is not enough to make penetration
easy or comfortable. Using a lubricant (lube) for
anal penetration not only protects the rectum
from damage, it also enhances the pleasure.
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ANILINGUS (RIMMING)
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seminal bladder prostate
vesicle gland
rectum pubic
bone
anus
vas deferens
testicle
urethra
penis
scrotum
ovary
cervix
uterus
rectum
spine
bladder
pubic
bone
pelvic tip of
muscles clitoris
urethral
vaginal opening
anus opening
ANAL PENETRATION AND SEXUAL AROUSAL
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These physical changes all happen to prepare your
body for sexual contact, and to make sexual touch
feel comfortable and enjoyable. It is important that
you give your body time to react to sexual stimulation
and to undergo these changes, so that you don’t feel
any discomfort during a sexual experience.
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external
sphincter
internal
sphincter
anus
rectum
external
sphincter
internal
sphincter
anus
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anus by exploring it using a well-lubricated finger
(make sure that your hands are clean and your
fingernails are short and well-filed).
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ANAL PENETRATION AND PAIN
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may never have had anal sex before and be worried
about it hurting, or you may have had unwanted or
unpleasant sexual experiences in the past. You might
have more general worries, for example about how
your body looks or about whether your partner will
find traces of faeces. You might be anxious about
catching or transmitting HIV or other STIs, or just
preoccupied with things happening at work or
difficulties in your relationship. Any of these can have
an effect on your ability to relax and feel turned on
and enjoy a sexual experience.
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EXERCISES FOR ANAL PENETRATION
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EXERCISES YOU CAN DO ON YOUR OWN
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You can feel these muscles by contracting your
anus as though you’re trying to hold back a bowel
movement, or by stopping the flow of urine when
you’re peeing. At first you might find you’re contracting
your stomach or thigh muscles as well, but with
practice you can squeeze just the pelvic muscles.
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EXERCISES 10-15 minutes
PRACTISING ANAL PENETRATION
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gently pushing the finger inside, as far as you feel
comfortable. If you are using a toy, remember to use
one with a flared base and keep hold of it.
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When you are ready to take out the sex toy or finger,
push it out with your muscles as well as pulling it out
with your hand. Sometimes this can be uncomfortable
because the muscles around the entrance to your
anus may tighten around the sex toy or finger and be
reluctant to let it go!
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MOVING ON TO PENETRATION WITH A PARTNER
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check with your partner that they understand they
are to follow your pace and what you feel comfortable
with. Use more lube than you think you’ll need and
add more as you go along if you need to.
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You’ll probably find that you only need to do this
exercise a few times before you can feel comfortable
and ejoy the sensation of being penetrated. Then you
can move on to penetration by something bigger if you
wish to.
EXERCISE 15 minutes
GRADUAL INSERTION OF PENIS OR DILDO
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for as long as you feel comfortable. If you would like
to incorporate movement into your anal penetration,
you can move on to the next exercise.
EXERCISE 15 minutes
PENIS OR DILDO INSIDE WITH MOVEMENT
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You don’t need to do it as part of a formal exercise,
but remember that any new position can be a bit
awkward and/or uncomfortable at first. So when you
try a new position, begin with slow movement, and
work up gradually to a pace that both you and your
partner can enjoy.
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POSSIBLE PROBLEMS
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lube throughout, and if you meet resistance, pull back
for a bit. You can slide your hand straight in or twist
as you insert it. Once your hand is in up to the wrist,
stay still for a while so that you can both get used to
the sensations, and then follow your partner’s
requests — you can rotate your hand, ball it into a fist,
move gently in and out, apply pressure or stroke the
rectum. Or you can stimulate your partner (or have
them stimulate themselves) to orgasm if they wish,
while leaving your hand inside them. Be careful to
withdraw your hand slowly and gently.
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men and women hear stories as they are growing up
about anal sex being painful, or even ‘wrong’.
Unfortunately this can sometimes lead to bad
experiences because when we are expecting pain (or
feeling bad about what we are doing sexually), we are
less likely to get turned on (and not being turned on,
as we have said before, can make penetration
painful). The exercises in this leaflet should help you
overcome any experiences of pain that you have had.
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FINDING PSYCHOSEXUAL/RELATIONSHIP THERAPY:
For further information about the services we provide,
including psychosexual therapy, STI testing and sexual
health advice, visit www.londonSTItesting.nhs.uk
PACE
Sexual health and relationship counselling for lesbians
and gay men www.pacehealth.org.uk
RELATE
Psychosexual counselling for men and women of all
sexualities www.relate.org.uk
GMFA
Groups and workshops for men who have sex with men
www.gmfa.org.uk
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RECOMMENDED READING:
Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men
Bill Brent, Cleis Press
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This booklet has been written by the Clinical
Psychology and Psychotherapy Team and edited,
designed and illustrated by the Good Sexual Health
Team. Both are part of Camden Provider Services.