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CONTENTS

Dedication 8
Acknowledgements 9
Foreword 10
Overview 11
Introduction 13

MY STRUGGLE 15
Chapter 1. COME, WALK WITH ME? 21
Chapter 2. ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE
FORGIVEN? 25
1. I have already worked though
forgiveness 25
2. I have forgiven but will never
forget 27
3. I have forgiven but the relationship
will never be the same again 27
4. I am not forgiven 28
5. I can’t forgive myself 28
6. I am too hurt or too angry 29
7. It is impossible to forgive 31

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Chapter 3. WHAT DOES ANGER ENTAIL? 33
1. What is a “trigger”? 33
2. How does anger work? 37
3. What does anger do? 37
3.1 Makes us as emotionally
“deaf” and “blind” 37
3.2 Hardens your heart 38
3.3 Destroys 38
3.4 Creates fear 39
3.5 Voices 39
3.6 Revenge 40
3.7 Build a wall 40
4. People respond out of anger in
different ways 40
4.1 Aggressive and angry tempers 40
4.2 Annoyance and Anger 41
4.3 Silent Anger 41
4.4 Justifying Anger 42
4.5 Suppressed Anger 43
Chapter 4. HATE 45
Chapter 5. WHY EXACTLY 70x7? 55

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Chapter 6. ARE YOU IN GOD’S SABBATH
REST? 71
1. Sabbath rest 71
2. Communion 75
Chapter 7. PURIFICATION AND
SANCTIFICATION 80
Chapter 8. HOW DOES FORGIVENESS
WORK? 89
1. Who or what can we be angry with? 90
1.1 Our circumstances 90
1.2 A person who unjustly hurt
you 90
1.3 Ourselves 90
1.3.1 What bitterness,
hate and self-hate do 94
1.4 God our Father 96
2. Tools for hurt, pain, anger, bitterness
and hate 97
2.1 What is a lie? 97
2.2 Reason and Belief 97
2.3 Consequences of Influences 98
2.4 Belief or Benefit 98
3. What does anger entail? 100

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 3.1 Blocks you from receiving
God’s Truth 100
3.2 Unrepentant sin or continuing
wilfully with your sin 100
3.3 Unforgiveness 100
Chapter 9. JESUS CHRISTUS OUR
ATONING SACRIFICE 102
1. Who is God? 102
2. Let’s see who Jesus is 104
3. Forgiveness 115
Chapter 10. PRACTICAL SESSIONS 123
1. Anger towards God 124
2. Anger towards your
circumstances 126
3. Anger towards someone else 129
4. Forgiveness towards self 133
5. Yardstick of progress 136
6. Reconciliation 137
7. God’s armour 139
Chapter 11. SUPPORT US 142

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Dedication
This book is dedicated to my Heavenly Abba Father! All Glory and
Honour to Him who created me. Thank you for entrusting me to be a
vessel for Your honour.
Thank you, Abba, for what You have done and are still doing in my life;
let my life not be in vain, but let it be a sweet fragrance to You and Your
Kingdom. My life is in your Hands for Your perfect Will to be done in
the Name of Your Son Jesus Christ.
Thank you for Your wisdom, teaching, and ongoing pruning in my life.
Please never stop! Father, I ask in the name of Jesus Christ that through
this book, many people may be set free from satan’s lies that hold them
captive in a spirit of unforgiveness. May they live victorious lives, and may
they live whom You created them to be. Holy Spirit, it is You who teaches
us and is able to give us Your TRUTHS in our everyday life circum-
stances.

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Acknowledgements
Thank you to each of my family members and friends that were involved
in this process. My humble apologies for the damage I caused; I pray that
the Lord Jesus will heal all the hurt and pain and bring restoration where
I am not able to.
I honour Father God for each one of you. May this book influence and
change your life for the good of the Kingdom of Christ. This is my heart’s
desire that you will also be set free from satan’s lies about unforgiveness
and to be whom Father God created you to be.
All my love.
Your sister in Jesus Christus.
Joey

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Foreword
Although the world refuses to acknowledge God and His Word, they are
quick to use HIS principles, which they appropriate for themselves
(without acknowledging God). Today in the secular world we find
psychologists and psychiatrists applying something they call “Forgiveness
Therapy” and testifying to positive results as their patients are healed.
Why would that be? Because God’s principles work, whether you
acknowledge Him or not. That is why the Bible teaches us that He lets
His sun rise on the evil and the good and He lets it rain on the just and
the unjust (Matthew 5:44,45).
In this book that you hold in your hands, my sister Joey explains in much
detail from the Bible where TRUE forgiveness comes from, and how it
truly sets people free since it was born out of the heart of God Himself –
it is not merely a human “therapy”. In my 20 years of involvement in a
counselling and deliverance ministry, I cannot emphasise the importance
of true forgiveness any more than the way my sister Joey did in this book.
The moment when one truly and sincerely forgives in the power of Jesus
and resists satan and his demons of unforgiveness and bitterness in Jesus
Name, total freedom and victorious living flow. May the contents of this
book help you, the reader, to be set free and stay free from the
unforgiveness and bitterness with which satan still wants to bind you and
hurt you, and may you grow from strength to strength in and through our
Lord Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit.

Dr. Tiaan Gildenhuys

Authority in Christ Ministries
Pretoria, RSA
www.oicb.co.za

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Overview
This book is inspired by God and is a powerful weapon for this time. It
has the ability to bring forth the deepest secrets of the heart and to deal
with anger, revenge and unforgiveness in order to be set free.
This book made me aware of how crucial forgiveness, purification and
sanctification are in this time of bitterness, hatred and revenge in which
we live; it not only sets the person free who forgives but also the person
that needs to be forgiven.
The completion of the practical sessions also made me aware of things in
my own life that needed to be dealt with. The book changed my life in so
many respects and I know that every reader who works through it will
never be the same again, as it brings correction but also freedom.
Thank you, Joey, that you allowed God our Father to use you so that we
can know and understand the importance of forgiveness. I now also
understand the meaning of seventy times seven!

Dr Angelo Ricardo Hoorn

This book with its curious title embraced me with loving sincerity, yet also
warned me about a trap that many people overlook, and provided me with
a roadmap to freedom; as an honest revelation of how bitterness and
anger can strangle us, this book is essential reading for every heart that
longs for deliverance from the pain and anger of the past. But it also opens
the door to so many facets of healing. It is a critical warning for us that
live in an overstimulated and highly opinionated, approval-seeking
society, believing that our own views and beliefs are inexcusable.

It is truly necessary for this society to acknowledge that we need

redemption, and we need to spread mercy and forgiveness like we do
popular opinions. Through this book, we can delve into the Biblical truth
of what lies behind the pain, hurt and anger that seem to be the everyday
norm, and how we can find freedom from it. This book has taken my

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approach to counselling to a new level. I believe the read is worth the time
if you need freedom from the residue of unexplained
anger and pain.

Willem Pretorius (Follower of Jesus Christ)

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Introduction
Dear reader, the information in this book is a subject close to my heart.
This passion arises from my own struggle with heartache, pain, irritation,
frustration, sarcasm, bitterness, hate, anger and anger outbursts, all being
the outflow of unforgiveness that I had to overcome.
It has always been a puzzle to me why Jesus said we must forgive seventy
times seven. Why not fifty times seven or any other number? I give all
glory and honour to God my Father for the revelation through His Holy
Spirit and His Word. It is with great thankfulness and a privilege to share
this revelation with you on how the puzzle pieces fit. I trust it will be as
much a blessing to you as it is to me.
Not that we are fit (qualified and sufficient in ability) of ourselves to form
personal judgments or to claim of count anything as coming from us, but our
power and ability and sufficiency are from God. 2 Corinthians 3:5
The goal of this book is not only to give you information on why we
should forgive seventy times seven, but also to give you hope in this
broken, unrighteous and wicked world. We will look at what the Word of
God says, and I will share some of my own testimonies. My heart is to
also help you in a very practical way should you need to deal with
unforgiveness, known or unknown, ignorant or hidden, once and for all
so that you can guard and protect your heart going forward.
I trust this book will give you deeper insight as we deal with the deep-
rooted lies behind unforgiveness and understand the depth of why we
need to forgive seventy times seven.
By choosing to work through this book, you invest in your own eternal
life. It will help you, if you are willing to make that choice, to be become
free. During the process, you will receive God’s truth through the
working of the Holy Spirit.
Just a kind warning: satan will do anything in his power to prevent or to
stop you from dealing with unforgiveness. You might find him using
different methods to steal your time or to distract you from reading
through this book. Please use this scripture to stop him from doing so:

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 So be subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he
will flee from you. James 4:7
My suggestion to you is to not only read parts of the book but to read it
from the beginning to the end. If need be, rather read it a couple of times
to make sure you understand the concept of confronting yourself to find
the lies. There is much valuable information you can use to deal with
unforgiveness.
Once you are comfortable with the process, work through the Practical
Chapter 10.
I believe and trust you will make the right choice, should you need to
work through forgiveness, so that you are able to live in God’s peace.
May you be blessed by reading and using this book, in the Name of Jesus
Christ.

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 MY STRUGGLE
Be careful, sit quietly, don’t make a sound or say a word… Such are the
thoughts of the people around me, squirming anxiously while trying to
avoid any “triggers” that would set off a landmine of destruction. Quietly,
filled with anxiety and fear in expectation, everyone anxiously awaits my
anger outburst. Nobody dares say or do anything out of place.
Emotionally injured, filled with stress, anxiety and fear due to my prior
anger outbursts, they walk on eggs, waiting for something small to
“trigger” my overloaded emotional pressure cooker.
In the blink of an eye, the rage would surface. Who will understand? Who
knows the battle I fight behind closed doors? Who can cope with it week
in and week out?
The outbursts are so destructive; like disturbed ants, they run in different
directions as far away as possible from the poison (me, of course). Their
own hurt, pain, stress, fear and anxiety become overwhelming and build
up fast and as a result, their own rage develops within. So the cycle repeats
itself. Hurting people hurt, damaged people damage. It will build up for
as long as it is not being dealt with.
The purpose of this book is to show you how consuming and devasting
unforgiveness becomes. But know this: there will always be hope! My aim
is to show you God’s unconditional love for you as well as to help you in
a practical way to deal with true unforgiveness so that you are able to live
in God’s peace. Whether it be hurt, pain, irritation, frustration, sarcasm,
anger, anger outbursts, bitterness or hatred, it is only the outflow of
unforgiveness caused by something negative we believe about
ourselves, arising from circumstances created by negative or bad actions
of others. God’s Truth can bring healing.
I can truly testify how hurt, pain, irritation, frustration, sarcasm, hatred,
bitterness, anger, anger outbursts, the outflow of unforgiveness,
destroyed me and the people around me for more than 50 years. Maybe
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Lord Jesus Christ through the Holy Spirit that helped and taught me how
to be set free. Know that it always entails a choice.
Maybe your circumstances are different from mine; however, satan’s
strategy remains the same. I learned so much and am still learning,
especially how to help others to become free. Unforgiveness is one of
satan’s trump cards to try to keep us from eternal life with God. He knows
the Word of God better than you and I; he knows the impact
unforgiveness has on the children of God and the importance of
forgiveness in the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
I will highlight only a few incidents from my life. My struggle with hurt,
pain, irritation, frustration, and anger outbursts started at a very young
age; then, I did not yet realise that it was only the outflow of unforgiveness
due to other peoples wicked deeds that made be believe lies about myself,
my circumstances or God.
With my dolls packed on my bed, I gave them “class”, but they would not
listen, so I shouted and screamed at them and hit them. Poor dolls! Some
lost arms, legs, even eyes with my anger outbursts. I even fought with the
plants, hitting them with my cane because they were doing wrong.
My anger problem escalated over time. During my rage sessions, I became
so angry that I started to self-mutilate, scratching myself till I bled. My
mind became consumed with suicidal thoughts. I tried, but just could not
carry out the deed. In my forties, these suicidal thoughts became
persistent to the point that I began thinking of hiring a hitman. How sick
is that! I realised that my nerves would never make it. I thank my Heavenly
Father for protecting me during these incidents when I was still unsaved,
and even while I was saved.
Photographs from my childhood reflect my anger and unhappiness,
which with time became more intense. I was deeply unhappy with
everyone and everything around me and made no secret of how I felt. I
literally did not spare anyone from my irritations, frustrations, sarcasm,
anger and outbursts.
I became known for throwing and breaking things during these outbursts,
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sliding doors. Needless to say, my actions cost me a fortune. People only
shook their heads and asked, “Why are you doing this?” Unfortunately,
when you are trapped in this anger and unforgiveness, it is very difficult
to free yourself if you do not have the knowledge or know the right people
to help you, and you do not make the choice to deal with it.
I remember one day I had one of my outbursts and threw my mini-Hi-Fi
sound system to the ceiling. You just saw parts scatter. Once I “triggered”,
I became blind. I could not think; I just reacted. The outbursts became
even worse when someone tried to calm me down. Sometimes when I
“triggered”, I hit the tabletop so hard with my arms that the whole bottom
part of my arms turned blue. People must have thought that I was being
abused. Somebody annoyed me so badly one day that, while looking her
in the eye, I wiped everything off her desk. These outbursts were
absolutely devastating.
I took my anger and rage out on anyone not willing to resist or oppose
me. At first, I felt quite in control because I could drive people with fear
through my anger. Once I became reborn, it began to bug me as the Holy
Spirit convicted me of my actions. Even when I asked the Lord and the
people for forgiveness for my actions, it still did not resolve my problem.
Of course, continuously asking for forgiveness without having break-
through left me with intense feelings of guilt and other deep-rooted lies.
One day, I totally lost my temper with family and chased them away. In
the process, I could feel how everything within me changed, looking at
them with a horrible, hateful and piercing look full of anger. I left, and as
I drove past one family member, I shouted “what are looking at?!” In that
split second, I saw hurt, humiliation and hopelessness in his eyes, and the
anger and contempt he had towards me was obvious. I struggled for years
to deal with that incident.
My tongue cut deeply, hurting those people around me as “I spoke my
mind and called a spade a spade”. Not having any grace and mercy for
anyone’s feelings caused much damage to relationships with my family
and friends. Often, I justified myself for my actions with words such as,
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Although I justified myself in so many ways, deep within I knew it was
not right; however, I just could not help myself to overcome.
I started dealing with unforgiveness for all the major issues such as
spiritual, emotional and physical damage without knowing that there were
lies behind why I struggled to truly forgive people. It became better, but
I was not free yet. I will explain later in Chapter 3 how I went through the
different stages of anger.
From the age of three to four years and again at 19 years, I had to deal
with molestation from a loved one. Instead of protecting me and giving
me a safe haven, he harmed me in several ways. As the years passed, I lost
all my respect and confidence in him; he drove us with fear, which I only
overcame in my forties. Later on, I also had to deal with a guy that raped
me on a blind date; strangely, this was much easier to deal with than the
abuse by a family member and authority figure.
There were plenty of these anger outbursts and the closer I came to the
Lord, the more I struggled to live with myself while the outbursts still
continued. Asking forgiveness from my loved ones did more harm than
good because the anger manifestations did not stop. I often cried myself
to sleep; this was not who I wanted to be, but I could not help myself.
Out of my own experience, I can say that the Word of God is true;
whatever comes out of our mouth, all our negative words and attitudes,
comes from the heart. This is what makes us unclean and defiles us.
But whatever comes out of the mouth comes from the heart, and this is what
makes a man unclean and defiles [him]. Matthew 15:18
I felt in control when I had these anger outbursts, even to the point that
I started to believe this is who I was. I was created this way; sometimes I
felt so angry towards God for all the unfair and unrighteous things that
happened to me that I blame shifted; at times, it felt the world owed me
or that I had inherited this anger, and unknowingly started to take revenge
in various ways. Unless you confront your actions, you are not aware of
the underlying reasons and motives for your behaviour. Only once you
start dealing with unforgiveness will all these reasons, motives and lies
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For years I had an inner struggle with anger and unforgiveness towards
myself for various reasons. One such incident was when my brother
passed when I as twelve. We had a wonderful time when he had his first
weekend off from the army. His second time off, we had a fight over the
weekend. The Sunday before he left, he asked me to help him make his
bed. I was still angry at him and replied, “you can do it yourself!” Off
course, he did it himself and left.
Unbeknown to me, this would be the last time I would ever see him or
speak to him; he was in a car accident on his next weekend off. He passed
on his way to the hospital. In those days, telephone communication was
not as convenient as today, so it was not that easy to ask forgiveness unless
you wrote a letter or waited for his next visit. Needless to say, I could
never apologise and ask for forgiveness. Only in my forties could I deal
with this unforgiveness toward myself.
It eventually became much easier to forgive others their trespasses;
however, I still had to learn to deal with some tough challenges, such as
emotional, mental, and physical abuse and huge financial losses when
Christian people intentionally harmed me, and a church leader accused
me falsely and badmouthed me. I am so grateful and thankful for it all, as
it taught me to deal with true forgiveness. I had to experience and come
to the understanding of God’s unconditional love, not that I fully
understand as yet, as His love is so encompassing. However, I learned
how the process works when I do wrong: with remorse ask forgiveness,
He forgives and never thinks of it again. I learned how to truly forgive
others and myself, and now rest in God’s peace.
Everything made me stronger and taught me to find the lies behind
unforgiveness. Through this, I could understand the struggle that people
have with unforgiveness.
I learned how to forgive myself for all the mistakes I made and for the
hurt, pain, stress, anxiety and fear I caused others. Recently, two incidents
surfaced where realised I was still struggling. The first was somebody that
could not forgive me for all the harm I caused. The second one was where
I thought I had dealt with self-forgiveness, but an incident took place that

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showed me that I still harboured self-hatred. I will discuss both of them
as we move along.
Since the day I became born again, I have been seeking for the deeper
things of God in His Trinity. I know there is much more to just being
born again. To be born again is only the beginning as a child of God. God
is faithful, and the Holy Spirit teaches me day by day as I spend more time
in relationship with Him. It has not been an easy road, but I would never
exchange it for anything. I honour the Lord Jesus Christ for my struggles
and the road I walked; it truly is worth it, although it was not easy. I
learned much and am still learning, and I am grateful to share this
information with you. Should you choose to, it will help you to be set free
from this spirit of unforgiveness and not be stuck in it for years as I was.
May my testimony give you hope to make the choice to practically deal
with this spirit of unforgiveness.
God’s heart for you is to come into His rest and live in His peace, and to
love Him with all your heart, soul and mind by loving your neighbour as
yourself.
All He asks is that you call upon Him.
For You, O Lord, are good, and ready to forgive [our trespasses, sending
them away, letting them go completely and forever]; and You are abundant in
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 Chapter 1
COME, WALK WITH ME?
Perhaps you have already forgiven everyone and only reading this book
because you are curious. Maybe you are a non-believer and you struggle
to forgive people, or you are a believer but you still struggle with
unforgiveness; maybe you are angry at this “loving God” who does bad
things or lets bad things happen to you or your loved ones; you might be
so angry towards others for everything that happens or has happened to
you; you feel they have to ‘pay or suffer’ for their wrongdoings, and when
you forgive, they are unfairly absolved from their wrongdoing or that you
are in agreement with what they did; maybe you are sick and you know it
is due to the hurt, bitterness, hatred, anger and unforgiveness or perhaps
you are not aware that it causes you to be sick; maybe you keep forgiving
but the person does not stop with their wrongdoing; maybe you struggle
with injustice or racial hatred or with people that do not want to forgive
you your wrongdoings; maybe you are not are aware that you need to
forgive yourself or struggle to forgive yourself.
Whatever your reason might be, welcome to this path of discovery! May
you benefit from this material, whatever your specific circumstances!
Then Peter came up to Him and said, Lord, how many tomes may my brother
sin against me and I forgive him and let it go? [As many as] up to seven
times? Jesus answered him, I tell you, not up to seven times, but seventy times
seven! Matthew 18:21-22
Thank you for allowing me to walk this road with you; it is a huge privilege
and an honour. Many people have wonderful testimonies where they
could immediately forgive, but it is not the same for everyone. In my case,
I struggled for years with this hurt, anger and anger outbursts, moodiness
and a terrible attitude. Although I did forgive regularly, it was not true
forgiveness and I struggled for years to get breakthrough because I did
not fully understand how forgiveness works. I believe I can now say that
I have worked through it properly and I am set free from this spirit of
unforgiveness because I dealt with the lies behind unforgiveness in each

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incident. When you have dealt with these lies, transformation or a change
of heart takes place, knowing that you are free and that you have dealt
with unforgiveness. Once you are free and you understand the process, it
will be easier to deal with future situations of unrighteousness and
wickedness so that you can guard your heart and not be trapped in this
spirit of unforgiveness again.
May God’s Word, my testimonies and the practical sessions help you to
deal with unforgiveness and be set free, should you choose to deal with
it.
It is important to not only read parts of the book, but to read it in full to
make sure that you understand the content and process; work through it
carefully so that you can apply the principles as part of your daily living.
The aim of this book is to receive the following (measure yourself against
these goals at the end of Chapter 10):

• Understanding why it is exactly seventy times seven, and to

understand God’s grace, mercy and unconditional love. I will use
the Word of God to show His exactness.
• Understand that hurt, pain, irritation, frustration, anger and anger-
related emotions are only the outflow of unforgiveness.
• There is a lie/s that needs to be identified to truly forgive.
• Practical sessions to help with forgiveness
• Change or transformation takes place after forgiveness (true
forgiveness is a heart change and not only a mind and mouth
action)

We will look at the bigger picture in His Word to understand God’s great-
ness and unconditional love for us humans.
Firstly, I would like to invite you to please pray this prayer before you start
so that the Holy Spirit can give you revelation in an even deeper and
practical way. I regularly pray this prayer for myself and others.
Father, your Word says our fight is not against flesh and blood but mighty
through God to break down strongholds. I therefore break down every plan of

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 the enemy against the true knowledge of God in my own life, and I take captive
every though to the obedience of Jesus Christ as well as to be ready to punish
every disobedience, when my own submission and obedience are fully secure and
complete. Father, I ask that you grant me the Spirit of wisdom and revelation
in the knowledge of Jesus Christ, the eyes of my understanding being
enlightened that I may know what is the hope of my calling and the riches of
the glory of my inheritance as a saint. What Your immeasurable and
unlimited and surpassing greatness is for me who believe, which exerted in
Christ when You raised Him from the dead seated at Your right hand in
heaven. I pray that You will give me according to Your riches of Your Glory
to strengthen me through the Holy Spirit with might and power in my inner
man that through my faith, Christ will dwell in my heart. That I may be
rooted and grounded in love, to comprehend with all the saints what the
breadth, length, height and depth of the Love of Jesus Christ is, that I might
be filled with all the fullness of God. Father, I ask this in the name of Jesus
Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:4-6; Ephesians 1:17-19 and Ephesians
3:16-19
We will look at some aspects in depth to gain more insight into why Jesus
said we must forgive seventy times seven. To find these answers, we will
also need more insight into the history of God’s chosen people, the Jews.
We will also check to make sure that we have forgiven. Often, I find that
people thought they had forgiven just to discover it was still latent or
dormant somewhere. With this process, we will ensure that you are free
from unforgiveness, if you are willing. I can testify that until I dealt with
the lies behind it, I was not truly set free from the spirit of unforgiveness.
Working though this book will help you to make sure you have fully dealt
with unforgiveness since this is the most important aspect of eternal life.
Unforgiveness directs our lives into a downward spiral and then we
wonder how we ended up in a place we did not choose.
Full forgiveness will bring you God’s peace and freedom that transcends
human understanding. I would love for you to also experience His peace
and freedom and to learn to protect your heart in a world of wickedness
and unrighteousness.

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Forgiveness is the most important aspect to deal with as the GOSPEL
is exactly about FORGIVENESS out of LOVE.
We will intently look at and deal with hurt, anger and unforgiveness. I
ask that you be patient with me as I give you powerful tools to empower
you to be set free and stay free from a spirit of unforgiveness, should you
apply it as and when incidents occur.
We are living in an evil and wicked world, filled with hurt, pain, bitterness,
hatred, anger and aggression that will only worsen as we are nearing the
end. We cannot afford to grow cold in our love for one another, since we
could become part of the masses who will be lost. Our circumstances or
actions of people around us that hurt us could lead to feelings of irritation,
frustration, anger, aggression, bitterness or hatred.
Will unrighteousness stop? No! Should you arrive at an answer of “unfair”
in the practical session, I trust you will find your answer as you work
through the process. I will not spoil or influence your answer by sharing
mine. Once you have dealt with unforgiveness, you will learn to protect
your heart from future hurtful events.
As you read through the chapters, you will come to the understanding of
why He said seventy times seven and how the process works.
Let us test where you stand with forgiveness.

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 Chapter 2
ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE
FORGIVEN?
What do you think about forgiveness and what it entails? From here on
you can use all your answers in the practical sessions in Chapter 10.
What would you say is the current state of your heart concerning hurt,
pain, irritation, frustration, sarcasm, anger or anger outbursts, bitterness,
hatred and unforgiveness?
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What is your understanding of unforgiveness and what does unforgive-
ness mean to you? How do you apply unforgiveness in your own life?
________________________________________________________
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Could you say that you are free from all unforgiveness towards any
person, God and yourself?
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Is your answer perhaps one of the following?
1. I have already worked through forgiveness.
Test yourself:
Without being religious or blocking your emotions, be true and honest
with yourself about what you harbour in your heart. How do you react
when you think of the person that harmed you and when you think of the
incident where the hurt took place?
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How would you react if you had to come across the person whom you
say you have forgiven?
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What emotions come to mind, or what do you sense at the thought of
meeting or seeing the person?
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Did you feel discomfort in your spirit? Did you experience hurt,
unhappiness or anger? Would you look the other way, ignore him or her,
or pretend you did not see them? If you should see the person again,
would you greet and pretend to be in a hurry because you feel uncom-
fortable, and suppress your emotion intentionally or unknowingly; maybe
feel shame, guilt, conviction, or inferior; withdrawn, or indignant? Or
perhaps something else? Your answer will speak a thousand words. If you
still sense negative emotions, have negative thoughts, or would avoid the
person, or for any reason you are not satisfied with what you feel, it means
you have not properly dealt with forgiveness yet.
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What do you believe is the cause for your actions?
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How do you feel about God?
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Do you perhaps feel that you have lost confidence in God, or do you feel
angry at God? Does it feel you have no relationship with God? Why does
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How do you feel about yourself? Are you able to say that you love your-
self?
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Should there still be negative emotions or thoughts, or you prefer to rather
ignore the person, or you do not have a relationship with God, you have
forgiven others but still struggle to forgive yourself, there are others that
can’t forgive you or don’t want to, or anything that you do not feel happy
with, it could mean that you have not dealt with unforgiveness properly.
As we proceed by dealing with unforgiveness, you will understand your
reactions better.
2. I have forgiven but will never forget

I can testify that despite having forgiven many times, the moment I
opened my mouth, I blabbered about all the bad people did to me. Your
mind is filled with it, it constantly bothers you and you talk about it all the
time. All these negative thoughts influence your emotions and affect your
quality of life negatively. I often hear people say: “I will forgive but will
never forget.” Sorry, but if you still have negative emotions and hold their
wrongdoing against them, you have not yet dealt with unforgiveness!
Once we have truly forgiven, we will no longer speak, think or feel
negatively, or hold it against the person. If you have dealt with
unforgiveness and you still speak negatively and cannot testify of what
God has done in the situation, you have not dealt with unforgiveness
properly. Once you have truly dealt with unforgiveness, your heart will
testify because the mouth speaks out of the abundance of the heart.
What comes from your mouth?
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3. I have forgiven but the relationship will never be the same

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I have also experienced that although I had forgiven, I believed the
relationship would never be the same again. It is important to find the lie
behind this and work through forgiveness. Every time Jesus forgave me,
I experienced that our relationship became stronger. This He also expects
from us: that we will have a stronger relationship once we have forgiven.
Please note that I refer to normal circumstances.
If you have forgiven and you still believe that the relationship will never
be the same, answer the questions below and use your answers later in the
Practical Chapter 10.
Why do you believe your relationship will never be the same?
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What do you believe blocks it?
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What do you have to do to get the relationship to be the same or even
better?
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4. I am not being forgiven

Maybe you have hurt someone and still need to ask their forgiveness, or
maybe you asked forgiveness and they are not willing to forgive you.
Maybe you feel God does not want to or cannot forgive you. We will deal
with these questions as we move along.
5. I can’t forgive myself

This is by far the most difficult thing to do: to forgive oneself. Nothing is
too big or too small for God to not forgive us, yet somehow, we struggle
to forgive ourselves for what we are doing wrong or have done wrong,
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others. We will work through Forgiveness in Chapter 8 and the Practical
Sessions Chapter 10 to ensure that we deal with unforgiveness toward
self.
Once Jesus forgives you your transgressions, He never thinks of it again.
This is truly His grace and love for us.
I, even I, am He Who blot out and cancels your transgressions, for My own
sake, and I will not remember your sins. Isa 43:25
FORGIVENESS will bring forth RECONCILIATION
Forgiveness removes the bitterness, hatred, hurt, pain and anger related
to what happened once the lies have been being removed.
True forgiveness in normal circumstances will give us the boldness to
freely communicate with the person, building a deeper relationship with
one another and even be in a position to help the person to become free
as well. True forgiveness will let you pray and intercede for the person.
Please note that one can only reconcile after forgiveness in the case of
abuse, molestation, or rape if the perpetrator has also received deliverance
and counselling and is free. It is always wise to be led by the Holy Spirit
in order to know when it is not good to be in contact with the person you
forgave; however, be sure to test yourself first: take note of emotions that
surface when you see a picture of the person or hear about them. This
will tell you whether you have properly worked through forgiveness. If
negative emotions still arise, there may be other lies that you still believe,
such as fear, inferiority, etc. You could deal with any other lies by using
the ‘Your Key to Victory’ book. Details are available in Chapter 11
Once you have truly forgiven a person, you will be able to interact again
in normal circumstances or start passionately praying for the person.
Then, you know that you have truly forgiven.
6. I am too hurt or too angry

Should you struggle with hurt, anger or anger-related emotions, you still
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Not everyone who needs to forgive struggles with anger. Some people
experience severe pain and heartache as a result of being hurt, which
makes them believe something negative about the circumstances,
themselves or God. The enemy uses many lies to keep us in bondage,
even as far back as in the womb. He repeats these lies through repeated
or successive incidents or imparts more lies through other incidents. You
could find more information in ‘Your Key to Victory’ guide. Information
is available in Chapter 11.
Here is the list of possible emotions to measure whether you still need
to work through forgiveness.
Please note these are only indications and may vary from person to
person. What is important is to find the lies behind why one is not to be
able to forgive. Once you have identified the lie/lies, it is imperative to
let the Holy Spirit give you the truth about the lie so that you are able to
forgive. We will discuss this in the Practical Chapter 10.
The most common emotions related to anger where forgiveness is
needed, are as follows:
ANGER
Aggressiveness – leads to hostility and being easily provoked
Criticalness – leads to sarcasm and scepticism
Being Distant – leads to withdrawal and suspiciousness
Frustration - leads to irritation and infuriation
Hatefulness – leads to resentment and violations
Hurt – leads to embarrassment and feeling devastated
Feeling Mad – leads to fury and enragement
Feeling Threatened – leads to insecurity and jealousy
Fear in some cases may also be under this category - leads to anxiety and
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 7. It is impossible to forgive

You might say to me, “You have no idea what you are talking about”, or
“You have no idea what I have been through”. “How do you expect me
to forgive someone for what they have done to me or my loved ones”?
“I am too angry, or too hurt to forgive.” You might even say, “I don’t feel
like forgiving” or “I am not ready to forgive”. You might even say, “How
can I forgive a person who continues to do the same thing?”
You are right, as the process needs to start by making a choice to look
for the underlying reasons and lies why you are unable or do not want
to forgive.
Forgiveness is perhaps one of the hardest things to work through,
particularly if you have been through much trauma or have been hurt very
badly, or if the abuse is ongoing. It is truly not easy to ‘face’ it and deal
with it; however, a tangible sense of relief and freedom follows once it is
done. I will be sharing secrets about forgiveness that will indeed help you
to work through it properly.
In South Africa, there is so much anger, bitterness, hatred, murder and
unforgiveness, yet we are taught to forgive in spite of what happened.
People really do struggle with forgiveness because they are unaware that
these emotions have lies behind them or that there is a CHOICE
involved to deal with these lies to be truly set free from a spirit of
unforgiveness. As long as we continue in this spirit of unforgiveness,
which is not from God, He will not change and restore our country.
The words ‘but’ and ‘because’ play an important role in unforgiveness
because we like to justify ourselves to find a reason why we should not
forgive.
We will deal intensely with anger and unforgiveness and I ask that you
bear with me; I will give you powerful tools to enable you to be sure that
you can be set free and stay free from harbouring unforgiveness.
These tools are effective to help you deal with future events that might
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We rarely or never make time to deal with forgiveness. It is easier to
ignore; however, this is most important because it could affect your
eternal life. There is a necessity for us to deal with unforgiveness as this is
the foundation of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I realised the necessity and
seriousness in my own life as well as in the lives of others. I have not had
one counselling session with people where we did not have to work
through forgiveness. Some had to forgive themselves or others, and even
dealing with anger towards God.
Does your heart condemn you in or with anything, or do you have
boldness before God? Should your heart still condemn you, what is the
reason?
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Should you still have something to deal with, now is the time to dealt with
unforgiveness for you to move from spiritual death to life.
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 Chapter 3
WHAT DOES ANGER ENTAIL?
We will look at anger more intensely and how to handle it.
1. What is a “trigger”?

A “trigger” could be a positive or a negative emotional reaction caused by

trauma or negative life experiences due to other people’s actions or words
spoken in your childhood. We need to receive God’s Truth within these
negative incidents to be set free from satan’s lies. A “trigger” is an asso-
ciation with trauma or negative life experiences stored in our sub-
conscious mind. A “trigger” in our current situation is something which
takes us back to an earlier negative life experience or trauma. I see a
“trigger” as a land mine. Once you step on the landmine, it explodes.
In other words, a negative “trigger” is a reaction from an association
with previous trauma or negative life experiences stored in our sub-
consciousness where we believe a lie about ourselves, our circumstances
or God. Then, when incidents take place that are related to these early
negative life experiences, we are “triggered” in the current situation or
incident.
Let me give you my idea of how I see anger and anger-related emotions.
It is as when an emotion/s are trapped in a pressure cooker. When the
stove plate is heated (when you are being “triggered”) the steam builds up
in the pot. The built-up steam releases (reaction of our negative
emotions), but if the stove is left on, it keeps building pressure until it
explodes, which causes damage and leaves a total mess to clean up. This
is exactly what happens with anger outbursts; it damages and leaves a total
mess in relationships just because of our hurt, the lies we believe about
ourselves, our circumstances or God, and not knowing how to deal with
it or choosing not to deal with it. Hurt, pain, irritation, frustration,
sarcasm, anger, anger outbursts, bitterness, and hatred are caused when
people’s bad, negative, wicked and unrighteous behaviour and actions
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circumstances or God. This keeps us in bondage through a spirit of
unforgiveness. When we identify the lies that we believe and why we are
not able or do not want to forgive, we can receive God’s Truth and
forgive. We will deal with this in depth as we move along.
Do not be quick in spirit to be angry or vexed, for anger and vexation lodge
in the bosom of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9
For 50 years I was a fool, stuck in anger, and being continually vexed
(annoyed, irritated, frustrated). For 22 of those years, I was a Christian.
Scary! Although I tried applying scripture and chose to forgive every time,
I did not achieve true forgiveness. Unknowingly, I went from aggressive
anger through all the anger types to silent anger (see Chapter 3), thinking
I had worked through the anger, yet my actions still revealed to me that I
needed to do deal with the reasons why I was not free yet. We all react
differently in anger, thinking we have dealt with unforgiveness; however,
we need to check our attitude as it will reveal whether we are still operating
in unforgiveness. Be sure to deal with it accordingly.
So many Christians unknowingly are stuck in unforgiveness; others hold
onto unforgiveness, and some might feel they will never overcome!
Sometimes people believe they have dealt with unforgiveness, but their
pain, hurt and outbursts are still visible. Unless they deal with these
emotions, they will not be truly set free from unforgiveness. It took me
years to learn how to deal with forgiveness and its lies and roots, and I
thank the Lord for walking this road with me while I am still learning. I
received much wisdom through my practical walk with unforgiveness,
which I am blessed to share and to help others to be set free.
But now put away and rid yourself [completely] of all these things: anger, rage,
bad feeling towards others, curses and slander, and foul-mouthed abuse and
shameful utterances from your lips! Colossians 3:8
The Word of God says, ‘rid yourself’. How does one rid yourself when
everything within you is like a pressure cooker ready to explode once you
“trigger” within incidents? Do you just keep quiet and suppress all the
screaming, foul language, anger, and wrath? Most definitely not! You have
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over the years is that you are not able to fix things from the outside when
everything on the inside is broken and full of lies; you need to fix the
inside (your brokenness and lies) for the outside to change. To try to fix
it from the outside includes trying to suppress the emotions by using self-
control; ignoring it by keeping your thoughts busy with activities or work
so as not to ‘face’ it; using medication, alcohol, drugs, or food, or by using
words like “build a bridge and get over it”. Unfortunately, we have to deal
with our emotions and lies to be set free.
The heart is the wellspring of life, and what the heart is filled with will
come forth from the mouth (Proverbs 4:23 & Matthew 15:18). It is
therefore important to cleanse the heart so that what comes from the
mouth is acceptable to the Lord. Laying down your life starts with
searching the heart and the intentions thereof. The enemy came to steal,
kill and destroy, and he does so time after time due to the lies we hold on
to not forgive. Unforgiveness is one spirit that needs to be dealt with.
Satan uses people, unsaved and saved, closest to us to hurt us because of
spiritual open doors, which cause us to believe lies about our circum-
stances, ourselves or God. We need to deal with all unforgiveness to
pursue peace with everybody as well as consecration and holiness.
Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that
consecration and holiness without which no one will [ever] see the
Lord. Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to
see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His
unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of
resentment (rancor, bitterness or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble
and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it.
Hebrews 12:14-15
These are serious scriptures, and we need to take them to heart and do
what the Word says. We should look out for one another so that we do
not fall from God’s grace. Forgiveness is not easy, neither is sanctification
and becoming holy; however, if you take the first step, God is faithful and
will help you in this process. I have experienced that, once you start, you
will find it becomes easier and you will not want to stop, even to the point
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the Word says, without sanctification and holiness, we will not see the
Lord.
The Word of God prompts us to rid ourselves from the following:
Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad
temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarrelling (brawling,
clamour, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous
language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness
of any kind). Ephesians 4:31
It is almost impossible to guard your heart if it is not yet free from hurt,
pain, anger and anger-related, bitterness, hatred and unforgiveness. We
have to deal with these emotions that are indicators of a need for
forgiveness. It is really important to help one another to be free from
anger; there are consequences as the scripture explains below.
Not dealing with hurt, anger, hatred and bitterness and sharing your
negative experiences with others defiles their attitude towards the parties
in question. Rather deal with these negative emotions such as hurt, pain,
anger, bitterness, and hatred as these emotions are clear indicators that
unforgiveness needs to be extended.
A man of great wrath shall suffer the penalty; for if you deliver him [from the
consequences], he will [feel free to] cause you to do it again. Hear counsel,
receive instruction, and accept correction, that you may be wise in the time to
come. Proverbs 19:19-20
Considering the destructive nature of anger, I have learned that irrespec-
tive of what happened to you, it remains your responsibility to deal
with unforgiveness.
Unforgiveness keeps you in bondage; it defiles you and influences many
areas of your life. It can influence the way you think, the way you treat
people, the way you see yourself, and how you live life. Anger eventually
becomes you! Somebody that you do not want to be, and someone you
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The worst of it is that often, the ones who hurt you do not even know
that they have done so, which means that YOU are the one who is
imprisoned, not them. Once you forgive, you will be set free. In other
words, forgiveness is all about YOUR freedom.
Everything starts with YOURSELF first and not with the others. When
YOU change, people around you will start to change as they notice the
changes in you resulting from what God has done for you after you have
applied these tools. We cannot change people; only God can, but we can
help the process for them by being the change they want to see. We can
try to change by applying external methods; however, if change does not
happen WITHIN yourself, a heart change, no permanent transformation
will take place.
2. How does anger work?
Anger usually flows from hurt caused through:
a. Unrighteousness / Injustice
b. Being Insulted / Offended
c. Fear in some instances
d. Wrong choices that you, or people close to you, made
3. What does anger do?
3.1 Makes us as emotionally ‘deaf’ and ‘blind’
When people harbour anger, they are not able to hear and accept
correction, and they usually justify themselves. They do not want to hear
that they are at fault, although deep inside they know they are wrong. They
are ‘blind’ and ‘deaf’ to their own negative reactions and their attitudes
towards others. The anger mentioned in point number 2 above is caused
due to being hurt by people’s actions that makes us believe a lie. Every
time it is unconsciously “triggered”, we react in anger or with anger-
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 But he who hates (detests, despises) his brother [in Christ] is in darkness and
walking (living) in the dark; he is straying and does not perceive of now where
he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes. 1 John 2:11
3.2 Hardens your heart
Anger can harden people’s hearts to the point that they turn from God
and choose never to deal with unforgiveness. Unforgiveness will prevent
you from restoring your relationship with God the Father, with family, or
with other people. Unforgiveness can prevent you from believing in God.
It will keep you in bondage, even if you might not think you are in
bondage. Your life will testify of either forgiveness or unforgiveness.
But instead warn (admonish, urge, and encourage) one another every day, as
long as it is called Today, that none of you may be hardened [into settled
rebellion] by the deceitfulness of sin [by the fraudulence, the stratagem, the
trickery which the delusive glamor of this sin play on him]. Hebrews 3:13
3.3 Destroys
A man of wrath stirs up strife, and a man given to anger commits and causes
much transgression. Proverbs 29:22
Unforgiveness destroys families, friendships, relationships, and our
relationship with God. Sometimes restoration never takes place just
because people chose not to deal with unforgiveness. Anger and unfor-
giveness are destructive; they consume one like cancer, even to the point
of suicide. They spread like a contagious disease if you are not totally free
from unforgiveness. Unforgiveness builds a wall between you and your
loved ones and between you and God.
For jealousy makes [the wronged] man furious; therefore he will not spare in
the day of vengeance [upon the detected one]. Proverbs 6:34
Jealousy plays a huge role in anger and needs to be dealt with. There could
be several reasons why a person struggles with anger: they might not feel
good enough; they feel inferior, are fearful or distrust, which also leads to
unforgiveness. It is important to deal with the lies behind unforgiveness
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Sharing your anger and unforgiveness with others who are not mature and
free from anger becomes contagious. It stirs up their anger and unforgive-
ness, especially when the anger and unforgiveness is directed towards
people they know or family members that you harbour anger or rage
towards, according to Hebrews 12:14-15. Angry people are people who
are hurting and because they do not know how to deal with their hurt, or
choose not to dealt with it, which needs forgiveness, they tend to hurt
others. I like to use the saying “Hurting people hurt others”, as that is
what I was doing for many years. Instead of dealing with unforgiveness,
people blame shift or justify themselves not to forgive.
3.4 Creates fear
Mostly, anger and rage create fear in the other party, and generally people
do not have the courage to correct a person who harbours anger and rage
due to their fear of what will happen, or the fear of being hurt again. Most
often, trying to correct an angry or raging person makes them worse if the
correction is attempted during an act of rage or anger. It can lead to verbal,
mental, or physical abuse.
It is extremely difficult to handle another person’s anger outbursts. Once
the outburst has settled and should the person be open and receptive for
correction, you can talk about the incident in love and offer help or refer
them for counselling. I suggest if you are spiritually mature, to pray before
the time for the Lord to prepare the person’s heart. Should it not be
possible, prayer is the answer as the effectual prayer of a righteous person
availeth much.
3.5 Voices
Anger and unforgiveness may cause you to hear many voices in your head.
You are continually in conversation in your thoughts about the incident.
Most often, this is where people will numb themselves with alcohol or
other substances to try to quiet their mind and emotions. They find it
easier to escape than to deal with the hurt and reality.
Satan cannot read your mind, but he can create incidents through people
and plant thoughts in your mind, as he did with Judas Iscariot, which
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torture you day and night until you start dealing with them. Also see the
notes in 4.3 about ‘Silent Anger’.
3.6 Revenge
Repay no one evil for evil… Beloved, never avenge, yourselves, but leave the
way open for [God’s] wrath; for it is written, Vengeance is Mine, I will repay
(requite), says the Lord. Romans 12:17a, 19
Anger, hurt and unforgiveness could lead one to take revenge, especially
with ongoing unrighteousness. Taking revenge is not always to react in
anger; sometimes, the hurt and pain or the overwhelming disappointment
also lead to revenge. Revenge has so many shapes and forms, and it is
crucial to deal with it to be truly set free.
3.7 Build a wall
We tend to build a wall to protect us from further hurt and pain due to
people’s misbehaviour and actions. We tend to lock people out of our
lives and emotions instead of dealing with these lies they made us believe
about our circumstances, ourselves or God. If you have built a wall, it is
important to deal with the lies that keep you in bondage. You will be able
to deal with it in the Practical Chapter 10.
4. People respond out of anger in different ways.
Let us look at some of the different types of anger:
4.1 Aggressive and angry tempers
When unrighteous circumstances are not immediately dealt with, more
incidents will build up until eventually one day, one small thing “triggers”,
and a rage outburst ensues. Such people usually shout, scream, or act out
in rage to hurt others emotionally, mentally, or physically. They are known
for their violence and their physical destructiveness, such as throwing
objects, damaging property, harming others, and self-harming.
They also throw verbal insults and threats. They raise their voices to
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know deep inside that they are wrong, they will intimidate, yell, and even
blame until they get their way, which is sometimes a way of manipulation.
Anger gives a false sense of security in the fact that the person feels in
control when they are driving people through fear. Usually, they will not
target people who oppose or resist them, preferring to use soft targets.
Once angry people have had an outburst, they feel temporarily relieved
and are blind to the effect or the scars they left on the people around
them. This then creates hurts that lead to anger in other people, which in
turn becomes a vicious circle: they feel guilty for their behaviour, which
causes them to hate themselves, and the more they hate themselves, the
more they have these outbursts.
They can also induce the people around them to lie in an attempt to avoid
anger outbursts. Their hurt and anger could cause them to become self-
centred people, which could become narcissism or “gaslighting”.
However, once a person starts dealing with the anger and tears their heart
before the Lord, they eventually become aware of the scars and damage
they caused. The process of asking forgiveness can then start; most of the
time, they will also need to deal with self-forgiveness (of which I can
testify) when they realise the damage they have caused.
4.2 Annoyance and Anger
Annoyance and anger usually occur when somebody does something the
person did not want or like. The want things to be done their way and if
it does not happen, they get irritated and frustrated because they do not
feel in control anymore, and this can lead to impatience and anger. When
things do not go the way they want them to go, it leaves them unsatisfied.
They do not see themselves as having a problem but perceive the others
to be the ones who irritated or frustrated them, leaving them annoyed and
angry. Most often, they have to deal with control due to them being a
victim of trauma.

4.3 Silent Anger

Silent anger is revealed by body language and tone of voice. I find
Christians operate in silent anger because they were taught to do the right
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unforgiveness properly. They rather suppress it all; however, their attitude
will somehow reveal it in either in the body language, facial expressions
or the tone of voice.
People who have silent anger usually are afraid to express their anger as it
might “trigger” themselves, or upset or hurt the other person. There are
Christian doctrines that believe you have to control yourself with these
negative emotions instead of dealing with the root thereof to be set free.
They believe you should only exercise self-control over your negative
emotions and not deal with the roots; in some instances, they are trying
to avoid conflict because of fear or the feeling that they would not be able
to stand up for themselves.
Of course, then there is the ‘silent’ anger where the person just ignores
the one that hurt or angered them. These people tend to share their hurt
or anger with friends and relatives without dealing with the problem.
Silent anger could be dangerous in the sense that you keep everything
bottled up inside you, yet your thoughts are being defiled. When you are
deeply hurt and feel disappointment, failure, or rejection, for instance, you
take refuge in reason and the fight is in your thoughts.
Revengeful people might even make plans on how to take revenge on the
people hurting them. The devil will keep you in bondage to these negative
thoughts until it all ends in destruction.
When I was alone, I have even found myself speaking as if I were having
a fight with the other person. The same can happen with all types of anger.

4.4 Justifying Anger

Such people will justify their anger and will always have a reason for their
behaviour or their anger-related emotions. They turn their emotions of
vulnerability and helplessness into emotions of control and power.
Angry people also tend to blame shift and nurture self-pity; therefore,
it becomes very difficult for them to be set free, unless they truly face
these emotions and deal with them. Also, the unrighteous actions that
were perpetrated against them could lead them to live with a victim
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 4.5 Suppressed Anger
People consciously cover their anger by controlling and suppressing their
emotions and thoughts, either to avoid conflict or out of fear. They think
the anger will go away when they suppress it, and they avoid conflict
situations. This could lead to illnesses or depression.

Should you identify anger or anger-related emotions while reading

through the book, I suggest you work through the Practical Chapter 10.

Rend your hearts and not your garments and return to the Lord, your God,
for He is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and abounding in loving
kindness, and He revokes His sentence of evil [when His conditions are met].
Joel 2:13

Dealing with anger, hurt, bitterness, hatred and forgiveness means

searching your heart’s motives and intentions, your reason for doing
things. In which ways do you protect yourself from the people who need
your forgiveness? If you read Jonah, you will see that even the Lord con-
fronted Jonah because he was angry. You need to find the hindrances
that prevent you from implementing forgiveness and being purified
(Galatians 5:7). You must confront yourself, and if you spend time with
the Word, you will be confronted since Jesus is the Word (John 1:1).

Hebrews 4:12 - The Word of God is:

• alive and full of power,

(Jesus Who is the Word, brings life and life in
abundance through His blood. There is power in the
cross. His Word teaches, leads, and admonishes us,
and is powerful in all our situations)
• sharper than any two-edged sword that penetrates,
(there is nothing sharper than the Word of God.
When spending time in the Word, it cuts deeply)
• dividing the soul and the spirit,

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 (Our soul is where our mind and thoughts take place;
our soul needs to be saved and renewed to be filled
and to be led by God’s Spirit of Truth.)
• our joints and marrow,
(Be sanctified by Him, may your spirit, soul and body
be preserved sound and complete and be found
flameless at the coming of Jesus Christ.
1 Thessalonians 5:23
• and is a discerner of the thought and intents of the heart
(The Word – Jesus – judges, analyses or sifts our
thoughts and purposes of our heart, He searches the
reins and tests the heart. Jeremiah 17:10

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 Chapter 4
HATE
Let us look at hate and what the Word teaches about it. Please answer
these questions in honesty as there is no right or wrong answer. We will
deal with these answers as we move along.
How would you describe hatred and what does it mean to you to hate
someone?
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Do you hate anyone, and if so, who do you hate?
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The word hate is used more than 200 times in the Word of God.
Let us see what Google ‘definitions’ say about the word hate:
Hate, treated with contempt – the emotion of intense dislike; a feeling of
dislike so strong that it demands action, dislike intensely; feel antipathy or
eversion towards.
Synonyms, despise detested hated scorned.
Hateful, evoking or deserving hate, characterized by malice
Because hate is such a harsh and powerful word, people do not want to
acknowledge that they hate others. Maybe you only think of hate as
violence. The word ‘hate’ is usually verbalised when an anger outburst
takes place. Hate could start with an intense dislike but if not dealt with,
it could escalate into violence. God’s Word is clear about the things
people do that God hates.
Hate is the direct opposite of love. It is like two magnetic poles that push
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God loves us so much but hates the wrong we do. God has a fierce dislike
of what is not according to His will, and therefore He reprimands us in
His Word to let go of evil.
We know that the Law is spiritual; but I am a creature of the flesh [carnal,
unspiritual], having been sold into slavery under [the control of] sin. For I do
not understand my own actions [I am baffled, bewildered]. I do not practise
of accomplish what I wish, but I do the very thing that I loathe [which my
moral instinct condemns]. Romans 7:14-15
For the desires of the flesh are opposed to the [Holy] Spirit, and the [desires
of the] Spirit are opposed to the flesh (godless human nature); for these are
antagonistic to each other [continually withstanding and in conflict with each
other], so that you are not free but are prevented from doing what you desire
to do. Galatians 5:17
How often don’t we find ourselves in situations like these? Our flesh
causes us to stumble so easily; therefore, it is so necessary to crucify our
fleshly desires daily because of the conflict between the Spirit and the
flesh.
Anyone who loves his life loses it, but anyone who hates his life in this world
will keep it to life eternal. [Whoever has no love for, no concern for, no regards
for his life here on earth, but despises it, preserves his life forever and ever.]
John 12: 25
If you love your life, you will lose it; die to yourself daily by pursuing
purification and sanctification. More of Jesus Christ and less of you.
Hate can be good or bad because it is also a fierce dislike of not being
obedient to God’s Word or hating what He hates or the wickedness of
what was done to us. When we continually struggle with repeated injustice
against us, anger, aggression, and anger outbursts follow, with disastrous
results.
The hate we cherish towards others develops as a result of physical or
spiritual damage when we are treated inappropriately or unjustly. We then
hate the person instead of what they have done, which makes it difficult
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 Whoever says he is in the Light and [yet] hates his brother [Christian, born-
again child of God his Father] is in darkness even until now. But he who
hates (detests, despises) his brother [in Christ] is in darkness and walking
(living) in the dark; he is straying and does not perceive or know where he is
going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes. 1 John 2:9,11
Who would you say are your brothers?
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From the Word of God, we know that every person that confesses Jesus
Christ has come in the flesh to the earth and has risen from death, they
are born-again children of God and are your brothers. Therefore, there is
no distinction between Jew or Greek, slave or free nor male and female
since we are all in Christ Jesus as we are all part of Abraham’s progeny,
and therefore, also heirs of God. All who are children of God are you
brothers.
There is [now no distinction] neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor
free, there is not male and female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. And if
you belong to Christ [are in Him Who is Abraham’s Seed], then you are
Abraham’s offspring and spiritual] heirs according to promise. Galatians
3:28-29
BELOVED, DO not put faith in every spirit, but prove (test) the spirits to
discover whether they proceed from God; for many false prophets have gone
forth into the world. By this you may know (perceive and recognize) the Spirit
of God: every spirit which acknowledges and confess [the fact] that Jesus Christ
(the Messiah) [actually] has become man and has come in the flesh is of God
[has God for its source]; And every spirit which does not acknowledge and
confess that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh [but would annul], destroy,
sever, disunite Him] is not of God [does not proceed from Him]. This no
confession] is the [spirit] of the antichrist, [of] which you heard that it was
coming, and now it is already in the world. We as [children] of God. Whoever
is learning to know God [progressively to perceive, recognize, and understand
God by observation and experience, and to het an ever-clearer knowledge of
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to us. By this we know (recognize) the Spirit of Truth and the spirit of error.
1 John 4:1-3,6
Because if you acknowledge and confess with your lips that Jesus is Lord and
in your heart believe (adhere to, trust in, and rely on the truth) that God
raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart a person
believes (adhere to, trust in and relies on Christ) and so is justified (declared
righteous, acceptable to God), and with the mouth confesses (declares openly
and speaks out freely his faith) and confirms [his] salvation. For everyone who
calls upon the name of the Lord [invoking Him as Lord] will be saved.
Rom 10:9-10,13
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is (springs) from God; and he who
loves [his fellowmen] is begotten (born) of God and is coming [progressively]
to know and understand God [to perceive and recognize and get a better and
clearer knowledge of Him]. He who does not love has not become acquainted
with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love. In this the
love of God was made manifest (displayed) where we are concerned: in that
God sent His Son, the only begotten of unique [Son], into the world so that
we might live through Him. In this is love: not that we loved God, but that
He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation (the atoning sacrifice) for
our sins. Beloved if God loves us so [very much], we also ought to love one
another. No man has at any time [yet] seen God. But if we love one another,
God abides (lives and remains) in us and His love (that love which is
essentially His) is brought to completion (to its full maturity, runs its full
course, is perfected) in us! By this we come to know (perceive, recognize, and
understand) that we abide (live and remain) in Him and He in us: because
He has given (imparted) to us His [Holy] Spirit. And [besides] we ourselves
have seen (have deliberately and steadfastly contemplated) and bear witness
that the Gather has sent the Son (as the) Saviour of the world. Anyone who
confesses (acknowledges, owns) that Jesus is die Son of God, God abides (lives,
makes His home) in God. And we know (understand, recognize, are
conscious of, by observation and by experience) and believe (adhere to and put
faith in and rely on) the love God cherishes for us. God is love, and he who
dwells and continues in love dwells and continues in God, and God dwells
and continues in him. In this [union and communion with Him] love is
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 confidence and boldness to face Him], because as He is, so are we in this
world. There is no fear in love [dread does not exist], but full-grown (complete,
perfect) love turns fear out of doors and expels every trace of terror! For fear
brings with it he thought of punishment, and [so] he who is afraid has not
reached the full maturity of love [is not yet grown into love’s complete
perfection]. We love Him because He first loved us. If anyone says, I love
God, and hates (detests, abominates) his brother [in Christ], he is a liar; for
he who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, Whom
he has not seen. And this command (charge, order, injunction) we have from
Him: that he who loves God shall love his brother [believer] also. 1 John
4:7-21
How do you know that you know God?
In 1 John 2:3-11, God gives as clear answers:
And this is how we may discern [daily, by experience] that we are coming to
know Him [to perceive, recognize, understand, and become better acquainted
with Him]: if we keep (bear in mind, observe, practice) His teachings
(precepts, commandments). Whoever says, I know Him [to perceive,
recognize, understand, and am acquainted with Him] but fails to keep and
obey His commandments (teachings) is a liar, and the Truth [of the Gospel]
is not in him. But he who keeps (treasures) His Word [who bears in mind
His precepts, who observes His message in its entirety], truly in him has the
love of and for God been perfected (completed, reached maturity). By this we
may perceive (know, recognize, and be sure) that we are in Him: Whoever
says he abides in Him ought [as a personal debt] to walk and conduct
himself in the same way in which He walked and conducted
Himself. Beloved, I am writing you no new commandment, but an old
commandment which you have had from the beginning; the old commandment
is the message which you have hear [the doctrine of salvation through Christ]
Yet I am writing you a new commandment, which is true (is realized) in Him
and in you, because the darkness (moral blindness) is clearing away and the
true Light (the revelation of God in Christ) is already shining. Whoever
says he is in the Light and [yet] hates his brother [Christian,
born-again child of God his Father] is in darkness even until
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 and in It or in him there is no occasion for stumbling or cause for error
or sin. But he who hates (detests, despises) his brother [in Christ]
is in darkness and walking (living) in the dark; he is straying and
does not perceive or know where he is going, because the darkness has
blinded his eyes. 1 John 2:3-11
When we keep God’s commandments. What are God’s commandments?
And this is His order (His command, His injunction): that we should believe
in (put our faith and trust in and adhere to and rely on) the name of His Son
Jesus Christ (the Messiah), and that we should love one another, just as He
has commanded us. By this we come to know (progressively to recognize, to
perceive, to understand) the [essential] love: that He laid down His [own] life
[those who are our] brothers [in Him]. But if anyone has this world’s goods
(resources for sustaining life) and sees his brother and fellow believer in need,
yet closes his heart of compassion against him, how can the love of God live
and remain in him? Anyone who hates (abominates, detests) his
brother [in Christ] is [at heart] a murderer, and you know
that no murderer has eternal life abiding (persevering)
within him. 1 John 3:23, 16-17, 15
When you do not love but live in unforgiveness, you are a murderer and
eternal life does not abide within you. You are then serving the father of
lies, the devil, who is a people killer because there is no truth in him. If
you live in unforgiveness, you have the devil as your father because you
listen to and live under his lies.
You are of the father, the devil, and it is your will to practice the lusts and
gratify the desires [which are characteristic] of your father. He was a
murderer form the beginning and does not stand in the truth, because there
is not truth in him. When he speaks a falsehood, he speaks what is natural
to him, for he is a liar [himself] and the father of lies and of all that is false.
John 8:44
This commandment is nothing new as it has been commanded since the
beginning that we should love another, not like Cain who killed his
brother Abel. The Children of God were then already revealed by their
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from death to Life and whoever does not forgive his bothers remains in
spiritual death.
We know that we passed over out of death into Life by the fact that we love
the brethren (our fellow Christians). He who does not love abides (remains, is
held and kept continually) in [spiritual death. 1 John 3:14
Whereas the object and purpose of our instruction is love, which springs from
a pre heart and a good (clear) conscience and sincere (unfeigned) faith.
1 Timothy 1:5
To love is also to carry one another’s burdens, which is the fulfilment of
the Law of Christ (Galatians 6:2). Take care of the widows and the
orphans in their afflictions, do what is right and learn to do good. So many
times, I have heard people say, “They should have made provision for
their circumstances”, or “they should have taken precaution to not have
children” or “they must go find a job”. How easy it is for us to turn our
backs or look the other way. If we do not extend grace to others, we
should also not expect grace from God or others. Look after the orphans
and widows in the time of their hardship, do what is right, and learn to do
good. If you do not extend mercy to others, you should not expect mercy
from God.
Yes, it is impossible to help everyone; but, do not harden you heart by not
extending grace should the Holy Spirit lay it upon your heart to help
someone. Never give out of guilt or be manipulated, but be led by the
Holy Spirit at all times. God loves a cheerful giver.
Learn to do right! Seek justice, relieve the oppressed, and correct the oppressor.
Defend the fatherless, plead for the widow. Isaiah 1:17
External religious worship [religious as it is expressed in outward acts] that
is pure and unblemished in the sight of God the Father is this: to visit and
help and care for the orphans and widow in their affliction and need, and to
keep oneself unspotted and uncontaminated from the world.
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 But if anyone has this world’s goods (resources for sustaining life) and sees his
brother and fellow believer in need, yet closes his heart of compassion against
him, how can the love of God live and remain in him? Little children, let us
not love [merely] in theory of in speech but in deed and in truth (in practice
and in sincerity). 1 John 3:17-18
Reading the above, can you say that you love in deed and in truth, and not
only with words?
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1 John 3 (please read the whole chapter).
Anyone that says they know God and does not keep His commandments
is a liar. Should you say that you know God, then you should also walk as
Jesus did. We fulfil the law of Christ when we carry one another’s burdens.
Bear (endure, carry) one another’s burdens and troublesome moral faults, and
in this way fulfil and observe perfectly the law of Christ (the Messiah) and
complete wat is lacking [in your obedience to it]. Galatians 6:2
The Word is clear that what you despise or severely disapprove of in your
brother brings darkness over you, and this darkness causes you to not
know where you are going as it blinds you.
But he who hates (detests, despises) his brother [in Christ] is in darkness and
walking (living) in the dark; he is straying and does not perceive or know
where he is ging, because the darkness has blinded his eyes. 1 John 2:11
If anyone says, I love God, and hates (detests, abominates) his brother [in
Christ], he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother, whom he has seen,
cannot love God, Whom he has not seen. And this command (charge, order,
injunction) we have from Him: that he who loves God shall love his brother
[believer] also. 1 John 4:20-21
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 You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your
enemy; But I tell you, Love your enemy and pray for those who persecute you,
To show that you are the children of your Father Who is in heaven; for He
makes His sun rise on the wicked and on the good, and makes rain fall upon
the upright and the wrongdoers [alike]. Matthew 5:43-45
Please read the full part of Romans 12:9-21 of the benevolence, humility
and fiery love we should have for our enemies.
[Let your] love be sincere (a real thing); hate what is evil [loathe all
ungodliness, turn in horror form wickedness], but hold fast to that which is
good. Do not let yourself be overcome by evil, bit overcome (master) evil with
good. Romans 12:9,21
LOVE is FORGIVENESS because Jesus died for the WHOLE of
humanity’s sin, those that lived before us, are living now and those who
will still come, so that we can extend forgiveness to one another as He
did to us. We will receive our reward when we show our love. Without
forgiveness which loves, we will not be able to show the fullness of love
to one another. To extend grace is what God wants us to give others for
their trespasses against us. When we as believers trespass or an unbeliever
asks forgiveness of sin, God forgives and forgets; what right do we have
to not show mercy and to not forgive?
And if you had only known what this saying means, I desire mercy [readiness
to help, to spare, to forgive] rather than sacrifice and sacrificial victims, you
would not have condemned the guiltless. For the Son of Man is Lord [even]
of the Sabbath. Matthew 12:7-8
For I desire and delight in dutiful steadfast love and goodness, not sacrifice,
and the knowledge of and acquaintance with God more than burnt offerings.
Hosea 6:6
For if you love those who love you, what reward can you have? Do not even
the tax collectors do that? Matthew 5:46
I think you will agree with me that is it much easier to love the people that
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To extend mercy and love by forgiving those that harmed you pleases
God because we obey His Word and do His Will.
Listen to what Samuel said:
Samuel said, Has the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices
as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifices,
and to hearken than the fat of rams. 1 Samuel 15:22
Go and learn what this means: I desire mercy [that is readiness to help
those in trouble] and not sacrifice and sacrificial victims. For I came not to
call and invite [to repentance] the righteous (those who are upright and in right
standing with God), but sinners (the erring ones and all those not free from
sin). Matthew 9:13
There are several related scriptures that you can read, and I encourage you
to study these further. Here are a few: Matthew 12:7, Mark 12:33, Micah
6:8, Psalm 40:7-10, Hebrews 10:1-18.
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 Chapter 5
WHY EXACTLY 70X7?
Have you ever wondered why Jesus said we must forgive seventy times
seven? We so often explain to people that to forgive someone means we
need to forgive them four hundred and ninety times, which is seventy
times seven, or we use Matthew 18 to tell about the owner who had mercy
on the debtor and written off his debt. But why exactly seventy times
seven forgiveness?
I would love to show you how calculated and perfect God’s love is for us.
I was so blessed when the Holy Spirit revealed the connection of why we
should forgive seventy times seven and not sixty-nine times seven or any
other number. I am not going to go too much into the history because I
would like us to get to the understanding of the greatness of seventy times
seven. Please do your own research on Israel’s history.
The Bible is written around God’s chosen people, the Israelites. God’s
chosen people the Jews were disobedient to His commands, which
caused them to go into exile. We will look at the seventy weeks and how
it works, but let us first read what happened and why they were
disobedient.
THE LORD said to Moses on Mount Sinai, Say to the Israelites, When
you come into the land which I give you, then shall the land keep a sabbath
to the Lord. For six years you shall sow your field, and for six years you shall
prune your vineyard and gather in its fruits. But in the seventh year there
shall be a sabbath of solemn rest for the land, a sabbath to the
Lord; you shall neither sow your field nor prune your vineyard. What grows
of itself in your harvest you shall not reap and the grapes on your uncultivated
vine you shall not gather, for it is a year of rest to the land. And the sabbath
rest of the [untilled] land shall [in its increase] furnish food for you, for your
male and female slaves, your hired servant, and the temporary resident who
lives with you, For your domestic animals also and for the [wild] beasts in
you land; all its yield shall be for food. And you shall number seven
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 of the seven weeks of years shall be forty-nine years. Then you shall sound
abroad the loud trumpet on the tenth day of the seventh month [almost
October]; on the Day of Atonement blow the trumpet in all your land. And
you shall hallow the fiftieth year and proclaim liberty throughout all the
land to all its inhabitants. It shall be a jubilee for you; and each of you shall
return to his ancestral possession [which through poverty he was compelled to
sell], and each of you shall return to his family [from whom he was separated
in bond service]. That fiftieth year shall be a jubilee for you; in it you
shall not sow, or reap and sore what grows of itself, or gather the grapes on the
uncultivated vines. For it is a jubilee; it shall be holy to you; you shall eat the
[sufficient] increase of it out of the field. In this Year of Jubilee each of you
shall return to his ancestral property. And if you sell anything to your neighbor
or buy from your neighbor, you shall not wrong one another. According to the
number of the years after the Jubilee, you shall buy from your neighbor. And
he shall sell to you according to the number of years [remaining in which you
may gather] the crops [before you must restore the property to him]. If the
years [to the next Jubilee] are many, you may increase the price, and if the
years remaining are few, you shall diminish the price, for the number of the
crops in what he is selling to you. You shall not oppress and wrong one
another, but you shall [reverently] fear your God. For I am the Lord your
God. Therefore you shall do and live effect to My statutes and keep My
ordinances and perform them, and you will dwell in the land in safety.
The land shall yield its fruit; you shall eat your fill and dwell there in
safety. And if you say, What shall we eat in the seventh year if we are not
to sow or gather in our increase? Then [this is My answer:] I will
command My [special] blessings on you in the sixth year; so that it
shall bring forth [sufficient] fruit for three years. And you shall sow in the
eighth year, but eat of the old store of produce; until the crops of the nineth
year come in you shall eat of the old supply. Leviticus 25:1-22
Let us see what the seventy weeks are about in the book of Daniel.
Seventy weeks [of years, or 490 years] are decreed upon your people
and upon your holy city [Jerusalem], to finish and put an end to
transgression, to seal up and make full measure of sin, to purge
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 every area and relation) to seal up vision and prophesy and prophet,
and to anoint a Holy of Holies. Know therefore and understand that from
the going forth of the commandment to restore and to build Jerusalem until
[the coming of] the Anointed One, a Prince, shall be seven weeks [of
years] and sixty two weeks [of years]; it shall be built again with [city]
square and moat, but in troublous times. And after the sixty two weeks [of
years] shall the Anointed One be cut off or killed and shall have nothing
[and no one belonging to [and defending] Him. And the people of the
[other] prince who will come will destroy the city and the sanctuary. Its
end shall come with a flood; and even to the end there shall be war and
desolations are decreed. And he shall enter into a strong ad firm
covenant with the many for one week [seven years]. And in the
midst of the week he shall cause the sacrifice and offerings to cease [for
the remaining three and one half years]; and upon the wing or pinnacle
for abominations [shall come] one who makes desolate, until the full
determined end is poured out on the desolator. Daniel 9:24-27
God ordered through Moses that the Israelites should keep a land rest
every seventh year as a sabbath year to God. For six years they may work
the land and sow, prune and gather, but in the seventh year, the land must
rest. After every forty-nine years in the fiftieth year, they should have a
Jubilee year, a holy year, with no sowing, reaping or gathering. They
should eat of the land and proclaim liberty, and not oppress one another.
They need to fear God by keeping His statutes and ordinances to live
safely in their land and have plenty to eat.
It was God’s heart that it should go well with His people. He even knew
beforehand what they would be anxious about; therefore, He gave them
the assurance in Leviticus 25:20-21 that He would bless the land as long
as they were obedient. In spite of this assurance, they were still disobe-
dient and did not rest their land. Maybe they believed the economy would
not make it, instead of trusting God. If only they had been obedient, God
would have provided for them to have enough for the seventh year, for
the eighth year when they planted as well as for the nineth year, when they
could harvest again. They did not believe God’s Word and trust in Him
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What do we learn from this? Our biggest problem even today is our
unbelief and distrust in God. Disobedience is born because we do not
believe and trust in God.
About sin, because they do not believe in Me [trust in, rely on, and adhere to
Me]; John 16:9
Sin is when we do not believe in Him. When we believe in Him, we
will also trust Him with everything. Once you believe in Him, trust
Him you will also adhere (do) what He says.
God’s people did not believe in Him; otherwise, they would have been
obedient and have done what He told them to do. This a general problem
since most of us struggle to believe and trust God in our daily lives and
circumstances. Our disobedience causes us to fall into sin, and thus we
need forgiveness
God did not indemnify His people the Israelites from their disobedience
and started to add up their debt. Their disobedience cost them; only after
they had been in exile for 70 years did they start to do what God had
asked them to do. The link below leads to for a well-written article and
explanation that you can read on how the 69 year-period referred to by
Daniel was calculated:
https://biblearchaeology.org/abr-projects-main/the-daniel-9-24-27-
project-2/4589-the-going-forth-of-artaxerxes-decree-part1
In short, it means that there were 69 prophetic years passed from the
instruction to rebuild Jerusalem until the crucifixion of Jesus Christ. 69 x
7 = 483 years.
God’s people the Israelites have, however, not yet paid the last
outstanding 1 week (7 years) that would complete the seventy weeks (483
+ 7 = 490 years). They were not able to pay the last 1 week (7 years)
before the Anointed One (Jesus) was crucified. Therefore, there is 1 week
(7 years) still outstanding as decreed by God (Daniel 9:24). The seven
outstanding years will be the seven years of tribulation of God’s wrath
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Should they have paid the last seven years, they would have been able to
justify themselves and they would not need Jesus Christ as Lord and
Saviour. It that was the case, no grace and mercy would have been
extended to us, and we could also not have been saved or have needed a
Saviour. We would then have to continue living under the old Law, which
is not possible to keep. Through this, we ALL have the hope and
opportunity to become children of God through Jesus Christ so that NO
ONE can boast in their works towards righteousness.
So that no mortal man should [have pretence for glorying and] boast in the
presence of God. But it is from Him that you have your life in Christ Jesus,
Whom God make our Wisdom from God, [revealed to us a knowledge of the
divine plan of salvation previously hidden, manifesting itself as] our
Righteousness [thus making us upright and putting us in right standing with
God], and our Consecration [making us pure and holy], and our Redemption
[providing our ransom from eternal penalty for sin]. So then, as it is written,
Let him who boasts and proudly rejoices and glories, boast and proudly rejoice
and glory in the Lord. 1 Corinthians 1:29-31
No man can boast; it is ALL through our faith in Jesus Christ and His
grace that we are forgiven of our sin. The seventy weeks or years, or 490
years (70x7=490) that are decreed upon God’s people are the reason Jesus
said we must forgive 70x7 because He paid their debt with His life should
they accept His sacrificial love offer.
But God shows and clearly proves His [own] love for us by the fact that
while we were still sinners, Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One) died for
us. Therefore, since we are now justified (acquitted, made righteous, and
brought into right relationship with God) by Christ’s blood, how much more
[certain is it that] we shall be saved by Him from the indignation and
wrath of God. Romans 5:8-9
How marvellous and majestic is God’s perfect love, sending His Son
Jesus Christ to be crucified to pay the Israelites’ outstanding seven years
debt of sin (disobedience) FORGIVING IN FULL! The last word Jesus
said before His last breath was, “It is FINISHED!” If only they would
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fulfilment when God’s people the Jews will accept Jesus Christ as their
Messiah during the seven years of tribulation.
If you would like to have more information regarding the fulfilment of
God’s 7 feasts in the time of His first and second coming, watch the
video on this link.
https://youtu.be/Xjx-L5OP_U0

In 2 Corinthians 5:21 Jesus who knew no sin became sin for us to

become the righteousness of God through Him. This is how perfect
God’s love is for us that the moment you believe in Jesus Christ, repent
and accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour ALL your sin is FORGIVEN
IN FULL. You are washed by His Blood on the cross.
You have been SET FREE!
Jesus answered, I assure you, mots solemnly I tell you, unless a man is born
of water and [even] the Spirit, he cannot [ever] enter the kingdom of God.
What is born of [from] the flesh is flesh [of the physical is physical] and what
is born of the Spirit is spirit. Marvel not [do not be surprised, astonished] at
My telling you, You must all be born anew (from above). John 3:5-7
We need to be born again of water and the Spirit to become new creatures
in Christ.
Therefore if any person is [ingrafted] in Christ (the Messiah) he is a new
creation (a new creature altogether); the old [previous moral and spiritual
condition] has passed away. Behold, the fresh and new has come!
2 Corinthians 5:17
Why then do we struggle with negative emotions if we are new creatures,
and all things have become new? Maybe this is a question in your heart as
well. What does this scripture actually mean? It means that your old man
(spirit) passed, and you received the Holy Spirit, you are freed from all
your sin and are a new creature in Christ.
Once you are born again and Spirit-filled, your spirit is made new by the
Holy Spirit – the same Spirit who raised Jesus from the dead (Rom 8:11).
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passed over from death into life according to John 5:24, yet because of
your fleshly nature and desires, you still need to become holy by laying
down your life (your fleshly desires) as stipulated in Ephesians 4:17-32
and Colossians 3:1-17. (Please read these scriptures)
Unfortunately, we still live in a body, and we still want to satisfy the fleshy
desires of sin, unrighteousness and wickedness. For this reason, it remains
our responsibility to purify and sanctify ourselves. Part of the purification,
and the most important of all, is to deal with unforgiveness as it is the
foundation of the Gospel. When saved, you were FULLY FORGIVEN;
however, life still happens thereafter and we still need forgiveness because
of our fleshly desires, and because of this we need to forgive others their
unrighteousness in FULL for God forgive us again in FULL for our
trespasses. Forgiving seventy times seven is not connected to a specific
number; we need to forgive in FULL (100%).
And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive
him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in
heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them
drop. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your
failings and shortcomings. Mark 11:25-26
The last seven years that are still outstanding is the fulfilment of the
tribulation period, when God will pour out His wrath and fury over all
the unsaved, Jews and Gentiles, that did not accept His reconciliation
sacrifice, Jesus Christ.
I would like to point out that the Word prepares us in several scriptures
that we will be persecuted. There is a difference between persecution and
God’s wrath. Do not be misled by this. We are not better than our Lord
Jesus that we will not also go through persecution for His name’s sake.
So many people are being killed and tortured for believing in Jesus.
Persecution is for the sake of believing in Jesus Christ and God’s wrath is
because of unbelief in Jesus and the disobedience of the believer and the
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 Indeed all who delight in piety and are determined to live a devoted and godly
life in Christ Jesus will meet with persecution [will be made to suffer because
of their religious stand]. 2 Timothy 3:12
But we belong to the day; therefore, let us be sober and put on the breastplate
corslet) of faith and love and for a helmet the hope of salvation. For God has
not appointed us to [incur His] wrath [He did not select us to condemn us],
but [that we may] obtain [His] salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ (the
Messiah), 1 Thessalonians 5:8-9.
Feel free to also read 1 Thessalonians 4:14-16.
I know your [record of] works and what you are doing; you are neither cold
nor hot. Would that you were cold of hot! So, because you are lukewarm and
neither cold nor hot, I will spew you out of My mouth! Revelation
3:15-16
The Word is all about God’s people the Israelites, their disobedience, how
they rejected Jesus Christ as the Messiah, and how they still await the
coming of the Messiah. I thank the Lord that some Jews and Gentiles
came to the Truth; however, there are still so many that still need to be
saved. Those that are not yet saved will experience God’s wrath during
the seven years of tribulation. Many will then be saved, but they will have
to pay with their lives. If you were still uncertain about all the teachings
regarding the rapture, you can now know that it will take place. While you
still have an opportunity, make use of it and make sure you are saved. Do
not delay!
Let us look at the Biblical meaning of the numbers 70 and 7.
Meaning of 70 and 7
“Seventy has a sacred meaning in the Bible that is made up of the factors
of two perfect numbers, seven (representing perfection) and ten
(representing completeness and God’s law). As such, it symbolizes perfect
spiritual order carried out with all power. It can also represent a period
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“Ancient Israel spent a total number of 70 years in captivity in Babylon,
Jeremiah 19:10. Seventy is also specially connected with Jerusalem. The
city kept 70 years of Sabbaths while Judah was in Babylonian captivity
Jeremiah 25:11. Seventy sevens (490 years) were determined upon
Jerusalem for it to complete its transgressions, to make an end for sins
and for everlasting righteousness to enter into it (Daniel 9:24)”
“7 - Seven
Used 735 times (54 times in the book of Revelation alone), the number 7
is the foundation of God’s word.”
“Seven is die number of completeness and perfection (both physical and
spiritual). It derives much of its meaning from being tied direct to God’s
creation of all things.”
All the above are refences from the website www.biblestudy.org
Forgiveness is therefore FULLY seventy times seven as Jesus has FULLY
redeemed and forgiven His people the Israelites from their sin for us ALL
to have the opportunity to become saved through Jesus Christ. In other
words, there is no number to forgiveness; it is in FULL. Our command is
that after we are saved and forgiven, we should extend that same
forgiveness to others so that we may also be forgiven of our current
disobedience and shortcomings.
We will deal with forgiveness in the Practical Chapter 10 to ensure you
are truly free from unforgiveness.
The kingdom principle of forgiveness is given clearly in Matthew
18:21-35 of the man who was fully released from his debt by the king who
had grace upon him, but who then turned around and demanded that the
debt owed to him by somebody else should be paid. When the king heard
about what he did, he turned this man over to the torturers until he could
pay all his debt
Then Peter came up to Him and said, Lord, how many times may my
brother sin against me and I forgive him and let it go? [As many as] up to
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 times seven! Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a human king who
wished to settle accounts with his attendants. When he began the accounting,
one was brought to him who owed him 10, 000 talents [probably about
$10,000,000], And because he could not pay, his master ordered him to be
sold, with his wife and his children and everything that he possessed, and
payment to be made. So the attendant fell on his knees, begging him, Have
patience with me and I will pay you every-thing, And his master’s heart was
moved with compassion, and he released him and forgave him [cancelling]
the debt. But that same attendant, as he went out, found one of his fellow
attendants who owed him a hundred denarii [about twenty dollars]; and he
caught him by the throat and said, Pay what you owe! So his fellow attendant
fell down and begged him earnestly, Give me time, and I will pay you all!
But he was unwilling, and he went out and had him in prison till he should
pay the debt. When his fellow attendants saw what had happened, they were
greatly distressed, and they went and told everything that had taken place to
their master. Then his master called him and said to him, You contemptible
and wicked attendant! I forgave and cancelled all that [great] debt of yours
because you begged me to. And should you not have had pity and mercy on
your fellow attendant, as I had pity and mercy on you? And in wrath his
master turned him over to the torturers (the jailers), till he should pay all he
owed. So also My heavenly Father will deal with every one of you if you do
not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offenses.
Matthew 18:33-35
The struggle to forgive is very real, yet if we do not forgive, we are doing
exactly the same as this man did; then, we do not understand why we go
through life feeling tortured and jailed. Unforgiveness gives satan power
over us, and forgiveness takes his power away and releases God’s love
and power over us.
The following is illustrated by this passage:

• There is a heavenly Kingdom principle that

applies:

The Kingdom of Heaven works on the same principles; if you do not

forgive, God will not forgive you your sin after you have been saved. It is

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a two-way forgiveness process. The amount of debt cancelled by the
master could not even compare to what this man’s fellow attendants
owed him. We do not deserve forgiveness; it is a love offering from the
hand of God through Jesus. It is His absolute grace and mercy from
God. After you have been saved and you need forgiveness again for any
wrongdoing, God will then only forgive you as you forgive others. If we
do not forgive, God will do the same to us as in verse 34 in the above
scripture.

• Our contemptibility and wickedness in

unforgiveness:

When we do not value forgiveness, we become contemptible (a display of

cowardice) and wicked (mental disregard for truth, justice, righteousness,
criminality, depravity, horror, sinful, evil thoughts and life). Unforgive-
ness is not part of the Spirit of God; therefore, He warns us in His word
to rid ourselves from our wickedness.

• Our Heavenly Father will turn us over to the

torturers (the jailers)

Due to our unforgiveness, God will turn us over to the torturers. These
torturers are the spirits of unforgiveness that causes us to life in hurt, pain,
sickness, anger, bitterness, and hatred, to mention only a few that will
keep us jailed until we deal with true forgiveness as it is a heavenly
principle. We cannot be and live in God’s peace when we are in unforgive-
ness. The wages in the end will be death. See the scriptures below:

For the wages which sin pays is death, but the [bountiful] free gift of God is
eternal life through (in union with) Jesus Christ our Lord. Romans 6:23

For to him who has shown no mercy the judgment [will be] merciless, but
mercy [full of glad confidence] exults victoriously over judgment. James
2:13

We receive mercy for our transgressions from God; therefore, we need

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Test yourselves by answering the following questions:

How jailed and tortured do you feel?

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We make Him out to be false and a liar when we deny that we have no
sin. We surely delude and lead ourselves astray.

If we say we have no sin [refusing to admit that we are sinners], we delude and lead
ourselves astray, and the Truth [which the Gospel presents] is not in us [does not
dwell in our hearts]. If we say (claim) we have not sinned, we contradict His Word
and make Him out to be false and a liar, and His Word is not in us [the divine
message of the Gospel is not in our hearts]. 1 John 1:8,10

It is difficult to start comprehending God’s forgiveness and grace if we

think or believe that we do not have sin. We cannot justify ourselves. We
are not able to be saved and have eternal life without GRACE. Grace is
God’s undeserved, unmerited, favour and blessings. By GRACE Jesus
paid the LOVE offering with His life and blood to FORGIVE US from
our SIN and RECONCILE us with God the Father.
It cannot be earned through our works; it is only through faith in Jesus
Christ that we can become God’s heirs.
If you seek to be justified and declared righteous and to be given a
right standing with God through the Law, you are brought to nothing and so
separated (severed) from Christ. You have fallen away from grace (from
God’s gracious favour and unmerited blessings). Galatians 5:4
But if you are guided (led) by the [Holy] Spirit, you are not subject to the
Law. Galatians 5:18
Since therefore, [these His] children share in flesh and blood [in the physical
nature of human beings], He [Himself] in a similar manner partook of the
same [nature], that by [going through] death He might bring to nought and
make of no effect him who had the power of death – that is, the devil – And
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 [haunting] fear of death were held in bondage throughout the whole course of
their lives. For, as we all know, He [Christ] did not take hold of angels [the
fallen angels, to give them a helping hand and delivering hand], but He did
take hold of [the fallen] descendants of Abraham [to reach out to them a
helping and delivering hand]. So it is evident that it was essential that He be
made like His brethren in every respect, in order that He might become a
merciful (sympathetic) and faithful High Priest in the things related to God,
to make atonement and propitiation for the people’s sin. For because He
Himself [in His humanity] has suffered in being tempted (tested and tried),
He is able [immediately] to run to the cry of (assist, relieve) those who are
being tempted and tested and tried [and who therefore are being exposed to
suffering]. Hebrews 2:14-18

We cannot be saved or have eternal life by keeping the old Law alone. We
need GRACE and FORGIVENESS. Grace is God’s unmerited favour,
mercy and blessing that came through the death of Jesus Christ His Son
on the Cross. We cannot keep the Law; therefore, we need Jesus. He came
to fulfil the Law, not to take it away. The whole Law is summed up in this
one commandment: we must love our neighbours as ourselves. Once we
love our neighbours, which includes FORGIVENESS, we LOVE GOD.

For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love they
neighbour as thyself. Galatians 5:14 KJV

John 13:35 says that by our love for one another, the world will know that
we are His disciples as we are obedient to His commandment, love one
another as yourself.

I give you a new commandment: that you should love one another. Just as I
have loved you, so you to should love one another. By this shall all [men] know
that you are My disciples, if you love one another [if you keep in showing love
among yourselves]. John 13:34-35

When we FULLY forgive others and ourselves, we love one another,

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another, we love God. How we live the love expressed in 1 Corinthians
13, have mercy and carry one another’s burdens will show people that we
are disciples of Jesus Christ. We should love one another just as Jesus
loved us.

Through GRACE Jesus paid a LOVE OFFERING with His life and
blood to FULLY FORGIVE us our SIN and the RECONCILE us with
God the Father.

[The Father] has delivered and drawn us to Himself out of the control and
the dominion of darkness and has transferred us into the kingdom of the Son
of His love, In Whom we have our redemption through His blood, [which
means] the forgiveness of our sins. Colossians 1:13-14

Inasmuch then as we have a great High Priest Who has [already] ascended
and passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our
confession [of faith in Him]. For we do not have a High Priest Who is unable
to understand and sympathize and have a shared feeling with our weaknesses
and infirmities and liability to the assaults of temptation, but One Who has
been tempted in every respect as we are, yet without sinning. Let us the
fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the
throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for
our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate
help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it]. Hebrews
4:14-17

Jesus, our High Priest went through all the torture, something that we do
not even understand, to FULLY FORGIVE us by doing His Father’s
Will. So much unrighteousness was done to Jesus, and he still forgave.
When Jesus said “It is finished” on the cross, he said, your debt is paid in
full, you are forgiven. However, you cannot continue wilfully in sin and
live by grace alone (Romans 6).

Because Jesus our High Priest has been tempted in every respect as we
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in our weaknesses. When we fearlessly, boldly and confidently enter the
throne of grace, we will receive mercy in time of need. When we miss the
impact of His grace to forgive us in the Gospel, we struggle to serve God
the Father in fullness or even to believe in Him.

The foundation of the gospel is all about faith in Jesus Christ as the Son
of God, who, with grace, paid the love offering for us to be forgiven
and reconciled with God the Father! If the foundation is not laid
properly with forgiveness, we will not be able to live in Christ’s love.
Forgiveness opens the eyes of our understanding to Love, which is God
the Father, as he IS Love. We are not able to understand love if we are
not able to forgive. Love is forgiveness! Forgiveness brings restoration
in our love relationship with God the Father. Forgiveness gives us life,
love, healing, and much more. Forgiveness takes us out of bondage (jail
and torture) and sets us free to love unconditionally like Jesus did. He is
the ultimate example of forgiveness and love.

For if you forgive people their trespasses [their reckless and wilful sin,
leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], your heavenly Father
will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their trespasses
[their reckless and wilful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up
resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses.
Matthew 6:14-15

The Word of God says God will forgive us our trespasses as we forgive
others their trespasses against us. How easily do we ask God for forgive-
ness, and He forgives and never thinks of it again, yet when the one who
wronged us asks forgiveness or says, “I am sorry”, we say that the sorry
is watered down since they continue to hurt us? If we forgive only 10 or
30 or 80%, then this is how much God will forgive us. If we do not forgive
at all, God will not forgive us at all.
To be born again is a onetime event; however, repentance is a daily
practice. You are bought and washed with the Blood of Jesus and no
longer belong to yourselves if you accepted Jesus as your Lord and
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If you have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour and have
not been baptised with His Holy Spirit and Fire (Mat 3:11), and you
would like to do so, I invite you to pray this prayer out loud:
God Almighty, Creator of All, I believe that Jesus Christ is Your Only
Begotten Son. You have sent Jesus to earth in the flesh to die for my sins on a
cross at Calvary, to reconcile me with You God. I repent of my sin, please
forgive me Lord Jesus. Please wash me with Your blood so that I can be
whiter than snow. I accept the love offering Jesus paid for me with His Blood.
Jesus Christ, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.

Thank you, Abba Father that I am now Your child. I give myself and my
will back to You for Your perfect Will to be done in my life. Abba Father,
please fill me with Your Holy Spirit of Truth and Fire according to
Mat 3:11, in the name of Jesus Christ.

Thank you, Father.

Amen

It is important to be baptised, which is an outward token that your sins

are forgiven, and to receive the gift of the Holy Spirit (see Acts 2:38).
There are many more scriptures about baptism; however, I would like to
use only this one.

For in Christ Jesus you are all sons of God through faith. For as many [of
you] as were baptized into Christ [into a spiritual union and communion with
Christ, the Anointed One, the Messiah] have put on (clothed yourselves with)
Christ. Galatians 3:26-27

Make sure you are clothed with Christ!

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 Chapter 6
ARE YOU IN GOD’S SABBATH
REST?

1. Sabbath rest

Are you in God’s sabbath rest? If so, why would you say that you are
in His sabbath rest?
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Let us see what the sabbath rest involves.
THEREFORE, WHILE the promise of entering His rest still holds
and is offered [today], let us be afraid [to distrust it], lest any of you should
think he has come too late and has come short of [reaching] it. For indeed
we have had the glad tidings [Gospel of God] proclaimed to us just as
truly as they [the Israelites of old did when the good news of deliverance
from bondage came to them]; but it was not mixed with faith (with the
leaning of the entire personality on God in absolute trust and confidence
in His power, wisdom, and goodness) by those who heard it; neither were
they united in faith the ones [Joshua and Caleb] who heard (did believe).
For we who have believed (adhered to and trusted in and relied on God) do
enter that rest, in accordance with His declaration that those [who did not
believe] should not enter when He said, As I swore in My wrath, They shall
not enter My rest; and this He said although [His] works had been
completed and prepared [and waiting for all who would believe] from
the foundation of the world. Hebrews 4:1-3
For he who has once entered [God’s] rest also has ceased from [the
weariness and pain] of human labors, just as God rested from those labors
peculiarly His own. Let us therefore be zealous and exert ourselves and
strive diligently to enter that rest [of God, to know and experience it for
ourselves], that no one may fall or perish by the same kind of unbelief

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 and disobedience [into which those in the wilderness fell]. For the Word
that God speaks is alive and full of power [making it active, operative,
energizing, and effective]; it is shaper than any two edged-sword, penetrating
to the dividing line of the breath of live (soul) and [the immortal] spirit, and
of joints and marrow [of the deepest parts of our nature], exposing and sifting
and analyzing and judging the very thoughts and purposes of the heart. And
not a creature exists that is concealed from His sight, but all things are open
ad exposed, naked and defenceless to the eyes of Him with Whom we have to
do. Hebrews 4:10-13
Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that [and holiness
without which no one will [ever] see the Lord. Exercise foresight and be on
the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and
fails to secure God’s grace (Hs unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in
order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots
forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become
contaminated and defiled by it – That no one may become guilty of
sexual vice, or become a profane (godless and sacrilegious) person as Esau did,
who sold his own birth right for a single meal. For you understand that later
on, when he wanted [to regain title to] his inheritance of the blessing, he
was rejected (disqualified and set aside), for he could find no opportunity
to repair by repentance [what he had done, no chance to recall the choice
he had made], although he sought for it carefully with [bitter] tears.
Hebrews 12:14-17
The beginning of the sabbath rest, or to get into the rest of God, starts by
believing in Jesus Christ, accepting His FORGIVENESS and being
saved and washed by His Blood. Jesus is our Reconciler with God our
Heavenly Father, as it is all about our relationship with Him. Our walk
starts once we are saved. To know about God is not the same as to know
Him by having a relationship with Him, Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit,
as they are One.
The Scriptures also refers to the Jews’ disobedience by not believing God
and not trusting Him by letting their land have the sabbath rest. Although
it is necessary to keep the sabbath rest, we are not to keep it as a law; it is
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and to deal with what we harbour in our hearts. It is pointless to keep the
law of the sabbath week after week while our hearts and lifestyle are
rotten, as mentioned above in Hebrews 12:14-17. If we continue in our
disobedience and do not have remorse from our wickedness, anger and
unforgiveness, we will be like Esau. If we continue with anger, bitter and
hatred, we will not be able to enter into His rest. We have to become
doers of the Word of God by dealing with our wickedness. Coming into
His rest needs purification of the heart and sanctification. We need to
fully trust in Him and know Him in everything and be obedient.
Our spirit and soul are hosted in our body. Our flesh is continually in
conflict with the Spirit. We have to crucify our flesh to obedience to the
Spirit of God within us.
God’s command that we have to strive or pursue peace and sanctification
if we want to see Him is clear. Are you going to be obedient and crucify
your flesh to the obedience of God? It unfortunately costs when we want
to enter into the promised Jerusalem for eternity. The Jews paid this price
for us to learn from their mistakes and disobedience. Let us not do the
same.
Now these things befell them by way of a figure [as an example and warning
to us]; they were written to admonish and fit us for right action by good
instruction, we in whose days the ages have reached their climax (their
consummation and concluding period). For no temptation (no trial regarded
as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken
you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation
or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not
adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man
can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate
nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and
assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure,
but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means
of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful
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No matter what your circumstances are, God will always provide an
outcome when you do not tempt Him but are obedient to his instructions
in His Word.
Seventy weeks [of years, or 490 years] are decreed upon your people
and upon your holy city [Jerusalem], to finish and put an end to
transgression, to seal up and make full measure of sin, to purge
away and make expiation and reconciliation for sin, to bring in
everlasting righteousness (permanent moral and spiritual rectitude in
every area and relation) to seal up vision and prophesy and prophet,
and to anoint a Holy of Holies. Dan 9:24
Jesus paid with His life for the outstanding seven years. The debt is written
off and paid for in FULL through His forgiveness. All sin is paid for in
FULL for both the Jews and the Gentiles the moment they are saved.
The seventy weeks (years) decreed upon His people and the holy city is
to put an end to transgressions and seal up the full measure of sin, do
reconciliation for sin and to bring an everlasting righteousness through
the death of Jesus on the cross as prophesied. That is why Jesus said we
must forgive seventy times seven as it is in FULL measure that brings us
into His fullness of His Love, and we can then enter into the sabbath rest.
To be in the sabbath rest is not to only physically rest on the seventh day
from all your works, but to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour,
to deal with unforgiveness as well as to go through purification and
sanctification. Without that, we will not see the Lord
Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that consecration and holiness
without which no one will [ever] see the Lord. Hebrews 12:14
If it is the adherents of the Law who are to be the heirs then faith is made
futile and empty of all meaning and the promise [of God] is made void (is
annulled and has no power). For the Law results in [divine] wrath, but where
there is no law there is no transgression [of it either]. Rom 4:14-15
People who still live under the Old Testament laws and the unsaved
cannot enter into God’s sabbath rest until they are saved; otherwise, they
will go through the seven-year tribulation period to be part of the
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seven-year tribulation period. Should you and the unsaved not choose
Jesus Christ in the tribulation period, you will spend eternity in hell.
2. Communion

Let us look at communion and how its use in an unworthy manner

influences our life.
For every time you eat this bread and drink this cup, you are representing
and signifying and proclaiming the fact of the Lord’s death until He
comes [again]. So then whoever eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord
in a way that is unworthy [of Him] will be guilty of [profaning and
sinning against] the body and blood of the Lord. Let a man [thoroughly]
examine himself, and [only when he has done] so should he eat of the bread
and drink of the cup. For anyone who eats or drinks without
discriminating and recognizing with due appreciation that [it is
Christ’s] body, eats and drinks a sentence (a verdict of judgment) upon
himself. That [careless and unworthy participation] is the reason many of
you have fallen into the sleep of death. 1 Corinthians 11:26-30
To test yourselves is to examine if you are firm in the faith. I have already
mentioned that it is sin when we do not believe in Him. When we believe
in Him, we will also trust Him and adhere to Him. John 16:9.
He who feeds on My flesh and drinks My blood has (possesses now) eternal
life, and I will raise him up [from the dead] on the last day. John 6:56
Examine and test and evaluate our own selves to see whether you are
holding to your faith and showing the proper fruits of it. Test and prove
yourselves [not Christ]. Do you not yourselves realize and know [thoroughly
by an ever-increasing experience] that Jesus Christ is in you – unless you are
[counterfeits] disapproved on trial and rejected? 2 Corinthians 13:5
Once we examine ourselves, there are two things mentioned we need to
make sure of:

• Do I believe, do I live and do righteousness? Also

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 • Do I have unforgiveness in my heart? Mat 5:23 also
states that we need to reconcile first with our brothers
when we know they have something against us. In
Mat 5:23-24, the Word says to leave your offering and
first make peace with your brother. According to
Romans 12:1, we need to present our bodies as living
sacrifices, devoted, holy and consecrated, and well
pleasing to God which is our reasonable service and
spiritual worship. We need to live in justice.

By this it is made clear who take their nature from God and are His children
and how take their nature form the devil and are his children: no one who
does not practice righteousness [who does not conform to God’s will in
purpose, thought, and action] is of God; neither is anyone who does not love
his brother (his fellow believer in Christ). For this is the message (the
announcement) which you have heard from the first, that we should love
one another, Whenever our hearts in [tormenting] self-accusation make us
feel guilty and condemn us. [For we are in God’s hands.] For He is
above and greater that our conscience (our hearts), and He knows (perceive
and understands) everything [nothing is hidden from Him]. And beloved, if
our conscience (our hearts) do not accuse us [if they do not make us feel guilty
and condemn us], we have confidence (complete assurance and boldness)
before God, And we receive from Him whatever we ask, because we
[watchfully] obey His orders [observe His suggestions and injunctions, follow
His plan for us] and [habitually] practice what is pleasing to Him. And
this is His order (His commandment, His injunction): that we should
believe in (put our faith and trust in and adhere to and rely on) the
name of His Son Jesus Christ (the Messiah), and that we should love one
another, just as He has commanded us. All who keep His
commandments [who obey His orders and follow His plan, live and
continue to live, to stay and] abide in Him, and He in them. [They let
Christ be a home to them and they are the home to Christ.] And by this we
know and understand and have the proof that He [really] lives and makes
His home in us: by the [Holy] Spirit Whom He has given us. 1 John
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Let me share my own testimony with you.
I did not spare anyone with my tongue. I hurt one family member badly
with my words and was not aware that he withdrew from me because of
it. Once I was back in Pretoria, I realised that something was wrong. I
tried several times to sort it out; however, he was not willing at all.
According to scripture, one should work through your congregation and
seek help to have the problem resolved. We were not serving in the same
church, so therefore, it was not a solution.
I was heartbroken and I cried to the Lord because of all the damage I had
caused. I gave up trying, repented once more to him and before the Lord
and sent a last message that I was moving on as Jesus had forgiven me. I
continued praying and trusting the Lord. I had the opportunity as a
speaker to talk about what anger and hatred do to relationships, looking
directly at him, which actually created a bigger problem between us.
One morning, I cried from the deepest of my inner being for healing and
restoration for the situation. Not even a month later, God supernaturally
intervened and turned the situation around without me doing anything
except crying to the Lord. I only prayed, blessed him and greeted him,
even though he always ignored me. I give the Lord Jesus all glory and
honour for what He did. Even if the relationship is not as it was
previously, it will come in due time. I know the fervent prayer of the
righteous availeth much.
So shall My word be that goes forth out of My mouth: it shall not return to
Me void [without producing any effect, useless], but it shall accomplish that
which I please and purpose, and is hall prosper in the thing for which I sent
it. Isaiah 55:11
It is each person’s own responsibility when you know that somebody has
something against you to have it sorted so that you do not bring judgment
upon yourselves when taking communion. When you have tried every-
thing in your ability to receive forgiveness and to restore the relationship
and nothing happens, repent and ask forgiveness from the Lord, and if
your heart does not condemn you, move on. It still remains the other
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testimony.
I pray at least three times a week for the Lord to search my heart and test
my kidneys for anything that still need to come His light and Truth in my
life. Trust me when I pray this prayer, God is faithful, and He will let
incidents occur for me the deal with that I still need to be freed from. The
Holy Spirit is my Counsellor when these incidents take place. When I need
to forgive, I do so. Should I find any lies, I trace them back to the root
and have His Truth replace the lies.
God is so perfect in His numbers, I stand amazed. He created the earth
in six days and rested on the seventh day.
There are seven years of tribulation that still remain due to the Jews that
were not able to finish paying their debt. Jesus paid the debt on their
behalf with His life, forgiving them; however, due to them not accepting
Him as Lord and Saviour and the love offering He paid for their debt,
they will have to go through God’s wrath during the tribulation time, as
will every person that does not believe in Jesus Christ and also lukewarm
Christians.
Jesus was in His thirties when He was crucified, and we are currently in
the sixth thousand-year period, where one thousand years shall be a time
of peace. These thousand years shall also be a time of peace. This time of
peace will be the time of restoration when God will let the lamb and the
wolf feed together, the lion will eat straw like an ox and the dust will be
the serpent’s food and there shall be no hurt or destruction.
The wolf and the lamb shall feed together, and the lion shall eat, straw like
the ox; and dust shall be the serpent’s food. They shall not hurt or destroy in
all My holy Mount [Zion], says the Lord. Isa 65:25
If there is one thing we need to pursue, it is love. 1 Corinthians 13 gives
us clarity of a more excellent way of love. I emphasise verse 7-8 that love
never fades or becomes obsolete. Love bears all things, believes all things
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LOVE starts with FORGIVENESS! FORGIVENESS is the
FOUNDATION of the Gospel.
This is what Jesus did; He FULLY forgave.
Finally, brethren, farewell (rejoice)! Be strengthened (perfected,
completed, made what you ought to be) be encouraged and consoled
and comforted; be of the same [agreeable mind one with another; live
in peace, and [then] the God of love [Who is the Source of affection,
goodwill, love and benevolence toward men] and the Author and
Promotor of peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11
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 Chapter 7
PURIFICATION AND
SANCTIFICATION
Many shall purity themselves and make themselves white and be tried,
smelted and refined, but the wicked shall do wickedly. And none of the wicked
shall understand, but the teachers and those who are wise shall
understand. Daniel 12:10
There are seven things God hates; the seventh one is an abomination to
Him. Proverbs 6:16-19

• Proud look
• A lying tongue
• Hands that shed innocent blood
• A heart the manufactures wicked thoughts and plans
• Feet that are swift in running to evil
• A false witness who breathes out lies
• He who sows discord among his brethren
(abomination)

God spoke through the prophet Jeremiah, reprimanding His people to

turn from their wicked ways so that His wrath should not come upon
them.
For thus says the Lord to the men of Judah and to Jerusalem: Break up your
ground left uncultivated for a season, so that you may not sow among thorns.
Circumcise yourselves to the Lord and take away the foreskins of your hearts,
you men of Judah and inhabitants of Jerusalem, lest My wrath go forth like
fire [consuming all that gets in its way] and burn so that no one can quench
it because of the evil of your doings. Jeremiah 4:3-4
You have plowed and plotted wickedness, you have reaped the [wilfull]
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men, Hosea 10:13
It is clear in verse four that God is speaking about our hearts and not
about physical ground. We have the search our hearts and the intentions
thereof to rid ourselves from our wickedness. Once our hearts are puri-
fied, we will sow good seeds.
As for what was sown among thorns, this is he who hears the Word, but the
cares of the world and the pleasure and delight and glamour and deceitfulness
of riches choke and suffocate the Word, and it yields no fruit. Matthew
13:22
Sow for yourselves according to righteousness (uprightness and right standing
with God); reap according to mercy and loving-kindness. Break up
uncultivated ground, for it is time to seek the Lord, to inquire for and of Him,
and to require His favor, till He comes and teaches you righteousness and
rains His righteous gift of salvation upon you. Hosea 10:12
THEREFORE, SINCE these [great] promises are ours, beloved, let us
cleanse ourselves from everything that contaminates ad defiles body
and spirit, and bring [our] consecration to completeness in the
[reverential] fear of God. 2 Corinthians 7:1
It is of utmost importance for us as children of God to purify and sanctify
ourselves in flesh and in spirit to obtain the fullness of God through
love, Ephesians 3:18-21. Love brings us into the fullness of God.
The prophet Micah gave a clear warning of what to expect in these last
days, which we are already experiencing and seeing happen.
The godly man has perished from the earth, and there is none upright among
men. They all lie in wait for blood; each hunts his brother with a net. Both
their hands are put forth and are upon what is evil to do it diligently; the
prince and the judge ask for a bribe, and the great man utters his evil desires.
Thus they twist between them [the course of justice]. The best of them is like
brier; the most upright or the straightest is like a thorn hedge. The day of your
watchmen, even of [God’s] judgment and your punishment, has come; now
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bosom. For the son dishonors the father, the daughter rises up against her
mother, the daughter in-law against her mother in-law – a man’s enemies are
the men (members) of this own house. Micah 7:2-6
Do not think that I have come to bring peace upon the earth; I have not come
to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to part asunder a man from his
father, and a daughter from her mother, and a newly married wife from her
mother-in-law – And a man’s foes will be they of his own household. He who
loves [and takes more pleasure in] father or mother more than [in] Me is not
worthy of Me; and he who loves [and takes more pleasure in] son or daughter
more than [in] Me is not worthy of Me; And he who does not take up his
cross and follow Me [cleave steadfastly to Me, conforming wholly to My
example in living and, if need be, in dying also] is not worthy of Me. Whoever
finds his [lower] life will lose it [the higher life], and whoever loses [lower] life
on My account will find it [the higher life]. Matthew 10:34-39
Why would Jesus have done that in order to bring bickering among family
members? It is also of no worth if we win the world, but our souls are
damaged.
For whoever wants to save his [higher spiritual, eternal] life, will lose it [the
lower, natural, temporal life which is lived only on earth]; and whoever gives
up his life [which is lived only on earth] for my sake and the Gospel’s will
save it [his higher, spiritual life in the eternal kingdom of God]. For what
does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his life [in the eternal
kingdom of God]? Mark 8:35-36
Jesus Christus did not come to bring PEACE but the SWORD, which is
the Word of God (the Bible). Jesus is the Word. Let me explain below.
[WE ARE writing] about the Word of Life [in] Him Who existed from
the beginning, Whom we have heard, Whom we have seen with our [own]
eyes, Whom we have gazed upon [for ourselves] and have touched with our
[own] hands. And the Life [an aspect of His being] was revealed (made
manifest, demonstrated), and we saw [as eyewitnesses] and are testifying to
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[His followers] John 1:1-2
For the time [has arrived] for judgment to begin with the household of God;
and if it begins with us, what will [be] the end of those who do not respect or
believe or obey the good news (the Gospel) of God? 1 Peter 4:17
Jesus instructed us once we are reconciled with God through Him, we
need to help others to also be reconciled with God. This is the easy part
of the Gospel; however, by doing that we should also make sure that we
do not forfeit life as judgment will start with us first. We need to pursue
purification and sanctification of our hearts by confronting ourselves with
finding the reasons for our negative emotional behaviour and to deal with
it accordingly. We do not always realise our behaviour comes from the
heart; it therefore is important to confront ourselves with these negative
emotions and attitudes. It is not always those who are closest to us that
hurt us the most, our family and friends. Close people could be our work
colleagues and anyone that crosses our path as we interact with them.
If these incidents and situations do not happen, how will you and I be
able to work through a purification process if everything just goes well all
the time? We are in this world, but not of this world. It is what we do with
all these incidents that happen that will make us become purified and
sanctified. What do you do about it? Do you deal with all the unrigh-
teousness that comes your way by using the SWORD of God (Word),
dealing with these negative emotions of anger, bitterness and hatred by
forgiving others? I can witness from my own life how I had to use the
Sword to overcome my circumstances that came about through a loved
one’s doing. I will honour the Lord for my purification and sanctification
until I move on to my eternal destination. The Sword (Word of God)
helps us in all our circumstances to handle all the incidents we are going
through however we have to become doers of His word to overcome.
Every scripture is God-breathed and profitable for instruction, reproof,
conviction of sin, correction and discipline for training us in righ-
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 Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard,
for out of it flow the springs of live. Proverbs 4:23
I can witness to how easily these negative words flow from the mouth,
turning the ears of anyone who was willing to listen to dustbins. After a
few minutes in a person’s conversation, it becomes clear what is in their
heart because the mouth speaks out of the fullness of the heart. We need
to purify our hearts so that our words could be filled with God’s Truth,
which will surely change our lives.
In order for an infected wound to heal, it is necessary for the pus or
discharge to drain. The same principal applies to our hearts, wounded as
a result of negative events that occurred in our lives and that made us
believe lies (as pus). It is therefore vital for us to cleanse our hearts from
all the lies that rule us. It is tough to guard and protect our heart if it is
still filled with negative emotions and lies. We need to strive for purifi-
cation and sanctification. If we do not treat an infected wound efficiently
and only cover it with a band aid, the wound will inevitably worsen and
lead to major medical complications, such as contracting gangrene which
could lead to losing a limb.
Jesus is born from holy seed, sinless! His seed is directly from God and
therefore He is sinless. In spite thereof, He protected his heart from those
who killed Him and tried to stop Him from being the love offer for our
forgiveness and reconciliation with God. Jesus was tempted by satan for
40 days, and He stood on the Word at all times. We on the other hand
were born from corruptible seed and therefore have to go through the
process of purification and sanctification. As the bride, would you not like
to stand before your Bridegroom (Jesus) without spot or blemish? We
need to become holy because He is holy.
We are a spirit with a soul that resides in a body (1 Thessalonians 5:23).
Our soul is our mind and thoughts. Information enters the soul (mind
and thoughts) through our five senses: what we see, hear, smell, taste and
what we feel. It is in our soul where we make choices to accept or reject
the information received through your senses. What we accept in our soul
(mind) will eventually be stored in our heart (spirit) as life comes from the
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heart, which will determine whether the direction of our life will be
positive or negative.
We can’t live life from a contaminated or defiled heart because the origin
of life comes from the heart. Our heart is the centre of the body; it is not
only physical but spiritual as well. Although there is no physical evidence
of where man’s spirit is, we can connect it in the Word of God.
THEREFORE, SINCE these [great] promises are ours, beloved, let us
cleanse ourselves from everything that contaminates and defiles body and spirit,
and bring [our] consecration to completeness in the [reverential] fear of God.
2 Corinthians 7:1
Our heart is spiritual and this is what we need to purify. In other words,
our heart is our spirit man. This is where our character is, where our belief
system is and where our temperament comes from. What we believe of
ourselves, our circumstances and about God, what we believe about
satan’s lies are seated in the heart. It’s from the belief in our heart (spirit)
that we live. God is the one that searches our hearts and tests our kidneys;
therefore, He requires us to tear our heart so that it could be cleansed of
purified from everything that is not from God.
Our soul (mind) needs to be saved so that our spirit can be born again by
the Spirit of God. It is with our soul (mind) that we choose to believe in
Jesus Christ. Once we believe, our spirit becomes born again with God’s
Spirit. We then have the Holy Spirit of God living within our spirit.
Irrespective of what harm people do to us, it remains our own respon-
sibility to care for our soul and cleanse our heart. The world does not
shape us as much as our closest family or friends do.
God gives us clear instructions and guidance in His Word of what His
Will is and how to follow Him in everything. We need to spend time daily
in His Word, take up our cross and follow Him. To follow Him is to die
to yourself and be a doer of His Word. The Word instructs us in several
scriptures to purify and sanctify ourselves.
The Word of God teaches us how to deal with problems and fights with
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example. In spite of Him not being guilty or having sin, He still did His
Father’s Will by dying on a cross for the forgiveness of our sin. What a
powerful example this is to us! Even though His own, the Jews, rejected
Him and demanded He be crucified, He still laid down His life to forgive.
If anyone says, I love God, and hates (detests, abominates) his brother [in
Christ], he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother. 1 John 4:20
For if you love those who love you, what reward can you have? Do not even
the tax collectors do that? Matthew 5:46
It is so true what the Word says: it is easy to love the ones that love us,
but when they treat us badly, hate us, curse us or treat us unfairly, it is not
easy at all to love them. We would rather ignore them or remove them
from our lives instead of dealing with unforgiveness as we should; other-
wise, we are just as bad as the tax collectors. Love overcomes everything
and covers a multitude of sin.
IF THEN you have been raised with Christ [to a new life, this sharing His
resurrection from the dead], aim at and seek the [rich, eternal treasures] that
are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. And set your
minds and keep them set on what is above (the higher things), not on the
things that are on the earth. For [as far as this world is concerned] you have
died, and our [new real] life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ,
Who is our life, appears, then you also will appear with Him in [the splendor
of His] glory. So kill (deaden, deprive of power) the evil desire lurking in your
members [those animal impulses and all that is earthly in you that is employed
in sin]: sexual vice, impurity, sensual appetites, unholy
desires, and all greed and covetousness for that is idolatry
(the deifying of self and other created things instead of God). It is on account
of these [very sins] that the [holy] anger of God is ever coming upon the sons
of disobedience (those who are obstinately opposed to the divine will),
Among whom you also once walked, when you were living in and addicted to
[such practices]. But now put away and rid ourselves [completely] of all these
things: anger, rage, bad feelings towards others, curses and
slander, and foulmouthed abuse and shameful utterances
from your lips! Do not lie to one another, for you have stripped off the
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remolded into [fuller and more perfect knowledge upon] knowledge after the
image (the likeness) of Him Who created it. [In this new creation all
distinctions vanish.] There is no room for and there can be neither Greek of
Jew, circumcised nor uncircumcised, [nor difference between nations whether
alien] barbarians of Scythians [who are the most savage of all], nor slave or
free man; but Christ is all and in all [everything and everywhere, to all men,
without distinction of person]. Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen
ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-
beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behaviour marked by] tenderhearted
pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and]
patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure
whatever comes, with good temper]. Be gentle and forbearing with one
another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another,
readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you,
so must you also [forgive]. And above all these [put on] love and enfold
yourselves with the bond of perfectness [which binds everything together
completely in ideal harmony]. Colossians 3:1-15
This is God’s instruction to us to be obedient by dealing with the fleshly
aspects as well as the spiritual in our lives, otherwise we will not be exempt
from His wrath.
There are many more scriptures related to this, but I would like to use this
specific one.
Indeed all who delight in piety and are determined to live a devoted and godly
life in Christ Jesus will meet with persecution [will be made to suffer because
of their religious stand]. But wicked men and imposters will go on from bad
to worse, deceiving and leading astray others and being deceived and led astray
themselves. 2 Timothy 3:12
There is a difference between going through persecution and not living in
righteousness. Persecution will happen or come when we live in justice
and righteousness for the sake of Jesus Christ. Should we renounce or be
ashamed of Jesus and His Word, we will surely have consequences
awaiting us as the Word says; for if we are ashamed of Him, He will also
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 For whoever is ashamed [here and now] of Me and My words in this
adulterous (unfaithful) and [preeminently] sinful generation, of him will the
Son of Man also be ashamed when He comes in the glory (splendor and
majesty) of His Father with the holy angels. Mark 8:38
Purification needs to take place within our hearts. There are two options
of what will happen. You will either choose to start with the purification
process and become purified and refined or if you choose not to be
purified you will become more wicked. This is a choice we all have to
make as God will never override our will. God gives His will to us, and
it will always remain our choice whether we will do His will or not.
In Luke 18:18-23 / Mark 10:17-31 the rich man asked Jesus what he
needed to do to have eternal life. What I learned from this scripture is that
Jesus gave Him all the truth and it was his choice. Jesus spoke directly and
never changed or negotiated with him about it. He did not call back the
rich man, or changed the word to help him; He left him to decide for
himself. We have the Truth of the Word, and we all stand before the
choice whether we are going to deal with unforgiveness in our lives. It is
not negotiable.
To do God’s Will means to renounce and die to our self, the fleshly desires
that we so easily give in to and that are outside of the will of God. We can
still enjoy life; it does not mean we should become morbid; just know
God in everything and He will straighten your path. It is all about
obedience by dealing with our sin and purification of our hearts (dealing
with unforgiveness, lies of satan and our wicked and unrighteous ways).
We need to live in righteousness and pursue holiness.
In the second and third chapters of Revelation, God gives us clear
explanations of the rewards those will receive when they overcome.
Kindly read those chapters.
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HOW DOES FORGIVENESS WORK?
Are you a murderer?
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Why would you say that you are not one?
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Do you hate your brother? Remember who your brother is (discussed in
Chapter 4).
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Let as see what the next verses say:
For this is the message (the announcement) which you have heard from the
first, that we should love one another, [And]be not be like Cain who
[took his nature and got his motivation] from the evil one and slew his brother.
And why did he slay him? Because his deeds (activities, works) were wicked
and malicious and his brother’s were righteous (virtuous). Do not be
surprised and wonder, brethren, that the world detests and pursues you with
hatred. We know that we have passed over out of death into Life by the
fact that we love the brethren (our fellow Christians). He who does
not love abides (remains, is held and kept continually) in [spiritual]
death. Anyone who hates (abominates, detests) his brother [in Christ] is
[at heart] a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life
abiding (persevering) within him. By this we come to know (progressively to
recognize, to perceive, to understand) the [essential] love: that He laid
down His [own] life for us; and we ought to lay [our] lives
down for [those who are our] brothers [in Him]. But if anyone has this
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 fellow believer in need, yet closes his heart of compassion against him,
how can the love of God live and remain in him? 1 John 3:11-17
1. Who or what can we be angry towards?
Anger can be towards:

1.1 Our circumstances

When something happens to a person, they may feel hurt, pain, frustra-
tion, irritation, or anger about the circumstances; however, looking more
deeply into the situation, we find they are angry at a person or at
themselves, or they believe that God is causing the circumstances.
1.2 A person who unjustly hurts you
Life happens, and we become hurt through verbal, mental, and physical
abuse by people. Irrespective of whether we are hurt once or several
times, people struggle with unforgiveness until they deal with the lie/s
behind why or whatever blocks them to not be able to forgive.
If the hurt continues, it leaves us with a desire to take revenge because we
then believe we have power over the situation or we feel in control.
However, we still remain in unforgiveness. People do not want to forgive
someone who continually hurts them. There could be so many reasons
why somebody holds onto unforgiveness. Should you end your answer
with ‘it is unfair’, you could use it in the Practical Chapter 10 to receive
your answer from God to deal with unforgiveness. Irrespective of what
happened it remains your responsibility to deal with this spirit of unfor-
giveness.
Irrespective of the reason for hanging onto the unforgiveness, if we do
not deal with the lies behind it, we will be kept captive in the spirit of
unforgiveness. I will explain more through examples as we move along.

1.3 Ourselves
We may make many mistakes through wrong choices, and these may leave
us in difficult circumstances. These mistakes may be financial, wrong
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others. Forgiveness towards oneself is one of the hardest things to
accomplish.
Lies such as guilt, disappointment, failure and inferiority play a deeper role
with purification. I will give you some examples as we go along.
Example:
I had a very close and dear family member who went behind my back to
a supplier of mine and requested prices in order to directly buy from the
supplier instead of from me. Since the supplier and I have a very good
relationship, they contacted me to advise that she was requesting prices. I
did not confront her, even though it was a huge shock to me. The guilt
she experienced then made her contact me and she told me what she did.
She also apologised to the supplier for doing it. I forgave her, but it was a
huge struggle within herself for hurting a loved one. Even though I
forgave her, her inner struggle for self-forgiveness destroyed our relation-
ship for almost a year. When she finally dealt with the self-forgiveness the
relationship was restored. Not all relationships are restored unless people
truly forgive and deal with the lies behind the situation.
In counselling sessions, I have often seen how people struggle to hear
God’s Truth in the situation we are dealing with, just because they still
need to forgive the person hurting them, or forgive God, or forgive
themselves in certain life incidents. Once you have forgiven, you can and
you will experience God’s Truth in the situation in which you had the
experience. If you still believe something else and you are not able to
receive God’s Truth, see the ‘PRACTICAL’ section. Once the lie is
identified, we give it to the Lord for His truth.
Example from my own life:
I ask the Lord on a regular basis to reveal everything in my heart that is
not from Him. He is very trustworthy, and believe me, He does! A
situation pitched where I realised how much I still hate myself because of
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Although I have relationships with family and friends, it bothered me for
so long that they do not have relationships with each other. For example,
I have a good relationship with both my sisters, but they do not have a
relationship with each other, although we are all close
I was in a situation where my sister and a friend of ours went on holiday.
I have a great relationship with both. I believe that the Lord also let this
happen because it bothered me, and I always search my heart as well
asking Him to also search and test my kidneys. I needed to get to the root
of it and to deal with it, as well as the others if and when they were
“triggered” through this to also be set free.
The holiday was uncomfortable because my sister and I did not get on
too well, and it was left unresolved until we got home. The problem
escalated and we somehow could not get it sorted. She was staying with
me awaiting an operation; one morning, she told me that she felt to rather
go back to her home as she was putting too much stress on me, which
again caused her to have stress and fear.
Her facial expression, her fear and trembling hands when she told me
immediately “triggered”, and I lost it. My self-hatred manifested in such a
bad way that in that moment, I wanted her to know and see how much I
hated myself for my actions that caused her to feel that way. Suddenly, I
had both my sisters in my house, and I could feel how my self-hatred
escalated to the point that I left them in much trauma. This self-hatred
spirit wanted to harm and totally destroy me. I left them in that state. She
packed her stuff and went to stay with our other sister.
I was so angry towards God for letting me be born. I hated myself so
much that I almost ended in self-death. I believe people prayed for me
that day as I cried to God for help. As I calmed down, I started to repent
for my anger towards God, and that I hated myself so much instead of
what I was doing wrong. The worst was that I once again had such an
outburst, which caused trauma again to my loved ones. I forgave myself.
I felt a bit better but knew that I was not free yet.
The next morning, I spent intense time with the Lord, and I looked back
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things had gone wrong. Suddenly, everything was revealed. I would like
to share it with you for deeper understanding of how deep and far the
devil’s work can go.
In my mother’s womb, I had already made a distinction in my spirit man
about who the stronger and weaker was between my parents. As I grew
up, in my subconsciousness I always made the distinction of who the
weaker and stronger person will be in any situation. It changed from
incident to incident with various people. The weaker would not
necessarily be the weaker one with different parties. I unknowingly
accommodated the weaker person, and somewhere in the process the
stronger person would be neglected or be hurt. This is exactly what
happened during our holiday. The weaker within our situation was
accommodated and the stronger one was hurt. I hated myself so much as
I time and again hurt people in different ways. Deep within myself, I felt
divided and felt I lived a double life, which I actually did. Let me explain
it to you.
I just want to also mention the following facets of disappointment which
I also needed to deal with.

• We can feel disappointed in God, not that He can ever disappoint

us however the enemy will do anything in his power the try and
discredit God with us
• We can feel we disappointed God
• We can feel we disappointed others
• We can feel we disappointed ourselves

This is wat can happen with self-hatred, depending on the intensity.

I was so disappointed in myself because of all the years of damage I caused
my loved ones, leaving them with the emotions of stress, fear and anxiety
whenever they came into contact with me. My need to harm myself was
overwhelming in the situation, which in turn increased their stress, anxiety
and fear.
Hate and self-hate are from the pit of hell; they destroy you as well as the
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dealt with these roots and the lies behind it, I was freed. When I look
back, I can see how the devil still used this open door to steal and destroy
in my life.
The process of course did not stop there. As I meditated on all this, I
remembered more incidents and I had to deal with more lies of guilt,
failure and inferiority, which made me withdraw into myself because I did
not feel worthy to come close to family I had harmed. Sometimes, I
unconsciously overcompensated which radiated the opposite where they
felt I have it all under control, which made them feel that I am better than
them.
1.3.1 What bitterness, hate and self-hate does:
This is what I experienced during my outburst. As a born-again child of
God, I felt this division taking place within myself where I just wanted to
destroy myself. This self-hate spirit came in direct opposition against God
and wanted to destroy me. I felt to harm myself to the point of having
thoughts and feelings of committing suicide. When we live in this
bitterness, hate or self-hate, division takes place within us. Because we
have this division within ourselves, it leaves a spiritual open door for the
enemy to do whatever he wants to destroy us. Unforgiveness is a lawful
right that we give satan to destroy us. Each one of us stands before these
choices to forgive, either others or yourself, and to pursue purification
and sanctification.
And if a kingdom is divided and rebelling against itself, that kingdom stand.
And if a house is divided (split into factions and rebelling) against itself, that
house will not be able to last. And if Satan as raised an insurrection against
himself and is divided, he cannot stand but is [surely] coming to an end.
Verse 27 But no one can go into a strong man’s house and ransack this
household goods right and left and seize them as plunder unless he first binds
the strong man; then indeed he may [thoroughly] plunder his house. Mark
3:24-27
Once you made the choice to deal with this spirit of unforgiveness, the
choice is nothing other than the binding of the strongman. Once you
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you are not able to forgive, you take satan’s lawful right away to torture
and try to destroy you, and you will then be able for forgive, acquit and
bless. Take note that the lies will differ from incident to incident where
forgiveness needs to be extended.
Justification of yourself plays a tremendous roll in unforgiveness be-
cause we justify ourselves why we should not forgive.
Another testimony from my own life. My old standard 1 boyfriend’s mom
was our teacher. He wrote me a letter in class and passed it on; of course,
I replied and returned the letter. The teacher caught me, took me to the
bathroom and gave me such a hiding. As I recently dealt with the incident,
I came across lies the enemy still used in my life. One of them was that I
innocently replied to his letter and I was beaten for it, which caused me
to justify myself all my life. It eventually ended with a victim mentality,
which I only dealt with recently.
I have seen in counselling session upon session how people struggle to
receive God’s Truth in an incident just because they still needed to forgive
the person, themselves or to deal with what they believed about God in
the incident we were dealing with.
Once you have dealt with forgiveness in these incidents, whether yourself
or the other person, you will receive God’s Truth. This also restores the
division you have in yourself. A house divided in itself cannot stand. This
is spiritually in our own life as well as physically in our family life.
God’s commandment to us is this: You must love your neighbour as
yourself. The majority of people have a misperception what it means to
love yourself: that we should love ourselves as the world dictates through
self-exaltation, that it is all about uplifting the me, myself and I, which is
a lie from the pit of hell. To love oneself starts by dying to yourself to
become more like Jesus, extending grace and forgiveness to others, and
of course forgiveness toward yourself. We are not able to love others
when we do not love ourselves. When God forgives us, He never thinks
of our sin again. It is therefore important to find the lies that keep us in
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Love’s beginning is Jesus’s forgiveness for our sins; for us to forgive
others as Jesus did; forgiveness towards ourselves so that we are able to
carry one another’s burdens, and from thereon to grow more in love as
mentioned in 1 Corinthians 13.
1.4 God our Father
Usually, Christians are very shocked when they work through a session
and find that they are angry at God or that they believe a lie about God.
How can I be angry at God when He is God? It is amazing that we can’t
believe or think that we could be angry at God. Even with my own
sessions, it took me some time to come across an incident where I was
angry at God. I remain amazed at how the evil one comes in to destroy
our perception of God. It usually happens in these childhood incidents
where we cried out to God and our experience seemed to indicate that
He did not help.
These are some of the strongest deceptions Satan uses: our ignorance that
we could be angry towards God, or our believing lies about God in
situations that happened. You will notice that I mention ‘in situations’ as
this is where one believes the lie/s. Remember this is Satan’s strategy: to
try and discredit God with us, to make us believe that He is not who He
says He is. When unrighteous incidents happen to us or the people around
us, people tend to ask where was God or why did He not stop it? If He is
this loving God, why do bad things happen to us? In these sessions of
working through your incidents, you will find the answers yourself. Once
you understand how forgiveness works, you will be able to work through
it in a breeze
Let me give you a testimony where I received the Father’s truth in a
session. I went for counselling with a group I was training with, and this
is what the Holy Spirit showed me: In my session I saw myself lying on
the bed with the person busy molesting me and I saw Jesus standing on
my left side. The next moment I felt Jesus’s tears (not physical tears) and
as He cried, He was saying to me, “My child I am so sorry that you had
to go through this. Unfortunately, there is nothing I can do about the
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forgive the person totally for doing it, and at that moment I was healed
and whole
Let us look at the tools and how to use them. These tools will also help
you in future to handle unforgiveness immediately and to guard your heart
in future incidents.
2. Tools to overcome hurt, pain, anger, bitterness and hate

Let me explain how anger works and how to identify and find the lies
behind the anger. I would also like to mention that not everyone
experiences anger when believing a lie about themselves, their circum-
stances or about God. Some people only experience this intense hurt and
pain. Whether you experience hurt, irritation, frustration, sarcasm, anger
or anger-related emotions, bitterness or hatred, all these emotions are just
the outflow of unforgiveness. It is important to find the lie and have it
replaced with God’s Truth.
Practical sessions will be done in Chapter 10.
2.1 What is a lie?
1. A lie is something that we believe about ourselves, our
circumstances or about God.
2. It feels true, however it is not the truth.
3. A lie contradicts the Word of God or His character. Lies need
to receive God’s Truth to receive permanent healing and
forgiveness.
Anger has a reason, a purpose, a belief (lie), and a perceived benefit
for the one you are being angry towards. It also leaves us with an effect,
impact or consequences that influences our lives negatively. Let us look
at each one.
2.2 Reason or Purpose and Belief
A person has a reason or purpose for being angry; in other words,
something happened to make him or her feel irritated, frustrated, or angry
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themselves or their circumstances. People feel hurt, pain or anger be-
cause of a lie they believe regarding the situation, someone, oneself, or
God.
Example:
Somebody said something about you that hurt you or made you angry
(reason or purpose); because you feel hurt, pain or anger, what do you
believe about yourself or the circumstances? It made you believe that
you are inferior, rejected, etc. (lie/s). That’s the reason or purpose and
belief of a lie/s for being angry or hurtful towards the other person. This
is the reason and the lie (something that you believe about yourself or
your circumstances that is in contradiction to God Word or His
character). In other words, we feel hurt, angry, bitter, hateful, or unfor-
giveness because they make us believe something negative (lies) about
ourselves or our circumstances.
2.3 Consequences or Influences
There could be several reasons why a person’s life has been influenced or
impacted or why there are consequences through their negative life
experiences.
Example:
The fact that the person was molested caused the person to hate men,
which then influenced or caused them never to get married, or their sexual
life to be negatively influenced, which in turn caused sexual problems in
the marriage, which then eventually led to a divorce or homosexuality.
2.4 Belief or Benefit
You may hold onto anger and unforgiveness because you believe that if
you let go of the anger, the person will hurt you again; you believe that
holding on to the anger could protect you from getting hurt again, or you
believe that it protects you from confrontation or makes you feel in
control of the situation, or that you are not weak. You may believe that
you are punishing a person for remaining angry towards them or that you
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be a benefit to us by staying angry towards the person, God, circum-
stances or oneself.
It is each one’s responsibility to identify why we are not able to forgive
or what benefits us from forgiving our perpetrators, ourselves, our cir-
cumstances.
It requires a true heart search to identify your belief in a benefit from
maintaining your anger and to not forgive. It is very important to trace
these lies as this will help you to be set free from anger by receiving God’s
Truth in the practical sessions to be able to forgive. We will deal with in
the Practical Chapter 10.
Let me give you two examples of ‘believing in a benefit’:
a. A woman is angry towards her husband and when asked what
benefits her to remain angry, she replied that if she needs to di-
vorce him, she has a reason to not feel so guilty about it.

b. I personally thought I had forgiven a certain person for repeating

the same behaviour. However, I found myself continually talking
about the person and what the person was doing wrong (I did not
do this intentionally, just could not help myself). In searching my
own heart, to find why I was doing this and to find the supposed
benefit, this was my conclusion: Each time I was exposing this
person’s wrongdoings because this was my way of revenge
when the person repeatedly wronged me. This is not as
serious as being verbally, physically, or mentally abused; however,
it carries the same concept that needs to be understood, so
that the lies can be exposed regarding why a person continues
in anger and unforgiveness.
These tools will help you to overcome unforgiveness properly so that this
scripture becomes your lifestyle:
Then Peter came up to Him and said, Lord, how many times may my brother
sin against me and I forgive him and let it go? [As many as] up to seven
times? Jesus answered him, I will tell you, not up to seven times, but seventy
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3. What does anger entail?
3.1 Blocks you from receiving God’s Truth
Anger can block us from having a relationship with God and from
experiencing God’s truth. In counselling sessions, anger blocks a person
from receiving God’s Truth in the incidents we deal with.
3.2 Unrepentant sin or continuing wilfully with your sin
God’s grace is always there for us, but it is not to enable us to keep on
committing sin purposefully. We need to repent and turn away from it.
This means you need to turn your back on sin (a complete 180 degree
turn). If you are ready to make the choice to turn away from your sin and
you would like repent, you could pray the following prayer:
Abba Father, thank you that the Holy Spirit revealed my sin. Father I repent
(name your list) and ask your forgiveness, please wash me with Your Blood
Jesus and anew fill me with your Holy Spirit of Truth?
Thank you, Abba Father!
Amen
Keep your ‘house’ clean and filled with the Holy Spirit through an
intimate relationship with Abba Father and Jesus Christ, which is one.
Spend time in the Word of God, pray and be in His presence. Praise and
worship Him in all circumstances, be thankful and be led by the Holy
Spirit of Truth at all times. Know Him in everything.
3.3 Unforgiveness

This includes unforgiveness towards something, someone or ourselves

when things happened to us, or where we wronged others. Sometimes we
are not even aware that we hurt someone around us until we see the
relationship fading away. It is painful for both parties when you hurt
someone. You need to ask their forgiveness and deal with self-forgive-
ness.
People can hurt us deeply and we need to face these traumas and work
through forgiveness thoroughly to be set free. Very often, people do not
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order to deal with purifying your own heart. We need not tell people we
forgive them unless they ask for forgiveness.
Start dealing intensely with unforgiveness as you cannot enter into the
Peace of God that surpasses all understanding if you harbour irritation,
frustration, bitterness, hatred anger or anger-related emotions and unfor-
giveness. It steals your joy of living in the fullness of LOVE (which is
God) and PEACE.
So then those who are living in the life of the flesh [catering to the appetites
and impulses of their carnal nature] cannot please or satisfy God, or be
acceptable to Him. Romans 8:8
Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a
grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as
the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive] Colossians
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 Chapter 9
JESUS CHRISTUS OUR ATONING
SACRIFICE
Let is look at who God the Father is.
Who is God?
He is the Great I AM, this is who God is, the Heavenly Father who is
Spirit, who spoke and the whole earth and all in it came to existence
(Genesis 1). He is the God of the heaven and the earth that does not
reside in temples made by man. He is not being served by human hands
because He Himself gave life, breath and all to us all. All nations on the
earth are from one bloodline (Acts 17:24-26). The Omnipresent God
who is Spirit, the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.
Seeing God’s creation of the world, His eternal power and divinity, we
could never be without excuse, defending and justifying that God does
not exist. God is Love! His heart is that we should love Him by being
obedient to be doers of His Word, to love one another as Jesus Christ
loves us.
Although God is a gracious, merciful and loving God, he also admonishes
and chastens his children. He does not want to pour His wrath upon his
children; however, He does not tolerate disobedience.
God has always warned his people the Israelites through Moses and the
prophets to be obedient to Him. Their disobedience cost them a price.
There are several examples in the Word of God however I would like to
use this one where Jeremiah spoke to the Jews.
In Jeremiah 2 and 3, you will read how the Jews changed their glory for
no benefit by serving other gods, being lawless, whored, being wicked and
unrighteous. Regardless of their unrighteousness, God still loves His
people and offers them the opportunity to reconcile with Him through
Jesus Christ His Son. Due to the Jews disobedience, which we are thank-
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and become children of God through Jesus. Regardless of the disobe-
dience of the Jews, they still remain God’s chosen holy nation; they
remain His first fruits of His harvest. Should anyone eat (offend or injure)
Israel, evil will come upon them.
Before the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ, people still lived
under the law of the Old Testament where animal sacrifice had to take
place yearly as reconciliation for their sin (Exodus 12). There are still
certain cultures and religions that still live under this law.
Who is Jesus Christ to you?
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Are you able to say that Jesus Christus is your Messiah and Saviour? If
so, why?
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Are you able to say that Jesus Christus is your Friend? If so, why?
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Are you able to say that Jesus Christus is your Fighter, Judge and
Advocate? If so, why?
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Are you able to say that Jesus is your Mediator, King and Rock? If so,
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Are you able to say that Jesus Christus is your Leader, Counsellor and
Bridegroom? If so, why?
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1. Let’s see who Jesus Christ is

In die beginning [before all times] was the Word (Christ), and the Word was
with God, and the Word was God Himself. He was present originally with
God. All things were made and came into existence through Him; and
without Him was not eve one thing made that has come into being. And the
Word (Christ) became flesh (human, incarnate) and tabernacled (fixed His
tent of flesh, lived awhile) among us; and we [actually] saw His glory (His
honor, His majesty), such glory as an only begotten son receives from his father,
full of grace (favor, loving-kindness) and truth. John 1:1-3,14
But when the proper time had fully come, God sent His Son, born of a woman
subject to [the regulations of] the Law, To purchase the freedom of (to ransom,
to redeem, to atone for) those who were subject to the Law, that we might be
adopted and have sonship conferred upon us [and be recognized as God’s
sons]. Galatians 4:4-5
Now the proses (covenants, agreements) were decreed and made to Abraham
and his Seed (his Offspring, his Heir). He [God] does not say, And to seeds
(descendants, heirs), as if referring to many persons, but, And to your Seed
(your Descendant, your Heir), Who is [none other than] Christ (the
Messiah). Galatians 3:16
And if you belong to Christ [are in Him Who is Abraham’s Seed], then you
are Abraham’s offspring and [spiritual] heirs according to promise.
Galatians 3:29
WE ARE writing] about the Word of Life [in] Him Who existed from the
beginning, Whom we have heard, Whom we have seen with our [own] eyes,
Whom we have gazed upon [for ourselves] and have touched with our [own]
hands. And the Life [an aspect of His being] was revealed (made manifest,
demonstrated), and we saw [as eyewitnesses] and are testifying to and declare
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 Father and Who [actually] was made visible (was revealed) to us [His
followers]. What we have seen and [ourselves] heard, we are also telling you,
so that you too may realize and enjoy fellowship as partners and partakers
with us. And [this] fellowship that we have [which is a distinguishing mark
of Christians] is with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ (the
Messiah). 1 John 1:1-3
Who, although being essentially one with God and in the form of God
[possessing the fullness of the attributes which make God God], did not think
this equality with God was a thing to be eagerly grasped of retained, But
stripped Himself [of all privileges and rightful dignity], so as to assume the
guise of a servant (slave), in that He became like men and was born a human
being. And after He had appeared in human form, He abased and humbled
Himself [still further] and carried His obedience to the extreme of death, even
the death of the cross! Therefore [because He stooped so low] God has highly
exalted Him and has freely bestowed on Him the name that is above every
name, That in (at) the name of Jesus every knee should (must) bow, in heaven
and on earth and under the earth, And every tongue [frankly and openly]
confess and acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God he
Father. Philippians 2:6-11
We can clearly see in the above scriptures that God is revealed in
Flesh when He sent from Himself, Jesus Christ His Only
Begotten Son, born from a virgin Mary, under the Law
(Galatians 4-5). Jesus is justified in the Spirit through His
baptism (Matthew 3:16). They saw the Glory of God, full of
grace and truth.
For it has pleased [the Father] that all the divine fullness (the sum total of
the divine perfection, powers, and attributes) should dwell in Him
permanently. And God purposed that through (by the service, the intervention
of) Him [the Son] all things should be completely reconciled back to Himself,
whether on earth or in heaven, as through Him, [the Father] made peace by
means of the blood of His cross. Colossians 1:19-20
God is Spirit and from Himself sent his Only Begotten Son, Jesus
Christus in Flesh to the earth. Through Jesus’s crucifixion, reconciliation
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only Doorway to God (John 10: 9-16). There is and will never be another
god that will lay down his life for sinners to be saved and reconciled with
God. There is no greater love than what Jesus bestowed upon us as
sinners once you accept Him as your Lord and Saviour. Once you repent,
you will be forgiven and washed by His Blood. He gives life and life in
abundance; you are set free from all sin and unrighteousness, and you are
taken from death into life the moment your belief in Jesus Christ. You are
a new creature in Christ and all the old is gone; however, you still live in
a flesh body and from here on, it remains your responsibility to protect
what you received: eternal life. You have to pursue purification and
sanctification until Jesus comes to fetch us. As Saviour, He gives us the
peace, freedom in Him and the calmness, knowing that we can life in His
fullness.
So then the Law served [to us Jews] as our trainer [our guardian, our guide
to Christ, to lead us] until Christ [came], that we might be justified (declared
righteous, out in right standing with God) by and through our faith.
Galatians 3:24
Christ purchased our freedom [redeeming us] from the curse (doom) of the
Law [and its condemnation] by [Himself] becoming a curse for us, for it is
written [in the Scriptures], Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree (is
crucified); To the end that through [their receiving] Christ Jesus, the blessing
[promised] to Abraham might come upon the Gentiles, so that we through
faith might [all] receive [the realization of] the promise of the [Holy] Spirit.
Galatians 3: 13-14
Jesus Christ, as the Lamb of God from Heaven, is the ONLY and LAST
sacrifice that can cleanse us once and for all from all our sin, the slain
Lamb presenting us before God the Father. I only see this picture how
Jesus as the Slain Blood-covered Lamb stands between me and the Father.
My Father never looks at me if not through the Blood of the Lamb.
Jesus Christ, the Son of God was the Sacrifice, which once and for all
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 Saying in a loud voice, Deserving is the Lamb, Who was sacrificed, to receive
all the power and riches and wisdom and might and honor and majesty (glory,
splendor) and blessing! Revelation 5:12
By such means, therefore, it was necessary for the [earthly] copies of the
heavenly things to be purified, but the actual heavenly things themselves
[required far] better and nobler sacrifices that these. For Christ (the Messiah)
has not entered into a sanctuary made with [human] hands, only a copy and
pattern and type of the true one, but [He has entered] into heaven itself, not
to appear in the [very] presence of God on our behalf. Nor did He [enter into
the heavenly sanctuary to] offer Himself regularly again and again as the high
priest enters the [Holy of] Holies every year with blood not his own. For then
would He often have had to suffer [over and over again] since the foundation
of the world. Bit as it now is He has once for all at the consummation and
close of the ages appeared to put away and abolish sin by His sacrifice [of
Himself]. Hebrews 9:23-26
This is He Who came by (with) water and blood [His baptism and His
death], Jesus Christ (the Messiah) – not by (in) the water only, but by (in)
the water and the blood. And it is the [Holy] Spirit Who bears witness,
because the [Holy] Spirit is the Truth. So there are three witnesses, in heaven:
the Father, the Word and the Holy Spirit, and these three are One; and
there are three witnesses on the earth: the Spirit, the water, and the blood;
and these three agree [are in unison; their testimony coincides]. 1 John
5:6-8
We need to be saved, washed by the Blood of Jesus Christ, baptised by
being immersed in water and be filled with the Holy Spirit.
Jesus literally gave His all. He became sin on the cross for His Blood to
wash every believer from their sin through forgiveness. They stabbed His
side with a spear where the bodily fluid (water) came out, which
symbolises the baptism. We are being washed by the Blood, and as a new
creature in Christ we need to be baptised, representing that we died and
were raised in Christ and are filled with the Holy Spirit.
Being born again, renewed and filled with the Holy Spirit is the first phase
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after being born again, you are saved from all your sin through the
forgiveness by Jesus. For those who will perish, the cross is sheer
absurdity, but for those who are saved, it is the manifestation of God’s
power.
He saved us, not because of any works of righteousness that we had done, but
because of His own pity and mercy, the [the] cleansing [bath] of the new birth
(regeneration) and renewing of the Holy Spirit, Which He poured out [so]
richly upon us through Jesus Christ our Savior. [And He did in order] that
we might be justified by His grace (by His favor, wholly undeserved), [that we
might be acknowledged and counted as conformed to the divine will in purpose,
thought, and action], and that we might become heirs of eternal life according
to [our] hope. Titus 3:5-7
For the story and message of the cross is sheer absurdity and folly to those who
are perishing and on their way to perdition, but those who are being saved it
is the [manifestation of] the power of God. 1 Corinthians 1:18
For we do not have a High Priest Who is unable to understand and
sympathize and have a shared feeling with our weaknesses and infirmities and
liability to the assaults o temptation, but One Who has been tempted in every
respect as we are, yet without sinning. Hebrews 4:15
You might think that Jesus does not understand what you are going
through; however, because Jesus has been through ALL, more than what
we could ever endure, He has compassion on us. Jesus went through
torture that we as humans could never understand or endure. There is no
unrighteousness or unfairness that Jesus did not encounter. He experien-
ced it all.
Jesus was tempted by satan for 40 days. He became sin, although He never
knew sin (2 Corinthians 5:21). He has been rejected by His own people,
the Jews, persecuted, mocked, laughed at, spat at, and beaten to the point
where He was unrecognisable and an object of horror.
[For many the Servant of God became an object of horror; many were
astonished at Him.] His face and His whole appearance were marred more
that any man’s and His form beyond that of the sons of men – but just as
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 In Him we have redemption (deliverance and salvation) through His blood,
the remission (forgiveness) of our offenses (shortcomings and trespasses), in
accordance with the riches and he generosity of His gracious favor.
Ephesians 1:7
He knows what it feels like to be handed over, to be betrayed, have his
people whore and choose idols above Him. They held onto anything that
takes His rightful place in our lives. He walked the road by trusting His
Father alone. He sweated blood to fulfil God’s will, something that we
could never feel or understand.
There was a joy presented to Him, knowing that by enduring the cross,
even though He despised the shame, He paid the atoning sacrifice for the
whole world, and He would be seated on a throne on the right-hand of
God after His resurrection.
Jesus was unrecognisably tortured; however, with this joy that was
presented to Him and through His suffering, you and I can become one
with Him in Spirit, should we accept His love offering (His life on the
cross).
Have you ever seen “The Passion of the Christ”? If you have not seen it
as yet, I invite to. If you have seen it, it might be a good idea to watch it
again. (Although it is a distorted Roman Catholic film, which is not all in
line with the Word of God, it will give a good idea of what suffering Jesus
endured). I trust you will experience the love of Jesus as He paid this price
to forgive you from all unrighteousness. May you come to the under-
standing of the depth, width, length and height of His love for you so that
you can be filled with the fullness of God that surpasses all understanding.
And He has put all things under His feet and has appointed Him the
universal and supreme Head of the church [a headship exercised throughout
the church, Which is His body, the fullness of Him Who fills all in all [for
in that body lives the full measure of Him Who makes everything complete,
and Who fills everything everywhere with Himself]. Ephesians 1:22-23
He then went on to say, Behold, [here] I am, coming to do Your will, Thus
He does away with and annuls the first (former) order [as a means of
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 order. And in accordance with this will [of God], we have been made holy
(consecrated and sanctified) through the offering made once for all of the body
of Jesus Christ (the Anointed Once). Hebrews 10: 9-10
Jesus Christ is the Lamb which was offered once for all to be made holy
and who sat down at the right hand of God. By this single offering, He
has forever completely cleansed and perfected those who are consecrated
and made holy. The Holy Spirit adds to His testimony for it is His
covenant with us. God’s laws are imprinted upon our hearts and inscribed
in our minds. Of our sins and law breakings, He will remember no more.
Therefore, there is no longer any offering made to atone for sin. It is
finished! (Hebrews 10:11-22)
Jesus initiated and opened a new living way for us through the separation
or tearing of the veil of the Holy of Holies through His flesh. Let us
therefore by faith have boldness because of the Blood of Jesus to enter
onto the Holy of Holies with true, honest and sincere hearts, free from
guilt.
Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of
grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive
mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need
[appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].
Hebrews 4:16
What is the difference between grace and mercy?
Grace is defined as courteous goodwill, meaning that it’s not asked for or
deserved but freely given. By grace we are saved through faith, accepting
forgiveness from the price Jesus paid with His crucifixion.
Mercy, on the other hand, is the kindness and compassion not to harm
or punish someone. God shows mercy not to harm or punish us, but He
relieves us from the suffering. That is mercy.
We receive grace and mercy from God and therefore we need to extend
grace and mercy to our fellows for us not be judged merciless (James
2:13). For us to receive mercy we need to give mercy and grace for their
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love our neighbours as ourselves by forgiving, being humane to one
another, and giving charity by carrying one another’s burdens.
It is therefore important for us to rid ourselves from our fleshly desires.
God does not tempt any man; however, every person is tempted or en-
ticed with his own evil desires, lust or passions. When these evil desires
conceive or give birth to sin, when it is fully matured, it brings forth death
(James 1:13-15).
Something good will come forth when we joyfully encounter these trials
or any sort of temptation, knowing that the trying of our faith brings forth
patience. These trials and proving of our faith bring forth endurance,
steadfastness and patience. Let endurance, steadfastness and patience
have full play to develop that which lacks nothing.
Blessed (happy to be envied) is the man who is patient under trial and stands
up under temptation, for when he has stood the test and been approved, he will
receive [the victor’s] crown of life which God has promised to this who love
Him. James 1:12
If you need wisdom, ask God who will give ungrudgingly; however, it
must be in faith.
Consider it wholly joyful, my brethren, whenever you are enveloped in or
encounter trials of any sort or fall into various temptations. Be assured and
understand that the trial and providing of your faith bring out endurance and
steadfastness and patience. But let endurance and steadfastness and patience
have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly
and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing. If any of you is
deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone
liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be
given him. Only it must be in faith that he asks with no wavering (no
hesitating, no doubting). For the one who wavers (hesitates, doubts) is like the
billowing surge out at sea that is blown hither and thither and tossed by the
wind. James 1:2-6
O YOU poor and silly and thoughtless and unreflecting and senseless
Galatians! Who has fascinated or bewitched of cast a spell over you, unto
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 and graphically set forth and portrayed as crucified? Let me ask you this one
question: Did you receive the [Holy] Spirit as the result of obeying the Law
and doing its works, or was it by hearing [the message of the Gospel] and
believing [it]? [Was it from observing a law of rituals of from a message of
faith]? Are you so foolish and so senseless and so silly? Havin begun [your
new life spiritually] with the [Holy] Spirit, are you now reaching perfection
[by dependence] on the flesh? An all who depend on the Law [who are seeking
to be justified by obedience to the Law of rituals] are under a curse and doomed
to disappointment and destruction, for it is written in the Scriptures, Cursed
(accused, devoted to destruction, doomed to eternal punishment) be everyone
who does not continue to abide (live and remain) by all the precepts and
commands written in the Book of Law and to practice them. Now it is evident
that no person is justified (declared righteous and brought into right standing
with God) through the Law, for the Scripture says, That man in right sanding
with God [the just, the righteous] shall live by and out of faith and he who
through and by faith is declared righteous and in right standing with God
shall live. Christ purchased our freedom [redeeming us] from the curse (doom)
of the Law [and its condemnation] by [Himself] becoming a curse for us, for
it is written [in the Scripture], Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree (is
crucified; To the end that through [their receiving] Christ Jesus, the blessing
[promised] to Abraham might come upon the Gentiles, so that we through
faith might [all] receive [the realization of] the promise of the [Holy] Spirit.
Galatians 3:1-3, 10-11, 13-14
Christ made us free of the whole Law of Moses and its ordinances. Paul
warns to be careful of the teaching of some who will ensnare us and try
to return us to the yoke of slavery of circumcision, which means that
Christ will be of no profit to us (Galatians 5:1-15 & Acts 15:1). The Law
cannot save us; however, it served as our trainer or guide to Christ so that
we might be justified by and through faith in Him. Paul reveals to the
Galatians that there is a curse in the law but through faith in Jesus Christ,
we are justified because He became a curse for us through His death on
the cross (Galatians 3:13-29). Once we are baptised in Christ, we are
clothed with Christ. When we belong to Him, we are Abraham’s off-
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 And if you belong to Christ [are in Him Who is Abraham’s Seed], then you
are Abraham’s offspring and [spiritual] heirs according to promise.
Galatians 3:29
For you, brethren, were [indeed] called to freedom; only [do not let your]
freedom be an incentive to your flesh and an opportunity of excuse [for
selfishness], but through love you should serve one another. For the whole Law
[concerning human relationships] is complied with in the one percept, You
shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself. But if you bite and devour one
another [in partisan, strife], be careful that you [and your whole fellowship]
are not consumed by one another. Galatians 5:13-15
But if you are guided (led) by the [Holy] Spirit, you are not subject to the
Law. Galatians 5:18
For it is by free grace (God’s unmerited favor) that you are saved (delivered
from judgement and made partakers of Christ’s salvation) through [your]
faith. And this [salvation] is it of yourselves [of your own doing, it came not
through your own striving] but it is a gift of God; Ephesians 2:8
Behold, He is coming with the clouds, and every eye will see Him, even those
who pierced Him; and all the tribes of the earth shall gaze upon Him and
beat their breasts and mourn and lament over Him. Even so [must it be].
Amen (so be it). Revelation 1:7
Purification and Sanctification is the second phase to keep our eternal life.
We are called to freedom, but we cannot live according to our fleshly
desires. We have to serve one another in love which starts with forgive-
ness. We have to pursue peace with everyone as well as holiness; without
it, we will not see the Lord. (James 1:21, Galatians 5:13, Hebrews 12:14)
It is part of our inheritance to have peace and holiness. We must strive to
live in peace with everybody, pursuing consecration and holiness other-
wise we will not see the Lord. (Ephesians 5:5, Romans 14:19, 1
Thessalonians 4:3, 5:11, 2 Timothy 2:22)
Blessed (happy, enviably fortunate, and spiritually prosperous – possessing the
happiness produced by the experience of God’s favor and especially conditioned
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 pure of heart, for they shall see God! Blessed (enjoying enviable happiness,
spiritually prosperous – with life-joy and satisfaction in God’s favor and
salvation, regardless of their outward conditions) are the makers and
maintainers of peace, for they shall be called the sons of God! Matthew
5:8-9
There is a blessing in both mentioned in the above scripture. To see God
is not a physical action; however, we will see how God reveals Himself
through supplying our daily needs and requests. Once we pursue peace,
people will know and call us children of God.
May we take this warning in Revelation 3:14-22 to heart and make sure
that we are not lukewarm. Because if we are lukewarm and neither cold
nor hot, God will spew us out of His mouth. He counsels and warns us
to not become trapped in this materialistic and human rights system of
the world as the church of Laodicea was trapped, but to rather purchase
from Him the following for our purification:

• Gold refined and tested by fire.

To be refined and tested is a process we need to go
through by cleansing our hearts, which is normally not a
nice process; however, it is so worth it. The greatest
wealth we could ever receive is our reward to be seated
next to Jesus on His throne.
• White clothes to cloth us and to keep the shame of our
nudity from being seen.
As in Isaiah 1, let us reason today, says the Lord.
Although your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white
as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall be
like wool.
• Ointment to put on our eyes, that we may see.

Obedience is the of upmost importance to God. Disobedience has conse-

quences; therefore, we have to be obedient and make sure that we make
the right CHOICES. Each of our choices has consequences, whether it is
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YOU. You do not belong to yourself to consciously continue in sin by
claiming grace. Kindly read Romans 6.
3. Forgiveness
Do you experience or feel trapped in your daily life circumstances? Where
do you identify it in your life?
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Does it feel if your life is falling apart, and nothing is working out?
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Do you have anger, or any anger-related emotions and which ones do you
struggle with? (see Chapter 2 for the list). Do you know that you need to
deal with unforgiveness?
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What I learned from my life experiences is that no matter what people did
to me, no matter how unfair it was, it is and remains my choice and re-
sponsibility to care for my soul and heart to become free from
unforgiveness. Unfortunately, these intentional or unconscious hurts
people cause us leave us with lies, either about our circumstances, our-
selves or about God. Once you are freed from this spirit of unforgive-
ness, it is also important to deal with other lies you might still believe to
stop satan keeping you in captivity. You are made to be an overcomer in
Christ Jesus.
Dealing with unforgiveness starts with the love we received from God for
the full forgiveness we received from our unrighteousness through the
crucifixion of Jesus Chris. Forgiveness will become easier once you under-
stand and have experienced and encounter the full forgiveness from Jesus
Christ. It always will start with a choice to also fully forgive others. As
long as you do not make the choice, irrespective of how you are feeling,
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the person you need to forgive. The majority of times, they are not even
aware how you feel and the emotions you harbour or experience unless
you have made it known to them.
Irrespective how people make you feel, treat you unjustly, you take
offence, or they abuse you which will lead to these emotions of hurt, pain,
irritation, frustration, anger, bitterness, and hatred, the longer it continues
the worse it will become. Once you search your heart, you will realise the
irritation, frustration, hurt, pain, sarcasm, anger, bitterness and hatred is
not the cause to forgive but the lie/s we believe about ourselves, our
circumstances or God. We tend to hold onto our feelings as it makes us
feel we are in control or in control of the other person, or we might feel
to cut off the people from our lives, or they could chase revenge. In the
end, we do not realise that it does more harm to ourselves instead of the
person that harmed us. They are not even aware of our feelings, lies and
emotions we harbour. The person’s bad deeds influenced our life nega-
tively and our unforgiveness causes our lives to spiral down until there is
nothing left of us. Unforgiveness is as if one drinks poison and hopes the
other person dies. By living in unforgiveness, we give satan a lawful right
to do with us as he pleases.
The word of God says that Jesus did not come to bring peace but the
sword. Our family will stand up against us and become our enemies. Why
would Jesus do that? The sword is the Word of God. How do you think
we would otherwise become sorted out? The Word is there to help us,
and we need to become doers of His word in these situations and
incidents. To be purified, we need to search our hearts as the Word says,
especially when we experience emotions such as hurt, pain, irritation,
frustration, anger, anger outbursts, bitterness and hatred.
Come close to God and He will come close to you. [Recognize that you are]
sinners, get your soled hands clean; [realize that you have been disloyal]
wavering individuals with divided interests, and purify your hearts [of your
spiritual adultery]. James 4:8
We need to purify our hearts and end our sin of unbelief. Double-
mindedness is doubt, which confirms that we do not fully trust God and
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warns that our love should not fade in these last days. Love is, for us to
love others like we love ourselves. The majority of people don’t love
themselves. We need to find ourselves at a place in our lives where we
forgive and love by carrying one’s burdens to fulfil to law of Christ.
If you do not understand and experience true forgiveness from Jesus, it is
difficult to understand what love is, or to love others by extending forgive-
ness.
Do you have anything that stop or hinder you from having a relationship
with Jesus Christus?
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What do you need to do to have a relationship with the Lord Jesus?
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If you need to confess anything, pray out load by confessing and asking
Jesus’s forgiveness.
Abba Father, thank you that the Holy Spirit revealed my sin. Father, I repent (name
your list) and ask your forgiveness, please wash me with Your Blood Jesus and anew
fill me with your Holy Spirit of Truth and Fire?
Thank you, Abba Father!
Amen
Can you put everything you prayed at the cross of Jesus until you could
experience His full forgiveness?
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If you need to forgive anyone in the process, I suggest that you work
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If you still have not experienced 100% or full forgiveness from Jesus, what
do you feel still blocks it?
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Can you give what you believe to the Lord for Him to give you His Truth
that you need to know?
If yes, pray out loud: Lord Jesus, what do you want me to know (mention
what you believe)?
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If there is still anything you need to confess, then do so out loud. You
can also pray the prayer below:
Abba Father, thank you that the Holy Spirit revealed my sin. Father, I
repent (name your list) and ask your forgiveness, please wash me with Your
Blood Jesus and anew fill me with your Holy Spirit of Truth and Fire?
Thank you, Abba Father!
Amen
If you repent with a sincere heart, Jesus is just and will forgive you your
sin as this is the reason He was crucified.
I believe that you had a breakthrough, and you are now fully forgiven.
So if the Son liberates you [makes you free men], then you are really and
unquestionably free. John 8:36
If you have never accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour,
not baptised with the Holy Spirit and Fire (Mat 3:11) and you
would like to, I invite you to pray the following prayer OUT
LOUD (Satan also needs to hear it as he cannot read your mind):
God Almighty, Creator of All, I believe that Jesus Christ is Your Only
Begotten Son. You have sent Jesus to earth in the flesh to die for my sins on a
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 forgive me Lord Jesus. Please wash me with Your blood so that I can be
whiter than snow. I accept the love offering Jesus paid for me with His Blood.
Jesus Christ, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.
Thank you, Abba Father that I am now Your child. I give myself and my
will back to You for Your perfect Will to be done in my life. Abba Father,
please fill me with Your Holy Spirit of Truth and Fire according to Mat
3:11, in the name of Jesus Christ.
Thank you, Abba Father.
It is important for you to be baptised as it signifies the forgiveness and
washing away of your sin. Die in Christ and rise with Christ, receiving the
gift of the Holy Spirit.

And Peter answered them, Repent (change your views and purpose to accept
the will of God in your inner selves instead of rejecting it) and be baptized,
every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of and release
from the sins, and you shall receive the gift to the Holy Spirit. Acts 2:38

And let us consider and give attentive, continuous care to watching over one
another, studying how we may stir up (stimulate and incite) to love and helpful
deeds and noble activities, Not forsaking or neglecting to assemble together [as
believers], as is the habit of some people, but admonishing (warning, urging,
and encouraging) one another, and all the more faithfully as you see the day
approaching. For if we go on deliberately and willingly sinning after once
acquiring the knowledge of the Truth, there is no longer any sacrifice left to
atone for [our] sins [no further offering to which to look forward]. [There is
nothing left for us then] but a kind of awful and fearful prospect and
expectation of divine judgment and the fury of burning wrath and indignation
which will consume those who out themselves in opposition [to God]. Any
person who has violated and [thus] rejected and set at naught the Law of
Moses is put to death without pity or mercy on the evidence of two or three
witnesses. How much worse (sterner and heavier) punishment do you suppose
he will be judged to deserve who has spurned and [thus] trampled underfoot
the Son of God, and who as considered the covenant blood by which he was
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 outraging the [Holy] Spirit [Who imparts] grace (the unmerited favor and
blessing of God)? For we know Him Who said, Vengeance is Mine
[retribution and the meting out of full justice rest with Me]; I will repay [I
will exact the compensation], says the Lord. And again, The Lord will judge
and determine and solve and settle the cause and the cases of His people. It is
a fearful (formidable and terrible) thing to incur the divine penalties and be
cast into the hands of the living God! Hebrews 10:24-31
Come, let us not trample on what Jesus did for us on the Cross of Calvary
with His Blood by being disobedient to His Word. The righteous will live
through faith.
Since by your obedience to the Truth through the [Holy] Spirit you have
purified your hearts for the sincere affection of the brethren, [see that you] love
once another fervently from a pure heart. 1 Peter 1:22
Now that you have received the revelation, it is important to be obedient
and be a doer of God’s Word by dealing with any irritations, frustrations,
hurt, pain, anger, bitterness, hatred and unforgiveness so that we could
love one another fervently from a pure heart.
THEREFORE, [there is] now no condemnation (no judging guilty of
wrong) for those who are in Christ Jesus, who live [and] walk not after the
dictates of the flesh, but after the dictates of the Spirit. Romans 8:1
People so easily only use the first part of the above scripture to suit them.
Yes, there will be no condemnation for those in Jesus Christ, who lives
through the Holy Spirit and not walk after their fleshly desires.
The Holy Spirit teaches, guides and warns us before we do sin or sin. It is
then our responsibility to repent and to deal with it depending on what it
is.
A Song of degrees of David. Behold, how good and how peasant it is for
brethren to dwell together to dwell together in unity. It is like the precious
ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron’s beard:
that went down to the skirts of this garments; As the dew of Hermon, and as
the dew that descended upon the mountains of Zion: for there the LORD
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How wonderful if we could live in unity in brotherly love, forgiving one
another, honouring one another through our kindness, mercy and grace.
God will command His blessing and even life for evermore.
Love one another with brotherly affection [as members of one family], giving
precedence and showing honor to one another. Romans 12:10
By this it is made clear who take their nature from God and are His children
and so take their nature for the devil and are this children: no one who does
not practice righteousness [who does not conform to God’s will in purpose.
1 John 3:10
And this is His order (His command, His injuction): that we should believe
in (put our faith and trust in and adhere toand rely on) the of His Son Jesus
Christ (the Messiah), and that we should love one another, just as He has
commanded us. 1 John 3:23
Keep out of debt and owe no man anything, except to love one another; for he
who loves his neighbor [who practices loving others] has fulfilled the Law
[relating to one’s fellowmen, meeting all its requirements]. Romans 13:8
"Whereas the object and purpose of our instruction and charge is love, which
springs from a pure heart and a good (clear) conscience and sincere (unfreigned)
faith. 1 Timothy: 1:5
The third phase is when we leave this temporary home for a glorified
body.
But we are citizens of the state (commonwealth, homeland) which is in heaven,
and from it also we earnestly and patiently await [the coming of] the Lord
Jesus Christ (the Messiah) [as] Savior, Who will transform and fashion anew
the body of our humiliation to conform to and be like the body of His Glory
and majesty, by exerting that power which enables Him even to subject
everything to Himself. Philippians 3:20-21
If you struggle to trust God or struggle to overcome the lies of satan in
your life and you would like to work through a purification and sanctifi-
cation process, I suggest you purchase the book “Your Key to Victory”
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Come, let us finish the race set before us to receive God’s promises by
being a doer of His word, using the Practical Chapter 10 to make sure you
are free from unforgiveness.
Let us move on to the practical part and see which questions could be
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 Chapter 10
PRACTICAL SESSION
The Questions are presented to enable you to work through the session
on your own. However, if you struggle, please get a “Trust Buddy” to help
you work through it. Sometimes, we just need to speak it out. Do not
work with family; rather ask a trustworthy friend or somebody from your
church or cell group with whom you feel comfortable and that is the same
sex as you.
Make sure you work through this chapter carefully to receive the Truth
of all the lies. Read carefully through everything as these questions are
there to confront you from all different angles to enable you to find the
lies you believe about your circumstances, yourself or God to not forgive
and replace them with God’s Truth. At the end of this chapter, there will
also be a prayer that you can pray.
When dealing with pain, hurt, bitterness, hatred and anger, I ask that you
drop all religious ways and truly speak what is in your heart. If you are
aggressive or bad tempered as I was, let it out. I had to let it out with
crying, screaming, shouting, even at times swearing out of fury. I could
not hide from God what was in my heart. I believe God honours us when
we speak as it is better than falsely trying keep it all undercover. Bear in
mind that you will not continue to speak in this way; this is a time of
cleansing your heart and replacing it with God’s Truth. I find that people
often don’t have the opportunity to speak their hearts because nobody
likes to listen. People need to be heard without being offered an answer
from us for every problem.
It is important to voice what is in your heart (nothing is hidden from God
anyway, but you have to speak with Him as it is in your heart) so that once
you forgive, the devil will hear it and will have no hold against you
anymore. Should you have a Trust Buddy, tell them or otherwise tell God
the Father out of your heart how angry you truly are towards the person,
yourself or God. It is a onetime process that you work through to forgive
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with the anger, you don’t have to go there again, and you will then start
to learn to guard your heart in future.
These questions are there to confront you from all different angles so that
you will be able to identify the lies you believe in order to then receive
God’s Truth as replacement. If you struggle on your own, please get a
Trust Buddy!
Please take note of the following important information as we all receive
messages in a different way from the Holy Spirit.
Some people receive truth:

• by hearing
• by seeing pictures
• by feeling/experiencing peace, freedom etc.

Let us start with forgiveness.

When you have or suspect hurt, pain, irritation, frustration, sarcasm,
anger, bitterness or hatred, answer the following questions:
Who or what to you feel hurt, pain, irritation, frustration, sarcasm, anger,
bitterness of hatred towards?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
OR if you assist someone in a session and you suspect these emotions you could ask
them: Do you experience any emotions towards someone or something in
the incident?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Depending on the answer you can proceed by dealing accordingly:
1. Anger towards God
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________________________________________________________
Why are you angry towards God? OR What happened that you are angry
towards God?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Go to the incident/s and remain in the incident/s at all times? What
did you believe about the situation or about God or yourself?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What consequences/impact/effect/implications did it have on your life?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
May we present this belief to God for His Truth? If the answer is yes,
pray: Lord what do you want me to know about this belief (mention the
lie or lies and wait to receive His truth)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If you do not receive any answer: What will stop or hinder you from
receiving the Truth from God?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If there is no answer: What do you believe will happen if you receive the
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Depending on the answer, maybe you need to ask forgiveness for being
angry towards God. Is there anything you would like to say to God or
repent of?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Pray: Father God, please forgive me for… (mention what it is). Once this is done,
may we present this belief to God for His Truth? If yes, Lord what do you want me
to know about this belief?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Test if you still believe the lie in the incident on a scale of 1 to 10, a score
of 10 indicating that the Truth has been received. If the score is not a 10,
either there are prior incidents, or you still believe another lie about God,
the incident or yourself. Repeat the process until you have a score of 10.
2. Anger towards your circumstances
What makes you angry about your circumstances? OR What happened
that you are angry towards your circumstances?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What do you believe is the cause of the circumstances?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Who do you believe is to blame for the circumstances?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What do you believe and what consequences/impact/effect/implication
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________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What should (name) have done? OR What do you believe (name) needs
to do to fix the problem? If forgiveness needs to be extended, ask the
questions below.
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What do you believe will hinder or stop you from forgiving (name)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If there is no answer: What do you believe will happen if you have to for-
give (name)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If there is no answer, ask: What do you believe will benefit you if you
remain angry towards (name)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
May we present this belief to God for His Truth? If the answer is yes,
pray: Lord what do you want me to know about this belief (mention the
lie or lies to receive the Truth on all of them from the Lord)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If you do not receive any answer: What will stop or hinder you from
receiving the Truth from God?
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If there is no answer: What do you believe will happen if you receive the
Truth?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
May we present this belief to God for His Truth? If the answer is yes,
pray: Lord what do you want me to know about this belief (mention the
lie or lies and wait for the Lod to give Truth on all of them)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Once you have received God’s truth, move forward and choose to forgive
as per the prayer.
Basic Prayer:
Lord Jesus, I choose to let go of my anger towards (name), I forgive (name)
and free (name) from any expectation I have of (name) to do or to be any
different. I would also like to bless (name) with the following blessing (say). I
renounce this spirit of unforgiveness towards (name) and all other
spirits and lies accompanying them in the Name of Jesus Christ.
If you still don’t have a breakthrough with forgiveness after working
through the above questions, then please answer the following questions:
Does your own unforgiveness towards the person influence them in any
way?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If yes, how does it influence the person?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
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________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If it is yourself that are being influenced, why would like to continue to
be negatively influenced and being trapped due to this unforgiveness?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
May we present this belief to God for His Truth? If the answer is yes,
pray: Lord what do you want me to know about this belief (mention the
lie or lies to receive the truth)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Once you received God’s truth move forward and choose to forgive. Pray
this prayer out load.
Basic Prayer:
Lord Jesus, I choose to let go of my hurt, pain, bitterness, hatred, anger and
unforgiveness towards (name), I forgive (name) and free (name) from any
expectation I have of (name) to do or to be any different. I would also like to
bless (name) with the following blessing (say). I renounce this spirit of
unforgiveness towards (name) and all other spirits and lies accompanying them
in the Name of Jesus Christ.
Test if you are free from unforgiveness towards (name) on a scale of 1 to
10, a score of 10 indicating that you have forgiven (name). If the score is
not a 10 you have not fully forgiven (name). If it is not a 10, why not and
what stops you from having a 10? Repeat the process to either find the lie
to receive God’s Truth for you to be able to forgive (name).
3. Anger towards someone else
How angry are you towards (name) and what will you do to (name) if you
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________________________________________________________
What did (name) do to you?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Unless you do not specify how you feel or what the reason and belief
(LIE) is about what happened, answer the next question.
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
How did it make you feel emotionally when (name) did (whatever
happened)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What consequences/impact/effect/implication did it have on your life?
Of How did it influence you?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What should (name) have done? OR What do you believe (name) needs
to do to fix the problem? If forgiveness needs to be extended, answer the
questions below.
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What do you believe will hinder or stop you from forgiving (name)? If
there is no answer, ask: What do you believe will happen if you have to
forgive (name)?
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If there is no answer: How do you believe you will benefit by staying angry
towards (name)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Can we ask the Lord what He wants you to know about this belief you
have? If the answer is yes, pray: Lord what do you want (name) to know
about this belief?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If you do not receive any answer: What will stop or hinder you from
receiving the Truth from God? If there is no answer: What do you believe
will happen if you receive the Truth?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
May we present this belief to God for His Truth? If the answer is yes,
pray: Lord what do you want me to know about this belief (mention the
lie of lies and wait for His Truth on all?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Once the person receives God’s truth, move forward and let the person
choose to forgive:
Basic Prayer:
Lord Jesus, I choose to let go of my anger towards (name), I forgive (name)
and free (name) from any expectation I have of (name) to do or to be any
different. I would also like to bless (name) with the following blessing (say). I
renounce this spirit of unforgiveness towards (name) and all other
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 If you still don’t have a breakthrough with forgiveness after working
through the above questions, then please answer the following questions?
Does your unforgiveness influence the person in any way?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If yes, how does it influence the person?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If not, who are being influenced by your unforgiveness and how are they
being influenced?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If it’s you being influenced, why would like to continue to be negatively
influenced and being trapped due to this unforgiveness?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
May we present this belief to God for His Truth? If the answer is yes,
pray: Lord what do you want me to know about this belief (mention the
lie or lies and let the Lord give you His truth)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Once you received God’s truth, move forward and choose to forgive the
person for everything you need to forgive them for and bless (name) by
paying aloud the following prayer:
Basic Prayer:
Lord Jesus, I choose to let go of my hurt, anger and unforgiveness towards
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 (name) to do or to be any different. I would also like to bless (name) with the
following blessing (say). I renounce this spirit of unforgiveness towards (name)
and all other spirits and lies accompanying them in the Name of Jesus Christ.
Test if you are free from unforgiveness towards (name) on a scale of 1 to
10, a score of 10 indicating that you have forgiven (name). If the score is
not a 10 you have not fully forgiven (name). If it is not a 10, why not and
what stops you from having a 10? Repeat the process to either find the
lie to receive God’s Truth for you to be able to forgive (name).
Let him turn away from wickedness and shun it and let him do right. Let
him search for peace (harmony, undisturbedness from fears, agitating passions,
and moral conflicts) and seek it eagerly. [Do not merely desire peaceful
relations with God, with your fellowmen, and with yourself, but pursue, go
after them!] 1 Peter 3: 11
Most of the time, the person who hurt you does not even know they have
done so. Forgiving people is a choice that you make to set yourself free
from that bondage. It is not the person you forgive who needs the
freedom, but you yourself.
It is not the other person you forgive who receives freedom but it is you.
The importance is in finding the lies that we believe that convince us why
we are not able to forgive. However, when you are spiritually free to
forgive, it gives God the opportunity to heal your broken heart and to
deal with the other party.
4. Forgiveness towards self
How do you feel about yourself and how angry are you towards
yourself?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Why are you angry towards yourself? OR, what have you done to be angry
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________________________________________________________
What do you feel you should have done?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What do you believe you need to do to fix the problem?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What consequences/impact/effect/implication did your choices have on
your life and on those around you? If forgiveness needs to be exten-ded,
answer the questions below.
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
What will stop or hinder you from forgiving yourself?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If there is no answer, what benefit does it have to stay/remain angry at
yourself?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Can we ask the Lord what He wants you to know about this belief you
have? If the answer is yes, pray: Lord what do you want me to know about
this belief (mention the lie or lies and let the Lord give you His truth on
all)?
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If you still don’t have a breakthrough with self-forgiveness after working
through the above questions, then please answer the following questions?
Does your own unforgiveness influence yourself in any way?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If yes, how does it influence you?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If not, who are being influenced by your unforgiveness?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
If it is yourself that are being influenced, why would you like to continue
to be negatively influenced and being trapped due to this unforgiveness
towards yourself?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Can we ask the Lord what He wants you to know about this belief you
have? If the answer is yes, pray: Lord what do you want me to know about
this belief (mention the lie or lies and let the Lord give His truth on all)?
________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________
Once you received God’s truth, move forward and choose to forgive
yourself.
Basic Prayer:
Lord Jesus, I choose to let go of my anger towards myself, I forgive myself for
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 spirit of unforgiveness towards myself and all other sprits and lies
accompanying them in the Name of Jesus Christ.
Test if you are free from unforgiveness towards yourself on a scale of 1
to 10, a score of 10 indicating that you have forgiven yourself. If the score
is not a 10 you have not fully forgiven yourself. If it is not a 10, why not
and what stops you from having a 10? Repeat the process to either find
the lie to receive God’s Truth for you to be able to forgive yourself.
5. Yardstick of progress
Measure yourself to see if the purpose of the book is completed.

• Do I understand why it is exactly seventy times seven and God’s

grace, mercy and unconditional love.
• Do I understand that hurt, pain, irritation, frustration, anger and
anger-related emotions are only the outflow of unforgiveness?

• Do I understand that there is a lie/s that needs to be identified

to truly forgive?

• I have worked through the practical sessions.

• Change or transformation took place in my heart and I am free

from the spirit of forgiveness. (True forgiveness is a heart change
and not only a mind and mouth action)
God says as far as the east from the west, He removes our transgressions
and will never think about it again. Wow!
As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed your transgressions
from us. Psalm 103:12
Jeremiah 31:34 and Hebrews 8:12 tell us that God’s Word and Ways are
the best ways to measure our forgiveness towards others. If you have for-
given you will forget the incidents, should you recall them you will not
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 6. Reconciliation
FORGIVENESS will bring forth RECONCILIATION.
True forgiveness will restore your relationship with God and man.
Please note that one can reconcile after forgiveness unless there is abuse
involved. It is always good to be led by the Holy Spirit in order to know
when it is not good to be in contact with the person you forgave; however,
be sure to test yourself: notice what emotions show up if you see a picture
of the person. This will tell you whether you have properly worked
through forgiveness. If emotions raise their heads, there may be other lies
that you still believe, such as fear, inferiority etc. You could deal with any
other lies by using ‘Your Key to Victory’, more information in Chapter
11.
Once you have truly forgiven a person, you will be able to interact again
and you will be able to start passionately praying for the person. When
this is the case, you know that you have truly forgiven.
And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tender hearted
(compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily
and freely], as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32
Once you are free from all hurt, pain, anger and unforgiveness towards
everybody, it then becomes your responsibility to be vigilant in guarding
your heart above all else according to Proverbs 4:23 as life flows from
your heart.
When angry do not sin, do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your
fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. Ephesians 4:26
The Word of God is very clear about this: anger is a sin and we should
not let the sun go down before it has been dealt with.
It is important from here onward to deal immediately with your anger or
anger-related emotions the moment you are “triggered”. If you don’t deal
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enemy will gain an open door again. You have to be vigilant at all times
about the enemy’s schemes and plans to trap you back onto unforgive-
ness.
So whoever cleanses himself [from what is ignoble and unclean, who separates
himself from contact with contaminating and corrupting influences] will (then
himself) be a vessel set apart and useful for honorable and noble purposes,
consecrated and profitable to the Master, fit and ready for any good work.
2 Timothy 2:21
Let us become the useful vessels that Abba Father intended for us to be.
You will know when your heart is free from all unforgiveness. There will
be a peace and a change of attitude that will be visible to yourself and
others around you. With time, a change will come in others around you
also as they notice the permanent change in you and how you start to
handle things in a different manner. You will be able to start loving like
Jesus does.
God will honour you for your choices to forgive others which ensures
your eternal life because God forgives you your transgressions as you
forgive others.
Now that you are working through the spirit of unforgiveness, you have
taken satan’s legal right away to jail and torment you further. This process
is a permanent way to deal with the spirit of unforgiveness; however, it
remains your own responsibility to stay that way, deal with future inci-
dents immediately and to guard your heart. Remember, we live in a wicked
world full of unrighteousness, and satan will do anything in his power to
entrap you again in this spirit of unforgiveness.
Please understand this is not going to stop satan from bothering you
again. This will rather encourage him to go full force to get you off track;
therefore, it is of utmost importance to remember that if you leave your
house empty and not filled with the Holy Spirit, and do not maintain a
close relationship with Abba Father, he will come back with seven more
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relationship with Him at all times. He is your Father, Jesus is your best
Friend, Confidant and Brother, and the Holy Spirit is your Comforter and
Teacher.
But when the unclean spirit has gone out of a man, it roams through dry [arid]
places in search of rest, but it does not find any. Then it says. I will go back
to my house from which I came out. And then it arrives, it finds the place
unoccupied, swept, put in order, and decorated. Then it goes and brings with
it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and make their
home there. And he last condition of that man becomes worse than the first.
So shall it be with this wicked generation. Matthew 12:43-45
But now since you have been set free from sin and have become the slaves of
God, you have your present reward in holiness and its end is eternal life.
Romans 6:22
We all have to keep on going through a sanctification process as long as
we are on this earth. Satan always has some sneaky tricks to try to get us
back in bondage. Be sober minded and vigilant!
7. God’s armour
For we are not wrestling with flesh and blood [contending only with physical
opponents], but against the despotisms, against the powers, against [the master
spirits who are] the world rulers of this present darkness, against the spirit
forces of wickedness in the heavenly (supernatural) sphere. Therefore put on
God’s complete armor, that you may be able to resist and sand your ground
on the evil day [of danger], and having done all that [the crisis demands], to
stand [firmly] in your place]. Stand therefore [hold your ground], having
tightened the belt of truth around your loins and having put on the breastplate
of integrity and of moral rectitude and right standing with God, And having
shod your feet in preparation [to face the enemy with the firm-footed stability,
the promptness, and the readiness produced by the good news] of the Gospel of
peace. Lift up over all the [covering] shield of saying faith, upon which you
can quench all the flaming missiles of the wicked [one]. And take the helmet
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 Pray at all times (on every occasion, in every season) in the Spirit, with all
[manner of prayer ad entreaty. To that end keep alert and watch with strong
purpose and perseverance, interceding in behalf of all the saints (God’s
consecrated people). Ephesians 6:12-18
It is God’s command that we arm ourselves with HIS whole armour. He
supplied us with this armour through the death of Jesus for a reason. We
need to be able to stand our ground against the strategies and deceits of
the devil in these evil days. Our fight is not against flesh and blood but
against all the principalities, powers, spiritual wickedness, and rulers of
darkness in high places.
So brace up your minds; be sober (circumspect, morally alert); set your hope
wholly and unchangeably on the grace (divine favor) that is coming to you when
Jesus Christ (the Messiah) is revealed. 1 Peter 1:13
Put on your belt of God’s truth to hold your ground, your breastplate
of right standing with God, having integrity and moral rectitude. Put on
your shoes to stand firm against the enemy and be ready to spread the
good news of the Gospel of Peace.
Put on your helmet of salvation and take your shield of faith in your
salvation to quench all the flaming arrows of the wicked ones that will try
to tell you otherwise. Take up your sword of the Spirit which is the Word
of God.
A soldier cannot stand without his armour, so dress yourself as a soldier
so that you can withstand the evil times, and PRAY! Soldiers never turn
their backs towards their enemies; otherwise, they will be an open target
and will be hurt. The Lord covers our backs, and should you turn your
back on the Lord, He is not able to cover you anymore. To give up when
times are hard is not a solution; it will be even more devastating, so rather
stand your ground and you will have the Lord backing you. This is of
utmost importance! We have our five senses with which to obtain infor-
mation, through what we hear, see, feel, touch and taste. GUARD your
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Above ALL else, GUARD your heart! Proverbs 4:23
If you have truly forgiven and the devil tries to convince you otherwise,
use this scripture to withstand him:
So be subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he will
flee from you. James 4:7
Once you identify the evil trickery again, say out loud: Father I choose to
submit myself to your authority; devil, I withstand your plan to trick me
back to unforgiveness, I have forgiven (name); leave, in the name of Jesus
Christ!
It is God’s promise that when we submit ourselves to God and withstand
the devil, he must leave.
I encourage you to pursue the process of purification and sanctification
as we will always have something to work with until Jesus comes to fetch
us. Should you like to continue a deeper purification and sanctification
process, I suggest you also get hold of the book “Your Key to Victory”,
more information is available in Chapter 11.
I honour you and thank you for working through the process to be set
free from the spirit of unforgiveness, as it is the most import part to en-
sure your eternal life.
I bless you with the fullness of God the Father in the name of Jesus Christ
our Lord and Saviour.
I end with the following scripture.
Whereas the object and purpose of our instruction and change is love, which
springs from a pure heart and a good (clear) conscience and sincere
(unfeigned) faith. 1 Timothy 1:5
Please bless others as you have been blessed by using this book. See the
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