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Self Regulation Process
Self Regulation Process
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Self-Awareness Self-Management
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STIMULUS RESPONSE
We need the autopilot. If we would try to process our cognitive, emotional and behavioral processes at a
conscious level - our brain would simply overheat and collapse. But, what do we do when some of our automatic
behavioral patterns no longer serve us? We rewire, our brain remains plastic throughout our entire life and
therefore whenever some of the established patterns do not serve us - we have the power to change them. It
might take a lot of effort on our part, but it is possible.
Yes, you can rewire your brain when you need to. The brain
remains plastic throughout its entire lifespan.
In fact, research shows that as we grow in self-awareness we actually build or expand the space between the
stimulus and response of which Viktor E. Frankl spoke, and as a consequence, we automatically improve our self-
management skills.
STIMULUS RESPONSE
Dr. Susan David from Harvard University has developed self regulation process that allows us to become more
emotionally agile, indicating that “Emotional agility is a process that allows you to be in the moment,
changing or maintaining your behaviors to live in ways that align with your intentions and values.”
Stepping Out: Detaching from, and observing your thoughts and emotions to see them for what they are—just
thoughts, just emotions. Essentially, learning to see yourself as the chessboard, filled with possibilities, rather than as
any one piece on the board, confined to certain preordained moves.
Walking Your Why: Your core values provide the compass that keeps you moving in the right direction. Rather than
being abstract ideas, these values are the true path to willpower, resilience and effectiveness.
Moving On: Small deliberate tweaks to your mindset, motivation, and habits – in ways that are infused with your
values, can make a powerful difference in your life. The idea is to find the balance between challenge and
competence, so that you’re neither complacent nor overwhelmed. You’re excited, enthusiastic, invigorated .
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space
is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our
growth and our freedom.”
Viktor E. Frankl
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Stepping out
Pause yourself. Create a distance
between you and your thoughts &
feelings. This mental space will provide RESPONSE
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with unique clarity 4
Showing up Moving on
Become fully aware of Establish behavioral
your thoughts & feelings habits/patterns that are in
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tune with your values and
Walking your Why
goals
Choose your best self in the situation
based on your values, beliefs, and long-
STIMULUS term goals. Think of the short and the
long-term consequences of various
options you contemplate
THE SPACE
CREATE A
DISTANCE
SELF HELICOPTER BETWEEN YOU RESPONSE
COMPASSION VIEW AND YOUR
THOUGHTS
AND FEELINGS
REWIRE
THOUGHTS &
POSITIVE YOUR
EMOTIONS BRAIN BY
BEHAVIORAL
HABITS REPETITIVE
ACCEPTANCE CURIOSITY BEHAVIOR
COURAGEOUSLY
CHOOSE YOUR
INFORMED
BEST SELF –
DECISIONS
CONSIDERING
YOUR VALUES,
BELIEFS, AND
STIMULUS GOALS
THE SPACE