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‫ﻣﻘﺪﻣﻪ ‪9 ................................ ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪11... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻣﻦِ ﻗﻮﻱ ‪11 ........................ ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻣﻦِ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ ‪11 .................... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻓﻜﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ ﻳﻚ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪11 ....... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻛﺴﻲ ﺑﺸﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪12 ............................. ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟ ‪12 . ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦِ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟ ‪12 .............................. ................................‬‬

‫ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪13 ............................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺳﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ! ‪13 ............................. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻛﻤﻚ! ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ ﺁﻥ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺭﺍ ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻢ! ‪13 ..... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺧﺒﺮ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻋﻤﻞﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪13 ... ................................‬‬
‫ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺑﻴﻨﺪﺍﺯﻳﺪ ‪13 ........................... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪14.... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‪ :‬ﻭﺳﻴﻠﺔ ﺍﺑﺮﺍﺯ ﺷﮕﻔﺖﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ ‪14 ......... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻛﺎﺭ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ‪14 ................... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻛﺎﻣﻞ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ‪14 .......................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ‪14 .......................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﻧﮕﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪15 ............. ................................ ................................ ................................ ...‬‬

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‫ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ‪ ،‬ﻛﻠﻴﺪﻱ ﺭﺍﻩ ﮔﺸﺎﺳﺖ ‪15 ............................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﻫﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ‪15 ....... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻭﺭﻭﺩ ﺧﻮﺑﻲﻫﺎ ‪15 ............... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺰﺋﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ‪16 ...... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪16 ........................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ؟ ‪16 ....................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺍﺭﻡ‪ ،‬ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ‪ ...‬ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ ‪16 .......................... ................................‬‬
‫ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻔﻆ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ! ‪17 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ‪18 .................... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻳﺎ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ‪ ...‬ﻳﺎ ﻧﻤﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ‪18 ........................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﻮﺩﻥ »ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ« ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ‪18 .................... ................................‬‬
‫ﻣﺘﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ‪18 ........ ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ« ‪19 ............................... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪19 ........... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«‪ ،‬ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ‪19 ....... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ‪» ،‬ﺑﻠﻪ« ‪19 .................. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺑﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ‪19 ............ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ‪20 ............ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ‪ ،‬ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪20 .......................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﭼﻴﺰ‪ ،‬ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ«‪20 .............................. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻌﻨﺎ ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﺪ ‪20 ................. ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﺧﺖ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ ‪21 ........................... ................................‬‬

‫ﻓﻠﺴﻔﺔ ﻧﺒﺎﺧﺘﻦ ‪21 ................. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ ‪21 ...... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

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‫ﺗﻜﻠﻴﻒ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ‪21 ............................. ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻏﺮﻳﺰﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪21 ............................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻫﻤﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪22 .......................... ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪22 . ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺭﻭﺵ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ ‪22 .............. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺍﺻﻼﺡ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﺎﺕ ﻣﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺍﺳﺖ؟ ‪22 ...... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺁﺳﻮﺩﻩ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ‪22 ................. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺖ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ‪23 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ ‪24........ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺫﻫﻨﻴﺖ ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ‪24 ............... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺤﺖ ﻛﻨﺘﺮﻝ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ‪24 . ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺑﭙﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ‪24 ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪24 ... ................................ ................................ .................................‬‬
‫ﻋﺎﻣﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻌﻴﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪24 ............. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺁﻳﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻏﺮﻏﺮﻭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟ ‪25 ......................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪25 ........................ ................................ ................................ .‬‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﭼﻪ ﺣﺮﻑ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﻢ؟ ‪25 ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ‪25 ......... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ‪25 ........ ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻜﻞ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ‪26 ............................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﺎ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪27 ............................... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪27 ............................. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏﻛﺮﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪27 ................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺿﻤﻴﺮ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺷﻨﻮﺩ ‪27 ...................... ................................ ................................‬‬

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‫ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ‪27 ............ ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻫﺪﻳﻪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ ‪28 ............. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻛﻠﻴﺪ ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶﺧﺎﻃﺮ ‪28 ........ ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﻳﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ‪29 ............ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ ‪29 ................. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ‪29 ........... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪29 ........... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﺪ ‪30 ........... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺘﻲ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ‪30 ..... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ ‪30 ...... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﻴﭻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺭﻭﺩ ‪30 ....................... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺱ ‪31 ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﺨﻔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ‪31 ............ ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ‪31 ....................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﺮﺁﻳﻴﺪ ‪31 ........... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﻓﺎﻳﺪﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻣﺴﺘﻘﻴﻢ ﺁﻥ ‪31 ........... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﻧﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺧﻄﺮﻱ! ‪32 ....... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﭼﺮﺍﻍ ﺳﺒﺰِ ﺗﺮﺱ ‪32 ............. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﻩﺍﺵ ﺑﺮﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪32 ... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ »ﺁﻧﻬﺎ« ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪33 ............................. ................................‬‬

‫ﻏﺎﻓﻠﮕﻴﺮ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ!‪33 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺷﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪33 .................. ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﻮﺕ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ ‪33 ......... ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺑﻪ ﻫﻢﺧﻮﺭﺩﻥ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻣﺘﺤﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪33 .............. ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺍﻳﻤﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ‪34 ........................‬‬
‫ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮﻧﺪ ‪34 ...................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺑﺎﻫﻢ ﻫﺮﺍﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪34 .................. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﻐﻨﺎﻃﻴﺲ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ‪34 ............ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺟﻤﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﻧﺘﺮﺱ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺟﻤﻊ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪35 .......................... ................................‬‬
‫ﻳﻚ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖﻛﻨﻨﺪﺓ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ‪35 ...................... ................................‬‬
‫ﭼﻪ ﺟﻮﺭ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ؟ ‪35 ............................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻧﻮﻉ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟ ‪35 ........................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ‪35 .............................. ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍ ﺟﺬﺏ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪36 ........................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲﻫﺎﻳﺶ ﺑﺮ ﺍﺳﺎﺱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻨﻴﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪36 .... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻣﻼﻗﺎﺕ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱﻛﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ ‪36 ..................... ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ‪36 .............................. ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻌﺎﺩﻝ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪37 ............... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺭﺩ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ‪37 .................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻭﺍﺑﺴﺘﮕﻲ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺳﺎﻟﻤﻲ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ‪37 .......................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪37 ........................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺗﻮﺭ ﻧﺠﺎﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ‪38 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﻧﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪38 .... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭﻱ« ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪38 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫»ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻳﺖ« ﻫﻢ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪38 . ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ‪38 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﻛﻨﻮﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ‪39 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

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‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ‪39 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺍﺿﺎﻓﻲﻫﺎﻱ ﻭﺍﺟﺐ ‪40......... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ‪40 ......... ................................‬‬
‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﭼﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ؟ ‪40 ............... ................................‬‬
‫ﭘﺮﺩﺍﺧﺘﻦ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﺎ ﺍﺑﺪ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ‪40 ........ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ ‪40 ........................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺳﺆﺍﻟﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ ‪41 ............................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪41 .................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻣﻮﺳﻴﻘﻲ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺩﻭ ﺳﻮﻳﻪ ‪41 .............................. ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ‪42 ............................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﺍﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻨﻈﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪42 ............ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺭﺳﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‪42 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﻧﻌﻄﺎﻑ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ‪42 ....... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﺍﺳﺖ ‪42 .............................. ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﭼﺸﻢﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪43 ............................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻫﻨﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ‪43 .................. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻃﺮﻑ ﺭﻭﺷﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ ‪43 .......................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺮ ﻓﺮﺍﻭﺍﻧﻲ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪43 .... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ! ‪44 ................... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻓﻘﻂ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟ ‪44 ............ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ! ‪44 ...... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺨﺸﻴﺪﻥ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ ‪44 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﮔﻴﺮ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ‪44 .... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺗﻀﺎﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ ‪45 .. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺑﺨﺸﺶ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ‪45 .................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ ﻣﺘﺸﻜﺮﻡ‪45 ...................... ................................ ................................ ...‬‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﻤﻚ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ‪45 ..................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ‪45 .... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎ ﭘﻮﻝ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪46 .......... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﻫﺪﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ‪46 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﻗﺪﻡ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﻡ ‪47 ...................... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ‪47 ........................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﺮ ﭼﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ‪47 ........................... ................................‬‬
‫ﺻﺒﻮﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ! ‪47 .................. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪47 .. ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ ‪48 .......................... ................................ ................................‬‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ‪48 ............. ................................ ................................‬‬

‫ﺩﺭﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻧﻮﻳﺴﻨﺪﻩ ‪49 ........... ................................ ................................ ................................‬‬

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‫ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﭼﻴﺴﺖ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ؟ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻫـﺮ‬
‫ﻛﺴﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ‪ ،‬ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﻭ ﻋﻼﻗﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻠﻖ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛـﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺍﻳﻨﺠﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ! ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻛﺘـﺎﺏ‬
‫ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻗﺼﺪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺸﺎﻥﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺪﻫﺪ ﺗﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺣﺎﻟﺖ ﺑـﻪ ﺁﻥ‬
‫ﺍﺗﻜﺎ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﻳﮋﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎ ﻫﻤـﺮﺍﻩ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﺎ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺁﺷﻨﺎ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻛﺘـﺎﺏ‬
‫ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺘﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﺁﻥ ﻏﻠﺒﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺫﻫﻦ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻧﻘـﺶ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺑﻨﺪﺩ‪ ..‬ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭﻱﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻨﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺍﻳـﻦ‪،‬‬
‫ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺧﺼﻮﺹ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺑـﺎ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴـﺖ ﺗـﺎﺯﻩﺍﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺣﺴـﺎﺱ‪ ،‬ﺟﺮﺋـﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨـﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﻛﻤـﺎﻝ ﻭ ﻟـﺬﺕ‬
‫ﺑﭙﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻩ ﺣﻞ ﻫﻤﺔ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻟﻬﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻟﺬﺕ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ!‬
‫ﻣﻦ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﻠﺒﻲ ﺧﻮﺩﻡ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻘﺪﻳﻢﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ‪.‬‬
‫ﺳﻮﺯﺍﻥ ﺟِﻔ‪‬ﺮﺯ‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻛﺴﻲ ﺑﺸﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﺗﻜﻠﻴﻒ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﺸﺨﺺ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﭘﻴﻤﻮﺩﻥ ﻣﺮﺍﺣﻞ ﻻﺯﻡ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ‬
‫»ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺮﺍﺣﻞ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﮔﻨﺠﺎﻧﺪﻩ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﺸﺎﻁﺁﻭﺭ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؛ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺧﻼﻕ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؛ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺎ ﻧﮕـﺎﻩ‬
‫ﻋﻤﻴﻖ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑﺗﺎﻥ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؛ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺻﻠﺢ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ‪ ،‬ﻗﺪﺭﺕ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻦ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳـﻦ‬
‫ﻗﺒﻴﻞ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺗﻮﻱ ﻓﻜﺮﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ؛ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺳﻴﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺮﺍﺣﻞ ﺭﺍ ﻃﻲ ﻣﻲﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦِ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟‬

‫ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﻋﻜﺲ‪ ،‬ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺩﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭ ﺩﻟﻲ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﺑـﺎ ﺗـﺮﺱ‬
‫ﻃﺮﻑ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺯﻭﺩ ﺧﺸﻤﮕﻴﻦ ﻣﻲ ﺷـﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﺯﻭﺩ ﺍﺣﺴـﺎﺱ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧـﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﻭ ﻳﺄﺱﺁﻭﺭ ﺍﺳـﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴـﺎﻱ »ﻣـﻦ‬
‫ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻫﻤﺎﻥ ﻟﺤﻈﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﻣﺴـﻴﺮﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻋـﻮﺽ‬
‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﺴﻴﺮﻱ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‬

‫ﺳﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﻣﺎ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺭﺍ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﻴﻢ‪ .‬ﺻـﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛـﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﮔـﻮﺵ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻭﺯﻭﺯ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪» :‬ﻣﻦ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻢ‪ ،‬ﻣﻦ ﻫﻴﭻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺖ ﻧﻤـﻲﻛـﻨﻢ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻣـﻦ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻧـﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤـﻪ‬
‫ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻱﺷﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ«‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻﻫﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻔـﺲ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑـﻴﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻛﻤﻚ! ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ ﺁﻥ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺭﺍ ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻢ!‬

‫ﺑﻠﻪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺎﺧﺒﺮ ﺷﺪﻩﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ ﻧﻤـﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﺻـﺪﺍﻱ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺑﻪ ﮔﻮﺵﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ‪ .‬ﺗﻮﻱ ﺭﺧﺘﺨﻮﺍﺏ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺣﻤـﺎﻡ ﻭ ﻣﻮﻗـﻊ‬
‫ﺩﻭﺵ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻧﻨﺪﮔﻲ‪ ،‬ﺣﺘﻲ ﺳﺮ ﻣﻴﺰ ﻏﺬﺍ ﻭ‪ ...‬ﺳﻌﻲ ﻭ ﺗﻼﺵ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺎ‬
‫ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺎﻙ ﻭ ﺍﺣﻤﻘﺎﻧﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻔﻮﺫ ﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺧﺒﺮ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻋﻤﻞﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺎﺧﺒﺮ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻬﺘـﺮ ﻣـﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺷـﺮ ﺁﻥ ﺧـﻼﺹ‬
‫ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪) ،‬ﺣﺘﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺩﻳﻮﺍﻧﻪﻭﺍﺭ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻔﻮﺫ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ(! ﺍﻣﺎ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻠﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳـﻦ‬
‫ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﺁﺭﺍﻡ ﻣﻮﺫﻱ ﺑﻲﺧﺒﺮ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺗﺎ ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭﺯ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻩ ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣـﺎﻥ‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺑﻴﻨﺪﺍﺯﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻﻫﺎ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑـﻪ ﺟـﺎﻱ‬
‫ﺁﻥ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺭﺍ ﺑﺸﻨﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ‪» :‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﺓ ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ«‪.‬‬
‫ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺟﻬﺖ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻫﺪﺍﻳﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻛﻪ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‪ :‬ﻭﺳﻴﻠﺔ ﺍﺑﺮﺍﺯ ﺷﮕﻔﺖﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ‬

‫ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‪ ،‬ﺣﺎﻟﺘﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ‪» :‬ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ«‪.‬‬
‫ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﺍﺋﻤﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﭘﻴﺎﻡﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺩﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺮﻣﻴﻢ ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻛﺎﺭ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ‬
‫ﻓﻘﻂ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺣﺮﻑﺯﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻳﺎ ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﺜﺒـﺖ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﻣـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﻟﺤـﺎﻅ‬
‫ﺟﺴﻤﻲ‪ ،‬ﺫﻫﻨﻲ ﻭ ﺭﻭﺣﻴﻪ ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺳﺎﺯﺩ‪ .‬ﺣﺎﻻ ﭼﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺟﻤﻠﻪﻫﺎ ﺍﻳﻤﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ ﻳﺎ ﻧـﻪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻛﻮﺩﻛﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ ﺁﺭﺍﻡ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺳﺎﻟﻢ ﻧﮕﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺟﺎﺩﻭ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ!‬

‫ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻛﺎﻣﻞ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ‬

‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺧﻼﺻﺔ ﻛﻼﻡ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪» :‬ﺣﺘﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺑﺮ ﻭﻓﻖ ﻣﺮﺍﺩ‬
‫ﻣﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﻦ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ‬
‫ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﺭﺱ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻡ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﻢ«‪.‬‬

‫ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ‬

‫ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺩﺭ ﺫﻫﻦ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻡ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻣﺪﻥ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻋﺠﻴﺒﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺪﻫﺪ‪» :‬ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺣﺘﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﭘﻮﻟﻢ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﺪﻫﻢ ﻳﺎ ﻣﺮﻳﺾ‬
‫ﺷﻮﻡ‪ ،‬ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ«‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻠﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺁﺳـﺎﻧﻲ ﺣـﻞ‬
‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺍﻧﮕﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪...‬‬
‫ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﻣﺜﻞ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ‪» :‬ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ«‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺪﺕ ﻃﻮﻻﻧﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﮕﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،...‬ﺫﻫﻦ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻣﻜـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺘﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺖ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻫﻢ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺩﺍﺋﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ‪» :‬ﻣﻦ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻢ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩﻡ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛـﻪ‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻢ«‪ .‬ﺳﭙﺲ ﺷﺎﻫﺪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ‪ ،‬ﻛﻠﻴﺪﻱ ﺭﺍﻩ ﮔﺸﺎﺳﺖ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺧﻮﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺭﺩ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺭﺳﺎﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺭﻭﺯ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﺭﻭﺯ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ ﻭ ﺿﻌﻴﻒﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﮔﺮﺩﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺧﺎﻃﺮﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﻫﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﺍﺕ ﻧﺎﻓـﺬﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺟـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻣﺜﺒـﺖﺗـﺮ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﻭﺭﻭﺩ ﺧﻮﺑﻲﻫﺎ‬
‫ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺳﺎﻟﻢﺗﺮﻱ ﻫﻢ ﺑـﻪ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﻞ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺟﺬﺍﺑﻴﺖﻫﺎ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺟـﺬﺏ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻨـﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻓـﺮﺍﺩ ﻫﺮﭼـﻪ‬
‫ﻣﺜﺒﺖﺗﺮ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻧﺮژﻱ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺰﺋﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺁﻥ ﻗﺪﺭ ﺁﺯﻣﺎﻳﺶ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺯﻣـﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﭼـﻪ ﭼﻴـﺰﻫـﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺘـﻲ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ‬
‫ﺭﻭﺣﻴﺔ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐﺗﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺳﭙﺲ ﺩﻭﺭ ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﭘﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ...‬ﺭﻭﻱ ﻣﻴﺰ‬
‫ﺗﺤﺮﻳﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺭﻭﻱ ﺁﻳﻨﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ‪ ...‬ﻳﺎ ﻫﺮ ﺟﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﺘﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑـﻪ ﻳـﺎﺩ ﺑﻴﺎﻭﺭﻳـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌـﺎً ﭼﻘـﺪﺭ‬
‫ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫»ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ‪» :‬ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﺁﻥ ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻟﻘﺎء ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ‪:‬‬
‫»ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪ«‪.‬‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺪﺍﻡ ﺻﺪﺍ ﮔﻮﺵ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ؟‬

‫»ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ؟‬

‫ﻫﺮ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺠﺴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛـﻪ »ﻣـﻦ ﻗـﻮﻱ«ﺗـﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻄﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺟﻮﺍﺏ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻨﻮﻳﺴﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺸﻨﻮﻳﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﺍﻧﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻳﺎﺩﺁﻭﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪» :‬ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺵ! ﻫﻤـﻪ ﭼﻴـﺰ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ‬
‫ﺍﺳﺖ«‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺍﺭﻡ‪ ،‬ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ‪ ...‬ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﻫﺪﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﺰﺭگ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻼﺵﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺑﺸﻮﺩ؛ ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺣـﺲ ﮔـﺮﻩﮔﺸـﺎﻳﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻳﺠـﺎﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﭘﺸﺖ ﺳﺮ ﻫﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ‪» :‬ﻣﻦ ﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ‪ ...‬ﻭ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ«‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻳﺎﺩﺁﻭﺭﻱ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻨﺘﻈﺮ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﺪﺍ ﺩﺍﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻔﻆ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﻣﺎ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺩﻋﺎﻫﺎﻱ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﺯﻣﻴﻨﺔ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺭﻭﺯﺍﻧﻪ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻄﻠﻮﺏ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ ﺗﺎ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ«‬
‫ﻧﮕﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻲﺑﻴﻨﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻧﺠﺎ ﭼﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﮔﺬﺭﺍﻧـﺪﻥ ﺑﻘﻴـﺔ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﻣﺎﺳﺖ!‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ‬

‫ﻳﺎ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ‪ ...‬ﻳﺎ ﻧﻤﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺿﻮﺡ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺟﺰﺋﻴﺎﺕ ﺁﻥ ﺗﺠﺴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭ‬
‫ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻩﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﻳﺎﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻨﺎﺻﺮ ﺣﻴﺎﺗﻲ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺼـﻮﺭ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺍﺿﺎﻓﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﻨﺼﺮ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪:‬‬
‫ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺧﻮﺵ ﺁﻳﺪ!‬

‫ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﻮﺩﻥ »ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ« ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﺗﺼﻮﺭ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺗﻔـﺎﻕ ﻣـﻲﺍﻓﺘـﺪ‪ ،‬ﻧﺴـﺒﺖ ﺑـﻪ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻣﺴـﺌﻠﻪ‬
‫ﺑﻲﺗﻔﺎﻭﺕ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺗﺼﻮﺭﺍﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻧﻤﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑـﺎﺯ ﻫـﻢ ﺑـﻲﺗﻔـﺎﻭﺕ‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺭﺍﻫﻲ ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻣﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲ‪ ،‬ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ‬
‫ﻗﺎﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻃﺮﻳﻖ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﺁﺯﺍﺩﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺣﺴﻲﻛـﻪ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﺮﺩﻩﺍﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﺘﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ«‬

‫ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﻳﺰﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺘﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﻴﺸـﻪ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ‪:‬‬
‫»ﻣﻦ ﺳﺎﻝ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻢ ﻛﺮﺩ«‪.‬‬
‫»ﻫﺮﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪﺍﻱ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻴﻢ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﻣﻦ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺷﺪ«‪.‬‬
‫ﻭ‪..‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ«‬

‫ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺳﺮﻧﻮﺷﺖ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻗﻢ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺣﻮﺍﺩﺙ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔـﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺷـﻤﺎ‬
‫ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺎﺩﺛﻪﻫﺎ ﺑﺪ ﺟﻠﻮﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﻋﻜـﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻠـﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺟـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭ ﻣﻮﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﻮﺍﻇﺐ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻫﻴﭻ ﻛـﺲ‬
‫ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞﻫﺎﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«‪ ،‬ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ‬

‫ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺣﺎﻻ ﺳﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻜﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﻻ ﻭ ﭘﺎﻳﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﻲ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ«‪.‬‬
‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺳﻪ ﺣﺮﻓﻲ‪ ،‬ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻳـﻚ ﻛﻠﻤـﺔ ﻣﻌﻤـﻮﻟﻲ ﺍﺳـﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳـﻦ‬
‫ﻋﺼﺎﺭﺓ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ‪ :‬ﻣﻬﻢ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻡ‪.‬‬

‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ‪» ،‬ﺑﻠﻪ«‬

‫ﻫﺮ ﭼﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺁﺷﻜﺎﺭ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﺁﻥ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻣﺨﺼﻮﺻﺎً ﺩﺭ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺑﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺎﻙ‪ ،‬ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﺎ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻦ ﺭﻭﺯﮔﺎﺭﻱ ﺳﺮﻃﺎﻥ ﺳﻴﻨﻪ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻢ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺭﻧﺞ ﻣﻲﻛﺸﻴﺪﻡ‪ .‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺭﻭﺯﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﮔﻔﺘﻢ‪» :‬ﺑﻠـﻪ«‬
‫ﻭ ﺩﻳﺪﻡ ﻛﻪ ﻋﻮﺍﺭﺿﺶ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﻓﺮﻕ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺑﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‬

‫ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻫـﺮ ﺷـﺮﺍﻳﻂ‪ ،‬ﺧـﻮﺑﻲﻫـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺴـﺖ ﻭ ﺟـﻮ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‪ .‬ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺟﺴﺖ ﻭ ﺟﻮﻱ ﺑـﺪﻱﻫـﺎ‬
‫ﻏﻠﺒﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‬

‫ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺴﺨﺮﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﭼﺮﺍ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﻪ ﺟـﺎﻱ‬
‫ﺭﻭﺷﻨﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻴﺮﮔﻲ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ؟ ﭼﺮﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ‪ ،‬ﺑﺪﻱﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﺑﻴﻨﻨﺪ؟ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ‪ ،‬ﺗﺠﺮﺑﺔ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺍﻧﺘﻘﺎﻝ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻨﻄﻘﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻣﮕﺮ ﻧﻪ؟‬

‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ‪ ،‬ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‬

‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺩﻳﺪﻥ‪ ،‬ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭ ﺣﺲﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺩ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ .‬ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺯﻣﺎﻥﻫـﺎﻱ‬
‫ﺑﺪ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺷﺎﻳﻨﺪ ﻭ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺎﻙ ﺟﺰء ﻻ ﻳﻨﻔﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﻋﺘـﺮﺍﻑ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ ﺑـﻪ‬
‫ﺩﺭﺩ ﺧﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺳﺎﻟﻢ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻣﻔﻴﺪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﭼﻴﺰ‪ ،‬ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ«‬

‫ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ‪» ،‬ﺑﻠﻪ« ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺣﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺩ!‬
‫ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪﻥ ﺍﻳﻦﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺁﻥ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻗﻀﻴﻪ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ )ﻭ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺁﻥ ﻃﺮﻑ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﻋﺠﻴﺐ ﻭ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﺭﺷـﺪ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨـﺪ( ﻋﺎﻣـﻞ‬
‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻣﺆﺛﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺖ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫»ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻌﻨﺎ ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﺪ‬

‫»ﺑﻠﻪ« ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺳﺘﻘﺒﺎﻝ ﻣﺴﺎﺋﻞ ﻭ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ‪ ،‬ﺑـﻪ ﻫـﺪﻑﻫـﺎﻱ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻋﻤـﻖ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﺪ ﻭ ﺭﺍﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﭽﻨﻴﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺟﺎﺯﻩ ﻣﻲﺩﻫـﺪ‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﺩ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ‬
‫ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ‪ ،‬ﺭﺣﻢ ﻭ ﺷﻔﻘﺖ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﺧﺖ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬

‫ﻓﻠﺴﻔﺔ ﻧﺒﺎﺧﺘﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻦ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻡ ﺷﻜﺴـﺖ ﺑﺨـﻮﺭﻡ‪ ،‬ﻣـﻦ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺎﺭﻫـﺎ ﻭ ﺗﺼـﻤﻴﻢ ﮔﻴـﺮﻱﻫـﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﺍﺳـﺘﻘﺒﺎﻝ‬
‫ﻓﺮﺻﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﻡ‪ .‬ﻣﻦ ﻋﻘﻴﺪﻩ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻓﺮﺻﺖﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﻦ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻧﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﻦ ﻫﺮ ﺭﺍﻫﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻢ‪ ،‬ﭘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ‬

‫ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﻏﻠﻂ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻣﺤﺮﻭﻡ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﺤﺮﻭﻡ‬
‫ﺷﺪﻥ ﺍﺯ ﭘﻮﻝ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺍﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲ‪ ،‬ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﭼﻴﺰﻫـﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ‪،‬‬
‫»ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺻﺤﻴﺢ« ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﺯ »ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻩﻫﺎﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭﺱ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻣﺎﻧﺪ!‬

‫ﺗﻜﻠﻴﻒ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻗﺒﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻫﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﻜﺎﻧﺎﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻣﺸﻮﺭﺕ‬
‫ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺟﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ ﺍﻃﻼﻋﺎﺕ ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻏﺮﻳﺰﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺗﻜﺎﻟﻴﻒ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﺍﺩﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺼﻴﺮﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺗﻜﺎء ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺑـﻪ ﺣـﺲ ﻭ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺍﺳﺖ ﺩﺭﻭﻧﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﭘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﻧﺼـﻴﺤﺖ ﻧـﺎﺧﻮﺩﺁﮔـﺎﻩ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﮔـﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺣﻴﺮﺕ ﺯﺩﻩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻫﻤﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﻭ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﺯﻧﺪﻩ ﻧﻤﻲﺷـﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﮔـﺮ ﺑـﺎ‬
‫ﭼﺸﻢ ﺑﺎﺯ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺴﺎﺋﻞ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻣﺸﻮﺭﺕ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﭘﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺟﻮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ‪ ...‬ﺑﻌﺪ ﺗﺼـﻤﻴﻢ‬
‫ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺷﻤﺎ‪ ،‬ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎ ﺑﺮ ﻭﻓﻖ ﻣﺮﺍﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺒﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺳـﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ‪ .‬ﺳـﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ‬
‫ﻋﻤﻠﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺭﻭﻱ ﻧﺎﺗﻮﺍﻧﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﻤﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺼـﻤﻴﻢﻫـﺎﻱ ﺩﺭﺳـﺘﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈـﺮ‬
‫ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥﺗﺮ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺑﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺭﻭﺵ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻫﺮ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺁﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺩﻳﺪﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻥ‬
‫ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ ،‬ﺗﺠﺪﻳﺪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻋـﻮﺽ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺣﻘﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﻲ ﻏﻠﻂ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﻳـﺪ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﭼـﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺍﺻﻼﺡ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﺎﺕ ﻣﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺍﺳﺖ؟‬

‫ﭘﺮﻳﺸﺎﻧﻲ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺭﺿﺎﻳﺘﻲ‪ ،‬ﺳﺮﻧﺦﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻧﺸـﺎﻥ ﻣـﻲﺩﻫﻨـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻫـﻲ‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻻﺯﻡ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺎﻝ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛـﺮﺩﻩﺍﻳـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﭘﺮﻳﺸـﺎﻧﻲ ﻭ‬
‫ﻧﺎﺭﺿﺎﻳﺘﻲ ﻫﻢ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ؟ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻧﺎﺭﺿـﺎﻳﺘﻲ ﻭ ﭘﺮﻳﺸـﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﺎﻋـﺚ‬
‫ﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﻏﻠﻂ ﺭﺍ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻪ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺁﺳﻮﺩﻩ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‬
‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣـﺎ ﭘـﻴﺶ ﻣـﻲﺁﻳـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻔـﻊ‬
‫ﻣﺎﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻣﻔﻬﻮﻡ ﺍﻳﻦ ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢ ﻛﻪ‪» :‬ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻭ ﺑﻲﻣﻌﻨـﻲ‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺭﺍ ﺑﻲﺟﻬﺖ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻫﻤﻴﺖ ﺟﻠﻮﻩ ﻧﺪﻫﻴﺪ«‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﻲﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺖ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ‬

‫ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺍﺋﻢ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪:‬‬
‫»ﻫﺮ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﻔﺘﺪ ﻭ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻦ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ ﻭ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ‬
‫ﺭﺍﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ!« ﻭ ﻳﻘﻴﻨﺎً ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺫﻫﻨﻴﺖ ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺫﻫﻨﻴﺖ ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺣﺎﺻﻞ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻣﺎﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﻧﻘـﺶ‬
‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺯﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﺧﻼﻗﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﻣﺴـﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ‬
‫ﻣﻲﭘﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻼﺵ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺑﺮﺍﺑﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺤﺖ ﻛﻨﺘﺮﻝ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﺠﺎ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﺍﻛﻨﺶﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳـﺪ‪ ،‬ﻛﻨﺘـﺮﻝ‬
‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﺮﻧﺪﻩ ﻭ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺯ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺑﺪﺑﺨﺘﻲ ﻳﺎ ﺧﻮﺷﺒﺨﺘﻲ ﻣﻲﺁﻓﺮﻳﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ »ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ«‪.‬‬

‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺑﭙﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ‬

‫ﭘﺬﻳﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻘﺼﺮ ﻧﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺳﺘﻴﺎﺑﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺑﺎﻻ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻫﻲ ﻃﻮﻻﻧﻲ ﺩﺭ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺭﺍﻫﻲ‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﭘﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﺯ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺯﻱ ﻭ ﺧﻄﺎ‪ ،‬ﻻﺯﻡ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺧـﺎﻃﺮ ﺭﻓﺘـﺎﺭ ﮔﺬﺷـﺘﻪ‪ ،‬ﺣـﺎﻝ ﻳـﺎ‬
‫ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩﺗﺎﻥ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﺔ ﺍﻳﻨﻬﺎ ﺟﺰﺋﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻓﺮﺍﻳﻨﺪ ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﻋﺎﻣﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻌﻴﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻗﺖ‪ ،‬ﻋﺎﻣﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻌﻴﺖ ﻭ ﺩﻝﺳﺮﺩ ﻧﺸﺪﻥ ﻭ ﻫﻤﭽﻨـﻴﻦ ﻋـﻮﺍﻣﻠﻲﻛـﻪ ﺑﺎﻋـﺚ‬
‫ﺩﻝﺳﺮﺩﻱ ﻭ ﻳﺄﺱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻲﺑﻴﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﻭ ﻛﺎﺭ‬
‫ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪.‬‬

‫ﺁﻳﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻏﺮﻏﺮﻭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟‬

‫ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪ ﻫﺎﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨـﺪ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ‬
‫ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻬﺪﻩ ﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻏﺮ ﺯﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﭼﻨﺎﻥ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺟﺎ ﺍﻓﺘﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺷـﺪﻩ ﻛـﻪ ﺣﺘـﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩﺷـﺎﻥ ﻫـﻢ‬
‫ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺻـﻤﻴﻤﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﻛﻤـﻚ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻫﻴـﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻼﺵ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻚ ﻫﻔﺘﺔ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨـﺪ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗـﺖ ﻣﻜﺎﻟﻤـﻪﻫـﺎﻱ ﺑﺴـﻴﺎﺭ‬
‫ﺳﺎﻛﺘﻲ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ!‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﭼﻪ ﺣﺮﻑ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﻢ؟‬

‫ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﺰﺭﮔﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﻭﻱ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻋﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣـﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴـﺪ‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺣﺮﻑ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺣﺎﻃﻪ ﻛﺮﺩﻩﺍﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﺎ ﺧﻮﺵﺑﻴﻨﻲ ﻭ ﺷﺎﺩﻣﺎﻧﻲ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺳﺮﺷﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻟﺤﻈﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﭼـﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳـﻲ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷـﻴﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺩﻝﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﻛﺎﺳﺘﻲﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﻭﻓﻮﺭ ﻭ ﻓﺮﺍﻭﺍﻧﻲ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ؟ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺪﺑﺨﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻗﺪﺭ ﺷﻨﺎﺱ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ؟ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺴﺘﮕﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪﻛﺮﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﻫﻴﭻ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻧﻤـﻲﻛﻨـﺪ؛ ﻓﻘـﻂ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴـﺖ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﻱ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ‬
‫ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻳﻜﻲ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﻃﺮﻑ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻜﻞ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩ ﻛﻤﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻜﻞ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﺳﺮ ﺭﺍﻩﺷﺎﻥ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻲﭘﺬﻳﺮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺷ‪‬ﻜﻮﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﻃﺮﻑ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺗﻌﻤﺪ‪ ،‬ﻋﻤﻞ ﻭ ﺗﻔﻜـﺮ ﻣﺜﺒـﺖ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺑﺎ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻜﻞ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻌﻀﻲ‬
‫ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎ ﻣﺨﺮﺏ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﺩﻫﻨﺪﻩﺍﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏﻛﺮﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ‬

‫ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺗﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ »ﻣﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ«‪ ،‬ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧﺪﻩﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺗﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ‬
‫»ﻣﻦ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﻢ«‪ ،‬ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻨﺪﺓ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺿﻤﻴﺮ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺷﻨﻮﺩ‬

‫ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ‪ ،‬ﭘﻴﺎﻡﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ »ﻣﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﺷﻨﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﺔ ﺿﻌﻒ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺟﻤﻼﺕ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﺩﻫﻨﺪﻩ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺟﻤﻼﺕ ﺗﻀﻌﻴﻒﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩﺍﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺑﺮ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺴﻠﻂ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ‬
‫ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺧﺰﺍﻧﺔ ﻟﻐﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﭘﺎﻙ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻋﺒـﺎﺭﺕ »ﺗﺠﺮﺑـﻪ ﺁﻣﻮﺯﻧـﺪﻩ ﺍﺳـﺖ« ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕ »ﻭﺣﺸﺖﻧﺎﻙ ﺍﺳﺖ« ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕ »ﻣﻦ ﻛﺎﻣﻼً ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻝ ﻫﺴﺘﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ »ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻩ ﺍﺯ ﻣﻦ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ«‪ ،‬ﺑﺴﺎﺯﻳﺪ ﻭ‪...‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ‪ ،‬ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﻋﺰﺕ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺷﻴﻮﻩﺍﻱ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ‬
‫ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻫﺪﻳﻪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺎﻧﻌﻲ ﺑـﺮ ﺳـﺮ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻧﻬـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ ﻋﻨـﻮﺍﻥ‬
‫ﻓﺮﺻﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻛـﻪ ﻓﺮﺻـﺘﻲ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻇﺮﻓﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺣﻞ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﺍﻃـﺮﺍﻑﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﻫﻤﻮﺍﺭ ﺳﺎﺯﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﻛﻠﻴﺪ ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶﺧﺎﻃﺮ‬
‫ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﺠﺒﻮﺭ ﺷﺪﻩﺍﻧﺪ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻮﻟﻨﺎﻙﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻠﻪ ﺑـﺎ‬
‫ﺁﻥ ﺳﺮﺑﻠﻨﺪ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﺁﻳﻨﺪ‪» ،‬ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻩﺍﻧﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺑﺎ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻧﻤﻲﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﻧﺤﻮﺓ ﺑﺮﺧـﻮﺭﺩ‬
‫ﺑﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﻳﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ‬
‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴـﺖ ﻛﻨـﻴﻢ ﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺤـﺪﻭﺩﻩ ﺭﺍﺣـﺖ‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺧﺎﺭﺝ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺜﺎﻝ‪ :‬ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺑﺎ ﺭﺿﺎﻳﺖ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﻭﺳـﺖ ﻳـﺎ‬
‫ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻘﺎﻡ ﺑﺎﻻﺗﺮﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻄﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﭘﺮﻫﻴﺰ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ‬

‫ﺍﺯ ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺗﺎ ﻗﻠﻤـﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘـﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻓـﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑـﻪ‬
‫ﻛﺴﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﻭﺣﺸﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺗﻠﻔﻦ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪ .‬ﺑـﺎ ﻏـﺮﻭﺭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﺳـﺘﻮﺭﺍﻧﻲ ﻗـﺪﻡ‬
‫ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﺁﻥ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ‪...‬‬
‫ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ...‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺮ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔـﺲ ﺷـﻤﺎ‬
‫ﻫﻢ ﺍﻧﺪﻛﻲ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﻭ ﺑﺰﺭگﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻫﺮﮔﻮﻧﻪ ﺗـﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺧﻄـﺮ ﺑـﺎﺯ ﻫـﻢ‬
‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﺳﻴﻠﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺧﻄﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﻭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺘﻲ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‬

‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﻭ ﻧﺎ ﺁﺷﻨﺎﻳﻲ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺣﻘﻴﻘﺖ ﻫﻤﺔ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺸﺎﺑﻬﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﺍﺳﺘﺜﻨﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ‬

‫ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮﺍﻥ ‪ -‬ﻣﺨﺼﻮﺻـﺎً ﺍﻓـﺮﺍﺩ ﻣﺸـﻬﻮﺭ ﻭ ﻣﻬـﻢ ‪ -‬ﺧﻮﺷـﺒﺨﺖ‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﭼﻮﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ! ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫـﻢ ﻣﺠﺒـﻮﺭ‬
‫ﺷﺪﻩﺍﻧﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﻋﻈﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻳﻲ ﺑﻜﺸﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ ...‬ﻭ ﻫﻨﻮﺯ ﻫﻢ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻨﺪ!‬

‫ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﻴﭻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺭﻭﺩ‬

‫ﺗﺎ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻗﺎﺑﻠﻴﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﮔﺴـﺘﺮﺵ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻓـﻖﻫـﺎﻱ‬
‫ﻓﻜﺮﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﮔﺴﺘﺮﺩﻩ ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻢ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺧﺼﻮﺻﻴﺖ ﺑﺸﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﻫﻤﻴﻦﻛﻪ ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣـﻲﻳﺎﺑـﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺗﺤﻤﻞ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﻢ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﻭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﺪ!‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺱ‬

‫ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﺨﻔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﺍﻧﺘﻬﺎﻱ ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﺓ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﺳﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ .‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺪ‬
‫ﻟﻤﺲ ﻛﻨﺪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻳﺶ ﭼﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ؟!‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﺎ ﭼﻴـﺰﻱﻛـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻣـﻲﺗﺮﺳـﻴﺪ ﻧﺰﺩﻳـﻚﺗـﺮ ﺷـﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻧﺘﻴﺠـﻪ‬
‫ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱﺗﺎﻥ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺑﻘﺒﻮﻻﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﺮﺁﻳﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺯﺣﻤﺖ ﺑﺮ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﻏﻠﺒﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻧﻜﺘﺔ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ‬
‫ﻫﻢ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﻣﺸـﻜﻼﺗﻲﻛـﻪ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮ ﺳﺮ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﻓﺎﻳﺪﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻣﺴﺘﻘﻴﻢ ﺁﻥ‬

‫ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻫﺴـﺘﻨﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻄﺮ ﺁﻥ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺭﻓﺘـﻪ‬
‫ﭼﻨﺎﻥ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺭﺧﻨﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻓﻠﺞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﻧﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺧﻄﺮﻱ!‬

‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﺍﻋﻤﺎﻝ ﻓﻴﺰﻳﻜﻲ ﺧﻄﺮﻧﺎﻙ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ؛ ﻫﻤﻴﻦﻃـﻮﺭ‬
‫ﺧﻄﺮﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺿﺮﺭ ﻭ ﺯﻳﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﭼﺮﺍﻍ ﺳﺒﺰِ ﺗﺮﺱ‬

‫ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﻧﻮ ﺑﭙﺮﻭﺭﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﻲﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺧﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﭼﺮﺍﻍ ﺳـﺒﺰﻱ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ‬
‫ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﺗﻔﺴﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻭ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫»ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﻩﺍﺵ ﺑﺮﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫»ﻫﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻠﻲﻛﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ﻭ ﻫﺮ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ﺑﻴﻔﺘﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻦ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﺣﻞ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺮﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ«‪ .‬ﭘﺸﺖ ﺳـﺮ‬
‫ﻫﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﻤﻠﻪ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﭘﻲ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬـﺪﺓ ﺣـﻞ‬
‫ﻫﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻠﻲ ﺑﺮﺁﻳﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ »ﺁﻧﻬﺎ« ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻏﺎﻓﻠﮕﻴﺮ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ!‬
‫ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻱ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻓﻖﻫﺎﻱ‬
‫ﻓﻜﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﮔﺴﺘﺮﺵ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ‬
‫ﻣﺒﺎﺩﺍ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺮﻙ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺷﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻨﺜﻲﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﺛﺮﺍﺕ ﻣﻨﻔﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺆﺛﺮﻱ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥﺗﺎﻥ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺑـﺮ ﺍﻳﺸـﺎﻥ ﮔـﻞ ﺑﻔﺮﺳـﺘﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳـﺎ ﻫـﺮ ﭼﻴـﺰ‬
‫ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻴﺎﻧﮕﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﻮﺕ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻫﺎ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤـﻪ ﺑـﺮ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴـﺖ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﭘﺎﻓﺸـﺎﺭﻱ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲﻛـﻪ ﭘﻴـﺪﺍ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻤﻜـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﺍﻭ ﺑﺘﺮﺳـﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﻮﺕ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺿﻤﻦ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﺩﺍﻣـﺔ‬
‫ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺼﻤﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻫﻢﺧﻮﺭﺩﻥ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻣﺘﺤﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻗﺒﻮﻝ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ »ﺩﺭﺟﺎ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ«‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻟﻴﻞﻛﻪ ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﻃﻠﺐﻛﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺳﺮﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻃﻠﺐﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻟﻄﻤـﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ؛ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺣﺎﻝ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﺩ!‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺍﻳﻤﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫـﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻬﺎﻳـﺖ‬
‫ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﺍﺕ ﻣﺜﺒﺘﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‪ ،‬ﺁﻳﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺍﻳﻦ ﻫﻤﺎﻥ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ؟‬

‫ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮﻧﺪ‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻇﺮﻓﻴﺖ ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻓﺮﻕ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﻭﺍﻗﻊ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﺘﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷـﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻴﺸـﺘﺮ ﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺎﻳﻲ ﺩﻭﺳـﺖ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺑﺎﻫﻢ ﻫﺮﺍﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺎ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ‪ ،‬ﻋﺸﻖ ﺟﺮﻳﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻗﻠﺐﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻳﻘﻴﻨﺎً ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴـﺎﻥﺗـﺎﻥ‬
‫ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺗﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ‪ ،‬ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨﺪﻱ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﻐﻨﺎﻃﻴﺲ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‬

‫ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻭ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ‬
‫ﺭﺍﻩ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺟﻤﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﻧﺘﺮﺱ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺟﻤﻊ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻳﻚ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖﻛﻨﻨﺪﺓ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‬

‫ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺣﺮﻛﺎﺕﺷﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺧـﻮﺑﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣـﺎ‬
‫ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖﻫﺎﻱﺷﺎﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﺗﺎ ﻣﺎ ﺯﻭﺩﺗﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻫﺪﻑ ﺑﺮﺳﻴﻢ‪ .‬ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩ ﺍﻳﻦﺟﻮﺭ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺟﻤﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻣﻲ ﻭ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﺣﻴـﺮﺕ ﺁﻭﺭﻱ‪ ،‬ﺑـﻪ‬
‫ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﭼﻪ ﺟﻮﺭ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ؟‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺷﺶ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺳﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻳﺎ ﺍﻳﻦﻫـﺎ ﻣﺤﺎﻓﻈـﻪ ﻛﺎﺭﻧـﺪ‬
‫)ﻣﻦِ ﭘﺎﻳﻴﻦ ﺗﺮ( ﻳﺎ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺖ )ﻣـﻦِ ﺑـﺎﻻﺗﺮ(‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺻـﻮﺭﺕ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﻣـﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴـﺪ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺟﻠﻮ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻧﻮﻉ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟‬

‫ﺁﻳﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﻛﺴـﻲﻛـﻪ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ ﺗﺮﻗـﻲ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﺎ ﻳﻚ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﻣﺤﺎﻓﻈﻪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺋﻤﺎً ﺍﻣﻜﺎﻥ ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻩ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺧﻄـﺎﺭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﻣﺎ‪ ،‬ﺁﻳﻨﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻣﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﭼﻨﺪﻳﻦ ﺧﺼﻮﺻﻴﺖ »ﻣـﻦ ﻗـﻮﻱ« ﻛـﻪ ﺩﻭﺳـﺖ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪ ،‬ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺳﭙﺲ ﺁﻳﻨﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻮﺳﻌﺔ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺧﺼﻮﺻﻴﺎﺕ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﺒﺖ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍ ﺟﺬﺏ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﺪﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺍﻳـﻦ‬
‫ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﭘﻲ ﺩﺭ ﭘﻲ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﻌﻨـﻲ ﺍﻳـﻦﻛـﻪ ﺍﻧﺴـﺎﻧﻲ ﻣﺘﻔـﺎﻭﺕ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ«‪.‬‬

‫ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲﻫﺎﻳﺶ ﺑﺮ ﺍﺳﺎﺱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻨﻴﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺷﺶ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻋﻼﻗـﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳـﺪ ﺑـﺎ‬
‫ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺑﻌﺪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻧﺎﻫﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ ﺷﺎﻡ ﺩﻋﻮﺕ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻨﺪ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﻋـﻮﺕ‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻧﭙﺬﻳﺮﻓﺘﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺭﺍﺣﺖ ﺑـﻪ‬
‫ﺳﺮﺍﻍ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻣﻼﻗﺎﺕ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱﻛﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ؛ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪ :‬ﺍﺳـﺐ ﺳـﻮﺍﺭﻱ‪ ،‬ﻣﺴـﺎﻓﺮﺕ‪،‬‬
‫ﺳﻴﺎﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻋﻜﺎﺳﻲ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭﮔﺎﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻳﺎ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ‪ .‬ﺑﻌـﺪ ﺑـﻪ ﺩﻧﺒـﺎﻝ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴـﺖﻫـﺎﻱ‬
‫ﻣﺤﻠﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﻼﻳﻖ ﺩﻭﺭ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﮕﺮﺩﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻋﻼﻣـﺖ ﺑﺰﻧﻴـﺪ‪ .‬ﺩﺭ ﺁﻧﺠـﺎ ﺑـﺎ‬
‫ﺍﺷﺨﺎﺹ ﻫﻢﻓﻜﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻼﻗﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺧﻮﺩ‬
‫ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﭘﻴﺎﻡﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺻـﻤﻴﻢ ﻗﻠـﺐ ﺩﻧﺒـﺎﻝ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﺷﺎﻫﺪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﻗﺎﻟﺐ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻌﺎﺩﻝ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺭﺩ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻳﻚ ﺟﻨﺒﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ ﺭﻭﺍﺑﻂ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻪ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ‬
‫ﺑﭽﻪﻫﺎ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻤﺒﻮﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺑﺮ ﺧﻮﺭﺩﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﭼﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺳـﺖ ﻣـﻲﺩﻫـﺪ؟ ﺟـﻮﺍﺏ ﻣﻌﻠـﻮﻡ‬
‫ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺧﺎﻟﻲﺑﻮﺩﻥ! ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ! ﺍﻓﺴﺮﺩﮔﻲ!‬

‫ﻭﺍﺑﺴﺘﮕﻲ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺳﺎﻟﻤﻲ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻳﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻧﻮﻥ ﺍﺻﻠﻲ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﻋﻤﻴﻘﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺁﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺯﺑﺎﻥ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥ‬
‫ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤﻪ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻧﮕﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻣﻲﻛﻪ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺟﻨﺒﻪ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻮﺳﻌﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺿـﻤﻦ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺩﺗـﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺮﺍﺑـﺮ ﺩﺭﺩ ﻓﻘـﺪﺍﻥ‬
‫ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﭼﻪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﻪﺍﻱ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ؟ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺷﺪﺕ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺗﻮﺭ ﻧﺠﺎﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ‬

‫ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﻧﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻣﺮﺑﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺟﻨﺒﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺳﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺳﭙﺲ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻧُﻪ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺗﻘﺴـﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﻫﺮ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﺔ ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﺓ ﻣﺘﻔﺎﻭﺗﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﻣﺜﻞ‪ :‬ﺭﺷﺪ ﺷﺨﺼﻴﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ‪ ،‬ﺷﻐﻞ‪،‬‬
‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ‪ ،‬ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻱ‪ ،‬ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﺷﺮﻛﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺍﺟﺘﻤﺎﻉ‪ ،‬ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻭ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺯﻱ‪.‬‬

‫»ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭﻱ« ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ‬

‫ﻫﻤﺔ ﻣﺎ ﻋﻼﻗﻪ ﻣﻨﺪﻳﻢﻛﻪ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛـﻪ ﻣـﺎ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢ‪ .‬ﺑﻪ ﺟـﺎﻱ ﺍﻳﻨﻜـﻪ ﮔﻴﺮﻧـﺪﻩ‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ؛ ﻭ ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺍﻭﺝ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫»ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻳﺖ« ﻫﻢ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ‬

‫ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻥ ﺁﺷﻨﺎ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﻳﻚ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﻛﺎﻣـﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﺭﻭﺯﻣﺮﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺘﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺤﻞ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺤـﻞ ﻋﺸـﻖ‪،‬‬
‫ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﻣﻲ ﺑﺮﺩ‪ .‬ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻳﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺭﻳﭽـﺔ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﻗـﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﺮﺗﻮ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﻜﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﻧُﻪ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺳﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺍﺳـﺖ‬
‫ﻫﺮ ﻳﻚ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻮﺍﺣﻲ‪ ،‬ﭼﻄﻮﺭﻱ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺑﺮﺳﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻗﺖ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺑـﺎﺭﻩ ﻓﻜـﺮ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻗﺪﻡ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﻡ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺍﻛﻨﻮﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﭘـﺮ ﻭ ﻣﺘﻌـﺎﺩﻝ ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫـﺮ ﮔﻮﻧـﻪ ﻛﻤﺒـﻮﺩﻱ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻫـﻢ‬
‫ﻧﻤﻲ ﺭﻳﺰﺩ؛ ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺳﻮﺭﺍﺥ ﻛﻮﭼﻜﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖﺗﺎﻥ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨـﺪ؛ ﻭﻟـﻲ‬
‫ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺑﺮﺩ؛ ﭼﻮﻥ ﺑﻘﻴﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻘﺪﺍﺭ ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻱ ﻏﻨﻲ ﻫﺴﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﻳـﻚ ﻣـﻮﺭﺩ ﻣﺜـﻞ ﺍﺭﺗﺒـﺎﻁ ﻛـﺎﺭ ﻳـﺎ ﺑﭽـﻪ ﻭ‪...‬‬
‫ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺩﻧﻴـﺎ ﻣﻬـﻢ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ‬
‫ﺳﺰﺍﻭﺍﺭ ﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻏﻨﻲ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺍﺿﺎﻓﻲﻫﺎﻱ ﻭﺍﺟﺐ‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻛﺎﺭﻫـﺎﻱﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻣـﺮﻭﺭ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﻧﺎﻣﻪﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﺎ ﺁﺭﺯﻭ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻱ ﻛﺎﺵ ﺩﺭ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺑﻮﺩﻳﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻣﻲﻛﻪ ﺳﺮ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺁﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﺎﻧﻊ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ‬
‫ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﺮﻛﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﭼﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ؟‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﺔ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ‬
‫ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ‪ ،‬ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ‪ ،‬ﻣﺸﺎﺭﻛﺖ‪ ،‬ﺷﺎﺩﻱ‪ ،‬ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺷﺤﺎﻟﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺯﻧﺪﻩ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗـﺖ‬
‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﻦ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺗﺴﻠﻂ ﺑﺮ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﻣـﻲﻓﻬﻤﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﭼـﻪ‬
‫ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻜﻮﻫﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ!‬

‫ﭘﺮﺩﺍﺧﺘﻦ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﺎ ﺍﺑﺪ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ‬

‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻣﺎﺟﺮﺍﻫﺎﻱ ﺗﺎﺯﻩﺍﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﺭﻗﺎﺑـﺖﻫـﺎﻱ ﺟﺪﻳـﺪ ﺑـﻪ‬
‫ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺷﻐﻞ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ؛ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺭﻭﺍﺑﻂ ﻗﻄﻊ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎ‪ ...‬ﻭﻟﻲ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺻـﺪ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﻢ ﻧﮕﺬﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺗﺄﺳﻔﻲ ﺑﺎﻗﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻣﺎﻧﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻓﺮﻕ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﻧﻤـﻲﻓﻬﻤﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺍﺭﺯﺷﻤﻨﺪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺳﺆﺍﻟﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ‬

‫ﺳﺆﺍﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ﺑﺎ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻣﻄﺮﺡ ﻣﻲ ﺷﻮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ‪» :‬ﺍﮔـﺮ ﻭﺍﻗﻌـﺎً ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ‬
‫ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺍﻡ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺑﻮﺩﻡ‪ ،‬ﭼـﻪ ﻣـﻲﻛـﺮﺩ«؟ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﭼﻨـﻴﻦ ﺳـﺆﺍﻝ ﻣﺤﻜﻤـﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﭘﺮﺳﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩﻱ ﺟﻮﺍﺏ ﻣﺤﻜﻢ ﻭ ﺯﻳﺒﺎ ﻭ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ ﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ ﻫﻢ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺆﺍﻝﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﭘﺎﺳﺦ ﺩﺍﺩﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺑﻲﻛـﻪ ﺭﺳـﻴﺪﻳﺪ ﺣﺘﻤـﺎً‬
‫ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺁﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﮔﺮ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻬﻢ ﺑﻮﺩﻳﺪ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻣﻲﻛﺮﺩﻳـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﻧﺘﻴﺠـﻪ ﺑـﺎ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺭﻙ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨﺪ ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫)ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻄﻠﺐ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ!(‬

‫ﻣﻮﺳﻴﻘﻲ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺩﻭ ﺳﻮﻳﻪ‬

‫ﺩﺍﻧﺴﺘﻦ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻـﺪ ﻣﺘﻌﻬـﺪ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ‪» ،‬ﻣﻮﺳـﻴﻘﻲ‬
‫ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺩﻭ ﺳﻮﻳﻪ« ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎ ﻣﺴﺎﺋﻞ ﺣﺎﺷﻴﻪﺍﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻻﺯﻡ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺳﻄﺢ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻧﻲ ﻋﻤﻴﻖ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﭘﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﻧﺘﺎﻳﺞ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺧﻠﻖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ‬

‫ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﺍﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻨﻈﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻫﺮ ﺣﻮﺯﻩ ﺍﺯ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺳﻴﺪ‪» :‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﻣﻦ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻣـﺪﻡ‪،‬‬
‫ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﺮﺩﻡ«؟ ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺟﻮﺍﺏﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﺳﭙﺲ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺠـﺎﻡ ﺁﻧﻬـﺎ‪.‬‬
‫ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‪:‬‬
‫»ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺧﻠﻖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ«‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺭﺳﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﺳﻤﻲ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ ﺭﻭﺯﺍﻧﺔ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻳﻚ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻨﻮﻳﺴﻴﺪ‪ ...‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺷﺎﻫﺪ ﻏﻨـﻲﺷـﺪﻥ‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻫﺮ ﻋﻠﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺭﺷﺪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﻧﻌﻄﺎﻑ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﺮ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺗﺤﺖ ﭘﻮﺷﺶ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﻧﺪﺍﺩﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺷـﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﮔـﺮ ﻛـﺎﺭ ﺿـﺮﻭﺭﻱ‬
‫ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﭽﻪﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺮﻳﺾ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺗﻌﻄﻴﻼﺕ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺮ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺪﺕ ﻛﻮﺗﺎﻫﻲ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﮔﺬﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺣـﺎﻝ ﺧﻠـﻖ‬
‫ﻧﮕﺮﺷﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ ...‬ﻧﻪ ﻓﺸﺎﺭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ!‬

‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﺍﺳﺖ‬

‫ﻧﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺘﻀﻤﻦ ﻧﮕﺮﺷﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ‪ ،‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻭ ﻋﻤﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ‬
‫ﭘﻲ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﻏﻨﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﻫﻴﭻ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺍﺣﺴـﺎﺱ ﺧـﻮﺏ‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﺩ‪ .‬ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻋﻈﻴﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ! ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﻟﺬﺕ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ!‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺑﻪ ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﭼﺸﻢﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻫﻨﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ‬
‫ﻫﻨﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﺑﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﺎﺭﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﭘﻨﺠﺎﻩ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺧﺎﺭﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻳـﺎ ﺁﻧﻬـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻨﻮﻳﺴـﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ‬
‫ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻛﺪﺍﻡ ﻳﻚ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺣﻖ ﺷﻨﺎﺱ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﻫﺮ ﺷـﺐ ﻗﺒـﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺍﺏ‬
‫ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻋﻈﻴﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻏﻨﻲ ﻧﻴﺰ ﻫﺴﺖ!‬

‫ﻃﺮﻑ ﺭﻭﺷﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺑﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺁﻥ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺧﺎﺻﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻌﻠـﻴﻢ‬
‫ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺩﻗﻴﻘﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ‪ ،‬ﺷﻜﺎﻳﺖ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺯﻳﺒﺎﻳﻲﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺑﺮ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ ،‬ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺮ ﻓﺮﺍﻭﺍﻧﻲ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻤﺒﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﺜﻞ ﭘﻮﻝ‪ ،‬ﻭﺳﺎﻳﻞ‪ ،‬ﺯﻳﺒﺎﻳﻲ‪ ،‬ﻋﺸﻖ ﻳﺎ‬
‫ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﻤﻠﻪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪» :‬ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻦ ﭘﺮ ﻭ ﻏﻨـﻲ ﺍﺳـﺖ‪ ،‬ﻣـﻦ ﺑـﺮ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ‬
‫ﺯﻳﺒﺎﻳﻲﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻢ ﻫﺴﺖ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ«‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ!‬

‫ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻓﻘﻂ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟‬

‫ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺍﺳﺎﺱ ﻳﻚ ﻧﻈﺎﻡ ﭘﻨﻬﺎﻥ ﻣﻌﺎﻣﻠﺔ ﭘﺎﻳﺎ ﭘﺎﻱ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﻛﻤﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻛﻪ ﺑﻲﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﭼﺸﻢﺩﺍﺷﺘﻲ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪ .‬ﺧﻮﺍﻩ ﭘﻮﻝ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﺎ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ‪ ،‬ﻋﺸﻖ ﻳﺎ‬
‫ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ!‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﻫﺪﻳﻪﺍﻱ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰﻩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺎ‬
‫ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺩﺭ ﻋﻮﺽ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ‪ ،‬ﻫﺪﻳﻪﺍﻱ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺎ ﭘﺲ ﻧﺪﻫﻨﺪ ﭼـﻪ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ؟ ﺍﻳـﻦ‬
‫ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻲ ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﺫﻫﻦ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺫﻫﻨﻲ ﻣـﺎ ﺭﺍ‬
‫ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺨﺸﻴﺪﻥ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ‬
‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺻﻤﻴﻢ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺗﻮﻗﻊ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺁﻥ ﭼﻴـﺰﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ‬
‫ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺻﻠﺢ ﻭ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺣﻜﻢ ﻓﺮﻣﺎ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻣﺎ ﺷﺎﺩﻱ ﻣﻲﺁﻓﺮﻳﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ‬
‫ﺑﺰﺭﮔﻲ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺩﺭ ﮔﻴﺮ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻏﺎﻓﻞ ﺷﻮﻳﻢ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻣـﻲﺗـﻮﺍﻧﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺻـﻤﻴﻢ‬
‫ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺒﺨﺸﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺣﺎﻟﺖ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻧﺘﻈﺎﺭ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫـﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳـﻦ‬
‫ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺁﺯﺍﺩﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﻻﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺣﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺗﻀﺎﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻣﺎ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﺻﺮﻓﺎً ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻧـﻪ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﺭﻭﻱ ﭼﺸﻢﺩﺍﺷﺖ‪ ،‬ﭘﻲ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺣﺪ ﺗﺼﻮﺭﻣﺎﻥ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪﺍﻳﻢ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺨﺸﺶ‪ ،‬ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺟﺰﻭ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺭﻭﺯﻣﺮﻩ ﺗﺎﻥ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﮔﻴﺮﺩ‪ ،‬ﺣﺲ ﻛﻤﺒﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨـﺪﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﺩﺳﺖ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺑﻲﻧﻴﺎﺯﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ ﻛﺴـﻲ ﻣـﻲﺑﺨﺸـﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺣـﺲ‬
‫ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ ﻣﺘﺸﻜﺮﻡ‪...‬‬

‫ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺳﭙﺲ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﻣﻨﻈﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺮﺍﻍ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ‬
‫ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺳﻬﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺗﺸـﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪ .‬ﻛﻠﻤـﺔ »ﻣﺘﺸـﻜﺮﻡ«‬
‫ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻣﻨﺪﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻭ ﺑﺨﺸﻨﺪﻩﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺎﻝ ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﺷﺪﻩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﺯ ﻛﻤﻚ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﻭ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺯ‬
‫ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻳﺎﺩ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪﺍﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﺛﺮ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺑﺴـﻴﺎﺭ ﺑـﺰﺭگ ﺟﻠـﻮﻩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺍﺯ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺷﺎﻥ‬
‫ﺩﺷﻮﺍﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻛﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﻭ ﺗﺸﻜﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻫﺎﻥ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺧﺎﺭﺝ ﻧﻤﻲﺷـﻮﺩ‪،‬‬
‫ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺑﻬﺘـﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﻫـﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺧﺸـﻢ ﻭ ﺭﻧﺠـﺶ ﺍﺳـﺖ‪ .‬ﺗﺤﺴـﻴﻦ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻣﻮﺍﻧﻌﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮ ﺳﺮ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ ﻭ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎ ﭘﻮﻝ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﻓﺮﻗﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻚ ﻧﻔﺮ ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﺛﺮﻭﺕ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ‪ .‬ﻣﻬـﻢ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﺴـﺒﺖ‬
‫ﺛﺮﻭﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪ ،‬ﻣﻘﺪﺍﺭﻱ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨـﺪﺍﻥ ﭘـﻮﻝ ﺑﺪﻫﻴـﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺭﻭﺣﻴﻪﺍﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷـﻮﺩ ﻛـﻪ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺳﺨﺖﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﻫﺪﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ‬

‫ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺟﺰﺋﻴﺎﺕ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺸﺨﺺ ﺳـﺎﺯﻳﺪ‬
‫ﻭ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﭼﻪ ﺗﺄﺛﻴﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺤﻴﻂ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ﮔﺬﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ‪،‬‬
‫ﺣﺘﻤﺎً ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﻣﻮﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﺆﺛﺮ ﺑﻮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛـﺎﺭ ﻓﺎﻳـﺪﻩﻫـﺎﻱ‬
‫ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻱ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺁﺩﻡ ﻣﺆﺛﺮﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻋﺘﻤـﺎﺩ ﺑـﻪ‬
‫ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﻻ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﺩ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻗﺪﻡ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﻡ‬

‫ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ‬

‫ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺘﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺑـﻮﺩﻥ ﺑـﺪﻥﺗـﺎﻥ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺭﺯﺵ ﺍﺣﺘﻴـﺎﺝ ﺩﺍﺭﻳـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ‬
‫ﻧﮕﻬﺪﺍﺭﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻫﻢ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ‪ .‬ﺑﺎ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﻭ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗـﻮﻱ«‬
‫ﭘﻴﻮﺳﺘﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻫﺮ ﭼﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ‬

‫ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻧﻤﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢﻛﻪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﺍﺗﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻣـﺎ ﺍﺗﻔـﺎﻕ ﻣـﻲﺍﻓﺘـﺪ‪ .‬ﺑـﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ‪،‬‬
‫ﻫﻨﮕــﺎﻣﻲﻛــﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﺑــﺰﺍﺭ »ﻣــﻦ ﻗــﻮﻱ« ﺧــﻮﺩ ﺍﺳــﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣــﻲﻛﻨﻴــﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷــﻤﺎ ﻓــﺮﺩﻱ ﻗــﺪﺭﺕﻣﻨــﺪﺗﺮ‪،‬‬
‫ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲﺗﺮ ﻭ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ .‬ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﭘﺮﺗﻮﻫﺎﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﻳـﺪﻩ ﻭ‬
‫ﭘﺬﻳﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﺷﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺻﺒﻮﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ!‬
‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺻﺒﻮﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺩﺭ ﺣـﺎﻟﻲﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ‬
‫ﺗﻘﻮﻳﺖ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔـﺲ ﺑﻴﺸـﺘﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺟـﻮﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲ ﺁﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺻﺒﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻝ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻣﻜـﺎﻥ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﻢ‪ ،‬ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﻳﻚ ﮔَُﻞ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻣﻲ ﺷﻜﻮﻓﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﮔﻲ ﺷﻜﻮﻓﺎﻳﻲ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻪ‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺑﺪﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺟـﺎﺯﻩ‬
‫ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ »ﺩﺭﺳﺖ« ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻧﺪﺍﺩﻥ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻳﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﺭ ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﻋﻤﻞﻧﻜـﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﭼﻴـﺰﻫـﺎﻱ‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻣﺸﺎﺑﻪ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻛﻨﺪ! ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﻫـﺮ ﻗـﺪﻡ‬
‫ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻣﺜﺒﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﺮ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ‬

‫ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ‪ ،‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕﻫﺎﻱ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‪ :‬ﮔﻔﺘﻦ »ﺑﻠﻪ« ﺑـﻪ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ‬
‫ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺳﺮ ﻧﻮﺷﺖ ﻧﺒﻮﺩﻥ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺷﻜﺴﺖ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺧﺖ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ‪ ...‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕﻫﺎ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ‬
‫»ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺳﻮﻕ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻏﺬﺍﻱ ﺑﺪﻥ‪ ،‬ﺫﻫﻦ ﻭ ﺭﻭﺡ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻴﻨﺪﻳﺸـﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻓﺮﺍﻣـﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑـﻪ ﻃـﻮﺭ‬
‫ﻣﻨﻈﻢ ﻏﺬﺍ ﺑﺨﻮﺭﻳﺪ‪.‬‬

‫ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ‬

‫ﺑﻪ ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ‪ ،‬ﮔﻮﺵ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ‪ ...‬ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛـﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸـﻪ‬
‫ﻳﺎﺩ ﺁﻭﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪ ،‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻗﻮﻱ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻨﻲ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ ﭼﻴـﺰﻱ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ‬
‫ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺑﺒﺨﺸﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﮔﺮ ﺗﺎﻛﻨﻮﻥ‬
‫ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻧﺮﺳﻴﺪﻩﺍﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ‪ .‬ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺣﻘﻴﻘﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ!‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﺩﺭﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻧﻮﻳﺴﻨﺪﻩ‬

‫ﺩﻛﺘﺮ ﺳﻮﺯﺍﻥ ﺟِﻔ‪‬ﺮﺯ‪ ،‬ﻧﻮﻳﺴﻨﺪﻩ ﻭ ﻣﻌﻠﻤﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻬﺮﺕ ﺟﻬﺎﻧﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻴﻠﻴﻮﻥﻫﺎ ﻧﻔـﺮ‬
‫ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺴﻠﻂ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﻟﻮﺱ ﺁﻧﺠﻠﺲ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ‪.‬‬
‫ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻲ ﺗﻤﺎﺱ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ‪:‬‬
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‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫ﻣﺆﺳﺴﺔ ﺍﻧﺘﺸﺎﺭﺍﺕ ﻗﺪﻳﺎﻧﻲ ﻣﻨﺘﺸﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪:‬‬

‫ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﺯﻭﺝﻫﺎﻱ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻨﺪ‬

‫• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ‪ ،‬ﺗﻮﻟﺪ ﺗﺎ ‪ 4‬ﻣﺎﻫﮕﻲ‬
‫• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ‪ 5 ،‬ﺗﺎ ‪ 8‬ﻣﺎﻫﮕﻲ‬
‫• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ‪ 9 ،‬ﺗﺎ ‪ 12‬ﻣﺎﻫﮕﻲ‬
‫• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ‪ ،‬ﻳﻚ ﺳﺎﻟﮕﻲ‬
‫• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ‪ ،‬ﺗﻐﺬﻳﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻴﺮ ﻣﺎﺩﺭ‬
‫• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ‪ ،‬ﺳﺎﻝﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﻮﭘﺎﻳﻲ‬

‫ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ‬

‫• ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ‪ ،‬ﺷﺶ ﻫﻔﺘﻪ ﺍﻭﻝ‬
‫• ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻫﻨﻤﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺍﺏ ﺧﻮﺏ‬
‫• ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻫﻨﻤﺎﻱ ﺗﻐﺬﻳﺔ ﺧﻮﺏ‬
‫• ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ‪ ،‬ﺭﺍﻫﻨﻤﺎﻱ ﻋﺎﺩﺕﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺏ‬

‫ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺷﺎﺩ‬

‫• ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺷﺎﺩ‪ ،‬ﺗﻮﻟﺪ ﺗﺎ ‪ 2‬ﺳﺎﻟﮕﻲ‬
‫• ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺷﺎﺩ‪ 2 ،‬ﺗﺎ ‪ 4‬ﺳﺎﻟﮕﻲ‬

‫ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﭘﺰﺷﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺯﺑﺎﻥ ﺳﺎﺩﻩ‬

‫• ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻭﺯﻥ‬
‫• ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺷﻤﺎ‬
‫• ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﺩﻳﺎﺑﺖ‬

‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ ﺭﻭﺍﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ ﮐﺎﺷﺎﻥ‬

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‫• ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﺗﻐﺬﻳﻪ ﻭﺭﺯﺷﻜﺎﺭﺍﻥ‬

‫ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺯﻳﺴﺘﻦ‬

‫• ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻴﺴﺖ؟‬
‫• ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺑﺮ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻲ ﻭ ﺍﺿﻄﺮﺍﺏ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺯ ﺷﺪﻡ؟‬
‫• ‪ 5‬ﺭﻭﺯ ﻻﻏﺮ ﺷﻮﻳﻢ‬
‫• ﺍﺯ ﺳﺎﻟﺨﻮﺭﺩﮔﻲ ﻟﺬﺕ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﻢ‬
‫• ﺩﺧﺘﺮ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﭘﺴﺮ؟‬
‫• ‪ 10‬ﮔﺎﻡ ﺗﺎ ﺟﻮﺍﻥﺗﺮ ﺷﺪﻥ‬
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‫ﺭﻭﺍﻥﺷﻨﺎﺳﻲ ﺳﺎﺩﻩ ‪8 -‬‬

‫• ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﻣﻨﺘﺸﺮ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ‪:‬‬
‫• ‪ 150‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺣﻔﻆ ﺗﻨﺪﺭﺳﺘﻲ‬
‫• ‪ 60‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬
‫• ‪ 150‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﺳﻮﺩﮔﻲ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ‬
‫• ‪ 150‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺎﺭ‬
‫• ‪ 150‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻮﺍﺏ ﺭﺍﺣﺖ‬
‫• ‪ 60‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣﺘﺤﺎﻥ‬
‫• ‪ 57‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﻤﻨﺪﻱ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ‬
‫• ‪ 135‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ‬
‫• ‪ 46‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﻭﻳﺎﺭﻭﻳﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺑﺤﺮﺍﻥ‬
‫• ‪ 148‬ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻟﺬّﺕ ﻭ ﺷﺎﺩﻣﺎﻧﻲ‬

‫ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ »ﻧﻔﺲ« ﻳﻌﻨـﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺎﻳﻲ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻠـﻖ ﭼﻴﺰﻫـﺎﻳﻲﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ‬

‫ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻧﻴـﺎﺯ ﺩﺍﺭﻳـﻢ‪ ،‬ﻣـﺎ ﺍﻏﻠـﺐ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺎﻳﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﻳـﺎﺩ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﻢ‪ ،‬ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﮔﺮﻳﺰ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺷـﻲ‪ ،‬ﻧﻜﺘـﻪﻫـﺎﻱ ﻋﻤﻠـﻲ ﻭ‬
‫ﺭﺍﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺳﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ‪.‬‬
‫ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻩﻫﺎ ﻧﻤﻮﻧﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻧﻜﺘـﻪﻫـﺎ‬
‫ﺁﺷﻨﺎ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﺑﻪ ﺧﺼﻮﺹ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑـﺎ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴـﺖ ﺗـﺎﺯﻩﺍﻱ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﻭ‬
‫ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ‪ ،‬ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻛﺎﺭﺑﺮﺩ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘـﻪﻫـﺎ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ‬
‫ﺳﺎﺯﮔﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﺎ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﻳﺎﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ‪.‬‬