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B E I N S P I R ED • B E B R AV E • B E K I N D • B E YO U R S EL F

TEEN Breathe

YouTube stardom: the reality • Coding: girls do it too • Make a vision board
Put on your dancing shoes • Worldly wisdom • Love the weekend

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INSIDE ISSUE 6
2 DON’T BE SORRY 34 CONQUEROR’S BREATH
What are you apologising for? Use the breath to improve focus
and build positive thinking
4 PICTURE THE MEMORY
Who’s who and what’s what 36 LOVE THE WEEKEND
How to turn these precious
8 WANT TO BE A YOUTUBE HIT? non-school days into pure bliss
The realities of vlogging as a career
38 ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
10 CARING LESS ABOUT SPORT Noticing the smaller things in life
How to embrace negative can shape how you see the world
experiences and up your game
42 SENSE AND SENSITIVITY
13 CALLING ALL DAREDEVILS Just in – the soft souls among
Top tips for the adventurous us have hidden strengths

14 GETTING YOUR VOICE HEARD 44 LISTEN UP


How to sway people in authority Why paying attention to others’
words isn’t as easy as it seems
16 CARRY ON LAUGHING
Why giggling is good for you 48 ARE YOU A BUDDING
HORTICULTURIST?
18 #INSIDEOUT If you love the great outdoors, you
Look at yourself through your own might find jobs do grow on trees
eyes – and not other people’s
50 NUTRITION: THE TRUTH
20 GIRLS WHO CODE Teen Breathe picks up 10 food tips
The language that can open up
a world of opportunities 54 TOO EMBARRASSING!
Help for when the adults in
24 RIDING LIFE’S WAVES… your life leave you red-faced
… with yoga’s boat posture
56 WRITE ON
26 TOO MUCH THINKING? Forget commas, forget subclauses,
Reflec tion can be great but don’t forget straight lines – expressing
let it stop you moving forward yourself freely is good for the soul

28 KEEP DANCING 60 EMOJI MANIA


Creative, fitness- enhancing and Happy, tired, sad – it’s your choice
fun – put on your dancing shoes
62 WORLDLY WISDOM
30 MAKE A VISION BOARD With time, it’s possible to gain a
Create a collage that will help greater understanding of the world
you reach your goals
64 CALM YOUR BUTTERFLIES
Find somewhere quiet and breathe

ON THE COVER: Illustration by Lady Desidia

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WELCOME TO
TEEN Breathe
How many times a day do you say sorry – once, less than 10,
more than 20? Brits are famous (or should that be notorious?) for
apologising, especially when they haven’t done anything wrong.
It mostly stems from a desire to be polite, consideration for
others and to take responsibility for mistakes or unintended hurts.
And there’s nothing wrong with that. But there’s a downside,
especially when it’s used to avoid awkward situations and it
affects your confidence to assert your thoughts and opinions or
even to wear the clothes you prefer or eat the food you like.
Try not to be tempted to follow this route. When you know you
aren’t doing – and haven’t done – anything wrong, stand firm.
Politely assert who you are and what you’re proud to be. And you
can be different, now and in your future. That might mean others
think you’re geeky because you’re into coding or a bit of an OAP
because you love growing plants, but who cares! Do your thing.
Girls code; girls garden; and girls giggle – a lot – which is great
as it releases feel-good emotions and develops friendship bonds.
Perhaps everyone should be apologising less and laughing more.

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SORRY
DON’T BE
Top tips

» When you need


to ask a question
Rather than starting
questions with: ‘Sorry,
I don’t understand…’ find
an alternative. Maybe: ‘Can
you go through that again?’
or ‘Could you give me an
example, please?’.

Do you ever start sentences with ‘sorry for bothering » When you interrupt
you...’ or ‘sorry, would you mind if...’? Perhaps you feel a conversation
Knowing when and how
an urge to apologise for every little thing, even when
to interject is essential,
it isn’t necessary, whatever’s happened isn’t your fault so wait for a break in the
and there’s no remorse. Sorry, why do you do this? conversation and then say:
‘Could I just add to that…’.

» When you need to get


Why so many apologies? someone’s attention
Most people are taught from an early age to be nice and polite, to think Trying to get past someone?
of others, to say sorry when they make a mistake and take responsibility. ‘Excuse me’ generally does
That’s just learning to be a conscientious member of society. But when the trick. Almost bumped
you’re apologising because someone’s bumped into you, for the clothes into someone? ‘Ah – I didn’t
you’re wearing or the food you’re eating, it could be a sign you’re see you there, how are you?’
worrying too much about what others think and placing their needs
above your own. There’s a downside to always putting others first – by » If you ever have
deliberately accepting blame when it’s not justified, or fearing that to give bad news
situations might become awkward if you rock the boat, there’s a chance The phrase ‘I’m sorry to
that your self-esteem will suffer. tell you…’ can increase
the feeling of negativity.
When to apologise (or not) Instead, calmly explain
Next time you find yourself saying the word sorry, stop and ask yourself what has happened and
if you really need to apologise: did you actually do anything wrong? Do then offer support or help
you want to accept responsibility for whatever has happened? If you to find solutions.
do, then that’s fine. But if not, don’t put yourself down. It will only give
people the sense you’ve failed in some way, that you aren’t living up to
WORDS: ANNE GUILLOT. ILLUSTRATION: STEPHANIE HOFMANN

their (or your) expectations. Similarly, are you using sorry as an automatic DON’T apologise
response, a get-out card to avoid awkward situations? Try to avoid this for circumstances you
temptation and instead, stand up straight and be assertive. can’t control

Turn apologies into gratitude DO take responsibility for


your actions if you’ve hurt
Switching from sorry to thank you is an easy way to turn a negative
or offended someone
message into a positive one. If you arrive late for lunch with a friend,
try saying: ‘Thanks so much for waiting. I’m late because…’. If someone DON’T apologise
points out a mistake you’ve made, acknowledge it and add that you for the way you look,
appreciate them mentioning it in a constructive way. This will make think or feel
them feel more comfortable about the situation and boost your
confidence at the same time.

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PICTURE THE MEMORY
What’s your best friend’s phone number? Can you remember all your passwords and PINs? What
about the names of new people? Ever struggled to play the ‘I went to market and I bought…’
listing game? Increasingly, memory has been delegated to a smartphone’s directory or to a search
engine. But what happens when you lose your mobile or the broadband’s down? Should humans
remember a little more for themselves?

h
Sandwic
BO
OK

Whisk

Cockroach

Bobble hat

Slippers
HOC

Jigsaw
Jigs
gsaw
KEY
STIC
K

Banana

Flamingo
Flamin
ngo
o

memory game
Look at the pictures above for 30 seconds. Cover with a sheet of paper and write down the items you remember.
It’s hard for short-term memory to retain more than seven items, some even say four. So if you remembered all 10 you
did really well. Perhaps you found the flamingo easiest to remember because a colourful, strange-looking bird is quicker
to recall than a plain hockey stick. Encoding information with strong, vivid images is at the heart of the memory techniques
you’re going to try.
Look again at the pictures and try to weave them together creating a story or linking each item to the next: the flamingo
wears a giant, wobbling bobble hat, the hat has a spinning whisk bursting through the fluffy bobble and so on until you’ve
named all the items. Using emotion and the senses is even more effective for remembering, so add a feeling of disgust
when you munch on a cockroach sandwich, imagining the crunching noise and revolting taste.

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So pleased to meet you
Picking up names quickly is a useful life skill but many people
» What images can you conjure
up for Finn, Ali, Tabby and
Millie?
struggle with it. Try this next time you meet someone new:

Imagine you’re at a party and meet Harry and Poppy.


Repetition helps to engrain information so first repeat their names several
times – Hello Harry. Hi Poppy.

Then use a strong image.


Either Use someone you know already with the same name – picture
Harry with Prince Harry on his shoulders.
Or Play with the name – picture Poppy with a giant poppy flower for her
face, wearing a dress full of cascading, red poppies with champagne corks
and party poppers flying all around her.

Revisit the images you created throughout the evening, then a couple
of days afterwards and then again a week later, and their names will be
set. Poppy and Harry will be touched that you remember their names
the next time you meet.

A teenage girl from Mongolia won


the most recent World Memory
Championships. She competed in
10 disciplines including lists of words,
dates and faces and she remembered
an impressive 37 decks of shuffled cards
– that’s 1,924 playing cards. Mental
athletes involved in memory feats will
say that they’re not gifted or a genius –
they have simply trained their brain. Not
everyone needs to remember thousands
of random digits or cards but the same
basic techniques help with remembering
more everyday information.

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Wacky numbers

Now you’ve cracked objects and names, what about numbers? How can you picture a PIN,
phone number or a password? You have to spend time learning something new to make this work,
but it’s worth it.

Write out the numbers 0-9. What do they look like to you? Maybe zero is a doughnut, 1 is a pole
or 2 is a swan, 3 is a wiggly worm and so un until 9.
Draw colourful images to represent each number.
Say your PIN is 3022. Imagine a wiggly worm threading through the ring of a giant sticky doughnut which is
being thrown over two swans like hoopla.
You can even attach images to punctuation to use for passwords: @ could be a curled-up cat; an asterisk *
could be a dazzling star on top of a Christmas tree; an exclamation mark ! could be a baseball bat and ball.
These can all interact with numbers to create weird and memorable images. Give it a go yourself, below.

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The loci method
With this method, also known as ‘memory ory
palaces’, you place items from a list along
ng
a route or an interior you know very well.ell.
You could use your home or the path
to school. Fictional detective Sherlock
Holmes uses it to dazzle clients, but it’s
been around since Ancient Greece and
Rome. The Roman politician and lawyerr
Cicero would prepare a speech by placing ing
key points in different rooms of his villa,
a, all
in his head. Then, when delivering it, he’d
e’d
wander the imagined rooms picking up p the
different sections, amazing his audience ce
with his oratory.
Again, it helps if you make the images es
stand out. Maybe the flamingo is shriekingking
through your letterbox and the bobblee hat
is dancing on the hall table.
Place all the items from the list in your
ur
own ‘memory palace’ and retrieve them. m.

» Write a new list to practise with this method – it could be items to take on a school trip,
ingredients for a recipe or things you have to do in a day.
WORDS: TRACY DARNTON @TRACYDARNTON. ILLUSTRATIONS: ANIESZKA BANKS

These are just a few memory techniques. Have fun with them. Next time you go shopping, try to remember your list, or
take the time to learn your PINs, passwords and important phone numbers. You might even want to become a mental
athlete who enters competitions. At the very least, you could win ‘I went to market and I bought…’ next time you play.

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WANT TO BE A

YOUTUBE STAR?
Then you might want to think again. Here’s why there’s more to life than
a YouTube career – even for those who are living it

YouTubers make people laugh, comfort them and inspire You can script your videos, stick to an upload schedule and
them. They can also give viewers something to aspire to – update your social media to match. But what if you don’t
who wouldn’t want to make a living from vlogging about become popular?
things they’re passionate about, right? But just because No one is ever guaranteed to be successful online. There
the lifestyle seems desirable doesn’t mean you shouldn’t isn’t a formula – and while there are no certainties in life
question what it means to be a YouTuber, and whether it’s or in any job, it’s important to remember that your worth
really what you want. isn’t connected to how many online followers you have.
When YouTube becomes a job, it has pitfalls and Professional YouTubers are under constant pressure to
challenges like any other. There are endless opportunities maintain their subscribers and large audiences. If their
for jobs and careers out there if you stay open-minded and number of views starts dropping, it can be tough to ignore
explore your hobbies, talents and dreams. You don’t need thoughts that they aren’t good enough.
online fans to be happy and fulfilled. External validation comes from other people praising
you and your decisions, or in this case watching and
Being good enough praising your videos. It might feel good for a while, but
One of the biggest draws of a YouTube career is that it’s it wears off quickly, and you might find you start to feel
such an easy platform to get into. With camera equipment down about yourself until the next time you’re praised.
and editing software, anyone can create a YouTube channel. It can be addictive, and it’s never enough.

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Validation from yourself is stronger and more valuable. The real deal
Inner confidence – accepting who you are and taking It’s easy for YouTubers to feel the pressure of having to be
care of yourself – is a healthier and kinder aspiration than happy and high energy all the time, but real happiness is
popularity, and can last a lifetime. You can learn to rely on more valuable than looking happy online.
yourself, not online followers. Popularity on YouTube has its positives, but it’s good to
consider the negatives too. Finding something that fulfils
Always happy? you, rather than something that may make you popular,
It’s easy to believe that YouTubers are always content – but will give you genuine happiness. You can learn to validate
it’s fairly straightforward to make yourself appear happy yourself and be your own biggest fan, whatever you do. You
online. Vlogs appear candid and casual, but that doesn’t get to decide what success means to you – and it doesn’t
mean that YouTubers don’t pick and choose what you see. have to include amassing subscribers.
Often, they want the internet to see only the best side of
them. No one feels their absolute best every day and it
would be unfair to place that expectation on yourself.
Being a professional YouTuber is a full-time career like any What job will make
other. If you want to be successful and remain at the top you happy?
of your game it takes hard work and requires passion, long
hours and a willingness to persevere through difficult times. A job that matches your interests is more likely
It’s also useful to remember that YouTubers are people with to keep you smiling. Use these ideas as the
fully rounded lives. They have friends and hobbies they starting point to work out what your dream job
might not post about on YouTube, and they have bad days might look like…
and times when they feel upset, but you may not see that
on their channel. I am a great communicator
Many YouTubers have acknowledged how their career Think about work that will allow you to persuade
affects their lives – both the positives and the negatives. other people to do something, buy something or
Zoe Sugg, aka Zoella, wrote on her blog that she overcame believe in your cause.
anxiety with the help of a therapist and her friends and
family. It wasn’t her YouTube career that helped her mental I am practically minded
health – it was hard work and support, and at the time this Look for something hands-on, like building,
was all happening, she wasn’t letting it show on YouTube. cooking, working with animals, plants and
One friend of Zoe’s is fellow YouTuber Louise Pentland machines, sports or hands-on therapy.
(known as SprinkleofGlitter), who has written on her blog
about the pressure of high internet standards. ‘For a long I love to make new things happen
time I’ve tried to be perfect. It’s exhausting,’ she said, before Search for careers that will let you achieve things.
going on to acknowledge that her YouTube channel did not This may involve planning, managing projects,
reflect her authentic self – bad moods, messy hair, ups and leadership, creating a new business, shaping and
downs and all. Now, Louise sets out to make videos that organising teams of people.
reflect her whole self, but it took many years for her to feel
confident enough to do so. I want to help and support people
Think about jobs that mean you’ll be working with
people, putting their wellbeing and development at
the forefront. Charities, healthcare, education.
WORDS: CHARLIE COOK. PHOTOGRAPHS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

I like to research and manage information


Focus on work that includes analysis, cataloguing
and managing databases, IT, science, quality control
or researching topics in depth.

I want to use ideas creatively


Working imaginatively with ideas or designs could
include jobs in film, TV, photography, publishing,
performing arts, creative writing, also visual arts,
business creativity, marketing or architecture.

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SPORT, PASSION
AND THE ART OF
NOT CARING
Turn negative experiences into positive opportunities and up your game

There’s something freeing and invigorating about running levelled head); temperance (exercising self-restraint); justice
around a playing field, diving into a swimming pool or (treating others with fairness even when they’ve done
kitting up in the leisure centre changing room with a wrong); and courage (facing challenges with integrity). In
bunch of people who have nothing in common besides a short, it’s about learning to make the best of bad situations.
mutual love for one particular sport. It’s a chance to forget ‘Stoicism is the distinction between what you can control
everyday responsibilities for an hour or so and just enjoy and what you can’t,’ says author Ryan Holiday in his popular
yourself. It’s a form of escapism. 2014 book The Obstacle Is The Way: The Timeless Art Of
Passion for a sport is a wonderful thing, and motivates Turning Trials Into Triumph. ‘That’s probably the hardest idea
people to do things they never dreamed possible. But it can of professional sports – that you have to detach yourself
sometimes result in a weird stalemate and what was meant from the results and focus exclusively on what you do and
to be an escape route can feel more like prison if you start do it well. You can’t get mad about missing the shot, or
to lose control of your mental game. Training sessions can losing a game, or calls that went against you. You have to
become less about pushing your body and more about focus on what you were supposed to do and whether you
straining your mind worrying about skill progression, or did it right.’
lack thereof. The same applies to amateur sports. Instead of imagining
During team sports, the skillset of the individual doesn’t ideal situations and environments, stoics focus on dealing
matter. It’s more about coming together as one and with the world as it is. You may not be able to control
performing as a unit. A team is only as strong as its weakest outside variables, but you can determine how you react to
link, and with that in mind, the pressure to improve and adverse situations. You can’t control what others think of
grow as an athlete can leave you feeling overwhelmed. you, but you can determine how you see yourself. Stoicism
No one likes to be left behind, but combine that with is the art of not caring.
concerns or worries that you’re letting down the team and That’s not to say you should lose the passion – instead,
you have a lot to handle. Thankfully, there are things that channel it into something else, and interpret what you
can be done to combat the negative mental strain, or at would usually consider negative experiences as positive
least to keep it at bay. opportunities. If you don’t make the game roster, try to
It may sound a bit over the top to apply the life work of learn from those who did. If you don’t beat your opponent,
philosophers to amateur sports, but the idea of stoicism set new goals to up your own game. Just care less about
and its virtues can be useful when it comes to sorting out the things you can’t control and, as bleak as it sounds, take
a negative headspace. Stoicism was first developed in comfort in the knowledge that there are some things you
around 300BC by a Greek physician, Zeno of Citium, and can’t change. It’s extremely hard to enjoy a sport or hobby
its philosophy comes down to four fundamental virtues: when you’re preoccupied with so many external variables,
wisdom (approaching difficult situations with a logical and and what’s the point of having hobbies you can’t enjoy?

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Own goals
Before each training session, note
down three things you want to work
on in regard to your own skills. If you
Hopes and aspirations don’t have to succeed, celebrate your wins for that
be long term – you can improve your session. If you didn’t quite reach your
mental game on a weekly basis. goals, think about why you didn’t. Was
Here’s how… something holding you back? Was it a
lack of opportunity? Try to pinpoint a
reason so you can improve next time.

Attempt to quash any


doubt by thinking about
your skill level before you
took up the sport, and
compare it to where you
are now. The difference
can be immense. Then
start thinking about how
much progress you can
make in a week, and
where you want to be in
seven days’ time.

WORDS: POPPY-JAY PALMER . ILLUSTRATIONS: MATT CHINWORTH

Talk to a teammate about your goals before every


session, and what you both want to achieve that
day. When you’re no longer alone in tracking your
progress, goals become less of a burden and more
of an exciting challenge. Also, you’ll have someone
else watching out for your wins.

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CALLING ALL DAREDEVILS
Girlguiding, St John’s Ambulance Cadets, The Pony Club, The Woodcraft Folk, Young
Farmers – there are a wealth of organisations across the UK that focus on introducing their
young members to new skills and experiences so they grow in confidence and expertise.
Some youth programmes, such as the Duke of Edinburgh scheme, also encourage those up
for a challenge to push themselves to their personal limits, achieving great things. Activities
and adventures can be found in abundance too. So what are you waiting for?

1 Teamwork and leadership


It’s inevitable that you’ll make
new friends when you join a club or
be resourceful and disciplined. These
are all valuable attributes and will
impress others when applying for
5 A sense of identity
Members of clubs and
organisations have a sense of
organisation, perhaps someone at work or future study. belonging, and can enjoy spending
a different school or from another time somewhere everyone is accepted
culture. You’ll also quickly feel very
much part of a team, learning and
having fun with others, all with
3 Confidence and achievements
In a safe environment, where
everyone gives encouragement and
for who they are. It doesn’t matter if
you struggle with maths homework
or don’t own the latest smartphone,
the same interests. Understanding wills you to succeed, your confidence you’re accepted as a Cadet or Pioneer.
the importance of teamwork, and will quickly grow. Strong networks And if you work with the community,
appreciating that everyone has an develop, and it’s inspiring to watch such as the Young Farmers’ Club,
important role to play, will stand others in your group achieve their others in your area also benefit.
you in good stead throughout life. goals, which spur you on to do the
Teamwork teaches you how to listen,
negotiate and compromise, all crucial
interpersonal skills. And if you’re given
same. Got a fear of heights? When
you’ve just abseiled in front of
supportive friends, you’ll feel like
6 Happy days
Everyone needs a break from the
usual school routine, homework and
a role of responsibility, for example, you can conquer anything. chores, and clubs and organisations are
being a Patrol Leader in the Scouts, a great escape. What’s more, research
you’ll learn about leadership too.
4 Thrills
Although it’s great learning
findings suggest that people who were
in the Scouts or Guides are less likely

2 Discovery about photography or how to grow to suffer from anxiety or mood


WORDS: LORNA COWAN. ILLUSTRATIONS: MATT CHINWORTH

Whether it’s how to sail or care for vegetables, the more adventurous will disorders when they reach 50. That
a dog or pony, youth organisations want to hike outdoors, attend camps may seem like ages away, but proves
can help you to develop existing skills and participate in exciting exploits. that lessons in resilience and being
as well as open your eyes to new Fortunately, many organisations active outdoors, can have
things to learn. Who knows, after a give you the opportunity to do just a lasting impact.
first-aid demonstration you may be that. Scouting, which is open to
inspired to pursue a medical career. It’s anyone between 10½ and 14 years,
not just the physical side of learning takes its members rock climbing,
how to do a specific task either, such parascending and zorbing. Aged
as lighting a campfire; when getting 14, you can also get involved in
to grips with a new activity, you’re also the Duke of Edinburgh scheme,
being taught to think critically, and embark on an expedition.

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GETTING YOUR
VOICE HEARD
How to make people in authority listen

Are you one of those people who has lots of ideas but
feel frustrated because no one seems to listen? Or, are
you too shy or nervous to voice your opinions because
you feel you won’t be taken seriously, particularly if
it’s to someone who’s in a position of authority? If so,
now’s the time to take action. Your viewpoints and
ideas are important and with a little help, you can
learn to get your voice heard by people with power,
whether it’s speaking to your headteacher about the
school uniform or talking to your local council about
improving facilities for young people in your area.

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don’t keep your ideas to yourself
Here’s how to get them heard and considered

1 Get involved
Most schools and colleges
have a council and most involve
4 Be polite and persuasive
Good manners, honesty,
politeness and respect for others’
6 Remember the person you’re
speaking to is human too
The person you talk to or write to
campaigning and voting in order to viewpoints will earn you respect may be in a position of power, but
be a member. So, if you’re keen on whether you discuss your ideas in they were once students, too, and
making a difference and have good person or by letter. It’s also important should listen to you whether or not
ideas, join it. Don’t worry if you’re to stay calm and not to tell the they can help. Just speak to them
not elected or too late to join this person in authority that they’re with maturity and good manners and
year – speak to current members wrong. For example, if you write they will respond to you. You may
or the leader of the council about to your headteacher to suggest a not get the answer you want, but
how you can get involved as they change to uniform, you’ll have to taking the time to try will boost your
are your representatives after all and show an understanding of why confidence for when you have to
always need help. the school has a uniform because raise another issue in future.
he or she is in charge of it. Rather
than saying you hate it, be specific
about what needs to change and

2 Write it down
If something concerns you or
you have a good idea but are too
why. If your issue is with canteen
food, don’t just say it’s all disgusting
– give details about what could be
7 Join a club
If you’re particularly interested in
something, join a club or association
nervous about saying these in improved and ideas for getting more dedicated to your cause. For example,
person, write a letter so you can students to buy the food. Describe it may be to do with changing the
get all your ideas down in a polite, the ways a situation could be made environment, recycling plastic,
constructive and balanced way. better for the benefit of many people. sexuality or animal rights. And if you
Be positive, non-judgemental and, Accept it may only happen gradually can’t find one, start one up with the
where appropriate, offer solutions. at first, but small changes you permission of your headteacher and
You can write it or type it, you may instigate could have a big impact. parents. Being with other people
even email it if that feels appropriate, who have the same opinions will
but spend time planning it first. What only strengthen your arguments.
points do you want to get across? Another good way of improving your
What do you want to achieve? Which
person do you want to read this? 5 Phrases to use
When trying to get your point
across, it’s a good idea to have a few
argumentative and persuasive skills
is joining your school’s debating club.
Who knows – your ideas may lead to
stock phrases in your head to use. changes you want.
You should aim to show that you

3 Get your evidence together


Back up your arguments and
understand the other person’s point
of view but then illustrate to them
ideas with facts. It could be you
do a survey of other pupils to see
what they feel or that you spend a
why your idea is better.

For example:
8 Don’t take things personally
When you’ve got your ideas
across, you may be successful and
WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. PHOTOGRAPH: ALAMY.COM

few weeks making notes about a I understand that you believe… see positive changes as a result.
situation. It may be a personal story however… However, it may be that despite your
which will give your ideas more While I realise it is important to… best efforts, the person you speak to
weight. For example, if the uniform many students feel… won’t listen or does listen but can’t or
is too uncomfortable or the material I appreciate you taking the time to won’t change anything. Take time to
isn’t good enough, prove it. If the hear my argument about… reflect on the decision. You can come
canteen sandwiches have the same Could you advise me where to go back to the issue but you may need
fillings three weeks in a row, show a next with my ideas? time to consider how else to get
list. If you think there’s a need for a What steps do you recommend I take your ideas across – or whether the
change in your town, explain why. next in order to change this? situation has to be accepted for now.

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CARRY ON LAUGHING
Tears streaming, stomach aching, heart lifting? If you’re just recovering from
a fit of the giggles, you’ll have done yourself the world of good

Nothing beats the feeling of having a good giggle. People laugh when they’re having fun, but laughter can
Having a friend who shares your sense of humour is also happen when you’re nervous and on edge, perhaps
fun and a great way to connect. But why is this? because of its healing, stress-relieving properties. Have
Research suggests laughter releases the body’s feel- you ever felt an uncontrollable urge to giggle when being
good endorphins, which help people to feel relaxed scolded by a parent or teacher? You might laugh when
and promote bonding. you’re nervous or embarrassed, which is also a regular,
It seems a shame then that while children laugh healthy response. Laughter with friends can get you
300 times a day, for adults the figure is a miserly 20. through difficult days at school and take your attention
Message? Hold onto those giggles – even when you’re away from the more challenging side of life. When you
changing schools or sitting exams – and try not to let laugh, you’re right there in the moment, letting go of the
life get too serious. past and worries about the future.
And, anyway, laughter has a serious side. It’s good
for your mood and health. When you laugh, the amount
of stress hormones in the body decrease, which helps
to boost the immune system and prevent illness. One
study even found that people with a good sense of
humour live longer.

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are you having a laugh?
Have you ever tried laughing for no reason? It may seem strange to laugh when nothing’s funny, but what’s interesting
is that fake laughter has all the same health benefits as real laughter.
Dr Madan Kataria from Mumbai in India decided to test the theory. He started a laughter club where volunteers told
jokes to get each other giggling. As time went on, however, the good jokes ran out and became more hurtful and cruel.
That’s when he developed the idea of laughter exercises – ways to generate laughter without telling jokes. He invented
the concept of Laughter Yoga, which is now a worldwide movement. It’s like a gift from a man who felt he didn’t really
have a good sense of humour. What he found was that by practising regular Laughter Yoga, he got in the laughter zone and
it helped him to tell good jokes more naturally.
Do you know someone who brightens up your day, a friend, relative or teacher maybe, who always shifts people’s mood
by bringing in playfulness and giggles? Dr Kataria believes everyone can hone and develop this natural skill. To help you
along, here are a few laughter exercises to get you started. You can practise them alone, but they’re even more fun with
a friend or as a group.

1 Smiling warm up
Laughter Yoga teacher Robert Rivest suggests this
exercise: ‘Take a slow, long, deep breath in and smile
6 Silent laughter
Try laughing silently and having a good belly laugh
without making a sound. In stressful moments before an
while saying to yourself: “As I breathe in, I smile.’’ As you exam, you can find a quiet corner or toilet cubicle to giggle
slowly breathe out, say: “As I breathe out, I release all away to your heart’s content without anyone knowing.
physical tension.’’’

2 Laughter breathing
Take a long, slow, deep breath in and stretch your arms
7 Laughter meditation
Set a timer for around three minutes. Now begin to
laugh continuously. Focus on laughing low down in your
up in the air. As you lower your arms have a good belly belly. At first this can seem like surprisingly hard work.
giggle for as long as you can. Can you feel the way your Practise regularly and you’ll be able to extend the length of
belly moves when you have a good chuckle? That’s the these laughter marathons and notice the flood of feel-good
kind of deep laughter that massages the internal organs endorphins afterwards.
and has lots of health benefits.

3 Milkshake laughter
This is one of Dr Kataria’s most popular exercises.
Pretend you’re mixing up a milkshake by pouring two
imaginary containers of liquid into a glass. Now take a sip
as you inhale, and exhale out laughter.

4 Mobile phone laughter


Hold an imaginary phone to your ear and pretend
you’re listening to a hilarious joke. You can also try this
with your real phone and pretend you’re having a giggly
conversation with a friend. Maybe you could even try it
WORDS: KATE ORSON. PHOTOGRAPHS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

walking down the street.

5 Mexican wave laughter


This one is great for groups. Line up and do a Mexican
wave, where each person in turn lifts their arms in the air
to make a wave shape. Start with your arms hanging down
towards the floor to get a good wave effect as you raise
them high above your head and then keep laughing as
each person in the group follows suit.

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#INSIDEOUT
You know your innermost emotions, thoughts and beliefs better than anyone else does,
so try to look at yourself through your own eyes and not those of other people

Like, love, loathe – everyone seems to have an opinion Most people struggle to feel secure in themselves at some
WORDS: TANYEL MUSTAFA. ILLUSTRATIONS: VICKY SCOTT

these days. Thing is, when they’re about you and your worth point (in fact, many times) in their life. It’s part of being human.
they can affect your confidence and happiness, which is why Some aspects of social media, however, can make it worse.
it’s important not to let other people’s judgement change Last year’s Royal Society for Public Health #StatusOfMind
how you see yourself. report about the effects of social media on young people’s
The reality is that friends, teachers, strangers, even family wellbeing discovered that Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat and
members can only make assumptions about your character Instagram all had negative net impacts on health.
(though some will be more informed than others). Only you So next time you’re affected by the way someone appears
know you and assumptions are not facts. Try to view yourself to perceive you online, try to remember it’s only their
with a confident and positive attitude that acknowledges opinion and they don’t have all the facts. You do. And you
your strengths and talents – which are facts – and you’re can be honest and proud of what’s on the inside regardless
likely to develop a healthier outlook. of whether it can always be seen by those on the outside.

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How to view yourself
through your own eyes

Don’t get bogged down by social media


The number of reactions to a photo you post is not a
reflection on you, your personality, your appearance or
your worth. Instead of posting a photo for validation
from others, take it from yourself. If you like a photo
that’s all the assurance you need. Happiness comes from
within, not a comment from someone you haven’t spoken
to for months. Only post when you truly want to and
know that you aren’t looking for other people’s approval.

Boost your self-confidence


There are different strategies to increasing confidence.
It could be complimenting yourself on one thing before
you leave home for school in the morning. Maybe you’ve
tidied your bed, got up early to put together a packed
lunch or you’ve made a sibling laugh. The positives can
be found in most things and practising this exercise every
morning will gradually build confidence. Another way
to boost self-esteem is to join a club where you’ll meet
people with a shared interest (see pages 13, 22 and 28).
Whether it’s sports, performance or reading, you’ll be
engaged with something that allows you to focus on
what you like and in which you hope to progress.

Be true to yourself
Someone else’s opinion says much more about them than
you. As long as you feel confident in your actions and are
being true to yourself, that’s all you need to focus on. If
you’re engaging in activities and thoughts that make you
happy, you’re more likely to be fulfilled and relaxed.

Practise what you preach


Looking at yourself through someone else’s perspective
also means you’re making assumptions about them and
the way they think. Try not to presume you know what
another person is thinking – in the end you’ll probably be
putting unnecessary pressure on yourself – and it may be
they’re also struggling to find the confidence to reflect
their opinions and ideas.

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O
GIRLS WHO C DE
Coding is the language of the future – it’s easy to learn, fun to use to make your own
website, game or app, and could even help you win your dream job

It’s a typical scenario. The local sixth-form college is holding writing computer script – I’m following a set of instructions
interviews for new students. There’s a row of boys waiting which is telling me how to create a pattern and get a
to talk to the computer science teacher and a line of girls certain outcome at the end.’”
ready to sign up for courses in childcare. Why? The truth is
many girls just don’t see themselves writing code for apps, Where to begin
games, websites or IT systems – if that sounds like you, There are plenty of ways you can get involved, either online
you’re missing out on something that can aid all-round or through after-school clubs and holiday workshops, often
brain power, increase career prospects and be fun. for free or at little cost. ‘There are loads of freebie sources
Amali de Alwis is the head of Code First: Girls, an online,’ advises Amali. ‘We recommend platforms like Code
organisation that aims to get more women coding and Academy, Dash and Code.org, which has content ranged by
working in the world of tech. It runs courses for over-18s age from as young as three or four all the way through. And
but Amali would like to see more girls getting involved: there are in-person resources such as Code Club which run
‘Some people think if they haven’t done it since the age of clubs across the UK – set up by kids themselves, parents or
six they’ve missed the boat,’ she says, ‘but that’s absolutely schools who come together and provide the tools. Stemnet
not the case. There’s lots of help out there to set you on also runs workshops and other events throughout the year.’
a journey that will be challenging and exciting and that
will give you a good career at the end.’ Blazing a trail
The results can be fast, too. One student, Funmi, completed
Golden ticket the Code First: Girls beginner’s course last March and is
We’re not talking about ending up in a boring office fixing already working as a junior developer at the mobile phone
other people’s computers. Coding is a versatile skill that app banking service Starling. Another student, Jess, took
can be applied in all sorts of jobs – entertainment, games, the beginner’s course in 2015 and is a software developer
manufacturing, retail, healthcare and more. Amali says for global technology consultancy ThoughtWorks.
it’s important to look at its real-world value rather than its According to the UK’s Office of National Statistics in 2017,
geek appeal. only 3.9 per cent of people working in tech were female
‘One of my students is now an instructor. She first came programmers and software developers, so any girls who
in wearing DMs and funky clothes and stuff. She was do have a go at coding have the chance to be trailblazers
working for a company that sold wool, and she was sitting for change as well – and mix up those queues for college
there knitting saying: “This is what I’m doing when I’m courses further down the line.

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How to get
started

Code Kingdoms
Designed for eight to 14 year olds, this offers
easy-to-use online tutorials for you to learn
coding by creating your own Minecraft
modifications or games. Bundle prices and
family packages are available and parents
can be sent weekly progress updates.
codekingdoms.com

STEMNET
Works with schools and colleges to help
young people and teachers access STEM
Clubs (science, technology, engineering and
maths) and links with STEM Ambassadors.
stem.org.uk

Junior Game Creators


This is a network of after-school clubs,
holiday workshops and code camps held
at school, libraries and other venues across
the UK with the motto ‘playing games is fun,
creating games is genius’. Free membership
with discounts to live events.
juniorgamecreators.co.uk

Codecademy 
Offers free coding classes in a wide range of
different programming languages and HTML. 
So what’s in it for me? codecademy.com

Coding experts widely agree that it can improve mental agility, Dash
everyday communication skills, problem solving, creativity and Online self-learning site to get the basics
logical thinking. of web development for beginners,
including HTML and Javascript.
A sense of satisfaction: rather than playing something someone dash.generalassemb.ly
else has created over and over again, you can make something
new of your own. Kids Ruby
A fun way to learn the Ruby computer
WORDS: NIGEL HUDDLESTON. ILLUSTRATIONS: MATT CHINWORTH

It builds confidence in exploring the wider digital world of apps, language through creating games and
games and web design. other simple programs, with a split
screen function that shows what the code
There are social benefits from joining coding clubs and says and what it does.
after-school groups and meeting people with a similar interest Kidsruby.com
and sharing ideas.
Hopscotch
It can mean more money when you go to work: research by Step-by-step interactive learning app,
Tech City UK found that tech jobs pay 36 per cent more than available for iPhone and iPad. Involves
the national average. dragging and dropping blocks of code
to make up new programs. Aimed at
You will be in demand: the UK alone will need a further one million students aged 10 and over.
tech workers to meet the requirements of employers in 2020. gethopscotch.com

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RIDING LIFE’S WAVES
As you go through life, the waves go up and down, sometimes they’re choppy,
sometimes they’re calm. A yoga posture for building up core strength within,
which will help you to surf the waves, is Navasana, aka Boat pose.
This strong pose engages with the core to create both physical and mental
strength. It tones stomach muscles, strengthens lower back and maintains a healthy
metabolism. It creates greater mental strength, by showing your ability to conquer
tricky situations, resulting in increased confidence, sense of self and a balanced mind.

Here’s how to get into the pose

1. Sit on the floor with your legs straight in front of you and your torso upright and strong.
Press your hands to the floor, a little behind your hips with your fingers pointing towards
your feet. Sit tall and lean back. Take a few breaths here as you find your point of balance
on your sitting bones.

2. On an out breath bend your knees and lift your feet off the floor. Engaging your core and
stomach muscles, point your legs and feet upwards towards the sky at an angle that feels
comfortable for you.

3. Keeping your arms straight, stretch them out parallel to the floor, holding them on the
outside of your legs with your fingers pointing forwards. Take a few in and out breaths, holding
the pose for a few seconds – only as long as you are comfortable to do so.

4. On an out breath, lower your legs to the floor and, on an in breath, sit back upright. Observe
the strength within your body and how you are feeling.

Students who have neck injuries, headaches, low blood pressure or any other medical conditions where
they have been advised not to engage in such an activity are advised not to practise this posture. It should
ILLUSTRATION: SARA THIELKER

also be avoided by anyone who is – or thinks they might be – pregnant (we know mums like to try these
yoga postures too!).

Words: Dawattie Basdeo. Dawattie is a kids and teens yoga teacher.


For details, visit magnificentmemagnificentyou.com. Younger children should always be supervised.

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TOO MUCH THINKING?
Reflecting on things can be a great way to gain perspective It’s a habit that affects pretty much everyone at some
or nurture your own growth. But there’s a fine line between point, but it can be managed. Firstly, place yourself – and
contemplation and overthinking. Putting your brain your thoughts – in the here and now. Identifying thoughts
through such overtime isn’t always great for happiness and that have overthinking potential as soon as you first
self-confidence and might lead to excessive worrying. become aware of them will allow you to apply the brakes
and help to ensure they only occupy their appropriate
Trigger points share of energy and headspace.
Many things can prompt overthinking, from what to wear Rather than let thoughts overwhelm you and affect your
to a friend’s party to a looming homework deadline. It’s self-belief, practise noticing when you’re beginning to
easy suddenly to feel stressed by an event that initially overthink and try to keep those racing thoughts in check.ck.
didn’t seem troublesome. Often that’s because there’s Read on for Teen Breathe’s easy guide to stop overthinking
ing
overthinking going on and the importance of the party or in its tracks. You have the power to recognise and controlol it
deadline is exaggerated, causing worry and self-doubt. before it really gets going – just don’t overthink it.

What to do if your brain’s working overtime

1 Bring yourself to the present moment


Overthinking works by taking your mind away from
what is in front of you in the present moment and instead
can relieve stress. Alternatively, you may find expressing
your worries creatively releases them and also helps to
stop overthinking. Either way, there are benefits to be
g

making you imagine things that are in the future. Bringing found through engaging the brain in a different and
yourself back to the present moment when you notice your creative way to its usual activity.
mind racing can quieten those thoughts. You could become
engaged with the present by drawing your attention to
something physically near you. For example, the colour of
an object, fellow passengers on a bus, the size of a building
4 Changing your environment or physicality
Sometimes it won’t be possible to get up and leave
the room in which you find yourself overthinking, but if
ve

or the shape of a tree – anything that is happening and you are able to change your environment, it can be a good
exists in the here and now. Taking a moment to focus on idea. Moving to a different room in the same building,
something real can halt overthinking and calm the mind. or even going outside for some fresh air, can give the
brain pause as the physical act of moving will provide

2 Coming up with your own phrase of calm


As overthinking works by worrying about events that
a change of focus, even if it’s just on how to get to your
new destination. If it isn’t possible to move location, try
WORDS: TANYEL MUSTAFA. ILLUSTRATOR: EMILY PORTNOI

are in the future – and therefore aren’t factual – try to changing your posture – often people become hunched
counter this with a short memorable phrase that you can over when they’re stressed. Relaxing your shoulders and
pull out when the going gets tough. Something as simple sitting straight will make your posture feel more energised
as ‘this is not true’ can prevent anxious thoughts spiralling. and confident.
Most worries don’t come to pass, so finding your own
unique phrase to emphasise this point can help to ground
your brain in reality. 5 Breathe deeply
Monitoring your breathing is another way to bring
the attention back to your body. Taking deep breaths and

3 Get creative
Picking up a pen to do some writing (see page 56),
sketching or colouring will keep your mind occupied and
focusing on how many seconds you wish to draw out the
breath (try counting to four beats per breath inwards and
outwards) can help to distract from racing thoughts.

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Dancing isn’t just about throwing great shapes on the dance floor to impress friends,
it’s one of the best forms of exercise there is for physical and mental health. It’s also
a creative way to get moving, can help improve fitness levels and co-ordination and
practised regularly helps to maintain strong bones, improve posture and build muscle
strength. Dancing also allows you to combine a full body workout with listening to
good music. What’s not to love?

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Mind and body have what it takes to become a world champion ballroom
Yes, your body can benefit from dance, but it’s great for the and Latin dancer like Joanne Clifton, who won BBC1’s
mind too. Recently, there’s been a lot of research into the Strictly Come Dancing with her partner, news and sports
benefits of dancing on mental health and the conclusion presenter Ore Oduba, in 2016.
is that dance and movement have great psychological
benefits, especially for people who experience depression. Strictly professional
Dance is a way of using the body to express emotion, which Lancashire-born Joanne started dancing as a child and
can be an advantage if you’re someone who finds it hard to competed internationally, often dancing with her brother
show your feelings. And it allows you to unwind as it gives Kevin, who’s also a professional dancer on Strictly.
you something specific to focus on when you’re learning ‘Dance is a really fun workout and a great way of keeping
new steps and keeping in time to the music. When you’re fit,’ explains 34-year-old Joanne. ‘Your mind can be taken
dancing you can forget whatever else is on your mind, away from whatever’s going on in your life and it can be
particularly any worries you may have, and completely lose a way of getting rid of any frustration or anger. I know
yourself in the melody and movement. that when I’m having a bad day I just really go for it
onstage, punching out every movement and I don’t
Feel positive half feel better afterwards!
Dancing encourages the brain to release a flow of ‘If you go to classes you can go with friends, make new
chemicals that improve mood and can leave you feeling ones or even find the love of your life if you get partnered
positive and exhilarated. Practising on your own is fun and up. There are so many different styles of dance to choose
hugely beneficial to health but extra benefits can come from and all the songs in the world to dance to. If you
from dancing as part of a group because it can make you enjoy something you’ll start to have a focus in life, you will
feel more connected and sociable. Dance classes are a good want to improve and work hard to get better. You’ll always
way of developing your moves and people who learn to come out of a dance class feeling great without it having
dance when they’re young tend to carry on throughout felt like a chore.
their lives and benefit from being much fitter in later life. ‘Everyone worries they’re not going to be good at
something when they start out. I remember my very first
Salsa, street or ballroom? Musical Theatre workshop about three years ago – I was
There are plenty of genres to choose from including ballet, anxious for a whole week before. You think: “Who’s going
tap, modern, street, jive, line, salsa and ballroom, so there’s to be there? I bet they’ll all be better than me.” But the fact
bound to be a style of dance that appeals to you. Most is, everyone in that class will be feeling the same. Of course,
accredited dance schools hold beginners’ courses and some will naturally have more talent than others but you’ll
they’re a great way to meet new friends even if you don’t get that in any situation. Just go and enjoy it.
take to that particular style straight away. ‘And by the way, I was one of those with less talent at
It’s worth trying a few different classes until you find the my dance classes. I’ve had to work that little bit harder to
one that’s right for you. Who knows, you may discover you get where I am, but I’ve loved every second of it.’
WORDS: JENNY COCKLE. PHOTOGRAPHS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

FIND A DANCE CLASS

If you’d like more information on how to get started, have a look at the NHS website:
nhs.uk/Livewell/getting-started-guides
Find your nearest dance school or teacher at the Council For Dance Education and Training: cdmt.org.uk
To find out about different styles of dance and your nearest classes visit Exercise Move Dance on emduk.org
Dance Near You has a database of more than 1,000 dance classes of all levels run by dance teachers, dance schools
and studios across the country. Find them at dancenearyou.co.uk.

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Make a
VISION
BOARD
Creating a vision board can help you frame and reach your goals,
from what you want to do today to who you want to be tomorrow

What is a vision board?


A collage of inspiring pictures, words and quotes that represents you, your hopes and
dreams. It’s a great way to map out and see more clearly your short- and long-term
goals at school and in your life, whether that’s what career you hope to have, or things
you’d like to change or do right now or next week.

How will a vision board help?


It can be easy to lose sight of your goals on a day-to-day basis. You may write them
down one day and then forget all about them until you find the sheet of paper in
a drawer months later. Creating a board allows you to display them somewhere that’s
permanently on view, where it can serve as a reminder and an inspiration.
Deciding what to include on your vision board can also be a good mindfulness
exercise. If you feel like you’re being pulled in different directions, are under pressure
at school or have some difficult decisions to make, then creating a board can help you
to take a step back and see the things that are important to you more clearly.
The great thing about making this board is that there are no rules when it comes
to gathering your images, wording and quotes.

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You will need:
1. A base for your vision board, which could be a piece of A3 card, a cork board or even some
cardboard from an old cereal box.
2. A happy photograph of yourself.
3. Scissors and a glue stick, or get crafty with washi tape and colourful pins.
4. A variety of magazines and pictures that you don’t mind cutting up. You can always go online
and find images that your magazines don’t include, as well as photos of friends, family and pets.

Steps to create your board


Set the scene for the next couple of hours by finding a quiet, comfortable spot. Turn your
1 phone off and put your favourite music on.

Ask yourself what you would choose to do if fear didn’t exist and you knew you would
2 succeed in everything you did. How would your life look? This is an important question to
ask because you don’t want to limit any of your goals – nothing is out of reach when you’re putting
together your vision board.

Cut out any pictures, words or quotes that make you feel good and inspire you. There are no
3 rules when it comes to what you want to express. A picture could include a school sports team
you want to join, a favourite flower you think is beautiful, a role in a play you hope to be chosen for,
a new skill or hobby you’d love to take up, a country you’d like to visit, influential figures you look up
to, people you love and things for which you’re grateful – anything goes.

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the ir purpose
heir pur
u po
posese
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and goals have been reached.


WORDS:
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Show time
Use the frames here to write key words you’d like
to reflect in your vision board or to draw thumbnail
sketches of how it might look.
When you’re happy with your board, place it
somewhere you can see it. Spend five minutes a day
pausing on each picture. Think about what action
you could take that day to move one step closer
to your goal, or if it’s a picture of someone you love,
focus on gratitude and positivity. This can help with
your relationships with friends, family and, most
importantly, with yourself.

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CONQUEROR’S
BREATH
A yoga breathing exercise that helps one to conquer oneself is Ujjayii
pranayama, also know as Conqueror’s or Ocean’s breath. The practice of this
breathing technique will encourage the mind to become more focused,
aid concentration and improve positivity. It can also help to reduce stress
and anxiety, generates internal heat and reduces respiratory problems

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How to practise Ujjayii pranayama

1. Sit in a comfortable seated position, tall and upright, straight spine,


relaxed shoulders and face. Your eyes can be open or closed, whichever
you find most comfortable.

2. Sit for a moment, breathing at your regular pace and allow your body
and mind to relax.

3. Now take a deep breath in through your nose. As you exhale, round
your mouth and flow the breath up along the throat and out through
the mouth – just as you would breathe when fogging up a mirror, making
a ‘HA’ sound.

4. Practise this breath flow for a couple of minutes and concentrate on


feeling how the air travels through the throat and out through the mouth.

5. Once you’re comfortable with this flow of breath, you’re ready to do


Ujjayii breathing. Close your mouth and repeat the breath flow described
above, but this time when you come to exhale, do so through the nose.
On the exhalation, you will observe a gentle ocean sound as the breath
flows up along the curved back of the throat.

6. Try to keep the breathing ratio as one second on the inhalation


and two seconds on the exhalation (1:2).

For beginners, it’s best to limit your practice of the Ujjayii breath flow
technique – in through the nose and out through the nose – to no longer
than five minutes. Observe how your mind and body feels afterwards.
(Longer lengths of time can be practised when you have gained more
experience of Ujjayii breathing.)

Now, whenever you find yourself in a situation when


you’re feeling anxious and stressed, instead of letting it
get the better of you, practise some Ujjayii breathing.

Words: Dawattie Basdeo. Dawattie is a kids and teens yoga teacher. For details, visit
magnificentmemagnificentyou.com. Younger children should always be supervised.

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LOVE THE WEEKEND
When you arrive home on Friday, after a busy
week of early-morning starts and routines, the
prospect of two free days to do whatever you
want is exciting. Then Monday comes round
again and you wonder what happened to your
weekend and why you didn’t make the most
of this valuable time. Sound familiar? Maybe
you need a weekend planner. With a little bit
of thought, you can make Saturday and Sunday
interesting, varied, purposeful and memorable.
You’ll never be bored or stuck for something
to do, and you’ll be able to look back at your
weekend satisfied that you made the best use
of your free time.

What’s stealing
your precious hours?
If weekends seem to pass in a daze and leave you
feeling unfulfilled and deflated, then take a good
look at what’s taking up your time so that you can
consciously make better choices.

Gaming and television. Are you gaming or watching


television for hours and hours and feel like you’re wasting
your weekend? Limit your screen time and make room for
other activities.

Long lie-ins. It’s nice to know you can have a few extra Zs at
the weekend but if you spend too long in bed you’re losing
a big part of the day. Enjoy an occasional lie-in, but give
WORDS: CAROL ANNE STRANGE. PHOTOGRAPHS: TWENTY20.COM

yourself a good reason to wake up earlier.

Boredom and indecision. Moping about because you don’t


know or can’t decide what to do is frustrating. You can
remedy this by thinking about what you’d love to do before
the weekend arrives and then making firm plans.

Technology. Constantly checking texts and social media


to see how friends are enjoying their free time will eat into
your weekend. You could consider putting your phone or
computer away for a few hours or allow yourself to check in
just once a day for 30 minutes. Focus on making your own
weekend something wonderful to write about.

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The
he art of good planning

DECIDE WHAT YOU’D LIKE TO DO KEEP A WEEKEND DIARY


1 To make sure those hours between Friday night
and Monday morning are fulfilling, decide how
2 Use your diary, online calendar or a wallchart
to create a weekend planner. Write down how
you wish to spend your time. Is there something you’d you’ll spend the morning, afternoon and evening for
like to learn or experience? What do you find interesting both days. You can track your weekend by the hour, but
or entertaining? Where would you like to go? Do you you don’t have to follow it religiously nor schedule every
prefer an action-packed weekend or something more moment. Set appointments for what you have to do (a
relaxing or a bit of both? The hours are yours, so make Saturday job or family commitments) and what you’d
sure you’re doing what you love. love to do. Leave space for magical moments.

BE PREPARED MAKE IT DOABLE


3 Plan before the weekend arrives. Leaving it
until the last moment can contribute to being
4 It’s tempting to cram in lots of activities but
trying to do too much to check things off a list
indecisive and unorganised and more hours in bed isn’t satisfying or even doable. You can end up feeling
thinking about what you might do with the days, which frustrated and disappointed. Instead, focus on quality
means you’ll waste precious weekend time. Do some rather than quantity. Aim to include between three and
research (where needed). List what’s required and then five things on your planner that you know you’ll adore
make any preparations early so that you’re ready to go. doing and that will make your weekend enjoyable.

DON’T BE PREDICTABLE HAVE A BREATHER


5 Predictability can quickly become boring
so rather than sticking to the same routine
6 If you’ve created that diary or wallchart
suggested in point 2, then think about
every weekend, mix things up. Try something new. scheduling in some downtime. It’s great to have an
Go somewhere different. Make new friends. Accept action-packed weekend, but it’s also essential to include
an invitation. Breaking routines occasionally will keep space to relax and breathe. Go for a walk with a friend,
things fresh and avoid falling into a weekend rut. Of read a book, listen to your favourite music or think
course, if you find something you absolutely love and about practising some yoga (see page 24) or a breathing
don’t want to miss it, always book time for that. exercise (see page 34).

LEAVE ROOM FOR THE UNEXPECTED THINK AHEAD


7 Allow for spontaneity. You really don’t have
to plan every single moment: that would take
8 Be organised so you use your time efficiently. If
you can, complete any non-essential chores on
all the joy out of your weekend. Be kind to yourself a weeknight. Plan for the following week on the Friday
and create a looser schedule that supports you. Your evening so you truly make the most of your Sunday.
weekend is there to enjoy not endure. Keep as much of your weekend free for what you love.

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ATTITUDE OF

gratitude
How often do you stop and think about all the everyday things you’re thankful for?
Getting into the habit of noticing these things can shape the way you see the world

Recent studies show that developing an attitude of gratitude can help people to become
happier, more optimistic and relaxed, as well as more resilient when things don’t work out
the way they’d anticipated.

The words ‘think positively’ are bandied about a lot, but the idea – that by doing so you’re
more likely to act and feel positive – is a valid one. Recalling things you’re grateful for works
in the same way, by giving the mind good things on which to focus. It’s a wonderful way to
tap into the thoughts, emotions and sensations associated with things and people you love.

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How to get started
Take
e it slowl
slowly Keep it simple
B
Begin by taking a little time over the next few days to Aim to write three things each day day. Just before bed is a
practise recalling things you’re grateful for, without feeling
g great time to do this because yo you’re more likely to feel
the need to write them down. This will help you to become relaxed and less distracted. It’s also a good way to go to bed
familiar with the activity. happy – the perfect lead-up
lead to a night of sweet dreams.
Start small – thinking of just one thing could help to It’s often the little things in life that mean a lot, so write
change the course of your day. Once you’re comfortable whatever
atever comes to mind without questioning whether it’s
with this you can consider recording these things. Taking important enough. Maybe you’re grateful for your super-
tant e
the time to capture the objects of your gratitude helps you squishy pillow or some new, fluffy socks. Or perhaps it’s
to connect with the positive emotions they stir and really something you’ve experienced, like a friendly cat that
embed them into your mind and body. came to greet you on your walk to school that morning,
or a song you listened to with friends.
Make it enjoyable
Once you find your gratitude groove you can progress It’s personal
to writing a list on a daily basis, and by making this an The great thing about this is that you don’t even have to
enjoyable activity you’re more likely to keep it going. share your gratitude with anyone – unless you want to.
Perhaps use a pretty writing book and nicely coloured pens You don’t need to reveal your thoughts to experience the
or pencils to write your list. It doesn’t need to be anything benefit of writing a gratitude list because this comes from
expensive or elaborate, just something that you like. the process of recalling and reflecting. It’s easy to feel shy
Connect with the act of writing your list. Writing in the when saying ‘thank you’ to other people, which can make
old-fashioned way – using a pen and paper – can help you less likely to do it, or to hold back. By making this
to avoid the digital distractions that are more likely to a personal activity you’re able to approach it safe in the
crop upp if using
g your
y phone
p or tablet. knowledge that it will be for your eyes only. Try to let
your inhibitions go and write from the heart.

Savour and reflect


Connect with the thoughts, feelings and emotions that
arise when you think about these things and let them fill
your mind and body. Take the time to appreciate and enjoy
these sensations.

Don’t worry about it


Be kind to yourself. Don’t worry if you don’t manage to
write your list from time to time. This is a light-hearted and
enjoyable activity, not another task to stress about. Perhaps
you’re busy with exams, or had a late night out with friends:
as the saying goes ‘life gets in the way’ sometimes. You
can easily pick up where you left off the next day – it really
doesn’t matter. This is about what works for you.

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Why is it important?
WORDS: SIMONE SCOTT. ILLUSTRATIONS: ANIESZKA BANKS

There are many things you can be grateful for in life, but it’s really easy to get
caught up in everyday dramas and lose sight of them.
Psychological research on practising gratitude found that writing down three
things you feel grateful for – making a gratitude list – was the most effective
practice when it came to having an impact on emotions (not to mention the
easiest), which means you’re more likely to stick with it.
Take a moment, close your eyes and think of something you’re grateful for.
Notice the feelings you experience. Perhaps you have a smile on your face already
or a warm fuzzy feeling inside. Does it feel good? Imagine being able to feel those
sensations easily every day. Certainly worth a try, right?

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My Gratitude list
What are you thankful for? There could be a thousand things, whether it’s friends, family, a really
huge success or just a tiny little moment. Use the space here to record anything you can think of

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SENSE AND

Far from being weak and fragile, the soft souls among us have a hidden strength

Accept who you are the full life’s sweet experiences. There’s no reason to be
Do you struggle not to cry if someone raises a voice at you? ashamed because you’re sensitive, so try not to make
Do seemingly small things reduce you to tears? Being tense yourself emotionally numb so you can look tough in front
and touchy are some of the traits of a sensitive person – of others. This isn’t who you are and while hiding your
someone who rather than being insecure just perceives the emotions may seem to be a useful coping mechanism at
world differently. They feel it deeply and can be weighed first, it might make it harder when they all inevitably come
down by the experience, sometimes overwhelmed and flooding back in.
paralysed by intense emotions, be they anger, love or
sadness. If this sounds like you (do the test, right), try not to Enhance your relationships
resent this part of yourself and instead accept it as an asset Think that your openness to the world allows you to
that makes you more perceptive and intuitive. interact better with others: you can more easily interpret
people’s emotions and understand their pain. Being able
A gift in disguise to empathise with someone close is a genuine gift – try
You can turn what you may consider a weakness into to cherish it. And it might be that your ability to show
strength. You’re lucky enough to have this special ability your own feelings will have a positive effect on those
– being able to feel and see things that others may not – around you. A scientific phenomenon known as ‘emotional
so you could use it for your and others’ benefit. Like many contagion’ suggests that your emotions actually rub off on
things in life, you have the power to develop what some others, so like a ripple effect, when you show happiness you
regard as a disadvantage into a positive inner force. So, try also raise the mood of the people close to you.
not to dismiss it or see it as a burden. Perhaps consider it
WORDS: ANNE GUILLOT. ILLUSTRATION: SAMANTHA NICKERSON

a gift and an opportunity to grow and learn. By having a See sensitivity as a strength
greater sensory perception, you can sense the nuances of Still, you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders,
beauty, especially in arts or nature, but also in all the little you feel the pain of others and you give them everything
things that make life wonderful. It’s important to remember you have. Being sensitive is hard… but if you embrace
these instances given that your ability also means you will your sensitive nature to the fullest, you can appreciate
feel life’s injustices equally as keenly. the many benefits it offers in everyday life, from noticing
everything to being able to comfort others, from feeling
Cherish the difference more intensely to truly caring. You may have been called
Some people think it’s better to disguise your feelings or overdramatic, soft or even naive, but the problem is not you
pretend you don’t have them. But why? Showing your – it’s part of societies where emotions have been switched
feelings – good or bad – is not a curse. Feeling deeply is off. Don’t think you have to change to fit in, instead nurture
an asset that allows you to be aware of your surroundings, this because being a sensitive soul is a sign of strength –
be tuned into other people’s concerns
erns and to enjoy to not a weakness.

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ARE YOU A
SENSITIVE
PERSON?
Have difficulty letting go
of negative thoughts and
emotions?
Y N

Worry about what others think?


Y N

Struggle to accept critical


feedback?
Y N

Take things personally?


Y N

Detail oriented and


think deeply?
Y N

Love – and hate – passionately?


Y N

Cry when watching sad (and


sometimes even happy) movies?
Y N

Get upset if you make a


bad decision?
Y N

Hate loud noises and bright


lights or feel uncomfortable
in crowds?
Y N

Feel under pressure when


observed doing a task?
Y N

The more questions to which


you’ve answered yes, the greater
the likelihood that you have the
gift of sense and sensitivity.

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LISTEN UP
Are you a good listener? How do you know? Being listened to properly can make you
feel valued, but doing it well isn’t as easy as you might think…

Have you ever had the feeling that someone was really ‘dadirri’, a kind of meditative listening that can help people
listening to you? That they ‘got’ you and understood where heal after difficult experiences.
you were coming from? Do you remember how good that
felt? Perhaps it was a teacher who recognised your talent The gift of listening
for their subject, or an aunt or family friend who took the There may be times when you don’t feel like listening.
time to hear your point of view. When a teacher is lecturing you about a subject you’re not
interested in, perhaps, or when a parent is telling you off.
Taking time to listen It can be especially hard to feel like listening when you
In a world full of noise and chatter, listening is an haven’t been properly heard yourself.
underrated skill. People feel desperate to talk and be heard However, with friends, listening can be an act of
by others, and they may not put so much emphasis on generosity. Not just for the person being heard, but for you
taking their turn to listen. too. When you listen you get to stop, and simply be. You
But it wasn’t always like this. Many indigenous cultures can focus on the other person’s words in a similar way to
had a tradition of listening closely to each other. Native how you might concentrate on your breath in meditation.
Americans passed a talking stick around a circle so that And listening can be relaxing because it allows you to
only the person who was holding it could talk. This fostered take a holiday from your own problems and concerns for
an environment of mindful listening without interruption. a while, to help a friend through theirs. Doing it well can
Australian Aborigines, meanwhile, have a concept of help to build trust and deepen friendships.

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So what does it take to
be a good listener?
Here are some tips…

1 Keep things confidential


When you hear something interesting, shocking or
exciting, it can be tempting to go and talk about it to a
frustrated with you when you were upset, when what you
really needed was kindness and empathy? Although people
sometimes feel uncomfortable with tears, crying is actually
friend. Another person’s private life can seem like a juicy a healthy and natural healing process. The stress hormone
conversation topic, and everybody gossips from time to cortisol is released through tears.
time. But being a good listener is about being a trusted One of the kindest things you can do for a friend is just
confidant. If you keep your friends’ secrets safe, they are to be okay with their emotions. To be there if they cry and
more likely to confide in you. offer them a hug.

2 Don’t interrupt
Have you noticed how people often tend to interrupt
each other? One person starts talking then another jumps
5 Use your listening skills wisely
Although there are benefits to listening, it can
sometimes be draining. People can become so wrapped
right in. Spend a day listening to the conversations around up in their own problems, they may not be considerate of
you and notice how much people interrupt. You might how you feel, or if you need to talk about your issues too.
be surprised how often people can barely finish their Remember that listening skills should be used wisely and
sentences before someone else begins theirs. only when you have the energy. You don’t want to find
Next time you are having a conversation, try to be yourself in a situation where conversations are often
mindful of letting people finish their own words before one-way and only based on someone venting to you
you speak. Being patient and allowing someone to get about their problems. Imagine that your listening energy
to the end of what they are saying is a great (and rare) is like a cup full of liquid. It can quickly drain away when
listening skill to learn. you don’t have anyone listening to you, to fill your cup
back up again.

3 Don’t give advice


When people talk about their problems, others tend
to give advice, or offer solutions to fix the problem. Often 6 Listening buddies
A good way to make things fair is to enter into
advice-giving is more about the giver than the receiver. a listening partnership. This is when two people set up
People want to feel like they are clever and can think of an agreement to take turns to talk and listen about how
solutions and they forget that the person they are listening their lives are going. You can set a timer, it could be for
to is the best expert on their own life. 10 minutes to start with, where one person talks while
When people are upset, they can’t always think clearly the other listens, and then you swap.
and need to offload those emotions. If someone is talking Before you start be sure to agree to keep everything
WORDS: KATE ORSON. ILLUSTRATION: GINNIE HSU

fast, or dealing with a strong feeling, they need to be confidential, and also not to talk to each other later about
listened to without advice. When you listen without giving what was said during the session. This creates a safe space,
views or suggestions, you can help them to release their so the other person only talks about their problem at a time
feelings. When they have lightened their own emotional of their choosing.
load, they may well be able to come up with a solution When the listening session ends, ask your buddy a
for themselves. question about something mundane and everyday.
Maybe try something like: ‘What animals can swim?’ or

4 Be okay with emotions


When you were younger, did anyone ever call you
a cry-baby? Did you find that adults sometimes became
‘What did you have for dinner last night?’ This will help
your friend turn their attention away from their problem,
and bring them back to reality.

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Are you a budding
horticulturist?
If you love the great outdoors, here’s some good news – jobs really can grow on trees

With the weather improving and the days getting longer, healthy lifestyle and work with many friendly people.’
you’re probably looking forward to venturing outdoors to Whether you’re naturally green-fingered or have yet to
enjoy some fresh air and sunshine. And if you’re someone sow a single seed, experts agree that a passion for plants
who is happiest in the open and who loves nothing more is all that’s needed to start. Chances are, if you have that
than to be among greenery and wildlife, you may be spark, there’ll be a perfect horticultural role for you. From
interested to know that your love of flora and fauna could landscape designers to botanists, and garden historians
form the basis of a fantastic, rewarding career. to plant breeders, the scope is enormous. Everyone
Horticulture – the science and art of garden cultivation involved in horticulture is contributing in some way to
– offers a wide variety of employment opportunities and, the conservation and understanding of the environment,
with green issues very much in the public consciousness, helping to ensure that it can be protected for current and
it’s currently an expanding area that’s keen to attract new future generations.
talent. Trainee horticulturalist Jenny Allwood-Booker says Places of employment can be as varied as the roles
it’s essential for a new generation to get involved: ‘Plants available – you don’t necessarily have to work in a formal
are massively important. They make oxygen for us to garden setting, there are tons of sites that require careful
breathe, food for us to eat, fibres to be made into clothes, management that you wouldn’t perhaps think of initially.
and so much more.’ In fact, if you’ve ever admired or used a green space, it’s
And Jenny says there are big advantages to spending so very likely that there’s a horticulturalist (or several) looking
much time outdoors. ‘I watch things change through the after it. Even cemeteries and churchyards are maintained
seasons. Plus, there are a wide range of different jobs which by teams of gardeners, allowing them to become much-
I get to take part in every day. I’m able to enjoy a physical, needed havens for wildlife in busy towns and cities.

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What you can do
If a career in horticulture sounds appealing,
here’s what you can do to learn more

Look into volunteering opportunities


There are loads of horticultural organisations
that are in need of volunteers – both for one-
All of these places help people as much as people help off and on-going tasks. By volunteering your
them. Sally Petitt, head of horticulture at Cambridge time, the organisation will gain an extra pair
University Botanic Garden, explains: ‘Green spaces are of hands and you’ll gain valuable experience
vital in keeping us grounded and connecting us with the at the same time. See wildlifetrusts.org and
natural world in a fast-paced society. Horticulture not only nationaltrust.org.uk for some ideas.
benefits those actively tending gardens and green spaces,
but also those visiting or passing through them.’ Visit as many green spaces as you can
Sally has this advice for any young people thinking There are many gardens open to the public
of pursuing a career: ‘Be open-minded and ready to up and down the country: stately homes,
constantly learn. Be prepared for lots of hard work too, botanic gardens and public parks, as well
drawing on a range of skills. There’s the practical work, but as horticultural shows, all giving insights
you may also need to get involved in planning, budgeting into different styles and ways of gardening.
and managing others.’ Many also offer student discounts on entry
So there you have it. Horticulture really is an fees. Keep your eyes peeled for charity open
all-encompassing subject – one that’s crucial for garden events near you – ngs.org.uk will have
environmental reasons, allows you to carve out a niche all the details.
that meets your talents and that also has a positive effect
on wellbeing. So whether it becomes your life’s work, or Swot up on The Royal Horticultural Society
just a wonderful way to spend a weekend, now’s the time For the ultimate resource, the RHS has tons of
to get outdoors and get involved. advice on how best to go about gaining the
relevant qualifications, as well as exploring
all the different types of horticultural roles
available. Visit rhs.org.uk/education-learning.
WORDS: VICTORIA PICKETT. ILLUSTRATIONS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

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10 FOOD AND
NUTRITION TRUTHS
YOU NEED TO HEAR

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Information on food and nutrition is everywhere. From TV to social media to magazines,
it can seem impossible to escape people telling you what and when to eat. Even more
frustrating is the matter of who to trust when it comes to nutrition advice – there’s so much
conflicting evidence out there, working out what to believe and act upon can be confusing.
Here, a registered dietitian highlights 10 important truths about food and nutrition that are
fundamental to everyone enjoying what they eat

1  THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS HEALTHY


AND UNHEALTHY FOODS
Every single food can feature in a healthy balanced
diet, and that includes foods traditionally referred to as
unhealthy like chocolate, cookies, cakes and sweets. This
is because all foods, irrespective of their nutrient content,
contain some sort of goodness – whether it’s energy for
work and play, simply an amazing taste to nourish your
soul at a birthday party or family event, or just chilling in
front of the TV.
It’s important not to cut out or be fearful of eating
any foods, not only for your health but for a positive
relationship with food and a social life too. For example,
when I think of a Friday night in with my girlfriends, the
first thing that springs to mind is pizza and ice cream. To
make it balanced, I’ll add a side salad and the next day I’ll
serve everyone some fruit with morning porridge.

2 SUGAR ISN’T BAD FOR YOU


Although it’s a good idea to cut down on sugary, fizzy
drinks (which aren’t good for teeth health), a bit of sugar
is A-OK. Whatever your preferred sweet food is, enjoy it,
without the guilt, in moderation – and this can even be
daily in addition to relatively healthy meals. I love sitting
down of an evening with my sister and chatting over a cup
4 EVERYTHING YOU READ ABOUT FOOD
IN HEALTH MAGAZINES ISN’T TRUE
Growing up I used to believe everything that I read in
of strong tea and some chocolate digestives. Food is much
magazines about food and diet. It’s only in the past
more than calories, macros and grammes – it’s about the
10 years, after qualifying as a dietician, that I now know
memories that it helps to create.
not all articles can be trusted. Make sure to see who
has written the article and/or who is being quoted.

3 Check that they are a dietician or registered nutritionist.


PHOTOGRAPHS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

EVERYTHING YOU READ ONLINE


ABOUT NUTRITION ISN’T TRUE The term ‘nutritionist’ alone isn’t a protected title
Although the internet shares many wonderful articles, unfortunately, which means that anyone can call
not all websites are reputable. I recommend using the themselves a nutritionist, regardless of their (lack of )
NHS Choices website (nhs.uk) for nutrition and health training, education and experience.
information as well as the British Dietetic Association’s
(BDA) food fact sheets (bda.uk.com/foodfacts/home).

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5 YOU CAN EAT FOODS THAT YOU
CAN’T PRONOUNCE
It’s a myth that you ‘shouldn’t eat foods that you
can’t pronounce’. I mean, how many people can say
‘quinoa’ correctly? Whatever you fancy eating for
your lunch, whether it be at school or home, have the
confidence to eat it and don’t worry about what others
may think. One day you might fancy a quinoa salad, the
next chicken and chips or pasta and garlic bread. Life is
about balance and variety.

6 YOU DON’T NEED TO EAT THE SAME FOODS OR


AMOUNT OF FOOD AS FRIENDS OR FAMILY
There is no such thing as the perfect diet because everyone
leads different lives. Try not to be influenced by other
people’s eating habits and instead eat what you enjoy and
what you know will be the right thing for your body.

7 YOU DON’T NEED TO CALORIE COUNT


Calorie counting is unnecessary, time-consuming
and it zaps almost all of the joy out of eating. People need
8 YOU SHOULDN’T EVER COMPARE YOUR
BODY TO OTHER PEOPLE’S
Luckily, nobody looks alike. You are a unique individual and
calories to function and the body is already pretty good should never compare yourself to others. Everyone comes
at telling you when you need to eat – it’s called feeling in different shapes, sizes and heights, which is what makes
hungry. Trust your own feelings of fullness and eat when them so interesting and beautiful. Celebrate yourself for
you need to. the awesome person that you are – you’re so much more
than your body.

9 YOU SHOULD CELEBRATE FOOD


People don’t just eat food for energy or goodness,
they eat it because it tastes good, they’re celebrating,
they’re with friends or simply because it’s being offered.
Food should be celebrated for its ability to create an
occasion. If you want to learn more about celebrating what
food really stands for, I recommend reading Eat Up! by Bake
Off contestant Ruby Tandoh.

10 YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE TO SORT OUT


YOUR FOOD ISSUES BY YOURSELF
If you have any concerns about your food intake, please
don’t suffer or worry in silence. Speak to your parents, GP
or practice nurse for help and guidance. If you think you
may have disordered eating or an eating disorder check
out the Beat website at beateatingdisorders.org.uk.

Hopefully you’ve found this article useful, and remember


to enjoy every mouthful of food that you eat today.

Nichola Ludlam-Raine (née Whitehead) is a specialist registered


dietitian BSc (hons) PG Dip MSc RD. She’s also an award-winning
health blogger at nicsnutrition.com.

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OH, NO... SO EMBArr AssING!
How can you survive if the so-called responsible adults in your life humiliate you?

Behind closed doors you probably can just about survive your parents trying to dance to your Spotify
tracks, attempting to rap like Stormzy, making lame jokes or wearing the same clothes they wore as
a 15 year old in 1991. But it’s a little different when they show off their embarrassing habits in public
– particularly in front of your friends. It may be that they start dancing on the table after a glass of wine
or post photos on Facebook that make you cringe, so how do you cope?

Here’s our guide to dealing with those mortifying mum-and-dad moments

1 It’s history repeating itself!


Parents embarrassing their kids is a rite of passage,
meaning your grandparents would have also embarrassed
4 Accept they may not change
However much you tell them you find something
about them embarrassing, they may not want to change.
your mum and dad and their parents before them would In fact, some parents might even enjoy winding you up
have done the same to your Nan and Grandad. Being – so the more you overact, the more they’ll want to tease
embarrassed by your mum and or dad is part of growing you, whether that takes the form of wiping a mark off
up. It doesn’t mean it’s less cringe-worthy for you but, your cheek with their own spit or blasting out Abba as
deep down, they should understand how you feel. they pick you up from school.

2 Talk to them
Your parents will have no idea that calling you
‘Poochie’ when your friends are round or their curious
5 Learning to cope
If they have embarrassing items of clothing, you could
encourage them to donate them to charity. Someone
clothes sense is making your toes curl unless you say out there will love their Westlife T-shirt even if you don’t.
something. But before you yell at them, take a moment Then, you can go shopping with them and steer them into
to collate your evidence. Choose a good time and place clothes you think they’d look great in. Don’t be unkind,
before you explain calmly, politely and as kindly as though, and remember that while 40 might seem ancient
possible (they do have feelings after all) that while they to you, it doesn’t to them. Age is just a number – isn’t that
may not realise they’re doing it, you’re finding some things what they say when they’re dancing around the kitchen?
embarrassing and it’d be helpful if they toned them down – swiftly followed by ‘life would be boring if everyone was
– at least in front of others. the same’. (Correct on both points, as it happens.)
WORDS: DONNA FINDLAY. ILLUSTRATION: STEPHANIE HOFMANN

3 Avoid getting too personal


You don’t want to hurt their feelings so be extra careful
to avoid criticising things they can’t change such as their
6 Prepare your friends
You won’t be the only one wanting the earth to
swallow them up at times because of their mum or dad’s
appearance or even their personality (think how you’d feel actions. You could swap stories so you and your friends
if someone said similar things to you). You might find it aren’t surprised when you visit each other’s homes. Even
embarrassing but they may not even be aware that their the coolest-seeming parents will have flaws that annoy
singing is out of tune or that it always seems like they’re their children so don’t think you’re special.
dancing to a song that isn’t the one being played. Be
tactful and sensitive to their feelings – you could just
ask them not to do it at certain moments rather than
telling them how terrible they are. Perhaps suggest a
7 Consider what actually is embarrassing
There’s a big difference between what you deem to
be bad musical tastes and a parent who violates your
compromise which will leave you both happy. privacy or humiliates you about something deeply

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personal such as your looks or weight. When you compare look, especially if they’re happy? You only get one mum
your embarrassment issues to those of others, they may and dad after all and in a few years, when you’re feeling
not seem as bad. It’s easy to be sensitive about childhood less sensitive, you really won’t care and instead you’ll be
nicknames, geeky outfits or terrible jokes, but really, are embarrassing the younger people in your life, having
they truly serious in the grand scheme of things? vague recollections of your current feelings and telling
them: ‘It’s all part of growing up’, ‘age is just a number’

8 Accept it
You will survive. No one has ever died of
embarrassment, so you will, however hard it seems, be
and ‘it’d be boring if everyone was the same’.

able to cope with your parents’ mortifying moments. Yes,


they make you want to pull your hair out at times and
yes, you may get annoyed by some of their ways, but if
they’re happy and it’s who they are, should you really ask
them to change? Have you considered you may even have
habits that embarrass your mum and dad? So, with that in AIA!: To all the parents and guardians out there, apologies
mind and the knowledge that no one is perfect, you may in advance if you’ve just been presented with a folder of
have to accept how they are. Is it really important that evidence cataloguing what the teenager in your life has
they change how they act, what they wear and how they decided are appalling musical choices and poor dress sense.

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Write on
Don’t let hang-ups about grammar or punctuation put you off
– writing is good for the soul, and done freely there’s no easier
way to express yourself

Lots of people let worries that they can’t write well enough stop them from
putting pen to paper. Yet writing is for everybody. It’s free. You can do it practically
anywhere and you don’t need special equipment. And the amazing thing is that
everyone has their own voice or style of writing. Given the same first sentence, each
person would come up with a completely unique piece of writing. Isn’t that mind-
blowing? Introducing a little bit of writing into your day is a great stress reliever.
You have to concentrate just on the page, in the moment, putting one word after
another, building sentence by sentence, paragraph by paragraph. Before you know
it, you’ve written hundreds of words. And you can be proud of having created
something from nothing. Getting your thoughts down on paper can also help
stop them whirring round and round inside your head. You can express feelings,
frustrations, work through sadness or anger, or write down the things you wished
you’d said to somebody, all in the privacy of your own notebook.

So what are you waiting for? Let’s get writing…


First, why not give yourself a break from screens and pick up a pen or pencil
instead? There’s something special about connecting your brain to the movement
of your hand and the formation of letters. A very different sensation from typing.
Dig out that old fountain pen for a change, or use bright felt tips.
You don’t even need to write in lines down the page unless you want to. Try
spirals, or diagonals. Use tiny writing for a small character, MASSIVE letters for a
shouting giant. Play with the words on the page. This isn’t homework to hand in.

But I don’t know what to write…


When you’re free writing like this you don’t need to worry about a plot or creating
a ‘finished’ piece. That can all come later if you decide to carry on working on
something. You’ll find your imagination is fired up by certain exercises and you’ll
want to spend more time on them, making them into a poem, story or even a
novel. But others may leave you uninspired. That’s fine – move on. Find what
works for YOU.

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1 Make a list
You’ll be surprised by how much character can be revealed in a list, or how easily lists
can turn into mini-poems or short stories. Give these a try…

List items in the room of someone you know well to sum up their character, maybe a sibling’s bedroom:
‘It was the half-eaten toast, the discarded T-shirt, the worn teddy peeping out from under the
pillow, the sickly smell of body spray…’
Why the dog is far too clever to be a real dog
Things to do on a sunny day
Fantasy bands and their song titles
What Ellie packed in her suitcase when she ran away

Have a go and see what works for you:

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2 First lines
Once upon a time…
Yes it’s a cliché, but something about those words and all the stories (and Disney films) absorbed when young can trigger a
whole style of writing. Free your inner princess/wicked fairy/frog and start your story below. Or give one of these a try:
The dragon came on a Saturday and refused to leave. A green box appeared on the doorstep.
He never expected to like the aliens as much as he did. When I am 30 I shall… I remember when…

WORDS: TRACY DARNTON @TRACYDARNTON. IMAGES: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

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Some dos and don’ts More ideas to keep
Don’t worry about spelling and grammar. Only YOU are reading it. you writing
And you can sort all that out later if you need to.
Browse a newspaper or magazine and
Do set the timer on your phone for 10 minutes as a minimum. Keep pick an item that sparks your interest for a
writing for the whole time without going back and crossing out. story: a tortoise that was found 10 miles from
Don’t listen to the critic on your shoulder. Even the most famous of home; a robot that can read your emotions; a
writers will have that nagging voice saying it’s not good enough/you’ll woman rescued from a mountain.
never finish it/you’re not a real writer. This happens to everybody so don’t
worry about it and banish the inner critic. Be kind to yourself. Close your eyes. Wait for a character
to pop into your head. Are they male or
Do look back afterwards at what you’ve written and pick out a sentence female? Age? What are they wearing?
with a highlighter pen that stands out to you. Be proud of your writing. Name? What’s in their pocket? What have
Don’t expect it to be polished and marvellous at the first attempt. The they lost? What do they need?
books on your shelf will have been through many drafts and edits. Writing
is all about the process. Write up a dream that you remember.
If it’s one that scared you, see if you can
write a different ending.
Remember, only YOU can write YOUR story.
Pick three words at random from the
dictionary and try to weave them into the
same story. How about:
Earring, lock, seal.
Assassin, gondola, pug.
Burn, hoop, typewriter.

Play music tracks at random and take


the first line of lyrics you hear as your
starting point.

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THE CHOICE
IS… YOURS
I’m sorry to hear that
your hamster is ill

Why are you


laughing?
Smiling, smirking, winking, grinning –
Oh, I thought
what’s your emoji face (or faces)? that meant I was
crying!

Whether you want to send a friend a hug, tell them you’re off
swimming or announce you’re on holiday, there’s an emoji to
help. Sharing a simple icon or picture can express your feelings,
represent what you’re up to, and indicate if you’re with family,
friends or the dog. Since the first emoji appeared on everyone’s
digital screens almost two decades ago, you can now choose from
a whopping 2,666, and 157 new emojis are lined up to appear on
our electronic devices in 2018.
It’s also good to know that emoji users are a happy bunch. The THE OAP
most commonly used emoji worldwide is the ‘face with tears of Uses emojis in the wrong way or
joy’, the icon that says something’s so funny that you’re crying with completely inappropriately
laughter. The ‘smiling face with heart eyes’ and the ‘red heart’, both
representing love, are also popular. Indeed, none of the emojis in
the top 10 most used on Facebook conveys negative emotions –
so no doubt the new blushing ‘smiling face with three hearts’ and
the hat-wearing ‘partying face’ will be appearing in your messages
any day soon.
Look out, too, for new emojis to represent knitting, sewing and
skateboarding. A cupcake and black chess piece are making an
appearance, as are a hippopotamus, kangaroo, swan, peacock and
Thanks for my
lobster. And there’s good news for all redheads and those with curly present :-)
locks – at long last you’re getting your own emoji, along with the I <3 it!
white-haired and bald brigade.

Did you know?


The first emoji was created in 1999 by Shigetaka Kurita, who was
working on a mobile Internet platform in Japan.
The word emoji has the same meaning as pictogram in Japanese.
It’s purely coincidental that it sounds like ‘emoticon’, a portmanteau
(aka, something that blends the sounds and meanings of both
words) of ‘emotion’ and ‘icon’ in English.
On any given day, more than 5 billion emojis are sent on
Facebook messenger.
World Emoji Day is celebrated every year on 17 July.
THE OLD TIMER
Masked superheroes are also making their emoji debut in 2018, as Still typing out faces? This person is stuck
is a roll of toilet paper. The frowning pile of poo, however, despite pre-smart phone.
the popularity of its happy counterpart, is nowhere to be seen.

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OMG!! Can’t believe
Hey how are
what’s just happened!!
you??

THE OVER USER THE DRAMA QUEEN THE EXCITED EMOJIER


Loves using emojis, but rarely has a Whether they’ve dropped their tablet in An enthusiastic typer who’ll send the
reason for them. Will often spend a while the bath or just slept in by five minutes, entire happy section of the emoji
finding the right combination to send, this one’s always alarmed – so it’s difficult keyboard just because there’s nothing
even though they appear random. to know if you should really be worried. else to do – and they like it!
WORDS: JEN NEAL AND LORNA COWAN. ILLUSTRATIONS: MOBILE PHONES: LAURA BACKEBERG, EMOJIS: SHUTTERSTOCK

There was once a who


lived in a . One day a Hello!
came along on his and
they fell in , but the
got angry and cursed the
to sleep. The prince Hey! How are you?
fought the and found
the and gave her true
. And they lived happily Not bad thx! Do
ever after. you want to go to the
cinema later? Good luck
today

THE STORYTELLER THE LAZY CHATTER THE PRECISE ONE


Someone who has a little too Rarely uses any emoji that’s not in Likes a challenge and will trawl through
much time on their hands. their Frequently Used list – probably the emoji keyboard just to find the
doesn’t know how to! perfect, and probably obscure, emoji.

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WORLDLY WISDOM
No one’s born with the insight of learned philosophers, but give it time and it’s
possible to gain a greater understanding of the world we all share

From ancient Chinese teacher Confucius to 20th-century but mistakes are valuable guideposts in the learning path.
French philosopher Simone de Beauvoir, a look through the Britain’s wartime Prime Minister Winston Churchill once
history books reveals a string of enlightened people whose said: ‘All men make mistakes, but only wise men learn
insights have been amazing. But they weren’t born with from their mistakes.’ Why? Errors of any kind can improve
superior knowledge or wisdom. This comes with openness, performance and the ability to adapt as they offer a chance
knowledge and experience. to gain insight from past decisions; to learn what does and
ORIGINAL WORDS: ANNE GUILLOT. ILLUSTRATIONS: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM

Life is a process of learning, of ups and downs. And if doesn’t work for you and redefine your goals to match; and
there’s anything that helps to deal with its challenges, it’s a way to adapt and thrive in the future.
wisdom – the ability to make the right judgements and So, making mistakes doesn’t mean you’ve gone offbeam.
choices. It comes with time yet it doesn’t necessarily follow Instead, it’s about making progress along your journey
that older people are wiser. They may have greater insight – they are the evidence that you’re growing, that your
and be more reflective and less impulsive, but there’s no personality is developing and that you’re gaining valuable
guarantee that a 60 year old is wiser than a 16 year old. experiences. So, if you take a risk and it doesn’t quite work
The key is time, but how it’s used rather than its duration, out, you’ll have a better idea of what to do next time and be
whether that amounts to months or years. more likely to take more effective decisions.
Throughout life, self-awareness tends to deepen, You could consider life as a game: learning the rules gets
allowing people to identify and fulfil their potential in areas you started, but the more you play it, the more chances you
in which they excel and to work harder in those where have to win. It isn’t always easy or fair, but be courageous,
they struggle. Within this, it can help to take responsibility be optimistic and go beyond self-doubts. If you learn, grow
for choices and actions. It’s also useful to embrace any and gain compassion from all of life’s lessons – the good
stumbles and to accept failure – it may seem unlikely and the not-so-great – wisdom will follow.

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Think first and talk second
Life will present challenges
– don’t run away from them,
just do the best you can Learn to recognise
that no one
is perfect
Slow down and take time to
observe the world around and
learn how it works

Accept and use


constructive criticism
in a positive way

See yourself as you


truly are – quirks
and all
Don’t judge
others, attempt to
understand them

Try not to make


hasty decisions

Words to the wise


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CALM YOUR
BUTTERFLIES
Next time you’re feeling nervous about something – a talk in front of others,
perhaps, or an exam – find a quiet spot and try this exercise

Stand or sit with your eyes closed. Take some slow, deep letting them fall into a relaxed position. Roll each shoulder
WORDS: SUSIE DUFF. PHOTOGRAPH: TWENTY20.COM

breaths. Pay attention to the parts of your body where you forward, then back again. Repeat this movement if your
feel tense – hunched shoulders, clenched teeth, butterflies shoulders feel particularly tense.
in your stomach.
Open your mouth slightly. Relax your neck and jaw.
Breathe in deeply and feel the air travelling into these Breathe in through your nose and then slowly exhale.
areas, loosening the tension and carrying it away on the out
breath. Repeat five times. Place your hands gently on your belly and feel the rise
and fall of your stomach with each breath in and out.
Pull your shoulders up in an exaggerated shrug, all the Continue taking long, slow breaths until you feel it soften
way to your ears. Hold them there for a moment, before and relax.

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WISE WORDS
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