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GH Participant Workbook 1
GH Participant Workbook 1
Glorious Hope
Recovery is for everybody.
2017 EDITION
PARTICIPANT’S
WORKBOOK
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This workbook was inspired by the works done by God through our Lord Jesus
Christ in the broken lives of people who contributed their personal experiences
in their journey in response to 2 Corinthians 1:4
Because all have sinned, we have hurt ourselves and others. Glorious Hope
exists to help liberate the families from the bondage of destructive hurts, habits
and hang-ups through our Lord Jesus Christ; and to equip them with tools to
overcome their hurts, habits and hang-ups in order for them to be productive in
the community.
Frontera Verde,
Ortigas Avenue corner C5
Pasig City
Tel No. 8669985
TABLE OF
CONTENTS
REINHOLD NIEBUHR
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12 STEPS OF RECOVERY
12 STEPS BIBLE VERSE
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PREFACE:
WHY
GLORIOUS
HOPE?
The challenging times of the 21st century make it hard for individuals to face the
unaware of their presence until we feel their overwhelming pressure. The family,
which used to serve as our refuge, is showing traces of stress. Parental absenteeism
and unstable marital unions have been pre-dominant in households due to the
continuing pressures of our changing environment. The impact is most dramatic
on the personalities and characters of individuals.
The word “recovery” has been the most misunderstood word as it is always
associated with drugs, alcoholism or sickness. The truth is “recovery is for
everybody”. All of us have sinned and because of this, we have hurt someone
as we too were hurt by others. In one way or another, we have some unresolved
hurts; we develop habits to cope with this experience, and hang-ups to defend the
continuance of our lifestyle.
Finishing the session and unlearning our old ways are not the only objectives of
this program. To be a life coach to someone starting in the succeeding program is
the main goal. As this cycle of learning is practiced we internalize the principles of
the program in order to make it part of our lifestyle.
Just as there is a downward, negative spiral, there also is an upward, positive spiral.
When a person learns new information that counteracts his early belief system,
gets the support of others, musters enough courage to act on the new knowledge
within the context of a community, things begin to improve. The step up motivates
the person to continue on the new path. Such would be more meaningful when
that person realizes the meaning of life and God’s given purpose for him/her. As
he/she learns this truth he/she becomes a productive member of society.
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STEP 1
“We admitted we were powerless
over our addictions and compulsive
behaviors, and that our lives have become
unmanageable.”
Matthew 9:12
“...It is not those who are healthy who need a physician, but those who are sick.”
THINK ABOUT IT
We are to admit our powerlessness which is our basic condition. It is not the
powerlessness that led our lives to becoming unmanageable but rather, it is our
denial of this powerlessness.
Step 1 is about telling the truth about ourselves, our situation, and the condition
we are in. The verse above pictures our need for a physician because we are sick,
weak and therefore powerless. Unless we admit that we have a problem, recovery
will never start.
While God has absolute power and control over the whole universe, it is
________________ for man to covet this same power and control for himself.
Such is our nature—we desire to exercise control over our self, and we get
frustrated when we fail. The apostle Paul says in
Romans 7:18
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This is a picture of what powerlessness is all about. The issue is not so much that
man wants to do the wrong thing. The truth is that man is __________________ to
do the _____________ thing and man attempts to cover up this powerlessness
through denial.
Genesis 3:7
“Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they
coverings.”
Like Adam who failed to admit he needed help from God, we are caught in
denial and cover ourselves with elaborate masks.
However, realizing and admitting that we are not God and that there are many
things completely beyond our control can be hindered by factors like:
B. WHAT IS DENIAL?
a. It is an ________________ of control.
b. It is a _____________________ of beliefs.
c. It is a learned ______________________.
f. It is __________________.
a.
seriousness
shortcomings.
D _____________________
E _____________________
N _____________________
I _____________________
A _____________________
L _____________________
Matthew 9:12
“..... It is not those who are healthy who need a physician, but those who are
sick.”
To step out of denial and admit powerlessness, we must focus on four actions:
STOP!
Doing these actions sets off our journey to recovery. Most of all, we can let go
of the loneliness, emptiness, and separation caused by maintaining a “false
sense of power” over our situation.
3.
want to continue living this way?
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Exodus 20:5-6
You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous
God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on the third and fourth
generations of those who hate Me, but showing lovingkindness to thousands, to
those who love Me and keep My commandments.
THINK ABOUT IT
In Lesson 1, we learned that we are powerless over our situations and we have not
situation is unmanageable, it will eventually affect our family and cause dysfunction.
In fact, we could even be a product of such a family where unmanageability is a
pattern. As we accomplish our family mapping exercise in this lesson, we will
discover that family patterns are passed on from one generation to another. Step
1 is all about cause and effect. The cause is our denial of powerlessness; the
effect is that our lives have become unmanageable—a similar concept to being
dysfunctional.
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that functions as a unit, where every family member plays a critical, if not a
unique role in the system. As such, it is not possible for one member to alter
his behavior without causing a ripple effect of change throughout the entire
family system.
•
____________________ basis.
facing individuals and families. These dysfunctional behavior patterns are easily
transferred to new relationships. We tend to take our familiar role in one system
and repeat that role in other systems into which we enter. A dysfunctional
family setup is the unhealthy place where family members develop escape
mechanisms to cope with pain, suffering, fear, and loneliness.
The way we handle problems determines how these problems will affect
our lives and our families for generations to come. The ______________ of
powerlessness sets the domino effect of dysfunction in motion within our
family, starting with us.
our family.
love tank and emotional needs of their children. Ideally, a child gets his love
with his own sexuality and gender and his ability to have successful intimate
relationships as an adult.
When an individual or family does not seek to heal these wounds, a legacy
of dysfunction begins and later passed on to the next generation in varying
degrees. Family members will tend to adapt to unhealthy behaviors to cope
and meet their needs. But it only brings temporary satisfaction and later
results in unmet emotional needs or empty “love tanks.” In later life, issues or
dysfunctions in character appear such as:
We are a product of our past, in the same way our parents are products of
theirs. We all have unmet needs, which we were never able to deal with. The
frustration, anger, or bitterness of those unprocessed and unmet needs may
still be in our system somewhere. Growing up in a dysfunctional family is not
simple. Recovery is not easy. It requires transformation at the deepest level.
And it should start with us. The dysfunction can be stopped only if we love God
enough to show our obedience to His commandment.
Exodus 20:6
…but showing lovingkindness to thousands, to those who love Me and keep
My commandments.
God meant for us to experience intimate relationships with Him and others.
To do this, we need to develop skills in ________________ honestly to others
and to God, ____________________ feelings to others and to God, and
___________________________ others and God.
1. Learning to Talk
• To others
________________________ that honesty is scary and carries risks. We
can ask God for courage to be able to express our innermost hurts and
feelings, and for the wisdom to do so with balance, in consideration for
others.
• To God
__________________ that God hears us and attentively listens to us. We
must believe that God is gracious and compassionate. Read Scriptures
(His Word, the Bible) and talk to Him in prayer.
• To others
Healing begins when we are able to reach the __________________
of our hurts and emotions. We are interdependent with each other.
We should also learn to value and respect other people’s feelings and
differences.
3. Learning to Trust
• Others
Practical steps to take may include making plans to
• God
We need to ________________ and ________________ the fact that God
cares. He values us and will provide for us. Recalling God’s gracious
intervention in the past can help reshape our values, our hopes, and
our behavior.
Caution: We are not looking at the dysfunctional patterns in order to blame our
parents or anyone; rather we want to better understand our often inexplicable
reactions and habits.
It would be easier to change and correct our thinking and behavior if we knew
where we learned them and how these patterns worked:
1. List down names of every member of your family, going as far back as your
great grandparents on both parents if possible. Use the chart on the next
page.
Draw a circle around similar traits. Then draw a line through traits passed on
through generations. Lastly, highlight the traits passed down to you personally
in a different color.
The task may seem overwhelming and uncomfortable. But it is exactly what
you need to begin the process of change.
Do not let this discourage you! You have just begun a discovery process that
will allow you to grow out of the dysfunction and start a new life in Jesus.
Cousins Me Cousins
Cousins Me Cousins
Romans 7:15, 19
For that which I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing what I
would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate. For the good that I wish, I
do not do; but I practice the very evil that I do not wish.
THINK ABOUT IT
The next step after admitting that we are powerless over any form of addiction
and compulsive behavior is to believe in what God can do. The phrase "came to
believe that God through Jesus Christ" is an action phrase for us to move forward
towards a relationship that involves trusting in the person of JESUS.
A. WHAT IS INSANITY?
We often associate insanity with patients in a mental asylum but Albert Einstein
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is “rewarding” for us. And so we repeat the same behavior, until it has become
deeply ingrained in our system. Knowing where we learned certain behaviors
and how these worked in the past together with identifying our belief systems
will make it easier for us to change and correct wrong thought patterns and
behavior.
1. Early Development
a. ________________________
b. ________________________
c. ________________________
Romans 7:15, 19
For that which I am doing, I do not understand; for I am not practicing
what I would like to do, but I am doing the very thing I hate. For the good
that I wish, I do not do; but I practice the very evil that I do not wish.
2. Roles
d. The ___________________
• As a child, they always like to be in the center of attention. They
do this by either clowning around or serving others (i.e., meeting
needs, solving problems). They are actually trying to divert people’s
attention away from their shortcomings.
• They have very low self-worth, cannot seem to say “no,” and are
always "extra nice" to people. Typically, they are people pleasers.
• As adults, they allow themselves to be used and manipulated by
someone with a psychological problem or addictive behavior.
Their sense of self-worth is centered on other people’s recovery or
success.
We tend to adapt to roles that best suit our needs at certain times. The
longer we play a role, the more we become rigidly _________________ to
that role.
The chart below shows the negative downward spiral in which negative
patterns are repeated.
f. Distorted behavior: Repeating this cycle many times causes the pattern
and behavior to become deeply ingrained, until it becomes a “normal”
part of our system, which only leads us farther down the cycle.
culture we grew up with. Our access to media and the internet also affect
the choices available to us.
a. Substance Addiction
• Alcoholism
• Drug dependence
• Smoking
• Prescription medications
saving”)
• Media addictions to computers, games, television, or reading as a
form of escape from stress and responsibilities
resistant to the change we are pursuing. We have to struggle with the feeling
of awkwardness or incompetence.
initially worked for us and helped us get what we wanted at some point in the
past.
Family patterns are learned early in life, become automatic through the years
but they can be changed!
If we learn new information that contradicts our early belief system, have the
support of a group that encourages us to change, and have the courage to act
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Matthew 6:33
to you.
A______________________________________________________
2 Corinthians 5:10
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one
may be recompensed for his deeds in the body, according to what he has
done, whether good or bad.
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John 8:34–36
Jesus answered them, "Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is
the slave of sin. And the slave does not remain in the house forever; the son
does remain forever. If therefore the Son shall make you free, you shall be free
indeed.”
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Romans 12:2
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing
of your mind that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good
and acceptable and perfect.
Proverbs 3:5–6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.
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John 14:21
"He who has My commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves Me; and
he who loves Me shall be loved by My Father, and I will love him, and will
disclose Myself to him."
1. As far as you can remember, what topics were often discussed in your family?
What was not discussed or talked about?
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2. What made you happy and content as a child? What did you do to maintain
this feeling or situation?
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3. What made you sad or lonely? What did you do to make yourself feel better?
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John 5:6
When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he had already been a long time
in that condition, He said to him, "Do you wish to get well?"
THINK ABOUT IT
key action in this step is “coming to believe” that God's power is a power "for
us" rather than "against us." Our hope is in the person of God through Jesus
Christ who is genuinely powerful, compassionate, and interested in restoring us.
Our hope should never be placed on any object, circumstance, or situation. The
second step of the healing process invites us to believe in God through Jesus
Christ who is our living hope.
John 5:2–9
Now there is in Jerusalem by the sheep gate a pool, which is called in Hebrew
sick, blind, lame, and withered, [waiting for the moving of the waters; for an
angel of the Lord went down at certain seasons into the pool, and stirred up
man was there, who had been thirty-eight years in his sickness. When Jesus
saw him lying there, and knew that he had already been a long time in that
condition, He said to him, "Do you wish to get well?" The sick man answered
Him, "Sir, I have no man to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up,
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but while I am coming, another steps down before me." Jesus said to him,
"Arise, take up your pallet, and walk." And immediately the man became well,
and took up his pallet and began to walk. Now it was the Sabbath on that day.
God. Instead, we transformed our concept of God into forms and images
more comfortable to our corrupt and darkened hearts to suit our own will.
Romans 3:21
For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give
thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart
was darkened.
His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath of God through Him. For if
while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of
His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.
John 5:14
Afterward, Jesus found him in the temple, and said to him, "Behold, you have
become well; do not sin anymore, so that nothing worse may befall you."
Nothing truly spiritual happens in our lives until God initiates that relationship
with us, just like what He did with the paralyzed man. In another verse in the
Bible, Jesus said:
John 6:44
No one can come to Me unless the Father who sent Me draws him; and I will
raise him up on the last day.
This verse tells us that no one has the ability to come to Christ without God
truth is that unless God opens his mind, nothing will ever come out of his
efforts.
When God opens our mind, genuine repentance is possible because only then
will we realize our depravity. The next step is how we will respond.
With such awareness comes the realization of sin. Hence, we seek His
forgiveness.
God sent Jesus for He is the very reason God forgave us of our sins. Jesus
is our hope, our only hope. We have lived our lives away from God and it
made us miserable. Now it is time we turn to Him because a life without
Jesus is not life at all.
WRITE ABOUT IT
1. Knowing the choices you repeatedly made in the past to cope with your
situation, what could possibly hinder you from believing that Jesus Christ could
indeed restore you to sanity?
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2. With the realization that Jesus Christ is for us and that His power can heal us,
what steps are you planning to do in order to experience the healing that God
through Jesus Christ would want you to accomplish in your life?
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3. What will you do the next time you experience physical/ emotional hurt and
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Deuteronomy 30:19
I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life
and death, the blessing and the curse. So choose life in order that you may live,
you and your descendants.
THINK ABOUT IT
doctrinal statements about Him because these images are rooted in our powerful
emotional experiences.
The process of mending these distorted images involves replacing them with a
biblically accurate imagery of God.
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Romans 1:21–22
Yes, they knew God, but they wouldn’t worship him as God or even give him
thanks. And they began to think up foolish ideas of what God was like. As
a result, their minds became dark and confused. Claiming to be wise, they
instead became utter fools.
Man's moral decline stemmed from his attempt to reduce God into
"manageable" proportions. One of the most important aspects of recovery
is to change that distorted view of God into an accurate image based on the
Bible. Only then will this translate into a change in behavior.
B. CORRECTING DISTORTION
it developed and then identify the concepts we acquired while growing up and
the feelings that contributed to our wrong view of God.
1. Unrealistic Expectations
Psalm 103:8
The LORD is compassionate and gracious; slow to anger and abounding
in loving kindness. Just as a father has compassion on his children, so
the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him. For He Himself
knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust.
Believing that God expects us to be perfect can make us resent God and
develop a vicious cycle of self-condemnation. We can go into adulthood
even last our whole lifetime. Healing from perfectionism is not an easy
journey.
Many parents successfully provide for physical needs but fail to meet
emotional needs.
Hebrews 4:14–16
…For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our
weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are,
yet without sin…
3. Disinterested
Parents can be too busy people to stop and listen to their children.
They are full of anxiety about work, money, and relationships. They
work long hours. They are tired. Sometimes they are depressed.
Psalm 139:1–6
O Lord, You have searched me and known me. You know when I sit
down and when I rise up; You understand my thought from afar. You
scrutinize my path and my lying down, and are intimately acquainted
with all my ways. Even before there is a word on my tongue, Behold,
O Lord, You know it all. You have enclosed me behind and before, and
laid Your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is
too high, I cannot attain to it.”
Our experience has been that others watch out for our mistakes,
causing us to be fearful of relationships. As defense, we tend to be
critical, judgmental, and skeptical. However, when we learn and realize
that God watches over us to help, protect, and teach us, we learn then
to be gracious and helpful to others.
Children silently ask their parents, “Do you love me?” In reply, children
hear violent words from their parents, words convincing them that they
are not lovable, valuable, or capable. Unfortunately, many children
experience abuse instead of affection, and punishment instead of
guidance.
Matthew 20:30–34
And two blind men sitting by the road, hearing that Jesus was passing
by, cried out, “Lord, have mercy on us, Son of David!" The crowd
sternly told them to be quiet, but they cried out all the more, “Lord,
Son of David, have mercy on us!" And Jesus stopped and called them,
and said, "What do you want Me to do for you?" They said to Him,
"Lord, we want our eyes to be opened." Moved with compassion,
Jesus touched their eyes; and immediately they regained their sight
and followed Him.”
The God of the Bible is not abusive or easily angered. He is moved with
compassion and He is ready to act on our behalf. Jesus’ heart went out
to the blind men and He showed that He was able to suffer with them.
5. Unreliable
Adults make promises they don’t keep. They get angry when there
seems to be nothing to be angry about. At times, they may be loving,
attentive, and kind; but at other times hostile, inattentive, and unkind.
b. God’s _________________________
Psalm 145:14–16
The LORD sustains all who fall and raises up all who are bowed down.
The eyes of all look to You, and You give them their food in due time.
You open your hand and satisfy the desire of every living thing.
6. Abandons
The Bible tells us that God will never leave or forsake us, for He is a God
who will be with us until the end.
Deuteronomy 31:6
Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for
the Lord your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or
forsake you.
To turn our lives and our will over to God is a tough decision to make especially
if we grew up witnessing much dysfunction within our family.
God gave us the Bible to serve as an accurate resource of who He really is.
His word has withstood time and trial as some of the people here in Glorious
Hope can attest to. Given this alternative, we must make a choice because the
output of this lesson is the action we will choose to take. This is also crucial
because our decision will impact the lives of our descendants.
Deuteronomy 30:19
I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you
life and death, the blessing and the curse. So choose life in order that you may
live, you and your descendants.
1. What is the hardest thing for you to experience in your relationship with God
today?
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2. How is that struggle similar to the feelings you had about your parents when
you were growing up?
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4. If God were to be what you had wished Him to be, how will it affect your
relationship with Him?
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James 1:14-15
But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.
Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-
grown, brings forth death.
THINK ABOUT IT
Why do we do what we do? How come two people respond differently towards a
common situation? How can a person give much of what he has to help someone
he doesn't even know while another steals money even from the very poor? What
is the force that drives and shapes our emotions, actions, qualities of life and
ultimately, our destinies?
Jesus taught us in His Word that everything proceeds from within the heart.
Luke 6:45
The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good;
and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth
We all understand the heart as a vital organ and centre of our physical life but
and attitudes and the centre of personality. It means much more than emotion
and feelings for it also includes the thinking process and particularly the will.
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The heart of man is described as _________________________:
• We think we know why we do what we do
• We repeat a particular behavior over and over again.
• There must be a compelling reason why we do what we do.
Biblically, the heart itself is everything that goes on inside of us. It helps to break
it down to four levels. As you go down through each level you will observe that
what is more hidden is more powerful and each level is shaped by the ones
under it.
2. _________________ level
We unconsciously develop a pattern of making decisions according to our
thoughts and feelings and our heart's mind level has an emotional and
rational brain. The emotional brain reacts while the rational brain weighs
and reasons.
4. _________________ level
The innermost level of the heart houses the fundamental, physical and
psychological needs that drive our behavior. The Desire Wheel below
breaks down these basic psychological motivations in 16 categories.
DESIRE WHEEL
Taken from "The Invitation" by Tony Stoltzfus
Nonetheless, when a situation that strikes close to the unmet desire occurs,
our emotional memory immediately kicks in, and activates the belief system
that tells us how to meet this desire and we act based on that belief. This
creates a pattern of response in our mind that produces our behavior.
James 1:14-15
But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and
enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin,
when it is full-grown, brings forth death.
ALTERNATIVES/ ADDICTION/
UNMET SIN/
SUBSTISTUTES COMPULSIVE
DESIRES BEHAVIOR
FULFILLMENTS BEHAVIOR
We may try to use discipline as a tool for change. But discipline can only work
effectively when our whole heart is in alignment with our desires, beliefs and
emotional memories pulling in the same direction as our will.
make. We need to turn our lives and our wills over to His care through Jesus
Christ. We have made false gods out of the world, wrong relationship and
everything in it and we have insanely ignored the one true God.
John 7:38
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behavior. Adam and Eve chose to separate themselves from the life-connection
and made themselves slaves to their own twisted desires. This is the effect of
sin and the false pretense that we are in total control.
will only mean despair as you try to meet your needs your way and end up with
nothing.
unmet desires that have been distorted through time and replace them with a heart that desires a “simple, powerful and
liberating” relationship with God through Jesus Christ Himself.
“What Action or “What strong “What memory of “With reference “What does that
Behavior do you emotions do you your past involved to your answer in response give you if you cannot
repeatedly do in feel when this that same feeling? column 1and 2, how you? What can it respond the
time of stress or happens that make Where/when did do you really want do to you or the way you want to
pressure? you decide to you start to feel to respond to those situation?” respond? What do
behave that way?” that way?” emotions whenever you fear losing if
they happen? you cannot respond
this way?”
I experience stress I feel humiliated and Whenever I made I would like to give Withdrawing from If I will not distance
or pressure when embarrassed because mistake, my parents explanations to prove people protects me myself from them,
people question I presume that they would embarrass them wrong but when from embarrassment then I have to face
or give negative are degrading my me and call me I did, it only made and humiliation. I up to the possibility
comments regarding personality. names like “tangga” situations worse. And don’t have to explain of embarrassment
my work, and I have a “stupido” “bobo” in so I distanced myself anything to anyone each time. Their
tendency to withdraw front of my siblings from these people and just hope those perception of me
and become hostile and sometimes and learned to be people forget all will become worse
towards them. cousins. It was very alone. about it. and they would not
LESSON 06: ACTION
acknowledgement.
hope.
Excited
Alive, Amazed, Animated, Eager, Energetic,
Enthusiastic, Invigorated, Lively, Passionate
Annoyed Inspired
Aggravated, Bitter, Cranky, Cross, Amazed, Astonished, Awed, Dazzled,
Dismayed, Disgruntled, Displeased, Radiant, Rapturous, Surprised, Thrilled,
Exasperated, Frustrated, Grouchy, Uplifted, Wonder
Impatient, Irked, Irritated, Miffed,
Peeved, Resentful, Sullen, Uptight
Upset Joyful
Agitated, Alarmed, Discombobulated, Amused, Buoyant, Delighted, Elated,
Disconcerted, Disturbed, Disquieted, Ecstatic, Glad, Gleeful, Happy, Jubilant,
Perturbed, Rattled, Restless, Troubled, Merry, Mirthful, Overjoyed, Pleased, Radiant,
Turbulent, Turmoil, Uncomfortable, Tickled
Uneasy, Unnerved, Unsettled
Tense Relaxed
Antsy, Anxious, Bitter, Distressed, At ease, Carefree, Comfortable, Open
Distraught, Edgy, Fidgety, Frazzled,
Irritable, Jittery, Nervous, Overwhelmed,
Pressured, Restless, Stressed out,
Uneasy
Hopeful
Trepidation, Unnerved, Wary, Worried, Anticipating, Believing, Eager, Encouraged,
Reserved, Sensitive, Shaky, Unsteady, Optimistic, Patient, Wonder
Vulnerable
Cautious, Fragile, Guarded, Helpless, Empowered, Proud, Safe, Secure,
Insecure, Leery, Reluctant Self-assured
Confused Engaged
Absorbed, Alert, Ardent, Curious,
Engrossed, Enchanted, Entranced, Involved
Perplexed, Puzzled, Skeptical, Stressed,
Superior, Torn
Embarrassed Hopeful
Ashamed, Chagrined, Contrite, Guilty, Expectant, Encouraged, Optimistic
Pain Content
Agony, Anguished, Bereaved, Glad, Cheerful,
Devastated, Heartbroken, Hurt,
Miserable, Wretched
Safe
Hurt Comforted, Intimate, Relief,
Heart broken, Victimized Secure, Trusting
Inadequate Powerful
Confused, Failure, Failure, Giving up,
Helpless, Powerless, Vulnerable, Courageous, Free
Worn out
Unloved Loved
Hated, Left out, Lonely, Rejected, Ugly, Affection, Cherished, Connected, Embraced,
Unheard, Unknown, Worthless Empathy, Pursued, Tenderness
Wrong Approved
Ashamed, Broken, Dirty, Embarrassed,
Guilty, Remorseful Respected, Valuable
Martin Davis, The Gospel and the Twelve Steps, RPI Publications, Inc. ISBN
0-941405-31-1
Dale and Juanita Ryan, The Life Recovery Guide series, originally published by
InterVarsity Press (ISBN 0-8308-1152-4), 1992
Dale and Juanita Ryan, Recovery from Distorted Images of God, Originally
published by InterVarsity Press (ISBN 0-8308-1152-4). 1992
© 1987 - 2005 www.Step12.com - From: 4th Step Workshop with Dallas B. Last
update: 7/06/05
Dr. Tina B. Tessina, It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction, Franklin
Lake, NS,New Page Books, A Division of Career Press , 2003
Warner Barker, Eddie Rosnake, Richard Sheperd, Life Principles from the Old
Testament, Chattanoga, TN, AMC publications,
All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are from the HOLY
BIBLE, NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE,
Participants Workbook 1 deals with the shedding of our old self, that is the
reason why the color of the workbook is orange. This part of the program helps
us to acknowledge that we are not god and that there is a God who is powerful
yet loving and compassionate who wants to heal us. This workbook needs to be
Participants Workbook 2 deals with our growth that is why the color of the
workbook is green. The shedding of our old self will allow the new self to grow.
Growing involves discovering the truth that is hidden in us, the resentments that
we still keep, our distorted fear, our false guilt, our false sense of shame, and our
sexual conduct. It assesses the character that formed in us throughout all this years
and evaluates our relationship with people leading to reconciliation. This part of
the program is necessary in order to prepare us for service.
Participants Workbook 3 deals with service that is why the color of the workbook
on our transformed life. This we can only accomplished if we know the purpose of
our life, why we where created. Knowing our purpose will helps us prioritize what is
important. Knowing what is important will lead us to our mission in life.
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Step Study Guidelines
1. Keep sharing focused on own thoughts, feelings, and actions (use “I”
statements) and limit sharing to 3–5 minutes.
2. Be sensitive to the person speaking—no cross talk during the speaker’s time of
sharing.
3.
4.
group.
5. Do not use offensive language—such has no place in a Christ-centered recovery
program.
6. Avoid graphic descriptions.
7. Absolutely no materials outside of the Glorious Hope Program—such materials
include curriculum from other recovery programs, books, essays, poems,
etc. from Christian and non-Christian authors regarding recovery to prevent
potential problems of cult-related information and non-biblical teaching.
8. Refrain from Christian-speak, spiritualizing, or making comments on practices
and doctrines of other faiths—focus on Scriptures alone.
9.
or volunteer.
10. No business transaction during and within Glorious Hope Program activities.
11. ALL cellular phones must be on SILENT MODE or turned off if possible while
sessions are ongoing. Likewise, the use of other gadgets like tablets and
laptops are not allowed.
12. No children during the discussion sessions.
13. Participants are strongly encouraged to answer all questions in the Participant’s
Workbook before the session—recovery comes from honestly and diligently
answering the assigned questions.
14. Participants must always come on time for step study sessions. A grace period
of 30 minutes is given. Anyone coming later may no longer be able to join the
group and may have to join the open share in the meantime.
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