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Enlightening, happy-making facts,
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14 Katie Piper
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Save your skin!
We’ve all been enjoying the long,
warmer days after the cool spring,
but dermatologists are calling for
us all to remember to look after our
skin in the sun.
Forty per cent of us admitted to
at least one case of sunburn last
year, say the British Association
of Dermatologists (BAD), with a
third of people sunbathing with the
intention of getting a tan.
And nearly six in ten of us rarely
look at the UV Index.
‘A mentality shift amongst the
Get water wise British public in terms of our
How much water do you behaviour in the sun is sorely
use daily? The average needed,’ says Professor Mabs
person estimates 57 litres, Chowdhury, president of BAD.
but actually consumes a He advises checking UV levels
whopping 144 litres, a survey daily, particularly between April
by B&Q has revealed. and September, and taking
One third of Brits have precautions if it is three or higher.
not taken any water-saving ‘That means making use of shade,
measures at home, either, wearing clothing that will protect
despite the UK facing your skin, and using a sunscreen
water scarcity. that is at least SPF 30.’
But small changes can
make a big impact, such as
getting out of the shower one
minute earlier each morning.
‘This can save 2,500 litres
a year, with four minutes the
optimum shower duration,’
55%
says Stephanie Hurry from
Waterwise. She also suggests of adults admit to
keeping jugs of water in the
fridge to save running the tap being procrastinators,
to get a cold drink, steaming
or microwaving veg, and
with making a cup of tea the top
saving waste water for plants. distraction tactic, according
to a poll by Extra chewing gum.
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In the mood GOOD NEWS
3 of the best…
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Don’t Swipe Right
by LM Chilton (Head
of Zeus, £20). This
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The Benevolent Society
Of Ill-Mannered Ladies
by Alison Goodman
(Little, Brown, £9.99).
A rip-roaring
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The shape of your
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Mental Health say the findings could help to better page-turning
whodunnit.
understand the effects of dementia and stroke.
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of us have
made an online
purchase while
drunk that we
would not have
made sober, a
YouGov survey
has found.
Mucky pups
Lettting your child get dirty is
goood for their gut, with those
allowed to play outdoors in the
muc ck less likely to suffer bowel
problems in later life.
Analysis of 36 studies covering
6.4 million kids found that
those exposed to antibiotics
before the age of five, and those
with more than one household
toilet, were more prone to
inflammatory bowel diseases.
But having pets and siblings
reduced the risk, discovered
researchers from The University
of Newcastle in Australia.
Thefairersex?
Sexual double standards between the
genders are a perception not a reality,
psychologists say.
A survey of 900 heterosexual people
found it was a myth that males with
numerous sexual partners are admired
while their female counterparts are
condemned. And blokes were actually
judged more strictly when it came to
short-term encounters.
‘People are far more liberal themselves
than they assume society is,’ says
Professor Mons Bendixen of Norwegian
University of Science and Technology’s
department of psychology.
Four out
of five UK The buzz about soap
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clean in summer could be
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It’s a
story
of survival
and sisterhood
Spending time in a female prison has helped presenter
and activist Katie Piper put aside her preconceptions, and
acknowledge the trauma that leads women to commit crime
WORDS: SALLY SAUNDERS
K
atie Piper is counting her lucky stars who had inspired them, and they’d done this
today, and when someone who has project on me. They’d even named part of the
suffered as she has tells you they’re prison after me!
feeling fortunate, you can’t help but ‘They asked if I would come in and meet the
listen. The TV presenter, writer, activist and women, and I felt like I couldn’t really
model has spent the past few months jetting say no, they’d put so much time in. It wasn’t
back and forth to America, spending weeks at something that I would have volunteered myself
a time in female prisons, to explore how women for without prompting, but I hold my hands up
parent behind bars. now and say that my prejudgment was completely
And it is an experience that has made her very wrong: it wasn’t as black and white as I thought.’
grateful for her own upbringing. ‘We weren’t Piper says that working with the women, both
wealthy – we didn’t have a lot of money – but we in the UK and later in America, ‘opened her eyes’
had our parents’ time, and we had consistency and to the realities they have faced in their lives.
stability. I now realise we were really privileged. ‘Over 80 per cent of the population are locked
It was a really rich childhood,’ she says. up for drug-related crimes. And most drug-related
It’s the polar opposite of what she has been crimes are either because men have used them
witnessing, meeting women incarcerated in as mules, or because the women themselves were
the US who are desperately trying to raise their addicts. And, frequently, that addiction was
children within a prison environment. brought about by childhood trauma, or trauma
But it wasn’t an experience she had planned. in their adult years.
‘It isn’t necessarily a place I would have naturally ‘Some people will say, “Those women made a
been drawn to; it wasn’t something I put myself choice, why are you giving them airtime?” But you
up for. But I was contacted by a group at a women’s have to remember, male and female crime is very
prison in the UK. They were looking at women different. A very small percentage of the female
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m o ho as c e littl r ng ‘I i h i r nt
re v t he selv . e ki of ne r d f i nk of a
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‘T er r lo of r so eopl g ve t e p r f i t
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pa tici e i soci y. I se e le t ir t l . making
yi li at I rea yd e th . nd t i r r
dev lo ft pot rt it b s e t at this.’
‘T ey’ r our fu , lient h re
m lig e m men in t gra e, ike Katie Piper’s Jailhouse Mums airs on Wednesdays at 10pm
he t ho ed h cook h re’s s on W, catch up on UKTV Play; Katie Piper’s Breakfast Show
is on every Sunday morning on ITV1
om n l all cho in i ken it her
ails A t ey how hey t e t i
ou ac an chi ai i bit o ot on
om h i t ou ers. sa l a sto of
“I’m not
perfect.
Sometimes I’m
winning, other
times I drop
the ball”
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DON’T
SAVE YOUR
BEST FOR
LATER!
Tomorrow never comes, or so the saying goes, so isn’t it
time we all started to celebrate today, instead, with small
acts of self-care and life’s little luxuries, asks Yasmina Floyer
T
he other week, a friend commended see much point in holding back on the good things
my ‘courage’ for wearing nice summer in life. So, here I am, making a case for why we
dresses on the school run. I was a little should embrace more of the good things now, rather
confused; I wasn’t exactly dressed for the than waiting to enjoy them at some distant time in
Met Gala. She confided, she would never be brave the future that – let’s face it – may never come.
enough to wear pretty frocks to school – it was too I think the change in my perspective is mainly
mundane an event for bright colours, she told me. down to the pandemic. Weddings, holidays, and
I was dumbfounded. For one, I told her, they are other plans both big and small that we had been
just my clothes; two, it’s the summer, and who saving up for and looking forward to for months,
knows how many days of sunshine we’ll get; and even years, suddenly evaporated in the face of
three, who cares what you’re wearing anyway? multiple lockdowns. The drastic disruption to our
But, on reflection, I started lives had many of us re-evaluating
to understand. I completely things, and it got me to thinking:
get that feeling of something what is the point of denying
being ‘too nice’ or ‘too special’ ourselves joy when something
to have for every day – like out of our control may take the
birthday cake, or afternoon decision away from us?
tea. And I know that having I caught up with leading
something good to look
forward to can be a great
d psychologist Dr Alison McClymont
to discuss whether we should
motivator when we are trying give ourselves permission to
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M d JOY
rt
ce
Dr Alison McClymont
is a leading child
psychologist who
has been at the
forefront of children’s
mental health for
over a decade.
dralison
mcclymont.com
Antonia Harman
is a multi-award-
winning teacher
and the author of
Energy Secret
(Hachette, £16.99).
@antonia_harman
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How to change your
mindset so you use
your best right now!
Lookatwhatitisthat
stopsyouenjoyingthese
things.Isitshame?Isitasenseof
unworthiness?Workingthrough
theseideascanbeveryhelpful,but
–mostimportantly–dothe
oppositethingthanthenegative
schematellsyou…
Find sources of
joy in everyday
interactions. A recent study
showed that happiness is
actually increased by daily
pleasant encounters with others.
Take time to chat with the
barista, smile at the person
sitting next to you on the
train, or text a friend.
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Coaching in action
Down
to business
In their first session together, award-winning
coach Kim Morgan helps her client Shelley*
find purpose in an unexpected proposition
HANGED
ERSTOCK. *NAMES HAVE B
IMAGES: SHU
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Mind THE LIFE L AB
H
there, which is making me really unhappy.’
aving just settled down to an ‘admin I felt for Shelley. Her aunt’s gift had changed the
day’ in my office, I received an email direction of her life, and it didn’t appear to be the
enquiry via my website. It read: direction Shelley would have chosen.
‘Urgent. I have found myself I asked, ‘Where are you on the scale of “must do,
“accidentally” owning a business and managing should do, want to or love to” for this business?’
a small team of people. I have no experience of ‘Somewhere between must and should,’ she said.
either and I desperately need help. Would you be I checked if Shelley had considered other
able to coach me and my team? Shelley.’ options, for example, employing someone to run
I was intrigued and replied immediately to the business for her, or selling it and using the
ask if Shelley was free for a video call. It would money for her own new enterprise.
be a welcome distraction from office admin! ‘Yes, but I don’t want to do that. I should give it
Within 30 minutes, we were on a ‘discovery’ my best shot first,’ said Shelley.
call. Discovery calls are complimentary calls for ‘What is the driving force behind that decision?
prospective clients and coaches to get to know What’s in it for you?’ I asked.
one another, and to find out together whether the ‘I’ve been drifting without direction. Perhaps
coach is the right person to support the client Auntie thought this would give me a purpose. I do
with their current situation or challenge. believe everything happens for a reason, which is
I asked Shelley how she had ‘accidentally’ why I need help. And, yes, by the way, I would like
found herself owning a business. you to coach me and my team! You’ve asked me
‘My aunt died recently. She was single and had questions nobody else has dared to ask.’
no children, so she left her business to me. It’s an I knew I had challenged Shelley enough at this
online gift-box business.’ Shelley point and I needed to give her something positive.
pulled a face. ‘Let’s think about your team and what you can
I didn’t respond because do before our next session, when I meet you all
I wanted to offer Shelley my together. Imagine you were one of the team; you’ve
condolences for her loss before just lost your boss and her niece comes in as the
anything else. new owner. How might you be feeling?’
Shelley thanked me. Shelley looked taken aback. ‘I’d be feeling worried
‘I’m sad about Auntie, but that the new owner would change things and I’d lose
my job. I’d never thought of it from their perspective.’
Before our call ended, I gave Shelley a coaching
exercise she could do with the whole team, which
would ensure everyone was acknowledged for
the contributions they had made. Shelley was
enthusiastic about going back to the team with a
feelgood, energising exercise to mark a new start.
She would let her team know that I would
be working with them as a team coach for the
next few months and that, before we all met in
person, I would arrange one-to-one calls with
each member to get to know them and to let them
get to know me.
I asked Shelley what had shifted for her in this
session. ‘That’s easy,’ she said, ‘I’ve moved from
“should” to “want to”!’
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M d MANIFESTATION
S
cript work is a manifestation technique with the words on the page. Picture the scene
that uses stories to create reality as as you read it, engage your emotions, then your
you’d like it to be. Scripting gives you script will be even more powerful and likely to
the power to create anything you want filter into your subconscious mind, which is the
by switching up the narrative, and the key is to ultimate goal. The script helps to reframe your
bring it into the present. This means that when mindset, and establish beliefs and qualities that
you write your script, you write as if it’s happening will help you achieve your goal. All you have to do
now, rather than in the future. is dream it, read it, and believe it.
Scripts don’t have to be epic – they can be short You can create scripts for anything. They can be
paragraphs or tales, as long as they embody what geared to a specific aim – for example, the holiday
you’d like to happen and bring it to life with words. of a lifetime – or they can be more general, and
You are the only person that needs to read what can encompass a theme, such as generating
you have written, but you need to really connect positive energy, or feeling more powerful.
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Positive energy script
At the beginning and end of every day, try this script-writing
exercise to increase your positivity and help you find joy
throughout the week. Just grab a pen and some paper
and follow the steps below…
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Mind DISCOVERY
When you make the journey the destination, you can end
up exactly where you need to be, writes Greta Solomon
W
hen I was little, as Sunday the magazine could expense it. By going nowhere,
evening began to draw in and I’d ended up somewhere. A decade later, I was a
me and my siblings grew restless, magazine journalist working in London every day.
someone would invariably
suggest going for a drive. We’d all pile into the Seeing with fresh eyes
car; Mum, Dad, and the four of us, and just drive There’s solid science behind why we experience
around. We wouldn’t actually go anywhere; there a shift in mindset from taking journeys. ‘Being
were no pit stops, and no destination (other than on the move gives us access to fractal patterns,’
returning right back to where we started). Yet, explains chartered psychologist and author
we loved it. We’d emerge refreshed from what Suzy Reading. ‘These are patterns that occur
we’d seen on the way – and never more so than on a progressively finer scale. They’re prevalent
when we left the suburbs and ventured into central in natural landscapes, such as those seen in
London, a world in itself for someone always on mountains, coastlines, fields, and even the moving
the outskirts. There, we’d find skyscrapers, and cloudscape. Fractal patterns bring the mind into
black cabs, and hop-on-and-off buses with ticket a relaxed but alert state – perfect for creativity.’
collectors. I knew there was potential and This relaxed but alert state is also known as the
possibility for something more. alpha brainwave state, and is the sweet spot for
When I was 11, and tired of taming my afro getting in the flow. In our day-to-day lives, where
hair into Medusa-style plaits, I wrote to the now we’re putting out fires, dealing with deadlines
defunct Hi! magazine to ask for a makeover. and the politics of life, we operate in a beta brain
I got a yes, and an invitation to a central London state. We’re alert and focused, but can often feel
photographic studio. And, finally, I got to travel in frazzled. By contrast, studies have shown that the
one of those cabs – excitedly saving the receipt so alpha zone can trigger a surge in creativity.
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“Surrender to the fact
that you’ll be guided to
receive whatever you need
at that moment. That’s
where the magic happens”
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Mind DISCOVERY
Achieving awe
While journeys are powerful for instigating
creativity and thinking through problems, they
can also help us tap into awe. ‘This is a state of
wonder and an awareness of our connection with
all living things,’ says Reading. ‘It’s characterised
by a sense of deep joy, inspiration, and feeling GOING
vibrant and alive. Even a 15-second BY CAR?
experience of this mood state can be All you need is a smartphone,
enlivening, clarifying, and galvanising.’ and easy access to the voice-
‘Don’t go out with any specific recording button. You might feel
expectations about what will happen,’ self-conscious at first, but
advises Smith. ‘Just be with yourself without practice just speaking whatever
listening to music or audiobooks. Ask thoughts come to you. There
yourself: What am I being called to do? What is gold to be found when
are the next steps I need to take? What is it we listen and speak.
I need to know right now? Surrender to the fact
that you’ll be guided to receive whatever you need
at that moment. That’s where the magic happens.’
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Mind WRITE TO FLOURISH
Heaven
scent
Breathe in and savour the smells all around
you, and commit them to the page – you may
gain a new perspective, says Jackee Holder
deeper remembering that is primal and visceral. Smell ● Describe one physical or emotional reaction you have
is much more of an embodied writing practice. to a smell or aroma you come into daily contact with.
Smells and aromas that evoke positive memories are Scent may be silent but it packs a punch on the page.
personal and unique. What smells good to me may not It can be a good way of gaining a new perspective on
to you. According to Tim Jacob, a biosciences professor at recent or past experiences. I urge you to give it a try.
Cardiff University, specialising in smell, we all have a set of jackeeholder.com; @jackeeholderinspires
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A break from the routine can prove wonderfully beneficial for your
wellbeing. Caroline Butterwick learns how to side-step the stress of
travel anxiety, and gets set to make some magical new memories…
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Expert
advice
Dr Noreen Nguru is a
multi-award-winning
doctor, life coach,
wellness travel
consultant, and the
founder of What The
Doctor Recommends.
whatthedoctor
recommends.com
Chloe Gosiewski
is a qualified coach
and an experienced
world traveller,
including solo
backpacking,
group holidays, and
remote working in
various countries.
lifecoach-directory.
org.uk/lifecoaches/
chloe-gosiewski
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As much as I love it, travel can be time, and hear something for the
stressful. Being 36,000 feet in the first time, something shifts within
air is part of it, of course, but each your awareness and perception of your
stage of planning this holiday has own life. It’s changing up your current
also made me nervous. understanding of the way you live your
Whether you’re jetting off for a trip life – it’s almost like a factory reset.’
of a lifetime, enjoying a European It can be empowering, too: you
city break, or making the most of what realise you’re able to navigate the
we have here in the UK, for many of us, trains in a different country, or that
holidays are something we love. And you have the strength to do a hike.
after the disruption of the pandemic, And if your perfect holiday is lounging
making the most of our precious time by the pool for a week, instead,
away seems all the more important. chances are you find this calming and
Most of us know firsthand how a welcome chance to focus on yourself.
much joy holidays can bring. And Likewise, if you’re travelling with
there’s science to back up why travel others, you can find your bonds grow,
is good for our health and wellbeing. and you create new memories together
Travel often means trying new things, that you will share afterwards.
from learning phrases in another ‘There can be more spontaneity and
language to experiencing a new place adventure,’ explains psychotherapist
or trying different foods. and coach Karin Peeters. ‘There are
‘All of this increases neuroplasticity, parts of our personality that come out
which is the brain’s ability to form in us and the people we’re with.’
new synaptic connections,’ explains She tells me how travel can often lead
Dr Noreen Nguru, a wellness travel to meaningful conversations, like the
consultant. ‘And when you’re in these way you can talk more easily as you
situations in which you push yourself walk together along the beachfront,
out of your comfort zone, you’re or sit admiring the sunset as you sip
increasing confidence in your own sangria. This rings true for me – a
problem-solving skills, and enhancing recent hiking holiday in the Lake
your general feeling of personal District led to me and my husband
accomplishment.’ talking with a depth that isn’t as easy
It also gives us a welcome break to reach when you are catching up
from our daily routine. ‘Getting about your days in the evening at home.
outside of your current environment You’re making quality time for those
helps you to understand yourself and you’re with, and making memories that
the world around you a lot better,’ says can help bring you closer.
Chloe Gosiewski, a coach with the So, the jury’s in: travel is good for us.
Life Coach Directory. ‘When you go on But what can we do to deal with any
holiday, and you see something for the anxiety we feel, and really make the
first time, smell something for the first most of our holidays?
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Build your
excitement
Preparing for your holiday isn’t all just checking your
passport is in date and printing off booking information –
there are things you can do to make it even more enjoyable
‘I
t’s about making every day gaining these details, research like this
on the build up to the holiday can also help you feel more prepared.
special as well,’ says Chloe ‘When you have time to prepare for
Gosiewski. ‘You’re not just something and get familiar with it, it
waiting for something – you’re actually takes away the anxiety,’ says Gosiewski.
starting to build up the momentum for ‘The more you start seeing it, the more
the holiday. It’s healthy, as any positive your subconscious is familiar with it.
emotion that you can have is good for I’ve watched so many travel vlogs, and
your mental health and wellbeing. they really do help, because you start
So why not take advantage of that build to visualise. Someone will be walking
up and start getting those high-energy down a particular road, and when you
emotions – those positive feelings – get there, it’s recognisable to you.’
before you even go? You often find that Of course, some people prefer to come
people who book last-minute tend along and be totally surprised. It’s about
to have a lot more stress than those figuring out what works for you. But if
who have done more research, because you tend to get anxious about travel,
they’re already in that positive space. this research can really help ease those
They’re excited, they’ve started early, nerves – and you’ll still get to appreciate
they feel more confident.’ new experiences while you’re there.
For me, watching vlogs on YouTube Websites such as TripAdvisor and
helps build my anticipation for a holiday. other review sites are great for finding
I’m a big fan of videos where someone out what to do – or flick through travel
takes you on a tour of a place and gives magazines or guidebooks. I always
a first-person account of what they spend some time exploring the area
love about it, and their tips for the best on Google Street View beforehand, to
things to do. As well as being helpful for get a sense of what it’s like.
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7 ways to deal
with travel anxiety
Whether it’s feeling stressed in the weeks running up to going away,
airport anxiety, or dealing with hitches while you’re on holiday, travel
can bring emotional challenges. So what can help ease the strain?
Travelling with
others can be great, but it
can bring added stress. Often
Anticipatory anxiety is the one person takes the lead, and if
fear of becoming anxious – even this person is you, it can be
before we’ve packed our suitcase, frustrating having to deal with so
we’re worried that we’ll be stressed on the much. Chloe Gosiewski says to
flight or that something will go wrong. ‘Let delegate if it’s getting too much
go of the perfect holiday image,’ advises – it isn’t all on you to make
Peeters. Chances are, there will be little things this a great holiday.
that don’t work out how you want. Taking joy
from the simple things can help ease this too,
from the comfort of a cup of coffee in the
departures lounge to the warmth that
hits you as you step off the plane.
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If you’re
overwhelmed by the
amount you have to do
pre-holiday, from buying
sunscreen to checking in online,
Gosiewski says: ‘Start with one
small thing.’ It’s simple advice,
but can make a big difference, rather than
falling further into procrastination because
it feels like there’s so much to do. She
recommends writing a list and going
through one thing at a time, and putting a
folder together of everything you need,
so you aren’t panicking trying to
If you know your
find your hotel booking
travelling companions often
before you go.
find trips stressful, Peeters
suggests checking in with them to
make sure they are okay. Don’t
assume what they need, and instead
ask what will help. ‘Some people
might want help, and others might
want to be left alone for a little
bit,’ she says.
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How to be present
and mindful
on holiday
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“It’s important to allow room out having a good time. I was a bit
unsure about venturing out, but in the
end it was one of the highlights of my
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cientists have found that the into your daily life. What did you value Think back to the intentions you set
feelgood feelings from your about your holiday that you can keep before your holiday. What did the
holiday start to dissipate going? Did you love how it brought your holiday give you? What have you
around four to five weeks family together to eat meals around the discovered about yourself? What would
after returning home,’ says Dr Nguru. table? Or that you made time each you like to take forward? You may find
‘In my coaching, I try to support evening to read a chapter of a book? that you’re surprised when you realise
individuals in maintaining the positive Gosiewski tells me how there’s a taco how confident you managed to be, and
effects when they return home. A lot of recipe she picked up in Mexico that she this can be an empowering feeling that
this surrounds embracing work-life loves cooking at home now, and feels you can carry forward.
balance and carrying forwards the like she’s brought something tangible You can also reflect on what you’d like
self-care practices from your holiday.’ back with her. For me, it’s realising how your next holiday to bring. Do you want
This can be finding time each day or I’m always the first one into the pool on to experience more of a certain country?
each week to look after yourself, from holiday, but only seem to make time for Would you like to try a new activity, or
meditation to going for a walk. ‘You’re swimming when I’m away. So I sign would you relish some more relaxation?
being intentional, having pockets of myself up to my local leisure centre. Travel can be wonderful and restorative
time regularly, rather than saving all ‘Coming back from a trip away is the – it can help us see ourselves and the
your energy up for a trip,’ Dr Nguru says. perfect time for you to put in a new world in brilliant new ways. Reflect on
You can also, Dr Nguru says, try to habit, because you’ve already broken the what you loved about this holiday – and
incorporate elements of the holiday cycle of day-to-day life,’ says Gosiewski. then start planning your next escape!
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WHAT’S YOUR
MOST-NEEDED
HOLIDAY BENEFIT?
Take our test to find out what you should prioritise
to make the most of your time away
Tick the answers that most closely apply to you, then add up the symbols. Read the section,
or sections, you ticked most, to find out your personal most-needed holiday benefit this year
1 A good break for you means ■ Your current list of worries ............ ■ 8 You prefer holidays with people
◆ Showing yourself some TLC.......... ■ ♥ Finding time to see everyone who offer you
● Making the most of every before you go................................... ■ ■ Validation ........................................ ■
opportunity ..................................... ■ ◆ Feeling exhausted and stressed ... ■ ● Inspiration ....................................... ■
■ Feeling like you can let go .............. ■ ◆ Motivation ....................................... ■
♥ Quality time with loved ones.......... ■ 5 Your most common holiday ♥ Connection ...................................... ■
worry is
2 Your fantasy weekend away ♥ Is everyone having a good time? ... ■ 9 Having more breaks would allow
would be ◆ Will I be ill when I get there?........... ■ you to
■ A guided tour somewhere quirky... ■ ● Did I make the right choice? .......... ■ ♥ Do more of the things you enjoy.... ■
♥ A special trip with a loved one ....... ■ ■ Should I really be going away? ...... ■ ● Explore new possibilities ............... ■
◆ A luxury health retreat ................... ■ ◆ Take better care of yourself........... ■
● An inspiring self-development 6 You’d revisit somewhere if you ■ Allow yourself to enjoy life ............. ■
course.............................................. ■ ■ Had fun there .................................. ■
♥ Found meaningful connections 10 When you get back, you’d like
3 Post-holiday, you usually try to there ................................................. ■ to feel more
■ Make more time for fun or ◆ Felt relaxed there............................ ■ ◆ Centred............................................ ■
creativity ......................................... ■ ● Found it inspiring ............................ ■ ● Content............................................ ■
♥ Keep up connections with people...■ ■ Carefree........................................... ■
◆ Look after yourself better.............. ■ 7 On a group holiday, you’re the ♥ Cared for.......................................... ■
● Hold onto new perspectives.......... ■ one who
■ Plans for all contingencies............. ■
4 Before you go away, you often ● Wants to try everything ................. ■ Turn the page to find
feel overwhelmed by ◆ Needs time to yourself................... ■ out what you need
● Everything you want to fit in .......... ■ ♥ Makes sure everyone is included ... ■ most from a break
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How can you
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IF YOU SCORED MAINLY ♥ IF YOU SCORED MAINLY ◆
Reconnecting Recharging
If time away for you is an opportunity to focus on It’s often not until you stop that you realise just
people and connections, whether old or new, you how tired you are, especially if you have a tendency
may find it hard to decide who to go away with, and to buzz through busy days on adrenaline. If your
you can find it frustrating if others don’t share best intentions to get back to a better work-life
your enthusiasm for including as many people as balance or make healthier habits part of your daily
possible in your plans. But when relationships are routine never quite materialise, then holidays can
the heart of your life, it makes sense to prioritise be a lifeline for recharging and resetting. You know
your holiday as time to properly reconnect with it’s not ideal to arrive on holiday feeling stressed
people you love, spend time with people you don’t and exhausted, but it may be the one time of the
see very often, or meet new people. The downside year when you give yourself permission to really
is that your plans can get complicated by trying to prioritise your physical and mental wellbeing.
include everyone, and making sure everyone else There’s nothing wrong with relying on a break
is happy may mean you lose sight of what you to give you a boost, both mentally and physically,
want or need from your break. And if you take and you often go home with renewed energy
time to pause and think about what you really and resilience to face challenges. But if you need
want this year, you may be surprised to find holidays to recover from your daily life, and that
that what you’re craving is a break from being dictates your choice of holiday, something needs
everyone’s unofficial social secretary. to change – even the most relaxing holiday won’t
Perhaps it’s time to widen your horizons and make up for a year of self-neglect. If, deep down,
meet new people who can see you afresh rather you know you need more than just a temporary
than in roles that have become expected of you. recharge from your holiday this year, think of it as
It may be time to consider taking a break from a reset, and the start of a priority shift to focus on
giving to others, and to spend some time doing taking care of your physical and mental wellbeing
something you love. After all, the quality of all your that you’ll commit to continuing when you get back
relationships is directly linked to the relationship to normal life.
you have with yourself.
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Refocusing Releasing
If you’re energised by personal development and Holidays are a time to step out of our usual roles
lifelong learning, your natural instinct may be to and responsibilities for a short time, and to let go.
use at least part of your break to think about your For you, holidays are a chance to have fun, feel
next focus. And if you’re with like-minded people, relaxed, laugh, talk and rediscover the playful
it makes sense to make the most of the side of you that can often get lost in the daily
opportunity to think through ideas, explore treadmill of a busy life.
possibilities, and be inspired by other people. But If what you do and where you go is far less
sometimes what gets lost is an appreciation of important to you than how you feel during your
what you already have, and which of your previous time away, then take some time to think about
goals have made a lasting difference to how you where you’ll really feel at ease and relaxed without
feel today. You may think of your holiday as a reset, feeling bored, and stimulated without feeling
but sometimes a true reset only happens when you stressed. For some, that might mean thinking
give your mind a break from planning, and just about an organised break that allows you to explore
experience what is unfolding around you. your creative side, try a new hobby or to just let
It’s worth thinking about how you can get the go of being responsible for a while.
balance right, as feeling under-stimulated can feel Although ‘doing nothing’ might feel like the best
frustrating and, more than anything, you hate to way to relax, it can be a tricky transition from a busy
feel you are wasting precious time. You don’t have life, and you might find it easier to let go of your to-do
to do nothing to get a new perspective on life, but list or worries with some kind of structured activity
it helps to do something different, so if you usually or focus, at least for the first few days. If you know
take responsibility for planning an itinerary to you’re increasingly relying on holidays to act as a
maximise every moment, could you take a step pressure valve or a chance to ‘enjoy life’, it’s also
back and let someone else take charge this year? worth thinking about what changes you need to
Free up some headspace, and chances are you’ll make when you get home to make ‘feeling
arrive home with the clarity you need to decide differently’ last longer this year.
your next focus.
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Coming up for air
Love stories
Having rediscovered her sense of self through a period of
solitude, Caro Giles wonders if the time has come to
reopen the door to romantic opportunity
I’m well into my outside cafes, and hold hands in the When I wrote my memoir, Twelve
sixth year of being supermarket – constant summery Moons, my intention was not only to
single now, and reminders of how single I am. share the story of a hidden life, but
depending on It’s hard to know if I’m single by also to connect with others. And I’d be
who I speak to or choice, or if I’m subconsciously holding lying if I didn’t occasionally dream of
what I read, that love at a distance. I know I’ll find it hard speaking about my work in a bookshop
makes me feel to trust again and to allow someone into and glancing up into the kind eyes of a
either shrivelled and lonely, or proudly my precariously balanced life. I tell handsome stranger. It hasn’t happened
independent. I usually tend towards myself that I have no time to navigate yet because, apparently, I don’t live inside
the latter, but being alone in my 40s the world of online dating, that I have a romance novel. But I remain hopeful.
certainly presents challenges. almost no childcare, and that I live miles This week, I had to turn down an
The sun is beating hard, coaxing all from the nearest city. All of this is true invitation to a glamorous publishing
the lovers out of the shadows and into but, despite that, I know that I am gently event in London. When it came to
the light for everyone to see. Couples trying to create opportunities in my childcare, trains, the rushing back to
drift along the beach, share coffees world to meet new people. pick up a daughter after school, it just
“I wonder if now I am
discovering who
I really am, I should
try that identity out
on other people”
didn’t come together. If it takes a Yestterday, I strolled wiith two of my song about liife beiing uncertain,
village to raise a child, it takes a city daughters up a lane that runs adjacent but feeling at home with the person
to enable me to get away for the night. to the beach. We have walked there you love. I resist the temptation to
Perhaps that invitation will prove to be many times, past the farm, alongside daydream, to tempt fate by imagining
a sliding doors moment, and the man fields scattered with meadow pipits and what might be, and let the melody and
I should have met will glance over at skylarks, with the North Sea stretching the swoosh of the waves lull me. It
a doorway I will never walk through. past us like a ribbon. There has been a almost feels enough to be here on this
That’s the thing about life – we can lot of talk lately about how silent our beach with my children and my own
never know what it will throw at us. I world is becoming, and the decline in thoughts, safe from the possibility of
was saying to one of my oldest friends insects and birds, and it worries me – losing myself in, and to, someone else.
at the weekend that I try not to imagine but here the air is always filled with But I also believe that it is important
amazing things happening in the future, sound. A swift drops out of the sky and to take risks, because playing it safe is
because that might prevent them from swoops so close to me that I imagine rarely enough for me. I wonder if now
taking place. This friend is a realist, not I hear its wings, as quiet as breath. I am discovering who I really am, I
a dreamer like me, and she scoffed and We arrive at the beach, and the girls should be brave and try that identity
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asked how I could even believe that shed shoes and run towards the rocks out on other people. I haven’t met anyone
was a thing, that my thoughts could to explore. The air is close and cloudy new for 25 years, and the world of dating
influence the future. I do believe it but mild, and the sand is warm to lie terrifies me, but I am more terrified of
though – however many times I go over on. I play a tune on my phone, close not being brave. Being alone has been
a possible scenario in my head, it never my eyes, and lay my head down on my important for me, but maybe there’s
actually turns out the way I imagined. daughter’s clothes. The singer weaves a fun to be had with someone else, too.
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“Embracing forgiveness
could offer a way out, and
a path to physical and
emotional wellbeing”
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the victim of crime or bullying. Anyone who has of nature and scream until you can’t scream
been there knows that when your inner world is any more.’
badly disrupted, it’s difficult to concentrate on The second part is consciously making the
anything other than your turmoil or pain. decision to forgive. ‘Once you truly understand
You may even fantasise about getting even, but what forgiveness is (and is not) you need to
that only prepares the ground for a new set of make a cognitive decision to forgive. It is only
resentments, and so the wheel of anger and pain a beginning, but it is an important beginning
just keeps on spinning. Embracing forgiveness because now you are motivated to start the
could offer a way out and a path to physical and forgiveness journey,’ says Dr Enright.
emotional wellbeing. By letting go of negative Thirdly, cultivate forgiveness by working
emotions, you can reduce your risk of high blood towards understanding and compassion. Reflect
pressure, heart disease, and even strengthen on whether the act was due to malicious intent
your immune system and enable healthier or circumstances in the offender’s life, and
sleep patterns. try to see it from their point of view.
But, still, the thought of forgiving someone ‘Practising empathy, or “walking in someone
who has harmed us can be frightening, and else’s shoes”, is the best way of improving
there is no doubt that forgiveness is hard. It your capacity for forgiveness. Becoming more
requires effort and can take time. A good place attuned to other people’s frames of reference,
to start is by acknowledging that ignoring or perspectives, and motivations makes it easier to
coping with the injustice as you have been hasn’t understand their actions,’ says Brooks.
worked for you so far. Recognise that your distress The final stage, and the point at which you’re
is coming from the pain you are suffering in the finally ready to forgive, allows you to release
here and now, not what offended you years ago, all the harmful, pent-up emotions you’ve been
and accept that the act of forgiveness might harbouring and create space for positive emotions
provide a way forward. such as love, joy, and gratitude. ‘You can also
In Dr Enright’s seminal work ‘Process Model expect lower anxiety, lower anger, lower
of Forgiveness’, he breaks the journey down into depression, a greater sense of self-esteem and
four phases: The Uncovering Phase, The Decision hopefulness, and healthier relationships, because
Phase, The Work Phase and The Deepening you are not bringing those wounds into your
Phase. Because while forgiveness can begin as a relationships with others,’ says Dr Enright.
process of letting go or moving on, there’s more to And, remember, deciding whether to forgive
it than that, says Dr Enright. ‘True forgiveness can be a complex process; you should never feel
goes a step further, offering something positive: rushed, and you do not have to forgive everything.
empathy, compassion, and understanding ‘Forgiveness can and should be on your terms,’
towards the person who hurt you.’ says Brooks, ‘and if you can forgive someone even
The first step is to uncover your anger by a little bit for something, it is better than nothing.
exploring your feelings and the reasons behind If you are struggling, try to take small steps each
your suffering. ‘The Uncovering Phase gives day; ask yourself, “What can I do to take some
you time to reflect on the effects of the injustice. action today towards forgiveness?” And just do
Don’t dwell on the injustice itself at this stage, that one thing.’ It will take you one step further
but instead focus solely on the effects,’ says along the path to a happier future.
Dr Enright.
Try asking yourself questions such as ‘Have
you avoided dealing with anger?’, ‘Has your anger
affected your health?’, ‘Have you been obsessing NEXT STEPS
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forgiveness
pillows,’ she suggests, ‘or go out into the middle
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Picture this
Streets ahead
The stage is set for interest and intrigue in the urban
environments that surround you, says Anita Chaudhuri
S
treet I would wander the streets, aimlessly mentality of many male artists in the
photography hoping to stumble upon a picture- field, Jardin’s sole purpose is bringing
has always perfect scene. Inwardly, I was cringing. out the best in her subjects. ‘I would
been my What if someone caught me in never want to humiliate anyone by
favourite genre. You the act of sneaking a photo? Also, taking and sharing a photo of them
know, those gorgeous, atmospheric photographing in public is so, well, looking bad,’ she says. Although she
shots one sees on Instagram of an public. I didn’t enjoy feeling so doesn’t always ask her subject’s
intriguing woman hailing a yellow taxi conspicuous. My breakthrough came permission before taking their photo,
in New York, or a besuited gent standing when I went on a photography she’ll sometimes show them an image
outside a shiny office building, sulking workshop with French street after she’s taken it. ‘I might say,
and probably smoking. But plucking up photographer Valérie Jardin. I was “I hope you don’t mind, but your hair
the courage to go out there and start inspired to sign up because her images looked so lovely in that shaft of light. Get
snapping perfect strangers can feel are stunning, and also because she in touch with me and I’ll email a copy.”’
stressful and daunting at first. believes street photography offers a It’s an approach that feels much
Once you get used to being out great opportunity to seek out positivity more doable to me. To start with, she
of your camera comfort zone, however, and beauty wherever you go. suggests positioning yourself at a cafe
it can be a fantastic tool for confidence- Jardin is still something of a table with your camera in full sight.
building and connection. The trick is rarity: a female professional street A map or guidebook can come in handy,
in the way you approach it. For years, photographer. Unlike the ‘gotcha’ even if you’re in your home town,
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1
overlooking an interesting background. Set yourself a mini-project and a time limit. For example,
Then, you can bide your time and see today I’m only going to photograph people with dogs.
who walks onto this impromptu ‘stage’. Other ideas might be only photographing people wearing
Set a time limit of, say, an hour, and hats, or primary colours. There’s a child-like spirit of play to
aim to do nothing but people watch, such whimsical assignments, which invariably spark joy.
2
only photographing subjects that make There are two types of street photography: hunting and
you smile or intrigue you in some way. fishing. The latter is where you take up a fixed position.
Pay particular attention to gesture, Hunting is where you spot someone interesting and follow
style of dress, and the way they walk. them until they reach a photogenic spot. This only starts being
I like to play a guessing game: what kind creepy if you’re furtive about it. Be transparent and, if they
of mood is this person in? What does notice you, smile and interact with them. You’re not doing
their expression reveal? The longer anything wrong. Try both to discover which you like best.
3
I spend watching other people, the less Find a friendly-looking person and ask to take their photo.
lonely and more connected I feel. Tell them you’re doing an assignment for Psychologies if
It’s also worth noting that you don’t you need to! Most people are delighted to be asked, but if
need to include people at all in your they say no, move on to someone else. The point about this is to
pictures; street photography can be boost confidence and also feel that you’ve both benefited from
anything that attracts your attention. the encounter. (I’d avoid doing this abroad, because it could
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is one of nature’s richest liquid has been added and the contraceptives and e ain antibiotics
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promotes digestive health’ between your bowls and stay out of the sun
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Meditation SUMMER’S MORNING
MINDFULNESS
Mornings are a magical time in summer;
each one a feast for the senses, providing
the perfect daily mindfulness ritual to
embrace, for a less stressful season. Try
this every day for three to five minutes…
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4 Once you have gone through each one of your senses,
sit and soak it all in for a moment longer. Maybe express
OF PLEASURE, MEANINGFULNESS, AND TRAIT AESTHETIC RESPONSIVENESS IN COMPUTER-BASED ART INTERVENTIONS’, 2023
a silent note of gratitude for anything that you particularly
It’s well known that looking at artwork can enjoyed, before moving on with the rest of your day.
improve mood and wellbeing, but you don’t
necessarily need to head out to your nearest “Rest is not idleness, and to lie
gallery or museum to gain the benefits on sometimes on the grass under the trees
on a summer’s day, listening to the
offer. A recent study has found that viewing murmur of water, or watching the
art online can also improve our wellbeing*, clouds float across the
and is an untapped ‘source of support’ for sky, is by no means a
those of us who may not be able to view art in waste of time”
JOHN LUBBOCK
person, through consuming ‘bite-sized bits
of meaning-making and pleasure,’ says first
author of the study MacKenzie Trupp. The Mat finish
research found that viewing art online for Long warm evenings open up
just a few minutes had the power to improve novel opportunities to reap the
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B ch
MAKE THE
CONNECTION
Hollywood child actress Rachel Hurd-Wood
swapped the red carpet for a yoga mat in her
new life as a Pilates teacher and mu wo
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Into the
Ellen Bird investigates the link between scuba
diving and mindfulness, and explores why so many
turn to this pastime for a little peace and quiet
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I “The adrenaline
magine having a 30lb steel tank strapped to
your back, a skin-tight wetsuit clinging
rush is
to your body, and only being able to breathe
through a pressurised tube. You plunge
yourself into indigo water and start to sink, the
weight around your waist pulling you beneath
the surface and into the abyss. It’s not an obvious
accompanied by
a peacefulness
place to seek inner peace, and scuba diving
certainly isn’t for everyone; it’s a sport that should
only be undertaken after the right training, in safe
conditions, and with a qualified instructor. But
once you’re comfortable, it can yield huge and
surprising benefits for the mind as well as the body.
Personally, I’ve never felt more at one with the
I never expected”
world than I do when I’m diving. It’s a safe space on the diver feeling relaxed and calm enough to
for me, a happy place, where worries and stresses regulate their breath. Fortunately, after that first
are left behind. I started diving four years ago dive in the Azores, I was in my element. Floating
and have racked up over 80 dives in that time. among stingrays, barracudas and groupers,
It’s addictive, but not in the way people think: I flew under stone arches, formed by thousands
I do get an adrenaline rush, but it’s accompanied of years of volcanic activity. Streams of bubbles
by a peacefulness I never expected. Diving makes escaped from gaps in the rock, each one heading
me feel like myself, able to appreciate the world in single file to the surface. It was magical.
around me and where I fit within it. Feeling in control whilst scuba diving often
As a confident diver, I often travel specifically only comes with a lot of practice. Diving can be
to dive – my last trip was to the Azores. I hadn’t dangerous, but the secret to a calm dive is closely
been diving for eight months, so I was a bit out of aligned with well-known mindfulness techniques.
practice. Even so, I was bursting with excitement as So how can something so adrenaline inducing go
I strapped on my inflatable jacket used to regulate hand in hand with finding peace of mind?
buoyancy – known as a BCD – and flung myself off Dr Laura Walton is a scuba diving instructor,
the boat backwards, flippers flailing in the air. clinical psychologist, and founder of Fit To Dive,
But as I let the air out of my BCD and tried a micro-organisation helping divers towards
to descend, I couldn’t sink. My breath began to physical, mental and emotional wellbeing when
quicken as I stuck my face in the water, only to diving. She says many divers report that diving
see my diving companions falling into the blue helps their mental health. Indeed, there are
beneath. My buddy, a qualified instructor, waited multiple ways it can lead to psychological benefits,
patiently with me at the surface. But I panicked, including engaging in challenging activities,
my lungs filled with air, and my chances of sinking joining a community, and focusing attention.
and completing a dive began to diminish. When speaking about whether diving helps her
After a couple of minutes of careful breathing, feel calm, Dr Walton says that while she does feel
each time elongating my exhale a little bit longer at peace when diving, the reasons behind it are as
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and looking at my buddy for reassurance, I could yet unproven. Is it simply being able to leave the
feel the water begin to slowly engulf me. Before surface world behind and to disconnect from the
I knew it, I looked up to see the ripples of the over-stimulation we often feel? Or the impact of
surface and the hull of the boat. hyperbaric pressure on the body? Whatever the
It’s the perfect illustration of why breathing is true reason, there are many possibilities as to
so important to diving: a successful trip is reliant why people feel their mind quietens when diving.
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For me, concentrating on my gear, being
aware of my surroundings, enjoying intentional
movement, and accepting the unknown all help
with a calm and collected dive. This obviously
isn’t without exceptions – it also depends on
my anxiety levels that day. But, above all, when
I focus on mindful breathing, grounding myself
in the present, diving encourages me to relax.
The underwater world is unlike anything you
can imagine on land: coral reefs plummet into the
deep, shoals of fish move as one, the shadows of
larger creatures play in the distance. You can look
closely at rocks and find tiny creatures hiding from
sight. It’s a surreal experience that allows you to be
present. Fully immersed in nature, floating without
the boundaries of gravity, there are endless
opportunities to focus on your surroundings.
Diving has given me a deeper appreciation of the
natural world and why we must protect it.
Sounds underwater are muted compared
to on land. You’re forced to move through your that acceptance is one of the most important
dive in silence, only occasionally communicating aspects of maintaining mindfulness underwater.
through hand signals. This gives you the space to It’s key to regulating stress. Acceptance of
listen to the bubbles coming from your regulator uncomfortable emotions and sensations, acceptance
or the muffled sounds of sea life getting on with of our limitations and mistakes, acceptance that
its daily business. Focusing in on the sounds of ocean conditions are out of our control.
nature is like attending a sound meditation class, One of Walton’s suggestions for divers who are
or putting on a ‘Sounds of the deep’ YouTube video seeking a calm dive is to let go of preconceived
– except you’re actually there, experiencing it all. ideas of how your dive should go. You should focus
Of course, our problems can follow us anywhere, on accessing a safe physiological environment,
even under the sea. But diving as a recreational with the help of instructors who can support your
activity allows you to ease into a different pace needs and make you feel comfortable enough to
of life, where you can slowly float around marine learn from your mistakes. The gradual stretching
landscapes, taking in everything around you of your comfort zone is essential for easing
and existing in the present. Walton believes yourself into the sport.
For me, nothing will ever beat descending into
the colourful world of a coral reef ecosystem and
existing, even if just for an hour, with the fish and
the crabs and the moray eels. Diving has opened
up a new physical world for me, but also taught me
the foundations of mindfulness, a practice that
I could never really figure out on land.
Leave no trace
1 2
Scuba diving can be catastrophic Dive with sustainable Don’t touch corals
operators Coral reefs are on the brink
for the environment if not If your dive operator is of extinction. When a group of
done responsibly, with divers responsible and respects the ocean, divers explore one, many of them will
littering, aggravating marine then your dive is likely to be kick coral by accident or break pieces
sustainable too. Responsible off as they try to control their buoyancy.
life, and baiting fish for tourism. instructors won’t disturb wildlife, Never, ever touch coral. And work on
Make sure you dive consciously, encourage damaging behaviour, your buoyancy to make sure you’re
leaving no trace underwater or take you to vulnerable sites. in control of your body when diving.
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3 4 5
Don’t take anything Use reef-safe sun cream Join a research project
from the ocean It’s important that you don’t Many dive centres run research
Taking one pretty shell might lather yourself in sun cream projects that contribute to
not seem like the worst thing in the that bleaches corals and harms other enhancing our knowledge of the
world, but if every diver took one shell marine life right before a dive. Usually ocean. Or you can get an EcoDiver
during each dive, there would be you’ll be in a wetsuit, so consider qualification and help survey coral
a lot less shells in the ocean. End whether you need sun cream at reefs. Ask your dive operator whether
your dive empty-handed (unless all. And there are always reef-safe they hold any underwater clean-ups
you’re holding litter!). alternatives on the shelves if you do. for you to get involved in, too.
“R le ’t rb
fe or ke es”
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HEMPSEED
RANCH DRESSING
‘This is the healthiest version of
plant-based ranch dressing you’ll find.
If you’re like me and could smother
everything in ranch dressing, you need to
make this hempseed ranch. It’s creamy;
packed with healthy fats, fibre, and protein
from the hempseed; and whips up in the
blender in less than a few minutes. Use
this as a dressing for pasta salad or a
fresh, green salad, or as a dip for veggies
like cucumbers and peppers.
● ¾ cup hempseed
● ¾ cup water
● 2 tbsp olive oil
● Juice from 1 lemon
● 1 tsp garlic powder
● 1 tsp dried parsley
● 2 tsp dried dill
● 1 tsp apple cider vinegar
● 1 tsp salt
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SERVE UP
Whether you’re eating at home al fresco
or packing up a picnic, make plants the star
of your plate this season with these nourishing
and energising meat-free dishes from
Danielle Brown’s HealthyGirl Kitchen cookbook
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Beauty beet & ● 1 tbsp smoked paprika 3 Pour the onions, cooked quinoa,
● 1 tbsp chilli powder breadcrumbs, and pecan mixture
bean burgers ● 1 tbsp garlic powder into a large bowl.
‘These are hands-down going to be the ● 1 tsp salt 4 Add the black beans and beets
most delicious homemade veggie burgers ● ½ tsp pepper into the food processor, and blend
you’ve ever had. Made with a base ● 1 cup cooked quinoa to combine. Don’t over-blend, as
of quinoa, beans, and beets, these ● 1/3 cup breadcrumbs there should still be a little bit of
superfood, vitamin-rich ingredients are ● 1 can black beans, rinsed and drained texture present.
amazing for your skin, your hair, and ● 2 small pre-cooked beets 5 Pour the bean mixture into the bowl
your overall health. They are smokey, (jarred, shop-bought) as well, along with the BBQ sauce. Mix
hearty, savoury, filling, and take less ● 1/3 cup BBQ sauce until well combined.
than 30 minutes to make’ 6 Form into patties, it should yield
1 Sauté the onions in a pan on about 7.
Makes 7 medium heat with olive oil until 7 Pan-fry on medium heat for about
translucent. Remove from the heat. 4 to 5 minutes on each side, or grill
● 1 cup chopped white onion 2 In a food processor, add the pecans, them, if you prefer.
● 1 tbsp olive oil paprika, chilli powder, garlic powder, 8 Serve on a bun with your favourite
● 1 cup pecans salt, and pepper, and blend to combine. burger toppings.
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B dy FE ASTING
No-fish tuna
sandwich
‘Raise your hand if you love
tuna! This was one of the first
plant-based recipes I learned
how to make because I was
tuna-obsessed and I needed to
find a way to make a vegan
version. You will see that I use
chickpeas in a lot of my recipes,
but it’s because they’re so
versatile. They make the perfect
high-protein, high-fibre tuna
swap. Don’t want to make this
into a sandwich? It’s also great
on a salad or with crackers’
Serves 2
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photography by Ari Brown
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Discover ways to make your soul sing… wit crea ativity, nature,
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In the palm
of your hand
Read between the lines and tap into a person’s unique personality and
potential – Johnny Fincham introduces the ancient art of palmistry…
H
umans have always been were our ancestors’ attempts to leave will it tell you how long you’ll live. But
fascinated by their hands. a personal signature of ownership. As truly astonishing information can be
If we take a deep dive into each palm print is unique, this would gleaned from the palm: sensitivity,
history, even prehistoric have shown exactly who lived where. emotional balance, confidence,
cave dwellers saw their hands as markers Today, palmistry is principally a intelligence, and many other qualities.
of their individuality. Anthropologists means of self-knowledge. It isn’t a form There are four basic skin textures
argue that the palm prints found in of fortune telling; no tall, dark, handsome you will find on a person’s palm, and
prehistoric caves around the world strangers are marked in your hand, nor each one indicates a different thing…
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Soul PALMISTRY
SILK SKIN
If the skin feels ultra-fine and soft, GRAINY SKIN
or the print shows barely visible ridges If the skin feels grainy, or the
and lots of fine lines, the person is print shows firm, hard skin ridges with
hypersensitive – they have an aversion to strong, red lines like cuts, the person is
conflict and harsh situations, and they are action-orientated. They are always busy and
physically delicate, with a fussy, fragile are by nature ‘doers’. This skin type – known
disposition. This skin type – known as silk as grainy skin – is common among sporty
skin – is common among alternative and business-minded people. Grainy
therapists, carers, spiritual seekers, skin is much more common on males
intuitives, artists and aesthetes. than on females.
PAPER
SKIN
If the skin feels papery, dry and is
slightly yellow, or the print shows CONSIDER
tightly grained, fine skin ridges with long,
scratchy lines, the person is cerebral and
HAND SPAN
highly visual. They are sensitive but a little Hand span can also reveal
cool, and responsive to ideas, images, speech, insights into a person. Check
and language. This skin type – known as hand span by measuring
paper skin – is common among teachers, across the palm, starting
office workers, call-centre operatives, halfway up, just above the
and anyone who uses technology thumb. Now compare it with
and communication skills the length, which should be
at work. measured from just below
the middle finger to the base
of the palm. Is the palm
broad, perhaps as wide as it
is long? Or is it narrow, giving
the hand an oblong shape?
Broad palms show a fixed,
COARSE stable, practical outlook.
SKIN The person tends to seek
If the skin feels hard and rough,
order and to impose stability.
with ridges that look and feel like wood,
If the palm is narrow, this
or the print shows only a few deep lines, the
indicates a more intuitive,
person is a hardy, outdoors type. They are
instinctive and creative
more practical than emotional. This skin
approach to life. Individuals
type – called coarse skin – is common among
with oblong-shaped palms
farmers, gardeners and manual workers.
are highly responsive to
They are impervious to the outside
their environment and
temperature and love to keep moving.
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In the early 1960s, the palmist,
artist and astrologer Fred Gettings
revived a centuries-old method
of categorising palms that
is extremely effective. He The Little Guide To Palmistry:
developed a four-fold system, How To Read Anyone’s Unique
classifying palms by the traditional Personality And Potential From
elements of earth, water, fire and Their Hands by Johnny Fincham
air. This works very well for the 70 (Watkins, £12.99) is out 11 July
per cent of people who have a
clearly defined palm shape
element. Unfortunately, 30 per
cent of palms are undefined and
difficult to categorise in this way.
It’s important to note that
those who show a clear element
always have some contradictions
at a deeper level of analysis, which
stop them conforming 100 per
cent to any one element. However,
when a hand does fall into a classic
elemental pattern, it’s a
wonderful, powerful way of
reading the overall nature of
their character before you get
into a detailed analysis. The
elemental system takes the
whole hand, including the fingers,
into account.
NO ELEMENTAL
SHAPE?
Don’t worry if a hand doesn’t conform to
any of the elemental patterns (described
right). Some people have hands that are a
mixture of elements. Some have hands that
have a wedge shape, or a large bulge at the
side, so it’s difficult to judge. When this is
the case, simply ignore the shape and
move onto another level of
palmistry analysis.
ul PALMISTRY
EARTH HAND
Earth hands are square, thick and heavy. The hand is fleshy and well padded, there are
FIRE HAND very few lines, and the fingers are short and stiff. Earth-handed people are usually
short and thickset, and have natural strength and endurance. They are endowed with
Fire hands have rectangular practical, manual skills and are likely to have a craft. Their life view tends toward
palms but they are not as pragmatism, and they are sceptical of abstract philosophies, ideals and high-minded
narrow as water hands views. They trust only what’s familiar and tried-and-tested. Family and home, tradition
(below right). The fingers and the past are enormously important in earth consciousness. People with this hand
are short (but not as short type usually have large families, and, because they are reliable, unpretentious and
as earth fingers, right), the stable, they make good parents. Often, they will sacrifice opportunity in favour of
palm is warm and dry, and security, and change is viewed with apprehension. Earth hands are displayed by those
the lines are deep and red. who do the crucial work that supports society, but that often goes unnoticed.
People with fire hands tend
to have muscular or wiry
physiques, short hair and
intense eyes. They often find WATER HAND AIR HAND
it difficult to relax, and usually Water hands have a narrow, Air hands have a square palm, but
switch off through sport rectangular palm. The fingers are whereas the earth palm is thick-
or exercise. Fire-handed long and flexible, and the lines boned, the air palm has light,
people are responsive, like are numerous, fine and delicate. bird-like bones and the fingers
those with water hands, Water types usually have pale are long. Air palms are the
but since they are broader skin and highly flexible joints. largest of the elemental hands
with shorter fingers, The narrow nature of the and the palm is usually
consciousness is inclined palm makes a water person covered with lots of lines.
towards change and action. highly receptive to their The air-handed physique tends to
Fire brings about environment. The water hand is be tall and thin. Often the person
transformation and heat, a sign of a changeable nature, driven has visual problems, and their hair is
and people with fire hands by impulse, sensation and emotion. extremely fine. They are the most prone
are always interested in Relationships dominate water to psychological stress, and the ability
self-development, acquiring people’s consciousness. These to be spontaneous and passionate is
skills, moving on, going individuals are also astute at making compromised by an ever-alert mind.
places and doing things. connections intuitively and creatively People with air hands are primarily
Fire naturally abhors water, between ideas, objects and people. conceptual in nature and tend toward
so deeper feelings and This gives them an intensely spiritual thought, analysis and ideas. They can
emotions tend to be perspective, which often manifests in also veer toward non-conformism, since
ignored, repressed or artistic qualities. Since they are driven they follow their own views on life.
displaced. Career is crucial by deeper impulses, water people Journalists, social commentators and
because these individuals tend to seek careers that are neither comedians all tend to have such hands.
often feel that what monotonous nor too physically The worlds of teaching, planning,
they do is what they are. demanding, such as alternative consultancy, research and science are
Achievement, kudos and therapists, counsellors, artists, poets, all air-hand dominated ones. Air types
power are the means by social workers, charity workers and like to work alone and to have
which they seek fulfilment. beauticians. Water-handed people a high degree of
They’re best suited to dislike disagreements and abhor autonomy.
work that is challenging competition. Instead, they tend to seek
and allows them to harmony and inner calm.
use their initiative, such
as self-employment,
management positions, THE VENUS MOUNT
entrepreneurial enterprises, This large, fleshy mound at the base of the thumb protects the major veins and
the media, money markets, nerves that connect the hand to the rest of the body. Its size and firmness are
and motivating other people general indicators of lust for life, capacity for human warmth, and physical
– in fact, any situation that resources. When this mount is large and well padded, it’s likely that the person
is fast-moving and has an has a great capacity to enjoy themselves and will be vigorous, warm, generous,
element of excitement. physical and energetic. Often , an enlarged Venus mount indicates the need to
really embrace life in a full and lusty manner. When it is soft, flat or spongy, there
may be a certain lassitude present – the person can lack energy and vitality.
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