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The lip ser viee to diversity and emotional learning hasn't scratched the surface of this dys funetional system built on an industrial ‘model of human relations ‘leven White, Spring Valley, NX. Many years ago, my sister was @ coun- selorina Milwaukee grade schoo called Hartford Avenue, It was a beautiful old building that had two individual bath rooms in every classroom. She worked in several different schools in her eareer She said that just this one infrastruc- ture feature saved teachers so much time and minimized so much stress ‘They didn’t need to organize and line kids up for bathroom breaks, and kids could simply use it when they needed to, so they weren't cut ofthe teachers’ ranges. It also gave students privacy, dignity and, of course, safety. Its not a cost-prohibitive building design and ‘would completely stop all incidents of bathroom bullying. Teachers and sta- dents deserve so much more than we allot ther, Jan, Boundary Waters, Minn RE: TELLING FORBIDDEN STORIES INCHINA, ‘Han Zhang wrote about how many Chinese writers are looking fr ways to capture the everyday realities that their government eeps hidden — sometimes a their on perl Such brave people continuing to ere ate and share against steep odds. This article made me think of how there are ‘many people in the United States who ‘want to censor what is published. Thank you for this excellent picee. I would be interested in reading Han Zhang's con- temporary Chinese publishings. Hope. fully The Times will publish eviews and interviews with the authors Chris, Colorado 1 hecamea fan of Hao Qun’s work when Tas living in China and doingbusiness 1 dozen years ago. English-language blogs would translate his works after they went viral and then disappeared, ‘They resonated with me as a foreigner, because I struggled every day to recon. cile the amazing economie progress in the country with the challenges | faced trying to understand my company’s cus: tomers and my amazing co-workers. In 2012, in his essay “One Author's Plea for ‘8 Gentler China,” Hao wrote: "Modern China isa strange new world. Every day. tragic and unbelievable things happen, leaving us not knowing whether to laugh orery” Name Withheld ee oa rowslatir te got ho {sve delivered to syourinox Wook ‘Thelipservice todiversity and emotional learning hasn't scratched the surface of this dysfunctional system built on anindustrial ‘mode! of human relations? lusrotons by Gail Akola RE: LETTER OF RECOMMENDATION Brontes Purnell wrote about the power of Lady Ways song “Piece of Me.” Tloved this, The best heart-wrenching songs are genuine. They speak to those partsof sthat ae the most rea, the mast human, That's why soul music can ext so deep: The soul sf it, Noautotune pro- ‘duction ean hit ke "Piece of Me” Melisa, Brooklyn, NY. In 1982, I broke up with the love of my life, woke up that morning toone ofthe ‘most beautiful days of sunshine on this earth, and Fatbaek’ssong was playing on the radio: “To be without yourlove/Such a tender love/It like waking up to find the sun is gone” There are greater songs there are deeper songs. But this was the song of my youth and marked a point in rn life chat would never be the same, Joe ‘This essay brings to mind two songs from the "6os when I was a teenager “There was the Lenay Welch blues ballad *Sinoe Fell for You’ a Top 10 hit in 1963. as well a the hit “Hey, Gil” by Freie Scott. Both of these were tearjerkers, although my heart had not yet been bro: ken, Many years later, these two songs can sill evoke a profound sadness Prank Heneghan, Madison, Wis ‘CORRECTION An article on July 23 about the docuseries “Break Point referred incompletely tothe producers ofthe docaseries “he Last Dance. 4 was produced by ESPN and Neff, not ‘Neils aloe. Send your thoughts lo magasineonvlimescom,It’s all the buzz. Eye New fork Times Can you get to Genius level? Play Spelling Bee to see how many words you can make with 7 letters. Play now at nytimes.com/bee. Scan this QR code to play.Screenland Create Cece ets Lined COON eA MLW eae LL a media phenomenon. That can’t be great. @ By Amos PTR EOI RUA AS See mo le OR NV t oe ham A.F.C. embarked on a buoyant tour of America that it called the Wrexham U.S.A. Invasion Summer PROUT T ny Ce cle RIN Bi COM MNO ReROr Tce) TTT to Southern California. It played against the mega- clubs Chelsea and Manchester United. Its ticket ery] iBSereeniand holders enjoyed fan zones equipped with bustling merch stands and cardboard cut cuts of Wrexham personalities — even a pop-up version ofthe Turf Hotel, pub in the actual Wrexham, a city of 135,000 in the north of Wales. One poplar activity was taking selfes with Wayne Jones, the Turf Hotels publican, a touring member ofthe summer lly ‘Wrexhamisa place witha familiar Rust Belttrajectory:milland mine closures, job losses, economic depression, Before the season that began this month, its team played in the National League, the fith tier of English soccer ~ a universe away from Chelsea and the top flight Premier League. (The National League sillineludes teams that aren’ filly professional) Typical attendance at Wresham’s Race course Ground used tobe less than ame. In Chapel Hil the team played in fio ‘of more th The reason forthe change is, of course the FX docuseres"Weleome to Wrexham: In20ar, the actors Ryan Reynolds and Rob MetThenneybought the clbandset about changing its fortunes, on eamera. During the pandemic, the Bris aetor Humphrey Ker had given Metlhenney a viewing ree ‘ommendation: “Sunderland Til Die” « docuseries about the decline of another postin dustrial town. Met bhenneylovedit and, as Kertold The Athlet. fe, formulated a plan to tll he same story ng fotbal sitor. He and tum it into a com Theteam dropped itsprevious front-of shirt sponsor, aWelsh trailer company, favor of TikTok. to reverse-engineer a feel-good sports documentary, He would also end up satis: fying Americas love of underdog sories set in quaintly hard-up corners of Britain Tike “The Full Monty? recently revived as an EX series) and ereating an old rel fife analog forthe hugely poplar"Ted The reverse-engineering project has, clearly, been a suocess. The show, with ts portrait ofthe tight-knit eomminity sur rounding the club, attracted a devoted ‘enough audience that sles of the club's jersey spiked wildly. (The team dropped its previous frontof-shirt sponsor, a Welsh trailer company, in favor of Tik Tok) Wrexham matches — which, even in Britain, would have been considered Wsthe obscure ~ can now play on ESIreal underdog thing” one fn atthe USA. Invasion told The Evening Standard It was an underdog thing, Since tak ing over, MeEIhenney and Reynolds have stocked Wrexham’ roster with players who are, frankly, oo good tobe playing in the National League, Paul Mullin, fr instance, isa striker whose copious goal scoring helped get Cambridge United promoted a league; he instead jumped two ters down to join Wresham. (He was injured during the U.S.A. Invasion and stayed in the country to recuperate in Metlhenney’s Los Angeles home) Last season, the four highest-paid players in the National League all played for Wrex hham, At the season's end, the club was promoted to League Two, the fourth tier ‘of English soccer, fr the ist time since 2008. Inthe days that followed, Wayne Jones had to shut down the Turf Hote: Despite his best efforts to prepare, be ran ‘out of alcohol, When the show's second season begins in September, steaming ‘on Disney", it’sa safe bet that every epi: sode will be seenby far more people than will illthe Racehorse Ground fora whole season's worth of Wrexham matches, In 20a, the sale of a diferent soccer club made international news. Saudi ‘Arabia's Public Investment Fund took a controling interest in Newcastle Unit ced, competitor in the Premier League. Unlike Wrexham’s story — which has been treated as a kind of homespun niece thon ae of Gteraé-Sloseto pshback to a world in which private ‘equity billions slosh around and sposts teams are used as state propaganda = the Saudi purchase was castigated, internationally, as a new nadir in pro fessional sports’ capitulation to the richest entity in the room, (The head of Amnesty International UK. bashed the league for “allowing those implicated in serious human rights violations to walk into English football simply because they have deep pockets”) Reynolds and Meckthenney do not represent an auto eratie petrostate and are implicated in ‘no human rights violations, but the to takeovers do have one thing in common: Both the actors and te Sau sovereign wealth fund are operating in spacesSereenland where their wealth distorts everything around them, Longtime Wrexham supporters are cettainly delighted by the teams success: ¢, but they must also recognize thatthe club has become something new and dif ferent: both an athletic hehemath and a pop-culture one. t's not just thatthe roster isfullofwhat are effectively ringers, being paid situational outlandish amounts from ‘what can’ helpimagining are the profits ofthe"Deadpoo” franchise. Reynokdsand Mekthenney have ereated an ouroboros in which TV funnels fans and money'to the team, leading to successes that in turn create more TV. It's a clever gambit for endless expansion, but also one that, as the club's US. tour underlined, risks turning Wrexham into more of a media project than a soccer team, Italo feels rectly opposed tothe com ‘munitarian values that, ostensibly, made Reynolds and! Mekhenney interested in the team in the frst place. Fora decade before their arvval,Wresham had been a community club owned by a coalition of fanscalledthe Wrexham Supporters Trust One ofthe elbis former board members, Spencer Haris, posed onlin his springto take issue with the ttle of BEC: programm about the club ~"Wresham: Hollywood oF [Bus — andits suggestion that without the actors, Wrexham was doomed.”,000 up porters trust members took over an insol ventbusiness" hewroce, “turned itaround and handed overwith ash inthe ankcater aglobal pandemic” The trust didn't eve proftoff the salen the interest of helping the elub’s prospects, members essential ly gave the team to Reynolds and McEL hhenney in exchange fora guarantee that they would add £2 milion to the budget. ‘That fan ase now shares its connec: tion to the eam with all those who will binge-watch "Welcome to Wrexham” and feel their own sense of ownership — and with the actors, who sometimes overtake the club's identity entirely, (One recent headline assessed the team's prospects like this: “Ryan Reynolds and Roly McEL hhenney are on track forthe League Two points record” Asanew television season begins, twill surely become untenable for “Welcome to Wrexham’ to ignore itsoxen impact onthe lub it’s documenting For what i's wort, English footballs fall of less complicated tals of resiliency Luton Town, fr instance, is a small lub from just outside London. The team’s 0 e202 Iesnotjust thatthe roster isfull of what arectfectively ringers. nickname is the Hatters. Their home ‘ground, Kenilworth Road, has its mod- fest entrance stitched through a row of terraced houses. While not selFowned, its ownership consortium is made up of local fins whowilingly cedeca small share playedin the filth er: Itdoesnt spend lot fof money, because it doestt havea lot of ‘money: Butthe team has scouted welland hired good coaches, and this coming sea son, having won ts wayup the ranks, itil ‘compete inthe Premier League, Someone should makea documentary about that. Or, honesty. maybe they shouldn't. anda set of veto rights to the Luton Town, ‘Supporters Trust Aritslowest ebb the cub Poem Selected by Anne Boyer {fen gro up in Kana bth Rona Jobson and id you ear very quickly that Beau is to often hep secre. 1 ies to bel that noon ecu Row the subinty ffs, oon x poe, however. wagers onthe irnaisity of ane. 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Tee scm far ater bar rate mame nats ona fondo te aio ‘tC ey mt Lah 4 he ok of pres nade Le of Pot A Roof Dei "Sg he array ARK oad "Te Saber) that surrounds us, singing Iustatlon by. BlackmanSoo Eee cee) Matthieu Ricard says that literally everyone deserves compassion. ‘Remedy suffering wherever it is, whatever form it takes and whoever causes it” eee nyTalk “Matthieu Ricardis an ordained Buddhist ‘monk and a best-selling author of books about altruism, animal rights, happiness and wisdom, His humanitarian efforts led to his homeland’ awarding him the French National Order of Merit. (Ricare’s primary residence isa Nepalese mona tery.) He was the Dalai Lama's French interpreter and holds a PAD in cellular genetics Inthe early 2000s, researchers atthe University of Wisconsin found that Ricare’s bran produced gamma waves — which have been finked to learning atten tion and memory ~ at sich pronounced levels that the media named him “the world’s happiest man” He was aso late for our Zoom, and ie was driving me nuts Didn't he getmy confirmation email’ Why hadn't he emailed to say he was running late? [had deadlines! Fight deadlines! My carefully planned schedule was being shot to hell Alas, everything turned out fine as it was always going to. Clearly, had ‘much to learn about taming the mind, You should not et quickly discouraged: said Ricard, whose memoir, “Notebooks ofa Wandering Monk: is forthcoming, *You cannot master playing the piano row These skills take ime” OK, sorPve been meditating twice a day. for probably 45 years, and I feel as it has improved my ability to control my thoughts and emotions instead of letting them control me. But still sometimes I'll walk by a mirror and have an extreme flash of self-loathing. Or il get all agitated over something stupid, like finding a parking spot. Will that stuff ever go away? Well, they can You know, once | was on the Inia Today c Can yougiveusthe three secrets of happiness?” [said "First, there's no secret. Second, there's no just three points. Third, i takes a whole life, nclave They sai, butitisthe most worthy thingyoucan do: "fm happy to feel Lam on the right track, 1 eannot imagine feeling hate or wanting someone to suffer Ws not the best thing to say, but Lean easily imagine wanting certain people to suffer. How are we supposed to deal gracefully with our polar opposites ia 8 world that feels increasingly about polarities? I mean, the Dalai Lama could talk to Vladimir Putin all he wants, bat Putin's not going to say, “Your compas- sion has changed me." Once, someone sito me, who is the person you would like to spend 24 hours alone with? I std Sadlam Hussein. said, “Maybe, maybe, ‘some small change in him might be pos sible" When we speak of compassion, you want everybody to find happiness. i has tobe universal. You may say'that Putin and Basharal-Assadare the scum of humanity and rightly so. But compassion is about remedying the suffering ants cause But why does compassion have to be tuniversal? Because this is diferent from moral judgment. It doesnt prevent you from saying that those are walking psycho paths, that they have no heart. But compas sions to remedy suffering whe ‘whatever form ittakesand whoever causes it tis the hatred and the person underits power. If someone beats you with stick, you don't get angry withthe stick — you iget angry with the person. These people ‘we are talking about are like ticks in the hands of ignorance and hatred, We ean judge the acts ofa person at a particular time, but compassion is wishing that the present aspect of suffering andthe causes ofsulfering may be remedied, ‘What are the limits of compassion? Could blowing up a pipeline be a com- passionate act? Well, we discussed alot in those meetings with the Dalai Lama at the time of Kosovo what we call"surgical” jolence*Butthe problem sfitciggers 2 chain reaction, leading to escalation from both sides. Alo, fhe barrel sbad, allthe apples get rotten so the syste has to change You ean see that with this deep divide now in the United States hased on ignorance, Delusion sa cause of ser ing. you could ge id ofthat. tha will alleviate sufering in many forms. For a while now, people have been calling you the world’ happiest man. Do you feel that happy? I's a big joke We eannot know the level of happiness though neuroscience. Isa good title for journalists to use, bat [cannot get tid of &, Maybe on my tomb, it wll a ere lies the happiest person in the worl” Anyway Lenjoyevery moment of lif, bu of eourse there are moments of see so much sufering. But this should Kindle your compassion, and fit kinds healthier, more meaningful way of being That's what call happiness, snot a if allthe time you jump for joy: Happinesscome toafterthe upsand downs the oy and sorrows, Do you ever feel despair? There's no point We can feel sad swe see sfering, butsadness isnt agains a deep sense of ceeemonia® becasse sadness goes with compassion, sadness goes with deter ‘ination to remedy the cause. Despair Youre tthe bottom ofthe hol, there's 1 way out Thats faim, But sifering are impermanent, and impermanence is what allows for change Your response to my question abos despair was, “There's no point" which suggests thatyou're making conscious ‘choices about your feelings — whether to follow them or not — based on their perceived value. Short of also becom- {nga Buddhist monk, how might other people start developing the ability to control their emotions like you ean? Emotions are just lke any characteris tie of our mental landscape: They ean change. We can become more familia with their process we can cate them cary. W's ike when you sea pickpocket ina room: hs, be earful. Twenty-five hundred years of contemplative sience® anc o years of neuroplastiity ~ every thing tells you we ean change, You wore not hora knowing how to write your lum. You know i the fruit of your efforts. Sowhy would majorbuman quali: ties be engraved in stone from the start? ‘That would be atotal exception to every other skill we have. That's why Tike the idea of Richard Davidson’s® that hap- piness is a skill. It can be deeper, more present in your mental landscape, We deal wth our mind from morning to eve ning, but we spend very litle attention ving the way we translate outer conditions, good of bad, into happiness ‘or misery. And it's crucial, because that’s what determines our day-to-day experi ence ofthe world! But iI were explaining that to some- ‘one, they still might say, OK, how do change? Is the answer as simple as “Just start thinking about compassion’ When you aren that moment of uncon ditional ove ~ say fora child this lls four ind for 30 seconds, maybe a minute, then suddenly it's gone. We allhave expe: rienced that. The only difference nov is toculkivate that in some way. Make i stay aitle Tonger Try to be quiet with it for 10 minutes, 20 minutes. it goes avay Anon TED the varity of el, ‘emily stacks ‘omage deployed ae foreas 2-A.Grokoword Sandy arte tordeeerbe the bypeopie who bare thet actions ‘moral One echolr between evcoemean ‘onthe Busi ‘oncapt finan Prorten of Budi, the te sath ctu ond oat fouth contry BE S-Aprotessor of paehsogy ond Wisconsin He ed sects of maaitation or famous 6-An amet potessorat the Unveety Franc, known the bose “Eratonol tay to bring it back. Give itvibraney and presence. That's exactly what meditation is about. Ifyou do that for 20 minutes a clay, even forthree weeks, thie wil trigger change ‘Who gets on your nerves at the mon astery? My nerves? Once in New York, ‘when Iwas promoting one of my books, very nie journalist lady said,"What real ly upsets your nerves when you arrive in [New York?" Istid, "Why do you presup- pose anything is upsetting me?” I’s not bout something being on your nerves, It's about trying to sce the best way 10 proceed. Paul Ekman® once asked me to remember when [ got really angry. [had to go back 20 years: I had a brand-new laptop, my fist one, in Bhutan, and the ‘monk who dida’t know what it was, he ‘was passing by with a bow! filled with roasted barley flour and spilled some on it, So I got mad, and then he looked at me, and he said, “Ha+ha, you're getting, angry!" That was about it. [get indignation all the time about things that should be remedied, Indigoation is related to com passion, Anger can be out of malevolence Not to reduce 2,500 years of contem- plative science toa single sentenee, but is there a thought that you can suggest to people that they can earry in their ‘minds that might be helpful to them as they go through life's challenges? Ifyou can, as much as possible, cultivate that ‘quality of hurman warmth, wanting gems ly for other people to be happy’ that’s thebest way to fill your own happiness, This is also the most gratifying state of mind. Those guys who believe in selfish ness and say, “You do that because you feel good about it” — this is so stupid. Because if you help others but you don't area dann, then you won' feel anything! ‘Wanting to separate doing something for others from feeling good yourself is ike tuying to make aflame that burns with light but no warmth, If we try humbly with some happiness, to enhance our benevolence, that wll be the best way to have a good life. That's the best modest advice | could give. I realize thisisaquestion that no one on the path to enlightenment would ask, but broadly speaking, am Ion the right path? Yin? Yes. [Laughs] I mean, I eannot make a clinical examination, but I feel that you resonate with ideas which are dear to me. So that'sa good sig. take it Ifyou had said, "Oh, that’s all rubbish” — you know. once there was a French journalist, very eynieal, and he said to me, "This thing about becoming Aubetter person and all that, this isthe polities ofthe hash trade” I don't know What he meant. But what I said was, ‘My dear friend, if genuinely trying t0 become a better person and do a litle ‘good ~ if that's the politics ofthe hash trade, 'm happy to spend my whole life inthe bash trade” & ‘Tis interviewhas beon edited and condensed Jorclarty frm two conversations ry‘The Ethicist By Kwame Anthony Appiah I've Hidden My Trust Fund for 15 Years. Do] Finally Tell My Spouse? am a 44-year-old man and have been married o my spouse for 10 years, Weve Dr tgether for 15. Unbeknown tomy spouse, I havea trast fund that provider ‘me with a month incon of $25,000, When we first met sad that I worked asa consultant, and thy have never ‘questioned this, My spouse, a dedicated doctor works long haurs and doesnt [ike to discuss work when nol on the job Over the years. ve repeatedly assured ‘my spouse hat they ln nee work, 4s my income is secure and stable. Tey ‘are, however, passionate about ther carer ‘aed have chosen to continue working actively servon various boars, but T Ihave never held afullsime job and dont lan to. Our ifestye is comfortably upper middle-class, and fam content with i ‘My dilerma is whether should reveal the truth abo ny trust fd to ny spouse. My family members have aways aivised against disclosing our financial situation, bu the weight of this secrets becoming dificult fo bea Name Withheld Avid moviegoers are familiar with men ‘Who, like you, only pretend to have jobs: think of Laurent Cantet’s“Time Out, Kiy (shi Kurosawa’ “Tokyo Sonata” or John Wells's“The Company Men" Unlike those fellows, you're not hiding hantluckstory ~ rather, the opposite. But you must be aware thatthe normal understanding of ‘marital intimacy includes teansparency concerning the base facts about your eco nomic life. You won't be surprised, then, tohear mesay that your spouseis entitled toknow you have alarge private income, no job and no inclination to get one. Maybe a first date wasnt the right ‘moment to bring up your rust fund. Stil by the time things got serious with this person, you should certainly have fessed ‘up.AsT¥e remarked before, secrets tend to grow more burdensome the longer they have been kept Fats thatone could have casually revealed on Day 5 of «rela tionship can become shattering on Day 500, let alone Day 5,000. So you shoulda’t wait any longer will only be worse if your spouse stum bles on the situation later. But don’t Instration by To Un expect an easy ride, Your spouse will have reason to wonder what else you have heen hiding ~ and why you dida't feel you could trsst them with the truth And then you'll both have to reflect on hhow your deception was eased by your spouse's apparent lack of interest in how you spend your days, i might help to take these issues to 4 couples counselor. Ina movie version, the third-act reveal might be that your spouse, too, has a pretend job. But in real life, | would antieipate hurt and con fusion, not comedy. One way we violate the tenets of a trusting relationship is by failing to extend trust in the first place ive on Cape Cod and Ihave recently noticed something ofa curren rend in hich Beachgoers claim valuable (and Sometimes scare realestate by arriving Several hours ear fo se. up chars, blankets aad umbrellas before leaving to return some cases several urs later to evetualy ‘move int ther pre-claimed triton: always tought thal you hat bon banal to occupy some piece of public space, Does ‘an empl chair or blanket consitute ‘actual occupancy? Da such phantons clare Ihave any merit? Would someone have the right fo ignore such manewsers by removing thee chair or blankets? so, wha should Bethe response fo the claimant wiko might return fo find thir itoms na longer claiming posession? “The aim of such public space isto allows as many people as possible o make the proper use oft. That aim isundermined by absentee claims that prevent others from enjoying a spot on the beach for extend ed periods. It's fine to leave evidence of ‘occupancy if you're just going off to get an ee eream, sy, or to visita restroom, you do this, though, it might be wise to ave an explanatory note. 115, buying asmack, back by 10-55") Thats within the spirit ofthe social convention. But your beach-blanket buccaneers are abusing thisconvention and effectively privatizing what shoul be public AK the same time, moving other peo ple’s things isn’t to be done lightly You'll certainly want tobe sure that their covners haven't just stepped away for an acceptable interval. The social conven tions about claiming areas in these public ry Bonus Kivice From udge John Hodgman ‘rimescom ti A 5settings are not, 0 anhourorso stik me asa good mark ut take 4 poll among people you know. 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Iy worn apparel, in addition to helping inly try o buy goods bad practices, What ly make a difference, however ae larger reforms ~ getting more com panies to ensure thatthe manufacturers intheirsupply chains meet decent labor and environment such comps though each such com has litle direct effect, ‘campaign that Within that campa cog, but those cogs 1d machine, @sgnosis By Lisa Sanders, MO. At first the pain in the college student’s | tems eusses ee hip seemed like an exercise injury. tr Yak Ney Haven spl and these ‘ond specialist she had seen since the pain Then it spread down her leg, and it sikthysrclonenarte se ranher hand down the side of her hip and ; : Sree ght hr one ened ost wouldn’t go away. What could it be? insted i torte the pine pst st serdyabiametreopsne Taare scm nthe st sh of inept ews Santa frome: Her sod fe wasted. and Sheaniehigh school pa woud ork thebet one ofthe xtele video shat Urtlao mun cloages ons Scsgnedtobul beter Ai she seamed cur pled es Te pals dll cameon sly she Epinbel Shecadnernpin he est (aon scomed se her hte ap sed — tardies ecient the pan was gone She changed deen the pin wonton but or eng er necks of tha oven ate she tunnel tt hr parent he seredetoran thy pepperedhr wah Somos sakiay vec: sens ‘ore spe Shahla se digi Anse id Drie pangs aha ote disso etd pyar Bt thepuinkepcoming Neteey igh ote And seargal) eer he dati Tht il du ad calor a ee the pun aml tater Halloween when her nights were interrupted once ‘more. She signed up for more PT. Itdida't help. The only thing that did help, she dis covered, was ibuprofen, Indeed ofthat drug right before bed practically guaranteed a good night’ sleep. Just before the Thanksgiving break, she had avideo vsitwith her pediatrician. She moved her leg as her doctor instructed, rotating ling, kicking this way and that, Alllooke fine. She pressed and squeezed the various masclea. Again, ine, Her doc torsentherforan X-ray:normal. The doe tor encouraged hero continue with PT. With thohelp ofthe prophylactic doses ofibuprofen, she madeit through her fist Semester. But just as spring greened the branches ofthe Pou dose 6 e202 Pot lsrotion by a JongNational Jewish Health OUR DISCOVERIES WILL TAKE YOUR BREATH AWAY. OUR CARE WILL GIVEIT BACK. Pa ee Co aaa ue clr) Ee ep Ma eR Lae Ue tee Tee ree RR aC Pe Seen Ma eRe oo Providing care for adults and children with complicated lung, heart, immune and related CI ea Rag Co Rogen ae Our research breakthroughs improve lives around PCG CL RT a ER CR OST LL INL Le RE ER RO RMS ACU so) RE BCBS gaa TP Lae BO ee CEE) ua call 800.621.0505 or visit njhealth.org. BEST HOSPITALS SNews PULMONOLOGY & LUNG SURGERY. PIertatit-were Cee Ce Leher nighttime pain drifted into her days wasn't every day. It wasn’t all day. But it was now an intense pain. She eartied her ibuprofen wth herall the time. As the huts of her pain expanded, so too did its location. It crept from her hip down her thigh to her knee. And on really bad days, it strayed almost toherfoot. Walking some: hhownadeitbetterIfthiswas an injury, she thought. that didnt make any sense. But really nothing about this pain made sense. ‘The g's mother was worried, During School breaks, she ook her daughter to her pediatrician and to lots of physical therapy appointments. tad to bea muscle prob: lem. Buc why was she getting worse? One ofthe gies logs was slightly longer than theother: Wasthat the problem? Probably not, doctors and therapists assured her. Her daughter described an occasional clicking sensation in that hip when she stretched Was ie snapping:hip syndrome? Uso, osiyhadh't te therapy helped? Final Iyone friend hada recommendation: “You should take her to see Sam Smith” ‘Smith trained in both adult and pedi atrie medicine at Yale New Haven Hosp: tal and had followed that up with a year focused on sports medicine atthe Hospital for Special Surgery in Manhattan before coming back to New Haven, “shes really the best doctor Iknov the frend said 4 ‘An Overlooked Abnormality And co nowt, usta fer wpeks later, mother and daughter were in with Smith. Smith noticed thatthe patient had some tender ness at the top ofthe thigh bone, over the part ofthe bone that stuck out farthest, prominence knownas the greater rochan ter, She was also tender down the side of her thigh, over what is known as the IT band, a thick strip of tissue that extends from the top of the hip bone — known as the lac erest ~ down to the upper tip of the tibia, The IT band provides stabilicy to te leg during strenuous activities lke running and can be iritated by rubbing against the bony hip prominence ‘Smith tested each ofthe muselesofthe young woman's hips and legs. The right leg was completely normal. But there was subtle weakness on the left. When asked to do a squat using only the right leg, the patient could doit easily, but she wobbled noticeably on the left. Smith ‘gave the young woman a series of exer cises designed to strengthen the speciic 1° e202 muscles that wore weak and scheduled herta come back i a month, jst before shelet fora semester abroad in England ‘Ate endl of August when motherand laughter returned, Smith was surprised to see that although the girls muscles were stronger, the pain hadnt changed. Soit wasnt greater trochanter pain sy drome; what ele could itbe? “The meter mentioned that there was an abnormality in one ofthe blood tests dlone when the pain fist started, It was a marker of inflammation known as a Gcreaetive protein, oF more farsiny ‘GRP. There are many reasons thisprotein can spike ~ physical rauma ean doit so on 8 minor infection. But a persistently elevated CRP would suggest something ‘more than a muscle of igament issue ‘Thatcanbe seen in autoimmune diseases or chronic infections, even cancer. No ‘ne knew what to make oft atthe time, sven that the Xray was normal and the blood tests sent to look for infectious and rheumatologi causes ofthis kind of jnflammation came back normal aswell ‘That could be an important clue smith sid Sho ordered a new Xray and repeated the test The resus came back foram: He. | the following day: The Xray again read Stone afing | a8 normal. But the CRP was now three Sekaltsows"™ | times the level thad been. A whole new tovartetae | iar possibitiessprangto ming Smith LiwSindveninon | called the patient. She needed to get an = MRE of that ip Phot lsrton by ra Jong ‘The patient had her sean three days later. When she emerged, the technician told her that her doctor would bein teh “There was something on the MRL Smith told her. tumor. She was pretty sure it was not malignant, but to be cer tain, che patient would need a CT sean, Smith explained that she thought the young woman had something known a an osteoid osteoma — an inflammatory tumor that ean be seen in people her age. It hadn't been what she was looking for, and an M.RLL was not the best way to diagnose it The young woman looked up the M.RI. report om her electronic ‘medical record, What she saw seared her. was, as Smith said, 9 small cumor, but the report listed other, scarier possibil ties as well. Most prominent on chat lis cancer. An infection in the bone was also possible, The benign tumor that Smith suspected wasnt even mentioned ‘The CT sean was mercifully quick. and Smith called right away with the answer Iwas an osteoid osteoma. Although these poorly understood tumors willresolve on their own after several years, most peo- ple who have them end up having them removed The tumors are quite painful, and the treatment is simple and safe Under CT guidance, a tiny catheter is introduced through the skin to the tumor, and & probe blasts the tumor with heat Because the procedure is pain tis ust ally dane under general anesthesia, Smith told me that she had seen three patients who had osteoid asteomas. Each time, she discovered it while looking for something else. The tumor is called the great mimicker because it Looks lke so ‘many other possibilities that are more common or more dangerous. ‘The patient chose to defer the pro- cedure until after her semester abroad, Ten, just at the start of Hanukkah, she went to the operating room. Once the pin meclcine she received atthe hospital ‘wore of her hip hurtas ithad never hurt before. Her parents discouraged her from using the opiates the surgeon had pre scribed, and she survived on ibuprofen and acetaminophen for her frst week at hom. By the second weck, she was fine vas hick” she told me. Her parents wore doctors. They knew how to get her the specialists and tests she needed. Sill, it took two years to igure this out must, she said, be so much harder for those without these advantages.150 cups of drip coffee 10 very caffeinated staff testers 2 months scrutinizing coffee grounds At Wirecutter, we do the work so you don’t have to. Discover independent reviews for thousands of products at nytimes.com/ hellowirecutter One easy way to make every sip worth savoring BheNew ork Eines Wirecutter Research. Reviews. Recommendations.Letter of Recommendation Diving Boards By Holey Howle Idowt remember atime witout diving | heat prefer to spend at es thre or | Dhngbeors | ofasudden, el weightless asthe water boards in yi 'vealwaysloved them. | four days a week inthe natural waters | Mt | rashes past my ears and Tm surging into This affection doesnt extendto heights | of Barton Springs the legendary public | $2 the depths where no one can see me. 1 ingeneralsm not interested in jmping | pool. I've been diving there since | was keep coming back forthe alchemy of off the tlles, most treacherous cif or | a kid ~ my mom was «Barton Springs exhilaration, fear and confidence that platform, tm talking abou very speci | Wieguard when she was pregnant with tums into pride, calm and elie a8 my joytiatcomeswithlamnchingyourbody | me and stil there's the test, almost bray enters the water. ofa springboard, Bauney things bring | undetectable tinge of far ever Hime | Tromst eomany people lest the outa playful, chillike quay in some | make my approach, My go-to move is board, I se them weekly, here at our people dare you to jump off «diving | a pik dives k goes like ts: ight foot, collective Happy Place, On any given Eetelangy — is imponle ich foot, skip. bounce, feet together day might un inte Linda, who goes Tive in Austin, which means tata | hips up, head down, hand to toes gs by the nickname Lady Go-Diver With pool is crucial to surviving the Texas | straight above my head and rwvoash. All a Swimsuit, doing one of her signature 20 e202 Iutration by Calne Prontricks, lke the Twirling Mermaid, which involves putting water in her mouth and doing a 360 while spitting it out.’ rare that I dont se at least one of the Marks, whom I met about two years ago and who are named for the order in which Tet them, Mark One is a sweetheart and easy to spot with his white hair and fading tattoos — a classic Austin look, (We're having a competition this sum ‘mero see who can mala one-and-a-half front lip first — loser buys enchiladas) Mark Two isa security architect and tr athlete, He's acelebrity at thisboard, one ofthe best divers Te ever seen. He lands double back flips like is nothing. I's truly ineredible to watch. As soon as he shows up, people flock to him for advice on fine-tuning ther tricks, But t's not just experienced diverseat: apulking themselves ofthis plank. On a busy summer day atthe Springs, the line right be 3o people deep and consis ofall kin of tril seekers — experienced div- ersand novices alike, I's not uncommon tose 4-and5 yearoldsinching their way tothe end ofthe board, When they finally do ump, the crowd of anlookerseruptsas ifthe home team scored a winning touch: down in overtime, Iisa busy day at the pool, my dive might get areaction, too. Sometimes the audience will elap or even gasp. When {come up for air, I might hear a strang: er say, ‘Did you see that!” as if they're suprised to see @ plus-size woman in hher mid-3os perform this gracefully. But their reaction is just a bonus, because the dive isnot for them it's forme. I's proof. Proof that ifnothing else, Pve sil ot this. You see, I havent always had the kindest relationship with my body. ve never been stall, which means that for most of my life, smalls all wanted to be. Finding clothes that | feel good in, especially in the sweltering heat of a ‘Texas summer, isa challenge every yeu Bat F'vealways felt safe ina bathing suit Because even when I hate my body, the pool is neutral ground. No matter what kind of day im having, what my body has or hasn't accomplished, Lean stil dive Confidence ean be a tricky thing to hold on to. Which is why I started te panic when I started seeing diving boards less and less. The first time I noticed the trend was in 2013, when I heard that my small hometown outside ‘Austin was renovating the publie pool But tome,apool without diving boards ikea theater without astage, clay Howie aera alrond poten pred bee faa Te enor pacer top Up aan here I spent my childhood summers A massive upgrade was planned for the original pool, builtin the 1950s. Word around town was that they were replac ing theboard witha slide ~ and not even ‘cool slide. I looks like something from TToys-R-Us — the kind of cheap plastic contraption that might be fun the fist time you play with itbut inevitably ends ‘up at the bottom of the toy box. A ew years later, when | moved to Oakland, in 2015 it took me nearly five years ofF searching before I found a public diving board, When finaly saw one atthe West ‘Campus Pool in Berkeley, my eyes began to water. I spent the next three hours blissfully diving, feeling the release of years of built-up tension, (Once I started talking about the dis- appearance of diving boards, everyone had a story for me, Mark Two told me that when he was road-tripping around America, he searched forboardsinevery town he visited. They were few and far between. When he found one in San Diego, ata Jewish community center, he was devastated to learn that their rules prohibited any fay dives or fips. far 4s an tell, this is all to do with insur ance and liability. Municipalities don't want to pay higher insurance rates that come with diving boards or get sued for any injures, But to me, a poo! without a diving board is like a theater without 4 stage. Without diving boards, where will we goto be brave and show off and believe in one another? So if you see a diving board this summer, I encourage you to take the plunge. Who knows how ‘much longer well be able to. Read Like the Wind fy Journana Khotib The Wedding By Dorothy West Fon 995 West, a writer and editor, was known as"the Kid” of the Harlem Renaissance writers ~ or as she put it, "the las eat fn the tree” Born into an upper-middle class Black family in Boston, she arrived ‘on the 19208 Harlem cultura scene after taking second place ina story competi tion, (She tied with Zora Neale Hurston, the pair would later share an apartment.) By the 1940s, though, she was living ‘on Martha's Vineyard year-round and pulled from her own experience in her fiction, Her debut novel, “The Living Is Easy” satirizes the Massachusetts Black lite, as an outsider tries to secure her Future there, Forty-teven years later, usteton by Jonk Sanor ‘West published her only other novel, "The Wedding” a bestseller. It follows 1 Black community on the Vineyard in the 19508. as one of its most beautiful and promising young women, Shelby. prepares for her marriage. It should bea happy oceasion — Shelby had her pick of well-to-do professionals from acceptable backgrounds. The tou ble is, Shelby’s fiance is a jazz musician, And he's white, Fora the story's ques tionsabout the interplay of race an class, and how family duty can sucker punch individual desires, West's positon is unambiguous: “Color was a false dstine tion," she writes, “Love was nat” Read if you like: Gossip, martini sealed promises, complicated family tres, ‘Available from: Anchor. @Eat By Yotom Ottclenghi Peach Perfect: Even the most mundane stone fruit manages to thrill when wrapped in flaky pastry. was drunk; peaches were ene was seasonally, sens Sonaly simply perfec. ‘Others, a anyone who watched the relationship between Timothee Ch shortwindow, when peaches | Some of us get so inspired as to ough to ea just as they are, | name entire cookbooks after them. The s0it's tempting to claimed author Diana Henry's “How to foal fruit to wax just. ata Peach, whose cover itslfis as fuzzy mt and Armie Hammer play o sémillons and pros film "Call Me by Your Name” knows, take feetly ripe peach activates | peaches and a bottle of chilled moseat. the perfeet-peach moment still all the senses Peaches were sliced; slices went into the In the characters’ ease, quite a long, 2 e202 Photogrog by ChisAT SANTANDER, THE GOAL ISN'T JUST FINANCIAL FREEDOM.Eat By Yotom Ottclenghi sensual way Further: You'll have to watch the film, or read the wonderful navel by André Aciman on which itis based, 10 find out more. Enough co say all senses are duly activated It’ all very August, all very Italy, all very wonderfl. And yet forall thatthese moments crystallize the nature of the perfect peach, how many times a year does a “perfect peach” actually happen forus? Once? Twice, maybe? ‘Atal other times, we have to setle fora litle less than perfect. This is when cooking comes along, giving the peach abit of help to draw out the sweetness. Heat and sugar tend to do the trick, in fone way or another, In this gaette for instance, i’s 35 minutes or so ina hot ‘oven and a coating of sugar syrup, which teases out the magic. Bring this to the table, and your peaches willundouledly {get a show:stealing, summery “Wow!” Still. think about what happens once summer starts drawing to an end, ater all those brilliant peaches enjoying the limelight and the sunlight In my galete, itis actually under the peaches, hidden away, where so much ofthe basi, prac tical work takes place. Inthe kitchen, as imlife, so much is justabout the pain old ruts and bolts ‘The nuts, in this ease, are pistachios and almonds, the unsung heroes of cooking, Whether finely ground, rough: ly chopped, thinly sliced or left whole, they're there in so many of the dishes that make me happy. come ran or shine: from the almond eroissants we treat out selves to asa family om the weekend to the German Lebkuchen — Christmas cookies — we eat when times are fes- tive, They're in the French financiers and macarons [love to make (and ea thinly flaked and toasted, they're sprin- kled over many a pavlova. And s0 on, and soon, Irs true of savory dishes, too. Soups. stews, sauces, spreads, sprinkles: Nuts do the work in so many of my favorite iterations. They give body and a deep, rich flavor. ‘So that’s how the initial thought of peaches and the warm August sin gives ‘way tothe everyday: the nutsand bots of the unrecorded, unfilmed, undocument cd life, All the parts that do so much of the work to keep the show om the road: ‘They/re just as vital — if not more so — than the sunny stars 2 e202 Heatand sugarlend underwhelming fruita helpinghand. ‘each anasChle Goratte With Pistechlo Frangipani Time: 2% hove Fr the dough 184 p15 grams al pape or ‘seta or eng 2 tablespoons/17 grams almond Nour lus tblespoon eta for dsting teaspoon ie sea salt 5 capt grams unsaed buster Friel eat into nc pieces Sexy miter aterm, Feige col pl abespon exes voshuze 1 season mosatel vinegar or another sweetitewine neg Fore fangipa an filing: Yeap gramsronted shed, ‘held pistachios ex gramsalmond four 2 ublspoonsall purpose or 25. carkamom pots, pss discarded Seedy erused s espons up%6 grams unset, 5 aqy70 grams ranuated gar 1 las iy besten 5 fem peaches about 6 ues ach clan dnchshikwedger rte yup: 1 guile ie, deeded an hin sd apy grams ranted sugar 1 tablespoon most vinegar lbraneder meat white ine ving) For the whipped créme riches 4 epereme fiche 1 teaspoon granted sugar |. 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Stn the vinegar cook or 0 seconds mor, ‘nd tok he ak 8 Brush the grup ovr tho peaches one Frangipani when tio gett comas out ofthe over ha sup os sa, only reheat t before appv) ow th galt to col for ‘.Wisktogether the rte rice wth the tule gor un oa sot peak, thentronsfertoa srl sang bowl 10. Sore the gate warm, atroom mafic on the sde Forth ket. us the golte best enjoyed tha dy i's trode, bt con ba covered and retigortoa ferupte 2aoys Vale soning &yeNew ork Eimes Cooking Make prep time the new playtime. Explore curated collections like Recipes to Cook With Your Kids. _ nytcooking.comeyoony een Aq ydeisojoug Let CEO EE pole pee lei70 POPMOI & JO} UTBIA OPM ECO) alee eyom: ALO Foal camM Le menTOLenii\ ‘neg ueas Seis drole Ce, CT LAhe song isa giddy exaltation of oscillating hips in fall swing of beeutiful backsides and the beaut forms they belong tos they get ge, get rune ‘up, percolate. Itisa knight's declaration of courtly Tove to his five fair ladies: Jodi, Rebecca, Anna: boll, the Misses Donna and Cana, It 6a lover's sincere exhortation to his beloveds to shake tha! thing, made with «sly exuberance that is both ‘worshipful and raunchy. ‘This isthe seminal dancehall elassic “Get Busy” a 21-year-old party anthem that has been the source of dance-floor awakenings for genera tions of horny teenagers and young adults. And the knight paying homage to the things he isso respoetally asking the ladies to shake is Sean Pal arguably Jamaica's most famous musical export to the United States since Bob Marley. Two decades ago, after dethroning 50 Gent's “In Da Club’ from its No.1 spot on Billboard's Hot 100 chart, “Get Busy” did for Sean Paul what “Taxi Driver” did for Paul Schrader and “Liebestriume No. 3 4d for Franz List. This was the work that made an instant legend of is creator who until then hac been only a moderately successful purveyor of dancehall, Jamaica's musial successor to reggae. Young people today scem to be discovering Scan Paul with the same delight their elders once did in middle school, On TikTok, the barometer ofall contemporary youth relevance, influencers like Charli DAmelio and ‘Addison Rae, who were un-or barely born in 2003, can be found participating inviral dance challenges to "Get Busy” while millennial comedians 1 years their senior make videos about the unfaimess ofbeing in seventh grade when the song wasrulingclubs Like low-rise jeans, going-out tops and the "Fast Furious” franchise, Sean Paul isone of those ubiquitous elements of Yak-era American life that is experiencing «thundering resurgence. Isat down with Paul ona salubrious June afternoon ~"salubrious" was his choice of word — on Hellshite Beach near Kingston, where sargassum clogs the shoreline and clusters of shacks jostle for limited space on the ever shrinking sands. At one of these establishments (ther Sereechy’s or Sereechie's, depending on whether you believe the indoor spelling or the ‘outdoor one), covers were removed from platters of fried red snapper as Paul, wearing bright-orange cargo shorts and a T-shirt emblazoned with the word "DUTY; unrolled his smoking paraphernalia. He was by turns sprightly nd pensive. The party-boy persona that once made hima mega starhas evolved into thatofa fun but responsible unele— the one who stil knows how to throw a party but will also ensure that everyone eats well and gets home safely afterward, “The night befor, for instance, inthe courtyard ofa stdioLwas tod had been but by Shagay and his former manages, I watched some of Paul’ associates smoke from a many-feet-ong chalice pipe as they waited to begin rehearsalsfora coming tour. When Paul drove up, he announced that hohad brought a case of mangoes from his own orchard, and I was treated to the wholesome tablet ofa group of grown men tearing into cardboard box, each extractinga mangoand biting inwith sighs and groans of unadulterated relish The rehearsal featured breaks to crack open bottles of industria: strength white rum — and love shouts of laghter, including a my’ saying shoulda ternk while working and at my fozen expression when I did finaly tuya sip. Ths jovial gathering of dad bods, dad shorts and dad jokes more resembled the vibe ofan afterschool and rehearsal than a multiplatinar | recording artist preparing to playa sokt-out arena — perhaps because some ofthese guy really have known Paul since his earliest days in musi, ‘As Paul explained to me at Sereechy/ie's forhislieto become what itis row ~ that ofa Grammy-winning artist with YouTube views in the multiple billions ana a catalog of beloved classies —a series of extremely fortunate cevents bad to occur And a fairnumber of them, he didat have much sayin, Long before he became the bandannaed and cornrowed Sean Paul who entranced the American public, Sean Paul Ryan Francis Henriques was just another young offshoot of Jamaica's famous Henriques clan.one of the 20 2023 ‘oldest Jewish families on the island, who immigrated therefrom Portugal inthe 17th century. Paul, who has British and Chinese heritage on his, mother’s side, actually grew up Catholic in solidly respectable Uptown, Kingston, watching the raucous parties throwin at his grandmother's hhome by an enterprising aunt who ran a sound system. Kingston isa ety that takes partis seriously, and the sound system was a key 2oth-century innovation ~ a portable setup of amplifiers, turntables and mountains of speakers all orchestrated by aD.J.and an MLC, who truck the equipment tomakeshift venues and use ts booming sound to draw crowds. Paul and his younger brother, Jason, were both enamored of this family business: Jason actualy recalls falling asleep in a bass box asa child. twas both ‘brothers’ eavliest immersion in musi, listening to the Uptown crowds dance to Michal Jackson beats blended withthe danceball and reggae rhythms of Kingston, Despite the legacy Paul was born int, his childhood was shaped by absences ~ lke that of his father. Garth, who would disappear for months ata time, leaving his wife. Frances, hinting door to door. asking neighbors if they had seen him. He would materialize, months later, perhaps having, \hiled away the time in Mexico, once having crashed a Cherokee 6 plane stwife ull of marijuana in the Everglades. When Pas was 43, his father ‘was convieted of manslaughter and sentenced to 15 yeats in prison. This devastated Paul ~ not because his father had been much ofa presence in hislife bat because what litle he had of him would novrbe gone. Ieflt, he ‘ays ke "thats forever — Oh, Il never see this dude again His mother sent him to Wolmer’s Boys School, among the oldest in Jamaica. Paul, who unt then had been a bit ofa dreamer, was thrust into a ‘teenage milieu far removed from his former Jewish prep school: he began getting fights with kids who teased him about his father being in prison [He was saved from a descent into hooliganism by swimming, a sport for ‘which the Henriques family is well known. Both of Paul's parents were champion swimmers, and he earried on that legacy, representing Jamaica at international competitions and asa water polo player his daysbeginning at s:joam. and spent training furiously Sl his grades weren't good enough to get him into college, which was beyond his mother's means anyway. He enfolled in @ program for hotel management and learned the basics of French euisine (yes, Sean Pal of “Temperature” fame knows how to make bolandaise; fora time he worked asabankteller while making demo tapes in private He would freestyle with group called the Dutty Cup Crew, and there was atime when his father, newly released from prison, tried to introduce him to people inthe music industry. But watching Sean ~ thoughtful, introspective Sean ~ pursue a career a© an M.C. and dancehall toaster still seemed outlandish to those around bien. He recalls a well-intentioned friend getting drunk ata parey and erying while asking him why he was throwing his hfe away. ‘The eal itch in his arly eareer wasnt his demeanor; it was the subjects the wanted to write about. The young Sean Paul was intensely affected by the differences he saw in the quality of life between Uptown and Down- town Kingston. The early songs he wrote were ofa subgenre classified as ‘conscious reggae — socially minded stuf meant to highlight the injustices hh saw around him, He didnt see any trouble with this until a producer took himaside and tod him fat out: No one wanted to listen to conscious songs from a light-skinned Uptown kid. He might have had a father in prison for manslaughter and a mother who, he says, id tie«dyeto support ‘the family, and he mighthave grown up occasionally eating callaloo picked from the backyard, but on paper he was a posh boy with a surname and family legacy that made it impossible for him to be taken seriously while singing about wealth inequality Crestfalien but persuaded, Paul pivoted, channeling his sensitivities into the topies producers wanted him to sing about: parties, women and ‘weed, One result was "Baby Girl” a stripped-down track in which Pal cetreats a woman to dry her eyes leave her no-good man and come to him — a man who will “Iove yuh fi yuh body, but more f yuh brain” To hhim, Paul says, this was still a conscious song: “In dancehall you alwayssing big of the ladies, how good they look or about wanting to get with them, But you never sing about: “I heat you in trouble? You're in a rela tionship where you'te being abused? be there for you, Thats what the song was about.” In dancehall, masculinity is often a kind of balloon animal the MC, inflates and twists into aggrandized shapes. Inher book "Dancehall: Ori gins, History, Future,” the professor Donna P. Hope identifies the “six Gs" lyrics tend to dwell on (gun, gyal, ghetto, gays, ganja, God) and hhow each can be used to underline the vocais’s machismo, The gence hhad made inroads into the U.S. market before ~ from Super Cat, Shabba Ranks, Beenie Man, Ini Kamoze — butif Paul would one day tp them al perhaps i's beeause evenat the peakof his party-boy persona, he under- stood that longing for things you cannot have is atniversal sentime He has spent his entire carver writing soft-focus love songs and ballads of unrequited yearning; they're just disguised as songs to grind pelvises to, “Temperature” promises to “shelter you from the storm.” "Rockabye is an earnest tribute to single mothers. On “Give It Upto Me." he prom: ises “love so elear/It gonna make you shine, and once you are mine/We bye rockin it ntl the end of time,” These are lub tracks, but if you, just, hypothetically, happened to be listening to them on repeat during your fifth hour of silently hiecup-sobbing into pillow, they would absolutely arena a well 2 Gil” was Pal’ first local rai hit, earning him some popularity in Jamaica and paving the way forhis firs US. studio album, Bu it was his sophomore LP, “Duty Rock" that made Sean Paul into the commercial leviathan he is today. In 2002, a brief New York Times article noted an imeresting new record featuring 19 songs by different artist, al built on the same bewitching iim,” basie beat for dancehall artists to record cover, Created by a producer named Steven (Lenky) Marsden, the Diwali riddim — namedaftrthe Hindu festival — was built on frenetic syncopated hand claps that escalate over an underlying boom. At the time, Marsden had no sense ofthe elassic he had created. Butifyou were alive in the 2000s, you simply could not escape the contagious sound ofthis percus sive loop, which would bounce and undilate its way through the eulture everywhere, from Lumidee’s charmingly off key hit"Never Leave You Uh ‘Oooh, Uh Oooh" to Wayne Wonder’s "No Letting Go ‘Marsden received a phone call from VP Records asking fhe would lend the riddim to one oftheir buzzy new artist: Sean Pal The resul was"Get Busy monstrous it that transformed Paul'scarcerand helped sll nearly six million copies of "Dutty Rock” Back inthe clubs-cars-and-Cristal era of RAB, the "Get Busy” music video was an anomaly, too, depieting a party that would be recognizable to suburban diasporas everywhere: adults gathered around a dining table, young people crowding the unfinished basement below, an angry Caribbean dad in aloul batk-print shirt yelling at te youths to “stop banging on the damn furnace” Pauli now closer tothe age ofthat video dad than the basement party starterhe played. In te intervening years he has remained! booked and busy, ushering in a steady procession of hit songs, both his own and in collaborations with other pop stars. Whether you have recognized it or ‘not, enew song of his has likely made its wayto you in the past eight years — pethaps by way of "No Lie” his collaboration with a sandpaper-voiced, prefame Dua Lipa; his work withthe ator Idris Elba on the rambunctious| Boasty"; or his guest feature on Sia's“Cheap Thrills” which seemed to bare constantly from the stock-exchange-size H&M in Times Square in the summer of 2017. Paul may now be an elder statesman of dancehall, but he is still producing, recording and performing with vigor. As for the Jodi in “Get Busy” she's now his wife 1am one of those millennials who discovered Sean Paul a age 12 — but also grew up in a secluded, almost culike boarding sehool in India, where we were forbidden any sort of internet aecess and had litle idea what was popular among people our age in the outside world. My only familiarity with reggae was by way ofan English guy named Steven Kapur ‘who grew dreadlocks, called himself Apache Indian and sang in a Punjabi: inflected patois about wanting an arranged marriage witha daimty Indian girl who would make him roti, 1 did recognize the Diwali riddim, but ‘only because the Lumidee hit based on it would play when Megan Fox's ‘character appeared onsereen inthe Lindsay Lohan classic “Confessions of Teenage Drama Queen” Stil Somehows, by way of some entrepreneurial soul who knew how tobum pirated music onto CDs, “Get Busy” would play ‘on epeat at myall girs school's gatherings with boys from a neighboring school where chaperones were stationed at every corner to prevent anyone from getting even remotely busy. ‘Whether itsata grimy nightclub or in an auditorium fll of emotionally stunted teenagers avoiding eye contact in Dehradun, India, there are a few ‘things likely o occur whenever a DJ. puts on “Get Busy” fora crowd of the right age. There will ne squeals of recognition as Paul booms "SHAKE ‘THAT... THING; each word with ts vertiginous pause. Then the deli ious, almos¢incantatory hand claps will start to register: “I's the ignition of those butterflies” he told me. As Paul's exuberant melodies combine with the boisterous throb of the Diwali riddim, listeners’ hips and waists acquire a sentience oftheir own, moving as if threatening to secede from the rest ofthe body. This was true in 2003 ~ some 4o-year-olds 1 asked wistfilly confirmed this for me ~ and i remains trae two decades later. I watched Paul ive i concert, not once but twice, last year in New York. He was a consummate showman, with unflagging reserves of energy, leaping around in front of the giant Jamaican flag draped over the DJ. console overseen by his brother. Paul seemed to know exactly who his audience was, and to this audience he gave exactly what we wanted: hs biggest hits, opening imme- lately withthe iconie intro of "Get Busy to which weal lost our minds (On both occasions, I witnessed elder millennial try hip movements far ‘beyond our joints’ collagen levels, Each time I felt as though I had been factory eset asa person, ‘The members of Paul's preteen fandom — whether that means me in 2003 or the kids browsing TikTok a year ago — might not have had any Frame of reference forthe parties and plifs that he was singing about, the Jamaican patois he was singing in or his place inthe lineage of dancehall But a thumping party track i a thumping party track, and not knowing, the lyries would not stop any of us from, as one recent vdeo elegantly putt, “throwing ass” to his bangers, then or now. For decades, Paul has ‘offered the service so much great pop does: distilling a mythical idea of the perfect party, the always-pumping club, and delivering it into the minds and ears of people who will not learn for years that real cubgoing, tends ta he much more tedious and involve uncomfortable shoes. For someone like me — someone who, until moved away from home, wasn't even allowed to go to parties let alone parties with sexually suggestive clancing — Paul’ songs were about the poetry and promise of dark, sweaty basements and libidinous gyrations. Neither was part of mylife a 12. and neither are part oft asa not-so.young-anymore adult with an office jab, But Paul's best songs take all your amorphous longings and feelings of exile — whether imposed by a pandemic or a boarding school or a lost youth — and exorcise them. can't wail forthe weekend, I can't want to ee that gird again: Tat, Paul told me in Kingston, is the type of anticipation he puts into his songs, Because i there is one thing he has understood since he was 14, itis the stultfying restlessness that lurks beneath the lives of suburban teenagers. Today he considers it his artistic purpose to exalt uncomplicated ease and pleasure. His legacy isthe pure euphoria that erupts on faces when hhe performs “Get Busy” The fact that he has been doing this for more ‘than 20 years struck him, recently, when he realized that the nivees and nephews who were infants when the song took off are now old enough to drink and party and experience their uncle's concerts. “And then they start going tothe shows” he giggled, “an they'relike, Yo?" At22, he said. Inchad wanted to sing about social evils. At 50,he has found peace simply taking people’ minds off them. © The New York Thnes Magazine 2PFAS, a.k.a. ‘forever chemicals;’lurkin so much of what we eat, drink and use. What are they doing to us — and what can we do about them? By Kim Tingley / Photographs by Grant Cornetthe Faroe stands, an incongruous speckling of green in the North Attn, are aout as faraway as you can hope to get on Earth froma toxic waste dump, time zones distant rom the nearest population centers (Norway tothe east, Iceland tothe west Pal Weihe was born inthe Faroes and has lived there for most of his life, He is a public health authority forthe nation, population around 53000; chairman ofthe Faroese Medical Association and chief phy- sician ofthe Department of Occupational Medicine and Publi Health inthe Faroesehospital system. He also vice chairman ofthe Faroe Islands Art Soci ety;a widower; a grandfather. A erumpled funeral program and hal-empty juice bowes share space in the back seat of his Land Cruiser. Despite the remoteness of hs location, Weihe's medical career has been