the truth about happily ever after and what it really takes to make a 20 year

marriage successful. Facebook memories showed me a picture of my husband and I six

or seven years ago. In the picture, we're smiling at each other and we look in
love. Everyone commented saying, what an amazing couple we are. And the ironic
thing is, is in that picture, I was so pissed at him. We had been coming off about
two or three weeks of us both working nonstop. We had a random free day, but
instead of spending that free day together, my husband chose to go golfing with his
friends instead.

And we had a huge argument. I remember feeling hurt, betrayed, and so angry. You
see, this wasn't the first time this happened. This had been a pattern in our
relationship. Me wanting to spend time together and him needing space. In fact, it
had been around in our relationship for as long as I can remember. There were times
that I told myself that he was selfish, that he was self -absorbed, and that he was
never gonna care about me as much as he cares about himself. At times it made me
pretty miserable. And it made me wonder if our marriage was even going to last.

But what I realized about myself was that I had an anxious attachment style.
Ineeded space and closeness to make me feel secure in the relationship. And doing
my own work led me to understand that I would feel unsafe until I created the safe
within myself. Over the last 20 some odd years, we have worked really hard to
create a secure attachment in our relationship. And it hasn't been easy, but it's
definitely been worth it. Now I mentor other individuals and couples on how to do
the same in their relationships. If you're interested in working with me,

you can find out here.