IDENTIFYING YOUR FEELINGS

about sex & Intimacy

GOAL:
To help understand how you feel about sex and
intimacy. You may not always be able to chose your
feelings--but both of you chose how you feel about
how you feel about those feelings.

INSTRUCTIONS:
Answer the questions separately and then have a
connected conversation where you share your
answers. Use the Communication Cure Guide to help

YOUR PHILOSOPHY ABOUT SEX AND INTIMACY

What is your philosophy about sexual intimacy
between couples?

Are there differences between you and your partner

in the expression of sexual intimacy? What role do
these differences play in your relationship?
DESIRE
What is the history of your experience with sexual
desire?

Is your desire responsive, spontaneous, or both (break

it into percentages)?

What is this experience like for you? Do you act on your

desire, if so how? If not, why not?

REJECTION
What is the history of your experience with the emotion
of rejection, in relation to intimacy with your partner?

When you initiate intimacy with your partner and they

rebuff your initiation, do you feel rejected?

If so, how do you respond? Can your partner tell when

you are feeling rejection? How did they react to your
feelings?

What do you need in those situations to not feel

rejected?