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Biola Apologetics Identifying Emotions
Biola Apologetics Identifying Emotions
I. Think of a recent positive interaction/event that you had with your spouse. How did it make you feel?
Using the positive list below, circle all the words that apply and *star* the most important ones.
II. Think of a recent argument or conflict you had with your spouse. How did it make you feel?
Using the negative list below, circle all that apply and *star* the most important ones.
1. Accepted: Known, acknowledged, recognized. My spouse approves of and accepts me—I feel valued.
2. Rejected: Unwanted, undesired, unnecessary. My spouse doesn’t need me—I feel unwanted.
3. Supported: Cared for, favored, helped. My spouse helps me—I feel cared for.
4. Abandoned: Deserted, neglected, alone. My spouse pays no attention to me—I feel disregarded.
7. Admired: Respected, well liked. My spouse has a high opinion of me; I am highly regarded.
8. Disrespected: Insulted, humiliated, low opinion. My spouse does not look up to me—I feel unvalued.
11. In Control: Capable, powerful, self-directed. I have the power to get what I want—I feel that I will
prevail.
12. Powerless: Controlled, helpless, incapable, weak. I cannot change my situation—I feel controlled.
13. Cherished: Treasured, valued, appreciated. I am deeply esteemed—I feel greatly valued.
14. Defective: Flawed, worthless, imperfect, broken. I feel useless, of no value—I am the problem.
15. Loved: Adored, desired, admired. My spouse has tender affection for me—I am prized.
16. Unloved: Reviled, loathed, disliked. My spouse doesn’t love or desire me—We are just roommates.
17. Satisfied: Content, fulfilled, gratified. I feel content in our marriage—I am happy.
18. Dissatisfied: Displeased, disappointed. I feel let down—I feel discontent in my relationship.
19. Fair-minded: Just, true, above-board. My spouse is fair-minded and just—I feel that I am treated
kindly.
20. Cheated: Unfair, tricked, defrauded. My spouse treats me unfairly—I feel taken advantaged of.
21. Praised: Appreciated, approved of. My spouse praises me—I feel appreciated.
22. Judged: Criticized, misportrayed. I am always in the wrong— My spouse has negative beliefs about
me.
23. Understood: Known, recognized, appreciated. My spouse gets me—I feel understood.
24. Misunderstood: Misread, misinterpreted. My spouse has wrong impressions of me—I feel misheard.
25. Peaceful: Calm, tranquil, relaxed. My marriage feels relaxing—I feel at peace and comfortable.
26. Desperate: Out of control, hectic, chaotic. My marriage feels unruly—I feel freaked out and panicked.
27. Informed: Aware, familiar, up-to-date. We know each other’s world. I feel connected and in touch.
28. Unaware: Uninformed, in-the-dark. I do not know what is going on. Things feel secretive, hidden.
29. Connected: Attached, close, united. We are joined together—I feel like we are a team.
30. Disconnected: Divided, separated, detached. We are emotionally detached—I feel cut-off, alone.
Share your answers from the above exercise.